I think OP may have been drugged the night everything went down. It would explain why she started feeling off so quickly and has no memory past getting into the cab. Furthermore, the sister is most likely an undiagnosed psychopath or narcissist-the pathological lying, her manipulative streaks, and her propensity for illegal activity coupled with substance abuse fit the profile. She most likely came clean to gloat, not out of guilt-she probably reveled in the idea of ruining her sister’s life for her own selfish machinations.

@ashleyvogt4449

2 ай бұрын

Nicky did drug her and planted the guy there to “prove” she cheated

@user-xf3ec9ql4r

2 ай бұрын

Female psychopathy is VERY rare. Women tend to have personality disorders instead for some reason. There is a very very small % of women who have been diagnosed with psychopathy

@luna_cas7

2 ай бұрын

​@@user-xf3ec9ql4r personality disorders are more common in women due to generational trauma. obviously throughout history mental health problems were taboo and men were primarily born with it due to the pressure to "be a man" and abuse lead from father to son lead to these problems and that's why men are more likely to be born with it. however in the 80's psychiatric wards were filled with people with depression and anxiety ect (women) and mvrders (not s3rial k!llers) and grapists (men). the men were in there due to crimes and to be reformed or studied and women were in there because they developed mental health problems after being victims of grape and assvlt. thats why psychopathic tendancies are more common in men and personality disorders are more common in women

@luna_cas7

2 ай бұрын

​@@user-xf3ec9ql4rsorry for babbling lol

@gwendolynsmith9532

Ай бұрын

You make sense about her probably having been drugged.

Sue nicki for assault and kidnapping( the drugging), give her friend a deal that if he acts as a witness to the whole thing charges against him will be dropped.

Nicky was 1000% jealous of OP because some random guy wanted her sister's number and not hers. Nicky definitely has some kind of deeper mental problems if she decided to ruin her sister’s life over a phone number. I hope her husband leaves her. No one deserves to be with someone like that.

Nicky needs to be sued. I’m petty I’d leave the ex fiancé and mother in the past and I’d probably leave the dad in the past too. They all were way too giddy about believing a made up lie

The dad for sure deserves to be forgiven, and even though he has messed up, he proved that he was really sorry by divorcing his wife. The ex fiancé also seems like he should be forgiven and maybe you guys won’t date anymore but you could still become good friends. Nicky actually sucks and I’m hoping you could press charges of some sort but it’s probably not likely. And the mom is just as bad as Nicky.

@LLandS18

3 ай бұрын

No he doesn't. Just because now after 2 years and the truth coming out he finally decides to do the right thing. Doesn't mean he deserves a medal. If he was so devastated his daughter took off. He found her now he could have found her. Then he chose not to. And no, I wouldn't forgive the ex either. You can forgive them in the sake of moving on, but they don't need to be part of your life anymore.

@commanderbacara4306

2 ай бұрын

​@@LLandS18that's what YOU would do bro.

@LLandS18

2 ай бұрын

@@commanderbacara4306 that what anyone would do who realizes that forgiveness not about forgetting. You can forgive and not have that person in your life anymore. And I love it how that's exactly this person's opinion. So it's okay for them to have an opinion, but because I have a different opinion I'm not allowed to have it. Way to be an hypocrite.

@Chonkula

2 ай бұрын

NONE of her family or ex are *owed* forgiveness. That's for OP alone to decide. From the sound of things, OP could've been drugged and sexually assaulted because of what her sister did at that club (the sister's friend claimed no assault happened, thankfully). That is something I'd never forgive someone for. And then, to pour salt and lemon juice in the wound, the entire family let her think she was being thrown away like garbage. It took them TWO WHOLE YEARS to find OP again. If they were really penitent, they would've sought her out much sooner than that. If they loved her so much, they wouldn't have done what they did. I'd never want such people in my life ever again, if it were me in those shoes.

@wiiggg4136

2 ай бұрын

@@LLandS18no, it’s what YOU would do, the way you say “anyone” implies that you mean everyone would do that. And while you are just for taking that course of action, were you in that situation. It doesn’t mean everyone else will.

I am glad she told Nicki's husband.

Do. Not. Continue. Contact. OP deserves better.

@Lillyross-ex8pj

2 ай бұрын

Why? What did the sister, dad, and exfiance’s family do? Nicki orchestrated the whole thing and got her friends involved too. I think that if my SO, sister, or daughter can wanted on a family friend I would ghost them for a few months. The mother dragged it out further and Nicki completely deserves to be ignored.

