the method they use on this show in psychology is called 'Flooding'..they basically make guests face their fear and increase their anxiety to a maximum. .because anxiety can't stay max forever it eventually calms down. So even though they are childish he wants to overcome his fear in this way. stop blaming th show

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

I agree. I don't blame the show. I blame Korean culture for continuing to stigmatize psychiatry, mental illness, anxiety, etc. As for others "blaming the show"- I think people are more angry at people's reactions (how they laugh at his anxiety) rather than how they try to resolve the issue (though I'm sure people disagree with the "flooding" attempt as well). I hope in the coming years, Korean society might be more open to seeking treatment for depression, anxiety, and the like.

@zachgustavo

7 жыл бұрын

PianoFanatic1989 I'm totally agree with you

@Nyasunday

7 жыл бұрын

PianoFanatic1989 it's not only the Korean culture but a lot of other culture don't take mental illness has seriously has the 'western culture' of some reason

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

PianoFanatic1989 Okay well it is a show...he knows how it works...they cant be all sad throughout the entire thing...this is what the guy wanted..an audience and people to publicly help him?? Lol. Stop being so picky. Literally this is such good way to address a problem, having the smiles of people who support him ..not everything can be exactly the way you want it...and not everything works the way you see it....and you can stop complaining about pointless things...😑😑

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

지국 빵! I'm not asking for them to be sad throughout the entire segment. I'm asking for the show to aid him properly. There have been episodes where the hosts have done a good job of shedding light to issues present in daily society, whether it be through guests with familial problems, racial issues, etc. but in this case, they downplay his anxiety entirely, blame it on stress, and say it can be overcome if he can gather the courage to do so. Severe anxiety of this level can't be solved with a simple, "You'll get over it eventually." Try telling that to a depressed person- "you'll get over it eventually." Sorry, that's not how mental illness works. The audience, also in large part, don't seem to find this as a big issue which leads one to the conclusion that Korean society itself doesn't acknowledge this as an important issue. You yourself said that I am "complaining about pointless things" so I can see that you too don't take mental illness seriously.

mental disorders are not mere constructed fears that can be overcome with people telling you it's fake, this show needs to do justice to mental disorders and not undermine their severity in its oversimplification

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

+Amirah BrS There's still a stigma in Korea when it comes to seeking professional help. Unfortunately, I think the nation has a long way to go in terms of accepting mental illness, anxiety, etc.

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

Amirah BrS Okay well they never forced anyone to come onto their show..the people who come willingly come..he clearly wants to be exposed to his fear and become better...of course he is scared lol but they never forced him to do anything...they are just helping him like he asked them to...

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

Amirah BrS People always finding fault in good things...this is a good program...Im glad that it exists and operates in this way.

@ajossi

7 жыл бұрын

Amirah BrS this is far from a mental disorder, this is a social anxiety which is what used to be called stage fright. its just about facing your fears. he needs to go live with kyungri, that'll cure him.

@pluto19leo

7 жыл бұрын

Amira, you're totally right on. At first I liked this program but still enjoyed watching even though they always treat mental /emotional disorders in a confusing variety of ways. One show may recommend help and have polite interactions and yet with another similar case they differently. 🤔 Wonder how much of this is the writers and producers directions? 🖖 I really feel that the hosts are intelligent hood people but except for the new young host they are all professional comedians. Which is the basis of the show. 🤔 The show needs to vet stories and guests in a better way.

this show needs psychologists. this is anxiety- the way to overcome it isn't to force him to talk to girls and make them sit next to him when he's not ready. he needs to slowly work through it- overcome it little by little.

@xTenshiAi

7 жыл бұрын

exactly!! i dont understand why they dont have psychologists on this show. even one would be fine

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

I don't think psychologists/psychiatrist treatments are seen as legit in Korea. Like, there's still this stigma around them. If people do see psychiatrists, they do it secretly, so I'm not at all surprised that they don't have a specialist on as well as why they don't understand his anxiety issue on this show.

