I have never understood how men create litters of kids and move on to create more. My father has 8 or 9 daughters by 4 or 5 women. He was a part of late 1970s Black Muslim movement. He and my mother married and had me and then my sister. By the time I was 4, he vanished from my life. The next time I saw him was when I searched for him 21 years later to give me away at my wedding. I had always had a fantasy about having my father in my life. Our first 6 months of being reconnected to one another were intoxicating... like a whirlwind. Until a year passed and he went on to berate me for not wishing him a happy Father’s Day. As if I was used to observing such a holiday. After 21 years of silence from him, I had long stopped thinking of Father’s Day as a holiday that related to me. But he was livid when I did not wish him a happy Father’s Day. Even at our most reconnected, after 21 years of lost contact, the closest my father felt to me was like a close male friend. It was the strangest feeling... to look at the man who gave me half of my genetic code...but only feel like he was a close male friend. After he exploded in rage at my failure to wish him a happy Father’s Day, our relationship soon fizzled. Dads who are No Shows in their children’s lives are the worst. I’m so thankful that my husband is a phenomenal father to our children and a spectacular husband to me. I’m so happy for my children that they get to blossom in the warm glow of their Papa’s love.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Sonow What that's crazy how your dad acted. Is all contact completely severed? I stopped reaching out to my dad after numerous ignored and unreturned calls. Whatever.

Had no intention of listening to This. But Did and Everything Hits Home. Same Way with My Dad. Having a Shiity dad inspired me to be The Best Dad.

I'm SO GLAD you're regularly uploading videos again, Elle. You were one of the first ppl I listened to when I started watching you tube back in 2010 and I have benefited so much from your wisdom ❤️

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, YT gave back my monetization so I might as well try to keep it. Hopefully I'll find some inspiration for new videos.

@melinatedvessel6840

5 жыл бұрын

Same..

Yay, you reposted my fav videos of yours. I want to tell you, I admire you and your intellect.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks you. This isn't a repost. I just took it off private. My channel isn't popular enough to get 7000 views in a matter of hours. I don't know why KZread treated some of my videos like new uploads when I took them off private.

@dyanasbdoriginalchannel1492

6 жыл бұрын

UHeardMe1stTime You and Lovelyti are one only females KZread's speak on tough topics on here without being bashful, being condescending, or divisive like many others. You both don't develop big egos or be close minded on others views.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Oh ok. Cool. Thanks

I think most children that were born out of an affair almost never has a close relationship with their father. Its rather an unfair reality.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Hey, andsanp. Where you been?

@melinatedvessel6840

5 жыл бұрын

Not true.

I agree with you 100% that's how I feel too *Thank you* !

I'm so glad you are uploading again! I'll be checking in :)

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you

I been subscribed for quite a while and have seen most of your videos and.... you know damn well you need to write a book.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

I should write a book on what?

Great video! Makes sense!

I understand what you mean about the father situation. My dad would never visit and always expected my to visit and call. So I stopped calling and visiting too. I couldn't give a fuck about that ninja.

Like they say I feel nothing lol

@manweller1

6 жыл бұрын

Trish Sanity troll alert

"How I feel About Black Men" puts mister goofy chinese eyes as the first pic

I’ve had Plenty of relationships with Black Women. They didn’t work because neither of Us was Ready or Prepared. Moved On and Have Children Now. Only Interested in Growth regardless of Color. New subscriber. 💪🏾

Weren't you the second family, I think I remember you telling that story. Men sometimes ignore the side child

Didn't you say that you lived in Sarasota Florida on another video a while back? I am asking because I used to live there and since it ain't that many black people there I was wondering if I actually knew you or at least seen you at one time or another.

Omg, I didn’t know you were back

People should show their worth. I've said this to many women and told I was selfish.

I feel the same way about BW so stop asking for protection if you can’t even be nice or respectful. Treat you like sh*t then ask for protection? Not gonna fly

@kingleo8048

2 жыл бұрын

@J Alzi please run to chad wheeler

@empressmileenakahnummkxl

Жыл бұрын

Why can’t y’all take accountability without being like “oh but y’all do it too!”?🤔 Very childish and proves the point that she’s making.

New subbie!! I've been binge watching your vids since I discovered your channel. Please, come back!

My mom is like this.

Of course you grew up without a father!

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻😁

this is sad only in America black woman fight the black man and vise versa and this is actually helping white supremecy to the fullest

@manweller1

6 жыл бұрын

giggles you beat me too it. But your 💯 correct

@alliekat9022

6 жыл бұрын

Fighting is happening because people are getting upset about certain videos about the other sex talking about who cause the problem in the black community. The female perspective is clashing with the male perspective. However, they are channels that are bringing facts to the table, but they are not bringing solutions which is harder.

@melinatedvessel6840

5 жыл бұрын

ARE YOU INSANE????

@empressmileenakahnummkxl

Жыл бұрын

Sweetheart this is the ENTIRE black diaspora. NOT just in America.

I'm sure your father wasn't ready to be a father or just didn't want kids by your mother. This can probably explain his absence or disinterested in being a father. This why people should have children by people who actually want children if you care anything about your children..Forcing someone to be a father will only cause resentment..This goes for all races of men.You should want someone at their best.

@BlackCat-vr3bl

6 жыл бұрын

Obviously you didn't listen to what she said in the video. She mentioned what her parents' relationship was at the end and spelled it out pretty clearly.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

He already was a father of 2 and he already had a wife. According to my ma, I was a planned pregnancy for both parties but his motives for having a child with my mom was to have an excuse to have continued access to my ma.

@muchgoodisgiven1517

6 жыл бұрын

What about morals ?? Guys don't grow up with those? What about responsibility?? hmmmm

@michaelthompson9119

6 жыл бұрын

BlackCat84 What's that got to do with her father not wanting to be a father.

@michaelthompson9119

6 жыл бұрын

UHeardMe1stTime That's terrible if true.

I'm sorry but you can't serve two masters. You decides to marry out good luck to you. You can't however lecture black people on anything especially relationships.

@UHeardMe1stTime

2 ай бұрын

Yes, I can. I can talk about anything I want. You don't have to listen

Your speaking voice sounds white.

@UHeardMe1stTime

6 жыл бұрын

Oh

@renrichmad

5 жыл бұрын

C no evil Because she sounds intelligent, kind and respectful she sounds white. You need to get out of da hood.

@blackpill3773

2 жыл бұрын

@@renrichmad No, She's not that intelligent she uses bigs words She sounds white because She has a white girl accent.

@jovialthinker

11 ай бұрын

You’re mad 🤭