I love that you chose your child over "finishing" the video! To me all imperfections in life are perfect 🤗 You do a wonderful job and you always continue to give myself and others hope!

@amandaselvarajah9433

2 жыл бұрын

For sure- choose your kids, especially when they wanna help💕

@emmat5432

2 жыл бұрын

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Relax. You're doing well. You're doing a KZread gig and being conscious of the effect on your family, conscious of ensuring your viewers don't have unrealistic expectations and conscious of the fact you have a dedicated audience. Just as you are, interruptions and imperfections, is perfect. x

@jmljasmine

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. Real life is so much more encouraging then unrealistically put together. (Plus the people who post on a schedule... I can't keep them straight anyway :))

100% perfect letting your littles be part of all of your day. You are so right to keep them the priority over the rest of the world. Good mom! ❤️

I love your videos..I thought the 2 blanket method was genius and I told my husband about it and he laughed and said “so the wife get’s 2 blankets, instead of one!” Hahahaha

@ElsieJoy39

Жыл бұрын

They were duvets, not blankets

Just love your videos so much! Most relatable mom on KZread 🙌🏼 so happy to collab with you. Dream come true 😂🤩

I love how honest you are and how positive you are, even when you’re sharing about tidying and cleaning, which not many people find those tasks “fun”

I like how your toddler helps with the silverware (even though it doesn't end up exactly where it should) and he sits on the counter while you put on your makeup. You're a great mom : )

Your “This is so hard” at the end is 100% relatable. I feel I say or think that 100x a day. I have small kids too and it’s hard to do so much. But you’re doing it and I really loved this video! Thank you for making it. I love how you show real life and it’s all manageable. Thank you!

Your little ones are top priority. Please don't worry about getting everything perfect. I love seeing people who I can relate to. Life happens. Messes happen. No worries at all. 😊 I loved seeing your little boy helping you put the silverware away when you were unloading the dishwasher. He was just throwing the silverware in the drawer with no organization but he was learning and I could tell he was so happy to be helping mama. You're doing great and I love watching your videos no matter if it's perfect or not. You've got a sweet soul and it comes through every video. Blessings to you and your family!!

You are such a beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing this very realistic view into momhood and the balancing act we play. Enjoyed your video, it put a smile on my face, now to go clean up those crumbs:)

We have 4 hundred year old toilets in our home and I was dreading doing the swish and swipe everyday, UNTIL someone suggested when you need to “go” use a different bathroom and then do swish and swipe. The crazy thing is I am still doing all 4 toilets but it doesn’t feel so dreadful, it’s pairing an activity at it’s pest😉

@loisbolton1800

2 жыл бұрын

When I first read this, I thought your toilets were 400 years old!! 😂😂😂 Later in the paragraph I got that you have 4 toilets & they are all 100 years old. Made me chuckle. 😂😂😂

Its o refeeshing to see real life messy kitchen online vs the always perfectly cleanrd version.another great video Steph

To watch you say you are not striving for perfection is…perfect ❤️

For my girls’ drawers, I do the Kon Mari folding method. Works great and they can see everything without destroying the drawer. If they mess up the drawers, MOM gets to pick their outfit for the day and they do not like that so they keep them tidy.

That is the main thing that has helped me with the FlyLady cleaning routine, the message that its okay to not be perfect. Before I would feel defeated if I didn't have enough time to perfectly clean, but giving myself permission to just do 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, makes my house visibly cleaner, and its not perfect, and that is okay! Perfection isn't tied to our moral ability. We shouldn't strive for perfection, just to do the best we can do. Even if you cant do it perfectly, its still worth doing.

I appreciate that your kids come first before the cleaning. You are so gracious with them and their messes and I love seeing how you "mom". Thanks for sharing this peek into your life.

I love that you’re protecting your kids and prioritizing them over KZread or “better content”! Definitely just got a new subscriber for your realism and love for your kiddos. I’ve had my eyes opened recently to the dangers of children on KZread (dad challenge podcast) and I love your decision! Great video!

You are such a welcome relief to watch!! Thank you for all you do to promote family life first! I think we are all aware of your priorities and respect you for having them!!

After watching this video I am compelled to tell you that you are doing a fabulous job! Even amongst stress and trying moments you can still smile. You are doing wondrous things for your children and family as a whole...you are so far ahead of the game, girl! Take it from a mom who has 3 grown and flown children...your dedication and care will bear wondrous fruit in your children...they will remember how loved and secure they felt! Now, go sit down and have a nice, long cup of tea! Your important things ARE being done!

I wish I had your channel & KZread when my kids were young!! I would get so down on myself if my house didn't look neat and tidy and it really is impossible when you have four kids you are raising and running them around. Your family is the most important and you do your best with the house and staying organized!!

Oh my gosh, girl - I can’t believe you got all that done plus had a bit of chill time. I can’t even remember having that much energy.

