WOW!!!! I have been wearing a "False Face" for most of my life🥺At 65 because of my daughter's Constant Reminders and being led to this video today is CONFIRMATION!!!! The LIE(s) must DIE😤😒🤨 I have wasted 3/4 of my life, (If it's God's Will) trying to fit my Square Mind into a Round Shape🫤I have fallen "Prey" to Society's Expectations and have worked hard to "Fit the Mold" because I NEVER took the time to Discover "Who I Am"😞This Persona has caused Chaos and destroyed relationships with friends, family, and former co-workers. To add "Insult to Injury" I NEVER felt the need to be held Accountable for ANY of my Actions,😮 despite how I may have affected a situation or made someone feel. 🙄 Thank you young lady for Opening my "Narrow-minded Eyes"!!! Continue to speak your #Tjruth because there are many who need to hear it! God Bless 🙏🏾

Alecia, you were speaking Facts!!! Within the past year...I promised myself; I would breathe into my belly, not swallow my words and honor myself by speaking my truth. In the most loving way possible.

I am starting with ME. Healing my own self-betrayal before I can even begin to seek to heal from others' betrayals. Thank you for this!

If we don’t say we’re ok, people usually want to know why or want to fix me, when I don’t want fixed by them.

“We tell ourselves 200 lies a day.” Andrew Mellen

Oooh I’m so glad I looked up “how to heal from lies and betrayal black woman” because I really needed this. I’m trying to heal from a lot of betrayal and mistrust and abuse in my life. I never considered all the lies I told myself yknow. Little lies that I accept because I don’t stand in my truth. It’s not ok. It’s not alright. I still need to heal from what happened but I gotta start being honest with myself so I have SOME trust, in myself, if not in nobody else.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

I love ALL of this!!! I'm so glad this resonated with you! Yaaaaaay! Much love and joy to you!!!

I loved this video. My truth is I am a strong Introvert and I enjoy lots of alone time.

I always "eat" my first response when someone offends me because i hate upsetting people especially when I'm having a good time and someone really pushes the envelope.

We love you girl don't blame yourself. ✌

BRILLIANT. my existence has been steeped in people-pleasing lies. I don't know what the truth is or how to create it but this video has inspired me to start.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! You are NOT alone! I'm healing from being a people pleaser as well. And yes, just get started, even if it's just acknowledging that you want change. That is BEAUTIFUL. Much love to you!!!

The biggest lie that Ive been telling myself is that I dont need help. I was raised to push harder, do more, endure everything, be resilient. I later married into a family that encouraged the "strong Black woman" they watched me juggle everything, run the hamster wheel, wear multiple hats. Asking for help has always been a sign of weakness. " I got it" is all ppl wanna hear.

Really think it is all of Society cause our Flesh and the Devils Cronies tell us its best to also. Love your Beautiful spirit and the way you explained it! And most importantly that you told how we can Trust God and His Truth to apply for ourselves! Blessings!

ALECIA! I had to stop this video every other sentence to recover from the truth bombs you are dropping! BARS!

@AleciaRenece

Жыл бұрын

Awwwwww! Yaaaaaaaaaaaay! This really makes me SO HAPPY! I'm so glad this resonates with you! It brings me JOY! Much love and joy to you, Gorgeous! 💛💛💛💛💛

All my life, I've been seeking the truth....to unleash my authentic self! I completely agree it starts with unraveling so much of what I have conformed to.

I patronize a business and the cashier told me "you are welcome" as if she did me a favor. I waited several minutes for her to seek help learn her job and she felt I needed to tell her thanks. Well I wouldn't in the past acknowledge the suttle shade, but because this last year of truly loving me I shined light on that shade. I enlightened the young lady the reason and importance of thanking patrons for choosing them and not the other business around them.

I had to watch this twice. The message hit me in the gut, but now I need to process it in my head. I see and hear so much of you in me. Please include a link so I can sow in your beautiful ministry.

I love this, she is helping use clean our spirit, thank you Queen 👑. I pray that Yahweh blesses you with more wisdom, love, and prosperity. Thank you for fulfilling your purpose. 🤗🥰🥰🥰

Chileeeeeee, we gotta get to the TRUTH. At all costs

Sometimes, it is so hard to be open and present to our true feelings, emotions, realities & our natural responses.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Marquitaaaa! Listen! I agree with you 100%! It definitely can be for sure! Especially when you think that you "shouldn't be" feeling that... Like you're wrong for feeling. It's sad. We try to push away our feelings and realities so much,that it can become work to make room.

I have been saying the same thing to myself. We all lie too much. And when someone lie about us we have to say out loud that their declaration is NOT true. And later say it again to ourselves but more importantly say 2 or three truth about ourselves. By not highlighting the lie and denouncing it. Over time we hold onto to them as if they are our truths. And that is mental poison. I really appreciate your videos. And I am glad you post them. We think alike. I have no platform but yea. What's funny is from the outside how easy we can analyze a relationship from a show or movie. But sometimes we know we should leave the one we are in and all of a sudden, it does not seem so clear cut or easy....but u know what most of the time...we know. We know the main action we must take. We may not be to clear on the steps after....but we know.

