It is interesting that both you and Brandon have reached the point at the same time where you are both done with the mess and can see it for what it is rather than develop an attachment to it. Pepper is just adorable!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe!!! You are so right!! Thank you for pointing that out to me, it made my heart so happy ♥️😻

Also loving is your discipline and ability to keep your "Inner Hoarder" silent as your son grew right in front of you!🫂 A hug for you!

Great job Mama. Stopping yourself from sharing your anxiety and fears with your child is such a big step!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you so much for saying that, it really means the world to me ❤️🙏🏻❤️🦄💜🌟

@Connie-ts1dv

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. They outgrow their childhood things. I tried to teach my children that every item they own needs to be assigned a home where they keep it. And it all must fit in designated area. Put things back in their home. New items need to be assigned a home.

I absolutely totally understand those dual feelings with our kids letting go easier than we do. And going back into the trash can!! But it does feel fabulous to see our kids have the freedom from objects. They are moving forward with their lives in front of them full force. 💘

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Oh I just love what you wrote!! You are absolutely right my dearest friend 💜🦄🌟

What a great job that Brandon did. Proud of him.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe!!! Thank you so so much 🥲🙏🏻♥️😻

My mom is a closet hoarder (she's in denial cause her stuff is "organized", but she has an entire room crammed full of stuff like you can't even get in there it's so full). When I was growing up my mom would complain about my room being messy and tell me I needed to go through my things. So I would. I'd get rid of a lot of stuff, AND SHE'D KEEP IT. I find the things I had gotten rid of months before just squirrelled away somewhere else in the house. Sometimes she still shows me clothes she "got at a yardsale" and I have to remind her that I actually decluttered those items months prior.

Boy, are you right! A therapist once remarked that hoarding disorder reminds her of a big, dark house. She says she attempts to help her clients 'turn the lights on' so they can look into the corners, the closets, under the beds, etc. for the background of hurt and loss and dysfunction which underlies the need to compulsively save. Didn't you say something like this? So true. I bet you are helping a lot of folks who may never come to your attention but will do better because you are sharing with such candor and accuracy. God bless you, sincerely!

Love that he has an idea of what he wants. I like to keep extra bags inside the can, so that you can replace without an extra trip into the room.

@goldfishsnake

2 жыл бұрын

great tip!! put like 5 bags in there in the bottom at a time :D

@pollydowdlepolly

2 жыл бұрын

This is a brilliant idea?! I can't believe I have never heard of this.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness, yesssss!! That’s a wonderful idea!! I’m going to do that with all our trash cans 🌟🌟

@eSusan12

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahoardersheart #gamechanger

That was pretty cool that Brandon even took the time to give us a lesson on fake Pokémon cards. I had no idea.

Sometimes we need some emotional support to start something. Thank you for being your children's support.

My mom totally did the trash can thing. When I was 18, she had me grab a box out of the attic and open it. It was all those childhood toys I had tossed lol. We had a good laugh but then I made sure that they were truly trashed after that. It's great you're aware *now* and working on it.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Oh what a great story, thank you for sharing that with us 🤩🦄💜🌟

How kind it is of your son to give Pepper his hoodie to lie on! We do things like that for our cat and I believe it shows good character for a young person (or really any age) to be nurturing to a pet.

I love the way you thought it thru when you had the thought that you would go thru the garbage and keep some of the stuff he was getting rid of. That is such a huge step in any recovery. Beautiful! Also, Pepper is a lucky baby to find her forever home with you all!!

Wow! I'm so proud of your son. And you too, for not interfering in his declutter. Great job!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much, your kind words mean everything to me 💜🦄🌟💗

I put 4 or 5 plastic shopping bags in each wastebasket. WEekly trash empty went faster and when that urge to purge hit child or me, no running around for garbage bags. As out of sorts as the room looks. I am impressed. not that bad considering how busy the family has been. Even the muddle shows how much forward movement has happened with your family.

