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@xavifdz7095

4 жыл бұрын

Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it is a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

• Today I have something very important to tell you • God is justice, He is just and does not rejoice in injustice, sin is injustice and God hates. We are all sinners and the destiny of sinners is hell. • But God, with his immense love, sent his son Jesus Christ, to come into the world, to be like a human being, to die for humanity and to forgive our sins. • So that we can now have a second chance to be reconciled to God and be saved through Jesus Christ, who gave his life for us because he loves us. • Jesus loves me, Jesus loves you, Jesus loves all mankind, that's why He died on the cross for us, He is risen and can save you from eternal damnation and give you eternal salvation. Jesus will return to seek those who have accepted him in their hearts. • We can confess our sins to Him, because He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all injustice. • For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. • Jesus loves you, and Jesus wants to save you, you can be saved! Believe in Him and obey His word. God bless you! 💓

@buffy1157

2 жыл бұрын

Iam afraid to tell people I have depression because exactly what he is saying! They won’t believe they will think Iam making an excuse or playing the victim card. I think that’s why so many people are not able to get help or it makes peoples mental illness worse when they come across someone who doubts them.

@EdMcCornhole

2 жыл бұрын

It’s too hard to wake up at 5 and go to work every day, I’m moody, no energy. Tired, even when I was fit exercising in my 20s and 30s I had depression. Pills ect…just to get through a work day is too much. I could sleep all weekend!if I didn’t have my wife, family ect and some enjoyments I feel like sucking on the exhaust tailpipe . Depression has been my life since adulthood.

@deepachaudhury4336

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t feel like even getting out of bed Even when I do I don’t feel like even lifting a spoon And it’s horrible

My depression tells me that my depression is an excuse.

@IAmDasani

4 жыл бұрын

same

@MediaEnslavedNation

4 жыл бұрын

How much effort are you making? What do you need to "excuse"? For example, my husband is miserable because he's a covert narcissist so he's constantly drowning in a paranoid shame spiral. But he won't go to therapy because he's a narc and thinks he's perfect and so he can't get help so he's stuck in this cycle of misery and won't seek treatment. He claims he is depressed and that's his excuse for treating everyone like shit and not seeking treatment. Are you treating people like shit and making excuses for it but not seeking treatment while expecting to be forgiven and allowed to continue treating people like shit because you're depressed?

@user-zo9od4uk9h

4 жыл бұрын

lol

@deadislander

4 жыл бұрын

Mia Moleni I'm just gonna leave this here for your potential benefit: Calling it your depression is a terrible way to think about it. It robs you of any power you might otherwise have over it. Don't call it that. Rather find out why you are depressed. And instead of saying "my depression" it can turn into something like "my sadness because I've never been shown love and therefore don't know how to love myself let alone anyone, and I need help learning to do that". It goes from an abstract problem you have... "Your depression"... Into an actionable problem from which you may gain immense power if you solve

@bnewalways2374

4 жыл бұрын

I think everbody feels the same that horrible feeling which nobody on this earth understands.

Anyone who truly has depression would not want to fake it. Trust me on that one.

@lemonqueen1303

3 жыл бұрын

Am I the only person who wants to be depressed crying watching this video so someone would just talk to me ever....

@jabre7761

3 жыл бұрын

@@lemonqueen1303 need a hug?

@marsy6359

3 жыл бұрын

Lemon Queen wishing for something like depression can actually be a sign of a deep rooted problem. Who knows, it might really be depression! Even if its not, your struggle and loneliness is valid, diagnosis or not. You can still seek therapy or other treatment if possible. Try support groups and forums! If you are able to do therapy/treatment, there are many resources online that can help you choose a good therapist or other professional and know who to avoid. Even if youre not clinically depressed, that does not mean youre not worthy of help or support. Life itself can be stressful or traumatic. Be patient and forgiving to yourself. There are many people who care about you and might not even know you, me included. I hope youre hanging in there.

@thatsdope9571

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Why would someone want to make their life miserable? People are so ignorant

@averycason-rk2oe

2 жыл бұрын

Depressed people don’t show their emotions

Depression is so absolutely horrible that I would never, ever lie about it. When I get depressed, I want to crawl into a hole..

@blaqx_jwfhielcbua343

4 жыл бұрын

I will alws have deperssin

@katie195

4 жыл бұрын

free video library cute video - but if you have chemical imbalance nothing really works but meds - not running, walking, diet, prayer, education, cure videos, nothing. My life would have been so different if only someone had put me on meds - but children don’t suffer from depression - well think again.

@leighlong7005

4 жыл бұрын

@@katie195 I agree fully Kat. The only thing that really helped was time and the meds.

@TheHamadanners

3 жыл бұрын

Technicly your already in the hole and you just want people to stop knocking on your door

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

• Today I have something very important to tell you • God is justice, He is just and does not rejoice in injustice, sin is injustice and God hates. We are all sinners and the destiny of sinners is hell. • But God, with his immense love, sent his son Jesus Christ, to come into the world, to be like a human being, to die for humanity and to forgive our sins. • So that we can now have a second chance to be reconciled to God and be saved through Jesus Christ, who gave his life for us because he loves us. • Jesus loves me, Jesus loves you, Jesus loves all mankind, that's why He died on the cross for us, He is risen and can save you from eternal damnation and give you eternal salvation. Jesus will return to seek those who have accepted him in their hearts. • We can confess our sins to Him, because He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all injustice. • For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. • Jesus loves you, and Jesus wants to save you, you can be saved! Believe in Him and obey His word. God bless you! 💓

My depression sometimes drains me so much that it’s hard to stand up, and I’m 26 and in shape.

@ruready2343

3 жыл бұрын

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@speedcorewarrior1984

3 жыл бұрын

I have the same thing i wake up feeling angry and it drains energy.

@fergus0n94

3 жыл бұрын

@@speedcorewarrior1984 it gets better. I promise. Life is a roller coaster. Appreciate the times u feel good

@thatsdope9571

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Even speaking feels like a very heavy work

@speedcorewarrior1984

2 жыл бұрын

@@fergus0n94 how long does it take im 37 and have it since im 12.

When you're depressed, you have no enthusiasm for anything. Relationships with others, job performance, involvement in your church, any sort of obligations in life, really....take energy. You've got to put effort into these things. When you're depressed, you just simply aren't feeling it anymore. Depression quite literally can suck the life out of you.

@kayjrecords7

Жыл бұрын

You nailed it right on the head

@biggibbs4678

Жыл бұрын

Look around you there's lots of people like that. They're not all depressed

I always feel like I'm using my depression as an excuse. I feel like I'm an impostor and I can't do anything productive or focus on things and I feel like such a failure.

