sad fact is the Human Resources department of a company is often there to protect the company, not the victims. If the HR dept. refuse to take victims seriously, I would strongly suggest they go to the worker's union representative to file a complaint against the bully/bullies

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

I’m pinning this comment so others can see. I only recently learned this, and it’s absolutely true. Thank you for sharing advice. I’ve had to report things to higher-ups and I learned that they were all on the same team lol

@datnohi8612

8 ай бұрын

HR 10 out 10 loyalty is with the company that's who pays them, now what if your bully is your boss, sometimes it's best to know when you need to leave, life is to short putting up with toxic people in a toxic environment, my advice to autistic people is this, you know your autistic and you know what you been threw, so you no your limitations and strengths this is very valuable to you, if you know you and people don't mix well why go work in an office or where there are alot of people working do your research on what will suit you best, it might not pay well but at least your not dreading your life, priceless

@EliW95

6 ай бұрын

@@datnohi8612 that's because corporate law creates a legal fiction that's legally considered it's own individual, able to own assets and leverage the debt servitude system, and creates an entity that's treated as somehow separate from the *actual individual people* that operate and work for it and it shields many malicious actors from accountability, whether it's bullying, pollution, fraud, etc.

@LeeWilliby

2 ай бұрын

Bullies make autistic kids

The worst type of bullying towards people with autism is when the bullies turn the situation around on them and make it seem that the person with autism is at fault and the bully is the innocent victim being harassed and stalked which isn't true but this is what bullies do best project situations against those who are vulnerable, they'll lie to other people saying that the autistic person was harassing them when clearly that isn't true, also bullies have a way of setting up those with autism by making a pass at them in order to fall into the bully's trap and get them into trouble that way, anyway this is just sickening this sort of thing needs to stop, it's very detrimental on the autistic person's well-being.

@Nintendofanboy101-yk8ro

2 ай бұрын

omg, I can relate.

@paulgavian90

Ай бұрын

Ppl take advantage of ppl all the time, as an autistic but highly functional apart from abusing substance because my back and stupid brain not able to create normal relationships. I'm starting to pick up on ppl. Sometimes you gotta learn the hard way

@drydry2351

13 күн бұрын

this happened to me in primary school. I was friends with a group of girls who would say horrible things to me which would provoke me into meltdowns where I would call names and hit them because of how angry their words made me. obviously this wasn't okay but it was the only way I could deal with social overwhelm as a kid. I remember being sent to the head teachers office and the girls along with a teaching assistant all scape goated me

Sometimes bullies will make a formal complaint of bullying against you if you stand up to them. This has happened to me repeatedly.

@GaslightingIsEvil

8 ай бұрын

I spoke out and told my employer, they scapegoated me and sided with the bullies/majority They just don't want to admit they're have a toxic environment

@paulgavian90

7 ай бұрын

I lost my good job when I did this but thru FB.fucking disgusting how ppl do this, and I just stay in my own lane but they keep pushing

@lunaloynaz-lopez2318

5 ай бұрын

This happens because there is an unspoken rule that bullies protect bullies, and neurotypical people are usually always bullies. They notice that you're different and cast you out, KNOWINGLY. That's why when you report this, it is never solved because none of them like us

@livenotbylies

4 ай бұрын

Yup, standard, if you are an attractive woman you have a better shot, but anybody else, it usually gets reversed

@lunaloynaz-lopez2318

3 ай бұрын

@@livenotbylies As an attractive ND woman, this is only valid if you're a girl amongst guys. Girls will treat you much worse if you look good

Meanness is a sign of weakness

I just don't understand why people think it's ok to pick on others who are different. And what is it about some of us that is so different that some people just pick up on that right away? You look normal, you sound normal, so why would anyone stare at you? I'm tired of being disliked by people for simply existing. If I didn't have to, I wouldn't deal with any neurotypicals anymore.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

I literally don’t know. And I don’t know if we have some look about us that I’m not aware of?? Being mistreated sucks

@kr3642

8 ай бұрын

It's the hierarchy. There has to be someone to punch down on to keep them feeling secure.

