Narcissists love using Triggers, learn them and show no affect it drives them crazy. Us normal-ish nice people learn Triggers and avoid pulling them because we don't wish to harm the other person. My father knew all my Triggers and I knew his but he pulled mine as he was a Narcissist, I learnt to not react and never pull his. I could of given him a heart attack if I pulled most or all of his, I came close but he was an unwell Narcissist, it is an illness. He died 23 years ago and still managed to ruin my Mum's and my life however this why I'm here recovering. Gabor Thank You So Much

Personal Archaeology is a term I have been using for a while now; the goal to excavate my authentic self from the layers of stories and unprocessed emotions resulting from trauma, neglect and abuses.

@Ninof33

4 жыл бұрын

Psyche Revival I understand you. I’ve been searching for a right person who would help me with understanding everything that happened in my past so than I can dig out the real, authentic me. I’m all reading books and watching videos trying to figure things out on my own but speaking to someone right would make everything easier to understand.

@saira_anonymous1599

4 жыл бұрын

Copying that term for life...❤️

@kratosofspartareal

4 жыл бұрын

@@Ninof33 me too my friend, me too

@rebelwilson1846

4 жыл бұрын

@@Ninof33 What's helped me is meditating and silent contemplation. Getting in a place where there is no noise and allowing God or your Higher Power to speak in your imagination. And just resting there waiting... it can be quite powerful!

@rebelwilson1846

4 жыл бұрын

Sometime I'll have visions or imaginations going on in my head. Like scenes of me and Jesus and I have found a lot of revelation and freedom through this.

Awesome! He didn't allow his educated intellect to block nature of truth of self knowledge done with out fear. Just an awsome human being.

I love this guy...brilliant mind of our century

@GullerudGallery

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@zovalentine7305

5 жыл бұрын

As is his son, Aaron Mate⚘

@GullerudGallery

5 жыл бұрын

@@zovalentine7305 Thanks, Zo.. will check him out, too

@zovalentine7305

5 жыл бұрын

@@GullerudGallery there's a clip w/Lee Camp interviewing him in-joyed very recently; before that, w/Jimmy Dore Show 👏⚘✌

@zovalentine7305

5 жыл бұрын

@@GullerudGallery he has Facebook, also, and posts his own material ⚘

I will be celebrating the day when medical community finally recognizes the truth that this man is presenting. I will be celebrating the day when society in general finally understands the importance of emotions and how they affect everything in our lives. Also, in true spirituality there is no separation between the emotional, physical and spiritual. It is a misconception that one can be enlightened without addressing their emotions. Spirit is what manifests itself into emotional, mental and physical aspects. There is no spirituality without adressing all of those aspects.

@orsolyavarga7212

4 жыл бұрын

yes. im coming with you!

His beautiful voice reminds me of Leonard Cohen RIP

Gabor is one of my heroes. Just listening to him makes me feel instantly better.

this guy has a very soothing voice

@husseinfaiz3397

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, his voice helps with my insomnia tbh. play it on low volume at the back and i drift off to sleep

@Sandra-lb5pu

3 жыл бұрын

And his accent is ace.

I had an emotional outburst last week and scared myself. Now I'm beginning to understand my reaction. So glad to have found this. I've listened over and over and made notes. So healing. It is what I've been searching for all my life. Thank you Dr.

@gracelilyyoshua328

2 жыл бұрын

Triggered... auto response wired embedded in the childhood... forgive let go and unconditionally accept love yourself ... cut soul ties and cast out the hidden trauma ... choose to be free in the most high God's mercy

Yes. Thank you, Gabor! "High levels of cortisol is behind a lot of illness" which is rooted in emotional tangles

@christinebadostain6887

4 жыл бұрын

Good point, however, capitalism per se, isn't really problematic, it is that it is practiced irresponsibly---as an example, one could argue that marriage is useless because most people are bad at it---where I would aver that marriage is essential and people just need to get better at being married@Greg Jacques Lucifer's Jizz Gargler

@gilliansernich9267

4 жыл бұрын

Greg Jacques Lucifer's Jizz Gargler You are a very troubled person. Man, you have an awful lot of things to deal with to get your dignity back. It's lost.

