For those of you who keep coming back to this clip, it’s not your fault.

@rafaeld.villanueva1826

3 жыл бұрын

lol

@mohamedahmane1116

3 жыл бұрын

😫😫

@Perelinix2

3 жыл бұрын

@@ToxicMrSmith it’s not your fault

@Perelinix2

3 жыл бұрын

@@DeadmanDave it’s not your fault

@Perelinix2

3 жыл бұрын

@@DeadmanDave no, it’s not your fault

I cannot believe this movie was written by two dudes in their 20s. The dialogue is simply incredible and so wise.

@midsizesedan7620

3 ай бұрын

Talent doesn't care about age.

@natradvicfire3102

2 ай бұрын

​@@midsizesedan7620 yeah but wisdom typically does. Makes it all the more impressive

@Kara-Explanations

2 ай бұрын

They probably have had experiences where they idealize this as a concept or they learnt it directly..Or are psychology enthusiasts..

@mmclaughlin056

2 ай бұрын

Welcome to Boston in the 90s

@kevinzhang6623

2 ай бұрын

Because they were educated at prestigious universities, not typical uneducated scum that write scripts. Age doesn't matter, what you MAKE of your years matters.

“It’s not your fault” “Don’t fuck with me, not you” The dialog is just perfectly worded and hits home every time.

@Hamoodddddd

Жыл бұрын

"not you" always hits hard

@808sdean

Жыл бұрын

Dialogue*

@jamesheath7601

11 ай бұрын

@@808sdean ikr stupid American spelling

@samuelperdegaton4143

11 ай бұрын

Counselor help us ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@TonyLovell

11 ай бұрын

@@samuelperdegaton4143 *Couuunselllouuuuur.

The son without a father finds a father without a son. This film was perfect

@BipolarBowler

26 күн бұрын

Well that's some good writing

@codeman9145

12 күн бұрын

This is amazing man

I wish Robin Williams had a therapist as good as himself in this movie in real life.

@mikemcgrath6150

4 жыл бұрын

He didn't kill himself bc he was mentally weak. He had an incurable brain disease which would leave him in a terrible vegetative state. Know what ur saying before u speak of someone.

@asresbenayalew3092

4 жыл бұрын

@@mikemcgrath6150 Thanks for the correction. But didn't he also have a serious depression?

@mikemcgrath6150

4 жыл бұрын

@@asresbenayalew3092 maybe as much as anyone, I dont know, but he ended his life bc of this disease and what was facing him bc of it.

@niabourdain7921

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah correct because everyone needs their own therapist. The close people that can motivate and be with him. Sometimes we cant really understand ourselves ,only Allah understand us completely. That's why if we have any troubles or any great things in our life, come back to HIM. People keep ignoring this part of me time with your Creator. As a slave to your God, Monolog and talk to HIM. Allah knows u very well. and then , as a human.. you have to talk to another human to express your feelings and to feel accepted by other human. It is what we call as self love. ❤

@ZipperDeDoDaa

4 жыл бұрын

@Fizza T He still had severe depression, it was the reason he turned to comedy - he wanted to make other people happy so they didn't have to experience what he was experiencing. I don't know if he had depression towards the end of his life but he surely deserved a good therapist if it could have helped him out of it despite how it all ended.

Good luck finding a therapist this good.

@cheothegeo2742

5 жыл бұрын

wallymarcel1 ‘cause 99% of them are fucking hacks.

@bigdonut001

5 жыл бұрын

Id pay extra

@myopinion3229

5 жыл бұрын

I agree

@tysonmaceachern9673

5 жыл бұрын

the good ones are out there. trust me its the reason why im still alive to this day

@bramvanleeuwen6898

5 жыл бұрын

@@laxale I understand what you're saying. Find a therapist that has what you are looking for. If you are looking to stop suffering, look for a therapist/coach/counselor that is genuinely happy, because a person can only give away what they have inside. Your current therapist probably pushes you to think about your pain more, but that's not where the solution is. I'd be glad to talk a bit more about this with you if you'd like to. I hope the best for you

I'm not even American, I'm Polish. My dad was forced to fight in the Soviet Army, he was a good man that was broken. He tried his best, but his life was so terrible that he became an alcoholic. When I was learning English, by some miracle, this was the first movie I saw. I went to my dad and told him exactly this: "It's not your fault". He broke down, and so did I. I owe a lot to this movie, like many people probably do. I will always love Robin for what he gave me, a poor kid from Poland.

@jesuscm1398

2 ай бұрын

That's a beautiful story down there

@TonyRIKKI

Ай бұрын

Robin helped the kid in this movie, what's more amazing is he ended up helping some polish guy and his dad, God bless you Robin.

@Lifegrownsales

Ай бұрын

Wow..amazing story

@peternicholsonu6090

Ай бұрын

So many take on guilt. If we are fortunate to not be so hurt...we should reach out and listen to them. In Australia we greet "how are ya going?". Then we don't wait for an answer. Next time just ask "how are you doing?" Although you can predict what they'll say, don't give up. Invite them to open a little.. you could save a life! Or stop someone beating on their partner. Let them get it off their chest. They will absolutely love respect you for it.

@ACT0080

Ай бұрын

That's powerful! Thanks for sharing. I hope you and your father are doing well.

Those were the tears of a lifetime, the sobs of a little boy desperate for the love of a father. Will found Sean. Beautiful.

@snisbet721

2 ай бұрын

Funny Thing Is My Name Happens To Be Sean Too

This movie shall not be touched or remade for eternity

@minddrift7152

4 жыл бұрын

Some idiot will try.

@CaptainCocaine

4 жыл бұрын

They should make a girl version with Leslie Jones and Ariana Grande!

@weasley2o13

4 жыл бұрын

Not possible. But now that you bring it up, imagine this scene in a play in front of a live audience, it could be a life changing experience.

@tacobellpublicspaandrespir9942

4 жыл бұрын

@@CaptainCocaine ... No.

@marcbelo7301

4 жыл бұрын

Disney will try, they remake everything

He cries like someone who has wanted to cry about a lot of things but was just saving up for one big cry.

@michaelcain721

3 жыл бұрын

That was me with my girlfriend. I never show emotion in front of anyone, never cried, cause other people in the past just didn’t give a shit, so I turned into a rock. Eventually she got me to open up and I just broke down like this. Felt like a massive weight had been lifted off me. The thing with us guys is we think crying shows weakness but believe me it does your body a shitload of good if you let it all out once in a while.

@joedelsteenindergard2817

3 жыл бұрын

Michael Cain Good to hear that bro, it is such a nice feeling to have someone that you can open up to

@GordonGarvey

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelcain721 you don't even know you want to cry about these things good therapists really have to see through your cold exterior and find the place that needs to be yanked out of you. For me it was very unexpected when I had to bring up how my mother reverted back to a childlike state a couple of times in her psychotic breakdown when I was a child. We just unconsciously hide the significance of these events from ourselves but they never go away and control your life insidiously.

@emiach

3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what it sounded like when I cried to my mom like 15 years ago, haven’t really cried since, never really cried before that. It all just came out that one time. Felt good.

@ryeguy2256

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of guys save up their tears for one big blow, trust me I do the same thing will does when I get really upset, and Matt Damon captures this perfectly

And the follow dialog is so much needed after this scene. "This doesn't violate the doctor patient relationship does it?" "Only if you grab my ass."

