How can I open up to my therapist? | AKA 96

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Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 96
Your questions:
1. Hey Kati! How can I start to feel more comfortable sharing things with my therapist? I have been in therapy for a few months now and I still feel like I am holding back. I do trust her and want to be able to open up, but I... 3:49
2. During session there are times when my therapist acknowledges and validates my emotions which I love but I have a hard time tolerating them. I either become very emotional because she has put words to them or... 22:43
3. Any tips for nighttime anxiety? During the day, when I'm at work, I am fine. Virtually no anxiety. I don't know whether the anxiety is truly less or, since I have a fast paced job, I simply don't notice it as much, but... 35:04
4. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how aspects of our identity are impacted by therapy! I feel like a completely different person to the one who started therapy, and wondered if there’s any pattern to how... 47:06
5. Is it normal to feel stressed around people who're fighting? When I hear someone arguing I suddenly start feeling uncomfortable and scared, as if I'm in danger. But in reality I know there's nothing that can happen to me... 57:53
6. How do I deal with suicide as one of my intrusive thoughts? I’ve dealt with depression, but I’m not suicidal. One of my greatest fears in life is becoming suicidal, so naturally, I have intrusive thoughts about being... 1:05:40
7. Why do so many people want to find reasons for why you are the way you are instead of just accepting you as you are? I was raped as a teenager, and I hate telling people this because they automatically think... 1:15:23
8. I don’t know how to tell my new therapist about everything I’m struggling with, because it seems so overwhelming that I don’t know where to start. We did the initial appointment & although I didn’t have a problem opening up... 1:20:06
9. HAPPY 2022 Kati, Sean and Roxy. I've been relapsing back into ED over Christmas. More purging, restricting etc. How can I break back out of the cycle before I get back in deep again? 1:25:23
10. I have a question about rational and irrational fear. In Summer I started my first year at uni and while I was very aware of the potentially unhealthy stress I’d get into, (unfortunately I think nowadays that’s almost a given when you start studying), it doesn’t make stress, anxiety and worry any easier to deal with. 1:29:30
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  • @thought_bug
    @thought_bug2 жыл бұрын

    thank you kati for all the hardwork you put into these podcasts! :))))

  • @OTDM

    @OTDM

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're so welcome!

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thought bug. Hello being friendly I'm Nikki I like and completely agree with you Kati always puts alout of hardwork and feeling and emotion and loads of good helpful advice into these podcasts I always find her video s and podcasts calming and informative very calming voice also 🙂

  • @nameluc955

    @nameluc955

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes thank you! They are so helpful! This ones not on podcast yet though, is it due to be released there too or just on KZread for now? I like to take you along on my walks :)

  • @Katimorton
    @Katimorton2 жыл бұрын

    Good morning everyone :)

  • @thaddeusfeeney6417

    @thaddeusfeeney6417

    2 жыл бұрын

    Good morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @SafetyStrips

    @SafetyStrips

    2 жыл бұрын

    Please make a blooper Roxy reel feature at the end of every video. It's the extra shot of dopamine I need! On a more serious note, I'm truly grateful for your content. Thank you.

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello and good evening Kati I'm late watching this podcast I was waiting for it but I didn't know when it would be uploaded today also sad I didn't see my notification I always follow you your videos and podcasts even your post s and I like your short helpful video s too thank you for continuing to do these podcasts 🙂

  • @sarah28886

    @sarah28886

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Kati! This one is not in the podcast feed. Have you given up on that? I hope not 😊

  • @rileyr6879
    @rileyr68792 жыл бұрын

    Time stamps: #1 3:49 #2 22:43 #3 35:04 #4 47:06 #5 57:53 #6 1:05:40 #7 1:15:23 #8 1:20:06 #9 1:25:23 #10 1:29:30

  • @OTDM

    @OTDM

    2 жыл бұрын

    THANK YOU :)

  • @anniekate76

    @anniekate76

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yay for Riley! 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    Riley.thank you theses time stamps are helpful 👍🙂

  • @timtreefrog9646

    @timtreefrog9646

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Riley :)

  • @servinglooks247

    @servinglooks247

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you riley!!

