Why are there people so hung up on her "smiling" telling her story? • Nervousness • Defense mechanism • Disbelief People have different responses to traumatic events.

@KlassyKoo

2 ай бұрын

THANK YOU

@onlyonemystical

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this post. I was thinking the same thing.

@Naturefan354

2 ай бұрын

Because she also didn't shed not 1 single tear. I get this happened 10 years ago but her whole entire demeanor is bizarre when your child has been murdered sorry

@nikkisovain9429

2 ай бұрын

I totally understand that people respond differently, it’s still odd to witness though

@sTraYa249

2 ай бұрын

The YT comment sections are full of vexatious peeps

SOME PEOPLE SMILE TO KEEP FROM CRYING PUBLICLY. 😢 MY SON WAS MURDERED AND I SMILE A LOT. 😊 ESPECIALLY PUBLICLY BECAUSE, I WANT TO ESCAPE THE PAIN AS POSSIBLE. 💔 PEOPLE THINK I AM STRONG BECAUSE THEY DON'T SEE ME CRY. LIKE ME THIS WOMAN IS A SURVIVOR. IT'S LIKE A DRUG HABIT. IT'S ONE DAY AT A TIME SURVIVING TRAUMA!!!

@nichole_exposing_unseen_enemy

2 ай бұрын

This! 1,000%

@abigailjupiter374

2 ай бұрын

YES!!! Thank you for sharing and articulating this. I’m so sorry for all the pain you’ve had to experience, and still do. Thank you so much for speaking up here. We need to lift each other up! ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

@SimoneJ-mb7zu

Ай бұрын

Good for you and I'm so so so so sorry for your loss!

RIP little man! I was married to a preacher who was pulling a g*n and butcher Kni*e on me among many things. I was not working outside the home and after 8 years, I waited till he left for work and moved two states away. This was almost 30 years ago. I never remarried and am at peace. Prayers to all the survivors!!!

@TriniLush7

2 ай бұрын

*gun *knife 🙄

@desiretogohigher1574

2 ай бұрын

@@TriniLush7 I didn't want YT to censor.

@TeeNicole10

2 ай бұрын

🙏🏽

@whatstheword1478

2 ай бұрын

You are a very wise person. ❤

@desiretogohigher1574

2 ай бұрын

@@whatstheword1478 Thank you! :)

“My child came back to me in a body bag, what do we do now?” My heart sunk.

@ljay4525

2 ай бұрын

But I'm wondering what the judge's response was

@tww_occult

2 ай бұрын

@@ljay4525 honestly what can you even say after that? Probably fed her promises to “give your son justice” and “prevent him from doing this to other people”. 🙃

@ljay4525

2 ай бұрын

@@tww_occult his apology should be as bold as his initial disrespect. He should acknowledge how flippant he was and do better by children in the future.

@tww_occult

2 ай бұрын

@@ljay4525 apologizes imply responsibility. And people don’t like to accept that they’ve caused someone the worst pain possible.

Her mannerisms are a trauma response. It's how your brain & body protects you when you're discussing or re-living a traumatic event (I make similar facial expressions or get anxious laughter when discussing traumatic events from my life). My heart goes out to her. I'm glad she's keeping his memory alive and sharing her story to warn others about red flags to look out for.

@timefoolery

2 ай бұрын

Weird trauma response in my estimation. I couldn’t smile through this. She looks like she’s realllllllly enjoying the attention.

@AshatHome

2 ай бұрын

@timefoolery it's not that unusual it's fairly common. If you go back and look at footage of soldiers during WWII they will be smiling or laughing but their eyes show exactly how traumatized they are. It can be unnerving to see if you're not familiar with how trauma can psychologically impact someone but it is truly just how your body/brain tries to protect you. For me I had a 6'4" stranger try to abduct me with a 🔫 from a house party when I was a teenager. I'm barely 5'1" and tipsy me thought the 🔫 was fake so I grabbed it from him and blew a hole through the ceiling. I laughed for years telling this story not because it's funny but because the memory of that and the knowledge of what could have happened is so scary my brain won't let me go there so I laugh to alleviate the anxiety and trauma.

@itzawarriorthanggggt.k5739

2 ай бұрын

​​@@timefooleryWhat's weird is your stupid azz comment. People deal with trauma differently. Reliving the situation and smiling might be her coping mechanism. Ever thought about that genius. Some of ya'll act unhumane and soulless like you don't feel a damn thing.

