why does psych2go always come out with the exact video I need at the exact moment 💀💀💀

@saunyamusic2944

11 ай бұрын

It's kinda scary but like ty

@cerealchild166

11 ай бұрын

Maybe they're psychic?

@jiltinampay6191

11 ай бұрын

Same

@sanskaribandi9125

11 ай бұрын

Fr fr 💀

@TheFallenStar64

11 ай бұрын

FRRRRR

My dad used to say: "one of the most important things to learn in life is when to double down vs when to let go and walk away. dont loose time on things that arent worth it on the long run, but dont give up way too easy on stuff that actually matter"

@johnconroy3180

11 ай бұрын

...and the wisdom to know the difference?👀

@MF175mp

11 ай бұрын

Wise dad

Timestamps 1). Is the spark still there 0:45 2). Do you still share the same goals 1:49 3). Are you becoming (or are you already) codependent 2:51 4). Are you in different transitional stages 3:48 5). Are you feeling burnt out 5:25 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

@uklejamini

11 ай бұрын

Always helpful to make timestamps for videos like these, thanks!

@A55a551n

11 ай бұрын

​@@uklejamini not a problem happy to help

@ankushparmar2662

11 ай бұрын

My g

@ankushparmar2662

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for this

@A55a551n

11 ай бұрын

@@ankushparmar2662 happy to help

I just had this conversation with my therapist today. She said “Is it possible that you can have a partner in life AND live the way you truly want? Yes it’s absolutely possible….. And it might not be with this one. Your spirit will die if you give up on your dreams to be with him.”

@lilshawano1014

11 ай бұрын

Very true

@peanut_butterr

11 ай бұрын

Wow deep❤️

@j0ellyfish

11 ай бұрын

Nah, it's scientifically proven that humans aren't meant to have one mate. Sorry not sorry for the hopeless romatics out there.

@peanut_butterr

11 ай бұрын

@@j0ellyfish sources - trust me bro

@j0ellyfish

11 ай бұрын

@@peanut_butterr

As someone with an anxious attachment style these relationship videos help me realize that my partner isn’t going to leave me anytime soon.

Despite what you are thinking right now the chances of someone outgrowing a relationship is slim. Even if they have poor communication, compatibility, or both. But what happens instead is people tend to grow distant from each other this happens especially to couples who don't spend or don't get to spend much time together. I've seen this happen multiple times to my friends and to a family member. They live together or are even married but rarely even talk to each other and instead of spending time together or being intimate, they'd rather be doing something else, like watching sports matches with their friends which they don't care for, or binging a mediocre web series they don't even like. But It isn't an incurable disease but the opposite is true. The spark that went out can be lit again and it will most likely burn even brighter. But it needs a little bit of effort from both sides. First things first, they have to communicate openly and with brutal honesty, if they can't or aren't willing to they're probably better off splitting up. You tell me what's better, being in a miserable relationship or being single, happy, and possibly finding someone you'll click with? Secondly, I'd say it's a good idea to start spending more time doing everyday things like getting groceries, going on walks in the evening, doing daily chores together, and things of that nature. Lastly, The best way to keep a relationship strong is to spend quality time together and lots of it. You don't have to go to fancy dinners, or vacations, buy each other expensive things, or anything superficial like that (unless that's something you genuinely enjoy) just try to do things both of you enjoy. Just aim to bond and enjoy your time together instead of overthinking about things that may never happen. Thanks for the read, have a damn good day!👍

@Leoo117

11 ай бұрын

Really good points. The things that people often call outgrowing is usually just a lack of effort. Relationships take effort from both sides to maintain. Without that, they wither away. It's that simple.

@sotrum2239

11 ай бұрын

100% agree with you❤ Thank you for the advice.

@yuzosebdoom-pl5yj

11 ай бұрын

You might actually be right. Maybe Dad♓🦈 & Mum ♋🦀. Aren't getting along because maybe dad has a secret admirer😮. My Older ♌ ⚰️ sister always used to say, that mum dad doesn't really care about you, so why are you wasting your time, and effort to please him🙏🏿. My older♏🦂brother's pretty much saying the same thing...

I've had these thoughts for a while, because, when I first started a relationship, I was so happy, but later on, I started to feel kind of like how I used to feel before having one. I watched this video because I wanted to see if I could figure out for myself if it was time for the relationship to end, but now I know that isn't the case. While things in the relationship could be better, they're not at a point where the relationship should come to a close. Thank you for this video!

