Time stamps :) 1. 3:16 2. 14:20 3. 21:46 4. 28:20 5. 33:41 6. 43:33 7. 50:37 8. 59:29 9. 1:02:38 10. 1:05:08

@irena1222

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@Crazymoviefan_23

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

Timestamps everybody: 1. Is it normal to not want to tell your parents about anything that’s going on in your life, even if they are supportive? 3:17 2. Ever since childhood, I've had a difficult time crying in front of others. I don't like showing my tears to other people. 14:19 3. How therapists hide their emotions during a session? 22:12 4. Do you have any advice for people who find it hard to accept that there are things that we have no control over especially the future? 28:25 5. Do you hug your client? I have been receiving trauma therapy for past abuse. 33:42 6. As a Psychology student as well as a patient with complex PTSD & OSDD, I wonder if I can ever be competent in being a therapist. 43:34 7. Does being sexually abused when you were younger change your preferences? 50:42 8. I was sexually abused when I was 6 years old and didn’t fully awaken to it until I was around 13. Since then all I can do is torture myself with it purposely consuming programs, media around this subject. 59:30 9. I sometimes feel as if my existence doesn't matter. All I can think about is disappearing. 1:02:39 10. How do I stop self-sabotaging my sleep schedule? I'm anxious all day and use night time to distract myself on my phone for hours. 1:05:10 Stay safe! Love ❤️

@irena1222

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Your voice is so comforting. Ideal podcast voice. I could listen to it all day!

Is it normal for the majority of these questions to apply to my life 100%!? I’m excited for this video and these questions

*Reads the questions in the thumbnail This is going to be a good one.

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Aww Thanks Aram :)

Watching this on my phone as I can't sleep... Kati: "I would encourage all of you to get off your phone at night time please for the love of God" 😂😂

@nisafinnegan

4 жыл бұрын

AHAHAH samee

@mariayeh9396

4 жыл бұрын

Same same same 😂

@uknow2908

4 жыл бұрын

Oops

@joshuahadley776

4 жыл бұрын

bruh

@matimoi

4 ай бұрын

Me right now

"Maybe it wasn't the right support." Ohhh. Yes. So much yes. "Maybe your parents are too involved." I mean... somehow, yes, again. Now that explains part of my adolescence a lot.

-Reads title "ME- "Oof. We're going there today"

One thing I've done while journaling about my worry, is write about what I could/would do if the event that I'm worried about did happen. And CBT really helped this, because part of it focuses on writing out evidence for and against a thought, and it really helps me find/recognize my own resilience.

@sladki6ka

4 жыл бұрын

I have tried dealing with the anxiety of catastrophizing by rationally thinking about what I would do, if this and that actually happened. In almost all cases I found that either I was very well prepared for all these scenarios, or they weren't actually such a big deal. Having an active solution has really helped diminish these thoughts. Writing them down is one level up from that, I think I will try it.

When you just looked into the camera and were like "It's depression." I had to actually pause and laugh until I was crying. I have a friend who's a social worker and every time I'm like sprawled out on her living room floor and complaining about my day and why do I feel like a puddle of crap, and this long drawn out thing for like 20 minutes, and she just like looks at me and pauses for a moment and goes, "That's depression." And every time i'm like "oh rite I have that. I forgot."

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

hahah!! It's normal to forget.. especially if we are having a shit day! xoxo

I find it hard to cry at all, I'm assuming it was because I was a very emotional child, who got bullied and therefore cried a lot, but was told not to, to stop sniveling or blubbering and so I taught myself not to, but now, when I feel I need to cry I can't until it builds up and I snap and get absolutely hysterical.

@cfjohnson7369

4 жыл бұрын

Same. I thought I was the only one.

