having and raising babies the old fashioned ways
This week I'm answering your questions about all things baby! These days there are so many options and decisions to be made in regards to having and raising a family - too many options if you ask me! Many of my choices are considered unconventional today, but a couple hundred years ago and for all of history before that, they would have been the norm. We've made progress in some ways, but we've lost ground in others. Let's talk about it!
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TIMESTAMPS
0:15 intro
1:25 - what do you do if baby gets stuck/shoulder dystocia during homebirth?
6:42 - would I recommend home birth or unassisted birth for a first-time mom?
9:49 - book list for home birth and unassisted birth
11:27 - oral ties
14:30 - preparing older siblings for a new baby
16:16 - Should you have a stash of breastmilk in the freezer?
18:13 - how to get through the day without feeling exhausted or losing your patience
22:49 - Neuflora dresses
23:52 - how to prepare mentally for labor
30:09 - belly sleep vs. back to sleep
35:09 - co-sleeping/bedsharing
40:04 - nursing in public
42:15 - was I scared or worried when my labor lasted longer than the others
44:42 - vaccines
50:02 - pacifiers
53:11 - vaginal birth vs. c section
Pregnancy and birth book list: www.amazon.com...
Follow these accounts on Instagram for information on VBAC:
/ thevbaclink
/ vbacfacts
Sleeping with your baby book by Dr. James McKenna: amzn.to/3w5Yzcl
Information on circumcision: www.yourwholeb...
Should Christians get circumcised? Link: media.ascensio...
"Today, while nontherapeutic male circumcision remains common in some places, as a general practice it is forbidden in Catholic teaching for more basic reasons of respect for bodily integrity. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states, “Except when performed for strictly therapeutic medical reasons, directly intended amputations, mutilations and sterilizations performed on innocent persons are against moral law” (N. 2297).
Elective circumcision clearly violates that standard. It is an amputation and mutilation, and, to my knowledge, and as you note, no significant medical group in the world defends it as having any therapeutic value. In 1999 the Council on Scientific Affairs of the American Medical Association stated that neonatal circumcision is nontherapeutic because no disease is present and no therapeutic treatment is required."
VACCINE RESOURCES
Shot in the Dark by Candace Owens
Dissolving Illusions Book: amzn.to/49EHdBc
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Thank you SO much for talking about vaccines. I was vaccine injured from the Covid 19 injection and we have since totally gone down the rabbit hole of ALL childhood vaccines and more ppl need to be doing their own research!
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
So glad you’re ok and made the connection! 🙏🏼
@reishimama
4 ай бұрын
Look into wobenzyme n. Also black seed oil. There are things that help you recover from the damage. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
@laurs5551
4 ай бұрын
Are any of the vaccines even needed for children? Is it all just bollox?
@purethccheck
4 ай бұрын
I am torn on the childhood vaccines. My daughter is due for her two month appointment next week. We held off on the hep B so far. Our first got all the shots and she's a bundle full of joy. Definitely have hesitancy but unsure ultimately. Much love
@top10epicrobloxmoments
4 ай бұрын
Can you please send me some books or links about vaccinations? I have tried researching but my questions keep getting blocked by Google/KZread.
More women need to hear this message, thank you for sharing. Fellow RN here (L&D background) currently full time stay at home mom expecting baby #5, and planning an undisturbed home birth. So happy for your beautiful addition!
@laurs5551
4 ай бұрын
Have you had an unassisted birth before? Was your first unassisted?
