trauma dump your bullying stories below 👇

@Runnerofall

Жыл бұрын

Was bullied because I had a crush on my classmate in secondary school. But she didn't reciprocate my feelings (not her fault) but when my classmates found out. It made Monday to Friday a living hell. When I'm home I thought I could escape but the fact that social media was on the rise. I couldn't. Drove me nuts

@helpmeplz69

Жыл бұрын

Alot of people think bullying is bad it's not your just soft unless it's physical but mentally who cares what the hell the other person says if a bully says your fat you might need to lose the weight if a bully says your ugly are you really ugly? Instead of crying you should take up the challenge and be better.

@randomdey5421

Жыл бұрын

Got bullied in primary and secondary school because of my looks. Ya, I'm that “unattractive” girl in class. No physical, just mental bullying. Overheard my classmates discussing who's the ugliest in class/level, and ofc it's me. Suffered major social anxiety then, to a point that I do not dare to order food and eat on my own, I had to rely on vending machines and spend my recess in the toilet (as we can't stay in classrooms during recess for some reason). It's been 9 years since graduation and I'm still suffering from social anxiety. It’s been difficult, but I'm trying my best to overcome my fear!

@linnever

Жыл бұрын

I was bullied in secondary school for my weight, and also for being really quiet and not knowing how to fight back. Can't really change who I am at my core, but I'm working on the other two factors now!

Not by a fellow student, I was traumatised when a teacher publicly humiliated and derided me in front of a group of 50 or so students. He faced no consequences even after the school was being made aware that it happened. After my prelim exams in JC, during a maths lecture, the teachers called all students who had failed the maths prelims out of the lecture theatre. There the teachers were supposed to speak to the students about their results and help them find a way to do better (as I was told). But when it came to me, the teacher (who wasn't even teaching me) started screaming at me in front of all the other students, saying things like "YOU THINK YOU VERY SMART IS IT?", "CONTINUE TO SLEEP IN LECTURES SOME MORE LA!" (I have ADHD and it's a struggle to stay awake in classes, even then, I made up for it by self-studying and never failed maths until the prelims). At the end of his screaming, I remember I was left sobbing on my knees while he moved on to other students. The trauma resurfaced when I heard of my friend collecting her JC prelim results, all the memories came back and I found myself unable to sleep and ended the night crying into my wife's arms. I have since made a complaint to the school. The school acknowledged that the incident happened but only offered a half-assed apology but refusing to take any action on the teacher (who is still teaching at the school). So much for responsibility and accountability. It stings me that our educators are allowed to inflict such trauma on students and sweep it under the rug with excuses like "it wasn't his intention" and "it wasn't personal" (when the comments were so clearly specific to me).

@squishypillow3162

Жыл бұрын

I find that some teachers up until JC don’t really know how the working world works. P outdated.

Surprised ya'll didn't include the K-drama "The Glory" in the discussion! Part 2 - Taking revenge at bullies? 🤔

Bullying might be the most common way for a person to be "toughened/hardened" building up their resistance to pressure, distress and bad times and even what was referred to as a 'part of life' perhaps because cycle of human nature and phases of life. But it must be discouraged, it is unnecessary, there are so many other ways to help build up a person. Not everybody who goes through bullying as a 'part of life' comes out as gold forged of fire, so often you find people who succumb, suffer and crumble from such a deplorable act; if ure lucky, you might see the signs before its too late.

@dchew5552

Жыл бұрын

I suffered bullying in my secondary school days, and couldn't get out of it. in the end, the trauma left a deep scar, not only I couldn't get out of it, I couldn't even get a job as the bullying made me gave up on my n level and made me didnt even more traumatised to further my studies, went to countless job interviews. now future sounds even more scarier to me especially after my uncle passed on, and as we all aged, im very scared of losing my parents , and everyone like parents or relatives telling you they won't be there with you till the end.

@october-wl3zg

Жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes!!!!!!! Wow, want to quote you on this!!! It can 'toughened' and make people 'stronger' but it is not to only way and not at all the best way!!! But sentence I've seen, "But it must be discouraged, it is unnecessary, there are so many other ways to help build up a person." So many healthy, happy, bright children come out strong as well because they are confident to overcome the struggles and difficulties that come their way!