@roxanelvgsch

3 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

This scene makes me cry every single time. It goes beyond the context of his abuse. I remember hearing this for the first time when I was 19 and had just lost my mom to a brutal fight with cancer, and it hit me in just the way it needed to. We blame ourselves for a lot of things, and I think a lot of us are waiting for someone to come around and let us know that it’s not our fault.

@aarons6935

6 ай бұрын

Don't attention seek.

@DIRTY530BMXRACING

5 ай бұрын

@@aarons6935?

@ShanBojack

5 ай бұрын

​@@aarons6935? ur comment makes no sense

@DomPeriod

4 ай бұрын

@@aarons6935 Your autism is showing.

@godwantsplastic

3 ай бұрын

@@ShanBojackop has never been abused and is belittling victims of abuse by pretending like losing a loved one is on par with psychological and physical abuse. If you’ve never been abused you can’t understand and you shouldn’t pretend like you do for clout. It’s cool that they want to share but a little self deprecation would go a long way.

he cries so realistically it´s impossible not to empathize

@eddygci8

4 жыл бұрын

Harom Farkas it’s cuz someone was squeezing his nuts

@daywalker3068

4 жыл бұрын

@@eddygci8 Who hurt you?

@eddygci8

4 жыл бұрын

Daywalker the person squeezing my nutz

@daywalker3068

4 жыл бұрын

@@eddygci8 the ole ball and chain?

@eddygci8

4 жыл бұрын

Daywalker yeah ur mom

I swear if Robin Williams looked at me like that I would break down crying like a child too. He has the most humane, genuine, kind eyes I've seen.

@kitm141

2 жыл бұрын

Same. He had a good heart, clear eyes and we are worse off without him.

@putrableeker151

2 жыл бұрын

@Korniljus Popaj sadly the concept of the kingdom of heaven can’t claim him due to the way he went, but he sure did deserve better.

@putrableeker151

2 жыл бұрын

@Korniljus Popaj it’s tough to say man, but yes. The way they found him heavily suggests that he committed suicide. Suicide is a big nono in religion that pretty much blocks entry to heaven for anyone.

@putrableeker151

2 жыл бұрын

@Korniljus Popaj heaven is purely a religious concept. I follow up on this by saying that this rule also counts for every major abrahamic religion out there. I have yet to find a religion that rewards good people, who come upon such crossroads and make the choice to end themselves.

@putrableeker151

2 жыл бұрын

@Korniljus Popaj I’d love for that to be the case, but we can only go with the scriptures if we follow what we see as god. Good people get punished for meeting shitty circumstances in their life. It is what it is and it’s fucked up, but what can you do about it? Just invent a new religion with a new god? It don’t really work like that chief…

I remember Mrs. Howard, my 4th grade teacher told me, “it’s not your fault”, many years ago. I cried uncontrollably like a baby. Things were not great at home. I’ve never told anyone this before. Thank you Mrs Howard All these years later I still don’t believe it though. Years of anxiety and depression, I still can’t escape it.

@Julia-cm9ir

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for showing people they're not alone. And you are not alone too. It's not your fault. It's not your fault, I promise. Please, try to belive me. It has never been your fault.

@captainstubbing1

4 ай бұрын

Never will

@annmariefrank8803

3 ай бұрын

it's not ur fault for u......... just as it was not my fault for me❤

@dreamsicleblues

3 ай бұрын

I go back to that clip to hear again what I never heard. That validation is so important, and Matt Damon played it perfectly. Thanks to Mrs. Howard you weren't alone. She got you. That's really good.

@RobinPM86

Ай бұрын

Maybe you don't have to escape it. Maybe, as I'm trying to learn, you can use your experience to help other people.

I am a victim of emotional abuse. I was led to believe for so long that it was my fault. This scene always comes to mind to reassure me.

@schweenieboy

6 ай бұрын

It's Not Your Fault

@Psychedelic430

3 ай бұрын

How did this happen though? How can someone make you believe its your fault? In my mind this is no sense im sorry i dont understand. Is it because lack of self esteem?

@CiderHead

3 ай бұрын

Hope you find peace❤

@ZiziCPH

3 ай бұрын

@@Psychedelic430it's easy to believe and get convinced of someone who you look up to as a hero, especially when you are young and don't know better

@Psychedelic430

3 ай бұрын

@@ZiziCPH i guess it depends on the person. I never took anybody words that serious , i just didnt care at all. High levels of EQ play a huge role on this matter too.

The Kids been waiting his entire life for someone to tell him it wasn't his fault.

@unicornadrian1358

Жыл бұрын

Nah he’s heard it a million times. He’s been waiting his whole life to hear someone say it and actually mean it. Usually it’s a throwaway line that allows them to dismiss your trauma without engaging.

@koroborok2719

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@BigBri550

Жыл бұрын

That's why he cried like a little child: I think they had him do that deliberately. They wanted him to produce a cry like it had been stifled, sealed, and welled up inside him by trauma since childhood. Very moving, and a very difficult emotion for Matt Damon to have tapped into.

@arigoldberger1755

Жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. He just needed permission from someone who cares about him.

@saneman7177

11 ай бұрын

He was triggered into emotional catharsis because they’d spent months developing trust

Dear Mr. Williams. It's not your fault either. Sincerely, every depressed person you have made laugh. Thank you for pulling so many away from the ledge so many times.

@moonlitme

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment should have 8 billion likes.

@MikeSmith-mp7lf

2 жыл бұрын

@@moonlitme thank you. I just wish Mr. Williams had reached out first. He is one of the few who don't show signs prior to suicide that I know of. And if he did reach out for help I hope whoever ignored the cry for help carries it on their conscience forever. Looking back I know that I did to at least 6 friends or family prior to cutting my wrist. I was young and thought it was a guaranteed thing. It wasn't. Very close. But for some reason it just wasn't my time. The hardest thing about surviving is explaining why I have a bad scar across my wrist to my kids. And the looks from strangers as they know what it symbolizes. Still depressed. But I have 2 daughters who wouldnt be here if I had succeeded.

@tiffb1300

2 жыл бұрын

@mikesmith anyone who has seen the other side of an attempt feels that pain that cant be described with any words. I too remember the final straws and desperate attempts to multiple people that went unheard or unrecognized. For me it was a slice of being glad death didn't take me and another shot to "get it right" but also a deep soul crushing knowing that in my darkest moments I will never belong to anyone who cares enough to stop me and a dash of satisfaction knowing I was right about everything. My pain is 100 percent valid, the world is a truly a fucked up place, and that there really are people in this world that have no one and I mean NO ONE. Hoping life changes my mind but 4 decades of life experience has proven otherwise.

@MikeSmith-mp7lf

2 жыл бұрын

@@tiffb1300 I fully understand what it feels like to be completely alone. The one thing that I can say is I know neither you or I are. We both know what it's like to go over how in our heads and wishing anyone would just tell us we matter. I may never know you, but I know you better than most and I still care about you. If anything having mental health issues means you're not alone ever. We're out here and sometimes all we have is we're not alone with our struggles.

@malbert4742

2 жыл бұрын

He may have suffered from depression in his lifetime, but that’s not why he committed suicide. He had Lewy body dementia, a swift neurodegenerative disease I don’t think anyone would want to live through until the end. I’m sorry you’re suffering with depression though, hope you’re doing well.

One of the most tear inducing scenes I've ever seen Robin was a national treasure

@SmallFaerie

11 ай бұрын

I'd say he was an international treasure even.

