Would love for her to come back after 2 years to hear what the relationship had evolved to and if it survived the honeymoon phase.

@PrinceInawRakah

7 ай бұрын

It all depends on the tolerance level of the man.. is he ok with infidelity.. is he ok with not being seen as attractive as colder men.. is he patient.. I hope she takes ur request sis

This episode has me in tears I feel seen. I love every episode but this one is by far my favorite because I can relate so much from her emotional stand point prior to meeting her husband. Congratulations to her for finding her a healthy relationship.

She hit the nail on the head when she said butterflies are toxic. Growing up spiritual and being self aware, feeling butterflies is not a good sign. It takes “Trust your gut” from figurative to literal. Its definitely a warning sign.

Was it just me or was the entire section where she had the quotes up blank? I never saw the points she was talking about just heard them.

@celestexo2

9 ай бұрын

Yes, I saw that too!

@justtece

9 ай бұрын

Same for me… I thought I was crazy 😂

@mercymunoz1408

9 ай бұрын

I’m glad i saw this comment before I started to reload my phone 😂😂😂

@butterfly7172

9 ай бұрын

@@mercymunoz1408 😆😆😆 no one had mentioned it in the comments and I'm like... am I tripping 🤷🏾‍♀️ glad I could help

@mercymunoz1408

9 ай бұрын

@@butterfly7172 word. thank you!!

Shan, you always deliver!!!! I love this episode so much! We’ve all fallen victim to wolves and fuck boys. If we know better, then we can do better ♥️

I feel Jared when he says “being nice has been learned”. I do think certain people mistake kindness for weakness or just take advantage in general even if they don’t mean to.

Stories like this keeps hope alive

Such a great episode! Currently on my own journey in putting my own self worth and needs first after a six year relationship with a narcissistic man. To be the one to tell them I wanted to leave and not wait it out any longer to allow them to continuously belittle me was my “ah-ha” moment filled with fear, anxiety, and uncertainty but I’m so glad I did. It’s very true that it’s an on going journey and just because you’ve learned something doesn’t mean it’ll stick forever if you don’t continuously practice them & to just hear Leah sharing all of her “Ah-ha” moments to recognizing and noticing patterns within her self, again just made me feel a little less alone in world! Thank you for such a great episode!

I had a massive crisis and almost walked away from my current relationship several times in the first year because I was SO CONFUSED about not feeling attracted to him in the way I was used to. I knew I wanted a gentle, respectful and kind partner, but all I knew was that high-adrenaline, toxic connection to associate with love. I wish there was more said about how misleading/unhealthy 'love at first sight' and attraction can be- thanks so much for this video! ❤

Thanks Tiff for being so transparent!! It's Sad that we black woman experience so much trauma from a young age! I myself can totally relate to yours! Unfortunately been there as well! I'm so proud of u baby girl ❤!! Nothing but fulfillment and blessings to u!! ❤❤

This one, wow... I cried. I was driving and had to stop because it hit my heart so hard. Thank you for sharing, great content and amazing guest ❤ thank you Shan. ❤

This one was great and on time. Thanks Shan. You do a wonderful job picking guest.

This episode has been one of the most helpful episodes for me thus far. Thank you both so very much.

This is the episode I needed to hear. Thank you!

That story Shannon told at the start was pretty crazy

I really loved this episode. I think that there's a power in seeing yourself in someone else who's made the changes and are doing better for themselves. I cant wait to use the tools you gave us at the start of the episode to do some self exploration and use in future relationships

Probably one of the greatest episodes thus far 🙌🏽

I loved this episode. Thank you both so much ❤

Wow I needed this ❤

This was such a good and relatable episode for me I loved it!

It’s so crazy how much I related to this episode. ❤

Love her perspective ❤

She’s very likable. Great interview!

Awesome guest

These are my favorite conversations. Real people, coming together to make a safe space where everyone can be received 🖤 I recieve this conversation & I look forward to meeting all the people who are going to love me safely,securely, & wholesomly 🖤

Yes if you feel butterflies its warning sign.