@zehahaha603

Жыл бұрын

@@dchew5552 the future is scary indeed even for me, but I believe that as much as there are downsides there are upsides waiting for us though they are not equal all the time. Kinda sucks that one can have a shitty week only to find comfort in a hamster chewing on some feed for a few seconds worth but it’s the unpredictable upsides that I hang on for and I hope good people continue to flood into all your lives

Bullying can affect mental health and change someone mindset

@Johnne009

Жыл бұрын

For the better

@MechaGriffin

Жыл бұрын

​@@Johnne009 debatable, where are you coming from with this, is it that sweet sweet sociopathic angle?

@abc-wd4lk

Жыл бұрын

I agree. In fact children who suffered bullying throughout their youth can turn out psychologically damaged

@testguy

Жыл бұрын

@@Johnne009 It really depends on how severe the bullying and the support provided to help the victim deal with and process the trauma. I personally did grow from the bullying I experienced, but not without trauma and difficulties created later in life. There are plenty cases where victims have debilitating trauma and need years of therapy to overcome it.

“Bullying is part of life”? And all the young kids who’ve taken their own life due to bullying? It’s “inevitable”? It’s the adults who need to take a tougher position on bullies and stop making excuses for them. Parents please help your kids stand up to their bullies. If I found out my kid or anyone’s kid got bullied in school I will go down and make sure I create a huge scene confronting the bully while making sure as many people can see it happening. I will call their parents down and the police/involve MOE. Too many times bullies get away with what they do. Too many kids suffer unnecessarily because of other poorly raised humans.

@jen5138

Жыл бұрын

Right? when he said that I was like what the shit?! Did he also not watch the k drama, "the glory" which was based off true events? 15 years later n the victim is still traumatised.. " Part of life" Tsk...When I learned someone was targeting my younger sister in primary school, I threatened to take action n call the police even. That person didn't dare do anything after. It's true victims may need help from a loved one or friend to stand up for them cos they are too fearful to take any action.

@abc-wd4lk

Жыл бұрын

@@jen5138 I’m sorry for what your sister had to go through and I’m so glad to hear that you stood up for her! I have no sympathy for bullies and I feel that soft approaches don’t work with them. Really hope your sister was able recover from that horrible experience ❤️

@sek898

Жыл бұрын

ok nxt time when yr kid step into the working world n his boss "bully" him/her rmb to do the same

6:20 Denise dancing OMG 😆 The besties should arrange to attempt a dance cover soon 😌

@TheDailyKetchupPodcast

Жыл бұрын

we are newjeans stans

its so true that bullying is still so common in the era that we live in. I remember that i was not the popz kid and have to really make my way to get into the friends community. Proving that it is worthy to join them when i am in primary school. Despite being in community with them, i was always made to do certain things that need to be kept inside. Moving to secondary school there was also outcast and was also being made to do things that others wont do. It brings this attitude up in me as i grow up and become an adult. That in all things, i tried to work so hard to get the recognition and be in that community. It was tiring but i just kept trying till one day someone told me, be yourself, don have to work so hard to gain that recognition. I change that day and today i am much better. We have to know how these bullying can shape ones life and thinking. If all we say is build a better place for people and to embrace others the way they are, then i guess we have to stop these bullying and boycotting.