@RUSTA5

3 ай бұрын

​@@SmallFaerieOMG yes, we love him in Russia. 😢

First we blame others, Then we blame ourself, Then we learn to blame no-one at all

@michaelz1757

7 ай бұрын

From your lips to god’s ears ❤️

He cried like a child who’d been kept from crying for a long, long time.

@AndrewSchlegel

2 жыл бұрын

You learn to cry silently so no one notices

@nordinreecendo512

2 жыл бұрын

He cried like a man who had always felt forbidden from crying.

@hasinashraf4423

2 жыл бұрын

@@nordinreecendo512 yes

@awsedrftgawsedrftg1954

2 жыл бұрын

Sweet relief

@RevJamesCostello

2 жыл бұрын

Big boys don’t cry.

Such a powerful scene......A moment of silence for Robin Williams, one of the greatest actors ever lived.

@pun9291

7 жыл бұрын

Ahs Oei Moment of peace in the eye of Robin Williams

@myballshurt5139

6 жыл бұрын

Ahs Oei "nvm I just cried"

@mikeanderson5948

6 жыл бұрын

Ahs Oei god rest his soul 😢😢😢😢😔😔😔😔

@vivavaldez87

6 жыл бұрын

His name is Will Hunting... the clue is in the title. What on Earth are you talking about?!

@adamchewy2284

5 жыл бұрын

Ahs Oei, "such a powerful scene." do u work for the E channel or something ? STFU.

My dad was really hard on me. He beat the living crap out of me at the drop of a dime when I was growing up. Pretty bad too. Broken arm, ribs and a cracked head to say the least. I always thought it was because I was being bad, fighting at school or doing rambunctious things. I've forgiven him and we have a great relationship nowadays. Watching this clip helped me realize I was just a fucking kid. It wasn't my fault. But I forgive him. And weirdly in some ways I thank him. I have 5 children (mostly all grown up, I'm 47) and I've never raised my hand to any of them. Sometime bad things can be used for good things. He taught me what not to do.

@cb7694

2 ай бұрын

Must take real maturity and love to forgive him. I have nothing but love for you and hope you know you are special and loved

@KevinGroner-cq3vu

Ай бұрын

The best teaches are the worst ones!!!!!!!

@hbennett5640

6 күн бұрын

Your comment is beautiful, you are a good man to forgive and keep loving❤

It's so subtle "Look at me, son" when you always know you needed a loving father

The saddest bit is when he says “don’t fuck with me, NOT YOU”. He likes him so much and the thought of this man laughing at him was too much to bear.

@asperwolf6003

2 жыл бұрын

Can’t believe I didn’t hear him say it until you mentioned it.

@danjin2886

2 жыл бұрын

Thats crazy, I always thought he said "I'm not you" instead of "not you"

@lucygibson7120

2 жыл бұрын

@@danjin2886 that’s equally heartbreaking tho bc he always felt like he had to hide his past, especially from skylar

@corelltemple2939

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t even say it was Sean’s potentially laughing at him- this was more so Will getting close to Sean and seeing Sean as a father figure, and Will didn’t want to get close to Sean because everyone he gets close to or opens up to- inevitably lets him down. Will deals with people from a distance to protect his heart and emotions. Getting close to Sean and pouring out that emotion was an obvious risk because Will would get attached to Sean, and Sean could just abandon Will like everyone else or his father did. Hence “Not YOU”. He literally felt Sean getting closer to him.

@nickbelane83

2 жыл бұрын

in my opinion that "not you" is the key line of the whole movie

I forgot they were acting

@lolosaith8512

3 жыл бұрын

They weren't

@neilgibson41

3 жыл бұрын

Darrel Wilson everything about this film is genius. Full. Stop.

@metal87power

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly, I felt Diamond's cry was still acting. He was trying, but still acting.

@pugzi101

3 жыл бұрын

@@metal87power Bro he was crying with all his heart out. This was actually the best part of this scene. Very hard to pull for any actors.

@HipHopfan_

3 жыл бұрын

Bullshit

The way Will stares at the folder as he recalls all the traumas. Sean realizes he finally has a moment to take down Will's guard, so he puts the folder down, squares up with Will, and plants his feet. He's ready for whatever emotions he's about to force Will to confront.

I just cried watching this. I recently had to move back into my dads house due to me losing my job in circumstances that I couldn't control and I remember now why I wanted to move out of this place so badly the constant verbal abuse and him being drunk every night I tried to do a nice thing because I had the day free and clean the whole house and as soon as he came home I was called lazy and a failure. I repeat those types of sayings my dad say to me to myself every night while I try to sleep and I often stay up for hours resenting myself. I just wanted some sort of adult figure in my life to come help me out and support me. My mother wouldn't come to my birthday but would come to my sisters ones and often spent more time to them growing up. This part of the movie just depicts what I want in life so badly, just some sort of love from somebody some sort of support I give up.

@auhsojpay777

6 ай бұрын

Hey bro, you ain't alone in this ❤

@donniecatalano

6 ай бұрын

You are definitely not alone, and I can tell you I know now you feel because of personal, direct experience in this department.

@jampubharadwaj9374

3 ай бұрын

When you smile, it's fake. When you cry, it's true. Sometimes, crying wholeheartedly is good for one's mental wellbeing. It offers a resolution, a new start if you say. If you resent yourself for whatever your past is, I have been through counseling and had the fortune of meeting a good one. It helped me where I had not stepped into it for years of having some stubborn pride, that I can overcome on my own, but couldn't. Add to that factor, that the ones who would become villains in my story were also my heroes. So, I was reluctant to speak. Today, I can talk about this as an objective truth and understood my role in it was part of a chain that I had to break. I am brave by choice today, for every single decision I make. Every single time, I beat a sucidial thought, is because I want to live. Know that even a thought of a suicide comes from the inherent instinct of wanting to cherish your own life and something in your life is preventing from cherishing that. You can break your chains as well. I am not saying counselling is the option, but it's one. Having genuine and accountable people around you can also slowly change. People who really care to listen every "dragging" (no offense, as I tend to be dragging myself) detail you might tell. Just know that some fights are meant to be fought as a species rather than an individual. So, taking help from others is not a weakness. There are many ways. I found this route. And, to find yours, and the resources you need, I wish you the best.

@johnnybowers6679

2 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry, man, it’s not your fault, your father and your mother, they are never your parents, I’m sorry for everything that happened, if I was in your shoes, I would definitely write them out of my life, and I would never see or talk to them again, f*** them and if you were my son, I would love you dearly than the one who calls himself a father, I’ll keep you in my thoughts, never forget that, okay?, love you my friend.

@LiminalLion

25 күн бұрын

Cut em loose. Move on. Life is better the moment you don't let them hurt you anymore. Find the people who will help support you. You can do it. I haven't spoken to my father in 15 years and I've never felt better. I will likely never speak to him again, and that's the consequence of his abuse, not anything I did.

Imagine being 24 and writing this masterpiece. Matt Damon will always be my favorite actor.

@sidp5381

2 жыл бұрын

He’s Jason Bourne

@miloseviczarko45

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, Matt was 24 and Ben was 22 when they wrote it, but filmed it finally when Matt was 27 and Ben was 25.

@someperson9999

Жыл бұрын

Maaatt Daaayyyymmoonnn

@thetwitterlectual9528

Жыл бұрын

I would also say a huge well done to Gus Van Sant for interpreting it in such an emotive way. Great directing there.