@Synthesyn2

2 ай бұрын

⁠@@Lillyross-ex8pj if anyone is too be forgiven it is the ex-fiancé and Dad. The rest were (as it seems) a bit quick to blame, and they didn’t do anything afterwards. The Dad took several steps to reconcile, and the ex-fiancé at least beat up (?) the lying friend.

@mkwhite5054

2 ай бұрын

@@Lillyross-ex8pjum… the believes the sister OP was notoriously not close with who is prone to substance abuse and reckless behavior over her? Also they let OP just be scattered to the wind for TWO YEARS. The mom assaulted her and the dad let her be thrown out, the fiancé had every right to be hurt but if two years go by and you don’t stop and question the fact that it’s entirely out of character for your childhood best friend you are planning to spend your life with to up and cheat on you then you also suck. Like, yeah, Nicky is obviously the villain in this story but everyone else isn’t just a bunch of helpless victims. The mom is also a nightmare and a half but the dad and the ex suck too.

@Lillyross-ex8pj

2 ай бұрын

@@mkwhite5054 yes, but you can understand their reasoning can’t you? Substance abuse doesn’t mean no contact. Obviously the dad will kick out someone when there is evidence of her cheating on a family friend. Plus he tried to get back into contact but the mom wouldn’t let him.

@mkwhite5054

2 ай бұрын

@@Lillyross-ex8pj so substance abuse doesn’t mean no contact but CHEATING DOES??? Like, how exactly are yall saying cheating is the worse offense than illegal drugs, dropping out, and lawbreaking? I need yall to actually be all the way for real right now because no, that doesn’t make sense. The dad is just spineless then and once again if I was OP the next time I’d see any of them is at a funeral.

If I had a child and they cheated, I'm not going to throw that child away. Even if they're an adult. I'm going to be ashamed of them. I'm going to be mad at them. But I'm not going to throw them away. And I am certainly not going to like be all buddy buddy with their ex. Like people have children that commit mass murder and they still show up for their child. Showing up and supporting your child while they face the consequences of their actions is good. Parenting.

@kanish9390

2 ай бұрын

I don't think I'd support my child if they're a mass murderer. If my child were to cheat, I would tell it to their spouse or fiance and it would ruin our parental child relationship, because cheating is something I'm totally against. If I were to find out I was wrong and punished my child, I would tell my child I was wrong, and I would not expect to be forgiven at any cost, as I was wrong. That's one thing for sure for me is, I never expect forgiveness from anyone as my apology doesn't fix what I did, I'll acknowledge my mistake and let them to decide what they want to do.

@LLandS18

2 ай бұрын

@@kanish9390 You don't need to support your child like Chris watts's. Mother supports him. She's a vulnerable narcissist. I only say that because she's been diagnosed by experts. I would never not ever call anybody a narcissist unless a professional who had worked with this individual has made that diagnosis. That is the case with Cindy Watts. Chris watts's mother. She thinks he's innocent that his wife and children deserve what they got and she was a terrible wife and the kids were terrible. Like crazy nonsense. But you can support your child like the family of the Moncton New Brunswick mounting massacre. Who called out what their child did made them own. In fact, they were the ones that reported to the police who he was when they saw his picture on the news. It made him face responsibility but is still there For their child. The thing that gives me about the whole story is even if the cheating was true. Which in this case it's obviously not. The cheating and the betrayal is not against you. And on the people that matter in your life. Your child's partner shouldn't be at the top of that list before your child. I'm not saying you don't hold your child responsible. I'm not saying that you don't tell them you're disappointed. I'm not even saying it doesn't change the way you look at your adult child. But to cut them off and physically assault them is disgusting. If this was a parent that had an affair and the child didn't want to talk to their affair parent, that's different that betrayal affected them. But apparent disowning a child because the child has an affair that blows my mind. Like I said, I'm not saying you don't call them out. I'm not saying you don't hold them responsible but cutting your child out of your life. That should only be done for really extreme circumstances.

@kanish9390

2 ай бұрын

@@LLandS18 well, seems like we both have different opinions then. If I had a child and my child cheated on their partner, I would be mad, I may not ghost them, but I would be angry that they hurt someone that way, most of it would probably be guilt if I raised my child wrong. In any case, I'm not really sure, because I don't have a child yet, or am I not in a relationship or married. So maybe time will change me for the better or the worst.