@rachellebrooke4614
4 ай бұрын
@@laurs5551 this will be our first
@artsynahnah2658
3 ай бұрын
Yay!!!! ❤
@Papirmacska
3 ай бұрын
It has to be super nice and super allll...but not everyone is this lucky. If they give a birth in hospital, there is a reason. I bet many of the hospital birth moms (myself included) wish to do otherwise...there are so many circumstances that can't be ignored and makes the pregnancy not as written in the fairytales unfortunately
@MrsMuffin11
3 ай бұрын
@@PapirmacskaI gave birth in a hospital and I had the best L&D nurse and midwife. I was low risk and requested to not have blood taken or even be given an IV. All I had to do was sign a paper saying the hospital wasn't liable in case of emergency if they couldn't find a vein and yadda yadda lol. My L&D nurse was so helpful in getting me to move around, walk, try different positions on the ground, birth ball, in the shower, in bed, EVERYTHING to keep labor going and make it easier on me. My midwife literally sat at the edge of the bed and waited for me to push, never instructed, never asked to check dilation, NOTHING. it was amazing. I finally had to ask her if she could check me and make sure I was at 10cm to push and she said ya, I was just waiting for you to ask 🤣 she had been chilling for 20 minutes by this time haha After birth I was given the golden hour, my nurse actually told me I needed to wait another 10 minutes when I asked if she could weigh the baby and take vitals 😅 I was at a hospital that prioritizes natural birth and breastfeeding and it was an amazing experience. For my next birth, I will be going back. At home births honestly scare me a bit, even though I know they are the most natural way to go. I'm just not comfortable 🤷 Just sharing my experience so that people see that some moms DO wish to have a hospital birth AND can also immensely enjoy the experience when they have the right caregivers 🩵🩷 If there's any one in Phx, Az reading this comment, who WANTS to have a natural, unmedicated birth, but feels more comfortable in a hospital setting literally 30 seconds away from an operating table in case of emergency, I strongly recommend St. Joseph's. Let them know your birth plan and demands and they will accommodate. The staff is so amazing 🩷
As someone who has had circumstances of emergent nature, being at the hospital saved my life. Every woman is different. I have friends who have done home water births and that was right for them. Hospital has been right for me. Sepsis and transverse positioning can be life threatening from home, so I’m so glad I was in the hospital. Every child is a blessing. And every woman knows instinctively what is best ❤ Look forward to your lifestyle / day in the life content… sounds to align well with the calmer, intentional ways I enjoy too.
My first birth was an unassisted home birth, I feel very grateful for my experience and having a healthy baby. I called my midwives the day after to do their checks etc. all was well. 37 weeks with my second baby, planning another unassisted home water birth.
You are such a light in the world and so courageous to say the things that I feel in my heart ❤ I have had 3 unassisted home births, all belly slept, all slept on my chest on the couch for the first month and no needles or knives as well. We are so aligned!!! Can you make a long hair care video? You have such gorgeous hair!!! Blessings on your home and the work of your hands ❤
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
It’s so awesome to see there are more of us out there operating like this in motherhood than we would be led to believe- it gives me hope! I wash my hair once a week with the same soap I use as body wash 😂 I’ve done egg and vinegar rinses before and want to get back to that, but I always forget when it’s time to shower!
@sewmuchjoy
4 ай бұрын
@@HopewellHeights About your hair care, I do something similar! Once a week washing, 1 whole egg or 2 egg yolks as a shampoo (only wash in cold though or you will end up with scrambled eggs in your hair!) , rosewater tea (or rosemary tea) as a leave- in rinse. I also rub in 2-3 drops of sweet almond oil into my hair after a shower. Makes your hair stay soft and not become brittle! Also prevents hair ends from splitting and breaking. I have hip-length hair now as a result! :)
@flors8161
4 ай бұрын
@@HopewellHeights Im thankful the hair question was asked. I love your hair. Mine is a wild lion ready to devour everyone who gets in the way. So I’ll be trying this egg yoke thing now! … what kind of soap bar do you use?
i love every single thing about this video! first time mom (unmedicated birth) to my whole baby boy, vax free and co sleeping since bringing him home. my family doesn’t agree with my choices but i am so grateful for the research (hard to find if course!) that i’ve done. i’m so proud of the decisions ive made for him. Gods way is best!
@MrsMuffin11
3 ай бұрын
Me too but to a baby girl!! Love that for us! 🫶
Fascinating video. You are such a wealth of knowledge! Thanks for sticking your neck out and sharing information/opinions that aren’t popular. It is beyond encouraging to younger, newer moms who need to hear this.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
So glad more young women are starting to be interested in this stuff!
Not a mama just yet, but your videos are SO comforting for those who are trying to learn/actively prepare for the future. A lot of the guidance out there on modern medicine/motherhood is overwhelming and even scary, so I really appreciate the gentle reminders to listen to your gut and body and to follow those instincts. Thanks so much for sharing with us ❤
You and baby are just lovely! You would make an excellent traditional midwife…women need more wise-women to support them. A side note on shoulder dystocia-I just birthed my daughter a week after you. She was born with a nuchal hand which caused her shoulders to have a little trouble coming through. My body knew just what to do before I was even aware of the nuchal presentation. The difference is allowing that inner maternal wisdom to speak instead of someone on the outside telling me what to do. I know if I were in a hospital they would have cut me wide open…but because I listened to my body I birthed my baby just fine!