@ImaJustKeeding

7 жыл бұрын

I agree that a lot of guests on this show need therapy but this is a variety show not a documentary. The purpose is to do a short segment observing the situation and then wrap it up with a bow while still making the audience laugh. The guests will have seen the show before and should know what they're getting into. All a real psychologist would do in this setting is say a few encouraging words at the end tbh.

@sahaam1507

7 жыл бұрын

Actually forcing him to interact with girls would be an effective technique. Its called flooding and it is a known treatment for phobias

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

Sahaam None of these individuals are professional therapists so there's no guarantee that they're doing the flooding therapy in the proper way. Plus, how many times is he going to be in a controlled environment to allow desensitization to said phobia (not many if he doesn't have a therapist to set them up)? How is he going relax or use relaxation techniques if there's no therapist to coach him through it?

he has anxiety. its understandable with his trauma. everyone handles situations differently. he needs to overcome it little by little. not be forced to sit with a woman like they did to him when he wasnt ready

@pattymatty633

7 жыл бұрын

CurlyMyth *exactlyT_____T*

@krishaaldepolla5247

7 жыл бұрын

CurlyMyth yes and on another video (the first part) the guy next to him forced him to look at the girls by holding onto his head

@curlymyth4735

7 жыл бұрын

Megan Roxy exactly!!! i saw that!! i have social anxiety (not as bad as him though) and its very difficult. its a mental cage and thats the worst kind. there isnt just a key that you can easily unlock the door. you havr to figure it out alone and slowly make your own way out. its so draining anf painful. i sympothize with him

@jaylynpayne1

7 жыл бұрын

its his fault for going on a show like this, he should have known that they was gonna pull some shit like this lol

@curlymyth4735

7 жыл бұрын

Mee Young i think he thought he could handle it. he really wants to get over this fear because it is such a burden. but when he was finally in the situation he regreted it and was uncomfortable the whole time because they were very agressive and didnt uderstand his fear (his fear is ver common)

situations in this show esp like this one, psychologists would be very benificial.

@timslee0618

4 жыл бұрын

Very early on they did, but after that they only introduce them to pro's after filming if the concern gets high enough votes

@TheControlBlue

3 жыл бұрын

I'd rather they talk to people they can trust rather than people who treat the human mind like some sort of schema. I've found that psychologists are good at explaining, but not very wise when it comes to the practical steps to resolve one's problem.

I think they should invite a resident psychologist on the show to help people deal with their issues

@LifeOfAnAwkwardOreo

6 жыл бұрын

Youngjae is Daehyun's Princess the do have them actually. After the show the guests are actually seen by psychologists and have a second or third consultation on behalf of the show. This show is about having the support of your nation as well as a means to get professional help.

@TheTurtleWithATopHat

5 жыл бұрын

+Gabriela Rissel Oh wow, I never knew that about the show. That's a great process they have, then. How did you find out they do that?

I don't think forcing him is gonna solve anything that's just rude

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

dezu bb But you have to start somewhere right?

@daisys1616

7 жыл бұрын

지국 빵! Not with force. Like the interviewer literally grabbed his face without permission and forced him to look at the girl. I think that's disrespectful

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

dezu bb yeah thats true i would feel bad if i were him

@viviansantiago6531

7 жыл бұрын

you also have to understand that's how the Korean sense of humor is.

@abbycheng7809

7 жыл бұрын

Daisy S there is a stigma against psychiatrists in korea, thats probably why they seem to not see it as serious as others. but u do have to understand how they are trying and how they congratulated him on his bravery

the more i watch this show the more i find that the people who come on this show have extreme to mild mental health problems that are not looked at upon or correctly diagnosed. s korea must have stigma against mental health or their knowledge doesnt seem to be that high. this is clearly anxiety or ptsd something like that. hope he gets the help he needs, bless him.

@meh.96

7 жыл бұрын

I really don't want to say this, but these are the reason why their country have a high rate of suicide cases. They seem to undermine anxiety, depression, or any mental disorder. I know this show is variety show, but they need atleast one professional counselor to give their advice here.

@mayjeganmogan4514

7 жыл бұрын

Watopeng yeah, i agree. it's kind of serious since they are a HIC but they dont even regard these matters.