@keiratinney8739

4 жыл бұрын

That’s almost same for me but when I was little I used to cry pretty much over anything but I would get yelled at all the time so then I stopped I don’t cry at funerals I don’t cry when I get hurt I don’t cry about anything and I feel like I need to and should but the tears just don’t come

In my experience, I find it really awkward when therapists tear up, I've had them become very angry (at what happened), etc. It makes me think I need to be the one to comfort them, telling them it's over, I'm "fine" etc. The abuse has made me numb, so it's not like I'm crying and they are tearful. It's more like I have to stop telling my story so they can get a hold of themselves. I understand we're all human, and I really try not to let it influence me, but I just go into apology mode and try to fix it. Sometimes that means I rarely talk about the abuse, which is one of the main reasons I'm in therapy to begin with.

To the lovely person who was talking about coming out and faith based issues, I know as a Queer (a label I use for myself) individual personally how difficult it can be to walk through and balance coming out with my faith/religion, and I am super open to talk about it if that's something you'd find helpful! You're valid and amazing and I believe in you!! (Also, I'm Christian btw and am on track to become an ordained member of clergy!)

@lalacameron170

4 жыл бұрын

I just now saw this comment. It was my question and reading thus put a smile on my face thank you

Yay another Ask Kati Anyhting!!!! This is my high light of the day. Thank you.

Hi Kati I’m thirteen and just discovered your channel I’m having a really hard time during quarantine with anxiety and panic attacks and stuff like that I’ve had trouble with it in the past but not like right now. I have been thinking a lot lately (Probably a little to much) about myself and how I look and act. When I’m on FaceTime with my friends I get anxious thinking about what they will think of every word I say. I can’t stop telling myself that I’m ugly and nobody likes me and nobody cares about what I have to say. I want to tell my parents and friends how I’m feeling right now but. I’m afraid when I tell my friends they will say “ oh my god your being so dramatic” or my parents to say “it’s normal you will get over it. I don’t know what to do which is just making it worse... Your videos have been comforting knowing I’m not the only one going through this right now thank you for everything you do☺️

Thankyou so much for answering my question!!! I really needed that advice! You’re an angel Kati ❤️

Just what I needed! Thank you, Kati. I'm so happy for this video.

- You're a gem, Kati! Thank you so much for all the work you do, - I sometimes feel a bit overwhelmed (in the most positive way possible) by the fact that there are awesome people like you out there, that provide so much help to all of us "out there." You rock!

That last question called me out lol Edit: I actually feel like mental quiet time is the last thing I want - I need to constantly distract myself from my thoughts to stay sane. I lay in bed in my phone for hours, until I pass out from exhaustion.

Here we go- another really interesting episode!

Favourite day of the week ❤✨

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Awe yay!! xoxo

Thank you so much Katie. I drive more than an hour to see my therapist. This podcast is what I listen to on my drive there. It's proven to be helpful in preparing for my therapy. Thanks so much.

Thank you so much for answering my question Kati! again as always a huge help! I will take your advice and try to better myself❤️✨

I loved it so much (of course as always) you have a huge gift, and you are really meant to do this work ...... love you so much 😘😘

Love watching these videos at night it’s always a great way to end the night

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! xoxo

Kati, you are the absolute best. I'm in therapy and my therapist doesn't say much and answers questions with questions. It leaves me feeling more confused than when I went in. I know that she and I are doing some hard work, but I need, especially now, a friendly face and straightforward answers. I used all of that in the big picture. Your wisdom and presentation are just refreshing. I can live AND do therapy. Thanks, for being such an awesome human.

My new goal is to beat Kati to sing the suspicious jingle. You crack me up girl!!!

My therapist once had to get the stress ball for herself which made us both burst out laughing.

Another great podcast. As always there is something in it for me.