I loved this !! I lied to myself staying in a relationship that caused me a lot of pain . Betraying oneself is the ultimate betrayal

I think addiction is a physical manifestation of truth suppression and conflict avoidance. I am an emotional overeater. I am valuing other people's comfort over my own. If ANYONE finds my needs or boundaries offensive that's a tell tale sign that they don't need to be in my life or their presence in my life is conditioned on them honoring my boundaries and meeting my needs. I am also learning not to have resentment because I neglected self-care to care for them. I need to prioritize myself. Continued blessings

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤loved everything you’re saying!! Spot in!!!!👊👊👊

My son is always asking me questions and rushing me to give him an answer or agree with him. I feel pressured. But, I haven’t been saying anything. He is my son and I would like to agree with him but, I don’t know. I feel bullied. We have a great relationship. I listen like a dear in headlights because I am afraid to ruin our relationship. I am lying to myself. Keep my feelings about his approach is making me feel bad about myself.

This video is right point. There is a time that I’m too nice / give too much & never get the same in return. Saying “No!” is alright. They will either stand by your side & respect your decision or the true fact they were never there for you in the beginning.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

I 100% agree with this! I love it!

You are therapy for me. ❤thank you for your wisdom

Eye opening!! Thank you. You are the best!🎉❤

Ooops, continue to speak your #Truth!!!

Anytime I’m in a meeting the question is always asked, do anyone have any questions - I usually have questions and comments but I used to walk out without asking them - today, I ask. Thank you for your message 🙏🏾

I have a private playlist on KZread of different videos from different people that inspire me. Your videos are on there. Thank you

Loved your video! This is me right now, getting out all my truth becoming more self-aware of things. I thought I was alone on this journey. one of my truths: I am in grad school for HR but really want to be a Nurse. I hate it and am taking the steps to change it now!

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

I am so glad you enjoyed this video! And YES!!! I love this! I'm doing the same thing! I am so proud of you! You are definitely alone at ALL. The fact that you recognize this and are taking steps towards what you truly want to accomplish, many don't even get there! Much love and joy to you!!!

I just really dived into my self healing journey so this definitely helped me get started i use to be so scared to hurt peoples feelings or to say no and i would always say it’s okay to things that hurt me I’ve spared too many feelings! This really helped me

I couldn’t agree more with this ❤️, now I understand how to stand in my truth

My truth is I am not happy or satisfied with my marriage, my career after getting my masters health administration, my church because it split up. My friends because I don’t have really any good close friends. Not happy with this pandemic,etc. I have to find my joy in Christ because most things in life will steal your joy.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for being honest. That's the first step to getting to better. I'm sending you so much love, joy and healing!

Needed to hear this. I woke up this morning and started to cry then lied to myself saying im okay just so that i dont have to figure out what has me so hurt so early in the morning.

Great video! I can totally relate.

Peace! Thank you for this word!! This is on time 🙏🏾🤍

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Much peace, love and joy to you! 🌺😘💛

So true thanks for making a difference sis and sharing . I've learned this and been focusing on it lately too, to be authentic but thought I was more authentic than I was . I hate lying and to be lied to . I try to be truthful as much as possible especially with those I care about but I was lying to myself so I have to work on it more room for improvement. I'm all about the truth in love. Suppressing causes health issues and trapped negitive emotions so I'm working thru alot of emotional healing. You're making a difference sis. I'm so proud of you . much love. I love your affirmation music I started writing them and poems more the past few years . I look forward to sharing it more and figuring out where to share it

I love your content everythingvu said I said the same thing working 80 to 100 hours a week realizing I will never reach the American dream. I'm still don't make enough 68000 In nyc I still can't get an apartment or buy a house 😒

Peace, Sis. New subbie. I’ve watched so many of your videos this morning. Extremely grateful for your videos, and I love love love your music❤️. Thank you so much for inspiring. Continued success. Asé

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

You are so generous and kind! Thank you so much! It is my absolute pleasure and joy to create and share with you. It makes me even more happy to know that you are resonating with it! Much love and joy to you! 🌺💛☺️

I'm only halfway through and this video hits home so much!

You are so inspirational. Thanks for these videos. They really make me rethink my life and how standing in my truth can be so freeing.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Tricia! 😊💛 Thank you so much for your inspirational and encouraging words. They really make my day. It is my joy to share my journey with you. Cheers to standing in your truth! It is so beautiful and SO freeing! Much love and joy to you!

i definitely needed to run across this video rn, thank you!

@AleciaRenece

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found it! Much love and joy to you!!!