Thanks for bringing up Al Anon

Interview🔥+ that remix of lover's and friends anthem 🔥🔥🔥🔥

Omg I really loved this ❤

Love this pod/show! I usually listen on Spotify but I can’t review on there so adding my review here: I started listening about a year ago and it’s helped me a lot. The fertility episode helped me find my new egg freezing doctor after having a tough time with my first (shoutout to Dr. Nicole Brown at Kindbody!) and I sent this episode to my best friend because it was very timely. I’m in a relationship with a woman so would love more episodes about non-hetero relationships, i.e. featuring Jazz & Sua - they remind me a lot about my relationship dynamic and I think you’d dig deeper than their past interviews.

Underrated for sure , both girls amazing but damn Shan you have incredible verbal skills and so smart :) love ur content!

i think a big part of attraction is that you can't consciously decide WHAT specifically attracts you to someone. so even if its a bad fit for your life and your goals . . . and vice versa, even if someone would be a great fit there could be no attraction.

Don't worry. My friendship will make your mind, your feeling, your show more viewers by others. I can develop that on you. Without you even know about what's I'm doing. Trust me hanny❤🎉

Her random moments of laughter is awkward..Awesome episode though ..Loved it.

damn, Leah I pray your love only grows with time.

“Not like there’s anything wrong with that” after saying something that is clearly wrong. It is so important to be honest with what you think without trying to accomodate other people’s feelings. Hope that you can do this moving forward, rather than downplaying the effects that these type of relationships have.

@myvoicepodcast

9 ай бұрын

I thought that at first but then I caught myself and said maybe she meant it’s nothing wrong with the people who likes to look THE WAY he looked. Like the individual style of the person. That’s what I think she meant. Or I hope she meant

@mercymunoz1408

9 ай бұрын

@@myvoicepodcast what followed after was what solidified it for me, in terms of not like there is anything wrong with that because those relationships are "FUN"

For my astrology geeks: this relationship sounds like a synastry with strong Neptune aspects and The north and/or south node involved :)

@2babyangel5309

9 ай бұрын

Yep… and she may have been going through some uranus transits to her natal chart as she mentions 7 years a lot.

@kxkaoir

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 that’s has me weak af cus why I understand exactly what you mean.

PLEASE BRING HEYFRANHEY ON 😍😍😍 omg I would love her insight is amazing

Boodo! You know. I love the lecture of your book. It's so sweet to read in your library pages. I can learn in hours with you about what's I need decide on 6 months. It's interesting to make more experiences with you one day. If thay can't be this seasons to more times together. But. Don't stop to your dreams fun my dear. Your opening talents can push you to places and create world you wouldn't imaginate will happen to you ok. Good luck hanny!💋🤔

Did you mention the book?

Shan is so cute! I can´t stop looking at her

Shan and Leah, this gives me HOPE that my person is out there 10 yrs after divorce from a toxic, broken person that I tried to save. Realized, Jesus saves, I don’t have that POWER, but I can pray for you.😊 I too had to choose me, and see that better could at least start without him. Keep doing great work and sharing your testimonies with the world. ❤❤✌🏾

I love the name of your show lovers & friends. Question: What’s more important lovers or friends? I once dated someone who said. She would never put her lover over her friends because lovers come and go and friends are forever. We aren’t connected anymore as lovers or friends. But I thought it would be a great subject to listen too.

@emilyinfp704

9 ай бұрын

Was it a spice girl?

@lauryrodriguez7229

9 ай бұрын

I understand their POV but tbh once you find “the lover” or “the one” they’re permanent while friends might phase out. I feel like they’re two different loves and should be prioritized in their own way

Feeling butterflies just means you feel an intense attraction with someone and you don't want to mess things up. Some people get over it. Some don't. You would think that after getting enough experience that getting butterflies would be a rarity as you get numb to the excitement

whats the dark psychology book?

It;s interesting the thing about butterflies being a sign that the interaction is potentially risky and I totally understand that. However it would be interesting to hear, and if there is a situation in which a person that has worked on themselves, can now interact with someone "good" for them: does it mean that butterflies will never happen? Are there situations in which there are "healthy butterflies". I'd be very sad to find out that there is no such things as that butterfly feeling with healthy relationships.