@brken_blndie

Жыл бұрын

He was able to write this masterpiece at 24 , you know why? Because my boy's wicked smaht

Everytime he says "it's not your fault," it feels like he is breaking the walls that Will put up. Hence, why Will has a different reaction everytime he repeats it.

@fmr3944

4 жыл бұрын

nice observation

@LifeGaveMeSourLemons

4 жыл бұрын

@@fmr3944 Thanks.

@horsejumperoflove

4 жыл бұрын

Thought this too

@johnnyflorence219

4 жыл бұрын

Everytime his face, great acting.

@DrMic2112

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

What makes this scene great is how Matt Damon actually weeps like a child. His trauma was from his childhood and he was never held close by a parent who loved him for who he was when he was a child. Very good acting by both, this movie is a great 90s classic.

Bro both these guys put on a masterclass here, it’s so raw it doesn’t feel like acting. When Robin says “look at me son.” I got chills. & Matt’s face how he tries to brush it off as if it’s not a big deal. Wow. Incredible.

“Hey Will...look at me son.” Will most likely never had a man call him ‘son’ like that before. The passion and love in Sean’s voice broke him.

@HipHopfan_

3 жыл бұрын

Its acting you dumbass

@daniellepeterson1666

3 жыл бұрын

@@HipHopfan_ ok?

@cthulhu8650

3 жыл бұрын

@@HipHopfan_ who hurt you?

@ACIDICcitric

3 жыл бұрын

@@HipHopfan_ it’s not your fault

@donttouchmytoesbitch2437

3 жыл бұрын

@@HipHopfan_ People can choose to believe it Escapism helps

And there are the millions of kids who never had this moment and had to go it alone ...

@seal9454

4 жыл бұрын

Which leads to suicide. Life can be really devastating for some people. We could all use a bit of support.

@thevelointhevale1132

4 жыл бұрын

@@seal9454 Not always, many people self manage and over time are able to realign and distance themselves from the damage.

@TheJedimaster6788

3 жыл бұрын

im pretty sure that's why i dont want a relationship or anything. but w/e

@dragoninthewest1

3 жыл бұрын

@@seal9454 can lead to suicide. It also leads to substance abuse to muffle the nightmares.

@suesmith3744

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yes , God Bless every one of ‘em ..

I always like the expression on Sean's face during the hug. He looks half sad and half happy that Will is finally letting it all out because he knows he needed to. Great movie.

What really sells this for me is the fact that both Williams and Damon manage to convey the akwardsness or clumsiness that is often there when you take a risk and dare to breach relationel borders we all put up to get closer to another human. Look at Williams when he first decides to tell that "all of that shit" in his journal is not his fault. He's not over confident and super smooth. He's nervous. He knows that he is takikg a chance here, and it's all conveyed with a sublime sublety in his voice and eyes. Meanwhile, Damon is doing an excellent job playing the boy who's still very much using defensive mechanisms to ward off attempts at talking about him. I'm a psychologist and a trained therapist, and this is the most accurate portrayal of situations like this I have ever seen.

When Robin Williams said "it's not your fault." I've really felt it, after being abused as teenager this scene speaks volumes to me. Miss you Robin. You were a great human being.

@jonathanmolina1428

2 жыл бұрын

You only knew him as an actor.

@hel2727

2 жыл бұрын

@@jonathanmolina1428 and you must know someone personally to feel sad about them not being alive anymore? if that's a rule, where's it written?

@animeasmey2

2 жыл бұрын

me too, i also experience childhood trauma and i cannot begin to explain how this movie made me cry during this scene for the first time... in that moment this movie was top 3

@jedsteelwell2354

2 жыл бұрын

Me and my mom both got abused by a piece of shit when I was a kid! We ended up leaving and that guy went on to kill a woman! He's rotting in jail now! It's not your fault indeed.

@andrewnaugle

Жыл бұрын

I’m pretty sure that’s why most of us are here. I’m not glad it happened, but glad we’re not alone.

This scene is so important because a lot of people scoff when someone says that their abuse isn't their fault, like "yeah, I know it's not my fault", but then they realize that they've subconsciously been placing the blame on themselves. Sometimes, we have toxic thoughts that we don't even realize are occupying our minds.

@theunicornbay4286

Жыл бұрын

It's not your fault, it's mine

@jasperhalsey8574

Жыл бұрын

this

@hauntedbylight

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. On surface level it’s “yea I know my abusers were shit” but then it sets in that “I was just a kid, I didn’t do anything”. Such a powerful scene

@BigBri550

Жыл бұрын

@@hauntedbylight To my mind, it is even more fundamental. Will's inner child had learned to seal up any true feelings. Deeply hurt feelings are probably the most painful, lasting part about surviving abuse. You learn to stop feeling as much as possible just to survive the psychological turmoil and confusion. In this scene, Will finally let those hurt feelings out, and that is why his sobs were that of a little child. So powerfully moving.

@richiedeans4542

Жыл бұрын

Well said man.

Another reason i miss the 90s. Just great fuckin movies

When your world is crumbling, all you need is someone to lean on. 👍

Hard to believe Damon and Affleck wrote this scene. Really mature and hard-hitting dialogue.

@shawncicalese4094

2 жыл бұрын

Kevin Smith DIRECTED

@der_black_barongaming8158

2 жыл бұрын

@@shawncicalese4094 they wrote it.

@BlotRorschach

2 жыл бұрын

@@shawncicalese4094 Gus van Sant directed, genius.

@Ratchet2431

2 жыл бұрын

I was going to tell you that William Goldman helped with the writing but I just found out he denied it in his book.

@Luminaring

2 жыл бұрын

The premise was someone else's...

They both deserved awards for their acting in this scene. Nothing overdone, no pretense, no exaggeration, just genuine, vulnerable, raw, human emotions.

@thomasconnearney4849

2 жыл бұрын

Ben affleck and Matt damon wrote this scene themselves and they were just kids robin williams was given one line to say and everything else was improvised by him and that line was “I got to send this to the courts”

@lonelystoner8594

2 жыл бұрын

U

@lonelystoner8594

2 жыл бұрын

Y

@radithan

2 жыл бұрын

@Naomi Walker Jumanji, Mr Williams love dialogue. Search it , watch it and thank me later

@turtletank4784

Жыл бұрын

@@thomasconnearney4849 That's not true most of this scene was in the script

Humanity would be saved if we all could hug Robin Williams when our lives got rough

That hug. That vulnerability. Subdued and contained. For all those years. Released. And in a moment. A comfort. An ending. A closure. Of sorts. A step towards positivity. Towards moving beyond.

The brilliance of this writing. Sean not hanging "it's not your fault" on a single beat. To know abuse, know the damage it does, and know that abuse victims have subconsciously put a wall up to that phrase when used in passing. Use it as a pick to chisel the wall away and get to Will. Damon and Affleck knowing this topic enough to know how real this has to be. It's music, how they formed this scene.

@zenpuppy2627

Жыл бұрын

Don't forget Robin Willaims giving the most realistic compassionate portrayal of a Therapist

@michaelyoon9355

Жыл бұрын

I thought Robin Williams was so perfect as the therapist.