Have you shown the boys the FLYLADY kid challenges for the day/week? It might be a fun game for them to upkeep their room 💕

I grew up with a hoarder and my house is as minimal as I can get it with three children. That was very strong of you and shows a lot of growth that you allowed him to make the decisions and fought your urge to question his choices…Good for both of you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

Great job Brandon. You did a great job. Your mom is so proud of you

my mom used to take stuff out of the trash that I chose to throw away and it INFURIATED me. you're so strong to work through those emotions! I will say though, I don't know a single thing about pokemon cards, but I think it's fine to chime in and say, hey let's donate those instead, or hey let's recycle that. I think it's OK to teach about the methods of letting go other than trash can while achieving the same goal :)

He’s amazing. Proud of him and you

I found with my children and now my grandchildren, it’s best to let them decide what to keep. Otherwise it all ends up on the floor when they try to find the “good toys” to play with. They’re much more ruthless than I am.

When Brandon was talking about how to tell if a card is fake or not, and explaining the black line, I could hear the anxiety in your voice when he was going to rip the card. Thank you for hearing him out and trusting his judgement on ripping the card. I unfortunately did not have trusting parents, they questioned everything step I took, and it really did damage to mentally long term. From my inner child, thank you for being a good mom.

Wow! He did an amazing job! I am so impressed! Way to go!

Good mom.💕⭐️💕 Such a brave loving mom.

It's so great your allowing your children to.declutter there own things and not hanging on to.everytjing

I totally understand those feelings of taking stuff out of the trash that still seems of value, I have and donated it or posted on a pay it forward page. I know it’s good others can let go easily but some stuff just drives me bonkers lol Thanks for sharing!

What a great video! You must be so proud of Brandon. 😊

Great job Brandon, now on to 101 learn how to use the washing machine 👏

Brandon will be able to have friends over now! And what a wonderful feeling to know that he did this himself! So proud of him! Well done Sir!

You cannot hear me but I am cheering you and your son on as he throws stuff away, cleans and makes decisions! Hooray! this video brought tears to my eyes as I have this background but with trauma/abuse and it is uplifting to see what can happen for good in these situations. Proud of you and, although my approval is not necessary, I am so gratified to see parental love in action. For that is what it is. You are giving him a chance to live well now and in the future.💖

Awesome video. I found that the more I decluttered the more I wanted to let more stuff go. It’s great your son has decided how he wants his room to look. Way to go!!!

When you're struggling with wanting to hoard stuff that your son has already trashed, would it help if you channeled that energy into a warm hug? To keep your anxiety calm. A nice hug, sleep his hair, close your eyes and take a mental picture of the moment. I'm not sure, but I'm proud of you for noticing and growing

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, yes that’s a wonderful idea 💜🦄🌟🙏🏻 That’s a way better way to calm the anxiety down instead of taking the stuff out of the trash!!

@siameseire

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahoardersheart What a fabulous idea!!! : )

Go, little man, go! He did awesome! And so did his mama!

He is on fire! What a great job and he was so fast!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

He really was!!! I am so proud of him!! Thank you so much 🙏🏻💜🦄🌟

you heal my heart over and over. thank you and bless you.

Great job. I love Pepper. Such a beauty ❤️

Such an important skill for him to learn. Good job!!!

Children are our greatest teachers ❤️ well done Brandon!

🥰 Makes me happy to see how much you've all grown as a family. We're all always learning, always growing.

Way to go Brandon! You did a great job!

Brandon did a great job!! Loved the result so far!!

Good on you. It takes constant effort when we endeavour to change our coping mechanisms and habits; effort that needs to be maintained even when motivation has gone. It’s tough and impressive! Your kids are lucky to call you mom.

Well done Brandon! Well done Mama! 👏

Hello from Germany, Hi Miss Heart, hello pepper and Hi Brandon..... for Brandon: Very good Job, you can be so proud of you..... For Miss Heart: you make it so Well with your Kids, you can be so proud of Brandon. Be safe

This was the sweetest video. You did so good letting your son make decisions about his things. 💕

my grandfather was a hoarder, my dad is a hoarder, and i was on a track to being one until i felt like i was suffocating and finally chose to let it go about 4 years ago? and probably got rid of 60% of my stuff?? my only regret is not photographing the piles of things i let go and the spaces before and after.