@Hurc7495

7 ай бұрын

I have a theory, many autistic people are, consciously or not, highly resistant or straight up immune to peer pressure. We’ll note what people want us to do but feel no obligation to actually do it if for whatever reason we feel it doesn’t make sense. In my personal life an example would be to not laugh at the bosses sexist jokes. The trouble is this scares people, they find that they can’t manipulate us as normal, they can’t build the low key kompromat that they need to feel comfortable with us. They feel backed in to a corner and choose to attack out of fear. I’m not sure if there is a solution that allows us to keep to our ethics whilst not provoking this response but certainly its helpful to know why it happens. One might say this is one of the life limiting pathologies of allistic spectrum disorder!

@kr3642

7 ай бұрын

@@Hurc7495 haha well put!

@unknownpresences5627

6 ай бұрын

​@@Hurc7495this is very spot on and a lot of the behaviors by them.could be subconscious and indoctrinated to not even be aware of what they are doing (this is why many don't see it wrong for how they also won't believe they were "bullying" others and instead the justifications come in likew "oh they are too soft so they should be thankful I was teaching them to be a real man"

Bullying sadly never ends! Some people still are stuck in the high school. People will be all happy joking, being goofy with each other, but when you are around, they become all serious, not laughing, disinterested and harsh towards you, like "what are you even doing here, why are you talking to us" type of speech and look. Workplace cliques are a huge thing forsure.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

You’re totally right. It’s horrible that i can say I‘ve lived that exact example. So many memories of being treated that way. It’s really a struggle to know what to do, so I guess I just try to come up with ideas and let you guys comment in hopes that we find an answer that doesn’t involve us holding everything in until we explode?

@SmallSpoonBrigade

Жыл бұрын

My soon to be ex-wife is like that. It doesn't matter how clear I am with her that her behavior isn't acceptable or how clear I am that I've got neither the interest nor the ability to be "normal" she chooses to make no effort to learn from any of the reactions, it's all about the things that she thinks she has a right to, even though she's not contributing even the bare minimum of what most wives do and can't be bothered to listen. (She doesn't work and barely does any housework even though I've worked two jobs during periods and right now have a job and school to deal with. Her contribution is purely begging her family for money. ) I'm just glad that I've got the self-esteem and confidence not to believe that this is what I deserve, despite her gearing her whole life around trying to break me. The sad thing is that things could have worked, she just is more interested in outsourcing the consequences of her mental health challenges and probably developmental disorder than accept, or even acknowledge, that so much of this is neither normal nor OK. Thankfully, I can just get a divorce and as a man, I can still potentially have my own kids and family, whereas she's pretty much screwed herself. And I don't feel even remotely guilty as I've given her so many chances to address any of this

@resourcedragon

Ай бұрын

"Workplace cliques are a huge thing for sure." Was having a text convo with a friend and she mentioned the clique-ishness of a lot of the people in the office. It suddenly occurred to me that perhaps the neuro-divergent miss the cues that the clique gives out initially that translate as "come and join the group". We want a bit more time to observe and to start to feel comfortable. And then, as others have noted, neuro-divergent people aren't necessarily all that good at succumbing to peer pressure. So we end up on the outside. (This doesn't apply in all cases, I'm thinking in terms of females who are good at masking but haven't quite perfected their neurotypical act.)

People can be so manipulative, fake and cynical at work. Work when undiagnosed was literally hell. Panic attacks on a daily basis.

@mr.jackson-nl2yw

20 күн бұрын

Omg yes! They knew and I didnt. I kept having panic attacks because they kept having "ambush meetings" planned for me.

@MrsDoorhandle

19 күн бұрын

@@mr.jackson-nl2yw Back in that time, I wasn’t aware of my condition, and I was constantly attacked and criticized for my difficulties. Crazy thing is, I was an excellent employee, did a great job, but I was not able to play the game socially. And this seemed to weight more than the fact of being impeccable at my daily tasks. Having remote jobs became the healthiest choice for me.

@mr.jackson-nl2yw

19 күн бұрын

@@MrsDoorhandle Happy for you. I'm applying to remote jobs myself. Hopefully i get something.