@emma2370

2 ай бұрын

@@kanish9390parents are not always responsible for their actions of their adult kids. Yes some enable their children to behave badly but even the best parents could have a child that cheats. Cheating is wrong but people make bad choices. I would never ghost my child for cheating. I would express my disappointment but they are their own person and they will make bad decisions sometimes.

Once the claim of sleeping with the sister’s friend came out she should have called the cops to report a possible rape. She was drunk enough to not be able to give consent and if they were claiming her memory was false then there are other issues.

Knowing the sister’s character it is appalling that everyone that knew and loved OP abandoned her and believed the sister hook, line, and sinker.

Sounds like Nicky got some karma.

I’d stay no contact with that level of toxicity and manipulation.

NTA. Keep in contact with the dad, block everyone else

@Selena-M

2 ай бұрын

Is not a “AITA” story, is an “out of my chest” she knows she isn’t the ah there

@drobinson293

2 ай бұрын

Was the dad even good to her?

If I had a sister like Nicky, I think my heart would have turned into stone and I would stubbornly do no contact with everyone. At that point, seeing any one of them would just make me nauseous. But I do give props to dad and ex-fiancé for seeking her out for forgiveness and wanting to talk. To their defense, I don’t think they would have have ever thought Nicky would ever lie even given her background.

She should have threatened the friend with going to the police on rape charges. If he slept with her while she was passed-out drunk, that would be rape. I think he'd very quickly admit the truth if she did that.

Depending on the amount of time from being drugged, your sister could still be charged.

I hope Nicki’s husband leaves her. She’s clearly up to the same games if she separated her husband from his sister.

Just thinking about my family leaving me and seeing their post on christmas all happy makes me depressed

Wow, Nicky is honestly a needy and selfish beach

Yeah ngl that setup was Crazzy!! Ain’t no way she was gonna prove her innocence unless she got drug tested that same morning I read some other comment mentioned that’s probably the only way she could’ve proved she was innocent I don’t really blame the family for believing it especially the fiancé but if they knew Nikki had psychopath tendencies probably could’ve atleast give her a chance to explain which sounded like they didn’t

@iami5124

Ай бұрын

Totally, if some women came to me telling me she didn't remember the night before but some people told me she was drunk and went with some guy my first thought would be rape. She could had easily proven her Innocence if the family had thought the same because a rape kit would prove she was drugged and didn't have sex , and even if she was not drugged she would still be too drunk to consent

Lookit. People who abandoned you once are capable of doing it again.

I think you should forgive the dad, and as for the fiance, just be friends but be open to reconciling in the future. I feel bad for the fiance because who would expect their fiance's sister to do something this awful.

Forgive dad Ex I’d forgive but more of a acquaintance Mom never forgive Sister never forgive And any other family I wouldn’t forgive

@Ohm_mega

Ай бұрын

Listen to them just as much as they had listened, ie, not at all. As I see it the FB post about the happy family Christmas was a deliberate taunt.

Thanks for always uploading

All i take from this story is to not go out clubbing like a single peraon when youre in a relationship...

exfiance was a jerk throughout the story until he got arrested for assaulting nicky‘s friend. nicky and everyone on her side can go off

@svenolsen8184

2 ай бұрын

How would you react if your SO got into a situation where it looks like he cheated, and all he had to prove his innocence was his own word? Would you believe him? Ex-fiance was not in the wrong and was rightfully hurt. He did as anyone would have and believed the evidence even if it was fabricated. He was rightfully mad at the friend and assualting him was only a fraction of what the pos deserved for lying about OP. He ruined ex-fiance's relationship by not only framing her, but if he did sleep with her she was drunk and he wasn't meaning he knew what he was doing. The guy could have gone to prison for SA.