Always looking forward to your podcasts! 😃

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! I am so glad :) I hope it's helpful!! xoxo

Kati Morton I enjoyed today's podcast after just finished watching and listening lots of good questions and your answer was very deep and plenty of advice for everyone can't wait for the next podcast you are my video that helps me feel calm thank you

I love these videos. Thank you dear Kati ♡

I'm happy that the fourth question has been answered, but I'm also scared. Edit: Maybe I have not been the right audience for this answer. Honestly, I don't believe the "yeah, you can get help, it can get better" for me. At the base of my anxiety is my autism, with my brain just being over-sensitive to everything, me being over-emotional, me taking ages to process every new thing because I don't have a filter. And sometimes it's just too much new information and I can't take it all in. And I'm legitimately scared about getting into situations where it will all be too much because it's so easy for things to escalate when I'm unable to communicate well.

@ApequH

4 жыл бұрын

That doesn't mean it can't get better, it means it might take more time. You probably will always struggle with it, but the struggle can get easier. (I mean this in a positive way, not to devalidate your situation. Some things are hard for some people, they might not get easy, but the could get less hard.)

@toni2309

4 жыл бұрын

@@ApequH I highly doubt that logic. My experience with troubles that base on neurodivergence has been, that trying more and longer the same way doesn't help at all. You don't just "take more time" to learn a skill. You need a different approach most of the time. Either there's some "try different" hack or you're screwed. And often it's either you are able to get the right accomodations or you're screwed.

@ApequH

4 жыл бұрын

@@toni2309 Oke, i hope it gets better for you anyway.

@samihaislam3487

4 жыл бұрын

I have anxiety too and I catastrophize everything sometimes too but "you're screwed" is a little extreme to me.

@toni2309

4 жыл бұрын

@@samihaislam3487 Oh. Yeah. I was using emotional language and not accurate language. Sorry. In a more accurate described it is actually however that often either there is a different way to do it or I have accomodations or what happens is that either the barrier is too high for me to actually do it or I try and fail because I don't manage to do all the expectations or I go through a lot of anxiety to do it for which I need a lot of rest which is hard to have enough time for.

Oh boy, started watching and scrolling down through the questions... Yayayayah!! This is going to be a packed AKA :-)

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Hahah!! It really is a lot this week!! lol!! xoxo I hope you like it :) xoxo

@nikkimckay860

4 жыл бұрын

S M hello how are you doing 🙂

@nikkimckay860

4 жыл бұрын

S M I'm glad you are here again

@SusieQ78

4 жыл бұрын

@@Katimorton haha 29:51

Thank you for answering my question, Kati!

One of the most informative videos. Thank you so much needed them 😊😊😊

I cant wait for your next book! Loved the first one so much. Good luck with writing it

I find myself singing along with the intro haha :) it's so catchy

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Omg me too! After working on an episode I sing the intro all day long.. lol xoxo

@clarab325

4 жыл бұрын

Same!

Thank you Kati this video was very helpful!!!!

This podcast is so informative! I'm taking introduction to sociology and epigenetics fascinates me, it's one of the reasons I'm studying neuroscience.

Hello Kati :) I had to laugh out loud at 29:50: 'you knew it was coming that j-bomb" :) I'm so thankful for your videos and I wish you a great week! :) Much love from Germany :) Linda

Thanks for another amazing episode Kati. Just to play devils advocate I notice you say sorry a lot in the podcast and I have struggled with saying sorry a lot too. This podcast is helping people and you are brilliant so try to work on not always saying sorry when you aren’t doing anything wrong 🥰🥺

I love these podcasts!

I had a relative tell me the same shit about my sexuality when I came out to her as a lesbian at 14. She brought past sexual abuse up and used it as an excuse to say that I'm not "that way" (gay). She then outed me to my caretaker who got mad at me for talking to people about me being gay, and she insinuated that I didn't know anything and that I was just confused. Yeah, that hurt me a lot. Needless to say, they're all out of my life. Still struggling with certain aspects of my sexuality thanks to being raised by those hyper-religious homophobes, but eh... I do feel like I'm naturally attracted to the women I'm attracted to though. I don't know whether I could've been bi and/or attracted to a wider range of women (I have a strong preference for a physical "type" and no attraction to people who aren't my "type") if I wasn't abused, but whatever lol