@HaileyKlatt

Жыл бұрын

Hugs 😢❤

@Joypeace23

Жыл бұрын

We love you and God loves you more ... ❤️

@zou8492

Жыл бұрын

suSSSYyyYyYYyYyY

@rbx511

Жыл бұрын

You probably are, add healthier things to your day, do some push ups, go on a nature walk, meditation, gym, doing is better than trying and trying is better than nothing so try something you can do

@brianawhittaker8152

Жыл бұрын

You're not a failure but I get why you feel like that bc depression can take so much from us. Try getting out and going for a walk, clean your house, write down all the things you're grateful for. There's different types of depression some of it can be situational where you would feel better if you remove yourself from a certain situation and some of it is from things we've gone through and things that really stuck with us from childhood or even as we grew up. So try not to look at yourself as a failure.

my narc sister accused me of having anxiety and depression as following a trend, and going to therapy to be cool. in my country mental health is such a taboo, why would I want to flex I feel like shit??

@magicwandm

2 жыл бұрын

Just siblings

@Alcaura

2 жыл бұрын

I am going through the same thing😣.

@businessisboomin7252

2 жыл бұрын

Lemme guess, Egypt?

@JanaOliveira19

2 жыл бұрын

@@businessisboomin7252 nah ... Portugal!

@emilys.4017

2 жыл бұрын

@@JanaOliveira19 same in the Portuguese community in the U.S. tbh

Whenever I would tell my parents I felt depressed, they would say "No, you're just lazy, you're just using it as an excuse, you just need to stop sinning and you'll feel better." To this day I feel intensely guilty whenever I feel depressed and it's so hard for me to admit it to myself or others.

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

• Today I have something very important to tell you • God is justice, He is just and does not rejoice in injustice, sin is injustice and God hates. We are all sinners and the destiny of sinners is hell. • But God, with his immense love, sent his son Jesus Christ, to come into the world, to be like a human being, to die for humanity and to forgive our sins. • So that we can now have a second chance to be reconciled to God and be saved through Jesus Christ, who gave his life for us because he loves us. • Jesus loves me, Jesus loves you, Jesus loves all mankind, that's why He died on the cross for us, He is risen and can save you from eternal damnation and give you eternal salvation. Jesus will return to seek those who have accepted him in their hearts. • We can confess our sins to Him, because He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all injustice. • For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. • Jesus loves you, and Jesus wants to save you, you can be saved! Believe in Him and obey His word. God bless you! 💓

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

@Julio Arratia ¡Jesús ha resucitado!

@duck8997

3 жыл бұрын

@Denavio Leeks Maybe not to you, But it may help someone. Only speak for yourself thanks

@RitsychServare

2 жыл бұрын

I've used the "I'm just lazy" excuse before because I didn't realise it was depression and even after I learned that I had it, I still used the whole 'I'm lazy, I can't do anything right' excuse. At that time, I'd rather not tell anyone I had depression because of the stigma. Edit: That event happened 15+ years ago and I don't use this excuse anymore as it's not helpful but rather damaging to one's condition. Just be honest and say you're going through it and you're still struggling. The truth is more liberating and depression will worsen in shame and secrecy.

@themaggattack

2 жыл бұрын

@@RitsychServare "I'm just lazy" is a harsh judgment that makes depression even worse. Be kind to yourself. Especially if others call us lazy, we don't need to join them in putting ourselves down. There is a difference between laziness and depression. Depression it not just an excuse to be lazy! It's a very real issue.

Someone who doesn't have depression have no idea how it shuts down your whole system into doing nothing besides hating your whole existence.

@swolfe9668

Жыл бұрын

Because depression is NOT REAL, pharmaceutical companies and the government have brainwashed society into believing this

@coconut9217

Жыл бұрын

@@swolfe9668 Eeww 🤮

@kayjrecords7

Жыл бұрын

Yes... if u haven't really been through depression you wouldn't understand

@dr.seytan4310

Жыл бұрын

So true

@saranyasrinivasan4170

2 ай бұрын

True

Trust me, when someones depressed, it isnt always obvious, they could be smiling and laughing most of the time. At the same time it can be always very obvious yet people ignore the signs, someone could have no motivation, has a diff sleeping pattern, sudden change in weight or overall personality and people will just assume theyre lazy

This is a very dangerous thing to say. As someone who has deal with depression and anxiety since I was 13 years young, this could make people to not take other people's depressed condition seriously. One should never take this for granted.

sometimes i think i'm using depression as an excuse and i'm just a worthless person who doesn't deserve to live

@BooDotBoo

4 жыл бұрын

That's your depression telling you that. Along with society reinforcing it, unfortunately.

@Ssookawai

4 жыл бұрын

You need a good "stop" in your life for a couple of months and think deeply about what you really want in this life. You might have a lot going on and you've been putting pressure for so long, trying to adapt to stuff that don't really matter to you, that's why you feel worthless.

@mengyg

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ssookawai this guy got it.

@cherrypop4094

3 жыл бұрын

I low key wish my parents would just kick me out

@mengyg

3 жыл бұрын

@@cherrypop4094 its the best thing that happened to me. Safety without pursuit breeds pestilence.

my family members would tell me that I was trying to get attention, my ex husband would tell my I was lazy, my best friend told me that what I was thinking wasn't what was really happening. Hearing these statements from loved ones are shocking and very harmful. I have always felt abandoned since I was a little girl and I still fill that way even at 63 years old. Depression is very hard to break out of. I think the negative thoughts are so toxic that the mind and body stays stuck. So for 1/1/2023 I wish for myself and everyone to put your feet on the ground in the morning and tell yourself that we are beautiful people and have a wonderful day every day from now on. If no one tells you that they love you, then I love you.

@sm96798

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤

@chris1806

Жыл бұрын

it's a simple thing, you either harm those around you or don't. The OCD people are so self - absorbed and egoistic that they don't realise how they harm those around them. Not fair ! So you are just trying to force me to understand them and accept their toxic behavior but you ignore the feelings of the normal poeple. Those with OCD or mental illness should be segregated from society and placed in a mental asylum/hospital, receive adequate treatment and once they recover they can be released. This what happens to criminals and that's why we have jails so that criminals can change their behavior and not harm others. Another analogy would be Covid if you wish or someone who has a virus. The infected person should isolate so that he/she doesn't infect others. Simple! It's the same with mentally ill people. They need to seek medical attention as soon as possible and do something about it rather than make excuses all the time.

My depression is valid. I feel horrible about how I've treated people who I once was very much in love with and still care about.

@Ssookawai

4 жыл бұрын

When you'll feel ready, talk back to all these peoples and just ask for forgiveness . It mightbe liberatong for you.

@felixrimada7701

3 жыл бұрын

I totally get this after so many times of apologizing or asking for forgiveness u feel the other person is just over u and makes u feel its best to stay away and wanna isolate oit of truly not wanting to hurt anyone and thats the worst when ur aware but dont know how to change that u feel forced to stay alone to yourself.