@EXOfans

7 жыл бұрын

agree.. :/ I can see this is a serious problem but seems like the people didn't really know how serious it is. I keep frowning while watching. I really hope he get the help he needs..

@PianoFanatic1989

7 жыл бұрын

+May Jeganmogan +Watopeng Yup. You hit the nail on the head. There still is a huge stigma around in Korea about seeking proper help- the Korean mentality is mostly to keep problems bottled up or face them head on (sort of like how they were forcing the poor kid to talk to the women to his left). If people do see psychiatrists, they do it secretly (they pay privately versus paying through their government insurance so that it doesn't appear on their insurance records to avoid being publicly shamed or losing face). I'm not at all surprised that they don't have a professional therapist on the show- there's still too much of a bad reputation among them, sad as it is. Nor am I surprised at how everyone laughed it off when seeing how anxious he was. Korea has a long way to go in terms of accepting mental illness, anxiety, etc.

@2shayshay00

7 жыл бұрын

number one reason why I stopped watching this show bc it made me so angry that they don't have a professional there or at least for the more difficult ones. the way they "solve" some of the issue is calling upon the society to pressure them to stop their issue and poke fun and laugh

I think a lot of people have misconceptions of this show: it is NOT a show that has doctors and psychologists. It is a variety show that helps people rant about their problems. So you can't expect all those celebrities and all the audience to treat him like a patient with anxiety and trauma.

for some reason I can understand this guy.. especially when his mind suddenly become blank..I have social anxiety disorder. my anxiety become even worse when I have to talk with guy. some time there is no words you can use to explain how anxious you are and it's frustrating. get better soon. I don't want it to ruin your future..fighting..

@anabelle9380

7 жыл бұрын

Aoi Scarlet same here, i feel his anxiety is more severe than mine and i think he should seek a more professional help

@yeehaw4690

6 жыл бұрын

yes I had social anxiety too. I couldnt even talk to my teachers but about a year ago I realised that I have to get myself out of this mess. So I started to fake confidence and eventually it got better. I believe I made a lot of progress since then. I'm not 100% fine but it's a lot better. I hope this tip helps you out. fighting

@muhamadzahier8401

6 жыл бұрын

Aoi Scarlet me too but mine is not critical as before...when i was 15..im not gonna talk to anyone unless the one i close...its not only happen when a woman ask me but also when a guy ask me...my mind just got blank and panic...then i force myself to try to talk with other people...in the beginning its really hard but then it become easier...now i still nervous when stranger or someone that im not close talk to me...but i still can talk to them and joking with them..the only problem i still is had is...i can't talk on the phone...i always not answer if someone call me😂btw sorry for my bad grammar

@yayafiroz7120

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, me too. I get panicked when strangers approach me, especially guys

@jessicapeyton5444

5 жыл бұрын

@@muhamadzahier8401 I am the same with the phone thing! hahaha I definitely have anxiety when speaking in class, but I do it anyway sometimes...lol

He needs to get rid of his anxiety one step at a time and not by automatically forcing him to look at girls

@user-vd7sf1qv1k

7 жыл бұрын

sol S. lol what is a smaller step than that?? looking at girls...maybe looking at pictures of girls....lol

@kasirsadalos

7 жыл бұрын

지국 빵! The reason why I said step by step because you can't just force him to break his anxiety at once. It's not that easy to stop having anxiety and it's better for him if he could see a therapist or if the show hired actual professionals

@valtxpia

6 жыл бұрын

Ikr that was so rude of them.

@nayanasumaniaka3287

6 жыл бұрын

solada ong stan?

@hellokiwi25

5 жыл бұрын

What you’re talking about is a form of psychological treatment called SD which entails gradually exposing the individual to their phobic stimulus. However the show did nothing wrong. The show basically carried out a simulation of an effective psychological treatment for specific anxiety called flooding. Flooding is basically immediate exposure- what you call “automatically forcing him” and it’s actually really effective- hence the reason he was able to improve by being able to talk to and make eye contact with the girl in the audience. The show did nothing wrong so please avoid commenting on matters you don’t have knowledge of.

Aww he is adorable!