Great video! Our subconscious can't really tell the difference between a lie or a truth. It's all facts to our subconscious that it uses to impact the way we live. So every time we lie to others, and even ourselves, our subconscious takes it and adds it our beliefs, habits, and everyday life. You're so right. It's important for us to be honest to the best of our ability! Way to go, keep going! :-)

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! All of this is so impactful. Our subconscious does not know the difference and once I learned that, how I talk to myself and others have changed. It's hard work, but worth it.

Wooow!! I needed this🥺

I needed this ❤❤❤

Binge watching all your videos...sending you love from South Africa

Hi Alecia and Friends! Thank you the gift of change. There were so many keys provided here and absolutely perfect for this season. Blessings to you and your family 🌻.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Carla! 😊💛 Happy Monday! Yes! I am so grateful for the gift of change for sure! There are definitely things I'm changing for the better going into the New Year. Letting go of things that are no longer serving me and making more room for joy! Much love to you and your family as well!

You are so right. I have been telling lies to myself and others. This is now 2022 no more lies I’m telling it like it is. I needed to hear this thank you so much. It’s not fair to me. THANK YOU SO MUCH

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! Let's do it! LEt's make 2022 beautiful and honest. Starting with ourselves! I'm sending so much love and joy!

Thank you so much for this , it was exactly the right time and exactly what I needed to hear ❤

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

This makes my day. Thank you so much for watching and sharing this with me. Much love and joy to you!

This was awesome and so needed. Thank you! 💕

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Yaaaaaaay! I am so glad you got what you needed! That really makes my heart happy! Much love and joy to you!

Thank you! This is a complete sermon!!! Amen!!!

Your videos resonate with me. I’m amazed because I just found your channel via KZread recommendation and this is a wonderful surprise. I’m feeling you. I feel like you put into words things that I think about. Girrrrl🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥#Authenticity #SelfDetermination #SensitveWomanhood #YouthfulLongevity

Absolutely can relate!

Im not one to say I'm happy when I'm not, but I will minimize the way I feel, like if someone asks how are you, I won't go into I'm sad and depressed, I'll just say in a bland voice I'm OK. It let's me know I'm not lying to someone and letting them know I'm happy when I'm not, but also if people knew how I truly feel then they may see that something is wrong with me. (Who is sad and depressed all then time, and who really wants to hear that all the time) there fore instead I just minimize my feelings...

I had a friend. We knew each other since third grade. I thought we had a great relationship until one day, I asked her a question that she never answered. Then I asked her could we be the friends who respond to each other and she got passive aggressive with me. I let her know that was not acceptable. That was January 2022. I have not heard from her since. I choose me. And self-sabotage, OMG. When I realized I was sabotaging myself, sometimes just in my own fantasies; that was tough. Thanks for speaking on this. I keep thinking of enhancing my KZread/podcase on other topics that we as "black" (I use the word aboriginal) American women really need to hear. It might be time.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

I am SO glad that you chose yourself. You are your priority. Going through friendship break ups is SO hard, but sticking with yourself and choosing yourself... life changing. PLEASE do it. We need you. We need your voice. Much love and joy to you!

@ednasmith4545

2 жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece ♥️

Powerful✨

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

💛💛💛 I am SO glad this resonated with you!

Thank you for that message.

Love this! New to your channel and new subscriber! I needed this message!! Thank you 🤎

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome!! I'm so happy you're here!

I feel so seen…thank you❤️

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! You are not alone! 💛

I hate being married.

@Price8903

2 жыл бұрын

Elaborate, if you’re comfortable with doing so

Are we able to share this with another subscriber on KZread?

I AM FINDING ME FROM NOW ON

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

I love this! I am so excited for you!!! I'm on the journey as well!

Alicia Keys had a song like that called Brand New Me...

❤

It’s okay in your Denison but why should I solely sacrifice for you & let you make me feel guilty for doing something alone

Hi sis, who is this god, and who us this he that has made us to be? How long will will we as black people keep carrying on the slave master ideology of god, smh.

@AleciaRenece

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there! While I welcome conversation, I think you're commenting based on a lot of assumptions you have about me. What about what I said about God has slave theology? I'm curious. Also, I don't believe in the western world's version of Christianity... I am a follower of Jesus. I also don't believe that it's a white man's religion. I believe it was co-opted and perverted. I'm also doing the work to unlearn these mindsets. This plays a part in learning to trust myself again. If anything, slave theology teaches us NOT to follow our intuition or to trust ourselves, but only to trust in man. I'm really curious and look forward to your answer 😊💛🌻 much love and joy to you!

@ACB2K

2 жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece Greetings sis, I really enjoy you and your messages💛😀, I just respond to the words I hear in the message. I and my husband listen to you together as most of what you say is relating to me in the present, but when I still hear certain words and phrases from my people in 2022 it makes me cringe. I wonder why we still refer to god as something outside self and call it Him. If we can only see god and these things as I AM, we will be in a much better place.

Found this video when I needed too. ❤❤❤

Oh nothing I just wanted to say thank you for saving my life 🥹