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Great to hear that you got something valuable out of the video. What do you plan on doing now that you know the relationship hasn't reached its end?

@LassBisharp

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go Hmm... I'm not quite sure. Haven't quite thought that far yet. ^^" Maybe I should spend some more time with them.

3:03 I was definitely in a codependent relationship. He has a lot of mental health issues, such as low self esteem and depression, etc. I don’t feel like I needed to be needed per say but I felt like I had to be there for him, be his rock but it did get exhausting sometimes. It could be quite draining to be around him sometimes because he’d start spiraling and I’d try to talk him down but he wouldn’t listen when he was in that state.

In my last relationship I was so afraid that she would outgrow it. It turned out it was me who outgrow the relationship. Somehow I matured faster than her, and so my priorities changed. It was heartbreaking, but the best was to leave the relationship.

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

That sounds like it was a very tough decision. How are you doing now?

After years of knowledge buildup, i feel it is time to move on from a relationship that doesnt have much of a spark anymore. I have noticed the signs early on after high school, after that it took a few years for the cracks to grow as the flaws on how i started all of this showed, it did not happen to a great extent until the pandemic hit back in early 2020. That is when things started to go downward for us. 3 years after that, im ready to move on. there is more to say but its a bit complicated to explain here. Long story short when starting a relationship, do not forget to learn the basics of the other person (favorite food, sport teams, hobbies, music, books, ETC) before a sparkless communication problem happens later down the line.

@jacobrydstrom6565

11 ай бұрын

the text above this one started when this video was uploaded, but had to go through several re-types.

I am currently working on building a relationship with a girl i know and these are some good things to keep in mind. For some reason I can feel the pain of 'loosing some one' without having to have lost some one😢

I just love how simple, cute your animations are. Even the facial expressions they give are so touching.

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! We have many talented artists who work very hard to make quality content :)

I think this idea of "outgrowing" a relationship is a fallacy. Its ultimately a lame excuse to just give up. Giving up is really what it is. I say this because we all literally constantly change. The couples that last forever learn to accept each other, compromise and always make room and time for each other. In other words, they consistently put in effort, and they both keep seeking peace with one another, so any lows don't last too long. It takes self-control and learning how to actually be a healthy partner and to look out for your partner's interests instead of thinking only of your own. Granted, in the cases of a partner growing into a more healthy partner while the other partner is still stuck on consistent unhealthy and hurtful habits like drugs or a lack of self-control or something would actually be considered outgrowing them. That would be a legitimate use of the word. I just think many people use this term as an excuse, when really they just didn't want to put forth effort and figured it would just be easier to leave. Or they value something else more than their partner at the moment like a job or money or a place or being single. People are allowed to do these things, but its better to be honest about it, rather than call it outgrowing.

@sebziez

11 ай бұрын

THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR! This is so so correct!! It's how me and my boyfriend have managed to stay together for these 2 years and we will stay together a long long time because this is what we do!

@tiffanyrodriguez5158

11 ай бұрын

You could have not said all of this better.

@user-zv2zx3tt4o

11 ай бұрын

I agree and my partner has shown that compromise, quality time, and growing and improving together go a long way.

@MrLumberjackz

11 ай бұрын

Holy crap this is exactly what I went through, we were engaged and she begged me to propose, same woman started dating someone 2 weeks at the latest after she broke up with me. Went through a rough patch of unsuccessful job hunting and depression was a losing battle for me. No matter how hard you try and put your heart, soul and future life to them with no question where your all is still never enough. This is a people problem too. 😢

@babashanko5358

11 ай бұрын

I think that "granted" covers a lot of what this video talks about though. Everyone is constantly changing, but one partner can be growing much faster than the other; if the other is unwilling to accommodate that change, that would be the "outgrowing," as might be the case with changing your mind on having kids or trying to break a codependency cycle. It doesn't have to be something physically harmful to be unhealthy: I'd consider it unhealthy in a relationship to fight your partner's path to personal growth. If both people are willing to accommodate, then yes, it's a matter of working through things and communicating, but if neither side is willing to compromise? That's what outgrowing a relationship is. I agree that it can be used in the wrong context for justification, but I wouldn't call it a fallacy in the slightest.