@rosario_len

2 ай бұрын

Definitely… she smiles and then it fades immediately after. You can tell it’s a trauma response

@80sCanadian

2 ай бұрын

​@@timefooleryThat's because you associate smiling with being happy but not everyone's facial expressions are the same. For me, ppl often tell me to "smile" when I'm perfectly happy because being happy doesn't make me smile, and they say I'm laughing or smiling when I'm sad and grieving. I smile because that is my faces natural response to pain or sadness in the way that it is to joy for others. It's like this for many ppl. . it's not weird, it's just different from yours.

This channel needs a moderator some of these comments are insensitive and disrespectful.

@greendragon4058

2 ай бұрын

I was just going to write that these are real people that have suffered real trauma.

@abigailjupiter374

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

@scottfamily5963

Ай бұрын

I think it is good we know what they are thinking so we can challenge their perspectives.

I just looked it up. The killer's name is Joaquin S. Rams This sick bastard pulled out a life insurance policy on that poor baby and killed his son for money! I'm glad he's in jail for life because he should've gotten capital punishment!

@TeeNicole10

2 ай бұрын

OHHH WOWWW😢

Why was the assault on her sister swept under the rug!? He should've been put away for that and maybe the rest of the tragedy wouldn't have occurred.🤬

@Juanita-gf4te

2 ай бұрын

They went to police and she and her sister were arrested for making a false accusation......see how broken the system is?

@TriniLush7

2 ай бұрын

Homeboy would've gotten a bullet...

@mannty766

2 ай бұрын

Exactly! Why didn't they keep fighting for his arrest? There are ppl and organizations who would have helped. I hope they sued the police dept who arrested them. That's crazy.

@ayiti4009

2 ай бұрын

I still cant believe this​@@Juanita-gf4te

@scottfamily5963

Ай бұрын

@@mannty766 people just think it is so easy. Do you know how the darker your story is the less they have to give you. They don't help. They are facades to make everyone feel better. They help an easy few and the rest go without. Most of the time if you show up looking at all traumatized you are blamed for whatever they doubt happened to you. It is always easy to blame the victim rather than hold the perpetrator accountable. I had judges do it.

I ran to a whole another country with the help of Red Cross to keep my kids safe. There’s nothing my ex can do about it. So sorry for her loss he was so handsome 😢😢😢😢😢

@MsSexyDiva4Lyfe

2 ай бұрын

How did the Red Cross help?

@jacalahall

2 ай бұрын

@@MsSexyDiva4Lyfe they paid for one way plane tickets for me and my kids

@ark198989

2 ай бұрын

JESUS bless you! JESUS loves you and keep you and your children!!! 🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🕊 143 🌹🌻 Stay strong!

@jacalahall

2 ай бұрын

@@ark198989 🙏🏾 thank you

@beautifulaltogether2224

2 ай бұрын

Glad you are safe and sound ❤

My ex was a narcissist who almost did the unthinkable. This story really hit home. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️

That’s crazy how ppl are coming at her when she’s the one that was asking ppl for help and these ppl that work for the system didn’t do squat to get his crazy ass 🙄😒 poor baby boy he didn’t deserve to die the way he did 🥺💔

I just want to say that I applaud you for telling the story and bringing awareness for others if they are in the beginning stages of an abusive relationship. Thank you for pushing through resistance and being a light for others. ❤

All though she lost her baby😢 she is at peace God bless this woman

@TriniLush7

2 ай бұрын

God, where was God to protect her and that baby?

@Pretti_Lucky

2 ай бұрын

@@TriniLush7Don’t do that here!!

I see why she's smiling because she's come a long way behind this tragedy, she's healing snd speaking out and yhats something to smile about.

My condolences to family rest in heaven little man

Her story was posted on True Crime Daily page, 6 years ago.. May Lil Prince McLeod Sleep In Heavenly Peace 💐🕊🙏🏽

Such a powerful woman

@natishabush6652

2 ай бұрын

A

@artbyxrdh

2 ай бұрын

@@natishabush6652 ?

The system failed this lady and her son.

@r.r911

Ай бұрын

She failed herself. The system didn't hook her up with this man, she chose him!

SMILING IS A COPING MECHANISM FOR THOSE WHO ARE BEING INCREDIBLY INSENSITIVE AND JUDGEMENTAL

@itzawarriorthanggggt.k5739

2 ай бұрын

Only the people who have common sense will realize that. My point exactly these people in the comments are azz backwards because clearly their brain levels never goes up .