@papabear5506
4 ай бұрын
That's happened with my last birth! We joke that he came out like Superman 😂 birth was a little more difficult, but he came out just fine with only my husband and I! Midwives arrived a few minutes after 😊
I have teenagers and fully grown children, but I still love watching this content. You are such a blessing to this community of women. I wish I had someone like you when I was pregnant. Such a wealth of knowledge ❤
So good!! Please do a podcast just answering questions every episode and going on these rabbit trails that are so so important. If you have the time and desire I know it’d bless so many! I’m always blessed by every video of yours. We had our first baby at home in October and choose things that are very different than many around us. It’s so beautiful to see and hear mothers who align with you. Blessings to you, baby, and the rest of the family♥️♥️♥️
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Congratulations on your baby!! A podcast is high on my wishlist, hoping to make it happen sometime!
A few years ago I would have argued against everything you have said…and then I had my first baby and holy cow was I shook. I’m on my third pregnancy and am opting for a home birth this time. Your content really has been invaluable to me.
All three of my children slept on there stomach in my bed and they are all grown healthy adults. In my state you are now not allowed to give your child covers. Things are messed up. I love watching you being an amazing mom and wife. I’d be proud to have a daughter like you
WOWOWOW! Please post more of these long educational talks. You are saving so many women from trial and error/taking so much time digging for these seemingly lost mothering practices
Amen! No knives, no needles
I completely understand if you don’t have the time but I would LOVE for you to do a podcast. Everything you talk about it is so refreshing and relate to so much, your beliefs as well as your tips and tricks, you are like a well of wisdom for young women today!
My 3rd was 2 lbs heavier than my second and was a lot harder to push out, comparatively. When she wasn't coming out reflexively, i realized I had to push. I was on all 4s. The midwife was there and told my husband to lift my leg. Did the trick and she came right out. I later learned that is done to help shoulders come out. It's so neat that you instinctively did it with your 5th!
Wow. You and my mama have many of the same beliefs! I am not even married yet, but Mama has raised us girls with the same beliefs. Thank you for being so real and honest! It was very inspiring! We are followers of Christ and live on a homestead as well! :) Mama stays with us at home, Daddy has a full time job, we are homeschooled. I graduated a few years ago, my sister will graduate next month. I am content with where I am in life, but am looking forward to being a stay-at-home mama and homeschooling as well! My Mama read a life-changing book on vaccinations when she was pregnant with me. She vowed *never* to give us vaccines. After having a weak immune system the first 12 years of my life, yes, I do believe Mama probably saved my life! Thank you for educating young women and mothers!! 💖 Many blessings!
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
This is so sweet to hear how your mom’s dedication and care has impacted and inspired you, I hope my daughter can say the same about me one day. You’re going to have such a great foundation when you become a wife and mother! ❤️
@sewmuchjoy
4 ай бұрын
@@HopewellHeights Thank you! 💖
@juliatoledo4703
3 ай бұрын
What was that book? Can you please say like the name of it? I'm pro-vaccine still, but I want to read or at least see that life-changing book. If you remember the name, of course.
@sewmuchjoy
3 ай бұрын
@@juliatoledo4703 Vaccinations-Deception and Tragedy, by: Micheal Dye. Edit: (I took out part of the title because of YT). My mama actually bought the book all those years ago, it is actually on my shelf right now as I am reading it myself! :) God bless. 💖
@GabrielAnderson-do8ny
3 ай бұрын
@@juliatoledo4703I recommend you The Real Anthony Fauci by Robert F. Kennedy jr
I know you’re super busy but I wish you had a podcast or something to share your wisdom. I could listen to you for hours! There’s an occupational therapist that talked about swaddling on IG and it was the first time I’ve considered not swaddling my future babies. I’m so glad to be finding all of this out before I start having kids!
Oh my goodness. The let down tip is gold. Never heard anyone talk about that and that totally happened with my daughter. We made it through it cause it wasn’t that bad, but I am so happy to know that tip in case someone I know goes through it!