@destinybuenrostro1345

7 жыл бұрын

ygxillionaire he reminds me so much of D.O from Exo

Saying "You should have some guts." is, for me, a little insensitive. Maybe due to the generation gap or the lack of awareness, we usually take these sicknesses lightly when we shouldn't. His fear for women already affects his lifestyle, he can't go to the hospital because of women, he can't order food because of women, I really hope that he could overcome this fear of his maybe with the help of a psychiatrist.

@machalattes

5 жыл бұрын

same sentiments

He's really lucky to have such good friends... This show might suck at solving problems but it gave him a chance to challenge his anxiety and start to face the problem in his life. I wish him all the best!

It's trauma but at the same time he will learn to cope with it eventually and hopefully a girl can come into his life that makes him not be so scared at first.

GUYS YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I FANGIRLED WATCHING HIM TALK TO THE GURL!

@justastan5240

7 жыл бұрын

SAME asdnisfsdioghinn

@cplova333

7 жыл бұрын

Elly Gaara what the fuck

@WYGTYA

7 жыл бұрын

Elly Gaara I wonder how old are you. It's very alarming how people are laughing or making jokes about the guy's anxiety disorder. It's not some romantic Drama.

@nabihahzulkiflee2047

7 жыл бұрын

bitch, this is not shoujou manga. this is the real problem. goodness.

@alysha5644

7 жыл бұрын

please understand that this is not some movie wherein an actor pretends to be affected by girls. this is an actual person, who has an actual problem. he isn't faking his anxiety to amuse others, he actually is experiencing difficulty. so please, don't turn this guy's struggle into some god awful romance movie.

The more I watched, the more I felt sad for the guy. This is a serious issue and in western culture, we would immediately refer to psychiatric aid. It's sad that there is a huge stigma around mental illness in Korea, and I think having a doctor in the psychiatric field on the show could help slowly lift that stigma.

@MHYZ116

7 жыл бұрын

In Love With Mango Asia still behind about mental health tbh.. Only minority take it seriously while others just continue to ridicule those who had this..

@drea-i2y

3 жыл бұрын

in american culture not western culture

I don't know how I feel about this episode. Like you can tell he clearly has an anxiety disorder, yet they are forcing him to "look at the audience" and say this and that rather than talking to him, hearing him out and trying to give him the best advice. They should have had an expert on the show to actually have that connection with him. Like he said, it's easier said than done, it's a battle he has with his mind which effects him a lot. Really wish they could have been more considerate rather than making jokes and laughing very often.

His friends are good. Supporting and encouraging him at the end, was nice of them

I felt bad how they kinda kept forcing him to talk to her but I think it did kind of help in osme way even just a little and I was kind of cheesing so hard when he finally looked at her and kind of smiled. EEEEK 💕💕💕💕

stop complaining that its the mc's wrong its not their fault tho.-. the one who makes him go to this program is himself why are you complaining? i understand if it's his mother / sister / other relatives take him bcs of him problem and then you guys complain but its his own will and he wants to make a forwars move and bear it so he decides himself to go, not that he got force

@jdescoto981

6 жыл бұрын

ty #changeup Yeah but they offered to help. I think forcing something he doesn't want is gonna help him. It's not even a subtle type of forcing, he was forced to look, sit and talk to girls which he isn't fond of.

@srta_beca

6 жыл бұрын

Denniel Escoto But if no one keeps telling and insisting for him to do it then he will never do it. Some times to overcome something, you need others to push it a little.

@monjuralam9146

5 жыл бұрын

Denniel Escoto .

Reminds me of myself back in elementary to high school. But since I'm kinda okay now. I can now clearly point out the whys and whats. 1) I was scared of both men and women who were older than me. Simply because I felt inferior and unworthy of their time. 2) I wasn't *scared* of girls my age but my mind always went blank when they try to talk to me. I thought they were *OTHERS* 3) I was completely fine talking to boys my age, youngsters and elderly people regardless of gender. I thought of them as equals We have pretty similar symptoms but there's a slight difference, For older men and women, I would sweat profusely and both my hands and lips tremble but I can make steady eye-contact and I know what I wanna say but I can't say it properly. As for girls my age, I don't sweat nor tremble but I can't make eye contact and I simply don't have anything to say but I do respond to questions without looking at them. One of my biggest problems back then was also *ordering food* at the school cafeteria or restaurant. I simply couldn't do it. And whenever I tried, I would just back out right in the middle of ordering. Which is why I had my friend (my only close friend at the time) to order for me whenever I wanted to buy something. I just gave him like a tip or something or I told him he could buy one for himself too just so that he'd agree to do it. He kept doing it for me from 4th Grade to end of High School. It's weird... but right after I went to college. (Since I didn't have any friends) I tried to order for myself for the very first time and it wasn't so bad after all. I don't have any problems talking to people anymore after that. =)