@hajime9958

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to explain this to someone oshu and my mom THEM:NEVER IN 20,000 YEARS

@biggibbs4678

Жыл бұрын

Everything is valid these days

@jborrego2406

Жыл бұрын

@@felixrimada7701ppl can take only so much abuse . It not right to expect ppl to take it cause u said sorry then u do it again an again

I struggled to keep a job because of my depression (and a suspected BPD, still working with my therapist about this issue). I feel really, really bad when I can't work and be a good, productive employee just like normal people. I don't want my employer to excuse my poor attendance, but at the same time I want them to understand that it's not because I'm lazy and I can't do the job properly (I work as an accountant). I'm actually quite confident in my skills, but it's my emotions that always overwhelm me. I understand that I can't make other people accept my condition, but at the same time I'm getting more and more helpless of finding a job I can actually keep for a long period.

@lukavuletic1110

3 жыл бұрын

My aunt told me that she will drive me to a mental hospital for them to tie me and give me sedatives.

@maninderkaur1851

3 жыл бұрын

Oh god! I feel the same, have been so afraid of disappointing people that I am not even applying for jobs anymore

@themaggattack

2 жыл бұрын

I have SO much anxiety that I feel nauseous with a headache. I have so much depression and exhaustion from the anxiety that I sleep most of the time. I also have ADHD and cPTSD. My counselor keeps telling me it's just learned helplessness, that I CAN accomplish my goals and tasks. I want to believe that... But I'm so afraid I can't. I'm afraid that I'll end up homeless and I will lose my daughter. I feel like I need more help than just "you can do it."

@theanalyticalrevolutionary3415

2 жыл бұрын

This comment hits home💯. Really questioning my existence lately as I think I've done what I've meant to do in this world. I've helped friends, family and saved marriages but I've never really done the mental health work on myself. In school and working but at times it's hard for me to stay positive as death doesn't seem that bad to me.

@ename588

2 жыл бұрын

@@lukavuletic1110 hey, are you okay?

I am depressed for a while and a psychiatrist told me I wasn't depressed, I have to be more active and I am lazy...I screw my life, my studies, my relationship for fun? It didn't helped me. My ex was telling me I was a burden and he can't love me if I don't improve. I did wanted to die. To stop the pain. I survived but will never let someone tell me that again. I choose me.

@pbufh

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry but if a psychiatrist going to tell you that you're not depressed than you're not depressed.

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

• Today I have something very important to tell you • God is justice, He is just and does not rejoice in injustice, sin is injustice and God hates. We are all sinners and the destiny of sinners is hell. • But God, with his immense love, sent his son Jesus Christ, to come into the world, to be like a human being, to die for humanity and to forgive our sins. • So that we can now have a second chance to be reconciled to God and be saved through Jesus Christ, who gave his life for us because he loves us. • Jesus loves me, Jesus loves you, Jesus loves all mankind, that's why He died on the cross for us, He is risen and can save you from eternal damnation and give you eternal salvation. Jesus will return to seek those who have accepted him in their hearts. • We can confess our sins to Him, because He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all injustice. • For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. • Jesus loves you, and Jesus wants to save you, you can be saved! Believe in Him and obey His word. God bless you! 💓

@mmkw5621

3 жыл бұрын

@@jesusteama8798 i lost my faith a couple years ago because of al these scientists. Somehow i got into a depression and i try to believe again but it is hard. I feel like free will and self control doesn’t exist 🙁

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

@@mmkw5621 Since you lost your Faith, God has not lost his love for you. Do not waste time brother, in this world everything passes, God does not pass, He is eternal. Return to the Father's arms! Pray to God, go into your room and close the door, and ask Him to increase your faith. If I have a certainty, then this is it: God EXISTS!

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

@@mmkw5621 I'll be praying for you, get closer to God, and see that God exists!

Depression is real. Only if u have not experienced it, you will criticize it

@hajime9958

2 жыл бұрын

My mom and oshu bullshit

@hippytrippy1254

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@hajime9958

2 жыл бұрын

@@hippytrippy1254 rude

@charles5895

2 жыл бұрын

Why do you think depression is so talked about? I think it’s overrated. These days I swear, everyone says they have depression. I sometimes feel like that too, when you feel like life is meaningless and you lose motivation, but it always gets better for me, it always has. But it’s just a normal phase every human goes through. The problem here is our generations ability to MAN UP and take it is being degraded and replaced with a pussy mentality.

@hajime9958

2 жыл бұрын

@@charles5895 because you never experienced what mental illness can do with your health You think it's nothing like meanless Then you wouldn't see how many people who's ended their own life dealing with mental illness stressed to the point of taking their life and thinking that no one cares about them calling us cowards and unless you experience with mental illness Yeah we do crappy stuff and blame it on my mental health but some people realize that mentally it's just hard to show it physically hard for us to show that we care So I will advise you to stfu Now and never speak again unless you have mental health

After years of not talking to a professional about being depressed, our adult daughter finally agreed to see a psychiatrist. She told the clinician twice that she was depressed and each time the doctor responded with, "You don't seem depressed." How can this still happen in 2020?? I'm am upset beyond compare for my daughter, who took years to finally agree to see someone about her anxiety and depression. My daughter is now questioning whether or not she really was experiencing depression (I can say, without a doubt, she has been). Clinicians like this should be removed from practice.

@JonP1245

3 жыл бұрын

i hope your daughter gets the help she needs

@cipactlicoatl3464

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. I had depression and I didn't knew the first time, I was diagnosed by a psychiatrist. That was a few years ago but recently I knew that I was depressed again. I felt the exact way I I knew what was going on but my parents didn't care. I feel the same way right know and I just can't tell them.

@brennam954

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I hope you all reported him to the board and that your daughter saught a second opinion elsewhere.

@rosie7640

3 жыл бұрын

i wish my mom was like you

@catbee1452

3 жыл бұрын

@@cipactlicoatl3464 I'm sorry you are not receiving support from your parents during a time when you truly need their support:( Maybe your parents are in denial about your depression. Still though, its difficult going through depression without full support from your family. Are you able to seek and get help from a qualified professional without your parents? If not, please contact NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness) and ask how you can get the help you need asap.

I love this lady - so real, down to earth and not afraid to say it like it is!

@deadislander

4 жыл бұрын

Dr Ramani (Diet)

@changmumu1900

4 жыл бұрын

Can't understand

@brennam954

3 жыл бұрын

@@deadislander This is not Dr. Ramani...this is Dr. Varma. It's in the description too.