This spoke to me so much. I’m 22 and just delivered my first back in September and had a traumatic hospital birth. I was extremely scared and felt the hospital was the safer option. 17 hour labor for my epidural to run out at 8 cm and the anesthesiologist being stuck in an emergency c-section. This meant I had to start pushing naturally. Going from feeling nothing to feeling 10cm was extremely traumatic. My mother is the opposite of homesteading and for me, baby, and fiancé I feel like i’m starting from scratch. Your channel has brought me so much peace and knowledge. Congratulations on your beautiful bundle of new life 🩵
So thankful for women like you who are not afraid to speak their mind as well as the truth. You are a wealth of knowledge! I purchased the book you recommended, "Real Food for Pregnancy" as well as Lily's new book "Real food for Fertility" and I am so thankful for all the information they provide and am so thankful I found those books through you. 🙏🏼❤️
I circumcised my first boy and it broke my heart. The baby I just had I didn’t want to but booked the appt and kept going back and forth and then the day before his appt the doctor called and said they had to reschedule. I’m so thankful, that was the sign I needed. I didn’t do it with this one and I’m so glad I didnt
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Meant to be! 🙏🏼
@exoticbeautybrina2156
4 ай бұрын
Happy for you. The reason they try to pressure mothers to do that it's because they uses it to make other cosmetics for skin etc. They are very creepy and sneaky, plus they are always a reason behind them pushing patients to do something. They always benefit from it big or small. Our great grandparents did it naturally at home having 8 to 15 children or even more. And they were all fine. Congrats again on not doing it. God is good.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
@@exoticbeautybrina2156 you know what’s up! 👏🏽 So much darkness disguised as “healthcare” 😔
@mrsraven9169
3 ай бұрын
Why circumcise healthy boys ? It's not a common practice here in my country (other than religious or medical reasons)
I wish had never given birth in a hospital, I’ve had 12 babies in the last 18 years going on baby 😮 13. I know one thing for sure I like birthing in peace, and birthing in the hospital is not that. I’ve had intervention after intervention in my hospital births and will forever have that first c-section held over my head, midwives where I’m at will not work with me. I’ve had to unlearn and relearn which led me to unassisted birthing. I’m glad the hospital is there for the woman who need it which is very few. In an ideal world woman would continue trusting in their instincts and self educating on the power their bodies have and hold. God bless and congratulations.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Congratulations on baby 13! You’ll be an amazing teacher and advocate for your sons and daughters when their time to have babies comes!
I needed to hear this today! My silly friend is currently pregnant with her 2nd baby and she’s paranoid about tearing because her 1st baby was a whopping 6lb 14oz and caused her to tear (so is the story she tells herself). Meanwhile I’m here homebirthing 9lb babies and my sister just had an almost 12lb-er at home with NO TEARING.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
I feel so sad for the women who have been lied to about tearing, it is so, so rare in Undisturbed birth!
@laurs5551
4 ай бұрын
Did you and your sister havw these at home unassisted or assisted? Also was this your first birth? Did you have your first unassisted?
@haley2542
4 ай бұрын
@@laurs5551 My first baby was in a hospital, nonmedicated, 41w+5 days, 9lbs. My second baby was at home, 40w+2 days, 9lbs 1oz, assisted with midwife. My sister’s first baby was an induction at a hospital, 40w, 7lbs 5oz. My sister’s second baby… get this lol… born at 44 weeks, 11lbs 10oz, also assisted by a midwife.
@jillianp1997
4 ай бұрын
@@laurs5551 We had our 1st babies in the hospital. Each of our 2nd babies were born at home, attended by a midwife!
@sensualnina83
4 ай бұрын
@@haley2542 44 weeks is absolutely outstanding
I LOVE how blunt you are with everything you share!!
I had a cs, natural, natural, cs, natural, natural, and a week ago an unassisted home birth. It was so beautiful!!
This video was a breath of fresh air. I appreciate how straightforward you are
Well done! I work as a birthkeeper for nearly nine years now. I supported a mother who chose free birth last year who did have a shoulder distocia. I made a suggestion for a position change, which she did, and the baby was born with the next contraction. Ive also attended mothers who had postpartum haemorrhage and have always been able to transfer to hospital calmly and efficiently. In each of these cases the mothers did not regret their choice to freebirth and felt it was a wonderful experience despite the complications. Most of the time, free biryh goes smoothly. Each of my ownchildren were born without assistance and nocimplications.
This video gives me so much peace❤ I’m currently 41weeks with my first baby planning a home birth
I just love to pop your videos on and hear what you have to say. It's like listening to a friend in the kitchen while you work. Thank you for the time you invest in your channel❤
Steph, thank you so much for posting this video! You have been such a blessing to me and I am so glad I discovered your channel! I am also a traditional Catholic and am pregnant with my first baby. There are so many questions I have had about motherhood and medical issues and you answered many of them in this video! You are such an inspiration, please keep doing what you are doing! God bless you and your family! ❤
Watching your toddler behind you was so funny. He did not want to leave the baby alone😂
A month already! Then one day you wake up and your baby boys will be 30 and 34 years old this year. 💕
@ZFabia2010
4 ай бұрын
Yes, 30 and 32
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
I feel the time passing so quickly already, even moreso as my older ones are close to the teenage years - it’s bittersweet!
@susiemccoy7
4 ай бұрын
My baby turns 30 today. ❤
@ZFabia2010
4 ай бұрын
@@susiemccoy7 congratulations mom!!! And HB to your forever baby
Your thoughts are so similar to mine and it’s comforting knowing other women follow and trust their intuition.. I’m glad I found your channel… blessings to you and your family.