  • @lynnedavidson4772
    @lynnedavidson47729 ай бұрын

    There are also those who grew up in a well balanced environment and have known themselves confidently all their lives. There really are people who had 'therapeutic' parents and families all the way through. A great parent guides and points out what to look at and examine. Rare - but possible.

  • @micdropfroggyface6466
    @micdropfroggyface646611 ай бұрын

    Hi Kati I just wanted to finally leave a comment and let you know I’ve been following along for a couple of months now, I found your channel by accident, and I’m a 42 year old who just declared psychology as my major. I’m halfway through my associates and I just wanted to let you know how much you’ve helped me. Watching your videos have helped me on a personal level but also it’s given me this drive to someday become a good therapist. Your videos are amazing…. Thank you for everything you do you’re such an amazing person.

  • @kimmarlen
    @kimmarlen2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for doing this. You have no idea how much this is helping 🥺❤

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're welcome Kim. Thank you for saying so.... ❤

  • @emilyweeks7483
    @emilyweeks74832 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the time and effort you put into answering our questions!! These have been a great guide for my therapist and I to talk about specific topics. Sometimes others ask questions that I haven’t thought of, and they really spark good conversations in my personal life.

  • @__Qt
    @__Qt14 сағат бұрын

    I really love the metaphors you use. It makes it so much easier to understand. I'm talking about that "dance" you mentioned, stuff like that

  • @vanessahedman3006
    @vanessahedman30062 жыл бұрын

    Hello hello! I just wanted to kindly let you know that this episode isn't on Spotify yet. Thank you for all that you do! This podcast has been a truly amazing resource in my mental health journey over the past 1,5 years and I am forever grateful to Kati!❤

  • @theoptimisticupcake
    @theoptimisticupcake2 жыл бұрын

    I relate with feeling anxious around people arguing. My parents fights would turn into my mom screaming while my dad would wait for it to end. There’s a lot to unpack there but sometimes I still feel like the scared little kid in times of conflict.

  • @mysonrando7789

    @mysonrando7789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just because this sprung such a strong memory, I was raised by my Aunt and my Mom, when I was little my Aunt was unstable, would yell at us kids in tantrums, ... one time my Mom told me "you don't have to let it bother you..." and just like that something switched in my head and then when I was yelled at, I realized it didn't really have anything to do with me most the time. As an adult I feel myself more pulled to the drama boxing match, but I'd really like to go back to realizing it is just drama, people acting out, and just be curious and entertained by it.

  • @psychologicalawareness3672
    @psychologicalawareness36722 жыл бұрын

    I like your analogies and examples you have a sense of humor that makes the video fun and easy 🌷🤩thanks for these videos

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay8602 жыл бұрын

    Hello people here in the comments I'm nikki and I like to meet New People and feel comfortable with sharing with other people who also suffers from mental health problems Kati is always my go to KZread therapy 🙂

  • @timtreefrog9646

    @timtreefrog9646

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey Nikki. I hope you are having a lovely day

  • @natascha_mephisto

    @natascha_mephisto

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello Nikki! I send a virtual hug to you (you decide if you wanna take it. Nothing is as great as consent!) ♥

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@timtreefrog9646 hello just seen your reply nice to meet you it's always nice to meet New People on here I always watch Kati 🙂

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@natascha_mephisto hello nice to meet you thank you for sending vertual hug it's nice meeting new people on here 🙂

  • @marrodriguez8859
    @marrodriguez88592 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. It means so much that you take the time to do this!