@susanreynolds9947

2 жыл бұрын

ditto with my uncle, dad, brother.... my mother went along with it. after dad's passing, i have spent the last 5 yrs selling off dad's basement hoard ..... mostly antiques... wish i had taken before photos . i am consumed at the thought i'll be an extreme hoarder one day.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

I am so incredibly proud of you 🌟🌟 You changed the hoarding behaviors of your family’s history!!! The hoarding ended with you and that is my wish too!! You are amazing and such an inspiration to many 🦄💜🌟

You could separate the regular pokemon cards for donation. Even if they are not worthy for the boys, they may be something cool for another kid

@ediefolta9494

2 жыл бұрын

That would be a wonderful thing to do. Maybe kids in the domestic violence shelter with their moms would appreciate a little token of normality. And a generous gesture from your family!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right!!! We’ll do that for the next DeClutter Video 🙏🏻💜🦄🌟💗

@nicoledijkstra7168

2 жыл бұрын

I would have done that too in that case. I get the kids not wanting them but not throwing it away as someone else less fortunate could really get their joy out of it still. But then again my parents did donate almost all of our toys after I grew up unless it was broken

@joyindrelie6715

2 жыл бұрын

I actually think it's better to let him lead and let the inexpensive cards go and not second-guess his decisions. If he's throwing out things worth $20+ that's when I think it's wise to step in and suggest taking the time to donate. It's ok to throw things away and move on, he's doing great!

Gosh, I really appreciate that you share your honest thoughts with us. You are such an inspiration to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Blessings to you and your beautiful family.

Way to go!!!! Excellent job Brandon. 👍👍👍👍👍

Well done Brandon that was a great achievement. Also, totally LOVE Pepper 😍😍

I am so pleased to hear your story of being a first-degree hoarder and how you wish for your children a different way of living... My dad was a serious hoarder and it did influence me and I had significant issues from childhood into my 20s. Even now, decades later, I have to keep watch to stay away from these tendencies. So loving of you to help them now and I wish my folks had been able to do that as well. So much heartache can be avoided! Good for you!

You are a very special Mom, great job Brandon!

So proud of you! Letting him make those decisions shows how much you have healed. I do not have hoarding disorder but I too have struggled with letting my kids make those decisions at times. So I can only imagine it's even harder for you. You totally nailed this!!!

While I am all for supporting your son wanting to let go of items, I would encourage him to donate things that other people can still enjoy (like the Pokemon cards). Post them on your giving page. I am sure some child would love to have them.

@amara560

2 жыл бұрын

I fully agree. I think a lot of less fortunate kids would be so happy with them :)

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

I definitely will…this is something I usually do too, I’m always posting on my Facebook town’s Giving Page. I’ll make sure to do that with the Pokémon cards next video.

@adriennenelson759

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahoardersheart I am sure to Brandon the $0.01 cards don't mean much, but they might give another child enough cards to play the actual game with. You never know - your heart is huge, so I thought I'd suggest it.

Well done Brandon 👍👍👍! Can't wait to see yr next decluttering video 😂😂! Happy weekend to u too 🙏🙏🙏

Brandon is doing a fantastic job!!! You could suggest a daily 5 minute pickup before bed and his room would not get out of hand. After the first week he could probably do a three minute pickup each night before bed. After doing that daily he might get to the point of putting stuff away immediately. It would be up to him what strategy he prefers.

Brandon is awesome. well done. Mom did good too.

Yes, it's always a relief to declutter the kids room!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

It sure is!! Thank you so so much 🦄🌟💜

When my kids got to a certain age (double digits) they were responsible for straightening their rooms. Not deep cleaning, but putting toys and clothes away. They never liked the threat of “either you clean it or I will! “ They knew if I did it, there would be lots that disappeared either to trash or charity.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely a good rule for the kiddos 🌟🌟

Wow!!! He just powered through!! WTG 🎉🎉🎉💪💪💪

That's great !! He did great!! Can't wait to see what he does next time

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you so so much ❤️🙏🏻❤️ I’m excited to see too 😻

You are an amazing mother.

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, that means everything to me, thank you so much ☺️💜🦄🌟

Because of you I cleaned my room and now I'm trying to maintain it my new year revulsion is to maintain and it's working out ^-^

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

OH I LOVE THIS 💜🦄🌟💜🦄🌟 You are amazing and I will be cheering you on 📣❤️🌟

@mintmin2072

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahoardersheart thank you so much Mrs Heart

He did great and that bedroom floor is gorgeous!

Thank you pepper for the inspiring words!!!! Lol ❤️❤️❤️

I even wanted to keep some of the items he was tossing! Congratulations on stepping back and letting Bradon make the decisions! That had to be hard. I know that material things shouldn't be more important than other things. But, as you say, there are a lot of issues that cause hoarding. When I look back on my life, I realise that I never had a chance to become the person I would have liked to be. I'm retiring and it's too late. I will just have to make do realising that this is my life.