I LOVED your response and outlook about not airing dirty laundry. I agree!!
Also - I LOVE the example you gave to explain why low risk women shouldn’t be in the hospital. I love love love how you worded that. People just don’t seem to understand it, but you said that so well!! Amen!!
Love this! I’ve been bedsharing with my son for 13 months now. Putting him in his crib felt so wrong and sleep training felt cruel. Would love a video all about breastfeeding from you! Like the belly to belly nursing you mentioned!
I never make comments but just had to say -- YES!! To everything, and especially this part -- "Lord, let your will be done. Whatever you have for me, give me the strength, the endurance, the patience... " Not manifesting. Just like Jesus asked for his cup of suffering to be removed but still, "Thy will be done." So refreshing to hear. Thank you for all you do -- you've already changed this small homestead family in more ways than one. (Made more of your laundry soap today :) Love the Rowens
I am 7 months along right now thanks to your advice about Vitex! Thank you so much!!!!! For me it took four months of the supplement but was so happy to finally get a positive test.
Thank you for this video. I am a grandmother of soon to be 8, I sent this to my daughter. I am so comforted by your previous normal approach to babies. God is using you to counsel young women. May He continue to bless you ❤
I want to thank you for being honest that what we see is the shined up version of what happens I hope younger mothers will hear this and not be so hard on themselves when they don’t live up to their expectations
Such providence about you posting this video! Just had my second on Monday and was wondering if you would make a video like this one, and you did! Really want to start implementing more of this. Thank you for all the amazing information!
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Of course!! And congratulations on your new baby!
I’m so glad I just persevered with my babies tight lip and poor latch. It was painful but we made it out the other side and now at 8 weeks she feeds beautifully!
Pregnant with number eight and I resonate so much with everything you are saying! I always tell people that there is an inherent risk with every birth. It's part of the punishment due to original sin. However, if you choose to have your baby in a hospital, everybody thinks you are doing the best you can. If you have a home birth, even though it's not fair, you would take more than your share of the blame if anything happened. I think that's something to consider when choosing where you give birth. I personally absolutely love giving birth at home with my wonderful midwife there to support me
Thank you for this video, I am so inspired by your clarity and succinctness. My children are third generation home births with no immunizations. My family was always seen as so “out there” but I have high hopes that this kind of mother/infant care will be the norm when my daughters are birthing. Thank you for using your platform to help make that possible! I will definitely be sharing this video as a resource for new moms.
You have a new follower! Thank you for covering the manifesting birth topic, I feel like it's the new age faith and we are not able that. The SIDS topic I'm right there with you, my one son had the side effect bronchiolitis from the Dtap every time and struggled to breath at night and my other son stopped breathing almost immediately following the vitamin k injection (I didn't know it had a black box warning 💔). I never want my baby away from me at any moment. We co-sleep (mommy side only), use a carrier, and a pack n play once a baby is older. That first year is so important to have a baby attached to you. Bless you for this video. Thank you.
I just adore these videos of yours and all the golden nuggets. I know how busy you are I appreciate you sharing your time and knowledge. I am currently experiencing my very first miscarriage. This would have been baby #4. I was 8 weeks. It’s been a difficult day for sure with tears on and off. My nutrition is the best it’s ever been, I am happier than I’ve ever been, enjoying motherhood and homemaking more than I ever have; just overall content and healthy; not perfect by any means but just much more improved than my previous pregnancies. I was so excited to gift this little one the health of my body and soul. This would have been my very first homebirth and I was excited to experience it, and to grow this little one, to trust my body to carry and care for this little one, to nurse a newborn again, and for having the opportunity to point them to Jesus. It’s an odd feeling. I keep thinking how did my body fail me and how did I fail this little one. Then I have to silence the thoughts and remind myself it was His will. I will trust in Him and one day meet them in heaven with Him who saves but I am still heartbroken. I will heal and move forward and I am very excited to offer my body to the Lord again and to try to conceive again. I turn 40 in May so my child bearing years are coming to a close and that in itself is a new feeling to bare. I genuinely enjoy motherhood and homemaking. So I will hold on to and cherish these moments until it’s time to move on. I’m very thankful I stuck with nursing my two year old; it’s helped immensely with comfort and with healing my body. Thank you again for sharing this heartwarming and knowledgeable content in a time when I need it so much. 🤍 🕊️ 🌈 👑
@gabi6217
3 ай бұрын
Praying for you. So many emotions you shared. I pray for comfort and healing for you at this time and that Jesus will draw nearer to you.