  • @timtreefrog9646
    @timtreefrog96462 жыл бұрын

    Hey Kati. Thank you SO much for answering my question. From the resources you signposted, the "real talk", and motivation. You are such a Legend. Thank YOOOOOU ⚡

  • @Jennifer-us9oz
    @Jennifer-us9oz2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so so much Kati for answering my question, I just got round to watching this and it helped so much. I feel so relieved and validated and grateful for your advice and kind words. Hope you have a lovely week!

  • @christineewing3492
    @christineewing34922 жыл бұрын

    I so appreciate your AKAs. They are really helping me with my own therapy process.

  • @nataliehilton2661
    @nataliehilton26612 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for all you do such an amazing person can't say enough

  • @gemmabuick570
    @gemmabuick5702 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely love your podcasts, sssooo many ah-ha moments! You're the best 😊

  • @DebraWomack
    @DebraWomack2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. ❤️

  • @LaurenPNicholas
    @LaurenPNicholas2 жыл бұрын

    Yes!!! I've been doing Morning Pages from Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way book for years on and off. The writing dump in the morning is so good for my mental health. If I don't do it for several days, I notice I have backlogged with processing.

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay8602 жыл бұрын

    I'd like to share that I can completely understand and relate to question 3 nighttime anxiety because it has happened to me a few times on these days I find it hard to relax I find it hard to fall asleep or stay asleep even when I'm trying to relax my mind and body my mind still has loads of thoughts running through my head I have anxiety sometimes before bed or sometimes it happens when I wake up halfway through the night who else has had this happen ? please share

  • @scorpiolife5555

    @scorpiolife5555

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s happening to me right at this moment! I fully understand!!!!

  • @nikkimckay860

    @nikkimckay860

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@scorpiolife5555 hello nice to meet you thank you for your reply and for sharing it has happened to you or is happening to you

  • @NJ-wb1cz
    @NJ-wb1cz2 жыл бұрын

    I've had those moments of self discovery and in the process of change now, my feeling of reality and of myself and others are changing, and I've never been to therapy, unless your videos count :) It's hard to say if it's the same thing, but at the very least other people seem to have these realizations after meditating or doing psychodelics as well

  • @skylermiller8605
    @skylermiller86052 жыл бұрын

    Idk y but the more than typical amount of cursing in this video made me happy lol

  • @cometgirl6558

    @cometgirl6558

    10 ай бұрын

    Ya, I like that too. It feels more like you’re in an environment with another human rather than a space that’s more intellectually sterile.

  • @jazdramafree
    @jazdramafree2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @patverbiest7983
    @patverbiest7983 Жыл бұрын

    you brought up " confidence"! funny this hit me that is what i feel lacking of . i just do things and that is it. not if i have confidence in myself to do such and such. its is like giving yourself a gentle hug! yes? no?

  • @babbypeaches289
    @babbypeaches2892 жыл бұрын

    I don't set up for new years resolutions i have work and what i have to do. I had to slow down. I learned that to slow down. I work clean and sleep i focus on what i can do not what i cant.

  • @cathyjennings5580
    @cathyjennings5580 Жыл бұрын

    The energy is a great deal of effort to let people KNOW WHO Us. Investing one's ENERGY, & TIME with that therapist to build Trustworthy support.Emotional SUPPORT. LOSSES. ETC. OVERBURDENING. Energy.

  • @natascha_mephisto
    @natascha_mephisto2 жыл бұрын

    I usually really don’t like new year resolutions but this year I have one and I am very committed to it. I don’t want this new year to be my last one and I will do everything within my power to make it till next year. I will see the fireworks again and I will make it #fckbpd #fckdepression

  • @lizdestefano4905
    @lizdestefano49052 жыл бұрын

    I'm thinking about going to therapy, but I don't think I need it or I don't want to get better! I bottom up my emotions, I zone out and I day dream all the time and I like my day dream and i know thats not healthy but i like it! Is this wrong? I know I should go to therapy but I'm so stubborn and so emotionally numb and don't want to!!!