Love your videos! I've been looking forward to your trauma-book for quite a while now. I just wanted to add to this video that divorce can definitely be a big T for the children, and something you can get PTSD from alone. Because in some families, divorce isn't just signing the papers and it's done, it's years and years of moving back and forth, never settling, parents fighting over their child or, like you talked about in a different question, talking to the child about each other. It's a daily struggle, and a daily choice of which parent you agree the most with, basically who's child you want to be. I know many parents manage this in a good way, but many don't, and for years I dismissed my own reactions to it because of comments like "divorce isn't a big deal", because it made me feel like I wasn't allowed to struggle with it. I just wanted you to know that, for your book, and for other videos where you bring this up.

Thank you Kati 💓

Such a katie episode I love it

To the person who wrote the number 5 question: Please know that you are not alone! In my case, in order not to show weakness I had compressed all of those feelings since forever. This has made me feel super weird and afraid of any physical contact (unless it's my husband) and also those compressed feelings turn into anger with time.. The good thing is, you still want physical contact with people. A lot of things can change for you if you just find the right person. We can't choose our parents unfortunately, and many abuses go unnoticed and so many children traumatised.. And I like to say this: Just because you can breed doesn't mean you should. Some parents should have never become parents

Hello kati its 7:44 PM in the uk I have just got and seen the notification for your new video I am just starting to listen and watch so true what you said about the corona virus things still are bad and nothings actually changing or getting better fully yet everyone should still wear mask s and keep staying safe lastly I seen all the questions people have asked and now looking forward to hearing your answer s I am still reaching out for help and answers to how I feel anyway thanks for keeping these helpful health podcast s going each week I look forward to this podcast every Thursday 😊

You are amazing katy, even if my questions arent answer this was really helpfull

@Katimorton

4 жыл бұрын

Awe thanks :) I do my best to pick the questions with the most thumbs ups.. sorry yours wasn't chosen. But feel free to post it again next week!! xox I also answer questions on Patreon at the $20 tier and up as well :) xoxo

@nikkimckay860

4 жыл бұрын

ME S. hello I'm nikki I love watching kati s podcast s agreed she is amazing

I'm not sure if this is the right book but were you talking about 'Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother'? It was written by an asian woman who had a tiger mother and parented her own daughters the same way until her youngest daughter rebelled and made her change her ways. For the sleep thing, I agree that at the very least, turn off data/ wifi off so there aren't any notifs and I agree with using it for sleep meditation but I use my phone for another thing - reading. I'm a very anxious person but escaping into another world makes me forget my anxieties and relaxes me while tiring out my eyes and it's the fastest way for me to sleep. I look forward to going to bed because I get to read. Just make sure you're not reading thrillers or anything action-packed. Fantasy and children's books are great. Classics are also good to bore yourself to sleep if that's not your cup of tea.

In case anyone needs to hear it... 29:41 BOOM!!! 💣💥💣💥💣 Oh, and all should join the club ;-)

Ask Kati Anything Question: If it normal to still have seperation anxiety as an adult, I still live with my mom, but every time I'm away from her I get really sad, how do I work on this?

Over the years I have been in therapy for my OCD. Many of them have fallen away: Eating one thing at a time. ordering my 'frige and touching door frames before going through them (Those have all fallen away as I worked on them and others. however my fear of my home being burned down when i get home is a constant. I live in an apartment complex of 40 units. This is a obsessive thought i seem to have always had. it goes up when I see a moving van in the apartment complex parking lot. I have been discharged from mental health... but was told i can come back at any time. For years i have "Stuffed" this fear. But i have decided that I need to deal with this obsession now. But now that I have decided this, when i called to set up an appointment, I am told that the current agency is understaffed. So I Have been redirected to other people/agencies and it has been left up to me. I am a bit embarrassed to admit to a person i dont know that i have this fear (in my mind i KNOW its irrational). so Im finding it hard go to a stranger and admit this. how can i get past this?