@scottfamily5963

Ай бұрын

Yes, child protective services, the police and children's lawyers, psychologists, attorneys and JUDGES, even friends and family, think you are not serious or circumstances aren't that bad when you smile, but if you try to tell them just how dire your circumstances are or act depressed, upset, or afraid in any way, they act like you are the problem and they get angry at you for being in the situation when you ask for help to get out, and they turn around and punish you and believe your charming abuser who acts baffled and like the victim and says you are crazy. They immediately label you with the problem and attorneys won't take your case or say they aren't therapists when you try to tell them how bad it is. They minimize everything and dismiss it.

She Is Such A Strong Woman...God Please Continue To Bless Her...❤

To all the people worrying about her smile it's because of LOVE and Jesus. Rhis didn't happen yesterday, not everyone cries when telling their story. No one acts the same in trauma 😢.

@user-ju9re9ob2v

2 ай бұрын

It also can be nerves or something, It's so hard to live in a "Perfect Society" with "Perfect People" you know Queen 👑 they never made mistakes, and misjudged someone, God bless her and her son soul 🙏🏼😇💪🏼🕊️🫶🏼👑💐, she's wound up so tightly.

She is smiling because thru the storm God can heal and allow you to smile again. Life has to go on. That's what I'm thinking

@scottfamily5963

Ай бұрын

Yes, and it didn't just happen yesterday. She needs to move on for her other children and herself. That does not mean she doesn't have private grief. I have tons for other types of losses. I would drag my children down and they would do the same to themselves if we wallowed in all our griefs and losses all of the time. We are forced to compartmentalize. She still loves her son and misses him terribly. She needs to put that aside much of the time or there would be no point in living, she would just be waiting and suffering. What about all the other people who lost someone, like in wars? Sometimes you laugh and inside so much pain cuts through. So much pain. Other times you are removed from it.

People react to speaking to the public in different ways to maybe deal with nerves or just telling your story. Just listen, don't judge on things you don't fully understand.

You are such a brave young lady..Thank you for telling your story. It can save lives!❤❤

To anybody judging this woman based solely on the delivery of her story, you weren’t there to see her grief so how can you judge her healing journey? If she’s working towards peace, that’s a positive thing, especially since she has children to raise. God bless her.

I have no words 😢🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

Thank you for sharing your story with us. 🙏🏽💚

The first 6-7 minutes of her story is filled with red flags that this guy was absolutely awful. I’m assuming this woman grew up in an idyllic environment or was extremely sheltered because it’s kinda hard to understand someone being so naive.

@mekajackson9211

2 ай бұрын

Like why would she let someone whom is physically, emotionally and mentally abusive go to a "concert" with her little sister? Hmmmmm!

@nichole_exposing_unseen_enemy

2 ай бұрын

@@mekajackson9211crazymaking, trauma bonded to believe lies

@itzawarriorthanggggt.k5739

2 ай бұрын

​@@mekajackson9211Maybe she wanted to see the good in him who knows. We don't know this woman to pass judgement on her and I do wish sympathy towards her for losing a precious child.

A smile can be a brave statement. That she is going to stand up and face the pain and not allow it to cripple her.

What a horrible story! 😱 She deserves so much credit. And she has so beautyfull eyes.

I got robbed by gunpoint in the parking lot while working. I smiled the whole time when talking to police and manager’s. I was terrified from it but I don’t want anyone to know that. I smiled to make it look like I’m ok. When I went home it was much different. I didn’t want to go back to work. I didn’t show up the next few days.

it's outrageous that justice cannot protect children in such situations. I live in Brazil, and I remember of 2 cases in which kids around 10 y.o. went to justice offices to ask for help, because they had been beaten and abused by their fathers. In both cases the law department failed miserably. In both the responsibles convinced the kids to go back home that "everything would be ok". Both kids were murdered.

Beautiful soul. STRONG WOMAN. Good sense of introspection and self awareness. Much Love and Light to you Mama

The justice system needs to be held accountable. They are so protected that after awhile they become dull and uninterested in the particular situation that's before them.

Thank you for your story you are a beautiful young lady I can tell you have lots of love in your heart. Don't listen to these people that say why are you smiling they don't see trauma until they've been through a traumatic episode come at those of us that have can recognize the signs and others. I wish you all the best in life I don't know your family is safe and he is looking down on you❤❤❤❤ I'm going to go out and look for your book right now

Hire a private investigator before getting involved with someone. We as humans have everything backwards.

