How I solved negatively comparing myself to other guitarists

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How I solved negatively comparing myself to other guitarists
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💬 LESSON DESCRIPTION:
This video is for you if you've ever heard another guitar player, and it had a negative impact on you, big or small.
I'm talking about comparing ourselves to other people.
This is something that we all are susceptible to as humans.
I've had my fair share of feeling discouraged from comparing myself to other guitarists.
Over the years, I’ve discovered a couple of questions to ask myself when I start negatively comparing myself to others.
Thankfully, reflecting on those questions has completely eliminated this problem for me.
It's pretty amazing.
I hope you enjoy this lesson and find it beneficial.
Let me know what you think in the comments.
Thanks! :)
- Jared
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🕛 VIDEO CONTENT OUTLINE (WITH TIMESTAMP LINKS):
0:00 - About this video
1:34 - Comparing ourselves to others
4:45 - How I took care of this problem
16:10 - Play any jazz chord with just 8 shapes!

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  • @soundguitar
    @soundguitarАй бұрын

    🎸 Get my FREE Method Booklet - Play any jazz chord with just 8 shapes → bit.ly/3msntbe

  • @afgafg6471
    @afgafg647123 күн бұрын

    Jared, all of your KZread videos are great instructional content… but THIS may be the most important video that you’ve EVER produced. As a pro guitarist, I have continually struggled with the same comparison depression habits. Thanks for sharing what helped you gain some perspective and let the players we idolize lead to more inspiration instead of self-flagellation. 🙏🎸👌😎

  • @ritestmturk
    @ritestmturkАй бұрын

    Jared thanks for sharing this level of vulnerability. Always learning from you, and super inspired by your playing and investment in helping others grow.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    I appreciate that! Thanks so much and thanks for watching along :)

  • @davidpatrick1813
    @davidpatrick1813Ай бұрын

    Excellent ... I had an experience that this reminds me about. I had (a few years back (dabbling years) ... that I learned some of Tommy Emanuel's tunes, a lot and ... at quite a unexpected gathering (fun show) I played a couple of them. The gent doing the master of mic thing, after said, "I didn't know you could play like that".. and I had a big applaud. I was playing for neither of those reasons, .. but something Tommy had said is to play to make other people happy. ... They were complicated pieces and I could not play the now without some hours of relearn the bike ride and play... I still will look on your site for practice routine... I am playing some daily, composing ... doodling ... I'll do it.. thanks for this neat coaching video today. (Oh, I have just started into week 3 of just playing with a bluegrass band, once a week, live ... nerve racking when they want me to sing a song and lead but I don't know any ... so I lack but will fill the cup.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing! Congrats on playing out with the bluegrass band! I hope that goes well :)

  • @playwithmycrud
    @playwithmycrudАй бұрын

    prob most useful guitar video on youtube to ever exist you are a genius

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    24 күн бұрын

    🙏

  • @richardspindler7030
    @richardspindler7030Ай бұрын

    Great lesson! I’m 80 years old and although I can’t play as well as when I was younger, I can still play and enjoy the music.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks! I'm glad you're playing and enjoying 😊

  • @davidsummerville351
    @davidsummerville351Ай бұрын

    Good stuff, thanks. Very helpful to everyone at every level.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    Glad you think so! :)

  • @MarkPerrett-qx3gq
    @MarkPerrett-qx3gqАй бұрын

    Great way of thinking, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Very helpful thanks, my friend!

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    My pleasure! Thanks for watching :)

  • @africanchina1
    @africanchina1Ай бұрын

    In my case, I started playing guitar at 25 (very old) so for me just the fact that I could learn to play a basic song is good enough, something I never thought I could do

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    I'm glad you're doing it, thanks for sharing!! :)

  • @Bob13Blues
    @Bob13BluesАй бұрын

    Thank you Jared. That was a very inspiring lesson.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Sure thing. I'm so glad to hear that! 😊

  • @Dave-gf3kd
    @Dave-gf3kdАй бұрын

    Really thoughtful and well thought out!

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks! 😊

  • @yzee5085
    @yzee508527 күн бұрын

    Thank you for this inspiring words.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    24 күн бұрын

    Sure thing! I'm glad it was inspiring :)

  • @SethRodden-cx1rf
    @SethRodden-cx1rf22 күн бұрын

    Not to cloud the discussion with spirituality here, but I think what Jared is describing is nothing short of a spiritual process. How you do anything is how you do everything. If sitting in traffic makes you antsy and impatient and you find yourself always wishing you were somewhere else/better, the pursuit of music will be no different. You will have a continual feeling of inadequacy. On the other hand, if you let music be the thing that humbles you over and over again, and you keep showing up with patience and non-judgement, things will start to click. Same approach many people take to yoga, etc. I think the term "practice" is a good one. You never arrive, you just enjoy the process.

  • @dvirony
    @dvironyАй бұрын

    Hey Jared thanx, I am 64 and still learning every day, and sometimes i find new things to learn and keeps me going...