I have a friend of mine who i consider ive outgrown, but even tho i sometimes just wanna move on, in the end i always decide to stay and try helping him when he needs it so that he can grow too, havent regreted it yet

It's both nice and sad that things don't last forever

@flutter8712

11 ай бұрын

Thank god

I just. We just had a discussion about needing a break... I don't want it to end... but some of these questions and scenarios match up and it's tragic to feel and hear about. I wish I knew how to fix it

omg, how timely is this video 😔

Your words couldn't be more accurate. She moved to a different city for work and I was supposed to follow her the next year. The long distance mixed with the new work that left her completely burnout after 6 months and I've to admit it also lack of communication led to the death of a 6 year relationship. It is hard to watch your significant other in the eyes and not be able to see what you loved.

Thank you so much! This was exactly what I needed to know and to hear! I am grateful for your post!

As a muslim, i was taught that dating was forbidden in my religion but i always wonder how are we supposed to determine who is the right person to marry? This video resonated with my point on why going straight to marriage doesnt work in the end. This is why I think we must date before deciding to get married. My parents were arranged and they always argue and barely show affection. On the other hand, I know that I don't really want to get married or date someone because I have my own needs and wants and things change between you and your partner just like this video says. My other reason for not having a partner is difference in interest between us, especially if the person is my soul mate. And we need compatibility, loyalty and kindness in every relationship. Honesty is also important. You can't keep up with your lies if you no longer love your partner just to keep them happy. Life is not all happiness and celebration, changes can be negative and it is okay to grieve for a little bit. I'm going to stop commenting now, bye!

@williamkyaw516

11 ай бұрын

I agree complete ly

Your videos are so insightful and informative! I love how you break down complex psychological concepts into easy-to-understand explanations. Your content has helped me better understand myself and others. Keep up the great work!

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! What did you think about this topic?

@BellaRBX

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go I may feel like I have outgrown my relationship...

Being unfulfilled in marriage, from what I've been told, is just the nature of the relationship.

@letsgetit90

11 ай бұрын

Yup! I Heard that lot, and with people regretting their decision to marry their spouse.

@megabyte01

11 ай бұрын

I hear what you're saying, yet I've also seen enough couples who are genuinely happy with each other that I believe it's possible. Maybe people like us who don't know enough about love keep looking for it in the wrong places? Then again, the question of this video is 'how do you know if or when you've outgrown your partner?'

OMG EVERYTIME SOMETHING IN MY LIFE HAPPENS YOU ARE HERE WITH A NEW VIDEO ABOUT THE THING THAT HAPPENED AT THE MOMENT. Yesterday 2 friends of mine broke up and a lot happend your video helped me (again) to realize what happend thanks again

The fact that this video showed up while I was questioning what to do about my relationship says a lot. We haven't dated for long. He graduated highschool and going to commity college (if I remember correctly). For me on the other hand, I'm going to start going to a residential highschool in a different town. This will lead to us having little to no time for each other, but quality time is my love language. A part of me feels like it's best to end this because right after highschool I'm going to try going out of country to go to college and I don't know if I would say I love him, I do care for him deeply but that spark is just not there. Sadly there's a part of me that doesn't for a stupid reason, I don't want to leave because I don't want it so that my old toxic relationship lasted longer than my current healthy and happy relationship did. I know messed up and stupid, that's why I'm feel like we should but I'm too torn about it. I initially was going to end this a while before his graduation but he was never there those few days. So if anyone has any insight on what I should do, please tell me I need help making up my mind.

@june756

11 ай бұрын

I don't think you are messed up... Sometimes it just hard to make a decision cause many contradicting different feelings are connected... But have you talked about this with him? Like two of having different goals and how to manage your relationship while pursuing those?.... Personally I think when we love someone we feel it (I don't know if it just one of my fantasies) but still staying in a relationship we are bound to get attached and bound to care for the person we are with , but you need to ask this question to yourself that is both of your relationship strong enough to withstand any changes.. If yes then it's okay to try but if you have doubts or the ans is clear no then it's better to give up on it...

@sasygrl79

11 ай бұрын

How old are you? Just curious!

@dawnberrie2106

11 ай бұрын

@@june756 I think I understand what you're saying. I do have doubts about it. Idk if it's because I feel like it won't work or if it's just my trust issues. My bf talked to be about it but we both didn't know what to do. My last relationship was long distance and I'm not to sure if I'm ready to do that again, even tho I know my bf is NOTHING like my ex (he's better than him). I could always try to talk to him about it again

@dawnberrie2106

11 ай бұрын

@@sasygrl79 before I can answer I would like to know why exactly (just making sure. I don't like telling my age unless I know why)

Me: Should I try and introduce myself? Heart: Yeah mate. She looked over at you. Brain: You’re gonna mess up. You’re not enough for her. You’re only gonna slow them down in life. They’re all out of your league. You’re only gonna hurt buddy up top.