Gabor is so insightful and much needed today. He appears full of compassion and understanding for humanity. It's sad that the people who probably have the highest ACEs are the ones that are judged the most harshly by society and sometimes by their family, when they are the ones that need the most compassion. What Gabor's done for me is to make me change my self-talk from 'it's not fair! or 'why me?, or 'why are they doing this to me?' 'why were they so cruel to me' TO 'there's nothing wrong with me' 'I am not bad' 'I will no longer allow anyone to make me feel bad'. 'I will now do things that enable me to be the best I can and achieve my potential'. The triggers primarily from my family of origin- are guilt and shame.

@robynhope219

6 ай бұрын

Great comment...I was severely punished for “being different “

WOW! how did I miss this brilliant teacher so far? Gabor Mate! thank you!

The deep compassion in this man for the human condition resonates in everything about him....for me anyway......it's simply love

@patticlare8306

4 жыл бұрын

The deep compassion in this man for the human condition... Exactly.💗

Brilliant man, Hard to find people who actually care and not just in it for a paycheck.

I love that this hasn't even been out an entire day and it already has 450 views. His message is brilliant and desperately needed in our culture. I'd love to see the rest of the talk. Does anyone know if it's available in its entirety? For everyone on this healing path; thank you for the work you're doing. In forging this trail, we're making it easier for everyone that follows. It is work, it's valid, and you are so strong and resilient (even if you don't believe it). I love you and I thank you. Praying you are blessed.

@katieseverin4364

5 жыл бұрын

What a compassionate person you are:) thank you ♥️ Any luck on finding the rest of this talk? I’ve been a fan of his for quite some time. I also would love the heat the rest!:) Blessings and peace to you:)

@curiousfiend1169

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this comment. Simply beautiful.

@garryellison2273

4 жыл бұрын

Did you get an answer to this question? I'd also like to see the entire stream.

@knbsd3876

4 жыл бұрын

Rochelle...We're in this together! Thanks for you sweet note! Kim💜

@Caperhere

4 жыл бұрын

Look at the description. ( Press the little triangle symbol under the video)

Finally - someone that makes sense. A bright light in a dark world. Right under my nose and I hid it from myself. I see an empowered me in the mirror ready to face my reality, my pain, my wounds - rather than justify with meaningless justification. My journey begins. Heartfelt thanks Dr Gabor and tears of joy - from a New Zealand warrior.

Gabor Maté! So smart, humble, knowledgeable! I am so happy I found him !

I'm a simple guy-I see a new Gabor Mate video, I click play right away!!!

@islajanecole6136

5 жыл бұрын

*a wise guy

@patticlare8306

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah....me too x

@degaleriespierenburg4539

3 жыл бұрын

The goal is to be a simple guy

Such a beautiful voice.

I was diagnosed with adult "attention deficit disorder" about 8 years ago and was recommended, Dr Gabor Mate's book, Scattered. Saved my life! 🙏

Love you SOmuch, Gabor! And just found out my FAVORITE journalist on earth is YOUR kid, Aaron ❤️🙏🏽🍉

So glad a wise friend recommended Gabor Mate to me. Such a compassionate yet tough and liberating approach.

My first time hearing this man. Very intelligent and wise.

Wonderful. I love how he reiterates that it's all rooted in childhood trauma. American Industrial Diet adds to illness as well.

@polavink2184

5 жыл бұрын

@jobje Rabbeljee everybody has childhood trauma- it is prerequisite. Problem is to admit that we were traumatized, even damaged, but still able to work it out. It is not relevant how much time it will take, but if you go for this journey and relentlessly work on that, you find yourself being different , much happier and being able to take care about yourself and even more. I came through that and found that it worth every penny and every second which you spent during this journey. You will become self reliable in any possible way. Took 25 years.

