Sometimes I'll start a sentence, and I don't even know where it's going. I just hope to find it along the way. Like an improv conversation. An improversation.

@galaxylucia1898

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 I like the portmanteau, but as an introvert yes, it can be nerve wracking talking and feeling like you’re babbling on.

@nosiphomqaqa21

3 жыл бұрын

I thought there was something wrong with me because I also tend to forget where my sentence is going while I'm busy talking.

@TashaDotLove

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! This thread is so comforting because I thought something was wrong with me and I have this same issue

@wearealive796

3 жыл бұрын

Lol I was the same sometimes during graduation

@highedge9729

3 жыл бұрын

Lolz...so much truth though. Totally relate! oh btw..u meant improvisation..heeh

Here’s the thing: 1. Leverage their intake style - visual, auditory and kinesthetic 2. Lean on their behaviors - demanding, social, laid back, analytical 3. Learn how others see you - they see you through your eyes 4. Lay them down in writing first 5. List them out with a structure 6. Learn the words - expand vocabulary 7. Lose the stage fright - fear of what others may think

@kurt8263

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, screenshot saved for future use. 😁

@kaym.2854

3 жыл бұрын

Why thank you! Commentors like you are my favorite kind of people.

@yhalou4526

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@LWilliamsss

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I’m still gonna watch the video tho’. 😂😆 she took the time to make it for us , but I digress 😎

@senoramaestrah9833

3 жыл бұрын

You’re a saint Kevin Yeh

"People don't see you through their eyes, they see you through yours!"

@minichanz

3 жыл бұрын

This is life changing this wisdom, I hope I remind myself at class

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

You got it!

@jamesroger1233

3 жыл бұрын

Can someone discuss this further thank you

@chrischew1410

3 жыл бұрын

Actually I see this differently. Other people see me through their eyes, not through mine because what I say is being filtered through their experiences and beliefs and that gives rise to their perception about me, e.g he looks frustrated when he said that. But I may not actually feel frustrated. Grace are u trying to say that other people see me through my behaviours ? I don’t see how they can see through my eyes... can u explain what u mean?

@MiamiBeachGlow

2 жыл бұрын

@@chrischew1410 You are absolutely right Chris. People judge others according to their own thoughts and not on reality.

People actually see you through their own eyes, and whomever it is that they are in character. I will never allow another person to tell me who I am.

My biggest challenge is when I get asked something that i have not prepared for , then I feel like I cant digest the question quick enough and response with the answer that I want to give. ( usually I will have better answer after I do the reflection at the end of it ) 🤣

@irisalcantara8523

3 жыл бұрын

Same here! But it gets better after... So what I do is I seek experience.. I just get trouble expressing a certain thought the first or second time.. 😊 I learn not to be afraid of making mistakes..

@thedigitalceo

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like everyone! I think the best thing that works for me is to not feel like you have to rush an answer. Actually slow down and listen to the question. Even pause to reflect and even ask the person to repeat themselves or clarify before you answer. I found that gives you time to not rush and say something crude or confusing until you fully digest the question and collect thoughts. Sometimes I also repeat parts of the question to myself or out loud and that provides a prompt to collect an appropriate response to what’s being asked.

@rudylove39love87

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@SiSi-oi2or

3 жыл бұрын

Ask them if they would allow you to reflect on that

@genz725

3 жыл бұрын

I have the same problem 😭 been struggling for years.

Practicing doesn’t make perfect, practice makes permanent. Really true.

@juncabal5057

2 жыл бұрын

thats words of wisdom

@forbes4007

2 жыл бұрын

My coach in junior high always emphasized “practice does not make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect”

@ali7644

2 жыл бұрын

And also improvement

@tshidio

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this

If this is boring to listen to, I highly recommend pausing and coming back once you digested a bit of info. It's very valuable.

@minichanz

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Nina.

@asiajackson1550

3 жыл бұрын

Literally what I was about to do, a little less than 5 minutes in but definitely coming back tomorrow!

@dawynn9362

3 жыл бұрын

Not boring. Just A LOT of info to digest in one seating.

@Tccg97

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a little boring on top of the fact that there’s no subtitles. I feel that with subs i can hear better, even if the subs are in English ._.