Ur Chanel always makes me wonder . 'cause u post the right videos right when i need them . Am feeling watched 👀

I really needed this especially cuz I’m moving soon so thank you so much guys 😊

Slow end gives you time to reflect on what is going on, and that is always a good thing!

I sometimes blame myself because of the failure in keeping a relationship and I also sometimes resent my ex because he couldn’t seem to make adjustments for this relationship…. Now I realize I just outgrown the relationship and it shouldn’t be someone’s fault….we just grew apart

“Letting go of someone is part of the process of growing. Sometimes in order to fully realize our potential, we need to leave a relationship.” 6:42

This channel’s timing in my life is crazy

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Was today's video helpful? :)

@C6LD

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go Absolutely

Damn… this hit me hard in the feels. I miss her dearly and I wonder if this is why she left me. 7 years worth of time and memories all gone. Still miss her and love her, stuck in this void of loneliness and sadness…

Wow 😢this is already happening in my family. Since my Older 🦁 ♌ Sisters Passing 😞14-01-2017,u don't need to be in a relationship, to feel any of these things,I know it sucks to say theses things since I was always a freedom fighter🐯1986 and never gave up on hopes & dreams, almost the same kind of situation in a relationship. I once remember being like this😊 happy 😁 go lucky. Now sometimes I get more self-doubt,of the Universe and it's Approach to living a life style, I'm not sure if anyone else feels the same but that's how my journey's been in 2023, then the feeling that used to be once upon a Time & being awesome 👍🏿... And two over extreme and sometimes overrated with limitations, and overpowering, now I don't get those feelings, that much, I also keep away from a lot of other things, and disregard myself away from a lot of people to 🙅🏿‍♂️, and filled up the cup of Life with water and energy. And the fuel that I once burnt before, isn't there any more like as if. It's been locked away under the safe of the Lock 🔒 & key. I've even become that bad, that I would disregarded myself away from the universe. And don't get the need, in the feeling to care that much anymore. Do you remember in the cartoon that used to have care bears 🐻 for instance, the 1986 episode where people just don't care anymore, & grumpy bear was really grumpy, in that bit with the Pavement episode, where they find that big giant crater stone that's buried under the City 🏙️🌆 what a pity😖😿...

i don’t really outgrow relationships but i like i have one off day and the relationship falters from there. it usually doesn’t take long for it to dissipate, it usually takes a few days to a week at the most. and i always think we’re doing good and i start looking forward to being around them but that one off day always messes it up ,

@loganmcauslin9430

11 ай бұрын

That sounds like an insecure attachment, my friend. If you have two years worth of a relationship, that's 730 days. One of those days you're doing your own thing for a day. If you can't hold your interest because they're absent for a single day, are you really interested in them? Or is it the concept of the relationship and a dependence on the feeling it provides? Ultimately you stop being your healthy self, and that impacts the person you're in a relationship with, as well

@loganmcauslin9430

11 ай бұрын

Absent here being emotionally absent. Not necessarily physically

@karai_6425

11 ай бұрын

@@loganmcauslin9430 i don’t lose interest in them, it’s more of them starting to lose interest in me after one day of me not being around, but thank you for replying

Thanks for the information, I needed this video

I'm letting go of them, but in rainy day where everything is comfortable or when there's a nice sky sometimes i wish i can still hold them and make them some hot tea or something, only to realize that they were never there in the moment we were together. it was only me.

It was all so very Helpful Thank You 🙏

Everything teaches and encourages disposability nowadays, people’s connections seem paper thin.

@n4t39

11 ай бұрын

Very true, unfortunately. It's all surface level

@mstwilight1612

11 ай бұрын

So true. I cried all the video. Like It’s so easy now to dump people, truly loving you. It’s so cruel. If you ve outgrown the relationship and dump the other loving person it means you never really loved them. You love only yourself and others are just a resource for you. Codependence is stigmatized. Without it, you won’t form steady bonds, codependence means taking responsibility, it isn’t always the negative thing. If you are an avoidant type, you’ll fear codependence and will see it everywhere, but it can be your perversed perception. A bit of codependence isn’t bad

@Workhorse1011

11 ай бұрын

We all have flaws and if we are unwilling to accept others for who they are then we’re doomed to be alone. Some people are toxic or abusive, it makes sense to avoid and leave these people. But this video isn’t talking about toxic people - it feels like it just encourages avoidance when communication doesn’t work right away.

