This I experienced in my personal life. I used to help my family members without them asking for help and in return they used to say we never asked your help , you are doing on your interest , after years later I realised my mistake and stopped helping them with out their request.

@drambikapandeyshukla2532

2 жыл бұрын

So true

@sks66666

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@antuahammad8526

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@vidyajyothigandlur5271

Жыл бұрын

Resonates with me😑😢 I used to feel empathetic, but now I realize I was careless about myself. Now I prioritize myself and meet my needs and desires first.

@swatichatterjee1513

Жыл бұрын

It's so true. Initially, if you help them for free, later they take you for granted and demand your help, even if your circumstances don't allow you to help them.

Once a Legend said "If you are good at something never do it for FREE"

@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

nothing is free in your action if you realy know the truth..you do it for free or not. What you get when you give a packet of meal for a man who is very old and weak? You are not helping?

@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

Legend is right to his owen idea .but not not to the help seeker

@prmodrwt

Жыл бұрын

Yes , you are right and the name of the Legend is JOKER from the movie Batman.

@ushak7386

Жыл бұрын

yes correct. I experienced this

Biggest piece of advice sudha madam which I had experienced in my lifetime. Whoever I had helped in my life they all retaliated when i stopped continuing the support. People don't understand the hardship faced to provide the support.

@manjulaumesh2006

2 жыл бұрын

Very true....sir

@dr.itishrisarangi3749

2 жыл бұрын

Yes they retaliate... same feeling I have

@raprabaa

2 жыл бұрын

People panickingly seek help. Once they get it, show their true colour

@pantherhjj5648

2 жыл бұрын

Humans r like that only

@mintysaikia2

2 жыл бұрын

True

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” - Lao Tzu In other words, it is best to enable people to earn a living!

@Ankona_Vaani

2 жыл бұрын

Self earn self spend good!!

@rakhimukerji7937

Жыл бұрын

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF FREE EDUCATION FOR CHILDREN HEALTH SERVICE FOR POOR?you are a Tory .

@hiteshgujarathi4636

Жыл бұрын

That's why most of those who are living on reservation couldn't make it big. That's why it's bad because it makes you dependent.

People start taking u for granted even if u want to help them. They neither value u nor understand your concern. We don't expect anything in return yet they start showing attitude

I really admire her n whenever I listen to her speeches everytime I fall in love with her personality.Such a humble n downto earth person she is. Her simplicity n elegance,no one could ever match with that

@pinky3841

Жыл бұрын

Very true.

@NightRider0101

Жыл бұрын

She's full of shit. Stop taking these brahmins as role model.

I've experienced the same. I helped so many people in misery but later they started misbehaving when I was not able to provide free service to them.

Uncondotional Love and help is price less😊 some people who does free service don't expect anything... actually they get the love and respect in terms of happiness abd satisfaction😊😊 service to own kids and parents are not called free service they are unconditional love and respect.. family relation is not a give and take relation... my experience says give everything free till you can effort...only in job ome should think before giving a free service.. but when it comes to close relation nothing is there which is called free service...

@MsClrs

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Imagine if you knew your mom paid your grandmom to take care of you. How will you feel? So if we have to take care of our old parents or grandparents, we have to make them pay? Sometimes these rich people lose their mind 😂

@MsClrs

2 жыл бұрын

I love Sudha madam a lot. But she got it wrong this time.

@nrithamdanceacademy6621

2 жыл бұрын

These are all stupid things you people are saying. You didn't understand her. She is absolutely correct. 100%. She is saying when you give something free, they dont respect your time, efforts and love you give unless there is even a slight price to it. And we have a saying in our language even when you donate, you should measure and give. And she is not disrespecting family relationships but even family takes a philanthropist for granted and doesn't appreciate unless there is a price. Only if you have experience like I have you know. Try it and you will know. Use your common sense in her speech and not literal meaning. What they say is right, common sense is really not common.