You can try this one too. She might good to play a good game. Prepare my trips with any of them wr choice ok. Yes for this one too ok❤🎉

That Disney princess joke was so sad I actually had to laugh 😅

Gosh wish we had the captions in the intro :(

Here's the thing. The outcome of an event affects our memory of it. It's one of the 7 failures of memory. A study took a couple who's been together for a year and asked them to describe their first date. Then in 3 years asked them to do it again. Guess what the people who were still together did vs. The others?

@tshephangmotlogelwa384

9 ай бұрын

What?

@yltnaillirb4438

9 ай бұрын

The answer…?

@musicneurons7807

9 ай бұрын

@tshephangmotlogelwa384 I'm sorry. I thought it was obvious and instead it looks like I just expected y'all to read my mind. So for the people that were still together, they remembered the details of their first date even more fondly and the things they said that attracted them to their partner became magical or kismet from that date. The sequence of events and the informant details were relatively the same. Whereas the people who were no longer together, they said things like" i should have known then" or" that was a red flag from that but I just ignored it" sometimes they remember the same detail and sequence of events. However they once thought of as cute or quirky, now it was irritating. Finally depending on the length of the relationship, some folks forgot the details all together.

@musicneurons7807

9 ай бұрын

@yltnaillirb4438 sorry about that! And the 7-failures of memory are: transience, absent-mindedness, blocking, misattribution, suggestibility, bias, and persistence

Does anyone know if Shan and Jared have ever actually slept with (not just kissing) other ppl during their marriage and how they navigated after that? Is that in a video anywhere? Cause it’s one thing to say you’re in an open marriage and talk about hypotheticals and another to actually do them. Is there content out there on this?

@DellaMora2222

9 ай бұрын

They have not, but just cause you are in an open marriage doesn’t mean ur automatically with other ppl. They just keep the option open and if it presents it’s self they will go from there.

@pipperlue

9 ай бұрын

I know they talked about going to get massages that ended in “happy endings” not long ago. I think that’s the only thing I remember

@kellirai35

9 ай бұрын

It hasn’t been made public but I have my suspicions 😂😅

@h3artands0uLL

9 ай бұрын

@@pipperlue surprised places like that actually exist, isn’t that illegal? Lol. Did they talk about aftermath in their relationship?

@h3artands0uLL

8 ай бұрын

@@kellirai35 I keep hearing horror stories of couples dealing with the aftermath of opening their relationship so I’m wondering how Shan and Jared have handled it if it’s gone there

💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

lmao i love that she can laugh about what she has been through.

Is it just me or the quoted slides are empty? :D

@theblackphoenix447

8 ай бұрын

They were!

LEAH! Comeback to LA… break up with New York.

😀🙂🙃😃😄😗😉😁😆😊

I want to see Shannon interview Candace Owens. I feel like two intelligent women can have a candid conversation on their difference in perspectives and really give the audience a deeper look into what love sex and relationships can be from two opposite view points

@toomuchinformation

9 ай бұрын

I can't see that happening. Shan did comment on one of Candace's videos and was quite critical...... kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZKqepcyacbqZmag.html

@saltandlight93

8 ай бұрын

Maybe now that Candace is softer but I don't like her audience they're unnecessarily mean

5:47 the captions are missing here. just a graphic. not sure what’s been happening lately but the edits have been getting sloppy. in sure from being a full time mom. done to be a production assistant if your team needs it

Her laugh and nervous laughs were horrendous 😳

@ailynnmckae1130

9 ай бұрын

She was a great guest, you’re just weird

@ToriUptown

9 ай бұрын

yea, i didn’t like this guest. felt like she was tryna convince herself lol

@imfine8224

9 ай бұрын

​@@ToriUptownI'm curious what you picked up if u don't mind elaborating. What do you think she is trying to convince herself of? That shes doing the right thing?

Amazing episode! I’m so glad I watched 🥹. Now I just need to get myself to the nearest Al-anon meeting… 😅 Like others in the comments, I really connected with what Leah was describing when it came to her “before” state. I’m with an eff boy and I need to cut it loose! Not sure why I can’t choose ME over him 🤦🏽‍♀️. This episode gave me butterflies and chills for what’s possible though when I put my self love first! 🥲