@Peacelovek3199

6 жыл бұрын

Roger Tan Exactly. It’s all about experience. When you don’t have much experience/exposure or have bad experience than it might be hard. But like when you talk to them you kind of overcome that feeling. I used to be shy and not talk to many people but when my cousin told me to not care what people think about you and people will like you if you are an open person and that definitely helped me. But still I kinda have a little anxiety with men who are like 40-50s outside my family(not everyone outside but certain people). Like I kinda feel uncomfortable because of things that happened in the past. I feel like definitely during/after college really helps out with that since it’s like exposure to the outside world. Also it’s good to know that you overcome your anxiety🙌🏽

He must be so handsome when he was young that's why he's always involve into many rumors that cause him traumatized or anxiety with girls. Eyyy. It's those who spread rumors fault. Why are people so nosy -.-

He seriously needs to see a psychologist. Although this is out of topic but his friend is very attractive (the one with the big build up) or maybe it's just me :)

@cuddleweather

6 жыл бұрын

Gummy 1988 omg i scrolled down to find if there were any comments abt the big guy 😂 his satori is so cute!!!

@bubblegum4386

5 жыл бұрын

Yesssss ikr!! I thought it was just me that thought that😂

Huh , I can relate to the one where his mind completely blank everytime a woman talk to him . Not that I'm afraid of men or women . My case is not as serious but sometimes I have those moments where I mess up something I say to a stranger . There's this once incident when I blurted out a menu that doesn't exist when ordering through the drive thru because I was so panic and the one time I was ordering something too and just said yes yes although I didn't want to at first .. now I have to write down on a paper or type it in my phone before asking or ordering something . With males , I just prefer to distance myself sometimes from them because I sometimes get nervous around them , it takes me a while to talk to them but so far I only have a male friend that is closer to me . But anyway , I was suprised when one of the mcs tried to move his head forcefully to look at the women like ??? I think it's quite rude ._.

@Morgane971

7 жыл бұрын

I used to get myself in similar situations, until a few years ago I got really nervous when talking to strangers

@sygb.550

7 жыл бұрын

miss nafa same, my society and family kinda shaped me into this panicked person i am, not to blame them but when it gets really hard for me and i get really depressed and stressed i remind myself that it's not completely my fault , and that makes me feel better knowing that am not gonna fully blame myself and bring it down

@Kukukakikukakukaku217

7 жыл бұрын

miss nafa wow.. me too! i used to have some traumatic events with men in the past. so im very timid now with them eventhough i used to be very active and bubly. but it slowly gets better because i force myself to face my fear. now i have man close friend again, even its still just one. i never seek any help to profesional because i feel embarassed with it. and there is none near me..

Once again real counselors would help issues like this if they gave one an official spot on the show

@LanaBellaVargas

7 жыл бұрын

Brittany Blessed counselors aren't the same in korea as they are in western countries you know. korea tends to look over mental illness as something not serious, so its not the show; its the culture

this makes me feel really bad... i hope he overcomes this in the future little by little. i hope this video brought awareness to people who think this is how you cure someones anxiety. it is not.

I think the ideal scenario to ease him in would be if he was with a big group of guy friends and maybe one female friend. That way, there are other people to talk to and he doesn't have to interact with her but he can get used to a woman being around him. Ideally a tomboy 🤔 this is a tricky one.

idk why but i find a guy like him is cute

I used to have social anxiety and it's been about 7 years of me seeing my therapist, taking proper medicine, and self meditation and I feel I'm now better. You definitely need time and the right tools for yourself with this situation.

