Discipline is not the same as punishment or spanking. It’s about setting rules and boundaries to keep children safe or to learn appropriate behaviors. It involves following through on consequences when the child breaks the rules. In this video, we share our discipline techniques and welcome you to let us know which ones you use for your own children. We absolutely loved doing this show at the Golden Tulip Hotel, come solidify your family relationship at the Golden Tulip and explore more of what this gorgeous hotel has to offer. Thank you to Zuri Hair, Shades of Beauty, Shoe Puzzle and Fashion Episode for our look today :) If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who will relate and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one. Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O... #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove

@justinekissiti6489

10 ай бұрын

😅

@user-vo8nz4uf3i

9 ай бұрын

Pumla's submission ❤❤❤ rising a difficult child is hard,

@user-xu9hk1gh3d

8 ай бұрын

Pumula how can I find u

Am actually here just to appreciate you Pumla Nabacwa for taking sometime off your busy schedule and not only look through but also respond to the comments. You really are a darling

@pumlanabachwa8668

9 ай бұрын

Oh! Thank you Nassali. It means a lot to me to engage with Bump Lovers. I appreciate you too ❤

@daphineorimwesiga3905

9 ай бұрын

​@@pumlanabachwa8668❤

@laurak442

8 ай бұрын

We appreciate you Pumla

I would love to see a dad edition of this episode!

@nsiimentacathy3676

9 ай бұрын

Right?

You ladies have become 60yrs at 37..., the maturity of your words can start a whole new perfect generation and you know we need figures like you that have a positive mindset about life while others are their stealing money thinking it will give children a better future, we need more of this truth to change the mindsets of many and I pray that bumplovers will preach this gospel after learning from it but not keeping it to only their families bkoz our children may meet those broken persons in future. God bless you ladies and whoever is supporting the show

@banagakevin5587

10 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Oh Mary! Aren't you the loveliest Bump Lover. Thank you for the kind words. We do hope to continue creating impact that will change our Community 🙏🏾 LOL @60yrs 😅

@julianmirembe9347

9 ай бұрын

I really got in love with each sip of word coming from these ladies what they share to us has helped me a lot I love you Big.

U guys shd tackle sibling rivalry, most tymz fueled by parents:knowingly or unknowingly

My son is 11 and I do co-parenting. My partner is an equally active parent and every time they spend time together, our son comes back a better person. my style of parenting is having conversations and teaching, the father's style is different. There are days when I would feel helpless in matters of disciplining but a phone call to the dad works wonders

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Oh Betty. You are me. I am you. Thank you for this comment. Hugs.❤.

Thank you for the show ladies. Dealing with children in times like these one of the challenging things parents get. Trust me, no one wants their child to come out the bad one in community. By the time this mother got to this stage, lots must have happened. I have ever heard someone say, "Naye nga omuzadde, omwana akulema atya!??? Omwaana obwaana!? Ogamba otya nti omwana annemye!??? Olinga agamba Katonda nti ekirabo kyewampa sikisobola.... " The talk was lengthy. But in the end, he said, "Parents, kneel down and pray to God to teach you His kind of parenting."

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I know of a man who is very responsible now but in his teenage years despite having grown up in a stable family with both parents present went wayward to the point of taking drugs and refusing to go to school. The parents took him to kyankwanzi in the military base for like 3months. He returned a different child. Calling the dad Sir, kneeling for the mum etc to the point that his own where even scared of him. I think depending on the child and how desperate you're for change in your child,you can take these extremes. He is now a successful lawyer in this country. Thank you for this show. Very informative

Pumla is very right about the definition of gental parenting and personally I've learnt it with experience, im not a parent yet but for the past two years I've been a nanny to a one beautiful girl and its been gentle parenting all the way, however its too tiring at times because it involves alot of talking you have to explain the same thing over and over again for even months and it also involves " do as i do" not "do as i say" as many of us were raised, because its exactly what you do that the child will gi after. Thanks bump love I've loved today's topic even though it watched it a little late its worth it though

I can see how my brother turned out due to the absence of the father and yet our mother went all out. A father figure for a boy child is extremely important. Men really need to better 😢

This is former serving veteran, who is helping parents with kids who are off the straight road. In most cases, he comes in like that but he also talks to them in a more calming way. He also listens to their side and them gives them ways to communicate rather than disobey their parents.

