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@advaitakulkarni9799

Жыл бұрын

I really need to do this but the prices are real high. Like real. I’m a student n Indian can’t really pay 67k . It’s sad . But thank you for the video!

@Annieqt

Жыл бұрын

OMG! I have the tapping meditation app and never thought that it could help me to heal from My FA attachment! I’m so glad that I watched this vidéo of yours! Thank you Paulien!

@ImaginarySusan

9 ай бұрын

PAULINE! My first time meeting you. How coincidental that I am struggling currently with these challenges. The HEIDE PRIEBE videos on Avoidant Attachment have helped me make progress and I'm so grateful YOU popped up.! You are no😅w an official friend and mentor on my path to healing!😊 ImaginarySusan 🔥💜🫶🙏🌞

@curdqueenbutterchurnesquir7263

6 ай бұрын

I sobbed throughout the entirety of two of your videos so far. Thank you.

11:40- 15:10 NOTE TO SELF Tapping sequence to be done daily

Fear of rejection Fear of abandonment Fear of being unworthy and bad Also the fear of being unworthy of love because I am bad

I don't know if anyone has ever told you that, Paulien, but you are saving a lot of souls here. Thank you

@steffiyoung1

11 ай бұрын

I agree ... Paulien has been the only reason I've had hope in healing this. Her videos are so powerful and her approach so beautiful and gentle 💗

@rawann1001

27 күн бұрын

Yes❤

She starts the exercise around min 11:45 for those who are returning daily to learn. Like me. You mention "girls" twice in your awsome talk. Men suffer terribly from this as well. Thank you for the video.

I fear feeling trapped, not being able to leave somehow (irrationally); screwing up my life, losing the stability I've built for myself. That's my core fear.

@JonasAnandaKristiansson

8 ай бұрын

Yesss

@teresa1710

6 ай бұрын

I agree ❤

@ciaraskeleton

3 ай бұрын

Yeah fear of being smothered is another rational core fear. That's one of my big fears. The fear of having my autonomy taken, the fear of abandoning myself. But you have to face that and show yourself that you won't abandon yourself no matter what. So boundaries. Saying no. Staying engaged in all of your interests as well as socialising and being with others. Sounds impossible now, but you'll get there. FA attachment is a mixture of a lot of fears, handled via avoidance

It’s so funny to me that everyone started sobbing during the EFT… I started sobbing even before that, just as she was explaining the core fears. Thank you soooooo much for this.

@paulinax894

2 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@IKFKSwitch

4 ай бұрын

The minute I started with my pinky palm... and began to feel the discomfort due to my sensory processing disorder.... If I weren't on a lunch break at work, it'd be Niagara Falls. 😭😭

Honestly, I have just started watching your channel. But I'm so glad someone out there is helping Avoidant Attachment rather than just selling them like: " AVOID THESE TYPE OF PPL. THEY R BAD AT RELATIONSHIPS. BLABLA. ITS ALWAYS THEIR FAULT. NOT URS CUS THEY'RE AVOIDANT " so, thank you.

Those words are magical: "You can 100 percent heal this"

telling myself I’m good enough, that I deeply love myself, that I don’t want to miss out on things in my life because of these patterns always makes me sob. it’s so hard to believe that I’m good enough, but I know I am. thank you

Whoever you are out there: You deserve to love oneself. You’re allowed to receive love and to give love. I love you, Mr Universe.

Thank you for this. EFT session got me sobbing. I've been in a FA pattern with my partner and it's getting frustrating that I can't break it. Everything you said is what I'm going through. Feeling the doubts pushing away, hurting my partner, afraid he'll leave me the more I keep bringing up my doubts. I just hope I can heal from this soon because it's been so exhausting for both of us.

@MsRcamille

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much 😢

@Stephmargeth

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@nateo200

2 жыл бұрын

Man I am not FA but this helped a ton! Not gonna lie I did feel some strong feelings :) I suddenly remembered doing this as a kid! Didn't think it was a serious thing.

@Nicole_Riviere

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@CazKing43

8 ай бұрын

How did it go? I’m just getting to know someone and discovered I have a FA attachment…I don’t want him to leave either 😢😢😢

My husband is anxious-preoccupied and I feel like his reaction to things further feeds my fears.

This video is absolutely gold. As a person who watched 10 self improvment videos a day not one has resonated with me so deeply. Seeing how this video has only gotten 76k views is just way to little for the amount of amazing information in this one video.I hope it finds more people who need it. And I'm so glad it found me.

I just turned 35, not married, and most of my friends got married by 24. I need some major clarity. Lots of fears and anxieties once I begin to discuss more than the weather with a girl. I like psychoanalyzing everyone and controlling my environment.