@alexbenitez7304

2 ай бұрын

@@svenolsen8184honesty u right that setup was Crazzy but tbh I only see like one for sure way for her to prove her innocence which was to get drug tested cuz it sounded like she was but to be fair if the family knew Niki had fuckimg pychopath tendencies and the family would excuse it they could’ve atleast try to let her explain herself it sounded like they didn’t give her a chance not only that but I think they messed up by letting the guy saying ”we slept mutiple times” which implies that they text which she can prove wrong by looking at her messages it also doesn’t make sense that they slept mutiple times before if they just met at the club? And why leave infront of Nikki? Also if OP was able to explain herself she could’ve brought up that if it’s a setup that they could probably Demand Nikki’s phone to fact check and if she denied the request to give them the phone than they already know who’s in the right

@iami5124

Ай бұрын

​@@svenolsen8184being honest, if a girl who had no historial of getting black out drunk or using drugs came to me one day saying they don't remember anything of the night before and some random guy was saying they had several rounds of wild sex while my first thought would be rape. Especially if the one telling me was known for possession of drugs and making drama like the sister. Don't get me wrong, I don't think the guy is an ah for falling into the sister's trap but I think him and the entire family should have suspected something was wrong instead of cutting her off on sight. Based on how she completely fainted in the cap she probably was either drugged or way too drunk to consent which would be easy to prove if they had listened to her and taken her to an hospital

This story is quite unfair to the EX. He does love you but evidence suggest otherwise. Even I in this situation will react negatively if i saw proof that my girl is cheating. I just hope the girl, her father and her EX can move on.

how do people begin to experience these situations and not kill holy shit

Nicky just single handily destroyed a family

Walk away from them all

If I were op, all my pent up anger is gonna go towards Nicky and my mom. That means they will never find peace in their life ever

Give them the same chances they gave you. None.

ngl this story made me cry.

If I was the fiancé I would of done the same thing

Yea

I would forgive them all so as not to carry them and the hurt around, but I'm definitely not letting any of them back into my life and just wish them well. I wouldn't even have called the guy because that might bring sis back into my life. I'm a let them go and wish them well kind of girl.

that is only fair if they also ghost that blotch of a sibling forever like they did to her.

Just give me Nicky’s number. I just want to talk

Damn the story ended with op unaliving

Dad sounds like he is worth forgiving, mom's a lost cause. Ex... I actually don't know, like on one hand he definitely should have listened, but on other hand sounds like sister presented enough evidence to make his rezction look normal, honestly can't blame the guy, would have probably acted worse than that, kicking the guys butt is cool though. Sister got a great friend, cuz I'd absolutely destroy someone else's life for my friends, but butt kicking is still warranted. All in all glad she gave dad a chance old bloke deserves some amount of forgiveness

No do NOT they dont deserve you trust you AND the fact they went on with their life like nothing happened means they never cared. I DONT care what they say they were cruel and you CANNOT go back.

None of them deserve to be forgiven. They all chose to believe the one with a long criminal history. They didn’t even give op a chance to explain. The ex should have talked to her, but chose to attack. The mother treat the criminal as a victim. The father might be the only one I’d forgive, since it sounds like he let his wife do whatever she wanted cause he was too spineless at the time to stand up to her.

@ploppyjr2373

2 ай бұрын

You haven’t been cheated on have you

@gluttonouswolf980

2 ай бұрын

@@ploppyjr2373 when I was told that my girlfriend was cheating on me, it did hurt. But I then asked her about it. She had some friends that thought it’d be funny to tell me that. I believed her and she made good sense. Her friends were that kind of childish. Just because someone says it, doesn’t make it true. I’ve also dealt with people yelling at me and calling me a liar when I would repeatedly ask what they were talking about. When they finally answered my question, most of the time I explained what really happened and then they’d be like, ‘oh, guess I was wrong.’ I am open minded to hear the other sides story. I hate when people attack first and then expect you to let it go later as just petty.

@ploppyjr2373

2 ай бұрын

@@gluttonouswolf980 right but even if she told her side of the story you wouldn’t have believed her. Imagine you get told that your gf cheated on you, the person she was with says so, there’s a photo of her leaving the bar with somebody and when you call that person they confirm that she cheated. In every possible scenario you’d think she’s lying no matter what she says

@gluttonouswolf980

2 ай бұрын

@@ploppyjr2373 I would definitely be conflicted. But I’m also the type of person who would want to believe someone I’ve loved for a long time, which would make it even harder to just believe it. But, after a calm conversation with her, it would have been reasonable to have some distrust of the sister. She has a long history of trouble. But, I very likely would have cried from seeing the picture. I’d be more interested in the why. If she thought I did something wrong, and if it was just an excuse. But, in reality, we never know what we will really do until we are actually in the situation, and often after we have already done it.