@jesusteama8798

3 жыл бұрын

• Today I have something very important to tell you • God is justice, He is just and does not rejoice in injustice, sin is injustice and God hates. We are all sinners and the destiny of sinners is hell. • But God, with his immense love, sent his son Jesus Christ, to come into the world, to be like a human being, to die for humanity and to forgive our sins. • So that we can now have a second chance to be reconciled to God and be saved through Jesus Christ, who gave his life for us because he loves us. • Jesus loves me, Jesus loves you, Jesus loves all mankind, that's why He died on the cross for us, He is risen and can save you from eternal damnation and give you eternal salvation. Jesus will return to seek those who have accepted him in their hearts. • We can confess our sins to Him, because He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all injustice. • For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. • Jesus loves you, and Jesus wants to save you, you can be saved! Believe in Him and obey His word. God bless you! 💓

@mynutsinhd1857

3 жыл бұрын

cry babys you need to be less of a cry baby and stop being a cry baby you need to not be a cry baby stop crying. LOLLOLLOLOLOL🤣......................................................................... and amen. praise the lord.

Let me tell you, having depression is not soemthing you want to have or fake. It’s soul draining and I really don’t wish it on anyone

Depression makes you feel like if you tell someone you’re depressed, they’re not gonna believe you and they’ll even call you a liar or an attention seeker.

@Cookieloafres

9 ай бұрын

Im kinda of experiencing this rn, they think I'm lying and that I just don't "apply myself" even without a phone or social media still gonna act the same. Or I'm called "lazy", they keep what I have isn't "depression" but depression isn't the same for everybody. Why do they don't "apply their self", "just act normal" it's not that simple.

@peterbaillif4607

9 ай бұрын

@@Cookieloafres I’m sorry that you’re going through this, my best advice would be to get a formal diagnosis(if you haven’t already), as there are some very clear markers for clinically diagnosable depression. I think that alone would help whoever it is that doesn’t understand able to get that it’s a serious, real thing in your life. This can also help your support system try giving you more grace, and that now is a time to just help and not offer “advice”

@pappico

9 ай бұрын

It's true in some cases, where attention-seekers actually have depression. Still, they sometimes tend to use their depression as an excuse as to why they have bad traits when there are people with depression who aren't a-holes.

@naimaderilus3524

7 ай бұрын

TRUE!!!! I'm going through alot and I'm sick of people denying that I don't feel good. Guarantee that if I was in a hospital or dead,they will have a sudden sympathy and said that they should had checked on me. Smh.

I would never use depression as an excuse. I didn't want to admit that depression had become all-consuming in my life, and tried to tell myself I wasn't depressed, but I couldn't even pretend I wasn't depressed lol.

This is a valid thought ever since everyone started using "depressed" for "feeling at bit sad". And as someone who is clinically depressed - I'd give anything to "just" feel a bit sad every now and then.

@Liam0408

2 жыл бұрын

Me too 😔

I'm so mentally tired and drained 😢I'm 24. It feels like I've been depressed forever. I definitely needed to watch this. I'm glad i did.

I used to be depressed as a child, teen, and in my 20's, suicidal ideation.. the whole 9 yards.. this series is an eye opener. There is a lot of depth here.. thank you both of you for sharing these moments. I feel like there is something I can lay down as far as trying to "fix" it for other period.. and just meet them where they are when they have this experience. The downward spirals.. I was told to imagine a stop sign when that happens. I cried for months when I was in the hospital in psychosis and depressed.. I don't think anything would have gotten me out of that state besides a medication.. now I remember how much I said "no!" when someone tried to fix me. I just wanted to cry and cry

This is the first guest after dr.Ramani that I fell in love with from the first minute into the interview

@deadislander

4 жыл бұрын

She's the diet Dr Ramani

Someone here in the comments had a really bad experience with someone who appeared to be dealing with depression due to sexual abuse, etc and said after his/her experience, "If you're looking for something real, don't look for it in someone with a mental disorder." I have PTSD due to childhood physical and sexual abuse. I just wanted to say I feel for people who have to deal with those of us who have to suffer through such atrocious life experiences. I feel so much for the people who love me or want to. Regarding my trauma, I don't confide in anyone (outside trusted confidants or a professional) how I feel about any of it or even about the petty distresses of life because I take responsibility for my own suffering and will leave it up to no one else to ease or address it. The majority of people cannot handle the small pains in life, shut themselves off to it becoming mainly apathetic, so how do I expect anyone to deal with what I have if they refuse to deal with their own probs? Anywho, my husband of 12 years loves me and we have one of the healthiest relationships I know of especially opposed to "the normal seeming relationships" where no one has any "mental disorders". So for those of you suffering, it is possible to have a healthy functioning relationship! As a matter of fact, all my applied psychoeducation has made me vivdly aware of how to express my thoughts and emotions, whereas my "normal-non-mental-disorder-husband" just yelled at me this morning using the f-word and didn't even acknowledge hurting me without a sincere apology. (sigh, it makes you question)! I know my trauma is a lot to deal with which I learned through trial and error so that is why I am pretty private about it. I can handle that part of myself and I work to integrate that part of me into the rest of me to become a complete person. The truth is, we are all suffering from something, cause there are a lot of aspects to life that are not easy to swallow. You have to have the conscious will to wake up everyday aware of the complexities inside you and around you (some more than others), and DESIRE to want to collaborate with the resources you have to survive and thrive in this thing we call life. This conscious responsibility does not just pertain to people with "mental disorders", its for all human beings because SUFFERING/DISSATISFACTION is UNIVERSAL and the act of the conscious will in the face of this suffering moves like a force that pushes back unwilling to surrender its equal and much needed presence within the universe. Please now note that I am truly suffering from the things I claim, I have done a shitload of work on myself and will continue to do so, thanks to my own will and the help of an occasional therapist, my loving partner of 12 years who tries his best that I additionally never make suffer due to my own issues, through bibliotherapy, through psychoeducation (like #medcircle) and my own customized spiritual practice, have I gotten to where I am. I am not done, I am not ashamed, I deserve love, so do you "non-mental disorder having people" lol We all deserve love and support. We all need to admit that we are affected by life and not deny that life affects us therefore not deny any part of ourselves and work consciously to FULLY INTEGRATE all parts of us to become whole people, only then can we get closer to self actualizing, only then can we begin to understand what and why we are here. -Love and compassion from a fellow sufferer.

Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression , I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here

@hunterjonathan9259

Жыл бұрын

Psychedelics are the reason why i didn't take my life when i was at my end . I was stripped of my ego and saw the beauty of life and interconnectivity and even though i still battle anxiety and depression , I'm doing better everyday and will never think in such a self destructive way again .

