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Fear is coming principally because of the threat of loss. You do not want to hurt or offend, because you know that given the other the capacity to hurt or offend you back. That's what makes you afraid. Ultimately, we are afraid about only 1 thing. Any person, any situation, if you find them in fear there is just one fear really, which is the fear of self-preservation. Somewhere your self-interests are linked to the normalcy of relations between you and your family members. Back of your mind, you know that if you strain your relations between you and your family member, they will bite you back. These are supposed to be sacred relations, nobody is going to visibly, obviously hurt his daughter or wife or sister. But given that we operate from the center of the ego, and the ego is always violent, and its principle interest is self-preservation, we will obviously hurt the other. Not obviously, not visibly, but in hidden ways. And you are afraid - you are afraid of suffering at the hands of those you profess to love. I'm so sure, because it is a principle. It is a principle which cannot be violated. If in relating to the other, you feel afraid, it is because the other has the capacity to hurt your interests. That's a bad situation to be. Why are you so dependent, in whatever way? It may be that you are dependent in a psychological way, or in a social way. There is some definite dependency, and that dependency is causing you fear. Do not try to think that your fear is arising from love. Even when you say that you are attached to your parents, that's why you can't speak straight to them, you are making it sound almost as if love makes you conceal the truth. Now, that's not the case. Neither love nor common variety of love called attachment is making you conceal the truth. Its the simple threat that something will be badly hit at if you speak the truth. If that is the case, as I suppose it is, you must honestly think of the nature of your relationship with your family members. Whatever name you want to give to the relationship, the soul of the relationship is revealed in situations like these. Where is love? Where is Truth? But it is not very surprising. This is the way most parent-child relationships are, this is the way most families are constructed, not on the foundation of love or truth. But merely institutions that exist for society's sake. How often do a man and a woman come together for the sake of truth? How many people really know what it means to love? And if you do not know what it means to love, how will you miraculously and selectively just love your kids. It's like saying, I'm blind, but I'm able to look at my wife and my kids! In fact, very few people are able to realize what you are realising, that fear etc. exists very commonly. But very few people look at it as something undesirable. Normally people think of it as some accompaniment of love. People will say, "But, this is part and parcel of the whole bundle called the family." You're finding it odd. That's auspicious. Let the thorn prick you fully. Go deep and figure out what the real nature of association between human beings is. You will come across a lot of ugliness and stink. But that's our lot, if we really want to get rid of the muck, we will have to first dive into the stink. Figure out your dependencies, enquire into the relationships.

आपसे प्रेम हो गया है गुरु जी।

Genius

Let the thorn prick you fully! 🙏

Absolutely true! Relationships are synonym of selfishness! Why parents want a boy? If they want a child for love, gender shouldn't matter, but they want a boy just for their own selfishness to have someone to support them when girl is gone, to gave someone they think they can depend on. I feel truly sorry for humanity!

The timing of this is surreal. Was feeling so disturbed and the fear is almost something like a life threat. A decision u took on the basis of ur truth, but so many hypocrisies to mask it in the name of logic and concern. This instilled in me faith and courage to be on my path of truth, without the bias of family and friends. Thank you🙏🏻. Will keep this in my heart. Let the thorn prick fully, don't give in until it does.

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I second that.

I am grateful to you dear sir 🌼🌈🤲🎤=🔋+💡.

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