Generational Trauma - Case Study

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What does an affair have with Complex Trauma and Generational Trauma? Tim explores the answer to that in a case study
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  • @poelogan
    @poelogan2 ай бұрын

    This video was the “Aha” moment after watching about half of your catalog. I figured out the core of it. Ty.

  • @davebird534
    @davebird5342 ай бұрын

    Thanks tim i've already learned so much from you!

  • @alexxx4434
    @alexxx44342 күн бұрын

    I love how the husband is totally ignored in this story... Only description we got "he has a great job".

  • @co59720
    @co597202 ай бұрын

    Nice to see you Tim ❤ ~hey KZread when I set a reminder do your job I'm a premium customer 🤑

  • @prajaktakudkar4493
    @prajaktakudkar44932 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. I am going to heal. It really helped me to see root cause of my traumas.

  • @World-Sojourner.22

    @World-Sojourner.22

    2 ай бұрын

    Hi! Me too! Keep it up! ☮️❤

  • @haleygreen8461
    @haleygreen84612 ай бұрын

    Whoa. Powerful!!!

  • @no_more_free_nicks
    @no_more_free_nicks2 ай бұрын

    This story is so sad. I could not imagine laying side by side with my mother dying and trying to synchronize my breath. I would be with her there, but not that close.

  • @lindsay5305
    @lindsay53052 ай бұрын

    Great case example and great explanation Tim. Thank you

  • @treeroot7636
    @treeroot76362 ай бұрын

    Dr. Tim I didn't expect this session to hit me emotionally the way it has but when you talk about that woman's childhood world it makes me want to cry and I don't cry much.

  • @thechubbyhiker4142
    @thechubbyhiker41422 ай бұрын

    It is truly truly AMAZING what you’re doing for all of us!! God is definitely doing His work through you! THANK YOU SO MUCH for all you do!! Seriously, THANK YOU!

  • @irenezerva5274
    @irenezerva52742 ай бұрын

    Excellent Mr Fletcher! Absolutely brilliant! 👌

  • @kathy1001
    @kathy10012 ай бұрын

    I couldn't do it without all your help. Thank you, Tim.

  • @thebackyardhorseenthusiast
    @thebackyardhorseenthusiast2 ай бұрын

    I listen to your videos on the daily. It proves to me just how important it is to get “background” on a new client. I start with a gene gram and temperament test. It reveals so much and shows me where the “work” needs to begin. I lead multiple inner child healing work groups. It is profound and transformative work.

  • @ibrahimrenno81
    @ibrahimrenno812 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for all the valuable information!! God bless you.

  • @palobar9974
    @palobar99742 ай бұрын

    God bless you sir. Another one of your videos that made me cry.

  • @elkesmith8564
    @elkesmith85642 ай бұрын

    Thank you. Very helpful

  • @robinrainwater6852
    @robinrainwater6852Ай бұрын

    Incredible ❤

  • @World-Sojourner.22
    @World-Sojourner.222 ай бұрын

    ❤☮️ Thank you Tim! May God bless you and you ministry with his best will! Amen❤☮️

  • @lanishortsunshine5773
    @lanishortsunshine57732 ай бұрын

    Oh my Tim f. You gave me sooo much hope ! A light at the end of this healing tunnel Lol I can end tunnel vision...lol....I'm so open to lift and act react ...I will look. I've listened to you fir 3 years , now , 4 I do appreciate all this , blessings to you and your family ❤❤❤

  • @World-Sojourner.22
    @World-Sojourner.222 ай бұрын

    ❤ God bless you Tim. I’ve learned about myself and it’s really helped me heal. Thank you so much! ☮️

  • @arianebennion
    @arianebennion2 ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @robinfarmer4787
    @robinfarmer47872 ай бұрын

    I never cheated or had an affair I don’t like cheating

  • @lynnebailey6528

    @lynnebailey6528

    2 ай бұрын

    Lucky you, ...its a deeper issue...tim explains it really well.

  • @katrinat.3032

    @katrinat.3032

    2 ай бұрын

    Sometimes good people have affairs. And what Tim explains is very true. You can think that you love someone and you’ve been in it so long you truly believe that you love them, but deep down inside if you were never really heard or validated, and you’re in a relationship where you’re not heard or validated but that seems normal to you. Then someone comes along and makes you feel heard and validated and many other things, floodgates that you never knew you had will open up and make you want to be with that person so bad. Because you never had somebody care about you the way that person cares about you. That’s one way that a good person with good morals may fall into an affair. It has to do with unconscious needs that were never met. That’s suddenly getting met in this other person and it’s like a whole New World to you.

  • @mobilityproject3485

    @mobilityproject3485

    2 ай бұрын

    Good... you actually learned from your childhood trauma

  • @lynnebailey6528

    @lynnebailey6528

    2 ай бұрын

    @@mobilityproject3485 the fact that they describe it as 'cheating'...is not indicative of someone who has 'learned'. Imo Let's hope they've never had any childhood trauma ever...

  • @mobilityproject3485

    @mobilityproject3485

    2 ай бұрын

    @@lynnebailey6528 Did you run into this channel yesterday? The bulk of our generational trauma in this continent (and really most of the rich world) is from people that engage in wrong sexual behavior. People that cheat, screw with random strangers, use or engage in the prostitution and porn trades, etc. It offends me that so many people go though this stuff and perpetrate the same things to their kids, or those of others. Maybe they didn't know when they first got addicted (12 or 13), but it is pretty obvious to someone with an adult level of comprehension that this is the source of most childhood trauma. You knew what it felt like. Didn't you fear becoming like 'those people' when you were little and they were wronging you? More than anything else in the world?