@vincentgiovanni1963

Жыл бұрын

LSD and mushrooms completely changed my whole outlook on life . I became a better version of myself This experience gave me a lot of confidence about my self and my body . A bunch of bad thought / behavior patterns were broken . One of these was pretty bad OCD that made me wash my hands a lot . It gave me a lot of hope that things will be fine , this is the one thing that I heard throughout the trip : Everything is alright . The main reason for the trip was my severe depression and it definitely helped me ( although it's not gone ) . Before all I could do was lay in bed . Now I am trying to rebuild my life one step at a time which wasn't possible before . "

@denizkok6711

Жыл бұрын

I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety and depression because of university. dr.jeromespores is life saver. Thank you

@kutevince7347

Жыл бұрын

Loved this . I battle from depression , anxiety & C - PTSD , I've heard shrooms cured depression . Wish doctors were more open to natural medicines over big pharma but we know why

@gaeliqbal3952

Жыл бұрын

@@denizkok6711 Where to search?? Is it lG??

Not an excuse but a reason. I have severe depression and until you have dealt with that monster you have no clue how it affects you.

I had seriously bad deep depression during my teens and early twenties that was detrimentally affecting my physical health. My narc father and narc brother both independently accused me of using my depression as an excuse to not do all the chores I was assigned to do. I already was doing most of the chores in my family because my self-absorbed siblings didn’t want to do them. The very thought my brother had to suddenly do any more chores to help me out was so repugnant to him. He was always throwing fits whenever I desperately asked him for any help, telling me how burdensome I was being. My sadistic narc sister would throw even more assignments on me. I was bed-ridden but my sister would ring the doorbell nonstop until I dragged myself out of bed to unlock the front door. She had her keys but said she didn’t want to dig around her purse. When I told her to stop doing that to me, her catty excuse was that I should be answering the door anyway when people got home as it was good manners. She would also physically drag me out of bed early in the morning, demanding I drive her to the train station because she was running late. The reason she was running late always was she was out late partying all night and snuck back into the house when everyone was asleep. My dismissive parents were of no help, telling me I should always help my brother and sister because they were the only brother and sister I had. They didn’t tell my siblings they should help me even though I was sick. My siblings would always give our parents attitude and my parents knew my siblings weren’t going to help me anyway. I’m usually a very open and honest person per my nature. But whenever I opened up to people outside my family that I was struggling with depression, often I was accused of being self-pitying and sometimes even pathetic. Because of those experiences, I’ve been very coy and resistant to say I had depression and how it consumed much of my personal time. Even my psychiatrist was a dismissive jerk who would often fall asleep during our sessions. The only ones who didn’t judge me were other people who were struggling with depression.

@mweusimrembo890

4 жыл бұрын

Am sorry you went through that.

@noone6796

3 жыл бұрын

So horrible for depression patient , in my case my mother is very supportive while my sister and father often judge me. There are always some egoistic individuals who think they know everything, these individuals will never believe you until they felt or understand it themselve. I got into depression in 2015 starting when I was 19.5 year old , now I am 25, I lost my most important days of my life in depression, I don't know what is career going to be. Life feels like curse but one day I will defeat it for sure, I have defeated most of it and will surely defeat it fully in near future

@Unhinged00

Жыл бұрын

Hi how are you now? I used to be in your position but the moment i get out of that house feels like heavy weight suddenly lifted. I don't mind working hard if i get a place for myself that is peaceful and i can declare mine. Hope you can get better

@Wisdom-zv6zq

Жыл бұрын

Your a narc aslo

I’m so glad this woman understands depression. I felt like the man wanted her to be like “yeah, some people do lie and they’re not really depressed” To anyone else that has depression, you are not making excuses and your feelings are valid.

@LetterheadStudios

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely. It's like he was setting up a bait without realizing that what he's illustrating is actually more connected with mental health than he thought. Cause even if you're just "saying" you're depressed, a therapist is going to identify that there is a need that wants addressing.

@Cookieloafres

9 ай бұрын

Exactly when ppl tell you that they're basically saying what u feel don't matter only everybody else feelings matters. How do u know they're lying! What if they're not, I hate ppl like that, you can't just assume they don't feel that way, ur invalidating how they feel.

@katec9893

4 ай бұрын

It was the opposite. If you watch his other videos you'd realise that he suffers from clinical depression himself. He asked the question to highlight the ignorance of people who don't understand depression so that the doctor can set them straight. Often a depressed person's friends and family are very mental health illiterate and he is trying to educate them.

Thank you Doctor. Depression is not a joke ..if a person says is depressed . Believe them ... And help them or tell them to get help and be there for them if you can ... Blessings ❤️

So many people don’t understand that depression sucks every bit of energy and motivation out of you. All you’re left with are your 3 basic priorities: food, water, and shelter. Yet sometimes when it really gets bad it starts chipping away at those too, I once didn’t eat for 5 days all because I didn’t feel deserving enough and just wanted to lay in bed and sleep.

@evangelinperselis4113

Жыл бұрын

depression has to be genetic

@H.K.5

11 ай бұрын

@@evangelinperselis4113 Bulls*it

Funny, I didn't accept my diagnosis completely because I didnt want to use it as an excuse. Here I am years later, finally observing an depressive episode I'm dealing with and FINALLY able to say: "This is the depression. Im doing all that I can but it's depression...." Thank God for my therapist and medication fr. Awesome conversation ❤️ love this channel..

I really wish I knew why anyone would be paying that close attention to anything I’m doing. That’s been an issue I’ve wondered about for a long time now. I tried to move away, separate myself from people, you name it and still it feels like people have no boundaries. I don’t want attention, I never have, I don’t go out of my way to get attention so why would anyone be paying that close attention to anything I’m doing? It’s truly the most annoying thing I think I’ve had to deal with over the years. It’s definitely something I’ll probably never understand. Just let people live their lives- don’t worry about what excuses they’re making or what they’re doing. Worry about your own life.

This video deserves a lot more views!!! This lady said everything I can't explain

Wanna piss me off? Try to tell me the depression ive struggled with isnt real or I've used it. Why in Gods name would ANYONE not want to live a full & contented life?!? Good God above.

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honest question to people out there... what do I do when they refuse help and they're abusive? And I know it's the illness but it's been a couple years and it's tearing everything apart...

Due to military service, I have been diagnosed with PTSD, generalized anxiety disorder, major depression disorder, insomnia. To this day I still question myself and if some of my problems are self induced. They are not. My mind is jacked up from what I had to deal with in the military. You can’t just turn it off. I went for over 20 years before I spoke to a professional about myself. Within minutes the person told me about generalized anxiety and depression. It literally made me cry when she told me the typical symptoms - I think I matched basically every one of them. All of those years I thought I was normal and the world around me was all messed up or that I was a piece of garbage and a failure. I have been in therapy for a few years now, have studied extensively about mental health issues to educate myself, take multiple medications just to try to make it through another day and be a good father and husband. To everyone out there suffering, the conditions are real. Don’t feel guilty or down on yourself. Do what you can to deal with the symptoms as best you can. At both the VA and my private psychiatrist, I have been told numerous times that I will take these conditions with me the rest of my life. It really comes down to trying to manage everyday life and understand that some days are going to be horrible. If I didn’t have a family that needs me, I know exactly how I would “fix” the suffering but I am not going to ruin my son and wife’s life by putting an end to mine. Everyday is a battle.