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Good for you! Rock on! 🤘

  • @timsmith190
    @timsmith190Ай бұрын

    Thank you Jared for sharing this video. I am glad there are others far more talented than me. They don't leave me feeling inferior, they inspire me and motivate me and teach me. It also helped me lose that feeling of inferiority when I (after listening to hundreds of what I consider the finest musicians in the world) say again and again that they put in tens of thousands of hours studying, thinking about, practicing and playing music. Musical talent is not like the lottery. These people were not born this way. I believe this is the big myth that keeps people stuck in this kind of thinking. These musicians had a passion and they ate, slept and breathed it. That said, I'm satisfied that my own talent is commensurate with my passion for and time given to music. Also, you need to consider what these virtuoso musicians gave up (what they didn't master e.g. business, family etc.) in exchange for their excellence. It is in some sense a deal with the devil...

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I like how you said that you feel inspired instead of inferior.

  • @timgulick6399
    @timgulick6399Ай бұрын

    Amen.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    Ай бұрын

    😉

  • @user-ux9bo1kq2d
    @user-ux9bo1kq2dАй бұрын

    Jared how long on average does it take to actually get something new into your playing ? Should you stay on one new thing until you actually do before moving on to something new? Thank you for your lessons . I’ve been playing for over 50 years . I’m so wishing I was exposed to teachers such as yourself when I was younger . Never too late I suppose.

  • @tgilton

    @tgilton

    Ай бұрын

    I am aligned with you on this. I too have been playing now for 50+ years. I can do a little bit of everything, but nothing all that well. I keep changing what I am practicing after seeing something. Jared's message is perfect. I also vey much want to hear how long it takes others to absorb a new etude or tune before they are good at it.

  • @mindcontrol67

    @mindcontrol67

    Ай бұрын

    In all my years of playing I have always incorporated multiple new things in my practice per week and keep rotating them over time.I think it is silly to just practice one thing and that's it then move to the next.You'll thank me later.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    Thanks for sharing and for asking about this. I'll make a video that answers this question more thoroughly soon, but I'll give a quick answer in writing here as well. Unfortunately, it's impossible to say how long it takes to get something down, even on average, because it depends completely on what the skill is and our experience level when we approach working on that skill. In general, I would always assume that it takes way longer than we think it should to get something feeling natural in our playing. I have two answers to the second question: 1) The most important thing to practice is something that we actually have an application for - something that we're going to use in our playing, whether that's at home by ourselves for fun or anywhere else. I say this because many people practice skills to get them down then never come back to them and actually use them, so this is something to watch out for, and if we're not going to use it, then why practice it? I'm not implying that you're doing this, I'm just saying it as a heads-up to all of us. 2) I would not recommend staying on only one thing and getting it down before doing anything else. Breaks between working on something help us learn it better and keep it long term. If we work on one thing for a long time then move on and don't come back to it, we'll lose it. Rotating between skills can be very effective because the "intermittent learning" helps it become established as a long-term ability rather than short term. This is tricky to answer in writing (which is why I'll make a video on it) because we certainly do not want to bail on an exercise because it's hard before getting it down, so I don't want this to be interpreted that way, but we do want to have variety in our training as we learn and improve and apply what we're learning. whew... long answer! I hope this is helpful. Stay tuned for the video version. -Jared

  • @andrewwoodgate3143

    @andrewwoodgate3143

    28 күн бұрын

    Great question and answers guys. I started making a Word doc of my own guitar goals as a result of suggestions from KZread Videos and as a solution to increasing my progress. I was was jumping around never really properly learning anything and getting frustrated. I now make a fluid annual plan that I split into quarterly parts. Like Jared said I still practice material from my January to March list to keep the skills and knowledge fresh. If I hear or see something I would like to learn, I add it to the next available spot in the next quarter or where I have space. I learnt not include too many solos in each quarter because then I didn't have enough time to effectively make progress on each one (Lesson in patience). I also saw a KZread clip that said don't learn techniques in isolation. Learn a solo that you like that includes that technique. That will help keep you motivated. I include a note next to each solo or song the Why I want to learn it. Where would I play it? This is meant to help me focus and keep me motivated. I then review the material at the end of each quarter making notes on my Word doc about how my learning went and suggestions to myself on what worked and what to stop doing (time & progress management). I have developed this over a couple of years gradually improving my system by incorporating other peoples ideas. It helps me learn, stay focused and reduces frustration. Please try it. Start small and build over time. Cheers

  • @mindcontrol67

    @mindcontrol67

    27 күн бұрын

    @@andrewwoodgate3143 Also remember that over practicing some thing is not the best way to progress.I found that if you practice something for 5 or 10 min a day You can retain better, there is a term used for this which applies to learning a spoken language.Nonetheless if you play something for just 10 min a day in a week that would be over an Hour.

  • @brookeaday9423
    @brookeaday9423Ай бұрын

    There are often a lot of camera edits as well to make us sound/look perfect.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @mason87104
    @mason87104Ай бұрын

    In the same vein, you have to be realistic about how much time you have spent practicing something compared to the person who does it well - it is easy to underestimate how much time they have put in on it.

  • @soundguitar

    @soundguitar

    29 күн бұрын

    Agreed! Thanks for adding this :)

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