@rosenjoroge9373

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. Glad to know that I'm perfectly normal

I have no clue why this showed up on my feed but omg it's like she made this video for me

"Practice doesn't make perfect, practice makes permanent" I loved that

The craziest thing is that I was thinking to myself “ I need to articulate my thoughts better” , tell me why I open KZread and this is recommended, also I rarely watch content like this so that was crazy

@c.n368

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@TheREALQueenJay

2 жыл бұрын

🗣 government

@girlbloggerldr

2 жыл бұрын

This just happened to me

@katierojas8066

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@katierojas8066

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve often wondered if I am dyslexic.

I most definitely need this. I often struggle to articulate what's going on in my head. I think a lot of it is to do with confidence. Thank you for making this video

@diligentdevotion695

2 жыл бұрын

I agree!! I think it definitely has to do with confidence

@stanj-p9507

2 жыл бұрын

Also don’t feel ashamed to slow down your speech. Giving yourself space to let it out rather than rushing through

I have not only trouble articulating my thoughts, I have difficulty completing a thought. I have autism so my thoughts are like a continuous loop. even listening how you express yourself, facial expressions, the resonance in your tone, inflections, and eye contact is very difficult sometimes impossible for me. Sometimes it feels like I'm shouting just to be simply heard, and I notice people speak over me, or cut me off in conversations. A lot of things I just don't grasp. It doesn't come naturally to me. I watch these videos for help, but as a doctor explained it to me. The most difficult part of this condition is the fact that you cannot "will" your way from a neurological disorder.

My greatest challenges are #7 fear of what others think and I feel like to my words and thoughts are not aligned ... Sometimes thinking faster than in speaking

I am very poor at articulating and communication in general. I know what I want to say and the words are in my mind, but when the time comes to say them, they just won't flow. When I was younger, it wasn't much of a problem, but now it has become a major issue. I really need help with this, thank you so much for your amazing video!

@glendycifuentes9916

3 жыл бұрын

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@blu3j00Ls

3 жыл бұрын

Omg, me too. I did not have this difficulty years ago! Things change 😣

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

I'm grateful to hear that you found my video helpful. Awareness is the first important step because now you know exactly what to work towards. What gets measured, gets improved! You got this!

@afenton32

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrGraceLee Thank you!

@CoffeeCrazy

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if there is are exercises that will help this issue.

7:12 "People don't see you through their eyes; they see you through yours." 💯

@vuyox

2 жыл бұрын

powerful stuff

Every teacher and professor should watch this.

When I was 11, and the only Spanish speaking student present, my teacher asked me to translate for a latino parent who had shown up in class inquiring about his child. I froze and couldn't get my words out. That stayed with me. 30 years later and I still feel guilt over letting my teacher and the parent down. Back at college in my 40s and beginning to have those feelings of failure again.... I will make it about them Dr Grace Lee. You're an 😇 🙏🏽😭

@Magickalmother

3 жыл бұрын

Hope you heal from that moment. Dont let that negative moment replay in your head. ❤️❤️❤️

@LP-fz5xm

3 жыл бұрын

@@Magickalmother Thank you so much! 💓

@fabricesioul3397

3 жыл бұрын

I really hope you will find your true expression style so you can feel confident speaking.

@LP-fz5xm

3 жыл бұрын

@@fabricesioul3397 I appreciate your encouraging words 💙

I need to learn the words, become aware of my audience, write down my broad thoughts, and lose the stage fright.

Very good tips! The two that especially resonated with me were 1) People see you through your eyes, not theirs, and 2) Overcome stage fright by making it about them, they are the stars. Thanks so much.

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

You got it!

I subconsciously learned to do this over years of practice. I wish i saw this 10 years ago ❤️

Hi Dr. Lee, mine is definately mostly stage fright, I find myself becoming intimidated by certain people or in certain rooms. But all your points were helpful, thank you!

What I have noticed, I am struggling to articulate well when talking through the phone or via video conference. Somehow I lose the confidence and fear creeps in. Is the emotional and physical connection that is lack unlike when talking to someone in person? It is an interesting subject and dr Grace I like what you are teaching us here. I found a lot of value in that. Thank you

“People don’t see you through their eyes, they see you through yours!” ... this is true... this explains why at times, depending on the people you are talking to/ who you’re with determines one’s confidence level... hmmm, makes sense!