I wish I had a therapist like her, the ones I had seen are not on my side. Like I'm delusional or that I'm making up stories. That puts me down more ,like saying I really do suck but in different ways

I think the title could be "Do some people fake depression as an excuse?" When you're depressed it really feels like the world is coming to an end and you feel there's nothing you can do that will help things, you really feel helpless and of course you can't find anything within you to get out of it, much less have confidence or feel "motivated" as much as you might want to get out of it. It feels larger than you actually. I clicked this vid to see if there was anything of value for me and just found a guy kind of mocking it. At least the Dr. is reasonable. Thank you.

@nataliaalfonso2662

4 жыл бұрын

Accurate.

@centr4266

4 жыл бұрын

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@stefgreen5237

3 жыл бұрын

I think he’s playing devils advocate. What he’s saying is what many people say about depression so he’s giving the therapist ideas to debunk

I think it is possible that some people confuse actual depression to a normal response to stressful things. I imagine though a person who would actually use "depression" as an excuse while not actually suffering from it might possibly have some other disorder (more like a personality disorder.) I have fought my own self, my whole life "am i mentally ill or lazy." and I am mentally ill but that question still plagues me and this episode triggers me bc I truly pray I was normal, that i had a job-even at mcdonalds, that I wasn't a complete and total waste of space and oxygen but despite medication and therapy, even a 180 lb weight loss didn't help-it made it worse. I use to think I was depressed bc I was fat (i had never been a normal weight) and then I was thin and became even more depressed. I found i was fat bc i was depressed, not depressed bc i was fat.

@findev6330

3 жыл бұрын

I highly recommend this book called "Steps to Christ" this book really help me overcome depression, here's the link m.egwwritings.org/en/book/2017/toc

It’s so awful I’d rather climb into an invisible box throw away the key and deal w it alone than being dismissed or invalidated or shamed when I already do that to myself. Validation is one of the most helpful things that actually makes a difference.

I have first hand experience of someone making excuses (my mom and an ex friend) and literally saying "I have depression so this_____" and just continue to pile shit on me. So I appreciate this insight! There must have been something else going on

@deadislander

4 жыл бұрын

Annoying isn't it? You'll find quite a lot of people in this comment section have experienced the same. It's a ridiculous way to shift responsability, its quite sad and so harmful to everyone involved

Wow, needed to hear this. I've experienced a therapist (and a relative) saying Major Depression is an "excuse" for missing family gatherings, appts, etc. Sometimes there's simply not enough energy, and/or anxiety builds up, just while trying to get get dressed & out the door, leading to panic attacks. This cycle is followed by shame, immense Self-Loathing (feeling useless, like a total failure) & further isolation. *I've read that C-PTSD is often mistaken/misdiagnosed as BPD (treated with DBT counseling), which is useful, but it seems to overlook getting to the r Root Causes of Trauma/C-PTSD, in order to process the "unspeakables", alleviate the pain, and begin real inner healing, versus only addressing changing surface behaviors. Please share your view of this. Thanks.

I mean, my ex used his mental problems (including depression) to be manipulative and justify his toxic behaviors... So yeah I think the general idea of "people use depression to make excuses" isn't true, but just know that it's possible that people justify their shitty behaviors on their depression

@Em_Elizabeth

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too. He tried hoovering me back using his depression and threats of suicide.

@businessisboomin7252

2 жыл бұрын

@FriedIcecreamIsAReality thx for the explanation.

@SAMLEE-bb1xp

2 жыл бұрын

behaviors like what? Because real depression isnt "doing" its the not doing...or not caring, not wanting, not smiling...

@jborrego2406

Жыл бұрын

Also they don’t want to know the struggle they put others in. Don’t want to get out the bed so taking care kids is all on u, they miss work now up to pay everything , u have to listen to the sob, yell , throw things , emotional dump on u. But ur not allow say anything about it

@veronicalagor4771

7 ай бұрын

​​@@SAMLEE-bb1xpIrritation and aggression are well documented symptoms of depression, especially in men. Depressed people can lash out at those closest to them when they have difficulty regulating their moods or when they perceive criticism. I have also had depression myself, and I have exhibited some mean behaviors before I knew why I was feeling so miserable all the time and how it warped my view of people around me.

I have bipolar disorder and the last time I went through a severe depressive episode when I was still living at home, my mom's boyfriend would yell at me for taking leave of absences from my job, claiming that I'm lazy and don't care about anything. Those statements ended up with me in the mental hospital. My mom called me while I was there and told me when I got out that I had to pack up and leave and find somwhere else to live. I ended up having to live with a friend for a couple months until I could save up and get a super cheap apartment on my own. Now I live by myself while still trying to figure out how to manage having bipolar disorder and can't hold a job for more than a few months due to calling off too much from depressive episodes. I face homelessness at least twice a year and get get anywhere in life, because my family decided they didn't want to deal with me anymore. Sorry about ranting I just feel like I needed to get this off my chest and this was a good place to do it.

@RS-ov2st

3 ай бұрын

Completely understand you. I hope you are able to get professional medical help and medication. I’m to the point that I literally can’t function without Mediation. Non of my family gets it. They just look at you and judge.

I’ve been suffering from chronic depression since as long as I can remember. I am 26 now and it’s as bad as it’s ever been. It’s now affecting my solid job that I’ve finally landed and I just want to disappear

@Highlander9740

2 жыл бұрын

I understand.

It’s hard to say because some people who have depression will tell you they have it and some people say their depressed when in fact they are just having a bad day. Which is really annoying for people like me who actually have depression. In my early stage of me being depressed I didn’t tell anyone because you fear how people will judge you and treat you but over the years I’ve been very open about my depression and I talk about it a lot because I want people to understand that it is a real thing. There are people to this day that still don’t believe depression is real. People need to be more educated on this subject. At times it is also frustrating for the people who know me because some of them don’t understand depression and they mistake my depression. Having no motivation and energy to do stuff is just considered as me being lazy to them.

What about people who don’t want to get better? Can depression deprive you of the idea that getting better is possible and worth it at all?

Unfortunately, clinical depression is debilitating. Also, there is such a negative social sigma about confessing depression that it takes a lot to reveal it.