Hey Kati, loved question 3. However could you please expand on it by giving an example? I became confused when you mentioned computer programs. Thank you

My therapist: How did you feel then? Me: Incredulous-What difference does it make? My feelsing arent gonna change anything, who gaf about my feelings? She said I do. I was stunned.

So helpful!

The cbt reference you was after is thoughts, behaviours beliefs, physiology (body sensations)

I am trying to get out of my ED relapse but for some reason therapy triggers my ED and makes the voices really loud that say "you need to be sicker to deserve therapy" "you don't deserve to get better yet". So I'm super confused about therapy and if maybe it's doing more harm than good? What should I do when therapy triggers my ED like this???

@ninagomes1432

4 жыл бұрын

I FEEL YOU... It happens to me too but the short answer is: bring it up with your therapist (I know it's hard and I postponed bringing it up with mine for a long time) but then you can navigate what you're feeling and challenge what the ed is telling you because as we know it's never the real complete true to say the least

I felt that first question

i sham for that, but i must ask you, my anxiety caused me frequent urination and i don't know what I can do, can you make a video about this particular topic and give me tips?

Don't waste your life while locked down: learn a language, boost your trade knowledge, take lessons on line. Grow!!!! You are being paid to stay home - train yourself. This is a gift of time. Make it count.

Kati, I missed you so much. Our router was broken and we were having a problem with the network connection for 2 months and we were going crazy. I'm feeling so relieved being reconnected with your community again. ❤ Edit: BTW, I'm a biology nerd so maybe I can help in the epigenetics thing. 🧠

Kati, I have some difficulty with question number 5. I completed my therapy 2 years ago. It helped me a lot! I feel like I learned to accept myself because the therapist was truly accepting. I think I could not learn this acceptance without receiving it from her. I just could not give myself that thing that I did not have. I needed this external validation and it became internal with time. Is this the same problem even as in question number 5, or is it completely different? What I am trying to say is: I needed the external source.

I’m mindlessly scrolling on my phone mere hours after therapist Kati told us to knock that shit off and I genuinely feel a little guilty about it lol

@ashley-8612

4 жыл бұрын

She’s gonna know!!! 😬

To be fair, most of my thoughts are probably really me noticing how I'm getting uncomfortable, anxious or overwhelmed and me complaining about having to do all these things that make me uncomfortable, anxious or overwhelmed and complaining that I'm getting uncomfortable, anxious or overwhelmed by them.

Kati I'm so tired of trying and fighting my anorexia alone. It's been years and no one cares, no matter how much I struggle and I say I need help. I don't know what to do anymore people tell me to get over it. I'm from Argentina and here they about anorexia as some sort of trend like I didn't have multiple faintings and a heart attack 2 years ago. I'm 26 and apparently I'm too old to have it

Super late to the party, but another option for getting away from the phone at night is getting a mp3/4 player like an old iPod that has preloaded comfort media and no internet can help wean off the phone and social media stuff.

Hi Kati disorder will a diagnosis be made if the client sleeps the normal 8-9 hours an wake up but still feel tired and take a nap later in the day

What if I sabotage my sleep schedule because I just don't want to sleep. I have to take some meds to help me sleep but sometimes I just don't take them and stay awake on purpose. It just makes me feel really "high" the day after. Idk why it happens and I know it is very unhealthy but it just makes me feel really good.

So we can have the tools to fix our childlike self... but what tools can we get for those who came out of trauma with seriousness? Is it the same... just getting in tune with the person in me who was traumatized?