I nursed both children I think when you nurse children It gives you more time for The babies And it's A good thing Cause the mother and the baby have bonds
I love this and I’m so glad I found you! I’m pregnant with our sixth baby and we co-sleep, breastfeed, homebirth, all the things!
Oh Stephannie you are so knowledgable. I love to listen to you when your talking about taking ownership of our lives. God Bless
Thank you so much for this video and your other ones on home birth. This video was truly an answer to a prayer! I pray the Lord blesses you and your family :)
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
So glad it was helpful!
I watch you everyday literally all day, where I am in my walk with God, you are helping me with exactly where he has placed me. Thank you for your ministry because it truly is a gift.
You are truly inspirational. My husband and I only have two children and we don't go out or have hobbies outside of our home and kids. Everyone says we need to get out and have time to ourselves but we don't even have that desire. I own my own massage business so I am able to set my own hours when my husband is off work so that one of us is always home with the children. Financially, we just can't afford for me to stay at home which means I am not having anymore kids sadly.
Love this! All my babies slept on their stomachs. We also did not vaccinate babies...
part 2?! i’m loving this content, i wish more women covered these topics. 19 weeks with my second and finally found another likeminded mom. thanking the Lord for you and this video. we are so alike. where i live, i basically get looked at like i have multiple eyes on my forehead or something😵💫
My 3 yr old was my first (of three) with a tongue/lip tie. We refused revision. It took me about 6 weeks, but eventually I tried the same method you just described and THANK JESUS, latching wasn't excruciating anymore and she wasn't getting as much air as she was before.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Way to stick with it!! It’s not easy but so worth it
@Itsangela87
4 ай бұрын
@@HopewellHeights Thanks! It was absolutely worth it! We nursed for 18 months! The longest I had ever nursed any of my babies. It only ended because as an L&D nurse in a severely understaffed unit, I was unable to take breaks to pump, which dried me up. I'm hoping and praying that after maternity leave, I can stay home (currently expecting #4).
I was so grateful when you mentioned that rid bit on vaccines in your last video and even more so watching this. My kids are 7 and 16 at this point so I don’t necessarily need this video, this isn’t my time of life, but I love listening to the way you explain things. I homeschool because it’s CA law now to be vaccinated. I felt heavily when I was pregnant (after miscarriage) that I would not vaccinate. Even 8 years ago, this was still very taboo. I was laughed at and mocked by numerous people for years.
Love this video. I agree with all that was said. I do however work outside of my home, and own a small business working from home, and my child does attend a public school, but I also cook all our meals, doing alot more scratch cooking, have a small homestead with chickens and a garden. But.... I did plan a home birth, with a mid wife. I was in labor 53 hours and was taken to the hospital. Baby's head was stuck. Ended up having to do a C section. I never once asked for medication. I prepared myself knowing ok, this is going to hurt but it will pass. My birth plan did not happen as I expected but everything after the birth I was in control over. No vaccines. No circumcised penius. Breast fed. Co slept in my bed. my child is now 11, healthy. Happy. Rarely gets sick. I 100% agree with everything this video is about. God is in control. God is good. And even us working moms can still do right and do good for our children and our home. It can be overwhelming at times, but being in a good spiritual place, we know God will get us through. He always does. Great video.
Love that you are old fashion!
I am so inspired by you and your decisions as a new mom to be, thank you for sharing.
Congratulations! God is so good! ♥️ Also a fellow RN, and mamma to two and have the same views! I stay home with my babies and wouldn’t want it any other way.
My goodness, this video is such a breath of fresh air!!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤
You are so knowledgeable! Thank you for sharing
Wow - I completely agree with you about stretching out baby’s mouth manually to form “fish lips” until they learn to do it on their own. I didn’t even realize, but I did this instinctually with my first baby and NEVER had any pain at all while breastfeeding! I really believe it was because I helped him get a good latch every time!
LOVE this video so much! Thank you for explaining/sharing everything you did share! ❤ we agree 100% with everything that you said and it’s so reassuring to know we aren’t alone because it sure feels like that sometimes in this culture. Congratulations! ❤️🥰
I love listening to you educate on this topic! While I am well beyond my child-bearing years - I love that you are a voice to this natural and beautiful way. Interestingly enough - I think much of this advice applies to life in general not only to child-birth (ie listen to your body, educate ourselves, don’t have certain expectations of exactly how something is going to go as that sets us up for an unpleasant experience). Great advice for us all!❤
Amen! Love that you included a biblical perspective on labor and maternity. Our suffering is not in vain and there is reward in it when we finally see their little face🙌 trusting in God the father during this labor🤍
As a Mama of five who has birthed babies natural and conventional with epidurals ect, this message is really important to put out there. I wish I knew what Ima May books were the first several times around. Learning birthing positions and how to move thru labor is a skill new mamas can learn and should learn. I love all the baby abs birth talk!!