@kata3492

Жыл бұрын

"It's not your fault" when I told the first person ever in my entire life, nearly 40 years of not saying anything to anyone about it, was exactly what broke that wall down for me, just as you stated. That person set me free by saying it in a way that I somehow finally "heard" it. That person saved my soul. My life. They opened up a door for me and helped me walk through it. I was finally seen. I was finally heard. I could finally begin to break free. I agree. This was artfully written, and Robin Williams (Sean) played that character in the most brilliant, truthful way.

@Spitsworth

8 ай бұрын

It's amazing that they wrote this in their 20s. They were very wise beyond their years.

@christhefiend

7 ай бұрын

@@SpitsworthThere are a lot of people who do amazing things in their 20s. You know Attack On Titan. The writer, Hajime Isayama, was only 23 when it started serialization.

This moment must be truly special for Matt now, all these years later...

@andrewpearce7936

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh, come on you can’t be that thick that you didn’t know what they meant.

@mgiantsxlvi5209

3 жыл бұрын

@@andrewpearce7936 what? Did something happen to Matt?

@Maudluvv

3 жыл бұрын

@@mgiantsxlvi5209 ... the passing of Robin Williams maybe

@adamskobe5350

3 жыл бұрын

@@williamjaeger9865 maybe at least remembering it

@thegreathutt

3 жыл бұрын

@@watchcitydog i‘m not sure if i‘m right but wasn‘t matt damon one of the first guys that tried to seperate himself from that monster weinstein?

That little cry before he lets it out is so realistic. Very well done acting

This is one of the most relatables scenes I've seen. I'm a "toxic marriage child", I always give all my effort on my studies and stuff so I can have both of my parents being proud of me TOGETHER, I want to have a job soon desperately (I'm 17 yo) so they don't have to worry too much about money (especially because dad doesn't have a job and mom doesn't get paid enough), sometimes I prefer to avoid some comments or personal struggles for myself so they don't have to talk about it and maybe start discussing. There may be much others guilt attitudes in myself, but those are the ones I can notice for now... The reason I see this scene so relatable it's because although I am logically aware that their marriage problems and my childhood trauma are not my fault, in my inner child and in my heart I really feel like IT IS my fault and I can't help but feel this way. Some people may don't comprehend this issue, I know, it is very hard to explain and understand, but I'm sure that a lot of others can relate, and I'm sure that those people know what I'm talking about. (Sorry if my English is bad, Spanish is my first language and I don't like using the traductor).

This is probably my favorite scene of all time. The way Matt Damon physically says no when he says "I know" is just amazing. Everytime he says "I know" he winces and looks away, becuase hes lying. Perfect acting. I tear up every time he puts his hands in face and let's out that first cry, you can hear all the pain finally escaping from the bottle of his mind.

@thenemophilist308

5 жыл бұрын

zerocool Precisely

@N12Gautam

5 жыл бұрын

River Rasmussen its just a movie its not real

@luckystarpiano

5 жыл бұрын

Wow “Pain escaping from the bottle” what a powerful way of putting it

@AdityaPatil-xp6zm

4 жыл бұрын

Matt Damon was also bullied and abused in his school days that,s why it looks that he acted here naturally

@angrysealion2259

4 жыл бұрын

@@N12Gautam the movie is portraying something that is very real and happens every day

The realest line uttered in this this whole movie: "Fuck them, okay?"

@MrFreakazoid24

3 жыл бұрын

Wise words from a man fighting his own demons

@melissahollis9033

2 жыл бұрын

That line hits me unexpectedly every time. That had to be improv.

@tomeskdale2642

2 жыл бұрын

I love that line

@heywardhollis1160

2 жыл бұрын

@@melissahollis9033 I had completely forgotten about it until rewatching this clip. Robin knew emotions better than any actor I've seen.

@melissahollis9033

2 жыл бұрын

@@heywardhollis1160 hey nice name!

I always cry when he says “Don’t fuck with me Sean, not you.” He is about to be the most vulnerable and honest he’s ever been in his life and he is so afraid of being betrayed.

Robin Williams... you were the best! RIP.

I like how Will goes from more and more defensive at each “It’s not your fault” to fully embracing Sean at the last one. Why? Because right there his defensive shield just broke. I also like how real the crying sounds. If anyone ever has doubts about Matt Damon as an actor, just show them this clip right here to shut them up.

@jimthompson8947

Жыл бұрын

Thanks but I'd already seen Deadpool 2 and eagle-eyed him..or should I say 'eagle-eared' him. Yes, Matt Bourne Will is a helluva actor and human.

@leeann8411

Жыл бұрын

the sobs were insanely well done, heart wrenching jfc

@dhsjakhdsajk

Жыл бұрын

even as it progresses how his facial expressions change ever so slightly but enough to pick up on, hes a brilliant actor

@johnpratt8502

Жыл бұрын

something tells me that wasnt acting and he dealt with something similar in his own life so there was no need to fabricate anything

@IAmTheRealUsopperGoddamnit

11 ай бұрын

I just watched this movie, and I got to say that scene felt extremely real.

so many men need a man like this in their life

@bmillerdrums

4 жыл бұрын

LordSos91 Amen to that

@verzeda

4 жыл бұрын

and so many men dont and will commit suicide because of the lack of one.

@caponekingpinking9917

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

@testpattern23

4 жыл бұрын

you mean ones that kill themselves? Robin was many things...great comedian...great actor...great help to our soldiers over in the field. What he wasn't good at was showing his own pain and asking for help. He was great at a lot of things, living wasn't one of them and I get it...but he could have used his disease as a speaking platform to raise awareness instead of hanging himself in a closet.

@tayayub8453

4 жыл бұрын

LordSos91 I'm a woman, but yh, I agree and god, hope if need be, that they find them.

Literally the best part of the movie. Seeing walls being shattered this way

"cause fuck him, that’s why." One of my favourite movie lines ever.

Hearing him cry is the most real Hollywood acting I’ve ever seen. Bar none.

@N3c777

3 жыл бұрын

The only one that beats this cry is Midsommars.

@PlasmidJunkie

3 жыл бұрын

You should watch First Blood

@justandardprocedure

3 жыл бұрын

@@PlasmidJunkie agreed. Stallone gets a bum rap. He was amazing in first blood.

@rakuencallisto

2 жыл бұрын

@@PlasmidJunkie that fucking scene DESTROYS ME. the guy who is Rambo's superior was in WW2 and had his own issues with dealing with the war afterwards. You can see it in his eyes the pain both of them feel. It's palpable.

@PlasmidJunkie

2 жыл бұрын

@@rakuencallisto Yeah, it's especially heart wrenching for someone who has ptsd. Incredible scene tho

The zoom on Sean’s Eyes, as he knows he finally got to him. He’s finally made a significant impact on this kid. What a hauntingly beautiful mixture of happiness and sadness

@davidscher1620

2 жыл бұрын

Very well put.. 👍👍

@albertoguzman8341

2 жыл бұрын

Thats right. When they hug and we see Sean's joyfull eyes its because he felt so proud and fulfilled with his belief that love and understanding conquers anything and anyone, regardless of how tough and hard anyone thinks they are. He was so happy he helped will and that he proved love is allways the awnser.

@drakothysnaco

2 жыл бұрын

1k 🤙🏼

@browningwayne5619

Жыл бұрын

If that doesn't brind a tear , your not human

@adam.maqavoy

Жыл бұрын

@@browningwayne5619 Biased Opinion..

Journey well, Mr. Robin Williams. The world is less magical without you ❤

2 incredible actors. Just perfection in this scene.