Just to add on the many voices that have already contributed to this topic. The best time to give instruction and teach a child the fundamental values of life is when they are still very little ie between the ages of 1yrs and 3yrs.. Beyond 3yrs old. The child's conscience is starting to fully function but it functions off the moral deposits that you have been depositing in their moral warehouse when they are still little.. So that now you give the 'why' to the instructions you are giving.. The problem we face especially us the African parent we fail to instruct and teach and train the kids when they are little, because we be thinking that they are still little. Yet at that early age.. Their brains are at Rocket Speed in terms of capturing their sorroundings and learning.

I agree with Rosette. Balance. Don't hold a grudge with your child. Move on after disciplining them for something. Don't be that African mom piling on words unnecessarily for hours or days.

Thanks for another show ladies. I want to agree with Manuela that something is broken in African societies. Men need to be more involved in family for a better society. In societies that do well, men are held to a very high standard. They are expected to anchor the family and contribute to society. Today we have husbands that are emotionally absent in the family. Fathers who don't remember what class their children are in. How can they discipline their children without knowing the basics. Let's do better. Men need to understand that they are a big part of the solution. Like Angie said you fix family, you fix society.

😂😂😂😂😂spanking as you tell a child what they did is the winner.

Thank you Airtel for sponsoring bump love. I am officially an investor. Aka shareholder 😂

❤❤❤❤ the fountain example 😂😂😂😂 typical of children

"Heal, so that you don't hurt those that did not hurt you" Who else noticed noticed this too?? it's the best quote I have heard today's night for sure. We all need healing for our own sanity and avoidance of resentment and regrets.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

So true

Outside the discussion; Rachel you are looking so good.

Angie I like the way you talk gently. Much love to bump love from Rwanda 🇷🇼

Great discussion ladies! Rosette, I've really enjoyed your submissions on this topic.

@aworiemily6815

9 ай бұрын

Wow me too

I disagree with Manuella. It is not intimidation, men are wired differently and this could be a changing point for him. He could grow to love that man and even look at him as a role model. Sometimes children need to see someone other than the people in their homes.

@user-en1zc5vd6y

10 ай бұрын

Exactly….the average boy/man responds more to authority yet we women parent emotionally(which is natural coz we are nurturers). You need that male figure to balance things out, ALWAYS

@nicolenajjemba

10 ай бұрын

I think Manuela has a point though while we can generalize and say that men respond best to authority not every man or boy child is built like that. For those men or boys that respond best to authority this might be a turning point for them however for those men/boys who might be more sensitive it could come off as intimidation and once he internalizes those negative emotions, he starts to believe that the only way I can be heard or understood is through shouting. Most Ugandan men are built in environments of toxic masculinity that they have never taken time to even evaluate their emotions or how they are feeling. Think about this, when you see someone who is always shouting, the first question people ask but Yiyi how was this person raised. It’s alluding to the idea that at some point during this person’s childhood, he or she internalized shouting as a way to express negative emotions. My takeaway from this video was that every child be it boy or girl has a different temperament and as a parent you have to adjust to that child because without that understanding you might start or enhance bad behavior instead of fixing it.

@manuelap.mulondo

10 ай бұрын

Sometimes, I wish people worked in my sector. You would see how men have been broken over the years because of these belief systems.......

@gloriamn9013

10 ай бұрын

@@manuelap.mulondo i agree men have been broken in some ways. But in this case, we are seeing this young boy develop a toxic pattern, where gentle parenting has failed. A boy that thinks its OK to name call the mother and disregarding his mom's authority. He should not be categorized in the same group as young boys that are more grounded and obedient. This hence calls for a different approach in disciplining, its a trial and error. If he doesn't respond to this veteran, then the mom has to keep adjusting methods. The cost of inaction on this boy's behavior is rather grater in the future than now.

@paulinenakyajja3533

9 ай бұрын

I 💯% agree with you.This is not intimidation,gentle parenting has its own shortcomings. This topic is ambiguous.

Even in our teenage days mu used to say let your father come we could say tuwedde. So unless otherwise the man's voice in a home is very very important.