R.I.P sorry for your loss, continue healing

You are very correct that the "systems" are horrible. I have three cousins (all siblings) that were molested by their biological father. He went to prison but was released. The three children were forced by the courts to have visitation with him (they were all still under the age 18 when he wad released). He was convicted for molesting his children but the children were forced to have visitation with him after he was released from prison. How stupid is our system? Obviously, very. All about the parents "rights". Just like your story. Your son should never been allowed to visit his biological father, who is a serial killer. And his son should not been allowed to live with him either. I am so sorry to hear your story. I can not imagine. I am glad you did tell your story. You made valid points for people to think about when they meet someone they may get into a relationship with. It's great to hear that you were able to move through life after such a tragedy. That gives people hope. Wish you all the best.

I'm blown away. Thank you so much for sharing. You are an incredibly strong woman, and I'm glad you survived ❤️💪

Her coping mechanism is smiling…mine is a nervous laugh…it’s sad. GOD BLESS and KEEP HER AND HER FAMILY SAFE

This is the most sickening story I’ve ever heard. Imagine knowing you have to legally send your baby to slaughter.

My heart rips to pieces for you 😢this is horrific and all involved judge, police etc all should be held accountable for what happened to your son, your step son and yourself, what a disgusting human being trying to make money by ending a child’s life 😢 I would be distraught he deserved the death sentence for why he has done. Your son will always be alive in your love keep talking about him keep sharing your story. What ever happened to his other son? Your an incredible person thank you for sharing your story I’m sure it will help many people I wish you nothing but the best 🤍 xxx

Sorry for your loss on losing your beautiful son. 🙏 I hope your ex rot in hell for killing your son 😡

My heart hurts for you 💔 I am so sorry for the loss of your son 😢 You were failed by so many and I hope in some way you find peace 🕊️

Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing. You have helped me. ❤

Prayers to this mama ❤

God bless you 🙏🏼👑💐 I remember your story about this and I remember you trying so very hard to get them to listen he was a handsome little guy.

My ex was like this i found out everything he'd told me was a lie and he wasn't who he said he was he actually had a wife and was abusing her too have to background check these days

When she got sick and was left on the bathroom floor he probably tried to poison her then. Did he kill his first son mother🙄 I would have been gone. I wouldn’t have gave a damn what the judge said. My kid wouldn’t have went with him

My condolence, o hooe this woman to be happy and alright nowz olea never give up, your son would never want to see his mom defeated, continuing enjoying for him

Sorry for your loss darling

Instead of questioning why she’s not crying, why don’t y’all look into the case? Her exes name is Joaquin S. Rams. Damn, this is a survivor of a serial killer and y’all making it seem like she was in on the murder💀

How are you smiling You are tremendously brave

So sorry

So sorry this happened to you 😢

Prayers to her I'm so sorry for loss sorry this happen to her

I’m going to be a single mom by choice…this is terrifying…I’m dating for fun now, not a realtionship…

@pumpsiegreen8626

Ай бұрын

'Dating for fun' is actually more dangerous

WOWWWWWW!!!!! RIP BABYBOY🙌🏼🙏🏽

Did I miss what ever happebed the killer's son after he murdered the son with her? Did she get custody of him? My heart goes out to her, and I'm glad she found happiness after going thru a nightmare!

Why would they let her little sister go to a concert without her smh

Well said

Sometimes it’s hard for someone to believe a parent isn’t safe around the children when they break up.Things only come up like this when people separate.

@rosario_len

2 ай бұрын

She knew… but the courts did not believe

How can a mother decide to save one child and not the other. I'm a mother, and there is no way that i would leave a child with a psyco.

@rosario_len

2 ай бұрын

Well the first one was not biologically hers so legally she couldn’t. She did everything she could to save her child that she carried 💔💔

God bless you, girl 😢

Who tf is this man and why did they defend him so much wtf

I’m lost for words this is terribly insane 🥺

It’s wild that all these women in here are telling a survivor how she’s supposed to act. It shows for one, a lack of knowledge. Two, a lack of empathy and understanding for trauma victims. Three, the extreme entitlement of thinking that you have any right to tell a survivor what’s “ appropriate” behavior and what’s not. And four, it’s just pathetic behavior really. I’m tired of women and our seemingly inability to support other women in their success and in their traumas. And that’s what I think of that! 😂

@rhodacostain1938

2 ай бұрын

I completely agree, most have not been through this type of trauma so will never understand it, when you have been to the darkest depths you will then understand and I pray non of them will ever have anything like this ever happen to them.

@jtwright4095

2 ай бұрын

yup, agree

GOD BLESS ❤

What became of the other son???