  • @lollipoptrollop2350
    @lollipoptrollop2350 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @lollipoptrollop2350

    @lollipoptrollop2350

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m currently in therapy and an issue came up last night that I was afraid to bring up in my next session I needed to hear all of this so very much and I’m going to be very transparent with her so I can get the help I need thank you

  • @Jen55Lynn
    @Jen55Lynn2 жыл бұрын

    Love your podcasts, Kati. I have a question on how to deal with something with my current therapist. I’m 37 and have been in therapy and on meds since 9. I have OCD, MDD, generalized anxiety disorder, and possibly BPD. I’ve been in a very awful space the past two years for many reasons. I like my current therapist (been seeing her for a year and a half), but I’m having a hard time accepting her non-negotiable that if I attempt suicide and live, she cannot see me after. I’ve shared how it makes me feel and we are kind of at a standstill. We are ok but it’s still hard to move past. Thanks so much!

  • @Jen55Lynn

    @Jen55Lynn

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’ve had very abrupt toxic endings and no boundaries with my last two therapists I’ve seen for 8 years each. So definitely have always struggled with attachment issues since I was a kid.

  • @babbypeaches289
    @babbypeaches2892 жыл бұрын

    I've had to stand on my own feet no one has helped i learned from trial error and it hard to get me to talk, let alone i don't talk nor want anything to do with the situation cuz i look at it i the problem. So i learned to stay quiet let alone was taken off medication i learned to have shit days and all

  • @mamacatselliot
    @mamacatselliot Жыл бұрын

    What if I’m afraid to get better because I don’t want to stop treatment.

  • @ravlenore
    @ravlenore Жыл бұрын

    ive been with my therapist for a year and still havent opened up about the thing i needed to, and im not sure why lol, i keep meaning to but i get scared

  • @janinecarasso4217
    @janinecarasso4217 Жыл бұрын

    how do I ask you a question?

  • @maizitelietuu
    @maizitelietuu2 жыл бұрын

    hey, i have been watching your videos and listening to your podcasts for a few years now, and you helped me out trugh some realy tough times, but i wanted to point out that ive noticed you often categorise some behaviours comenters mention into diagnosies, and i never realy payed it mutch thought, but i have been watching a few of Healthy Gamer Gg’s videos lately, and thats helped me notice that this gives of strong “armchair diagnosis” vibes, and seems to encorage the trend of “diagnosing” someone from a single trait or remark they have mentioned.. this also from my perspective turns serious mentall illneses into just some buzz words that can be thrown around just like that... this has also in a way afected me, ive noticed that i have adapted the same mentality ower time, seeing a behaviour in myself or others and atomatically diagnosing them or myself with a dissorder in my mind.. i think the takeaway from this is that we shuldnt toss around these big names with little context or evidance, this can have a real negative inpact on how we view mental illnes and diagnosis... and again, this is coming from a place of love and a want to see you grow and impruve, as ive said your videos have helped me and so many other people, this is just something thats been on my mind for a while and something i think culd be impruved! mutch love from Latvia! 🥰

  • @maizitelietuu

    @maizitelietuu

    2 жыл бұрын

    ps- i mention Healthy Gamer Gg specifically because his content just gave me a comparison to a diferent aproach, and a look into the diversity of methods used to look at these kinds of subjects! :)

  • @Apoblete28
    @Apoblete282 жыл бұрын

    Hello, Can anyone help me with the affordable therapy apps Kati has recommended, I have saved up and I am ready to go into therapy. Thank you in advance 🧡

  • @KaryssaCaron-ez7wp
    @KaryssaCaron-ez7wp10 ай бұрын

    Do u think i might get overly defensive due to child hood trama ?

