If all goes as planned im getting married next fall. I dont want an atypical wedding at all i strictly want the handfasting ceremony. So these type videos are very helpful in much needed decision making.

I just witnessed my first handfasting last year and I absolutely loved the meaning behind these ceremonies. It was beautiful and such an honor to watch!

Thank you for the great demonstration!

such a helpful demonstration and explained so nicely! thank you!

I'm getting married on 8/30 so less than two weeks away. We are going to be doing the second version you mentioned (starting at 4:47). It's so beautiful

@adelinewurzer4533

2 жыл бұрын

congrats lol it was just ur anniversary a few weeks ago (: my partner and I are getting married September 13th, in 2 day and we are doing this

I love how you took the time to present this demonstration. I like how you used different materials. This is just what I was looking for 🌹

Omg tying the knot

Instead of twirling the knot after tying it with the first method, I'm thinking of braiding the ends, not sure where to go from there, bt I like the idea of braids. your lives woven into each others.

@wonderingaround945

4 жыл бұрын

That also seems like a lovely gesture as well, I think you should do that. Good luck to when you do!

Thank you, thank you, thank you for showing us clearly and concisely how to correctly do 3 variations of hand fasting. So incredibly helpful!

Such a wonderful tradition 🌸

I found out I’m Scottish by heritage so I want to incorporate it my wedding ceremony next year.

What if one side of the family isn't there in your life? As sad as this might seem, I don't think my family will have anything to do with me when I find the one for me. And I don't think it would be genuine to represent a family you don't have. I don't mean to be sad, I've accepted it, however, I'm very curious on how I could change it to fit me. I do want to do this. It's a lovely ceremony. I like this video as well, and I've never really questioned the saying "tied the knot" and it surprised me when I learned that's were it came from. Very informative.

@ladycaticorn2950

4 жыл бұрын

Do you have close friends? If so, have friends come up and represent you. Family is not blood, it's a bond you create with people whom you love. If that happens to be friends or your significant other's family, then so be it! You can absolutely do this ceremony if you want to.

@helgeloch5712

Жыл бұрын

You can also make 3 Strips with past, presence and future.

Thank you for this lovely, simple demonstration of HF. It was very useful for recapping before my recent wedding ceremony. My US wedding clients loved it.

Thank you, Jane.

Amazingly beautiful!!!🌹

Thank you so much for the demonstration! I love the infinity knot and especially your suggestion that the cords can be placed in a display box :)

Beautiful! Thanks for that Jane :)

This is very beautiful, thank you for this.

Brilliant! Thank you so much! I'm officiating my friends' wedding latter this summer and they would like a handfasting ritual but like all the rest, I've never done any of it before, sooooo once again, thank you!

Thank you for sharing the various ways of handfasting methods! Well done

Beautiful! Thank you very much.

That 2 piece rocks!

Thank you, this was a very helpful demonstration! I enjoyed seeing the different types of handfasting that a couple could do.

I love this idea! I especially loved the 2nd one as a whole, and the part where friends/family come up and lay the fabric over your hands. (I’d probably braid the ends of the third one though once done for decoration to put in a picture box). But that 2nd one 😍😍😍 so so beautiful

Thank you so much for this!

Thank you so much for sharing this. We're having a friend officiate our handfasting in September 2022 and this is perfect for showing him how we want it done.

Oh my lord, such beautiful ideas!! Thank you so much for sharing them! I will definitely use one at my wedding ^^

Thank you for sharing this helpful tutorial. Many blessings on your work.

Thank You for sharing. Great explanation!! Cheers! Tying the knot on 2.22.22

@janebechtel7482

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Dave! Have a wonderful day when it comes.

i plan on having a wedding like this, thank you for this! ❤️

That’s beautiful 😍 well done Thank you

When I get married some day I want a soft of combination between a handfastings and a traditional wedding, so I'm looking at both closely to determine what aspects I want to include.

Thank you! We used this to help our officiant figure out how to do the ties!

We used your tutorial to guide the hand fasting portion of our wedding last Saturday, thank you so much for that :) I was wondering if anyone has sent you the completed version of #1? I mean if anyone has made specific suggestions for how to finish it off like you mention about 4.15 min in, “if you have an arty family member they can make that into a beautiful piece of knot work.” I’ve tried googling and haven’t come up with much but if possible, if you could point me in a direction that would be very helpful.

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Emily, So sorry to take so long to get back to you....and I suspect that you have it all sorted out by now. Sadly I do not have a photo - but I know it has been done! If it hasn't been sorted yet I suggest you maybe have a word with a florist? or one of the set design type companies that scene set for couples or venues these days? I will make a point of taking my bits of cloth to a favourite florist and getting them to film a tutorial for me! Hope you had a wonderful day - and congratulations! xx

Cant wait to do this with my lovely other half

thank you so much glad to see it done right

Thank you very much - I´m from Germany and I also conduct free weddings. Your rehearsal was very educational and charming! Very interesting. All the best for you!