@MsClrs

2 жыл бұрын

@@nrithamdanceacademy6621 hey copy pasting same reply on the comments? 😂 Lady next what? You are going to ask your grandmom and mom to pay you when you take care of them during their oldage? Go and get a life!

@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

iam happy to read your idea.you are a happy person .

Never help anyone whithout them asking for it.

Such a great piece pf advice . Personally I have experienced this. People take you for granted and don’t even have the courtesy to say a word of appreciation.

@Beero_explores

Жыл бұрын

Very true and I have experienced many times

@SaravanaKumarFellowBeing

Жыл бұрын

But why do you expect appreciation in return 🙂

@meenakshirathi1265

Жыл бұрын

I helped many....bt people think ki inke paas limitless paisaa h,, kyo vapas kre,,jbki hmaara hark work se milaa h

Absolutely correct Don't be afraid when I am gone Don't feel alone when I am gone Don't be weak when I am gone Stay charming even if I don't return You better don't don't For I'll bring you stars from all heavens afar.

So grateful for this advice. I've also experienced similar things. People take that free service for granted. My neighbour is a housewife. Even after doing all the chores of her house from early morning to late night without getting a single penny, she gets lashed out by her in laws. There's literally no respect in free services.💔

@sushmachoudhary9453

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my case😢

@khushboomeher1352

Жыл бұрын

@@sushmachoudhary9453 I'll pray for you 🙏

Don't do for respect.. Do IT with respect

@naveenj4125

Жыл бұрын

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@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

My respect to you

Best advise ever "Never do anything for free".

@spirit7325

2 жыл бұрын

Horrible advice, anti God, shows "0" understanding of Divine and how Universe works

@nurcahyaningrum

2 жыл бұрын

@@spirit7325 so. How about you?

@preetinegi7674

2 жыл бұрын

Getting atlas was her dream, not everyone wanted it whom she gave. I think it’s more about giving people the necessary things that they value instead of giving them what we value. Like if we give food to an extremely hungry person, he is definitely going to eat it or blanket to person living in footpath.

@rajanav910

2 жыл бұрын

noertjahjanie frcf

@pantherhjj5648

2 жыл бұрын

Dont be rude man

You are absolutely right. I had experienced the same in my life. After my mother's demise I thought that now I have no one to look after so I can do social work dedicatedly and whatever I have earned out of my PF, gratuity that will be enough for rest of life. So leaving my job I joined an NGO, internationally renowned. There the head of the institution promised me that I can stay in their hostel for which I can provide free service. I believed them. After few years I realised that they don't want my service instead they want something else. So I left the place and come back home. They make me fool this way. I

@sumeetdhawan6736

Жыл бұрын

What they want

@sachinkapse2721

Жыл бұрын

Same here.... the later part... they will give accommodation free of cost....then they will tell...u have to take this many posts.....as v are giving u accommodation.......

Anything at free of cost loses it's value and is not treated with the respect it deserves

You are right Madam. Pls advise our Indian State not to give assistance to other countries without them asking. No countries appreciate our help!

@temurbeg2570

Жыл бұрын

No other country will help YOu in hours of NEED. They will wait for YOUR ASKING... So ready for that

@longerodds5077

Жыл бұрын

We still believe in some nonsense called Vashudaiva kurumbakam

My ideal forever *Sudha Mam* !! Yessss true mam anything for free is never respected, esp teaching, donation (we shouldn't expect anything in return but atleast respect) including love care affection and concern! I realised it, infact shocked when a book I wrote as free supplement for awareness was translated into another language and sold for money! Another occasion I gave around 45 notebooks to my maid for free as my kids were shifted to new school (only that school's notebooks were accepted there) so that she can use it for her kids in Govt school but she had made money with them from the waste paper vendor!😡😠 Above all my husband has been supporting his brothers family ever since he completed his studies. For 32 yrs! His brother dodging invokes my husband's sympathy and my husband does overtime at the cost of family time and needs . A-Z provisions, kids studies, festival expenses, home appliances all tz my husband's part! His brother is 59 yrs now still ......😒😔For divorced sister too her daughter family studies marriage dowry.....😠😡The supporter is my mother in law and I have become the worst enemy for I questioned it! Stay safe and blessed all🌄🌈🙏🙏