It's brilliant how the flashback of the drunk dad walking up the stairs could be Will's dad or Sean's dad. In fact in could be anyone's drunken father, the proverbial wife beater, that wounded monster, coming up that dark and dusty staircase.

@tittfestx3

2 жыл бұрын

Great catch.

@damson9470

2 жыл бұрын

exactly. it's put together so nicely. the viewer could think it's will's dad cus of the camera panning in on his head during the beginning. but the viewer could also think it's sean's dad cus of the fact that he started the talk about his drunk dad. fucking amazing work by the director. it creates a flair of mystery which makes YOU think about the scene, and not let it just happen.

@johnmcdaid8164

2 жыл бұрын

@@zachhayes9512 The ex-wife that molested your children, the agonizing pain of fighting the uphill battle against a system the remains preferable to women even in spite of their abuse against your own flesh and blood, the realization of your own mother being so dysfunctional while figuring out the abuses you suffered as a child came from those that were supposed to be your protectors... I hear you loud and clear, and I hope in response you understand there is no gender when it comes to abuse.

@aidenjohn4937

2 жыл бұрын

my dad used to be an alcoholic, he’s been sober for 5 years now. I’m just so lucky that he wasn’t abusive when he drank.

@moonlitme

2 жыл бұрын

with my dad, it was him walking down the hall...me hiding under the bed.

Even after being told "It's not your fault" again and again, Will still says "I'm so sorry" while breaking down crying. Absolutely heartwrenching, and reminiscent of real sufferers of abuse.

@thepower6785

5 ай бұрын

Nice wrench pun

@maloperverso8118

3 ай бұрын

What was Will Sorry about!?

@RustyShakleford01

3 ай бұрын

@@maloperverso8118 Everything.

@godwantsplastic

3 ай бұрын

@@maloperverso8118abusers usually gaslight their victims. From experience, the physical stuff is easier to deal with than the emotional abuse. Most people see the pics of his bruises and they think that’s the worst part of it, it’s not, it’s not even close.

@CaptainGuntu

2 ай бұрын

@@maloperverso8118 He still blames himself for the abuse. That's what many survivors do for a number of reasons.

I like how after he released his emotions, he is just riding train home looking all peaceful because he has come to terms with his awful past experiences as a boy. I guess that’s why people sleep so well after crying, it’s the content peace that settles in after releasing emotional burden. Really beautiful scene👍

This scene finally made me go see a therapist. Thank you.

men don’t feel like they’re allowed to show their emotions so when they (we) cry we cry hard. We got feelings too

@theiran

4 жыл бұрын

When I cry, everyone in the house can hear me. Loud, gut wrenching sobs. But oh how you feel better after...

@kilogreens3449

4 жыл бұрын

I do my best not to cry, boi is it ruff not trying to cry

@ivag.5398

4 жыл бұрын

I wish guys would feel free too cry because it"s important to let it out, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it

@weasley2o13

4 жыл бұрын

Will you marry me Alex?

@tylerdaniels9000

4 жыл бұрын

Men don't cry at least not in front of other people, cause then we'll get called a pussy or something. Me personally, I never cry since I was a kid, even when my best friend died in an accident, I just kept thinking that crying over it would change nothing, so I've always been keeping my feelings to myself, I guess just like most other men.. it's just how we are

The saddest part about this scene is knowing that this sort of shit actually happens to kids all over the world: kids being starved, intentionally burned with boiling water, locked in unlit closets for hours on end, hit with closed fists, molested, and sometimes even mutilated... there is no limit for human cruelty, even against those who deserve it the least.

@MNAHN-T.GOF-NN

2 жыл бұрын

Not to mention the many, many forms of psychological abuse and neglect that leave no obvious wounds or scars but are still just as detrimental to your well-being.

@thaddiusglunt2424

2 жыл бұрын

@@MNAHN-T.GOF-NN Indeed.

@SightForMemories

2 жыл бұрын

Remember to allow yourselves to get angry, oftentimes people who are dealing with tyrannical fathers tend to shy away from anger and "negative" emotions. Because they feel when they are young, that they want to not be like "that".

@ayodari_style

2 жыл бұрын

Nobody more cruel than those that abuse children, the elderly, and animals.

@greggerred5949

Жыл бұрын

And yet for as far human cruelty can get, there’s no limit for human kindness. In my opinion there could be more human kindness the cruelty if we all could help and give people a chance.

I love this scene. Robin, you absolutely deserved the academy award for this. Matt, you are no slouch either.

I went through the same thing with my father and this scene makes me cry every time I watch it. I literally had to take my clothes off while the police took photos of my bruises and strangulation marks in front of a blue screen at the police station.

@AerophiIe

5 ай бұрын

Praying for you, man. I hope you’re doing well ❤️

If Joker had Robin as his therapist Gotham wouldn't need Batman.

@Samstar369

4 жыл бұрын

I got a tad confused when you said Robin, Batman’s sidekick one, not Williams

@fredererpower

4 жыл бұрын

Nah, even without Joker, Gotham will still need him because of Catwoman, Bane, Two-Face, etc

@latchie8893

4 жыл бұрын

Gotham always needs batman

@devmiles

4 жыл бұрын

Epic comment!

@juliaonoszko4662

4 жыл бұрын

oh my god I THOUGHT THE SAME btw Robin and Joaquin are the best actors in the fuckin' world and nothing can ever change my mind.

"You don't know about real loss, 'cause it only occurs when you've loved something more than you've loved yourself" -Robin Williams

@AbrahamLincoln4

3 жыл бұрын

r.i.p Robin Williams

@Jaydogg222

3 жыл бұрын

Well actually more like -Matt Damon & Ben Affleck but close enough I guess...

Will finally had someone who genuinely cared about him and his feelings. Someone who didn’t just give up on him but reassured over and over again even when Will was harsh. This overall premise of this movie is beautiful. You can be all sorts of things, smart, funny, athletic, beautiful etc. but if you’re not a understanding and empathetic person, what good does everything else bring?

This is probably my favourite piece of acting every from both these but especially Matt, doesn't get any better than this.

For each “ it’s not your fault” statement made, a barrier of numbness falls down, until the last one penetrates right through the core of the hidden pain, then explodes in tears. Pain is to be recognized, felt and processed in order to heal and move on.

@mrshadrack8554

3 жыл бұрын

Hey guys we got a new Socrates here But don’t worry It’s not your fault

@edmmitch

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds very sophisticated yet very condescending too

@houriaburrows1390

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrshadrack8554 has it occurred to you that I may have experienced a similar pain?

@houriaburrows1390

2 жыл бұрын

@@edmmitch neither was intended.

@DeathnoteBB

2 жыл бұрын

@@edmmitch Not really

Being abused as a child and having survived 3 suicide attempts i came across a psychiatrist who said something similar to me ... it completely changed my thinking and will to live. 13 years later i am happy and my life has completely turned around :)

@calcala5742

4 жыл бұрын

I'm happy for you brother, god bless you, i was an abused child too, i know how strong you are, god bless 🙏

@OldSchoolCurt

4 жыл бұрын

Good to hear!! God bless!

@themoviechef9413

4 жыл бұрын

👌

@Davido50

4 жыл бұрын

God bless ya bro be good to others even when they dont seem to appreciate.

@caponekingpinking9917

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

There's a reason Matt was nominated for an Oscar for this role. And there's a reason why he's considered to have one of the most amazing and realistic cries in Hollywood. The way he's so authentic, and just good...