People always lie and play victim. My experience

I'm 58, just learning to stand up for myself. Undiagnosed but just got on a waiting list. Logic doesn't help, honesty doesn't help, only thing I could do is listen, be nice, and then move away from the narcissists because I was very sick from stress.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

We never are told how to do it and it just doesn’t “happen”. It always seems to be something we have to practice at

@bluefox8011

Жыл бұрын

@@Aneva I still struggle with understanding social ques/body language from others even as i am now 30 myself. There are just some people who's only goal's in life are hurting others emotionally, I have worked with some that went out of their way to go online and dig up personal information from websites and then spread lies connecting these personal issues with others making your working environment toxic and as uncomfortable as possible. I have the mutism thing very strongly as when I come across these types of individuals I recognize from experience that these types won't budge from anything you try to do to befriend them or just simply ask them how their day is going. My voice locks up and I get stuck in my head the entire working day. It's awful as when I do come across people who i know are friendly, because of my stress all I can do is wave at them and half-heartedly smile back at them.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

@@bluefox8011 you’re absolutely right. Honestly the best thing I’ve come up with as a strategy is to be yourself and honestly just not try to get their approval. There are a lot of people who no matter what “won’t budge” and that’s okay. Focus wholly on being yourself and focus on nothing else. Enjoy your own company any ignore the things people want you to notice they’re doing. You’re going to be your biggest fan in this case. I wish you the absolute best- as this is in no way easy. But it takes practice and can eventually be achieved.

@Nina94771

11 ай бұрын

🎉

@jenniferliggett6385

9 ай бұрын

OP, you are correct. Aneval is placing too much trust in HR, not realizing that sometimes the managers are egging on the bullies from behind the scenes. If you are the one being targeted by the group, then the easier solution is not to for HR advocate for you, it is to replace you. They always protect the management unless it is so blatant and well-documented that they have no choice but to acknowledge it. The narcissists are skilled liars and deflectors.

I was literally bullied out of college lol. At that time I didn't know I was neurodivergent because my narcissistic mother didn't want me to get diagnosed due to her pride and need to control me. Nobody liked me, my only friend backstabbed me and I was basically sacrificed for a team project. I really fucked up on life when I picked design cuz all the courses and seminars are group-oriented (even Graphic Design. Yup. Animation in particular) I was so traumatized by it that a year after I only then realized I could have literally sued the people involved including the teacher. I was shut down in the "conversation" and made guilty for everything that went wrong. It had hit me out of nowhere and my teammates plotted it behind my back and it had turned out the students talked badly about me every damn semester. I'm truly baffled still about what had happened to me and why. All I could do was drop out and go to therapy for 2 years until I would finally regain the strength and willpower I needed to carry on with my life because making Animations was my dream but it's dead ever since.

@datnohi8612

6 ай бұрын

You shouldn't give up on your dreams because of some idiots, I bet you're talented to, try turning it into a business

@lunaloynaz-lopez2318

5 ай бұрын

This is very common with ND people, NTs favorite thing to do is gaslight, and if you ever bring it up, poof it never happened

@ProCabs-Shepton

5 ай бұрын

I experienced the same but it is my dad that is narcissistic. He deprived me of getting support after I went to a speech therapy at around 5-7yo. They must have diagnosed me then as Autistic but he refused any support given. I'm now 42yo and diagnosed in June 23 so that's approximately 35yrs of living in 'Bullying Hell'. Despite it all, my motto is 'NEVER GIVE UP!✊🏿✊🏿'. With my own company, skills, experiences under my belt; bullies feel my gavel👨‍⚖️⚖️ after they keep underestimating me.🤣🤣

@clarkbowler157

4 ай бұрын

I hope you can regain your love for animation or find something else connected to it that you can love and make your own.

Examples in my current job : Not sharing information Talking about me so that I can over hear but leaning on vague wording for plausible deniability Ignoring me when I speak Not waiting for my reply when directly spoken to Being overly offended by clarifying questions

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

absolutely. definitely is very familiar

@carriebell3566

8 ай бұрын

I can relate 😢

I've become depressed and maybe crazy after being treated different. I got to know a cool girl as a friend and everything was great. We went out shopping for our clothing's and other nice stuff. It felt great just spending time with her. Things changed after 6 months and she became disinterested in hanging out with me. Maybe it was do to my depressive points I think. It just hurts so much losing a person who you think will be there for you even when things get more hard in life. I sure was prepared to hear her troubles and worries with an open heart.

I know this is mostly for work, but I'm watching because my family really doesn't know what they are doing and often bully me. Even telling me that I am a "bomb" they have to step around or I will ruin their day... Hoping to move out.