This is wonderful! Thank you so much for posting this! Can you tell me what type of ribbon I need to look for when looking for something to tie the knot with?

It's a shame this doesnt count as an official wedding in England. Because as a wiccan I would love this

@pepzking3962

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! I’m pagan in England, we’re just being greedy and having two weddings 😆 quiet civil then a handfasting a few days later with all our guests

@adelinewurzer4533

2 жыл бұрын

I'm pagan and I was raised pagan, I am doing this for my wedding in 2 days. u can have a legal wedding and include this!!

@polinaznobina7752

2 жыл бұрын

@@adelinewurzer4533 yea I know but I mean I wish this ceremony itself counted :( I'm definitely having handfasting at my wedding. I'm wiccan. Family wont be happy but oh well it's my wedding

@adelinewurzer4533

2 жыл бұрын

@@polinaznobina7752 it's actually an ancient pagan practice (:

@polinaznobina7752

2 жыл бұрын

@@adelinewurzer4533 I know

Beautiful

THANK YOU SO MUCH

I been Planning for handfasting for My wedding, with all guests have chance to tied the cords/ribbons on my & my partner hands and give their Blessings, In turn me and my partner give our blessing to them too, for coming to our Auspicious day.

I’m studying to do my first handfasting for some friends and this was so helpful and kindly explained ❤️ thank you!

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying so...and you're very welcome! Hope you have a great time at the wedding.

So is the hand fasting suppose to replace the ring exchange completely or can that still be done? I love the hand fasting better😍

its beautiful, love it so much. wish im a scottish

Thank you for this demo from a Celebrant in Brisbane Australia. Do you have any wording for this part of the ceremony?

@janebechtel7482

4 жыл бұрын

humanistweddingsperthshire.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2018-01-02T12:32:00-08:00&max-results=7 link above to a reading that fits the bill! - please contact me directly for any further info - happy to help!

Thankyou for this demonstration, it was simple and explained perfectly. I'm surprising my boyfriend on Wednesday with this ceremony and our best friend is going to perform the ceremony xxx

Is this where we get the term "tie the knot"?

Is there a reason the ribbons only get wrapped around the woman' wrist?

It’s believed by some that if you get hand-fasted to someone that you’re together for eternity, from this life to all other future lives. So you better be sure that you really love that person. Lol I never want to get married but there’s one man that I wouldn’t mind being attached to for eternity, so if it ever gets to that point hand-fasting may be the way to go.

What is the second knot called?

Jane that you for making that look so simple, can you tell me the name of the second knot please?

@marygibson9193

3 жыл бұрын

that should read thank you

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

I'm (K)not sure it has a name Mary - or if it does I don't know what it is! I think of it as the Saltire knot, as the cloth forms the cross that is depicted on the Scottish flag (which is called the Saltire), but I have also referred to it as the 'Tah Dah' hand-fasting - as it certainly creates a proper 'Tah Dah' moment in the ceremony!

This was very helpful ty do you do Wiccan weddings?

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer, Glad you found the video helpful, and a bit of a yes & no answer on the Wiccan weddings! Humanism is purely non-religious, and in my mind a Wiccan wedding is very much a religious occasion. In fact given that the rites involved might be waaaaay older than Christianity, i suspect you could say it is MORE religious! There are celebrants that are happy to include a lightweight version of say 'jumping the broomstick', or asking the cardinal directions for their 'blessing' or support for the marriage to follow the ceremony. It is a bit of a wavy line that guides each of us on where a - once common - serious religious act becomes a non-religious cross cultural 'symbolic gesture', as jumping the broomstick has become, so would suggest that if you can't find a local Pagan officiant, do speak to an interfaith minister, or have a look at the HSS website, or at my blog to find out if a non religious ceremony might be an option for you and your partner. Have a great day when it comes round, and do shout me direct for any more information, if this doesn't cover it all for you. Jane xx

hi jane i was curious if you could show me an example of handfasting with 5 strands

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Mal, I'm afraid my tech is not up to much here (poor phone for filming!) ... and I don't have volunteers to hand either with the lockdown...BUT both the infinity knot, and the one with the ribbons that tie below the hands could be done with five strands instead of the three shown in the film here. Alternatively, you might find a 'how to' on five strand braids - for hair or bread maybe? - that could be adapted. Best wishes, x j

Would you be willing to do one in hollywood, FL in a couple years?

@janebechtel7482

4 жыл бұрын

ha! Love to, but think my expenses might be a bit brutal!...but with enough notice anything is possible!

@silvermoonshoppe8166

4 жыл бұрын

@@janebechtel7482 I will definately keep you in touch!

@SjofnBM1989

4 жыл бұрын

There are officiants everywhere who are trained to do handfasting these days. I'm sure you can look up someone on google who can do it in your area.

@rosemanning3625

4 жыл бұрын

I am an officiant in Davie Florida, find me on Thumbtack!