Very helpful, Thanks.

Now I can remember how my mother alway said "If you don't learn you'll become a bus driver. Ironically I didn't and today today she says I'm better in many things. I think many of people who try to blame others have a leck of selflove.

The music is so relaxing

I watched this because I'm in a 6yr stage and been missing the "spark" for so long. We've tried communicating before to reignite and that's what get us far, but I'm tired of reminding him that I need to be loved too. I watch him grow and became successful in life, while I'm still me. Then there are guys out there who confidently do stuff for me, thinks about me, etc. and I miss that so much. He probably do stuff for me too, but I don't recognize it, I feel it's all about him. When we have moments together, it's boring and I feel he doesn't want to communicate. I get that he needs peace after taking 3 jobs, w/c he claims is for our future. Now I'm starting to consider having an open or just breaking up, but I feel that would be immature of me just because I miss the honeymoon stage.

thank you for the video

I really wish I could hear this all like 5 years ago, so then some things would end and start for me in a better way. But thank you for sharing this important topic and knowledge anyway. I think it can be useful in the future for me to avoid big damage in breakups and overgrowing a repletion no matter of kind of it.

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind words. We sincerely hope that the video will be, as you mentioned, useful for you in the future.

@RayPeng-07

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go I also hope. And thank you once again for doing all those amazing wise and adorable videos! They help the world I believe

I wish this channel had been around in the early 2000's. I went through 15 years of psychological domestic violence (bad coercive control and psychological abuse) when my children were young. At the time I just sacrificed myself "for their sake". When my daughter was 7yo she begged me to leave my partner saying "I can't stand it any more". I feel disgusted with myself for not carrying out her wishes. I wasn't strong enough to do as she asked (I was in depressive psychosis because of my partner and was not strong enough to comply). I am very empathic. I now realize I was in horrific codependency and my ex-partner was/is psychopathic and/or narcissistic. I am now divorced, have no contact with children but am recovering but with CPTSD.

13years in a marriage with my wife, the last few years we've been fighting and arguing a whole lot more, and now the intimacy's gone, thinking after watching this that it might be a good idea to move on

I love these videos and I love the animations🥰🥰🥰🥰

Thank you

this was actually helpful wow

We never even admitted our feelings. It is just all of a sudden he had a girlfriend and I'm still stucked in past. What I hate about him is that why he didn't tell me, I've been giving him the signs, I just knew that he likes me too because of his friends. I hate the fact that he can communicate his feelings with someone he just met online and that girl is somewhat demanding, she's just so off to me, not just because I'm upset.

@dareumi_

11 ай бұрын

UPDATE: I unfriended him. This is for the sake of my peace.

Damn... That's exactly how I feel at the moment... But I don't know if I should end things, it's hard and I'm not even sure if that's the right decision. I feel conflicted 😔

For me my relationship is just beginning

@tdesq.2463

11 ай бұрын

Cool!!! Finally ... a positive outlook emerges from thorny thicket. Refreshing to see and enjoy! ~TD, Boston

Thanks for viedos

Thxi been having a hard time with my gf... A lot we don't even talk much at all we're very close tho.. And i didn't know ow what to think or k ow what to do about it bc she really loves me but doesn't have time for me..

A video idea: how to approach your crush. I don’t know if that could actually work as a video. And can’t think of one tip.

Wow it hit my situation right on the nose 😢

I love your videos they help a lot :)

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Thank you! What did you find helpful about today's topic?