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

It's more like, how you see yourself influences how the other person sees you, and it also influences their confidence level in you. They don't determine your confidence level; they don't have that power!

This is a big help Dr. Lee I live in my thoughts most of the time

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it was a big help! I hear you say that you live in your thoughts most of the time. I challenge you not to place a judgment on it like it's a bad thing. Find all the ways that you can leverage that for growth, influence, and achievement. Because every trait we see as bad about ourselves has an equally good quality.

@liona1657

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrGraceLee Thank you, Dr Grace. I am also live in my thought and paralyse me from moving forward.

@Mariah203

2 жыл бұрын

@@DrGraceLee This feedback was so helpful and freeing. Thank you Dr. Lee!

I've never had issues with articulating my thoughts even speaking publicly. But ever since the lock down I've been struggling a lot with socialising and expressing my thoughts in a fluent way. When I talk now I need a lot of time to find the right words and phrases. And sometimes it's hard to convey an idea in a grammaticly correct way, and often after I've spoken like 2 sentences, I'd forget what I was even trying to say at the start its quite frustrating. Sometimes I'm not even sure what the problem is. Is it ADHD, Autism, Anxiety, lack of socialising, lack of practice because I've graduated from uni or something else? Right now I'm taking English class hoping that would improve my situation a little.

@jaylouis6156

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same too. I feel like somethings wrong with me

@HB-he2eh

Жыл бұрын

I have trouble even forming sentences to even write. All my thoughts are jumbled. So.much so then I think, well, it's nothing original so it's not worth it. I get an "it is what it is attitude". And that is just further debilitating. I think it's lacking in confidence, anxiety and ADD. We can be such hard critics of ourselves.

@mutiarafibernetwork5360

Жыл бұрын

this is mee now

This is brilliant. I'm pausing the video every 10 seconds and writing notes. Thank you!

@BB-te7gn

3 жыл бұрын

Me too!!!😄

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you! Thank you for stopping by and blessing this space!

@goodprovision4571

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

How can I watch one video and don't end up with watching 250 videos of yours?😭 All your content is useful to me and I am glad I found this channel. Thanks dear

Thank you. I once learned four types of learners: 1. listeners, 2. listeners who are major note-writers✍🏽 3. people who experience (listen or watch) an example, and 4. people who do the example, themselves, for themselves (and/or others). Will listen🎧 to this again. I certainly agree with you re parallelism. Cheers📣.

Yah, that's true, thank you so much for sharing this kind of information, it really helps me a lot.❤️

Amazing..thank you. That ending was perfect!

Great Video! Never thought about this topic but its just what I needed!!

This video was awesome I wrote down all the key points . I just want to articulate my thoughts in regular conversation. Thank you so much ..

I love the topics you provide content for. Very well articulated 🤍❄️💙

THANK YOU. Every time I try to say something powerful or meaningful that I thought into words it always comes out as a jumbled mess making my statements bad and weak

Right on time! When I needed it🙌 Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! 🥰

you know whats funny is the part how others see you is how you see yourself. as someone who has anxiety all their life, only the past couple years i have stepped my foot down and face my fears. and ironically i still feel that i am that anxious scared person inside, i dont think it will ever go away. but i had mention something to a friend in conversation..i dont recall what exactly we were speaking on but i said how im still working on my confidence, and they were like confused being like what do you mean youre the most confident person i know. that was enough for me to realize thats exactly what confidence is. you face it anyway even if youre scared shitless

Hi Grace, I really like your videos, particularly on articulation. It feels like you offer the best value in this area on the whole of KZread! They are very useful, thanks.

Thank you Dr Grace! This is much appreciated. I always get anxious when presenting my monthly report to our company stakeholders even we do it thru zoom. This definitely helped me! Thank you so much!

This is invaluable information, thank you! I rarely feel heard fully by my co-communicators and have been wanting to understand why, as I too have important information to share, but do not relish repeating myself, or feeling the need to go into detailed description whenever I get blank stares.

The last tip “make them the stars of your communication” is a really powerful and useful tip! Thanks

@DrGraceLee

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! We tend to show up ready to go when we make it about them and not about us. :)

Thank you for sharing this!!!!!!! I learned so much 😭

Learned a lot from this. Need to rewatch this and go over all the points. And yes, I love the last one on how to lose the stage fright, taking off self👍💖

Thank for sharing. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

I love your video. Good content. First time it has ever on my feed.