The problem of single mothers of today,they confuse their own independence with being single parents.yes manuela ,you can be a bad partner but a good father. Bravo Ladies for the talk 👄 👏

But even going to boarding school made me feel abandoned 😞 Till today, I have never recovered

It’s the color coordinated outfits for me today. Lovely episode as always ladies. Sometimes I wonder if you guys are aware of how impactful your content is to even young women that are not mothers or may not even necessarily have it in mind. Always stimulating engaging with these conversations ❤

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Thanks love. We are truly reaffirmed by your affirmations to us.

Thanks for the show ladies ❤

i am so grateful to have known Bump love just when i happen to have a baby. i knew about you a year and mnths ago, and thats how old my baby is. 1 year 7mnths old. already im seeing myself "Do Better". i always look forward to your episodes and i repeat over and over watching. you are a blessing girls. i truly learn here.

Thanks for a show ladies ❤

Banange ladies mmmhhh I had to watch twice cause the first I was distracted with your fashion, so on point👌🏽👌🏽 the shoes game🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I pray that I don't become a single mom if I ever decide to be a wife or mother, it doesn't only affect the child but the mother as well, as Manuela said men have to do better. Thank you ladies.

This has been really helpful. Thank you Bump love

❤❤❤this is greatly appreciated 🙏

Thank you Pumla for talking about the need for both parents in a childs life regardless of the status of the parents relationship. We need to hear more of this narrative. Thank you for sharing your story. You Rock 🎉

@pumlanabachwa8668

9 ай бұрын

Oh yes...we shy away from this truth but it is indeed what it is. Let us acknowledge where we have gaps and try to create a semblance of a healthy environment for our kids to thrive.

Thanks always for the good guidance ❤❤❤

After getting data🤣 @ Manuela mentioned something that most parents overlook, involving God as the wisdom through His word. I had to make my children read the book of Psalms and Proverbs aloud as our devotion because words like obedience, truth or lies, honor, and so on jump out of the Bible. The word of God is living and active and it divides flesh and spirit, where all other methods employed fail. Also, for single parents, this is also an avenue of giving their children a solid identity about having a Father who is perfect and never fails. Even for single dads, if you use the word, there is a sensitivity a child will feel from God's word, like love, care and so on that can fill the gap of a mum. I loved the episode.

Thanks bump love...sooo much good information ❤

Looking fabulous ladies,love ,love you girls,thanks for always sharing,teaching and mentoring us,be blessed always.

I loved every bit of the show

Thank you bump love, I love love you ladies, God bless you

The problem with social media is that the clips are too short and we don't get to understand the full picture of what's happening. However, if we're assuming the mom is single, then she did well by calling that veteran. Some boys need that. Tough love. Many boys raised by single mother claim that joining the military helped fill the void of absent dad (read it from US platform).

How I wish I could be able to meet you guys with my daughter! Am a single mom, dad abandoned us and we have a disability on our body. It's now 16 yrs. Life has been extremely hard for the two of us. I appreciate what ever you people share on your shows. Thanks alot, Julia

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Of lugave ❤. We empathize with you love. I do hope that you are exercising healthy measures to shield your child from this struggle you mention. Otherwise, it will be well ❤

Am with rosette all day. Boys are different, raising them into responsible men is not that simple for women. Anybody that’s been around both boy and girl children knows it

@Fattahssesanga9747

10 ай бұрын

It’s really tough.

@user-cv4pb7ds9l

9 ай бұрын

And those who have girls will always question our mode if parenting but the truth is as a lady with a boy sometimes ts not easy as a girl child 😢

Thanks ladies for the show

The outfits are giving, ladies. Yall look fab. I believe in different parenting styles for different kids. For kid x, that man's talk would break them, whereas for kid y, the same talk would set him straight and change him forever in a positive way.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

This is absolutely true. It woild work for a dominant child and yet at the same time break a sensitive one.