I was bullied by several of the girls in boot camp, and by some at my duty station. I didn't know that I was neurodivergent then.

Recently the CFO of my company told me in a 1:1 that I came off as standoffish at company events that I actually show up to.. and my response was 'Have you thought about the vibe you and others are giving off that would make stand-offish'.. and they were speechless and changed the subject. I've learned over the years to assume that any co worker and/or manager is not to be trusted so I'm never caught off guard and can push back on them verbally.

i think bullying largely happens because people don't want to stand up to 'the group' even if in reality 'the group' is being manipulated by a select few egotistical people that are trying to fuel their own self important complex if not borderline narcissism (i mean bullying is *very* similar too and in many regards could be considered a lesser, or maybe not so lesser, form of the abuse that narcissists do). I mean group psychology shows that a group can be manipulated by a small number of people and convince the individuals within that 'the group' believes something even if most of them don't in reality

Hahaha…😂 HR…I took it to HR, after it went way over the top. Their response? “Are you sure that this is the job for you?”

@HerrPoopenstein

3 ай бұрын

So, that's when you go to a lawyer. Also, you report the company to the state and federal offices of the Department of Labor as well as health and human safety. The ADA act is a federal law and that makes it ACTIONABLE in a court of law, period. Also, don't listen to randos on the Internet who don't know anything at all about employment law or legal ramifications for abuse and harassment of people in at-risk populations. And the laws are getting stiffer all the time. Especially with kids and seniors.

I found that when I moved to England from Southern California, people are more genuine here and I can be myself without being ridiculed or lectured.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

England sounds so wonderful, happy you like it there!

@tracik1277

Жыл бұрын

I live there. Where are these nice people you speak of?

@alexp2915

Жыл бұрын

I live in the US and have had the feeling for a long time that I should’ve been born in England and would fit in better there. I’ve wanted to move there for years, but am confused by visas and residency and all that, and don’t know if it’s even possible. May I ask how you did it? Or if you have any tips on how to move there, please send them my way! 😄

@Anonymous-wh4ez

Жыл бұрын

​@@tracik1277 . 😂

@bunnyboo6295

8 ай бұрын

@@tracik1277 Is possible the common behavior there is nicer then that of California. I hear the people in California are crazy.

I am in my late 40's I have Autism and AD HD and I dealing with a toxic house mate who bullies me.

Great topic, one that we don't hear enough of as neurodivergent adults. It's encouraging to see more and more autistic creators step up and speak on these issues. Thank you.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, sadly, bullying doesn’t go away after highschool. Wish it did though! Thanks for the support

I always enjoy when your notifications pop up. You have so many needed discussions relating to Autism. Lately I've seen more online bullying like there'll be an allistic (non-Autistic) person who interacts with an Autistic person, a miscommunication happens, the allistic person is a jerk until it's revealed the other person is Autistic and then the allistic person usually says sum'n akin to, "you should've led with that so I could've been more understanding". It baffles me so much bc why should the person willingly disclose they're Autistic for someone else to be kinder to them?

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

I really don’t like when that happens. Especially because after you tell someone you’re autistic, then people start to wonder if you used it as a cop-out to “avoid taking mistreatment as a joke”, instead of holding the aggressor responsible. I literally do not understand :’) ?¿ And thank you so so much, that really makes me happy to hear! I love to see your notifications for comments too :)!

@telayajackson2.023

Жыл бұрын

This happened to me recently. I would get excluded by close colleagues until they know that I'm autistic unless I get triggered by something they say or do.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

@@telayajackson2.023 it’s so so so common. It makes me feel better to know we’ve had the same experiences as autistics, but im really looking forward to people being more aware of their actions and how they might affect others

@rahbeeuh

Жыл бұрын

@@Aneva Nor do I. Yes, that's another aspect I hadn't thought of when I initially commented. [People wondering if being Autistic is a copout.] I don't understand why that's important when all the allistic person or anyone for that matter had to do was take accountability for being a bully or just be a decent person from the start to avoid bullying altogether. Aww yay... mutuality 🙌🏾💛

@rahbeeuh

Жыл бұрын

@@telayajackson2.023 oh no! That sucks. Like it shouldn't have taken your disclosure for your coworkers to treat you better. Looking forward to the day these situations lessen * wishful thinking *

I'm autistic myself and absolutely hate it. If by 'bullying' you mean calling out all of these spoiled social media brats lecturing on 'neurodiversity' BS for what they are? I proudly do that.