I'm trying to continue one hoping it's not over but it's hard reaching that person so, idk

I know I'm putting up what looks to be too much to read so I hope whoever takes the time to do so please bear with me and do what you can with no issues in doing so which is greatly appreciated. I was close friends with someone I had known for 3 years and I had slowly developed a crush on her throughout that time. I held so much value to that relationship because it was one of the best I had in many years of my whole life and made me feel alive and felt like I could be comfortable being my true self around her, she had also shown to have cared for my well-being which was something I was genuinely grateful for and I would always care for her in return. We shared good hobbies in common such as video games, and other sorts of geeky entertainment, and would even open up to other hobbies and interests of our own perspective that we would get to enjoy which I truly did when I first tried and even looked forward to getting more of those with her. We were part of a small group of friends who had many hobbies in common and have group gatherings to play games like D&D and have holiday parties together since the time COVID lockdowns took place around our state. I had started to develop feelings for her after the first year and I kept it to myself for so long because I was afraid if I came out, not only would she reject me but it would lead to her feeling awkward and uncomfortable with my presence due to having these feelings for her. I had taken the path to where I would put in the effort of becoming the type of person she would feel comfortable and happy to be around because I had even noticed she had started to not show much acknowledgment of my presence and interests especially when getting more involved in our friend group meanwhile I would always show her acknowledgment even if I don't get anything in return because I don't even expect her to which I know that's one of the big points of trying to establish a good and successful relationship, even when I would not expect anything like whenever I would ask for things to do together like going to visit each other's homes when the timing is right and appropriate or other things like going out to public places, exercising or going to the gym together which she always liked to do and I wouldn't go as far as considering them as like going on dates unless we were at the point to where they would be, despite going as far to asking if she would like to do all these things she would enjoy doing together it would always lead to no as an answer and back it all up with excuses and boundaries, and only keep her availablities for whenever we do these things with our friend group and only go as far as keeping things virtual between us, so I would come to know that with all that being clear enough that she's not exactly interested in developing a close relationship even when I try to establish to bond with her individually which is what I always tried doing within the friend group that we're part of and always seemed to workout just fine but not with her. I had opened up my feelings I had for her among the people I was closest within our group and even some from the outside and they all gave the same advice to confess, it took me a while so by the time she had graduated from college and found herself a job to work full-time I knew she would have very little time to socialize with either me or anyone else so I gave myself a due date which took place by the end of last year, I met with her in person and told her how I felt but not only did I confess but I had opened up about our friendship status telling her of my awareness of how it felt like it was going downhill because she didn't seem fully-sold on the idea of having it grow like I wanted, I had even led myself to believe that if I were to confess to her things would lead to a better outcome. I ended up getting "buddy-zoned" for an answer and so, in the end, I tried my best to accept it we ended things there and went our split ways back home and I took my time to 'process' in having to accept the answer I was given and just stayed locked in my room not really doing much for nearly two weeks and so after that I tried getting myself back together and decided that perhaps I'll be fine with being friends because I've got nothing to lose in the end, so I tried being active on our Discord but as soon as I returned to that state she would go radio silent among our group for longer than would be considered normal and I would notice small signs showing she really is active to where my presence doesn't take place so I knew then that my presence felt unwelcomed, I left the Discord server we were in and she would never bother to reach out to check why I left after literally half a year so, of course, she was ghosting me this whole time. Last month within range of today I reached out to her one more time hoping that she would respond and see if we could get to a good outcome, she responded by immediately telling me through a paragraph that she didn't want to get involved with me due to having an *unhealthy dynamic* because she admitted to never truly developing any interest in having the kind of relationship I hoped in getting with her romantic or not, she felt that our compatibility wasn't great and every attempt I make in trying to engage with her were signs that I was being dependant on her attention, even said every time she would notice me going through a state of sorrow it would feel nothing more than putting herself under task to make sure I'm feeling okay and not feel bad or guilty about it even though I never meant to put her in that state of mind because I know I have issues relating to anxiety that I can't help but not contain, she even confessed to having ghosted me and admitted that it was wrong of her to do so. We had a long night of clearing the air between us for the last time and so we came to the conclusion of accepting that things would not work out and so I ended things by asking her for a final favor to send back some mementos I had her hold on to that symbolized the meaning and value of the friendship we had, I had given her other gifts out of consideration for being good friends but I asked for certain small items to be returned because they had more value to me than anything else I had gotten for her which I had hoped she would hold onto for a lifetime, she succeeded in accomplishing that favor and so it ends there and now I'm trying the best I can in trying to move on however I can't help that I'll always be sad having to look back at this relationship knowing that it died in the worst way I had always predicted. Thank you for taking the time to read my long dumb story I hope it's worth anything to anyone.

@julieez

11 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what happend to you.😔 It must hurt a lot.