It's not your fault that __ you and I are still crying after all these years for missing Robin Williams.

funny how the smallest of words make the biggest impact

@Bee-0108

6 жыл бұрын

Peace&Love yeah, I remember I consoled a friend after her sister passed away, I forgot it because it's secomd nature for me do that but she still remembers after 3 or 4 years

@MSDJHERO

5 жыл бұрын

All words are small if you compare them to the sky

@MSDJHERO

5 жыл бұрын

What's important is to create meaning. (See my comment above)

@julianmx13

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, the part when he says “Fuck them, okay?”

@tylerchapman3013

5 жыл бұрын

There were many steps involved that led up to this scene even being possible. Once Will knew Sean had been abused like him he fully let his guard down. Sean then told him what he needed to hear so that he doesn't waste his potential like he did. Excellent movie i loved this scene

“Dont fuck with me, not you” after he pushes him is the saddest part of the moment. He was worried about losing his friend if Robin Willians character didn’t mean what he was saying

@gfreshski

2 жыл бұрын

I also think it let us into a window to how much that character was fucked with, for a long time, by a lot of people. Maybe in particular those he was closest to or trusted. This likely happened more than we know to the character through the movie we watched. He couldn't bear the thought of this person, who has achieved a level of trust that just about no one has, possibly deceiving, or fucking with him. This scene does a lot in a little bit of time. Well done Matt and Ben. Can't stand Ben's "acting" usually but he has talent as a director, and they both did a hell of a job on this script especially when you consider they wrote it in their early 20's.

A teacher of mine introduced me to this movie and it immediately took a place in my heart. Anyone who isn’t sure if they’d like this movie should watch it regardless. It’s heartbreaking and healing at the same time

After years of my mom blaming me for divorcing my dad, gaslighting me, and now living with PTSD and depression as an adult, I watch this and cry one out. It was never my fault.

The way he cries man. "Oh god, oh God I'm so sorry" is so goddamn realistic

@CronoXpono

4 жыл бұрын

I honest to hell think Damon literally let himself go all in on that, the way he apologizes from the deepest parts of himself. That ain’t “just acting”. Goddamn what a scene. RIP Robin, we miss you.

@rafaellima83

4 жыл бұрын

Rewatching that scene after a recent breakdown and suicide attempt, I am scared how fucking realistic it sounded indeed.

@juventusventuno9213

4 жыл бұрын

reminded me of the scene in Talented Mr Ripley where he kills his gay lover on the ship.

@user-xs3og8us3d

4 жыл бұрын

Das ist... da... nein!!!

@rocsto

4 жыл бұрын

Tony Almonte great comment

This clip applies to much more than just parental abuse. Being bullied, rejected, led on, forgotten, ghosted, excluded. It’s not your fault. This world is broken and full of broken people who sometimes take it out on you. Even if you in no way deserve it. Keep your head high and push forward. You are worthy and not forgotten.

@stonecold5373

11 ай бұрын

This world is not broken. It may seem like that. Give some hope.

@kingmajin

11 ай бұрын

i can't believe that about myself. it's always my fault because i must be doing something i don't know i'm doing because WHY do i keep getting kicked when i'm down by life and everyone? why do people i trust end up pointing guns at me and robbing me? it must be my fault. only way it makes sense to me

@mattg4836

9 ай бұрын

That's because those people don't realize it's not their fault.

@salmonandsoup

8 ай бұрын

@@kingmajin The only person you're in control of is you. THEY decide to hurt you and you grew up into a system that rewards dishonesty and cruelty-you are not at fault there. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself and try your best to move through life with grace.

@2jcward

8 ай бұрын

This comment needs to be pinned!!! Abuse can come from a lot of people within a lifetime and it hurts just the same. 😕

This is often the kind of treatment we yearn for when we feel grief for all we have lost in our past... Warm, gentle, compassionate words and human connection.

I wish someone could’ve been there to say this exact thing to Mr. Williams before he left us. I don’t know what went on in his life but I know in my gut he needed to have a moment like this and it never came. RIP Robin Williams. I hope he knows how much he helped us and how much we loved him😔

I think what really broke Will down after being repeated “it’s not your fault” so many times was when Sean the psychiatrist understood him fully and hugged him and for the first time ever Will felt like a kid with a father and felt the pure love he had missed his whole life. The love he’s been wanting since as a child.

@dawnferrer5385

3 жыл бұрын

dude. you made me cry harder. why would you day that?

@dawnferrer5385

3 жыл бұрын

dude. you made me cry harder. why would you day that?

@xxCelticFC

3 жыл бұрын

@@dawnferrer5385 I’m sorryyyy

@TrollHunterxXx

2 жыл бұрын

Word

@declangill5138

2 жыл бұрын

@@dawnferrer5385 it's not tour fault

A lot of people miss the more detailed meaning of this scene. Specifically, *why* saying "it's not your fault" is causing Will to be uncomfortable. Will is telling the truth when he says he knows it's not his fault. So why does Sean keep repeating it? Because he's not saying, "it's not your fault," so much as he's saying, "there was nothing you could've done to stop it." Why is *that* important? Because look at the entire movie. Will is *constantly* trying to avoid pain by staying "one step ahead" of a potential bad thing happening to him. He breaks up with Skylar because, according to his own words, what if he goes there and it doesn't work? He refuses to call her back at first because, again in his own words, "she's perfect right now," and he doesn't want to find out she's not perfect (and vice-versa). He refuses to take any of the jobs his professor gives him the opportunity to interview for, making many excuses. He even burns his research right in front of his professor when his professor gets mad at him for it. He decides he wants to stay with his "brothers," thinking he's making the right people happy, only for them to get angry at him because "you know what any of us would give to have what you have?" He even makes a fool of himself in front of many psychiatrists because he's afraid they're gonna dig up his dark past and force him to relive it (but he has to meet with them or go to jail, so he stays "one step ahead," and instead of just outright skipping the meetings, he acts like such an ass that they quit, so he can say, "hey, I met with them. They quit. You can't put that on me"). He's always trying to stay "one step ahead." In other words, he *does* blame himself for all the bad things that happened to him. Specifically, he thinks if he had been smarter, if he had been one step ahead, he could've prevented them. Sean is telling him, and forcing him to internalize, that that thought is false! That *nothing* he could have done would've prevented those thing (or at least, if he prevented *that particular* bad thing, another one would've happened, because it was *never* about *his* mistakes)! Why does this make him cry? Simply put, look back up at everything he did to try to "stay a step ahead." He hurt a lot of people! Not just random people either, but the very people who cared about him, supported him, and believed in him *the most.* Skylar loved him despite all his problems. The professor took a huge chance on him and got him out of jail because he *believed* in him. He even did the unselfish thing and set up meetings with him outside the university (even though he wanted Will to work for him), because he wanted to do what was best for *Will.* He hurt his brothers by not taking advantage of his opportunity, as his success was finally giving them hope (for both themselves and their kids), and his squandering it made them feel trapped all over again. He even hurt Sean by trying to get rid of him at first, like he did all the other therapists (who, even they didn't do anything to deserve it. If anything, they were going out of their way, working pro-bono to help him. Yes, because the professor asked them to, but they still were making a sacrifice for *him,* and he made them regret it by trying to "stay one step ahead"). He did all that, not caring if they got "a little hurt," because he thought it was important to "stay a step ahead" to prevent further pain (for both himself and others). At that moment, he's realizing he hasn't helped *anyone.* All he's done is hurt the people who cared about him the most! That's why he cries. That's why he hugs Sean and says, "Oh my God! I'm so sorry!" He's not only apologizing to Sean. He's apologizing to everyone he's ever hurt. And *that* is why, for the rest of the movie, he's basically going back and trying to mend the bridges he burned. He goes back, commits to an interview, and accepts a position. He decides to go back and make up with Skylar. He makes his brother's "dream" come true (by leaving). He tells Sean all about it and actually fully commits to following his advice (not just picking out the bits and pieces of Sean's advice that he finds interesting. He now fully trusts Sean and is putting himself at risk to follow Sean's advice and make him happy, as a friend). Everyone points out that "everything is coming out at that moment." But I'm not sure people ever fully understood *what* "everything" was, *how* it came out at that moment, and *why* it completely changed his behavior. My hope is that this finally, in detail, explains *exactly* what happened there (in part, because I've seen a number of people try to repeat this without understanding what *really* happened, and fail miserably. And when I say "repeat this," I mean say it to someone in real life)!