  • @amcgee0668
    @amcgee06682 ай бұрын

    Appreciation.

  • @mobilityproject3485
    @mobilityproject34852 ай бұрын

    The big irony is, most of the generational trauma in this country, this continent is caused by poor sexual behavior... sad that people haven't gotten that yet...

  • @diogenes3528
    @diogenes35282 ай бұрын

    This was a particularly difficult video for me to listen to. I didn't "cheat" on my wife, not technically anyway. But with the porn and OF, I might as well have. I never wanted to hurt her. She truly is the love of my life. I don't want the images or other women, but sometimes in the darkest moments self pleasure seems like the only way to stop the pain, anxiety and depression. I'm sorry and I want to be better, I want to heal. 13 days today, one day at a time.

  • @alexm.7781
    @alexm.77812 ай бұрын

    In recent years, I’ve been healing from trauma similar to this story, specifically dealing with the fear of abandonment and not feeling safe. I’m blessed to be in a happy marriage, it doesn’t even cross my mind to ever cheat in any type of way. Loyalty, faithfulness, love and respect is paramount for me in the way I treat myself, my other half and those that I allow to be close to me. What I find interesting is that Kirsten’s story resurfaces in my nightmares, a few times per year. And it’s the same storyline where I am either (1) stuck in my past with an abusive ex, as if my real life today has never manifested. (2) living exactly my life now, but me being the cheater and ruining my life. Note, I call it a NIGHTMARE and I wake up horrified at the possibility. Consciously, nothing close to this goes through my mind and it’s scary that my subconscious plays this narrative in my dreams. This reminds me that healing is a life long journey, it’s humbling and we must develop our awareness every day, otherwise the lack of it, will take over our lives, not in a good way. Wish everyone healing, peace in their minds and hearts ❤️ Thank you Tim!

  • @nixonanthony4812
    @nixonanthony48122 ай бұрын

    Tim. I wonder if you can make a video talking about emasculation

  • @vitis6252
    @vitis62522 ай бұрын

    The things in the background make you look like you have horns.

  • @nowie4007

    @nowie4007

    2 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂true

  • @lanishortsunshine5773
    @lanishortsunshine57732 ай бұрын

    Tim ? Where do we go to find healing for sex , for survivors I feel list , about the subject , honestly .....what guidance Dan be offered . I read some sutras from mind valley blog Super helpful

  • @Itssidaaa
    @Itssidaaa2 ай бұрын

    So… if she was trying to get her needs met through this new man, does that mean her needs weren’t truly being met by her husband?.. Does that mean she wasn’t genuinely and authentically connecting with him the way she thought she was? Does that mean that her relationship with her husband wasn’t “healthy” enough to heal her trauma?

  • @marnlim
    @marnlim2 ай бұрын

    I don’t think it’s just sex w Josh. Sounds very much emotional

  • @Hephzibah-eq9kr

    @Hephzibah-eq9kr

    2 ай бұрын

    Ungodly soultie

  • @kysweetheart1964
    @kysweetheart19642 ай бұрын

    Di you offer zoom therapy? If so how much per hour? My insurance only covers a particular group. I spent over a year, and all she seems to do is recommend a book to read. Year or two later went when very suicidal, close as I have come in 3 decades, she said we'll we both know you were not serious about doing, give my guns to a friend, until this passes. Needless to say, not interested in them.

  • @Perry.Okeefe
    @Perry.Okeefe2 ай бұрын

    Looks like tim is growing devil horns, lol.

  • @frankyfourfingers1382
    @frankyfourfingers13822 ай бұрын

    BUT HOW DO YOU ACTUALLY HEAL? ...It's just the same thing over and over - lots of talk, lots of conjecture on what the problem is, and no real practical, actionable roadmap on how to deal with the problems.

  • @Itssidaaa

    @Itssidaaa

    2 ай бұрын

    He has a video on how to heal trauma

  • @paulinenjeri5254

    @paulinenjeri5254

    2 ай бұрын

    He has so many videos on how to heal trauma. However,the 'how to heal' won't work effectively if you don't first take time to understand what you are dealing with. Understanding trauma is the first step towards healing to avoid constant relapses and fatigue of doing the work on self.

  • @frankyfourfingers1382

    @frankyfourfingers1382

    2 ай бұрын

    @@paulinenjeri5254 Well OK, you must have watched many of his videos, so you must know what his methods of healing the trauma are? I've watched some of his videos specifically titled "how to heal from the trauma" or whatever, and there is NOTHING THERE. So what are they? ... Journaling? EMDR? Somatic work? Hypnosis? ??? ...cuz I'm not finding it. Thanks.

  • @thenoisyworld5856

    @thenoisyworld5856

    2 ай бұрын

    He has a series called 12 steps. Some episodes are premium. But from the overall content of his channel I can tell he's promoting cognitive behavioral therapy.

  • @H-youtube7
    @H-youtube72 ай бұрын

    Messy. 50 shades of unconsciousness.

  • @susanralph274
    @susanralph2742 ай бұрын

    i am not rooting for the protagonist in the story. yuck

  • @nowie4007

    @nowie4007

    2 ай бұрын

    Same , she seems very selfish to her husband and kids honestly