Always realistic and relatable examples 🙏

Very correct mam,but it can be taken in context with profession wise only,bcoz people will take u for granted,if u give free service,it doesn't have value,when people know the value,then they respect things,this doesn't apply to our parents and grandparents bcoz their love and sacrifice for us is unconditional.

@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

realy good way of thinking..my respect to you.

I respect her a lot. She is too good. So much to learn from her.

Great message. So much to learn from Sri Sudha Murthy’s inspirational messages. Thank you for sharing

With highest regards to you Ma'am. The Almighty God has given us what not! I think one gains highest level of satisfaction which is unimaginable, since such person is doing Almighty God's job.💐😊🙏

One hundred percent true.I have had so many experiences in a similar way.So good to listen to Sudha Murthy.Felt i was hearing my best friend talking.Thanks.

A person who plants a tree in a public place for free..never charges anything...but the tree gives life, shadow, fruits etc to every passerby..so do serve selflessly....don't charge for everything

@anony5021

2 жыл бұрын

Mother Earth is exception. The point is creatures having money and acting like a freeloader loser

True indeed Mam.. I have been teaching Comminucation skills online for free but I soon realised that they were taking me and my classes for granted that they kept giving me lame reasons to postpone classes.. When Something is given for free, ppl dont appreciate its value and end up seeing it as something that has no significance. Thereafter I understood the value of money in any forum and decided to collect atleast a few bucks from the students to serve the needy.

@fastandcurious2224

2 жыл бұрын

HI,CAN U EXPLAIN THE SHOE LACE STORY.....DIDNT GET THE ENDING PART

@aishwarya735

2 жыл бұрын

@@fastandcurious2224 This humourous story is about a boy who was selling shoe lace at traffic signals.. Everyday Sudha Mam met a boy selling shoe laces and one day she asked him out of concern, "how much he makes per day?" When he replied that he gets Rs.20 per day, she calculated his monthly income and negotiated with him about her offer that she will be paying him Rs.600 and in return, he will have attend school regularly and show his progress report once in a year.. He agreed and starts attending his school. 3 Years went by and one day he came to her office to meet Sudha Mam. When she allowes him into her cabin, he started to speak. This time he has come up with a proposal for increasi his monthly stipend from Rs.600 to Rs.900. Sudha Mam asked why and he calmly replied that a price of pair of shoe lace has increased from Rs.20 to Rs.30. She conveys to the audience that though he is given with education and money now.. he has never become a student but rather he is in school just because he is provided with money..

@pantherhjj5648

2 жыл бұрын

Why you were doing free

@aishwarya735

2 жыл бұрын

@@pantherhjj5648 my intention was to help people who can't afford expensive courses.. I wanted to make people feel confident for landing in decent jobs which is definitely a byproduct of good Communication skills.

@komalnegicuj2284

Жыл бұрын

@Aishwarya....ur intention was indeed good.....even I want to teach underprivileged kids......

This is really true, i experienced the same ,i helped to the family members without asking,they al hating me when I stopped giving money when I don't have money. 🙏🙏🙏

@palithakumarmallikaarachch548

Жыл бұрын

they hate themselves .human are like that.without reasons they may do whatever they like to do to you.may be you never know them.

@vijayakrishnamurthy2044

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I had same experience. During energies days we are doing services through money and physically. After availing service they cut our relationship including some parents , sisters , brothers and others. When we become old there's no one can enquire, how are you?

Though I don't want to learn ( at 75+), I still listen to Madam. She is like chandamama, amar chitra book. 👍

I have a lot of respect for sudha madam, she is so simple and down to earth.