Im very open except for my mom . Even if I try, it hurts me because its like she doesn't even care. I have a pretty involved case of cerebral palsy and dyspraxia ( Similar to autism) whenever I tell her something traumatic she's like ohh ok

Katie, I have been diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood abuse, trauma, and sexual abuse from a childhood peer. Both of my parents are alcoholics, I have so many traumas, my father acknowledges everything that happened to me after all of these years (I’m 25 now with 3 kids of my own and a very supportive husband). My mother constantly harasses family and myself through texts/phone calls mocking my traumas and denying them. She is demanding to speak to my Doctor. My doctor and I both feel it’s inappropriate. I guess my question is do you think it would be healthy or ok to allow a zoom or phone call between my doctor to make her accept my traumas? I’m so sick of hearing that all of my traumas never happened and I’m the crazy one. My mother had me forced on 16 medications that zonked me out (I was too drugged up to discuss my traumas) and I was medically abused. She always controlled my medical care and now she has no power over it since I’m an adult. Do you think a three way discussion with my doctor and abusive adoptive mother would better help me heal? Or do you think she will always deny my traumas no matter what? I know my doctor has my back, she is amazing, and she would have my back 100%. She knows everything.

In response to reparenting: check out the book self compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff. It's similar to how you've described self-reparenting, but i think it's better. My therapist had me read it, it was super helpful.

Oh I feel worthless so glad this popped up .

Grrr got a new tablet and the community tab isn't available, I want to know about alexithymia ? Could you do I video on it

What does it mean when a therapist has canceled on you 2 weeks in a row? When he canceled it was the same time and day . Is it me did I do something wrong?

It's Tiger Mother

I want to say I love your channel and have been following you since the beginning! Please take this as constructive and not hateful, but I’d be careful about the words “preference” and “choice” when addressing lgbt issues. I can’t speak for the entire community, but I personally try to emphasize that we are all oriented on the spectrum and have an orientation, rather than preference, which in turn can sort of imply choice, which may lead others to believe that gay people have a choice not to be gay. I totally know how LGBT positive you are and cannot thank you enough for all that you do and say to support us! Also, there’s totally an element of choice at times. For instance, I am technically bi, but I identify as gay bc it feels more fitting for me and I am almost exclusively attracted to other women. So, in a sense, I choose to be with women even though I *might* find the rare man I could tolerate (no offense to men). But, it can just be a quick jump for people whose intention is to invalidate LGBT individuals. I hope any of that made sense!

@Racky8790

4 жыл бұрын

Also wanted to add that it is good to use “orientation” instead of preference and phrases like “you get to *decide* how to live your authentic life/sexuality/orientation/relationship etc.” to be very validating in place of conversations about choice. Like I said, I super hope this comes across as constructive, since I adore the channel as a whole and am super grateful for all of the info and love that you’ve put out over the years!

Please explain what an ACE Score is. I know what it is and I have an ACE score of 7. But maybe others don't know what an ACE score is.

Listening (on my phone) to Kati lecture me about sleep hygiene at 1:30am…oop.

Kati, my name is Catmando and I sometimes feel like a motherless child !

How does one enter a questing for Katie

@jevoblue1639

4 жыл бұрын

Go to the Community tab on the Opionsthatdontmatter Account. On Mondays or Tuesdays she is going to ask for questions and you can ask yours there and maybe next time she's answering your question.

Please read “The Body Keeps Score” as part of your trauma research.

@davidpugh1068

4 жыл бұрын

she has, check her otdm from last week

I am Christine and I am 53 . I know depression is "normal" as you get older . But I seem to be depressed more then *normal* I feel left out in my relationships which is more then likely my fault . I isolate and avoid calls and groups of people . I just want to be left alone . My *boyfriend who is the *love * of my life ..I put a lot and too much on the in my heart and mind ..which is not as real as it's supposed to be .he cheats lies and steals from me .won't answer his calls. And stays out late . I really don't want him and I know I can't love someone like him . Because this isn't the way I want to feel for the rest of my life. . so i just threw him out .I depressed all the time whether I act happy the time people actually SEE. Me . I hide otherwise . Why can't I get up accomplish shit I need to do and go through the day and feel like this is where I BELONG . IN life and time (era). I don't cry because it's a sign of Loosing my foundation or footing . I hold it back so it feels like pressure in my throat and my body's core . I have started (at 53) to want to self harm .I hitt myself to teach myself to STOP ASKING for help and bite my tongue to stop opening my mouth to ask for help ..because I know if I ask it won't be heard. Sorry about burdening you I know I should have better control of my mind actions and abilities to do things on my own . But I am at the point I just want to go away and die somewhere without anyone so I don't expect anything like honesty or inclusion . I really don't want to have someone around me all the time because I can't deal with someone else's bullshit . I'm feeling like I under water and I see out of the water but I can't breath and call out or get someone to reach in a pull me out . Does that make any sense . ? And I making any sense ? I don't know what I'm asking . I guess I am trying to find out if I'm depressed or not . Thank you ffor your time and if your reading this , thank you for your your time .