My gf lives two hours away from me and I feel like the spark we had is dying, the thing is that when we do see each other it’s amazing and it makes me really happy. The thing that’s really been bothering me is that I never really thought of her in that way until she told me she liked me and then I felt like I was in love with her but now I’m confused on if it was and is really at all, I feel like I’m lying to her and myself. I really do love her and I don’t want to break up but I just don’t know what to do. I could really use some advice if anyone wants to give me some, I’m just really confused

@leafythesylveon8220

11 ай бұрын

Holy shit I'm basically in the same situation, idk what to do like ik she lives an hour away but I can't do this anymore, I crave a relationship with a logical thinker rather than an emotional one, I just can't help her emotional needs at all and it's hard to break up because we are in the same friendship group 😭

@ravenlee8221

11 ай бұрын

Take a time out of the relationship and take your time on making a decision but don't take too long either or you can miss a opportunity to be with her.

@mstwilight1612

11 ай бұрын

Are you a Cancer?

To the point with codependency, I don't know if this counts since I'm not in a relationship but many of my goals are codependent. Even back than when I was 15 years old I had the goals that I wanted to be married by age 25 und have kids by age 30 + reachibg golden marriage (being married for 50 years) by age 75. I'm turning 35 this year and don't have reached those milestones. In my job I have reached my goal last month becoming a member of the higher service in my office. One goal that is still open is owning my own house but I actually wanted to reach that goal with my partner together since I liked to have a house large enough for having up to 2 children but it is nearly imposible to buy one with only 1 income. I most likely will inherit the house of my parents but then I will most likely not move anymore since I don't want to sell a house. So without a partner I have the feeling that I will run out of goals in the future.

How do i move on? I was in a relationship and things ended on "good" terms and we decided to still stay friends. I still love her but she doesn't love me. I want to move on but its difficult. Honestly i just want to talk to someone about what happened. Me and her used to be happy but things changed. I don't know what changed but i wish it never did.

I’m literally dealing w this thing rn

This was very useful to me to understand more about my relationship

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for the comment. Which part of the video did you resonate with the most?

@kylebrandon4556

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go when you feel like the spark is gone

Here’s the thing. I’m still struggling to find any sign of anyone who is interested or attracted to me. Right now I’m convinced that I’m just never gonna feel loved by anyone special. I’m getting better with myself, with my body, my mind is better, but for some reason those who are communication impaired (like myself) struggle more. 😔 I’ve yet to find any semblance of hope for me with being in relations with someone. Coming from a 25yr old with promising aspirations in business/game industry/ art/design/direction never experienced kissing or any form of physical attraction from anyone. 😔

ya ate this lil one thing up

I wonder if this can apply to friendships?

Most just strain the relationship and have no dedication. If you stop make a expectation to be perfect and forfill your every needs, almost everyone is a perfect match and noone is unhappy

This one really hit home.

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

How so? :)

@farandowski

11 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go recently, I felt like I'd outgrown my own relationship because I was going through fights and the likes with my partner previously and it got to a point that I just refused to give credence to them and rather focus on going about my life rather than continually argue over small things. The video essentially described my relationship in the last few months🥺

yeah,It's not the end

the funny thing is that i'm not in a relationship and still am watching this (this is called wasting time ik ik)

@sotrum2239

11 ай бұрын

😂

Im going to come.back to this video in a couple of years, fuuuu i know how things are going to end because im the one with the fear of having a broken heart But hey its my fleeing memory and one day i will lose them so for now it is what i make of it and that would be like; flowers on a green hill (like it) but one day that hill qill be covered by snow, everything ends ona way or the other, everyyhing is a cycle, stay safe and drink water :)

I love how everyone is depicted visually as an individual growing plant

Outgrowing relationships? I can’t even get *in* a relationship!

I heard "The Neutral Zone" and immediately thought of Star Trek. XD

At least now I'm better prepared for when this inevitably happens to me 😁

I have a question what if you have a really long relationship like 2 years and there is no arguments apparently that is weird

@CaptCanuck4444

11 ай бұрын

2 years isn't "really long" for a relationship.