@moulee7448

3 жыл бұрын

Heyy just take one step at a time.I know it feels so exhausting and annoying many times.We will heal from this❤❤❤

@thomasbrown3793

3 жыл бұрын

I have a hard time making friends if I can't control my environment

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

3 жыл бұрын

It's so logical you psychoanalyze and try to control your environment. You just want to be safe. To be sure you won't get hurt. You long for connection, but at the same time you are really afraid to get hurt. It's so logical, AND you can heal this. Today there will be a new video out that I would love for you to watch. You actually have gifts that are now clouded by fear, but that you will share naturally once you heal. You are not behind, and you are not broken.

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

3 жыл бұрын

What is your fearbrain telling you will happen when you don't control your environment?

@thomasbrown3793

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 That I won't be able to maintain any kind of boundary

I felt nothing meaningful during the tapping session but afterwards I did feel peaceful. I felt like I wanted to keep going. I think my body had a guard up but with repetition I hope I will start to feel more. Thank you for this.

Thank you for focusing on avoidants with compassion. That seems strangely rare. Some people seem to think avoidant = jerk. But that's not true. Jerks can be avoidants, but avoidants aren't jerks. I have subscribed and want to learn more. Your manner is so reassuring and... safe... that, well, until now I didn't realize how scared I really am. How I need reassurance too. I just express it differently. I have been moving more and more to healing from an avoidant style - even before I understood the term - but it's still there.

I think you missed the part where I as an FA am overwhelmed by the closeness, and fear that my partner will cross our boundaries unabated and hurt me, and coerce me into something I couldn't accept.

Wow! Words can’t describe how supportive, impactful and healing this all was! I balled my eyes out during the EFT with your words! If you ever feel called to do guided meditation EFT healing videos that would be absolutely heavenly !!!! Finally found out something wasn’t permanently wrong with me that I had no idea how to describe why I was the way I was!!!! You’re the most resonate person on this topic and it’s really supporting my healing and restoring hope to my process ! Thank you!

i am going for 12 month EFT therapy for my depression and anxiety... and it is working!!!! i am not cured :D and i need to see another therapist for talking therapy but i am so much better. i highly recommend it.

@j_fitzu

Жыл бұрын

I love to read this because im really struggling with my Depression and Anxiety right now.

I recently started dating someone I've loved for a long time, but I feel so fearful that it's hard for me to enjoy our time together. I worrying that im going to be to clingy, or not present enough for her. Part of me wants to go back to being friends because dating feels to raw and intimate that it hurts. I keep feeling my subconscious shut her out and push her away to protect myself from potential hurt even though I want to be close to her and I want to trust her. But at the same time I'm so afraid of letting her down. She asked me out first, but I still feel inadequate and unworthy to be with her. Trying to watch videos like this in effort to get better. Thanks for reading, and I wish you all the best.

I cried a lot after tapping and my heart beats so fast. Thank you so much!😊❤

Thank you Paulien! You are helping me a lot because I've recently discovered that I have this attachment. Once I took the time to really think about my life I realized I had traumatic childhood experiences. I had a very emotional unstabled father that wasn't supportive of my achievements (only my mother would get excited for me), would forget to pick me up in school while I was waiting hours for him, would never ask me questions about my day or my life and would only talk about himself and many more things. You are not alone guys

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

2 жыл бұрын

Ah I'm sending love to little Joana

@raniaramadan3819

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same father Plus He used to hit me , i remember one day i was bullied at school and i was in so much pain and he blamed me for being bullied! And he hit me so hard that my mums earning went off her ear while trying to protect me! That was about 2009 and it hurt as it was yesterday I now am facing huge intimacy issues and i have just discovered that i am that avoidant attachment and i need to fix this before it's too late🥲

As a master EFT practitioner for about 16 years- you did a fantastic job and you are adorable! Great work !!!

@Peaceout4337

3 жыл бұрын

Also, please put that you tap on the description- I had no idea this was going to happen in this video and it was wonderful

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

3 жыл бұрын

Ahh thank you so much, that's so sweet! I will, good idea!

I wasn’t expecting that to work, and I felt silly doing it, but I feel beyond relaxed now. Thank you.

As a Scorpio.. I feel many of us are naturally inclined to experience this. Amazing video, thank you.

@tiaho-whetuford5338

2 жыл бұрын

🦂🌞 to every dark aspect of you their is a brighter side

@OfficialFloydboy

2 жыл бұрын

@@tiaho-whetuford5338 I dig that 🦂🙏🏾

@brianhoneycutt5938

2 жыл бұрын

My mom is Scorpio sun Scorpio moon both squared by pluto and pretty dang avoidant. Hkwever my pisces sun libra moon dad was even more so, possibly due to being male and a military background with him and his dad.