@zabelicious

5 жыл бұрын

Ann Darling ..and toxic vaccine ingredients

@happyapples6363

4 жыл бұрын

@@zabelicious lol no...gtfoh with that anti-vax bs.

@zabelicious

4 жыл бұрын

Twig Puppet I’m guessing you have not done much research on what neurotoxins can do. Vaccines contain known neuro toxins. Big difference between pro safety and anti vax.

@happyapples6363

4 жыл бұрын

@@zabelicious So essentially you're saying you're anti-vax without actually saying it, and attempting to spread fear of vaccines by positioning yourself as "pro-safety." The whole anti-vax movement originated through Russian disinformation and psy-ops campaigns. They are working to undermine democracy in the western world by spreading fear and distrust of the government (among other things). Since vaccines come from government programs, it's (sadly) been quite an effective technique. Do you have credible sources that show that neurotoxins have been added to vaccines and people who received the vaccines were harmed as a result? Because that would be worldwide news, were a tragedy like that to strike. Maybe put your energy into something that will actually help people instead of spreading unfounded fear about the safety of vaccines.

Gabor is a GIANT of a superhero - bearing his own suffering WHILE carrying others and helping others, just an easy naturalness of accepting his own wounds while teaching other people about how this works. Many people choose to create more pain instead of heal it when they''re experiencing / can't find a way out at the moment. But the healing and world good is achieved through the experience, not avoiding it.

“A bit of a gift”??? . . . he’s brilliant and wholehearted, this man is like Jesus walking amongst us, teaching and healing. He also possesses mind blowing humility. Quite literally, he could put every therapist and medical specialist out of business. He’s THAT good.

@joannegarofalo3556

3 жыл бұрын

Mi dear, i'm a Physician, i totally agree with You....except for "he's not Jesus"....Jesus Is the savior the son of God"....

Dr. Mate is such an incredible teacher. His views on addiction & trauma are beautifully simplistic yet so revolutionary and shocking for many in this day & age!

@Bojan_V

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. And many doctors don't know what to do with this knowledge becose they didn't resolve their own traumas.

THANKYOU Dr. Mate

He reached every chamber of my heart. I feel safe to work on myself now. I feel safe so Thank you Doc.

Seriously gifted. Every human being should get to know his work

@peacelovejoy8786

3 жыл бұрын

Agree - he is a deep! His book, Scattered", How attention deficit disorder originated and what you can do about it, saved me from years of unnecessary medication! He truly is one of a kind..👍

@robynhope219

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, he has no scientific support bc he is wrong about certain things he says. No one person has all the answers.

I love this guy

Oh my God thank you this is everything

Thnks. More people need to address their inner workings, and lift themselves up.

Brilliant perspective on triggers.

@deborahfaust5825

5 жыл бұрын

So well said. Love his analogy.

Love him!! Our society needs to hear this!! Compassionate Inquiry Spiritual bypass? (Not in certain aress) Truth sets us free💞

The analogy of the trigger and the ammunition is brilliant, spot on

archeology of the mind/spirit/soul is the most beautiful analogy I've ever heard for putting your soul back together.

The trigger-ammunition metaphor is so spot on.

I love Gabor’s description of a trigger. Makes so much sense.

I adore his mind … such a brilliant mind … a true intelligent ✨🍀

so glad i found his works

Thank you, Dr Mate! Every new talk is on a higher level. Please post the whole session.

Such a great person that has cared so deeply to work to discover the root of pain and how to heal it..comforting to listen to..

This guy is DA bomb! Amazing, brilliant, sweet, honest, beautiful soul.

He is so brilliant and authentic

Ah, this man 💗

I can't get enough of this brilliant mind and soul!

You are so gifted at being gentle with people and parents. You convince people they are ok x

I love this....do what you do....teach us this, whatever you do strikes us as authentic.