Thank you so much!! Pearls of wisdom!

This is Extreeeemely helpful!!!

you present really well. thanks

This is so timely. Thank you for sharing this video, it’s very helpful.

The idea of that we all have a certain type of visual/auditory/kinesthetic etc. learning styles is not proven by any means rather a good mix of all of them combine to create the best and fastest learning environment. Other than that - really great concepts!

Great help thanks Lee 🎆

As someone who's been trying for a long time to break bad habits and implement good ones, "Practice makes permanent" really resonated with me. I had a seventh grade teacher who would say, "Practice doesn't make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect". Lol

This content is key Thank you so much Lee

This was very helpful! Thank you for sharing

Amazing ! U just touched all the points i need Dr👍

Loved every part of this. Thanks for sharing.

Priceless tips, thank you for sharing.

Incredible! Thank you, doctor! Full of helpful techniques xx

Dr. Grace Lee, thank you so much!!

Brilliant! Objective, Concise, not overly verbose and educational. Love that you give the tips and the application of them .... and an example and how it might play out... and then why. Great job. Keep up the good work.

THIS WAS SO HELPFUL thank you so much! This popped up for me right when I needed it too.

Very useful for me. Thank you.

Love your advices Dr. Grace. Thanks for such valuable information👍🏾. I just subscribed.

Thank you Dr Grace! I have the most trouble with the mechanical part of conversation

Great Helpful video with useful tips, loved the realness at the end with the blooper 😅 great smile, sense of humor, clear and concise

Thanks Grace; some excellent points there.

This video was helpful because you gave the step and how to apply them. Interviewing without being long winded.

Very interesting ideas! I'll start making use of them right away! Thanks!

Amazing video thank you so much ❤❤❤

Yes! I needed this video 20 years ago!

Thanks for the insightful thoughts Prof. Lee

Been seeing this upon scrolling.. and had noticed it finally.. and found this very useful in my sales career, now i wanna learn more about Dr Lee so im a new subscriber.. welcome to myself :)

Thank you for the insights :)

Simply Amazing !!. Thank you !!!

Great teachings 👌🏾💯🤍

Very helpful and informative. 💕

Not only am I impressed with this video. I am also impressed by the fact someone walked backwards for over 15 minutes.

You are a blessing, thank you so much for this video

Appreciate your work, you shot this video for us in chilling cold

I found this to be true and it’s very helpful and effective. I appreciated these pro tips and appreciate you Dr. Grace Lee. 🙂

I love this! Thank you

Oh my God. Thank you so much for this amazing video. I just discovered your videos due to the algorithm recommendation. So glad I found you. I’m in the middle of a career development and I really needed to watch this. I’ll definitely check your website. Greetings from Costa Rica.

This is an awesome and well articulate video... Thank you!

Thanks for for sharing, this is amazing information that are not thought in school! Skills that are useful to be successful in connecting with people

Great tips. .make a lot of sense. I have forwarded this clip to my team. Thank you Grace.

This is gold. I hope you’re writing a book about this. I would totally buy it.

I love you are teaching this with such grace. thank you

Awesome! Thank you!

Thank you so much!!! I feel better, and also looking to improve my articulation in communication. I was good and comfortable but feel as I went down hill for n my new psychology classes

I wished I have seen this earlier, very informative. I'm a big fan, amazing info.

Thank you for this! I've been having a hard time with my vocabulary and there'll be a time when I know what to say but the words are lost.

thanks for the application process, this helped me get my words out and I belive I am ready to start the journey as a great communicator

WOW.....such a great video......

thats gold! thats very good split-off the essences of the groups! i like it! well done!

This is very golden. I appreciate you sharing this information.

Great video. I learnt a lot from you as I am preparing for my ielts exam. It was a perfect timing as this is what I really needed because I am struggling to convey my thoughts to others in a way that I am speaking in a natural way and not sound mechanical.

I love to learn from you, thank you for your sharing

BEAUTIFUL thanks for sharing this, i agree with these points, the key is to always get to a better outcome. Keep shining!

Thank you so much for this video..

This podcast is very informative to me , Thank you, Dr Lee for shearing you’re wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

Absolutely excellent help and pointers. Thank you