What if you have tried everything and they don't stop bullying you for 11 long years and they are your next door neighbor? He's a Conservative clean cut athletic man who is respected around here and I'm an autistic queer person who is alone, ignored, slandered and stigmatized. My only superpower is my extreme empathy and that's been no match against his cruelty toward me.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

It’s really hard, because some situations are just so hard to remedy that you have to instead try to focus on your own mental health. Some things really are out of our control to an extent, so outside of the steps you can take- the rest is a battle fought in your mind. Being isolated and ignored is a horrible feeling. The only solution I’ve found is to embrace it. We’re different and we can’t change that. All we can change is how we feel about ourselves having known that. It’s not much of a solution, but hope this helped

@traebee333

Жыл бұрын

@@Aneva thank you 🙏

My boss and her best friend are tag team bullies, and the shitty part is I have found they are fully supported by HR.

Autistic people who aren't white like me aren't heard very often. I really enjoyed your video and am definitely subbing. Keep it up!

@caseythornton8447

Ай бұрын

Autistic white people aren't heard either.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Im going to be honest and just say, I haven’t really overcome mine and I’m just not sure I will be able to? It’s just so deeply imbedded within me. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I’ve tried many things but the anger and all of that etc just comes back and it’s intense. Things that happened decades ago etc., It’s like yesterday for me. It’s irritating but I ultimately try to distract myself and just promise myself I won’t allow such things to happen again under any circumstance. 👊🥊🤣

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

Oh man, please please please understand that I hold a lot together to be positive for everyone watching ! I’m not perfect, I just have to provide hope. Being bullied shaped my personality in certain ways and made me so passionate about helping others. But the pain doesn’t always leave, you know? I hope to always share that I’m human while also showing that we can be so strong. I always always always appreciate interactions with you!

You're talking about narcissists here. I highly suggest you watch content by Dr. Sam Vaknin on narcissists and bullying. Narcissists will constantly push people's boundaries and try to elicit a negative emotional response. I'm also on the spectrum and have dealt with these kinds of people.

I remember being bullied for 2 years by my former college. I hope things have gotten better! 😢😢😢

@Aneva

2 күн бұрын

@@SodAutistic I love my job now, I’m extremely lucky and grateful

@Aneva

2 күн бұрын

@@SodAutistic hope you’re doing well too!!

@SodAutistic

2 күн бұрын

@@Aneva thank you!!! 🥹🥹🥹 Things got better once I got out! As a teacher, I’m trying to accommodate for all students on the spectrum 😁😁😁

First ammendment protects you if you're recording someone as long as you're not video recording the inside of their private abode and as long as, if it's private property, the property owner doesn't specifically ask you to stop. If they don't ask you, it's assumed it's fine due to first ammendment.