I think some ppl are in denial about depression and other mental health issues and they can project that on the ones who are honestly looking for help. That makes a person more depressed when someone says its an excuse or its nlt real or even bringing religion and god in it. None of that changes that were dealing with depression. I think just because a person feels that they overcame depression dont judge or downplay the next persons mental state. This world really needs more empathy and less judgment. We need to stop perceiving others situations as our own as they are in a different body with different feelings and emotions and experiences. So just cuz one person got over ot the next person could be dealing with more traumatic that affect their mind in a different way. For anybody reading this you are not alone my love and every feeling and emotion you are feeling is valid. Our feelings and emotions are apart of our instincts and no matter what anyone says its not an excuse and i know it even if the rest of the world dosent. Ppl that calls depression an excise need to realize ur making that person more depressed by un validating how they feel based of ur life and mind and thats not how it works. Instead of saying ots an excuse try to help them or empathize or just understand them. Just think u would feel bad if that person commit suicide the next day. STOP downplaying ppls mental state thats why they are afraid to talk to anyone. Love u all lets keep our heads up and just try to keep pushing its not easy but know ur not alone yall.

@charlottetaylor4471

2 жыл бұрын

What a lovely message ❤️

@devonconnax

Жыл бұрын

Anyone who downplays somebody else's depression because "they got over it" sounds like someone who wasn't truly depressed, or confuse being depressed with just feeling a bit blue.

@jborrego2406

Жыл бұрын

An don’t downplay how it affect ppl in ur life an coworker

The problem is, there’s plenty of people who lie about how depressed they are due to attention. But there’s also people out there who are genuinely depressed and need support.

Depression distorts your outlook. It drains your energy, mentally, emotionally, and physically. At least for me that is my experience. I have no motivation, desire, ambition anymore. It literally drains your whole being. It’s the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I compare the thoughts and feelings that I experience to someone I care about dying. It’s pain of that magnitude. I’m pretty sure I would never lie about this, or wish this terrible condition on my worst enemy.

I feel times are changing. 10-20 y ago it was embarrassing to be depressed. Not anymore. If you have hit a wall, they use it to hint that: they have worked soo hard and they need rest..

When you're autistic: World: Why can't you be normal, and do x/y/z? Me: *tries to* World: Ugh, that's not good enough! What's wrong with you? Also world: Just be yourself Me: *is myself* world: NOT THAT WAY okay... welcome in depression... Tell me again, how it's my fault? Because, fuck you. At one point in your life, you're just so tired of trying to please... to adapt, to change you... you just can't anymore. And then you go into therapy: Basically a 101 on "How to mask"... How to be not yourself... yet again.

@kimlec3592

2 жыл бұрын

@ Phoenix the ll : Very valid points you make.

@yuval01258

2 жыл бұрын

Wow you’re weird

My depression began as a child, teen and into adulthood. I wasn't able to focus in school and got horrible grades. On top of depression I struggled with anxiety. At some point in my 20s I was able to attend college and ultimately earned a Master's degree. Through my schooling I had to take breaks when anxiety took hold of me. I'm a senior now and it saddens me how badly my life was impacted by such a mood disorder. I'm doing fairly well due to years of therapy along with learning good self care.

I tend to isolate myself from loved ones because I'm feeling like I can't reciprocate all their attention and kindness towards me. Then it makes me realize that I'm such an asshole for not making an effort to appreciate them. It's beyond my emotional and knowledge capability to understand their need. It's seems like I'm not there, helping them out from problems thus hurting them even more. Now I'm diagnosed with pdd, still having the same problems. I wish I could approach this situation with new perspectives.

@nimesh0775

Жыл бұрын

I get triggered by certain situations; as in I get reminded of what I don't have, what I have failed to accomplish and achieve; and it makes me disregard all progress I have made thus far. It makes me not want to try because what's the point? I didn't achieve what I wanted anyway so I end up refraining from doing those things that were helping me look after myself.

Interesting video! Keep up the good work!

Thank you for explaining and proving that depression will never be an excuse, it is something that desperately needs to be helped.

Through the exploration between Kyle, and Dr. Sue Varma.. get to the point of what allowed someone to get authentic about themselves: "being non-judgmental to the person, and them feeling safe".. also with how much gumption the client had to put toward change. This is helpful material. Also, Kyle showing up to even host the show is a courageous event. When I was younger I didn't have the gumption to do that. Today, I am glad if being up on time to watch what medcircle has to share, and Dr. Ramani. This does show that if you are willing to invest in change.. change will meet you to that extent. This is hopeful material. Thank you!

@charlottetaylor4471

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I dislike about therapy, that it's not realistic. And they're being paid to be nice, it's artificial.

I don't really know if I have depression but more so anhedonia (flatlining of emotions). I don't get sad or suicidal, but trying to focus on writing a paper or something that requires me to focus and calculate feels almost impossible. I can feel limited excitement as my emotions are mostly blunted. It's hard because, I want things enough to want to be successful, but then when it comes to doing those things I will procrastinate like crazy because just the act of trying to focus feel so uncomfortable. It sucks because time and the world doesn't stop for you, it just keeps on going as you watch all these responsibilities pile up that you can't keep up with. It's just sooooo overwhelming.

This doctor is fantastic. I wish we had mental health doctors in my area of this caliber. The few that were good are just too expensive.

Those who say depression is a myth are the very people that cause depression in others.

I used to think I was using it as an excuse and convinced myself that it wasn't. The mental collapse when you realize that you've literally held yourself back because you didn't take it seriously and THAT is because you were concerned with what other people think. Then again I couldn't help it because whoever I opened up to just thought I was lazy, therefore I thought I was actually lazy. This shit is insane.

A very few people use depression as an excuse all the time.

This video absolutely triggered me. Who would fake such a thing? This just reminds me of my own struggle with feeling like an imposter or that it’s not really depression. It’s just me

I feel this is why I think I have high functioning depression. I literally keep up with everything to be able to assess whether or not I’m “faking it” I also don’t mention it to others so I can also verify I’m not attention seeking

Dr Varma is really authentic! More videos with her please

Well, one of my roommates is using depression as an excuse, for not helping around the house. "Oh, I went to a therapist in my hometown and if the results say that there might be a hint of depression, then... But luckily I don't have to go there so often."

It is time for more people to love themselves and to believe they are good enough. Hope to help people with that as well. Thanks a lot for the inspiration! 💪🏼

@centr4266

4 жыл бұрын

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@sageyt4808

3 жыл бұрын

Depressed people have trouble with that mate,

@Wisdom-zv6zq

Жыл бұрын

THATS RIGHT LETS GO!!! DEPPRESION IS NOT REAL

I feel like my life is a crappy retail job I dread going to every day and I feel so guilty about it.

There's is so much ignorance when it comes to mental health

A lifetime of depression has got me to 39 with nothing to show for it.

@bipbap300

Жыл бұрын

you will get better

I dont even know how to act normally with any person. like people say you are standing awkwardly.. But every time I wake up and decide to be more social..But when I try to something bad just happen i dont know why.