I truly admire your knowledge and the self confidence in how you make your decisions! I heard from a lot of ppl that they had issues finding a pediatrician, etc if their child would not be vaccinated! The industry really tries to push their agenda on us in many different ways! I am happy to see, that it’s still possible to live a drug free life! All the best to you and your family! Please share more of your knowledge as a mum! A lot of us have no one they can ask about these things!! ❤
Love this so so much. I wish I had this when I had my 3 babies to help calm my nerves. We used to live in PA and the hospital/doctors there literally told me if I vaccinated off schedule my son couldn’t be a patient in their network. Thankfully found a private practice pediatrician and she was the best let us go about it how we wanted. We now live in TX and they’re ALOT more open to not vaccinated there’s not as much hurdle living here. It’s sad that our country literally puts blockades in place for parents that decide not to and depending on your state it can be very very difficult to not do it.
@MrsMuffin11
3 ай бұрын
That's so crazy! We live in PHX and denied vaccines at birth, 2M and 4M doc visit. There was little to no pushback at all. We will see how the 6M appt goes haha
omg thank you for your honesty. I love that you have opinions and are willing to share them. You don't get that much from women on social media anymore. thank u, currently expecting my 4th, and learning a lot.
I would love to hear you talk more about sleep and when you transition your babies to their own crib/room. I really like all the info you’ve shared and would love to hear more :)
Very comforting to hear your vaccine views🙏🏼 thank you!
Yes yes yes. I just had my ninth baby in Dec. I am so much more patient now then with the first 3 kids. My kids also have never had any jealousy issues. They love babies so much.
In my first birth it was with hospital midwives so I had a few who were doing the digital checks to measure dilation. They kept telling me not to.push because i wasnt fully dilated. So I ended up putting all my energy into not pushing. Was so exhausted that they ended up doing an epidural, high forcepts delivery. Ended up with blood loss and a third degree episiotomy. It was traumatic. So when I had my second baby I wanted to have full control of the process id gotten hold of the Joy of birth. Really good read. It was written at the start of the natural childbirth movement. I let my body tell me what to do. No pain relief pushed when my body toldme to zero internal checks. Much better experience. Said no to syntocin. My midwife just did uterine massage. I fully recommend having full control.
Getting ready to have my 6th baby and STILL found this video beneficial. Thank you! ❤
Thank you so much for answering my questions about first time birth home or hospital. I finally got a really good answer and clear.
My 4th baby was stuck because of the positioning of his head, the doctor had to reach in and move his head until it was able to move down. The worst part was the medical staff not listening to me when I said it wasn't normal he wasn't moving down as I pushed and that's not normal with me plus he was a 36 week baby so there was no way he was big. The good thing is that I had him in Luxemburg and not in Portugal because in Portugal they would have sliced me open and pulled him out with forceps, it's that bad in Portugal! Loved seeing you with your sweet baby!
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
It’s so frustrating as a woman and mother to be dismissed like that, so glad everything ended up ok for you and baby!
@deliciouscolours
4 ай бұрын
@@HopewellHeights it was VERY frustrating, it took me a long time to heal from that but as I remembered that in my home country, Portugal, it wouls have been so much worse I made my peace with it.
Wow I think you are an incredible woman, you have so much useful helpful knowledge to pass on. I thank God that there are woman like you in the world that are brave enough to speak their truth. You are very blessed with a good husband and 5 beautiful children. Please take care of yourself too. Breathing and Meditation. Thank you so much for your videos, I resonate with everything you say.
Yessssss. I clicked just in time!!! Congratulations again and I really love your wisdom and content you share ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Thank you!
I love listening to you, the wisdom that’s just flowing from you is just such a blessing to me 🤍
This is the first video of yours that I've watched and can I just say, can we be best friends please? 😂 I don't think I've ever met a person so aligned with my values and speaking so openly about them, in real life or online. 😊
Your little man behind you doing your hand gestures was too cute!🥰
Thank you for sharing! I am Grandma and know nothing, lol. Both my children as babies 4 years apart...slept with me. And did not sleep on their backs. I just had to pray for protection over my grand baby.
Everything you said is correct. Also with my first I had baby in between us. My husband smothered my baby but I woke and heard his muffled breathing and shoved him off. So with my others I put bed on the floor and baby slept on the outside. Instinct kicks in always. I couldn’t even sleep without them. My third I tried sleeping next to bassinet-baby choked on spit up and I had to call 911. She choked all the time. I went back to bed sharing and she never spit up at night again.