I can relate to a lot of this 💯

Howdy! I have a very serious case! I have a friend who is disabled, severely autistic with a personal assistant who suffers from bullying, for 15 years. Because of 5 brothers who are related to him (an uncle, abusive mother, and 3 aunts). One is 46 years old, the uncle is 45 years old, the second is 44 years old, his abusive mother is 43 years old, and the last one is 37 years old. And a drunken leader who is also always bullying him. They don't have the education that he has. He finished high school, passed his baccalaureate, and is now at college in Year 2 Management. And they still have the guts to bully him? What senseless people! His grandmother loves him very much and he loves her too. But they always have to yell at him. They know that he is different from them, that he is weak and has no way to defend himself. They always call the police to assault him, to laugh at him. It's not right what they're doing to him. They bully him on purpose to make him afraid of them. They always terrorize him, won't leave him alone, while he ignores them and he stays away from them. I am outraged by what is happening to him. He wants to fight back in the sense that he wants to sue the 5 agressive relatives or a friend of him(to sue them) who works with the Ministry of Education at the County School Inspectorate for what they are doing to him. He's going to send them proof of what they're doing to him. Recordings, filming. He no longer wants to be related to them because of the humiliations he endured all these years. He is 21 years old. They also have accomplices who do the same thing to him. He Really Needs Help. And he really believes and LOVES the Creator, God. They are possessed by the Devil. You really should believe me! He has suffered enough, he wants peace and a good life. He ignores them because he is scared of them, he is aware of what they are doing to him. He can't at all! He always hides when they come. I will try to help all disabled people to have a good life. He's going to leave them after college with his grandmother, for a better place. They tell him nonsense to lure him to their dark side. He was beaten by his mother's boyfriends. She didn't raise him. His grandmother raised him. She also torments his little sister who is not autistic. I'm going to help him and his grandmother, and the other families and the female dog, get out of pain and have a good life. His 6 Kindred are doomed and dangerous. Just write to me. They are allowed to mock a severed autistic person with personal assistent? To bully him that he's different, huh? I'd say, NO! They're not allowed. They don't care about him, they're using him for their dark goals. They're manipulating the other people to believe in them. I was crying when i saw his sad real story. He's been suffering enough. They're saying this to him ,,You are too big, to asist you in the shop, to buy, or to walk with you in the park". They're leaving him all alone in the park for the other people to bully him, instead these relatives on taking his side. This second husband of his mother, he humiliated him last year at the mountain in front of godparents of the husband. Instead on helping the kid to clean up, he shouted at him very hard, and he cried. Don't take their side, because he's suffered enough! They're equal to us, we don't have rights to mock them! I'm gonna fight morally for their benefits and good will.

what you say is very good advice. I was passive aggressive to someone who was supposed to help and work with me. Basically, not only do I have autism but I also have tourettes. I also have copalaylia. At first, he was nice to me but then he started being rude to me a year later. He's been mean to other clients too so I really don't think he deserves to work with autistic people. Due to my TS, I would drive him crazy by the racial slurs which I couldn't help. At first he was telling me to stop. I really tried to tell him that I couldn't help it but he said I was acting like a kid, that my mom babies me since she "doesn't dicipline me for my tics", and that I should pick different words. It was very odd how he thought someone taught me the words when really, most people understood those words at a young age My mom told me that I should fire him because he was invalidating my TS. I chose to not do it because he was so nice to me at times. So it sometimes got worse. Another thing he did was that he blamed the video games for me losing something. It's one thing if I was playing video games instead of putting my wallet away when really I was holding too many things and I didn't realize I dropped my wallet. This was after I showed him that video games were my passion when we first met. So that's a big no no but he continued. When we got to the place where I needed to get my id, he was saying to me in a really conceding way that "this is what happens when you lose your wallet." I was already upset about it and I tried to tell him that it wasn't the video games but he didn't believe me and it was like 5 years since I last lost my wallet, and that I wasn't trying to lose the wallet. I was so angry that I wanted to yell at him to shut up in front of everyone in the building. I didn't but I later made a video about him one my past account only to delete it because I felt bad. I was trusting of him and didn't really stand up for myself because he was nice alot of the time so I was in denial. I was just hoping that he would feel better. Then there was a time I didn't do the independent skills that he wanted so he bullied me about that and he was saying that my mom was babying me and that my mom was b****ching about him needing to improve. I told his boss and we had a meeting but he said that he never said that my mom was being the b word. He just said that my mom was babying me. I thought maybe that was true(I know it's not now) So then there were other times where he was flat out rude to me for no reason and I felt like firing him only for him to be nicer later during the day. Anyways, when it came to the last few days, I was still trying to give him chances but anyways, we went to the store and I was having trouble. When we got out of the store, he said I should stop being triggered by black people even though I say those words without a black person in sight. He knew this but he thought that I was very triggered when really, the tics went up because I was stressed about the situation rather then the person's race making me say it. He basically twisted my mom's words about my TS. Also during those times, he never even said sorry to me for most of those actions. So anyways I get in the car, I'm really stressed and then I start hitting my head on the seat and he said I was being very disrespectful and that my mom may allow it but not him. I finally told him to "please stop bashing my mom" but then he said he wasn't talking about my mom. I then said that my mom wasn't babying me and that he needed to stop thinking that but he said he hasn't said it in a long time. Then he said to me in a rude tone, "ok, so you're going to tell mom, she will talk to his boss, and his boss will talk to him when you misconstrue things." I was just nodding my head like yes and I felt like firing him that day but then his boss said that maybe I should let him help me for one last month before I move back to my families house. Before that, it was the weekend and I didn't know that his boss didn't tell him that he was fired so I wanted to have a heart to heart talk with him but he said that he was just trying to help me. I agreed about letting him be my ils worker(I gave him one more chance) but then the next time we saw each other, I was having TS issues and my roomate said "why does he have Tics?"(he's also on the spectrum and sometimes asks the same questions), I was near my room and I heard him say alittle bit about how I couldn't control them but then I heard him say that my mom babied me once again and I was so mad that steam was coming out of my ears so then I took a shower and I was thinking about a plan to get him back so I had an idea and so when we went in the car, I started letting my tics out like crazy because I didn't care and wanted to annoy him. That's the passive aggressive part. First he blamed the phone game I was playing but then he mentioned that I had an attitude with him for the past week so eventually I just asked him if he said what he said about my mom and he said no and I said "that confirms everything" and what I meant by that was that he was gaslighting me on purpose and I really wasn't cool with that so I finally got angry and said "I'm tired of being treated like shit!" and he just said "ok, whatever you say." After that he didn't work with me again.