I’m getting ready to officiate a wedding and they’ve asked this to be done. Is it OK to do it at the end of the ceremony after the vows and exchanges of the rings?

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Richard, No rules that I'm aware of (though I'm sure there will be folk who disagree on that!) - and I have seen folk bound together at the end of the ceremony (one left hand to one right hand) and then walk out bound together for photos. Takes the handfast into the rest of the day in a fun way.

Hello, could you share the music behind? Thanks ;)

@janebechtel7482

4 жыл бұрын

sorry, I don't know...it's just a copyright free music bank piece.

I was wondering if it is possible to create the celtic heart knot during a handfast

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Tara. Thanks for taking the time to comment. There really are endless ways that a binding knot can be tied - as many as there are knots really! - but I think it would be limited by the complexity of the shape you are trying to make. There are many Celtic style knots that could be tried, but if you have a particular form in mind, it might be worth seeing if you could make the shape in two parts - and then join them together in the ceremony? Alternatively, make a very simple knot in the ceremony, and use that as the centre of a larger or more complex/Celtic design to be kept as a memento. Have fun trying them out! J

What type of cord did you use? I'm struggling to find something similar to what you use in this video

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Josh, I used curtain tie back cord, from a big homeware place...but an upholstery or curtain making supply shop should sort you out. Good luck! X j

So normally people have family on each side bring those ropes up?

Where do you get cord like the ones in your demonstration? Thank you!

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Abby, the cord is the kind used to make curtain tie backs - and I got it at my local branch of Dunelm Mill - but any curtain supplies shop should have them. Have a grand day when it comes! x j

@abbypalmquist3871

Жыл бұрын

@@janebechtel7482 Hi Jane, thank you! Good to know. I’ll look for those!

So it’s a figure 8?

Is handfasting exclusive to people or Scottish, Celtic etc descent? I love the symbolism of the ritual but want to be respectful of it. Is it a closed practice or are there individuals who shouldn’t use it?

@janebechtel7482

Жыл бұрын

Hi Tracy, Not at all an exclusive act - in fact a search of historical wedding customs will show you some form of hand-fast in pretty much every culture on the planet - there really is no easier way to symbolically demonstrate two people being bound together than binding them together. Hope you have fun finding a version - and wording - that suits you perfectly. Best wishes, J

@Pinkbowsilly83

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for replying! 😊 really enjoyed the video

Where can you get cords like these?

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Hiya Katie. The cords used in the film came from Dunelm Mill, but old fashioned haberdashers or any curtain shop will have them in all sorts of colours and widths. Hope that helps. j

@ktmae5683

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!!

I'm wanting to have a handfasting ceremony, but neither of us have family that is going to be there, just a few friends... :/

How do you propose to a girl for a hand fasting?

@janebechtel7482

2 жыл бұрын

Hiya Wolverine! Honestly? I'm not sure... I think it would be a proposal of marriage with the hand fasting bit being either a ritual included at an engagement or betrothal occasion, or as an element included in the wedding ceremony - when you get to that! If you are considering a proposal the advice I'd offer is very simple: Be yourself, but know too what sort of proposal would make her happy, and mix and match till it feels right! Best wishes! x J

@wolverinefife3521

2 жыл бұрын

@@janebechtel7482 thanks for you help, hand fasting just seams more meaningful than the normal wedding. We might ch rather make it a day for us rather that entertain and feed people we never really see. Thanks again for your help Jane take care now.

Mmm yeah I think I'll leave to the professionals...if I try that we'll end up in the emergency room lol

i wish i chould get this in america

@caitlynnp2917

4 жыл бұрын

Brady w. Hickman you can!

Hey this looks familiar! lol

I'm getting married soon. So WHY KNOT?

This is incorrect. The man's hand goes on top.

Looks like Shibari 😂

I am an Arab, I am 28 years old, and I live in London. I am looking for a woman in the United Kingdom who does not have any age

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry if this film was misleading, but we do not arrange introductions for those looking for a partner. Good luck!

@SS-dp7lt

Жыл бұрын

Weirdo

Thats scary to you? You must have a safe space

@janebechtel7482

3 жыл бұрын

Morning Seamus! Thanks for taking the time to comment...and yes, I am lucky enough to have a safe space...and not to find the idea of public interaction too scary. However, many folk find the idea of standing up in front of others terrifying in any circumstance...and if they are to be part of an important & meaningful occasion for folk who are very important to them? then it can be even more anxiety causing. My role leading any ceremony - be that a wedding or a funeral - is often about making it as stress free as I possibly can for all those involved in the occasion, and for those celebrating or mourning together too. We can never know what others are facing or going through - or what has happened in their lives so far - so being kind to folk we don't know is the very least we can do. So if I can - through this wee film - make the day of their friend's/child's/dads or OWN wedding ceremony just a little bit easier for them by acknowledging that this is 'scary', because it is an important day and that they might be apprehensive about getting it wrong? Then doing so is pretty much my job. Be kind when you can is not a bad motto. Hope you find a safe space soon. J