@schachow

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, this just made me question my decision from 7 months ago to quit my 3 year relationship with my then gf. This is really random I get to read your comment. 5min ago I was watching Rick and Morty and looked "Elliot Smith" up and then I ended up here bc I think his music appears in this movie. Then I realized how well this movie tells my own issue and you just summed it up perfectly. I want to thank you for it. Thank you. She meant everything to me and I broke up because it was the best thing to do and it was indeed. She still thinks this way. But your coment made me realize that it might be worth a second try. I is really hard to explain. Just thank you for that explanation of yours.

@sharonroy2645

4 жыл бұрын

Wow you ah wicked smaht!

@Jameszhangdude

4 жыл бұрын

Great analysis!

@Sprite_525

4 жыл бұрын

This was genuinely helpful. I’m glad you took the time to write this so thoroughly.

@Jameszhangdude

4 жыл бұрын

Make sure to save your piece somewhere. Great write up

Honestly, one of the most powerful moments in cinematic history. I cry every time.

One of the greatest movies of all time Thank you Robin Williams Rest in peace Thank you Matt Damon and Ben Affleck Rise and Shine

The best acting scene I have EVER seen! Outstanding performances from Robin Williams and Matt Damon!!!

@donaldbrown2206

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@KingGhidorah5464

Жыл бұрын

600th like, deserves 600 more.

@meanyomama

Жыл бұрын

made me tear up just watched it for the first time today

@Chief_Bill

Жыл бұрын

@@meanyomama samee

@ShinzoUchihaX

Жыл бұрын

Lmao you seen like this and only this? Wow if this is the best youve seen lol

One of the best breakdowns in cinema. No sexy tear, no dramatic posing, Will's sobs are real and full of honest emotions. It's almost childlike in its abandon of any pretense or restraint. These are the tears Will has been holding back his whole life.

@chrisbuchheit

3 жыл бұрын

This.

@michikomanalang6733

2 жыл бұрын

I lost it at “sexy tear” but yes!!

@hothotheat3000

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, you don’t see men onscreen sobbing like that too often.

Everytime I watch this, tears flow from my eyes. I have been very fortunate to have a loving father and a loving mother. However, a lot of people in my homeland don't share the same experiences. It's never their faults...

Watching this again after finally being told it wasn’t my fault i am sobbing like a child

this is really something that resonates with me man, i miss robin :(

@cospitch8963

3 жыл бұрын

We all miss Robin. Fan of your content btw :)

@jelegance7415

3 жыл бұрын

It gets me too. I use to pray to be adopted. But my files got thicker, We're stronger to get away.

@Daddywood2230

3 жыл бұрын

me too. We lost him to soon.

@oliverwagunaere1697

3 жыл бұрын

@@jelegance7415 did you get adopted friend?

@aliasiskey4434

2 жыл бұрын

It's not your fault🤗

For everyone who was abused in their childhood, myself included, you're not alone.

@RascalFascal

7 жыл бұрын

it`s not your fault.

@mr.fisshy7057

5 жыл бұрын

I still am to this day

@godfather7174

5 жыл бұрын

I got you right here bro you never left my heart even tho you do not know me but yet you do ;)

@gwd5119

5 жыл бұрын

I feel like everyone was hit but me personally it wasn’t as bad as it was described in this scene

@jeffreymeeks4051

5 жыл бұрын

Me also. But there are good people out there to talk to who can give us hope.

People take a lot of things for granted. But having a real mother and a father (who act like as such I mean) .... having those makes you alredy the one of the lucky ones.

@namangupta342

8 ай бұрын

True

The beautiful balance of the worst, and the best, that humanity has to offer. Delivered through an incredible performance.

10 times "it's not your fault"...by the 6th time the crying face was forming, 7th time he was losing it, 8th time the breakthrough finally happens, by the 9th time he's burst into tears, by the 10th time he's liberated

@FRSpartan

6 жыл бұрын

Dhiraj rai fuck off with your religion

@thisisme2476

6 жыл бұрын

Damn it. Now you got me counting them.

@geraldburke5147

5 жыл бұрын

Customtheatres it takes time to heal. You have to let it bleed a bit and let it drain but it's a good start. Some people hold on to their pain as if letting let it go, they lose something important something they need. The pain is all they had for so long its a most precious to them, certainly a known quantity and something that they are familiar with and all that they do gives them a kind of Shield around themselves I wear it like a suit of armor to deal with the little disappointments of daily living it allows them to keep people at a distance and protects the wearer from disappointment but it's a burden, a burden 1 grows accustomed to. Sometimes people can't won't let it go of their burdens not just because they don't know how to but because it becomes so much a part of them they don't think that they can live without it. That's why some people eventually get over it and some people never do. It's a very fine film and I'm glad it ended the way it did. The things only get better if people make the choices that lead them there. But those paths are usually the hardest to cross because they require us to confront and then let go of our pain. And as I said some people are unable or unwilling to let go of their pain. If a person believes that they can be stronger than their past if they believe that they deserve peace and cicotte then everybody can have a happy ending like Will Hunting. And if they can't they can't. But it is a very fine film and I miss Robin Williams.

@macdonaldakanu369

5 жыл бұрын

Damn that was some MAD psychology; did you study psychology, the way you described burden was very interesting

@MSDJHERO

5 жыл бұрын

And it worked because?... They were not sentences, they were feeling.

This scene is my therapy. If you ended up crying from watching this there's your answer.

@averen15

3 жыл бұрын

Frrrr

@aminaj.7032

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

This movie made me realize just how much guilt i had put onto myself. When i watched this movie i was in a complete meltdown. I truly never knew just how much i had been through. Its like this part of the movie dug up so many subconscious memories.

what a scene, great script and acting, deserved oscar

@TheBarber5550

7 жыл бұрын

Metin Karademir I think this movie got an Oscar for Best screenplay.

@RascalFascal

7 жыл бұрын

it`s not their fault.

@s.g.7572

7 жыл бұрын

Also, Robin Williams got an Oscar. And thank fuck for that.

@smokeylonesome4328

6 жыл бұрын

+Gio Lingad- Lost Highway or Boogie Nights deserves best picture that year. But why do I care? Why am I typing this? Why to I get out of bed in the morning?

@donnya.oryankingdonny230

6 жыл бұрын

Titanic beat Good Will Hunting to the punch.