Depends on the size of the company. When the HR manager is a relative of the owner and the person or persons harassing you are relatives of the owner, or they're members of the same club, you basically have no recourse whatsoever. If it's an HR department of a company with hundreds to thousands of employees you might get somewhere with a formal complaint. That means you have to have documentary evidence of the harassment. Sometimes it's best to move on or start your own business. I've put up with harassment on the job and in business for over 30 years and trust me it doesn't get any better as the years go on. I put up with the nastiness because I had goals, which were more important to me than what people did to me. idk if I'm autistic but I'm definitely not like a lot of people that have jobs.

I am a small adult with both AUTISM and Adhd I live in a group home with people who have different disabilities one of the residents bullies me they become food police telling everyone how much they are allowed to eat they target mostly me

@Catlily5

4 ай бұрын

Living in a group home can be difficult. I lived in a few many years ago.

No one should bullied never autistic black or gay never you are a brave and beautiful girl ❤

Hello ANEVA and I love your KZread channel. And i subscribe to your KZread channel. And I am 37 years old. And I am a male. And I am a disabled person. And I am on the Autism spectrum I have PDD-NOS. And I live by myself. And I am single. And I am a virgin. And I am 5'0 feet tall. And I understand about being bullied. Back when I was in school from elementary school to highschool. I was bullied and picked on. I was in special ED classes. And bullies would call me the R word. And I was beat up a couple of times by bullies.

Pity bullies lol😂

Fed up with my mom.ugh. Lol

My house manger dosent believe me. I live in a group home for people who have different special needs and other disabilities I don't know what's wrong with this individual but they are targeting me and I try to report it but I'm not believed I don't know what to do they play the innocent victim so well.

I'm autistic dealing with a female who did an order of protection for not dating them I think they might hurt me

...and one more thing... I don't know how old you are. You look young, but a lot of us do. If you are , in fact, as young as you look, you are INCREDIBLY WISE for your age.... and if you aren't as young as you look.... you're still wise. I, as a late Dx (age:36) Aspie, with a high IQ, definitely learned something.😉

@Aneva

6 ай бұрын

My parents are baby boomers! So I’m as wise as a millennial. Thank you so much!

@s0cializedpsych0path

6 ай бұрын

@@Aneva ❤️ You're doing good things!

Thanks. I am new on KZread and made a little video- and people said some really mean things. And I'm like, bruh- I'm Gen X, sorry, if you are here to hurt me you are a few decades late. lol. But honestly, I seriously don't know how to deal with bullies all the time especially online. I'm just like, well- deletes your comment.

We are very unfortunate to be female autistic because people just dont know how autism can be in females. Not that people that harrass give a crap but its terrible to do to anybody. In some countries you are allowed to video to prove harrasment but you cannot record meetings, uk for instance.

I luv ya girl😊 but for me reporting my bullying is lolz id say ask someone you trust if thats a good idea 😉 before you make that call. I encourage autistic people to get help from mental health. If you do be prepared they might not get you some of them can even be bullies themselves! Ask for help from good people but look out for the bad ones. Im 40 late diagnosis at 36 I hope someone finds my advice usefull and im always willing to talk!😊

I’m learning that I might have autism.