I really do wonder, am I the only one who finds bridge statements to be much more terrible to think of than negative statements? Like, I actually used to calm my anxiety with negative statements, and if I were to use bridge statements, it would all come back because it would remind me of that I just don't know, that it can be both positive or negative.

The question at 43:34 just punched me in the face, kicked me in the stomach and left me on the floor groaning in pain

I get why you want to answer the questions with the most thumbs up but at the same time know that that means my question won't get answered because it is a more niche question. Anyway question is that in a few of your videos you have suggested using visualisation. People who can't visualise because they have aphantasia or maybe for another reason what do you suggest. For me this means that when I dream, remember etc I get the equivalent to the radio version rather than the TV version. I hope this makes sense. I am sure that there are a lot more people who don't realise this as I didn't know there was a difference until I saw an article about it. Before that I was just wondering why people talked about kids using their imagination while they read ect.

My mother in law told me covid doesn't exist. I had to bite my tongue so hard to say nothing disrespectful! I'm so used to the routine of things with the pandemic that sometimes I forget about it. Then someone talks to me about it and I'm just Sh!t! I completely forgot about it.

For masks to be effective, absolutely everybody has to wear them. They are mainly designed to stop the person wearing them spreading anything.

I wouldn’t say that I have a problem crying in front of people, I’ve cried in front of my therapist, relatives, sometimes friends, the problem I have is that lately every time I feel like I’m going to have a break down I’m in the presence of the one person I don’t want to see me cry which is my narcissistic mother. She wouldn’t understand my pain no matter how I explained it. She doesn’t deserve to see that vulnerable side of me as she would try to interpret it in her skewed way of thinking but some days I can’t help when and where my emotions come to the surface.

Tiger mom, helicopter parents, and lawnmower parents. Tiger mom/helicopter parents are the overbearing parent who pushes child too hard. Lawnmower parents go out of their way to create a overly safe space for their kids. Teachers look at parenting in these terms: authoritative (Mr Rogers), authoritarian (tiger mom), permissive (parents are kids best friend), and neglectful (considered the worst case scenario in education for student success)

@wolfferoni

4 жыл бұрын

Lawnmower parents is a new one for me.

@crimsontuba1

4 жыл бұрын

@@wolfferoni the term became popular in the last few years, but the behavior has been around for longer. It's really just another form of authoritarian parenting, but instead of trying to control the kid with rules, you're controlling their surroundings.

When you say "date" do you really mean "have sex"? People seem to not know what dating is any more...

since i'm not banned here yet i'm gonna exploit it and make some translations from poetic-like language to more grounded one just for fun. 5:54 "support doesn't mean it's the right support" something good doesn't mean it's the right good. something good doesn't mean it's good (depending on pov) that guy was absolutely happy. before entering his boom-truck he said to his pals "say hi to my mother, say her not to worry because i'm going to meet Allah" or something like that. you almost feeling happy for him. that was astonishing. 7:49 "stretching our arms out and seeing what we can get away with in life before we... you know, learn how to regulate our emotions and become an adult" ...and seeing how much we can steal before pain in our arms became unbearable 15:20 "those are big tea traumas...little tea traumas" hey, all teas are teas, comparisons are bad! okay, i think that's enough drinks for me for today. have a happy day if you are in PDT, or a happy evening if you are in EDT or happy morning if you are in AEST or good night if you are in europe.