I was badly traumatised by classmates who were the bullies, which happened nine years ago. till this date, everything happened that year was extremely detailed clear to me and on repeat flashed in my mind and in my nightmares. I was secondary four back then, I was seventeen because I retained when I was primary 6 as back then I fell ill that year. back then obviously since it was secondary four, its n level year, I was pretty stressed as I feared that I couldn't pass. I started having sleeping difficulty, I would wake up middle of the night and chug one litre of water, which causes weight gain and water retained, swelling around the body and the face. cant remember which month was it, one of my classmates suddenly yelled across the classroom yelling my name and that I'm fat. I felt so embarrassed disgraced, very humiliated as I never experienced it before, slowly it became daily bullying, whenever they saw me they would say im fat, I would just ignore it as teachers would just tell me they're very childish and in-matured, it got worse as they would steal my stationery, textbook and homework. back then I was in financial scheme, textbooks were complimentary, but they stoled it, it causes some financial issues to my parents, had no choice had to purchase it as got scolded by teacher, back then I was an introvert, I dont dare to reason it out to my teacher. so I just repurchase it but barely a week it got stolen again, so I raised to my teacher and found the culprit who didnt even bother to hide my name on the textbook. slowly more constant bullying as I felt it was their revenge. and everyday I went home, whenever im packing my bag for the next day, I would find trash in my back, the most ridiculous one was they spilled sweet drinks into my bag and all my textbook were soiled and discoloured, and I remembered I went to school sleep deprived while working on n level ebs, which we had to work on it few months before the other n level examination, and I screwed up on the first part as I didnt save the Microsoft word document into the thumb drive given and only saved it in my login account, when we return for the same subject, I thought we were carrying on with where we left, so I continued with the word document and during the end of the lesson, suddenly the teacher walked pass and saw I didnt save it in the thumbdrive, yelled at me, demanded me to delete the document knowing that I didnt save it in the thumb drive, I was so traumatised, and back then I was struggling with time and I was falling out behind everyone, slower than everyone, I even resort to going to psychiatric assessment just for the letter to extend the exam time for me. since then I didnt return to school, as I was badly traumatised with too many things happening back then. the only once I stepped into the school was to take n level exam for English as I used to get first in the class. which was the confidence I would pass, the only confidence I ever had back then. but I failed. I didnt even collect my n level result, they only passed the result slip to my mom and didnt notify that the certificate would be given few months later, which only few years ago during my job interview, I didnt have the certificate, which I ended up emailing the SEAB to get the cert mailed to me at a cost. both me and mom were surprised as nobody notified us. probably because back then I was too depressed. I went to multiple job interviews, all told me to not bother looking for a job as nobody would hire me, without telling me the reason, I slowly gave up on looking for a job as was never ending disappointment and humiliation, I still remember going to an interview and all the interviewer was humiliating me and laughing nonstop at me, in my face. I stopped bother to even apply job as all the replies were exactly the same, "we will get back to you" and never did. my family kept asking me why im not getting a job, I cant even bother explaining to them as I told them before, but they kept asking why. so my dad's friend introduced a admin job in nearby neighbourhood, I remembered the first day at work, it felt pretty long as I had to endure colleague laughing and insulting me during their convo, when im just less than 20cm beside them. one of them during the first few hours on my first day of job said "none of the interns last for more than a day" at the beginning I didnt understand what was she referring to. i couldn't understand the job, and the job were very demanding especially in terms of speed to response to the live job to be send out. as the job scope, entire Singapore lamps lights out rely on you to send out work to get it change. I quit on the second day as I realised my job wasn't just that, I would be an operator + admin + clerk + front desk operator + security guard, cause everyone entering the office including the three boss, have to unlock the door for them, which was triggering disturbing as when I was taught for the first day, every few minute was interrupted, and on the second day all the jobs were hand over to me. I panicked and return the contract as they printed my name wrongly. I realised it was never ending trauma. I always dream of having the simplest office job but it seems like they dont exist, everywhere was high demanding, work load wast that simple. I get brain fog when the person explaining the work load, halfway through my brain doesnt pick. before this job offer, both my dad and sis thought I was simply lazy, only my mom understands me. my mom told me her job experience which was very horrifying as she was sacked off because she was pregnant with me. which probably the reason why I somehow not fated to have a job, and makes me wish I was like her, got married, pregnant with second child, forced to quit as the boss made a whole sequence for my mom to fall into, inorder to have her resign on own accord, but my mom insist not, and complained to the manpower as her boss didnt give maternity leave too, so ended up manpower demanded her boss to do so, which her boss became extremely petty, demand her to resign instead. since then she became housewife and took care of me since birth and my sis. ever since I entered adulthood I realised, being a housewife was the most disrespected and unappreciated by family. I really hope nobody gets so traumatised by bullying like I do, back then my stress level capability was only 20% compared to majority of the humans, as explained by my doctor as the trauma gave me thyroid instead, since then ive to take daily medication apart for thyroid also to get regular menses as my hormones were very low, usually majority thyroid hormones level were 0.45 to 4.5 but mine were only 0.1, I get daily headache and always very dizzy, which would be dangerous if I go out alone, so I pretty much cope myself at home, but my parents hope I get a job to take care of myself, as they dont have savings, as likelihood was the current flats we lived in cant be passed down to me, unlike the previous generation could, they were extremely worried, as not only them, even I have a strong feeling that my sis would be the one I could rely on, as mom tried asking since her incomes was so high, her response was disappointing to my parents. my aunt would give me monthly allowance, but I felt the end would be near as her job was so difficult she planned to retire once she reach the age, as her colleague especially those around my age, entered into her workplace, kept changing all the rules. kept giving new ideas which changes everyone's work style, which was very demanding for those in the senior post, it became hard for them to continue working. one lesson I learned from her was, it might make work a lot easier for you, but not everyone, many have to suffer instead.