@Aneva

11 ай бұрын

I hope that watching videos and reading about autism brings more clarity!! Best of luck :)

@debih70

11 ай бұрын

It absolutely does ❤️🙏 Thank you ❤ I showed my mom and she’s starting to see me finally starting to understand me . Thank You so much 😢❤️❤️❤️🙏

I worked at a golf course for a few months. Nobody told me what to do. There was little supervision. All my coworkers were teenagers. It was a FUCKING NIGHTMARE alllll the way until I got fired.

I hoped to get some tips on bullying others, not to talk about others bullying me :/

I am new to your channel.

@Aneva

8 ай бұрын

welcome!

charisma on command, I unsubscribed, cause it just makes me realize how bad my deficits are, lol

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

You know, you have a good point there. I think when it went beyond my capabilities, I watched for interest and hope, and then stopped. I learned mostly to work at being comfortable with myself and eventually confidence may grow from it. Makes perfect sense though.

@FirstmaninRome

Жыл бұрын

@@Aneva Yeah, they did one where they said that bill gates mannerism were what made people Hate him, but it didn't mention that yeah, that's all autism that's causing his mannerism, lol.

@rahbeeuh

Жыл бұрын

I did the same thing. I used to be a big fan of that channel but it became obvious at some point that what was my normal and what's society's normal didn't align. Charisma on Demand is prolly the most cordial unsub I've ever done. I didn't leave due to them causing me harm it was me unsubscribing so I didn't get hurt.

@Aneva

Жыл бұрын

@@rahbeeuh looking back on it, the channel taught me how to mask better, not be a better or “real” version of myself. I think you guys really opened my eyes to something I wasn’t even aware of. It’s really important to have these conversations. Thank you so much for your comment ❤️

@rahbeeuh

Жыл бұрын

@@Aneva No problem! ♥️ Yeah, when I was subbed to them the tips I took away from them weren't things that came naturally to me. I haven't ever been very good at masking but unknowingly watching CoD I tried. I really like these conversations. So informative and educational

The problem with "control" is that many autistic people can't endure endless bullying and "get tough". They still have AF MUCH RIGHT to be in a work space or school without harassment. Like, normalizing harassment IS part of the problem. Your also have the issue of sensory overload + harassment and that can EASILY lead to an autistic meltdown, which is NOT a tantrum. It's much more like a seizure and people DON'T "control" seizures. Neurotypical people who THINK they are above the law, above corporate policies, etc are the bullies. Many people are working on legislature to ensure that citizens who are differently abled have REAL recourse from personal injury, to labor laws with serious penalties for allowing/ignoring abuse, and especially for the person caught DOING the harassment. People with differently abled kids have a right to want to integrate, to be INCLUDED in school/work/public spaces the children they have who will be adults like you over day too. "Bullying", and ESPECIALLY in the work place, is NOT in the targets to resolve. You are right to keep days/times AND what happens during and after a complaint. When all else fails, and if the harassment is HARMING a person the company KNOWS has issues, seek legal counsel. The ADA is a thing and people who think they cannot be subjected to serious fines FOR abusibg at-risk populations are in for a wake up call. I heard about a mother who sued her neighbor and WON a big settlement BECAUSE she had repeatedly asked the parents of a bully to DO something about her own kids toxic behavior to her daughter with autism, who the boy has actually assaulted physically. His arrogant mother tried to do the "he's just a kid/they're just kids/bullying" is normal but his harassment caused extreme emotional damage and because his parents were too weak to control or change his behavior, they lost their home to sell it in order to pay the suit the abused girls mother won. More and more parents are tired of irresponsible parents allowing their violent and disrespectful children to bully and hurt innocent kids just because they're different.

I think that she is bullying me. She purposefully excludes me from things. W family

Theure insrcure and torture others to get through life lol😂

I be just thanking God that I'm not in their shoes

Im scared cuz it went viral please help me

@Aneva

9 ай бұрын

There’s so much to figure out, but I’m wishing you the best!!

Honestly, people with Autism, listen carefully, BULLY BACK, regardless of age. I did and MADE Neurotypicals cry 😭 for their actions. But NOT all Neurotypicals are created equal 🟰.😊