That's why Joker said - If you're good at something, never do it for free.

@spacexe123

2 жыл бұрын

Yeh i saw it

@pantherhjj5648

2 жыл бұрын

We are not jokers

We really need her around us to live a quality life …love her…God bless her

A great lesson for our leaders who offer free electricity, free bus rides for ladies.

@tcltv-ei2eu

10 ай бұрын

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Hundred percent true.I have had so many experiences in a similar way.So good to listen to Sudhaji Murthy.Felt i was hearing my best friend talking.Thanks.

Thank you Mam for awakening us and opening our eyes

We should help people without expecting any return. Serving people is to serving god.

I don't want respect...i just want to help others.and there is lots of people need free service.

Very inspirational thought Ma'am⚘

She is my all time favorite icon.

Mam, you seem like the next door aunty to me.Soooo very simple and homely, making an instant connect with the audience.Thank you so much for those motherly advices.

Yes what madam sudhaji said is absolutely right I observed this in Tirumala in Jan 2020 when I was waiting for Darshan of lord Shri Venkateshwara in cabin. Here some one had donated some 1 lac of Bisleri water bottles. And the TTD authorities honestly gave free one bottle (1lt) to each one one devotee who asked for water. You know what the devotees did, they left half empty water bottles in cabins which no one usually does when he pays 15 to 20 ₹ a bottle. So No free. Our Jejriji is also riding a free campaign Jai Hind Jai Jawan Jai Bharath

Not all are ungrateful creatures. Majority are just stuck up and selfish but there are people who remember your good deeds. Saying it from my experience. Just be careful with whom you are good with, and sadly you can't be unconditionally good with majority of the people.

@ritajain8896

Жыл бұрын

People forget others' kindness and help done

Madam is absolutely correct My children happily spend money when they depend upon me. Now they are well settled and very cautious in spending their income. In our country any feebies is vote bank politics. Charge at least some percent from the beneficent

I really admire you mam. Your simplicity has no match

Very truly said by Sudha Ma'am, I faced many such cases.

Very correct. I am a senior professional and rendered free services to some organisations but found respect declining gradually. She is superb.

Very inspirational speech ma'am.......thank you for your valuable advice

Dr Rana I really admire what you say. I too have personally experienced the misuse of the goods and services given free. In a way ultimately it becomes their right to ask every thing free.

Excellent speech and her experience. Nice to hear madem.

This evening i told this to my brother,because mrs.murthy i have experienced this.but now at this age i have realised it & after hearingg your speech

Today God has given me a good lesson through you, thanks a lot...

100% True. Free gifts are a disincentive for a hard working guy. Easy come easy go......

I respect you and what you say is really very true in the society🙏🏻

One of My favourite soul in the world 💐💐💐

I have experienced in some cases that they learn to earn, make their life then start questions to my ability and compete with me and my kids....we generally feel that God sees our work....so continuing doing good....but in real life, sometimes I feel that I am stupid...still my stupidity doesn’t stop...next day I wake up and start doing the same thing

Your speech always gives us inspiration always talks about important speech

I think our government employees have misunderstood this and so only they are not doing anything for free and they themselves thinking they are doing charity work....😊☺️

@sunya6865

Жыл бұрын

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Very true. Excellent speech. All the best.

Ma'am, u r absolutely right 👌👌 ...this is what i always experience sooner i do something good fr others ....in return only get Attitude frm this people it's soooo hurting ....

Thank you, very inspiring .

I love to listen to you dear mam your talks always have a message for life.Thank you.

Everything comes down to how a human is, it doesn't matter if it is ur kids, parents, siblings or spouse.. It is the person deep down..... Atleast dog being of different breed n aggression level still they have loyalty and faithfulness towards the person who takes care of them, unlike us...

Sometimes some great peoples give free services becos they dont need money ....nd people respect by heart ..whenever had they died they always immortal

Very Right Mam, lot of respect to you and Sir

Right. We end up throwing pearls before swine out of the goodness of our own heart.