@Pinelliephe

2 жыл бұрын

this attachment style is commonly picked up from childhood neglect and abuse, not zodiacs :/

@googoolars

2 жыл бұрын

Scorpio on 7H cusp, Chiron scorpio 7H

Jesus Christ Pauline, the depth and truth you speak about our FA lives is just staggering. Its so reassuring to hear someone explain all of the"weird" things we notice about ourselves and moreover the chance to heal

@ImaginarySusan

9 ай бұрын

You actually should have Typed, Thank you as the first word. Thankyou, Jesus Christ... honest. We are.

I tried to do this technique along with the video and after a couple of minutes I felt extreme relaxation and almost fell asleep. I felt no stress and muscle ache. Thank you so much! Even though I know stress will eventually return, I will be ready to work it out next time)) And thanks for the theory, this was exactly what I was searching for. Understanding that you are not alone and all broken is very important.

I really hope you see my message. I tired this today and felt nothing for a couple minutes not even sure if it was working than I waited out of no where I started crying and I could remember the times I felt loved thank you !

I came across your channel and i noticed a lot of the things you sajd resonated with how i behaved and how my lady herself is and i asked for a break. Thats how i found you and then you feeling that "out of love" with your now husband and me feeling those doubts scare me out of wanting to commit. I felt... right to be here. Sure its while we are on break and i dont know if shell take me back after these two weeks. This is day 2 and day 1 was EXCRUCIATING. Today i think more rationally and im taking actual action to heal myself and, if possible, save my relationship. Shes amazing yet i know we have our own crap to work on. As long as shes willing to give me space and is willing to work on herself too, im confident. Doing the tapping and what you were saying is EXACTLY what was going through my head and i felt relaxed. I felt hopeful. I felt strong and stable. Thank you for opening a path and bringing awareness to not only the attachment style but a way to heal. You're awesome!!

with my ex i realized later i was anxiously clinging to the stability of the relationship even though i was distancing myself from my partner by the end

i cried during the tapping session ❤ really felt so relieved after it happened. Thank you so much!!💗

Wow, the demonstration of the (Emotional Freedom Technique) was precise. Very straightforward.

I must admit I was so sceptical, after trying speech therapy and meditation, antidepressants and a lot of other things I was like: Alright this is most likely one of those "Buy my course to learn how to magically heal" videos but it certainly wasn't. I can't explain how peaceful I felt after EFT and I'm thankful for having some new hope I can heal. I will definitely watch your other videos soon, thanks a lot. :)

@JonasAnandaKristiansson

8 ай бұрын

"Meditation" isn't something one can "do" or "try". It is the Pure state of Being. The Essence of what and who you truly Are. Om Shanti

So helpful! Thank you for this.

Thank you for this video!

You‘re incredible, thank you. I finally feel understood

This is amazing. Thank you.

Thanks for much for this video.

Thank you so much for this

I definitely shed some tears doing this, I definitely needed this, thank you 🙏🏽

I’m crying my eyes out… thank you so much..

This is amazing. It worked for me!

Really really needed this. Thankyou so much ❤

Hello new subscriber! I’ve been going through your videos and I thank you!!! It’s great to know I’m not alone, but now I can put these weird emotions into words! I know it was probably silly to do it for us but it’s appreciated because now I can try it! Saved this for later ☺️

Wow , thank you 🙏🏼💜

My second time tapping…and it always makes me laugh and enjoy myself. I feel better afterwards.

Thank you that was beauuuutiful!!

Oh this brought tears 😢thank you so much for this 🙏🏾

This is so amazing.. thank you so much for sharing 😊

Thank u . This made me cry

This experience was so unexpected and so strange! This was my first time doing this and I broke down in tears. I appreciate this and will be adding it to my self soothing techniques. Thanks Paulien

I was a little skeptical but then I did it and I started crying. This was very healing thanks for sharing💝

I wish healing on everyone who is fearful avioidant because no matter how much you are loyal, and assure that you won't leave it will always be a barrier.

You have no clue on what this means to me. 32 year old man who has been having a lot of issues in relationships my whole life. Im now truly in love for the first time in years, again experiencing these fears and I felt it is time to actually really try to fix this. And all your said at the start of the video really hit home. And then the tapping… I cried like a little baby 😅 Im seeing a therapist, reading books and now this video. I finally have some believe that I can actually feel love, which is honestly crazy for me to believe. Hartstikke bedankt Paulien ❤️

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

2 жыл бұрын

Aw wat fijn dat je hier bent Jimmy :)

@ancala4140

2 жыл бұрын

Mind to share the books here Jim?

this was incredible wow thank you

This was really helpful. Thank you!! I've just started to learn I'm an FA and it explains so much. 🙏🏼❤🥰

I had no idea EFT tapping could help with this!! So glad I found your video 💞

Thank you! I needed this

Thank you for this beautiful gift… I think this is going to help me a lot. Really appreciating you for this! ❤️

Thank you 🙏🏽

111 I've seen many videos on this topic, but this one ! Oh it hits so different !!

I actually loved it! O was skeptical ar first... It definitely made me feel bettee at the end

Thank you so much for creating this video. The technique was amazing, after feeling more relaxed I burst into tears lol. I adore your energy 🤍 thank you again.