10:30 I ship it

@SYER3N

6 жыл бұрын

lana-xoxo me too

@Seokjinnie90

6 жыл бұрын

Same!!

he is so adorable and sweet I really hope he gets some professional help to overcome this

...he and the girl are so cute i really hope they got closer after the show

At first he just seems like overthinking alot and I understand because I did that alot too (making scenarios in my head, but mainly negative thoughts) but his overthinking has turned into anxiety, poor guy..

Aww I love the last part when he communicate with the lady!I SHIP OMGGG!I hope he gets better because he is legitly shy+innocent+talkative which is my ideal type!which is so cool!

awww when he made that noise when she touched him, I just wanted to jump threw my screen and huh/comfort him but of course I wouldn't be able to because I'm a girl 😭

Such a strong guy. I have social anxiety disorder and I would have cried if I had been exposed to that situation.

I respect him for his courage and face his fear. He will soon recover from it with the help of his friends. Good thing he has understanding and caring friends. Hwaiting!!

THIS was so adorable!! He is so handsome

AIGOO ADORABLE. I HOPE HE FIGHTS THIS TRAUMA LITTLE BY LITTLE

Am i only one who thinks that he is cuteeee>< Hope he overcomes this and have a family. Good luck !

As an introvert guy who still have this anxiety, I would like to say something too. I used to be afraid of girls and women especially those who are teachers. But now, I lost most of my anxiety and I could easily talk to girls now. There are some girls/women that are hard for me to approach or me feeling nervous being approached by them though. On some girls/women, my mind go blank sometimes that I don't even know what to say(regardless if they are beautiful or not). I still have this anxiety but I think it will gone one day because it gets better from day to day as I try to expose myself to company of female more. Also, I have been thinking that I want to date a girl like him too because I never date a girl my whole life. So, please don't hate me if I'm very nervous and sweat a lot if I get a date with a girl one day. I never date a girl but imagining it makes me nervous. Hope my fellow sufferers get better too. It's very hard at first but it will get better if you surround yourself more with girls/women through the psychology method "flooding". P.S. : When Jiyong talked to the girl, it made me smile happily I watched it more than 5 times for that part :)

@bibi-ih5iy

7 жыл бұрын

Gomez Subject I've the same situation but with boys xD I just keep asking myself why this happens to me and why my friends can be friendly towards boys, why i can't i? It bcs of things that have happen like jiyoung talked about. I hope you overcome your fear!! Girls are actually really sweet and understandable, well most of the girls are but if you meet one who is completely different from what i said, there'll be hardship while you go through it so don't give up!

@gomezsubject6102

7 жыл бұрын

crybaby Thank you. Somehow you gave me confidence now. Thank you

@muhamadzahier8401

6 жыл бұрын

Gomez Subject me too...but not only with woman but also man...but im not sweating..i just got blank everytime stranger or someone who r not close to me talk or ask me...but i manage to overcome it...but i still have that problem when someone call me😂😂im prefer to face to face with the person than talk in phone

In most Asian countries, most people would just tell ones with mental disorders like depression, anxiety, or bipolar to man up and tell them that they are too sensitive. It was like this for me this way because I develop depression in a very young age (6th grade) and my friends would just think that I'm sensitive and negative and completely ignored it. It wasn't until 3 years after that I was officially diagnosed of depression. But still, it is highly ignored in my country especially and there are only a few circles of people who actually do acknowledge and care about it.

He's honestly really cute.

He has anxiety from a trauma which is understandable. This show needs professionals for these types of situations because it was wrong to force him to sit next to and talk to women when he stated that he had anxiety towards such situations. Imagine if you had to be forced to face what you're scared of or gives you anxiety? I am like him, I am scared of snakes (particularly pythons). I get such bad anxiety when I even think about them let alone having to see a picture or video of them and worse, being forced to have one NEAR ME OR TOUCH ME!!!! just the sheer thought of it gives me anxiety so it was wrong for them to do that to him.

my heart goes out for him! i understand him really well! he needs counselling! he needs to be in an environment that he feels comfortable in order for him to overcome what he is uncomfortable with. talking everything out with a therapist would be the best option as they will slowly but surely help him overcome

I think it’s great he took an initiative to be in a room of about 100 women. And honestly he looks and acts adorable!!