@sensualnina83
4 ай бұрын
Thank God for your instincts
You are so very knowledgeable and such an inspiration. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It’s very helpful and needed to show moms like me that it’s normal and natural to love this way.
Kudos ❤ Epidurals increase the risk for C-sections. And the OB’s and nurses want the patient out of pain and really encourage the epidurals.
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
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I was low risk and went in to labor and delivery at the hospital knowing very clearly my reasons for not wanting a c section unless it was an absolute EMERGENCY. after 14ish hours of natural labor i was so tired and kept considering a c section during contractions and then in between would talk it over with my mom and husband and we would go through the reasons as to why I i didnt want one. But I definitely would have made the choice to go c section if they weren't there with me encouraging me and reminding me of my convictions. After 17.5 hours, our baby girl was born naturally and unmedicated and I would 100% recommend it. I felt so so good after only 5 days, I was like physically I i feel ready to go back to work 🤣 I DIDNT but I felt amazing haha
My first was unassisted on accident lol hubby went to work and it happened quick. I felt great after and baby was healthy and perfect and would absolutely do it for my next! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge
@Italianbarbie2711
Ай бұрын
Yes I had a miscarriage in February , started taking vitex due to her and I’m almost 13 weeks now. Helped so much
My friend did a home birth and the baby had shoulder distosia and the midwife just gently adjusted the head and he came right out
I planned for a homebirth with my first. But labor started with my water breaking and no contractions and I ended up going to the hospital. Labor progressed naturally but baby wasnt coming out because of how he was positioned. One of the midwives there was able to manually turn him and when he was born the cord was wrapped around his neck and he had a pneumothorax so we were so greatful to have ended up at the hospital he was in the exact place he needed to be! If we have another baby we will plan for a homebirth again but my hospital experience was actually amazing and nothing like I thought it was going to be. They respected what I wanted and we didnt have any intervention that wasn't necessary.
Wish I could like this video twice ❤🙌🏼
You are an amazing woman, I just want to say that you are so inspiring and I really enjoy watching and listening to you in your videos ❤
I love what you said about how you want your birth to look, and it’s so true! I had a planned water birth at home, had a playlist, diffuser.. I ended up roaring my baby out on my bed to a random Christmas music playlist.. 😂 sometimes that’s just how it goes! Birth is a VERY in the moment experience.
Tell it sister! Loving your content!
I've had a few kids with lip ties and I do the exact same thing Stephanie said about flipping their lips out while nursing- and I do it every time I nurse- sometimes many times to get it right. Then when my kids start crawling or walking they always give themselves a lip tie revision with the coffee table😬- it's happened every time 😂😂😂
@HopewellHeights
4 ай бұрын
Haha yes busted lips come with the toddler territory!
“No knives, no needles” LOOOOOOVE that! Planning my first unassisted birth (4th baby) and this video is so so helpful.
I had a super fast labor and that was way more traumatizing for me. I thought I was prepared but not when pushing slapped me in the face. I had previously wanted a more unassisted birth before but now I know that I need that support when it’s time. I think the world of woman who do it without because it’s terrifying.
@JahneshaH
4 ай бұрын
Do what's best for you 😊 There are women who have beautiful at home births, hospital births, and unassisted births 💛
Thank you so much for this video!! It was much needed. I feel the same about low risk vs high risk pregnancies. I was considered high risk due to my weight but I had overall very low risk pregnancies and delivered both of mine natural. I was in hospital and did end up having epidural with both. My next I want to stay away from hospital completely. I weigh more but it just doesn’t hinder me. It kind of bothers me- they were expecting me to have gestational diabetes, have high blood pressure, stress on the baby, preparing me for inductions and possible c sections yet I stayed away from all of that and was healthy and I am healthy!! I feel they tested me on so many things due to my weight alone. I was having to do weekly stress tests with baby via ultrasound for both babies and I just didn’t understand. I feel all of it was unnecessary! I have similar views to you and im so thankful I found your page because it’s refreshing to me that im not alone in my views! Thanks girl for your page Im so thankful for you ❤❤
@alexandraramirez40
4 ай бұрын
I literally have had the same experience and have been so frustrated with the healthcare system. I am a new paramedic and have had my fair share of medical experience but they were not ready for my questions when I came at them asking why I was considered high risk? I literally can run 3 miles with ease and worked out regularly. They tested me early for gestational diabetes too and then were shocked at my results. And I have had low blood pressure this entire pregnancy because due to my cardio my resting heart rate is like 55. Anyway, I am seriously thinking of staying home because they want to induce me at 39 weeks and that's so unnecessary. I can deliver a baby by myself