I also realised the same in my life...thank you mam for your valuable message.

Tq❤️ Mam u r inspirational to the society

Free service of mother...nature....many people behind screen are not not noted by people surrounding them. God will keep watch of our free service done. Those who are very comfortable ...for earning publicity shows their services...either by self or through other kith n kids. Serve all...help other irrespective of name fame and selfless free service.

Very well said ! I respect her words !

Absolutely correct Ma'am 👌🙏

Mam, I touch your feet. Because, I am currently experiencing what you are saying. I am extremely thankful to you.

Madam, thanks for sharing your experience. Whenever, you do charity or free for support, you need to check whether beneficiary understand the value through feedback. Otherwise in this business world, anything can happen.

Dynamic lady.Even I have come across people whom i helped and they forgot the gesture.

Truly said.Thank u for the valuable message🙏🏻

@ritajain8896

Жыл бұрын

Yes ma'am, very true. I have also done with so many people but they started doing indirect harm to me and my family and used to praise me but use to back stab me. My children opened my eyes and showed me their real game

Very true ! Least people realise the value 🙏

Free service has no respect, so never do anything for free. Thank you for giving me this opportunity it's a most important cammantes, thank you for your valuable advice and understanding saying with deep meaning you can make inexperienced person clever and tech.young man how to live intelligenctaly Thanks mam , you are a winner I don't forget your teaching.

A very good lesson I will strictly follow

Mam... I completely.. I agree with you.. Teach how to learn and earn.. Nothing can be given free..

Mam, your speech is really amazing. First I missed, because I feel that I can't understand your English. But yours is very interesting

True and I agree with you!

❤❤❤👌🏻 point to b noted!!so valuable advice!!👍

very good lesson much applicable for politicians at present

🙏🙏 sudhaji.very true u said , free service never respect n apriceated.

True maam ....i experience it quite often in our daily life. But cnt complain . Jus ignore n walk ahead ....thts wat i do .

Totally agree with this concept given my experience

Outstanding madam 👍👍

This advice is only partially right. Getting atlas was her dream, not everyone wanted it whom she gave. I think it’s more about giving people the necessary things that they value instead of giving them what we value. Like if we give food to an extremely hungry person, he is definitely going to eat it or blanket to someone living in footpath.

@postwala2667

2 жыл бұрын

Philanthrophy is much bigger than feeding an empty stomach for a day. Its driven by results and changing lives - a long term impact. Giving Alms daily is different from one off lunch. Infact when we help the desperate, we actually take more than we give. its more of a confidence booster to us individually.

@lakshmikrithika2521

Жыл бұрын

@@postwala2667 you’re right. How long can a model sustain on just feeding empty stomachs? For me personally if I m getting three times food, I will he zero motivation to work. The philanthropy model should be based on long term sustenance. Give free food in return for work. Along with salary!! That’s a better model.

So true ,one should realise the value of what ever received.

True mem it's my real experience When some people not respect for prescious things when they got free.

I have many examples around. But when it comes from you mam people will understand & rectify themselves.

It’s true give free to those who really need it otherwise it’s not respected or remembered by the people to whom we help without their request

Very true. Absolute fact madam 👍

I agree mam, I myself have gone through this

I teach spoken english through an organization for free. It's really very good experience. Where are we giving it for free when students give respect and say because of you i am in this position that means we achieved something. I am loving to do this. It's really fantastic....

Totally agree ✅ Admiring your speech mam!!

I fully agree with this opinion. Any free help give to any poorest of poor always remain ungrateful for the free help.

Respect Madam...GREAT 👌👌👌👌

Exactly your words are right. 👍🏼

I fully agree with her. No value is attached to anything you provide free. You value things that you pay for.

@rakhimukerji7937

Жыл бұрын

Free education and free health services built nattions

You are 100 percent right Mam 🙏🙏

I mesmerized by your golden speech