I do feel like they are stressing him a bit but it's a pretty big problem and it's not like time will really help so he does have to be force and really take a step. I think it's good that they realize that he needs to see more women and realize that nothing bad will happen. He will be okay with a bit more advice Hwaiting

People who never experienced this will never understand.. I do have anxiety around opposite gender too but not as worse as him.. in my case, I'll avoid walking to the direction where there are a group of males.. so I can understand his problem and hope he would go find therapist to solve his problem rather than coming out at hello counselor.. they are just making his anxiety worsen..

Why are people complaining so much about a little thing, why not talk about how much he actually improved? I mean, sure, they've tested his boundaries and stuff, but look at his improvement!!

He has good friends atleast

I honestly wish him the best! It hurts me that stupid rumors made a good person afraid of others... I absolutely hate bully. Please be stronger ! Not only for yourself, but also for the girl you will love and make happy! fighting!

I feel sympathetic with what he's feeling and going through, because I was in his situation when I was his age. This is not a simple shyness with girls. My problem was I was labelled from childhood as a shy kid by my family because I was very introverted and reserved that it was wrong to be that way, and growing up that was ingrained in me. I also have a traumatic experience that I went through on top of that. I can't understand what's wrong with me because whenever I meet new people I can't talk to them, I can't look at the person, hands sweating profusely, nervous to the core that I stutter when I speak, and my mind goes blank then fight or flight kicks in, like what he did when one of the girls sat beside him. If my mind's not blank my mind is racing in different directions that I get overwhelmed and shuts up. The embarrassment that I felt after only worsened my situation. My subconscious was always telling me that people will not like me because I can't express my feelings, that I'm shy etc. It's quite true that when he gets to college he will be forced to communicate and improve his situation, but the anxiety will always be there unless he go to a psychiatrist, but he will need to learn and be patient on himself if he wants to somehow manage it one day. But it will never be easy. What the mcs doing to him are well intentioned but in a wrong way, it will only worsen for him.

I was so proud when he talked with the girl.

Everyone stop saying he should go get treatment and stop saying the show ain't helping! He chose to come and he even wrote a letter to be in the show

As one commenter mentioned, one of the ways for a person to overcome their fears is to face their fears. Sure, the people in the show were a bit insensitive but that is one of the ways to help a person overcome their fears. Also, just in case someone misunderstands again, they're not laughing at his difficulties. I don't know what the subtitles are like since I don't need them but they're not always 100% correct. Heck, they're sometimes 50% wrong...

Oh my glob he's so precious!!

the hosts really don't know things like anxiety. they should not just let a woman sit beside him forcely, it should be overcomed little by little, not just by a host but a psychologist smh

He'll be a INTERNATIONAL PLAYBOY in 2 years

@chromatose7885

7 жыл бұрын

Venus Hniang Please realize the difference between being shy in your teens vs having an anxiety condition in your adult hood. it is a little bit rude to say thing like this.

@EXOfans

7 жыл бұрын

wow... seems like you don't know how mental disorder work.. if you do. you will not say that thing easily. though if you are mature enough even though you don't know how mental disorder work.. you will never say that because you will think first..

@billieee719

7 жыл бұрын

Triggered. Report. Bye.

I was scared homeboy would pass out, honestly. I've been shamed for my social anxiety and the best way to solve it isn't to force yourself into situations you're uncomfortable with. It's a process and the last thing you deserve is to be shamed or told you're too soft or too sensitive or told to "just get over it". Your feelings and fears are valid and you deserve help, love and support.

he should accept and realize his anxiety and keen on to change it by his own , and face it so he would get rid of it because change comes from within.

It's sad that he worrying for others. He's avoiding contact just so they wouldn't get hurt, but he's the only getting hurt.

honestly i was this guy back in high school. college changed me. baby steps...baby steps. take thr initiative to say hi or good morning, even if its a girl/woman passing by. Once you know it, you'll be carrying full conversations with every women

He has such good friends

can I just say this. I've been to Korea and I understand their sense of humor now. Although I do agree they should have at least one psychologist there we shouldn't hate. they also vote on it to see if it's something to really be concerned about. but at least the show is also trying to make these people see what a little push can do.