@iami5124

Ай бұрын

​​@@ploppyjr2373my thoughts would be that my girlfriend got drugged and raped. Like someone who has never had this kind of incident suddenly does white someone who very conveniently confirms the story while she claims to not remember anything. I would at least give the option of taking her to get drug tested, her reaction and the ones of the guy confirming the story would tell me my answers

I have to think these are made up… Are families really that back stabby

@naomitruthlove8891

2 ай бұрын

Yeah

who tf were they supposed to believe😭

If the fiancé actually loved you he would have believed you

@ploppyjr2373

2 ай бұрын

That’s not how that works, if everyone involved claims that you are lying with proof then ofc he’s not going to believe her

@mkwhite5054

2 ай бұрын

@@ploppyjr2373ok but only ONE person involved had actual proof or evidence and that person involved has a history of drug and alcohol abuse as well as poor choices. That’s not even getting into the conveniently timed pictures, the fact that the guy OP allegedly went home with just happened to be her sisters friend she could call up (and not just some random she knew from around town), the fact that they had NEVER gone out together before that night and that happens to be the night OP cheats, the previously icy relationship between OP and her sister and more the more than likely previous instances of manipulative and destructive behavior from Nicky. Now, OP definitely should’ve got the cops involved because it sounds like at best she was drugged and at worst (if the friend is lying about what happened that night) she was assaulted but the finance and everyone else taking Nikki’s side despite all the red flags that entire situation was throwing up speaks volumes about how they view OP. Dad can get a monthly check in phone call, fiancée can get the occasional holiday card, Nicky and the mother from hell can both choke. OP should definitely move on from all of them.

Horrible family, horrible story.

Was there any update?

If you actually did cheat then you deserve to be kicked out and on your own. But since you didn’t you shouldn’t blame the people who were manipulated and deceived into believing a lie. Blame the person who set you up.

@mkwhite5054

2 ай бұрын

The punishment for cheating is the dissolution of the relationship not being homeless. That is literally the dumbest notion I’ve ever heard. That’s not even getting into the fact she lost her entire family and support system over alleged cheating but the DRUG ADDICT DROP OUT just gets to keep coming around.

Is their another update ??

Well,let's just hope that's everinf ok now 😅

Idk if this would actually work, but theoretically could you prove you didn’t cheat if you tried a SA test kit? If you didn’t have sex wouldn’t the doc be able to tell?

The fiance did nothing wrong. The father did nothing wrong. The mother and Nicki are evil.

@solo2873

2 ай бұрын

Still a huge betrayal by the father to let his own daughter be homeless.

@ChimObiajulu

2 ай бұрын

@@solo2873 actions have consequences

The mom and Nicky are just evil

Nah man. Nicky has got to go

Update

If you believe this is a true story, I have ocean front property in Kansas to sell you.😂 I mean how freaking gullible can so many people be?🙄

@natk1105

2 ай бұрын

Being endlessly skeptical isn't the flex you think it is.

@TheFaro2011

2 ай бұрын

Lol 😅same. Got more ridiculous

First

Second

Wow The mom and the little sister are absolutely entitled feminist/narcisists (Yes at this point those to terms nearly mean the same thing, deal with it)

@Mad.106

3 ай бұрын

They don’t. True feminist are level headed and just want equality. Anything past that is narcissistic or histrionic… If you don’t know that that is, you probably should.

@leonlol9465

3 ай бұрын

No they don't feminism is about equality (yes even for men it's which even some weird ,,feminist" refuse don't understand them selves which is really sad) and narcissist means a person who thinks they are the center of the world and they can do no wrong these are completely different things don't use words from which you have no idea what they mean and ,,they nearly mean the same time, deal with it" is just plain wrong in so many ways and harmful it just shows you refuse to listen to anyone else no matter what

@AJthegold

3 ай бұрын

@@Mad.106 that was back in the day when they actually didn’t have equality Now they just screem in your face about how all men should die for some bull shit reason

@esmin2400

3 ай бұрын

the people you’re describing aren’t feminists. They’re ‘radfems’ that every WOMAN who isn’t one hates for perpetuating misogyny as well as having the ‘men should die’ mentality

@NessieLoveNessieLife

3 ай бұрын

He meant modern day feminists​@@Mad.106

I want the next update 😭

@Su-wo4id

2 ай бұрын

Sameeeeee