@VivianHoGrey13

Жыл бұрын

I know this doesn't mean much to your life, but I hope everything will eventually work out for you. Don't lose hope.

@felixisaac

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about the traumatic experience you went through with your classmates in secondary school. It sounds like it had a significant impact on your mental health and wellbeing, and it's understandable that you still have vivid memories of what happened. It takes a lot of courage to share such a personal experience, and I want to commend you for being open about it. It's important to acknowledge the lasting effects that bullying can have on a person, and it's unfortunate that your teachers didn't take stronger action to stop the behavior. If you're still struggling with the aftermath of the bullying, it might be helpful to seek support from a friend who can help you work through your emotions. It sounds like you've had a difficult time finding a position that feels comfortable and manageable for you. I hope it gets better for you soon :)

sorry man. i completely disagree with jon paul. Bullying is NOT okay and it should NOT be taken as a part of life. Those who get bullied are often scarred for life.

@tanchormay6447

Жыл бұрын

People who say that are usually the bullies 😂

@andyhoo5358

Жыл бұрын

Well, its wrong to bully but its impossible to prevent it also. If you are bullied, fight back.

Bullying is NOT OKAY!

I'm proud of my armpit hair. My best attribute though is my nostril hair that extends halfway to my upper lip.

Tension in the air.

i was good in sports so i was never bullied in school. but there are few that i will not confront even if they were mean

nah, i don't think everyone has the mental capacity to grow from it. back in JC we had this classmate who everyone bullies physically and psychologically. there were the usual perpetrators but the rest of us didn't do anything to stop them either. moving forward 2 years later when i was in NS. i was the MP spec for the camp's guard room and one day I saw him booking in to the camp that i was stationed. I was happy to see a familiar face so i went up to him to say hi. my man didn't even acknowledge my existence, he just looked straight, refused to make eye contact when i was just right beside him talking. That's when i realised how much he was scarred by us back then. so my point is, even if you don't participate in the bullying, if you're not doing anything to stop it, it's as good as doing the act itself.

12:53 What?! Liked a girl in primary 1? Make a move?! That's the first time I hear anyone saying that

omg invite Glenn Yong pleaseee

Lmao, was bullied or teased back in K2 by 3 girls for being wayyy taller than anyone else in the cohort. Didn't really feel stressed or too angry about it, after a while I learnt to insult them back so I guess that's where I started to learn about standing my ground and speaking up. Proud to have won those 3v1 verbal assaults tho, at such a young age :))

The Glory 👀

Bullying is never okay. Take it as part of life? You're a bully. LOL.

Any form of bullying were bad as it will cause trauma to mental health

what happened to the other jonathan? i dont see him much anymo

Okay... I feel really really old even though I am not.. Honestly, I am so lost

Algoooooooooooooooooo

If i look like a Bull , do i look Bully ?

Everyone participates in exploitation and bullying.

Have more of Charlene in front of the camera please! 😄

Me. I girl bully boy 😛

Eh since dee kosh is back,I wanna hear your thoughts on dee kosh making a comeback on social media, and I know you guys have another video that y’all did with Dee kosh before he went to jail so I’m hoping to see that video too! Also I love JP and Dan interaction, their such a underrated duo bro

Taking Hailey out of the equation, Selena n Justin were just toxic for each other n would not have lasted till marriage anyways. Even if they did get married, would have divorced soon after. DK why there are still ppl supporting #jelena when it was just toxic. Wish them well with their new partners instead.

Being a bully, will get karma. Bullying acts have extreme impacts on victims. It’s not funny or pranks or jokes. Did your parents teach you to bully??

Flawless armpit hahahahahaha

selena has done questionable things also

As much as i hate bullies, it is the best way kids learn how to adapt. Either they learn to stay away from trouble or outwit them Bully WILL happen especially after secondary school or polytechnic. People will ALWAYS exploit others to gain the advantage. That is just the cold hard truth. If you dare to challenge this, then you ask yourself, what do you need to do to get a promotion in your career? Youll learn to know how to make use of talents around you and that itself, is the most surface level of exploitation or in this modern era, Collaboration If kids dont learn the definition of, to be bully or bullied, then im sorry, this kid will learn the hard way why they are always losing to other people too late in their lives Ive been bullied and become the bully during secondary sch. This is a dog-eat-dog world. Everyone is looking for dominance for survival

it's time to normalise girls having armpit hair

@sek898

Жыл бұрын

disgusting