I really appreciate your work Thanks 😊 All love to you

It's so hard. I get so many random thoughts throughout the day that immediately make my heart start racing into a panack attack. Sometimes its something I can get stuck in for days. I want to heal. Me and my bf deserve for me to heal.

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

2 жыл бұрын

Yes you do deserve to heal, and I see you being in this hard place right now. It IS hard. How are doing now?

Thank you Paulina, as a fearful avoidant, I found this video helpful and I look forward to watching your other videos.

This is the 1st video i see of you & i cried so much, thanks for all of this♥️♥️

Thank you for your message of hope that I can have relationships and not destroy them (without understanding why).

Thank you soooo much! I sub to thank you, you are amazing xo I am an avoidant attachment, because of my childhood traumas. I love to heal myself :)

I feel calmer . This was my first time trying it

Ur video might have saved my life.. thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️

Thank you so much ❤

I watched the whole video and as soon as we started the EFT I was crying… I didn’t expect it but wow. Thank you for all this information ❤️

I recognize I am an avoidant but I feel like I have a fear of romantic emotions because I'm afraid if I get into a relationship that I might be accidentally settling for less, or that I'm gonna have to conform to what my partner wants for the rest of my life and that I'm trapped in it forever and I'm having trouble finding ways to fix it.

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

2 жыл бұрын

What you might be feeling is the fear of putting up boundaries and expressing your needs. Because when you have a belief that it is not safe to do that, or that you are not allowed to that, commitment becomes very black and white: you either have to completely conform and do everything the other person wants, or you can be alone and do what you want. There is a world of possibilities and opportunities inbetween, when you feel (more) comfortable voicing your needs and boundaries!

@tinywhiskers30

2 жыл бұрын

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Woah, thank you Paulien! In just one comment you gave me such a big realization. I think I know where to start to improve now, thank you so much for your advice!!!

Thank you so much for this! I just recently found out about the avoidant attachement, i always wondered what is wrong with me and why I am like this, this is helping me so much! Thank you!

Waow.. Tears was just running down att ease after the last two senteces.. thank you for opening Up this Door of nft to me 💜🙏

❤ i felt relaxed after the eft, it was intense and it felt amazing! will definitely be doing this

Thank you. You helped me during a pretty bad panic attack this morning 🙏

Thanks .I really appreciate 🙏 🙌 ❤

I definitely shed tears and feel emotional..

Thank you. Cried a lot tonight. I've gone emotional. I felt like I was being held and safe... Thank you! ❤️

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

2 жыл бұрын

Ahh

Thanks!

Tears got me by surprise in the eft exercise

Thank you.🙏🏿

Thank you

Thank you ❤️

That was a really great tapping session, Paulein. I definitely felt the tension welling up/triggers. Need to do a few more rounds. Thank you! ❤

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy it was valuable! Tapping is such a magical, powerful tool. Have you gotten around to more rounds? Let me know if you have questions!

Another core fear that is super strong is fear of betrayal. That one is stronger for me than rejection

thank you so much! I almost cried! I know I'm fearful avoidant being rejected by my mother my whole life. I"m tired of ruining my relationships.

Brought me to tears.

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

8 ай бұрын

❤

For me I’m aware and afraid of having my freedom taken away and I’m afraid of not making the right choice, I need to be sure. I’m not afraid of rejection or abandonment, Im scared of commitment and I’m certain of what I want, but I want to make sure I make the right choice that’s a challenge to me, not knowing if it’s the right choice or if I am making a mistake. So I avoid romantic relationships and dating with men but I do have many men friends and women friends, I don’t go any further then just being friends with men. I love myself and I’m secure with myself and I’m independent but I know I’m an avoidant so I’m working on that and trying to heal before anything. Thank you for sharing your KZread video, I have been trying to heal from my avoidant attachment issue.

I felt goosebumps all over my body and also yawning. Hope I will heal. Thanks Paulien

Tears welled up two red the end of the EFT because I sooooo much want to fix this in me. Thank you for sharing❤️

Thank you! 11:14 EFT start

yo, THANKS! I do tapping with brad. This was so great and tailored to me.

This is the best video i have seen about F/AA! You gave me so much encouragement! Thank you so much, you just got a new subscriber ❤

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for being here!!

Your channel has been the best I have found in fearful avoidant attachment. You truly have a gift! Please do more video like this!!

@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870

8 ай бұрын

Thank you for being here❤

Thank you so much for this video, I really appreciate what you said at the start that as you begin to let go of your fears your perspective really does begin to change

❤ felt thanks