It's good to hv good friends like them for the support. Another thing, I respect to Yeongja unnie for her common sense when the female guest sitting beside him and make him uncomfortable. Then, she ask the female guest to change sit immediately.

He's got such good friends

I can say I relate to him so much but I'm a female. I would never look at guys in the eye and would avoid talking to them. It got better in my case but in some cases I still avoid guys. Things like walking facing the floor, walking around to avoid guys was normal for me too ;-; The feeling when you just start to sweat is the worst cuz you don't want them to notice but you just can't help it and the next thing you know, you just run away. I just hope he overcomes his trauma. I don't know why I was afraid of guys but its just me ToT.

he's really cute ; ; i hope he gets over his trauma soon,, it's going to be hard but i'm sure he can do it! 💓

aawwww i feel soo bad for him. he's way to cute to be this shy i hope they show like him after the show so we can see if he's improved on his social skills towards girls

He has great friends

10:57 that's cute.. i ship them😆

I LOVE THE WAY THE MC JUST MENTIONS IOI 😭😭 omg I miss ioi

He So looks so adorable

His friend the one wearing black hoodie is cute😁❤

his friend in the grey jumper is really cute

it's called flooding

hes so sweet i really hope he can find some sort of help for this and overcome it, he seems like he would be *so* kind to his girlfriend in the future

Everyone keeps complaining that this show need real psychiatrists and counsellors but i think its a good thing that they use ppl who haven't rly study about it because they relate more with then other than just saying it cause you studied it. But when you have ppl that have experienced it and not only saying stuff they have remembered from text books and college i think it really helps. Ofcoure sometimes u need professional help like this story is more for the pros but other stories like my father likes my sister more i think it doesn't really need professional help but rly just someone to listen to and give advice

He's so precious poor baby his anxiety must be horrible.

This seems really serious, poor him that he had to live with this anxiety and be anxious all the time. I hope he has overcame his fear tho and now lives without feeling anxious. I see that hes improved so much by being able to look at the girl and proceeded a little bit of convo. I believe he could overcame it.

Someone will say this fear is fake!! Believe me this fear is not fake..

Poor guy.. I hope he will be able to overcome his fear! Cheer up! :)

I have such bad anxiety and being forced into a situation that brings on my anxieties is like the woooooorst thing to do to me.

I just think he was brave bc at least he has tried to face his fear, + I praise he can nail this out and find someone to love...putz

He's so cuteee

poor boy ;; also hes such a cutie

Eu adoro esse programa! É o "casos de família" coreano

Best show ever😂

lol guys hello counselor isn't a therapy place, they are normal people, they don't do psychology also the boy appeared on the show knowing what it would be like. I think they reacted very well with him, they did what they could do, FIGHTING to both the boy and hello counselor.

Its so sad how rumours destroy a person's soul and make them exposed to worst mental illnesses! People spreading and involving in rumours should stop their shitty acts and get their senses together.

i feel teary om

People who are angry about them not taking him seriously as u want them to be please remember He CAME to the show on his own And non of them are psychological experts They did what they can do for his anxiety and acknowledges it to not call him a coward

Hope he will overcome it, fighting

I really hope he gets better❤️

He is so cute and has a great personality! I am getting secondhand anxiety just watching this though. For me, I have what I guess is social anxiety but it's just in general. It gets on my nerves when people call me shy because that's not how I see myself. Of course I am more open with my friends. But when I want to make a comment in class, my temperature rises and I get this bad feeling in my gut, but I basically have to ignore it. Sometimes I fumble with my words too, because I'm trying to figure out how to express what I want to say. I mean you can have courage and do things in spite of your anxiety, but that doesn't make it magically go away. It's like a decision every time, "Do I want to deal with this today or not?"

He needs a hug

6:16 the synchronized sighs of disappointment 😂

I guess they used the psychological method of flooding without even knowing 😬

When he looked at the girl's mother, I almost didn't read the subtitles because of how pretty his eyes are