Wow it's already smart and shiny! I can't wait to see the next videos and the final reveal! 👍

You are an amazing MOM.

Very helpful 💜 you can tell you speak from your heart thanks much

Well done to you both 👏👍 It’s looking great so far. Pepper is adorable. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏👍💐🙏💪🦄🐈

Good job Brandon! 👏🏻🥰 And good job mama! ❤️ I know it’s hard when your kids get rid of things that you have memories of them using and loving….going through that myself too and need to let go!!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my sweet friend ❤️🙏🏻❤️ I know you will be successful as you DeClutter too!!

It is good that you let him decide and not make him feel guilty for not wanting excessive stuff. I highly recommend the channel Nourishing Minimalism....she really gets to the core of hoarding and letting go of material things.

Proud of your son for wanting to do this and doing so well. Proud of you friend for being able to let him do this.❤️

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you so so much my dearest friend 😻 How have you been? 🦓♥️🦓♥️

@minimalzebra

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahoardersheart Welcome dear friend ❤❤ I'm doing well.

I hope soon my oldest daughter Cadence will go through her room so she can get the loft bed that she wants. I have a hard time getting her motivated to keep her room clean. She's 13 years old. Good job Brandon with cleaning your room!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, I pray she gets motivated too, I bet she has great ideas to create an awesome space for herself 💜🦄🌟💗🙏🏻

@crafterdeidra

2 жыл бұрын

Yes she does

Aw brilliant job! Bless him what a good boy he is and no wonder your so proud. Looking forward to the next video. I absolutely love your videos 🥰

Good job Brandon!!!!! Love it! Man! He is a decisive one. Love that he already has this decluttering muscles growing. 💪

He did a great job and so did you 😊❤️

Yaaaaaay Brandon!!!!! It's looking so good!!!! Great job!!!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much 😻❤️🦄💜🌟

"Pepper-approved" video! I love my cat and am glad to see another family that does also! 😺

I got rid of things regularly as I would get bored and I would clean out dresser drawers and the closet. Many decades later I would think I should have kept those things...but I would get over those thoughts n a minute. Kids should enjoy their toys and as they grow older, it's time to move on to the next age appropriate toys. It's a progression and most homes don't have the space to keep everything. The stress of seeing clutter is too much for me. Your son is doing a great job of decluttering!

Loved this video. Can’t wait for the next one. You’re room is going to look amazing. X

He did a great job 👍🏻

Great job! You are such an amazing mom ✨

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much ❤️🙏🏻❤️ That means a lot to me 💜🦄🌟

You are such a good mom 💗🦄

Great job Brandon.

the regular cards were killing me a little bit just because i know theres some kid somewhere that would have been excited to have any pokemon cards. but i do know i have to come to terms that not everything in the world is going to be done how my heart wants it to

This video made me so happy 😊 thanks for sharing Ms Heart 🥰

Congratulations he did a great job hes learning from mama ❤ 🦄

Excellent job, Brandon! Great job, Mom, letting him make decisions to let things go!

Great job Brandon!

It is actually therapeutic for me to listen to all you say in the video... Thank you so much. I really needed the exposure to another side of this issue. Healing... sigh.

Such great job !!! 👌👌👌Switch his kallax shelf closer to closet. It will be easier to access from both sides and easy to mantain. 💜

It might help if you have a regular time for picking up and putting away, either daily or weekly. Then it won't be a big challenge when it happens, and it will help him develop skills that will be valuable in adult life.

I don't think I will ever understand why monster energy drinks are popular for decor.😅 I would double check that are clean before letting him do that. I don't think he would want ants! But you're such a great mom you probably already did!👍❤️

Awesome job! Your cat seems so sweet! Our family hasn't had a cat in years since ours passed. But thinking of adopting one from a shelter next year!

You are a great mom!!! 💖🦄 you and Brandon are a great team 👏

Good for Brandon letting and cleaning his room. Yeah don't pull things out of the trash at least in front of them. I remember my dad digging through donation bags and pulling things from the trash to hold onto. It's not a plesent memory

You are a great mom!

@ahoardersheart

2 жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you so so much 🙏🏻💜🦄🌟💗

Would love to buy some of that stuff on the bookshelf

whooo hooo looking good !!!!