Prayers are with you and your family. I can’t imagine your pain at all, but I’m sure it’s also really hard for your sister. I mean her rapist also murdered her nephew. I certainly pray she has gotten therapy is learning how to triumph over this as well, and also hope y’all are close and this didn’t ruin your bonds. Rip little fella: so very sorry for your loss, but am so very glad you have decided to advocate for children and domestic violence laws. His death was not in vain. ❤🕊️

Those who have seemingly innocent ties to the government should consider they very well be behind the situation

VA???? Wow I’m so sorry you had to go through this. My god, you’re so strong and brave. Sending nothing but positive energy your way. You’ve been through enough smh 🙏🏾🫶🏾❤️

Smiling but her kid was killed by a serial killer. Wow! this shit blows me way!

BEAUTIFUL boy ❣️ Our “justice” system couldn’t care less about women and children. It’s disgusting.

What happened to the older brother?

Someone tell me why this video has comments from five days ago when it was uploaded an hour ago 🤔

@comediccheffaith

2 ай бұрын

It premiered a while ago. U can’t comment before it comes out

@esthersbucketlist

2 ай бұрын

@@comediccheffaith so where’s comments from five days ago coming from?

Yea I had to look him up.. this guy was crazy crazy 😮😡

wow 😳👍

You get a pew-pew and use it to save your baby!

I would have never let him see my son let alone stay with that sicko she saw the red flags even heard him abusing his oldest son and never stepped in sad

@rosario_len

2 ай бұрын

The courts forced her

Do you know what happened to his surviving son?

You’re sister should have never been allowed to go anywhere alone with him!!

Wow

I see how her smiling isn’t inherently wrong but I think it is odd to see someone say these things with a smile. Especially because she’s been doing many interviews in the last decade. But she’s also a victim and I think we should all take that into consideration when we question her “smiling”.

One thing is, that she moved on and worked through her trauma. Good on her. Good job. But smiling while talking about her death son is unsettling.

@Java_87

2 ай бұрын

Oh shut up.

@rhodacostain1938

2 ай бұрын

It’s a trauma response

wow

Sounds like a narcissist/narcopath.

IT'S HARD TO TAKE YOU SERIOUS, WHEN YOU'VE SMILED AND GIGGLED THROUGH YOUR STORY. SORRY THAT YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT!

@rhodacostain1938

2 ай бұрын

That is a trauma response it’s not laughing or smiling as you would know it, it’s incredibly painful to talk about things so horrific she will relive this each time she shares her story it’s a response mechanism that her mind and body will be doing to safeguard her as it’s horrific trauma. Please be kind to people especially when you have not gone through this kind of trauma 🙂

@gloriagorley8519

2 ай бұрын

@@rhodacostain1938 I'M ENTITLED TO MY OPINION! GO PREACH TO SOMEONE ELSE!

@rhodacostain1938

2 ай бұрын

@@gloriagorley8519 as someone who has gone through trauma myself 2 family members being murdered I know first hand this is trauma maybe you need to take your judgemental and condescending tone somewhere else there was no need for you to comment that to her in the first place, if you don’t want people to comment back to you then don’t make presumptuous comments in the first place. I pray you Will never have to go through trauma like this yourself, have a nice day.

@gloriagorley8519

2 ай бұрын

@@rhodacostain1938 "BYE"

She talking about her husband and smiling

Listenmnnnnnn wht this lady went threw i searched him up shes traumatized

My ex husband would do similar things to me

❤

Hi, what ever happened to the killers son? Do u guys kp n touch? Y didn't u take care of him instead of cps? Just asking & I'm so so sorry for ur loss & tht God hlpd u ova cm it all. Amen ❣️ 🙏🏽 😇

💪💜

She really should sue the police family court everything for her sons death

😢😢😢😢😢😮😢😢

He was Narcissist person but more so demon 😈 in human body

She doing a lot of laughing and smiling for someone to have killed her son

You have a beautiful smile!!! 🤗😊😃😀 Keep on smiling!!!! For the joy of the LORD is your strength!!! Stay strong! Stay peaceful! Stay loving! Stay close to KING JESUS!!!! 🤗🙏🌹 YOU ARE MORE THAN AN OVERCOMER!

Why wasn’t he in jail for the r word of the sister

@MrsHart11

2 ай бұрын

Why wasn’t he in jail for killing his mother? Why wasn’t he in jail for killing his sons mother? Stop asking obvious questions. The justice system sucks and only works for some. Use your brain.