  • @davidmorris6443
    @davidmorris6443 Жыл бұрын

    I don't have a therapist that I enjoy the last one I had I had him for a year now he's retired I got two therapists that I dumped and they do not understand me they come up with this what can we do for you Mr Morris I don't think there's any body out there that can do anything for me all they know how to do is just put me away

  • @cathyjennings5580
    @cathyjennings5580 Жыл бұрын

    Experiencing ? During a therapy sessions? How many therapist ASK QUESTIONS??? I rarely Experience anybody ASKING this person personal QUESTIONS?? Most wait for this person to start . I m looking for SUPPORT. OR TEACH US TO ASK FOR & GET SUPPORTIVE WORDS, . I Talk like VISITING CHIT CHAT. TALK about the weather pollution, pets, gardening Experiences. Can't do as much ,due to too many physical injuries. Work for me.

  • @yunhee93
    @yunhee932 жыл бұрын

    What else do you do other than making videos?

  • @timtreefrog9646

    @timtreefrog9646

    2 жыл бұрын

    She has written a few books which are available on Amazon. Used to see clients before recently moving house too :)

  • @yunhee93

    @yunhee93

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@timtreefrog9646 I know that I meant I want to know what is she doing ever since she moved to Texas

  • @timtreefrog9646

    @timtreefrog9646

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@yunhee93 ahhhh OK. Silly me 😆 I think only You Tube at the moment. I'm sure she said that in another video recently. 😊 I guess the nice thing about moving from California to Texas is that living/accommodation is so much cheaper. Maybe doing You Tube alone actually makes it feasible to live? Maybe you could submit this as a question the next time she releases the requests? It would be interesting to know. Else my guess is only conjecture 😂

  • @arnulfo8937
    @arnulfo89372 жыл бұрын

    😴 P R O M O S M!!!

  • @ProfessorBorax
    @ProfessorBorax Жыл бұрын

    That intro jingle sounds like the beginning of a childrens program 😒

  • @AmethystWoman

    @AmethystWoman

    Жыл бұрын

    Written by a good friend of hers so you know. Not going away.

  • @mysonrando7789
    @mysonrando77892 жыл бұрын

    Every time I hear "I'm a lesbian" I feel slightly dehumanized as a man ... (it's true though I am being a little sarcastic)

  • @tablecloth1943

    @tablecloth1943

    9 ай бұрын

    ? not funny

  • @Indy__isnt_it
    @Indy__isnt_it Жыл бұрын

    Well, damn 💡 moment, i left my N-ex (almost final, my stubbornness can't get past financial setup, and secure in my finances, major point of contention. Cannot figure out WHO i can trust, yikes I have no trust due to the 40 years of passive aggressive abuse and narc rage, all hidden behind closed doors. My last long term psych ended up trying to baker act me when in reality, i had a steroid shot in my neck, causing an exaggerated inflammatory migraine, and he labeled me as a drug seeker!!!. Well, on that end, i HAD a pain management dictor who provided meds for my 24/7 pain. This j/o Dr THOUGHT he had the upper hand, and as a smart ass said "you'll be running the place tomorrow" (wtf is he saying???) Then handed a packet of paperwork to read and sign. I DID NOT SIGN, agree to their 72 hour hold once asked to be released. I circled it in black in, added stars and wiestion marks around it. When the brought me to the unit, it took less than 5 minutes before they came to tell me i was released on my own. (And the headache??? I left with that too) For me to go back to ANY THERAPY, i do not trust not to be lied to AGAIN or trust him to open up. Transistion you just mentioned. That was my transition thrown to the wolves. He left the head of psych hospital position, my RECORDS have disappeared from my permanent file, he has left town. Tried to open practice nearby, shut down also. That, coupled with my husbands lack of anything but hate has me beyond STUCK. I want to fix up my place, but cannot physically. I have some $$ to fix my reno RV/tinyhome, but i'm in the nether lands of nowhere! I do have internet access, at a cost, had to sign up for tv first, then piggyback off that signal. I'm in a stuck rut, have not even travelled anywhere in 2 years since driving in painful holding the steering wheel, easier to stay home. But i'm tired emotionaly and more than lonely.......

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