Love this guy for what he does

Emotions = feelings (identified by words we think with a/k/a taking temperature of our 'explosive expressing-or-not mind') and as in any relationship it's complicated. This compassionate man is a genius with the all not-so common quality called: common sense✌💖⚘🌷🎶👏

I love this Gabor. I love how we are understanding our past so we can process it and let it go. Coming from a chidlhood of detachment, stress, anger and trauma, I needed to learn to speak up and more importantly, to understand my parents had their own challenges that they were (and are still) unaware of that left a scar on me and my sisters. I mean that not in a cruel way, but in a way of opening deeper connection through widening and heightened understanding

I've had so much stress and traumas from my childhood and the collective unconscious that it triggered kundalini awakening within me. Nature stepped in to rewire and reconstruct what is within me. Without a full stop and reconstruction, my whole life was a dead end.

Awesome presentation. Beautifully articulated!

Loved his analogy regarding triggers. If we can bend our perceptions slightly to understand that the trigger is a gift, what follows will be nothing short of magical.

Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate. Your insight has enormously helped me with figuring out alot of things that I couldn’t make sense of despite having tried several remedies. Your work is very important and I much appreciate it. While I can use this knowledge in my life to heal, I can at the same time use these tools to recognize signs and help many people in my surroundings.

Thank you for your work.

Thank you. Wisdom. So evolved.

Delighted to learn more about #compassionateinquiry.

Gabor Mate + Ray Peat are a powerful combo.

Thank you Dr.

Love this thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕

Aamazing .Love Gabor Mate.

Always in love with Gabor Mate. How not to be✨

Gabor is saving my life

Great spirit, thank you for everything, I got hope..

Gabor is so very careful with his words - it is compassion itself.

Excellent Love this

Its the first time i see him crack a little laugh and its just preciousss

' So, Compassionate Inquiry is really all about finding out what the 'ammunition' is. How you handle the person that triggers you really is your call. But at least know that you are the one with all the explosive inside you, and you will gain so much liberation if you find out what that ammunition is; how you got it and how to diffuse it, like you diffuse a bomb. You can actually diffuse that ammunition inside you, through getting to know yourself, and that's where freedom lies. If no-one had the power to actually trigger you, not because you are closed down and shut down and isolated, but because you are totally aware of yourself....Well, that's where liberation actually is ' Gabor Maté From the deepest depths of my soul, thank you Gabor Maté

Wow. Thanks.

Thank you

I wish I could afford a few sessions with this guy

Good work! 😃👍💥

Brilliant man

The stories to manage the pain are actually the gift making you realize.right in the moment that while some of your awareness is caught in a leg trap, plenty of it is free as to be aware that part of your mind is trying to get out of the trap with a mix.of feelings, story, images etc. To even be aware that a part of you is caught in that leg trap it means that some of your awareness is free. Now allow this living light to witness your struggle and do now ask it to intervene to change anything. Give it a chance to pop in your life and see you in less that stellar circumstances. This awareness does give a shit whether you have a gold medal to your neck or a noose because you will get hung in 10 minutes. Don't try to noss awareness around. It is like trying to chop the wind with a machete. It won't make you a millionnaire either or fire a shot of kundalini from your ass past the top of your head. However what it can do is to pull the rest of your awareness out of the trap just like if the leg that was in the trap was made of ice... then it turns to water and escapes the trap. The trap os still there and still shut but the metamorphosis from ice to water got you out. One very beautiful book that explains things in a very poetic and simple ways is The Sun In My Heart by Thich Nhat Hanh. While this monk is a lot let fierce with his words than Krishnamurti they extremely close in their views in many aspect. It is so easy to miss Thich Nhat Hanh as never tries to shock the way Osho and others did. However he can see a lot in a drop of water sliding on a blade.of grass. A very, very subtle master.

People who have and "try" to cultivate spiritual practices without dealing with the "dark material" on a deep meaningful level generally exhibit passive-aggressive behavior in everyday life. I for one, tire of this need to "be in the light"... The truth is in the dark stinky material.

@danj285

5 жыл бұрын

​@jobje Rabbeljee well its all about the opposites. emotion, thoughts, feelings all need to be experienced, taken in and accepted regardless of being 'good' or 'bad which for the most part has to do with our conditioning as a child in a family, culture, nation etc to what is good or bad.