Here’s a random story of mine with an ex best friend that actually happened not to long ago: So we’ve been friends for like 2 years now and our relationship was fine at first, but then I left and came back again. It was still fine until it got more and more toxic- we both were complaining to each other abt stuff that annoyed one another and so on. It leaded up to more fights and complaints. I was actually pretty attached and overly obsessed with them so I couldn’t think of a day with leaving them, plus only wanting them to hang with me all the time bc I was pretty possessive. But after a few months we worked some stuff out I guess. Anyways, they told me that they weren’t interested in me anymore bc of the past toxic relationship- If I’m honest I felt nothing when they told me that (maybe a bit of disappointment but yea) bc I tried to build up our relationship and it wasn’t necessarily working, we were both getting bored of each other but I didn’t want them to leave bc I was too attached. After they left I felt sort of sad plus felt even more obsessive, I tried to message them but they obviously wanted to move on bc they kept deleting my texts. So now I guess I just gave up on messaging them. Anyways yeah that’s all- this might be the longest comment I ever typed 😰

I saw this video right as I’ve been questioning my relationship, it left me feeling more confused though because I feel like I’m not ready to end it and I just can’t tell if there are really these signs..

@alicia234

11 ай бұрын

I don’t know if I’m gaslighting myself or what

Always sad (but also necessary) to see these kinds of videos. Also: UwU outro dance UwU

Not in a relationship, but this might apply to my parents

@Psych2go

11 ай бұрын

Why do you feel this way about your parent's relationship? :(

The last girl I was with i used to love her more than myself. Then she asked me for money. After I gave her money the first time, she started making it a habit to beg me for money making up whatever reason why I should give her any of my money. Then she started treating me like her personal ATM. After a while I started to hate her Because all she cared about was money. She didn't want to talk to me unless I gave her money. I'm sorry but I had to cut her off.

What do I do if the spark in our relationship seems to be gone, my long distance girlfriend said she wanted to focus on her studies this year as her grades were starting to slip, of course I was there to support her and everything, but as time went by she just seem to get more and more distant from me, I don’t know if she has lost interest in me or what it is, but she says she isn’t interested in romance at the moment, we got into a few conflicts cuz of this distancing and now we are on a standstill, I’ll admit I’ve been forcing it a bit with trying to get her to love me back again, I was just very upset at the time cuz of all the promises she promised me that she broke during this process, ik you can’t force love but she doesn’t seem like she’s completely uninterested in me, she says she still does like me and isn’t sure if she likes me romantically, I obviously didn’t mean to force anything but I don’t want to give up on this relationship so easily, I mean it’s precious to me, the worst feeling of all is cuz I was toxic in the past I’ve lost A LOT of friends, to get an idea of that, just imagine a popular guy at school, lots and lots of friends, new friends every year, that was me, guess what, I lost every single one of those friends whether it was my fault or not, this was the first few relationships where I didn’t want to lose and I wanted to treasure and love her to the end and so it hurts more to know the one relationship I TRULY treasure and cared about end up becoming like this not because of me but simply because of unfortunate circumstances, but I’m not giving up and I don’t want to give up, however idk what to do, psych2go, I’ve watched your content for very long and never really commented, I’ll really appreciate if you have advice on my current situation…

I feel like my recent breakup was both fire and ice. Recently I moved away and now we don't communicate anymore to recover. I feel constant burnout now. How do you get over someone you loved?

I have multiple occasions of this video, especially transition. I have transitioned fully at some point and my wife didn't accept me at all, saying i changed too much. I tried to leave but I was dealt emotional manipulation and I am awfuly weak versus this

But what about strong bonding and good relationship with determination? Could that help?

@ebmage8793

11 ай бұрын

I think as long as the other person is working on it and you arent giving up something that is integral to your wellbeing. Always remember, you cant have a relationship just by yourself. The other person has to be trying as well.

Can this happen but in familial relationships?

Umm I hv a question 🙋. Is this vdo applicable for every kind of relationships or particularly romantic ones?

This happens to me a lot in friendships idkw

I don't actually have goals. I guess we share the same goals because after she died I just took her goals. And I achieved all of them except for one. Unfortunately that involves her being alive so that's not possible.

Can anyone please tell me the name of the song in background?

🌷

What about a Video about minority Stress

Question my friend is sill with her bf but she called him old man does mean she not interested in him

This video would have been very useful for me last year :'(

Interesting. If this is the result of a relationship. Why have relationships.?

HEY , GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND SO CALLED FAMILY, WELL I HAVE TO LAY BACK DOWN , I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, WELL INTELL LATER ON MY FRIENDS AND SO CALLED FAMILY. TEE 💯🙏💙💪🏆 HAVE A BLESSED DAY

☝ *OR..* "Giving up because wah." 😁

Wondering if I outgrew a "friendship" or just missed the red flags all along

For the people who was here before 100k likes rase your hand ✋