Healthy Boundaries (The Real Work Needed)
The main things that hold us back from healthy boundaries are our inner core beliefs and our emotional dysregulation. Boundaries are not simply about a set of rules we need to learn. They are about knowing ourselves deeply, feeling confident in our needs and desires, and being able to balance the state between self-care and caring relationships.
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00:00 Introduction
00:52 Definition of enmeshment
05:05 When someone tries to set healthy boundaries
07:22 Difference between enmeshed and close-knit
09:12 8 Problems that come from enmeshed families
13:23 What to do about it
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This is true. Wow
Love your hair!!
Brilliant. Thank you for this practical overview.
Thank you and yes, the positive has an underbelly.
Looking forward to the course!!!!
@BarbaraHeffernan
Жыл бұрын
I look forward to it as well! Looking forward to hearing how you are doing!
You are such a helper ❤ plz upload a video over getting over the effect of narcisst
I just joined your channel today. Thank you so much! ❤
@BarbaraHeffernan
Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! And thanks for joining!!
I completely agree and right now I am trying to set my own boundaries in this life and I am doing good so far. But I seem to be struggling with a man that I fell for for because he is helping his ex-friend and well I've completely shut down emotionally. I don't want to say much on here. But to get to the point I think his ex girlfriend and him could learn from this course.
@BarbaraHeffernan
Жыл бұрын
So sorry to hear this, and that you've shut down. These types of situations are very difficult. And, yes, we always wish our loved ones had better boundaries... but we need to set ours given where our loved ones and others actually are... I wish you all the best with this 🌹
How do you set a boundary with a toxic or narcissistic friend who continues to befriend your separate friends behind your back and turns them against you. I have had a few friends do this. It’s like they all have the same manual. By the time you figure it out the other person thinks you’ve done something wrong or they’ve said they are “concerned” for you for no particular reason. What do you DO??
Thank you, Barbara.
Where is the boundary test please thank you
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I feel lots of emotions that dont let me think straight when i need to set a boundary, what do i do in those situations? Should i let the other person know that im rather confused and i will need to talk about this certain thing bit later or do i try to regulate my emotions and not postpone the talk?
@BarbaraHeffernan
Жыл бұрын
I often feel it is necessary to postpone the talk to regulate....
Thank you - I am not sure I understood what you meant about if you are in touch with your own value then healthy boundaries will be difficult? That seems to contradict things for me?
@BarbaraHeffernan
Жыл бұрын
Hmmm…. I’d agree that would not make sense. Knowing our values is very important for boundaries - we violate our own boundaries if we violate our values. I’ll have to re-listen- likely I wasn’t clear on something. Thanks for pointing out for others!
@andrejamarolt961
Жыл бұрын
@@BarbaraHeffernan There was no mistake, you said: "if you aren't in touch".. which makes perfect sense.
@melliecrann-gaoth4789
3 ай бұрын
I listened twice, closely and eventually decided it was a mistake- I heard it like the person above.