People on a therapist's office most likely have a real problem. But people do throw the term "depression" around like it's a normal mood state. "My iPhone broke today, I'm depressed about it." It gets to a point where the thing becomes banal. That's one of the reasons why so many people don't take it seriously. Depression is not the same as sad.

After living with depression for 30 years I find it easier to let other people come to the conclusion that I am depressed, rather than tell them outright. For some reason when I tell a lay person that I am depressed the first thing they do is tell me not to say _that_ /not to claim it; or tell me I'm not _depressed_ -I just need a break or to take a vacation. More often than not people try to be helpful and question *why* as if it's one particular thing that if I answer to it, all my problems will be solved. Depression is more complex than that. Sometimes there are triggers. Sometimes there aren't. Or at least they aren't very easily identified. I have come to the conclusion that I am a high-functioning depressive with signs that are hard to see from the outside-or that I have mastered hiding. If people do notice something's wrong and asks what's wrong, now I just tell them I'm tired or I have a headache because it's easier.

This is a very important topic to be discussed. Thanks medicircle!

People who insinuate that people fake depression have never had to deal with the same level of distress themselves, so they have no reference point from where to empathize. Real depression isn't a choice and often there isn't even an underlying cause. That's why it's called a mental disorder. Even if some people were faking it, that should tell you that there's a need that is unfulfilled and telling them to get over it could surely spiral them into depression.

Actual health problems often get in the way of responsibility. NOT AN EXCUSE IF IT'S ACTUALLY AN ACTUAL HEALTH PROBLEM.

@anancientaliennamedstevie9982

4 жыл бұрын

...you're taking things out of context.

@dawnnn568

4 жыл бұрын

@@anancientaliennamedstevie9982 i agree in this with ya sista. They said 'majority', not every depressed people.

@brennam954

3 жыл бұрын

...Are you suggesting depression is not "an actual health problem"?

@TMTgirl

3 жыл бұрын

@@brennam954 not at all. I mean it's not an "excuse", it's an actual *reason* for not doing things at times. I hate the word "excuse".

@brennam954

3 жыл бұрын

@@TMTgirl Oh I see. That was not clear at all from your initial comment. There's LOTS of people in the comment section trying to invalidate depression and mental health. I thought you were one of them. You're absolutely right though.

Somewhat related to this subject, I'd like to hear MedCircle talk about how mental illness is glamorized or mentioned very casually in youth culture/pop culture. Because I think sometimes that's why young people with actual mental illnesses are not being taken seriously, and might even fall into the trap of normalizing it. There are apparently influencers selling merchandise with anxiety and depression written on it.

I lived with a narcissist who did use this as an excuse. She would make a mess, take no responsibility, and berate me saying "how dare you ask me to clean up after myself, I'm depressed, I'm not a bad person". Or would flip it and say "it is clean, you probably just have OCD, normal people would say this is clean". I believed her for a long time, because I didn't want to challenge someone saying they're having depression.

@s.oliveira6795

2 жыл бұрын

Depression cause people to loose focus, energy ...but you still know how to live with other. You may not see your mess immediately, but when another person point it out you try to clean it up with a good heart. It's all in their attitude

@meadownicholls2780

2 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily, I lived with a girl who was very set in her ways and probably was slightly OCD and when I was severely depressed I’d forget to clean up things, usually just a single fork or soemthing on the side sometimes more and she’d constantly point it out and take pictures and it got to the point where it felt like she was attacking me and I told everyone I was just really depressed and extremely anxious and that’s why I kept forgetting things and she just called me an attention seeker. I did ask her if she had OCD multiple times because I genuinely thought she did, she’d hoover her room multiple times a day and wash her sheet every couple. It really depends on the person and I don’t think you should debunk people as narcs so often, people throw it around like it’s not an actual medical term. Just like they do with depression. It’s not really helpful for anyone struggling

Worst part being depressed is people want you to denial that you're depressed

My wife starts saying things like ay ya yay and sighing and looking down in a displeasing manner. But she’ll do that at everything she thinks of she gets down about literally everything. She doesn’t want to be around any family for meet new family members of mine or friends. Gets anxiety over what’s gonna happen with everything. But she refuses to see a therapist

I'd like to take this to another level. Calling people "depressed" is another method of victim blaming that narcissists and bullies like to use. It's like saying you're sad we killed your dogby accident, oh you're just depressed, it's your fault you feel like this and nor our faut we acted in a way to make you feel like this." The way you feel is normal. What you've experienced, combat, loss in the family, repetitive social failures etc.. that caused you to feel like that is not normal.

People who has depression actually will pretend to have no depression and be shameful for having it. And trying so hard to cover it up. Always think they are the awful side and take all the blame on themselves.

the fact that he was shocked that she hadnt encountered that....???

No because I would think most people wouldn't want to have to take antidepressants unless they absolutely had to. You will still get blamed for what you do or don't do while depressed because work culture still does not acknowledge mental health as important as physical health. In fact, if you have an "invisible " disability, everyone accuses you of laziness.

I haven't been able to do any of my normal things in five weeks. Haven't drawn, worked out, and it takes every ounce of energy I have to even go to work.

Depression is awful i suffer with it and when its bad i just don't want to get out of bed, i have no joy in anything whats so ever and feel jet lagged all time. I would never use mine as an excuse as i still work and not many people know i suffer with it just family. Medication helps me greatly.

Excellently communicated

I am suffering from bipolar disorder and after my manic phases stop and the depression kicks in hard, my Co workers used to tell me that I use my depression as an excuse, when they are asking what's going on and I'm telling them that it's depression

Depression sucked the life out of me. I was able to have 4 good years but here i am back to it now

What normal person stays in bed for insane amounts of time? What normal person crys multiple times a day? What normal person cant make or keep relationships or a job they love?! People who think that's enjoyable are ignorant. I'm not over sleeping, crying and losing a job I fought for because I'm more comfortable that way.

This pathology of "your feelings are all that matters" and constantly validating someone's feelings are a cultural contribution to depression. If being sad is a valid basis for your view of reality, then you have no basis to tell someone that their view of reality is incorrectly pessemistic.

Excellent!

People saying this is more of a reason for me to say "How do I commit suicide, I can't, and stop telling me to get help, it's not working for me." Edit: right now I dont know what meaning this comment has Idk what I was trying to say

My depression has started when I was at least 8...and now I'm twelve still suffering from it, it's so hard to be dealing with this at such a young age it's hard..it makes me want to cry, and just be alone.. and just shut my self away from others and, my family calls me "a lazy btc" "lazy" and other things... And on top of that I have social anxiety.

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

2 жыл бұрын

Wanna talk?

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

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@Wang Dong National News You dont know that