Thanks for the show ladies . We the people of kiboga district ku ssaaza love you soo much❤❤❤❤❤ 📢📢📢📢 This generation is broken and dark so with such words i hope we learn nd wakeup . Ntv should add more minutes for this show for those that don't have Smartphones 😅 Mwebale kutuwereza 👏👏👏

Great conversation as always there is something to learn and appreciate about each episode. Well done ladies 👏👏🙏🙏your looking lovely ❤️❤️

Ladies,thanks for this impactful and edutaining contect,u really teach us alot n am glad that i learn n everything in yo content is useful,cant wait to hv a family🎉❤❤

Wow, this is so enriching❤

I truly understand the mother in the video. Growing up with a single mum i saw how my mum struggled to discipline us and it was much harder when it came to disciplining the boys

I love this. We need to all be present and involved. Very wise ladies

There are repercussions pumla but you're right it takes hardwork respect and understanding. Raising with fear is short term and traumatising for the child

Ladies you look so amazing 😍😍 dress code colours are so coordinated ❤️❤️

We need a dad edition of this

Loved it all.thk you especially

Learnt quite alot ... thank you ladies

Thanks bump love

Such a great conversation.

Kyoka thank you ladies...I have learnt a lot.

❤thank you ladies.

Ladies nga muli smart❤❤now i can start watching😊

I don't have data🤣🤣, but just enough to say that you are all slaying today. The person behind the fashion is now getting it right. Keep up.

wow❤Alot I dint know abt parenting has been fabulously said by amazing ladies here..thanks a bunch swthrts

Thanks alot our voice of women, u always say it all we really do appreciate more as been learnt from your episodes great work indeed we do appreciate ❤ but boys sometimes they need a male version into them coz they always see we ladies as if we don't understand their nature as boys

Informative,,thanx lovelies

Thank you ladies for this wonderful topic as a mother we keep learning something new about parent hood we are not perfect as some may think all we need is finding abalance between discplining them and loving them.having both parents who are engaged makes it easier too. Otherwise you ladies look very beautiful today in these colours your always on point be blessed.

This episode was very informative...Ladies you never disappoint. Stay blessed.

Great conversations always.....that summary indeed.....fix family and you shall hv fixed most problems in the world.....totally agree

Thank you ladies for this episode. My daughter is only 6 years but anything the father says is complied with immediately.

You guys are looking gorgeous ❤❤❤ since am not yet a parent, am here to listen and learn 🎉 thankyou so much

Early bird! Lemmi sit and listen bulunji! Thx for this topic

Fridays are for bump love🎉🎉🎉

thanks ladies, u are really shinning, looking gorgeous...🥰🥰🥰.. my sunshines..

This is beautiful.. I really hope the boy's mother in the video can watch this bumb love episode. I realy think it can help. Thanks guys for the show. God bless you

That Video, i do it even more, i talk sense to them and after i tell you to kneel and raise your hands up.

Thank you ladies! Let me just reserve my comment today but if possible I need another episode of this but on raising nonbiological children. I would appreciate! Will share my experience then. It has always been tough! With mine we are good,them.....a night mare. Otherwise,thx bump love. You looked amazing today

@user-gu5pf7gq4o

10 ай бұрын

i agree

@amutuhaireprovia4103

10 ай бұрын

Seriously

@swaimahcerlyx5076

10 ай бұрын

I would like to know about it also

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Hey Collette. What kind of Biological? Step parent or Adoption? We've spoken a little to both on previous episodes but we can speak even more. Many people have asked for the same.

@amutuhaireprovia4103

10 ай бұрын

@@pumlanabachwa8668 personally am not a step mother, am a young mother of 1 beautiful daughter of 1year and 2 months, though I have another daughter of 14yearz whom I take care of but I am always confused if I am not mothering her well, almost everyday she does wrong, evenif we talk about it again and again, I have done my best but I feel I am failing,, what can I do

Manuella, that hair piece looks lovely on you

Honestly the presence of the father in the family really matters alot in the discipline development and direction. My father's phonecall could put me in line😂😂😂😂😂😂 yet my mum could sing for a certain bad behavior

Am an early bird 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 excited thank u for teaching us before we arrive 🎉😂

Thank you soo Manuela i'm with you on this children learn mostly from what we do as parents than what we say For me i prefer talking/arguing to a child than intimidating them all the time bcz they understand unless when it goes beyond then i take kibooko You know it's not also good to make them used to kibooko or intimidation all the time cz ekiseera kijjatuuka them abere nga akulaba bulabi even if you beat them up akutunulire jst so for me i think it's better at first twemanyize okwogera n'abo Thank soo much beautiful ladies 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

My gentle parenting is that of Pumla. My child was making up little lies. The school reported. The caretaker reported. And when I came to UG we talked about the result of small lies that become big lies and then theft. After our discussions. A few days passed. He was then arrested by the police arraigned and partially booked. I paid all the participants. He spent a few hour in the jail having conversations with prisoners. He cried and cried. But mommy was no where. Well my son will not lie. If you ask if he did something. He tells as it is. His now 15. honest as they come. Even when he messes up. He will tell you he messed up

@namugerwamaria338

10 ай бұрын

Good job hon.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

I don't know why but I want to HUG you right now. Well done Maama!