@its_me_dave

4 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson, prime example.

@maya9685

4 жыл бұрын

Amen . Psychological spiritual bypassing is the forte of the new age monkeys

An archaeologist of the mind

Pls Dr. Mate share your message on the Joe Rogan podcast

@Thedragonwithin

4 жыл бұрын

i said this too! cant wait until hes on his podcast

Full video please 😀💜✌🙏

All you need is already within you, only you must approach your self with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self-disgust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of love you bear for your self, all I plead with you is this: make love of your self perfect. Deny your self nothing--give yourself infinity and eternity and discover that you do not need them; you are beyond. Nisargadatta Maharaj, I Am That: Talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

I think one can understand "spiritual bypass" and also the achievement of positive mental and emotional states that Maté mention without addressing and changing one's underlying beliefs as a function of the nature of human beings and human action. Our relation to the "divine" and our moment to moment thoughts and our emotions are related to our beliefs about ourself, but are not determined by them. I can change my relation to the universe without changing my relation to and my beliefs about myself because these are different aspects of mind. Beliefs about self operate differently than thoughts and feelings and even our spritual beliefs. They are more fundamental, established earlier and reinforced more thoroughly. To change such beliefs is a different kind of task, one that can take immense effort and skill.

the curious thing about integration of light and dark in general is the mind's tendency to cling and identify with the whole process which ultimately creates a complex patterning of the structure of the system to such identification. This becomes another form of addiction and when there is no more highs and lows brought about by the process, the mind craves and creates for more "dark" unwittingly because what else is there to do when you dedicate all your time and energy for such integration? This is a perpetual loop one finds in. It's like rocking your own boat with your own energy without any waves on the ocean.

Id love to hear the rest 🙁

Looking forward to the follow up (subscribing in anticipation)

@Williamottelucas

5 жыл бұрын

@jobje Rabbeljee Oh, I just wonder what this is the introduction to - a question and answer session, perhaps? In any case, there's a ton of material of Gabor on KZread. In the past few months I've listened to dozens of hours :-)

@knbsd3876

4 жыл бұрын

William Lucas ...My thoughts exactly. There are hours upon hours of his works posted. No need for passive inaction. If one is interested, the materials are awaiting discovery. Or, as you stated...search Gabor (auto fill will occur) on YT😉

Great! Where is the rest?

Bach flower remedy Centaury is excellent for helping with saying NO.

The problematic self will never be resolved. Decades of learning how to manage trauma, our minds and our body might entertain the idea that we are, indeed, victims that can be triggered at any time. I wonder if all this is not 'only' a question of mistaken identity, when we confuse who we are (pure awareness) with the separate self, the 'little me' and its painful story, which is a crystallised, contracted version of awareness. I agree with Gabor, working on our beliefs, on the stories we tell ourselves is the way out.

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resonate

This guy reminds me of Manuel Pellegrini, current manager of West Ham United.

wheres the rest of this video ?? or the whole weeks to be exact

where is the next part?

free peace

i don t find the triangle under the discription for full video ,can anybody help me ?thank you:)

Do we actually get how to learn compassionate self enguiry ???

I think there are stages and all of them are natural and necessary. A trigger IS a transgression and intuitively we feel agreviated and is emotionally healthy to respond by boundaries, removing our selves....protect our selves. If we may attend our feelings at this time proppertly ( witch depend of the intensity IS definitely therapy , for the most part society is NOT psychological conscious/ intelligent) this may not become a trigger later on. But if it is is simply a wise way our body and mind tell us there is something that needs our loving attention. Simply. Is out of self love and trust of our body intelligence that something came up.

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Im lucky at such a young age i choose not to define or blame or shame my self with my parents incompetency. I choose to separate my identity with my parents poor decissions n judgements. I tell my self im going to separate my self n destiny, and have better life, reactions to life, and better communications with my own family. I make peace with ' the ghosts inside me'. I forgive them, but refuse to take their path. May Allah bless my parents.

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