@christinebirungi7168

10 ай бұрын

@@pumlanabachwa8668 I learned this from an old man. When i was 16. my daddy took us shooting with an old doctor friend of his who lived down south in Georgia. He told a story of his son getting a DUI and going to Jail for one night. The next 24hr after jail he spent with his father at the emergency room. What he saw there… let’s say was the greatest lesson any jail cell could give him. Think about general hospital at 100% lol. Children learn with emotion actions and discussions.

My mom raised boys alone and evry one gives her a credit on our village❤

@Fattahssesanga9747

10 ай бұрын

Credit to her ❤❤❤

As always Nabachwa with the brains.. explaining gentle parenting 😍😍😍😍a fave and more

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

First of all, the outfits are dope. Raising children is one of the hardest tasks I've encountered as a single mum. Men always abandon children if the separation was initiated by the mother. Oba to get back to her? I don't know. Shout outs to Pumla for her input on co-parenting, which I've tried to do in vain.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

I'm sure you're doing the best you can. That's enough. Keep doing that ❤

I certainly do not know what kind of parenting I do. I think it's a mix depending on the action by the child. But I can honestly state that they are turning out right

Gentle parenting has failed with my 2year old. She is that toddler who can push all those buttons

Hello beautiful ladies thank you for bringing up that topic i have picked a leaf today thank you love from this side

She's a single mum but it's not that boy's job to raise himself. Manuela as someone in early childcare too I am with you. The onus is on us

Dear Bump Love, Thank you Ladies, i know we have talked about blended families but i kindly request you to enlighten us more about raising children who are not biological i.e, step children and children from our relatives As they often visit their homes and communicate to their own, with behaviour changes and connection with our biological children. Kind Regards

@user-en1zc5vd6y

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for bringing this up coz it’s a discussion that’s much needed in our society

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Hey Komugisha. We do need to speak to step/blended parenting. Many people have asked. We've had 2 episodes about this but we will delve deeper

Kudos to that dad👏🏾👏🏾

Thank you ladies for another fantastic episode. Pamela you couldn't have said it better, as children grow up - teenagers, we need to parent by influence, connect emotionally and also tap into the morals we have imparted as they grow up. Thank you ladies.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Yes Nabwire....as children grow, we need to lead with connection and influence ❤.

I always look at the way y’all sit according to colours. Manuella should have switched with Pumla😂

One question to you ladies, What criteria did you use while selecting yourselves for this show??? Cos you are all mature and articulate with every word that comes out of your mouths!! Great work girls. I sincerely appreciate and learn a lot from bump love. 😘

Learning more is the goal

Men involvement is crucial. We are doing research in Makerere University about men involvement in parenting

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Oh! Are you studying psychology or anything related.?

Pumla,how profound! Indeed we,as parents,are only stewards. We need to hand over the reins to the Creator. Thank you,Ladies.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Kudos to my mom indeed.

@paulinenakyajja3533

9 ай бұрын

Exactly and I love her explication on different topics. Gentle parenting doesn’t involve any kind of spanking and it has its own challenges Different kids respond to different methods of parenting

@JackieLutty

9 ай бұрын

Great conversation...Pumla thank you so much ..I have been enlightened

Great kb always

Pumla the dress is just fit for a professional and a real mother I love the way you look today, absolutely covered.

@pumlanabachwa8668

10 ай бұрын

Oh lawd! Now we're attaching dress styles to mom & professional roles? Let's Release people abeg!

@im4089

10 ай бұрын

No Pumla, he's just complimenting you. This dress suits you well and gives off classy feminine and motherly vibes.

For me I do my best but it's hard to parent with an absent present paterners, at least ko when he's not around completely

@pumlanabachwa8668

9 ай бұрын

I totally agree