@edennis8578

Жыл бұрын

I never had that much energy. I didn't have that much energy when I was a teenager.

Well done! Your littlest one emptying the dishwasher was the cutesr. I was amazed at the process skills: 1.) Flatware into drawer, 2.) Get up on stool, 3.) Sort flatware into sections. That is TMHOROUGHLY AMAZING for that age. You have a natural problem solutions engineer living amongst you. Wow, wow, wow!!!!! Sending vour family virtual hugs and actual well wishes. ❤❤❤❤ ☺ ❤❤❤❤👍

On the two blankets, if you ever visit Germany, it’s normal here two have two blankets. No one can hog a blanket, and everyone can choose the right „warmth“ for themselves.

It was neat to see what you got done in a day and honestly it looks a lot like ours. Batching tasks is something I like to do as well. Don’t feel some kind of pressure or obligation to make DITL videos. I can only imagine the camera maneuvering and conversations required to get the content that you did. I think it’s commendable that you are protecting your kiddos’ and your husband’s privacy. My husband would be the same way. 💚

Steph, I have been following you for a while now. I love to see how you have progressed. Your checklist system was what helped me. Thanks for being authentic. I need that.

Hey you gave it a try. I always like Diane’s short pep talks and how she respects her family’s privacy. I gravitate towards the shorter, here’s what to do videos anyway.

Ah! An honest representation of life with a young family! I much more prefer the videos that realistically portray such. And I so loved how you take time for yourself to enjoy your day aside from a mile-long checklist.

Hey, I usually do not comment, but I really want to let you know how helpful this video is for me. Seeing that your house ain't perfect for (let's say) Instagram, but good enough/perfect for you and your family took so much pressure of my shoulders. And you being brave for us showing your mess, so we feel less alone with our messes. Thank you so much, love Maike.

Thank you for the laundry reminder!!! 🤣 I LOVE that your house is normal. The polished instagram/Pinterest perfection houses are so deceptive. No one lives in a model home, it is such a lie to those who don’t live in a beautiful space. Thank you for your transparency.

Hello from Texas. I think showing real life is the point. And I admire you for choosing your son over YT. They grow up in the blink of an eye, these moments are so precious. I find your video motivating because you keep things real and your house doesn't have to be perfect. Thank you for sharing.

It's so helpful just for me to even see others houses. Like ok, yes, we live here. Good enough can be good enough. Thank you! Totally can understand not wanting your kids to be in videos and that making it difficult. They're first priority! Good job mama!

I am so relieved your kitchen looks like mine in the mornings. Sometimes I'm just so tired I go straight to bed.

Love this, done is better than perfect, and I try to keep telling myself this. You have motivated me to do my mirror/vanity/floor 10 minute bathroom mini clean. I love that cleaning can be a little rough some days and just 'done' is often good enough.

I love how honest and relatable you are. I understand not wanting your children on your videos because of privacy. But it was really nice to see each of them helping in their ways. This is what real life is like, and how they learn from you. My kids are teens now but seeing your son help you reminded me of my daughter when she was the same age and how she would help me around the house. Good memories. Love you keeping it real. Helps others who watch your videos for support to not beat them selves up.

Great video! Can’t believe how much your baby has grown! Love the birds! My sink window looks directly into the neighbor’s bedroom window. Our houses are like less than 2 feet away. Yea. Really. You won’t believe what I’ve seen!! 🤪🤣Would much prefer birds!!! Hugs! Em 🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸

Oh I love little man, he was so cute putting the flatware up. I was waiting for him to continue with the dirty ones you put in the dishwasher. Thanks for the inspiration.

Your channel has gone to the top of my list recently, as I love the way you are encouraging us to celebrate progress over perfection.

So nice that your son was helping with the dishwasher, putting things away!

I had to watch one of your older videos because I miss you! I hope you are doing amazing and loving your new home. Thank you for not exploiting your kids and for being real. xo from the Island

Love the Fly Lady System. I use it too but with my own twist. It has to work for everyones life and schedules so it's good to see how others use it. Thanks for sharing!

Your little silverware helper made me smile. I do remember those days💕

@TheSecretSlob

2 жыл бұрын

He is a great helper :)

*I appreciate that this is realistic and not perfect. Thank you.

I remember how gorgeous your last house was...can't wait to see what you do with this one.

I think the best thing is that you always have a positive attitude no matter what! Attitude is so important! You really do know how to put things into perspective and I admire that you include your kids in cooking so that they will learn how to do this when they have grown up even if it does cause a bigger mess... It is worth it because they are learning in the process. I think with the other things such as the toys that you are having to pick up though, if you just reduce the inventory and kept far less toys, you would have such an easier time tidying. I saw another friend whose children each had a b i n of their own things and there was a specific place for that b i n to slide into. I wish I'd known about that when our kids were little. Back then, I kept so many things and it was overwhelming to them and so much of it was rarely played with. They seemed to always choose the same items anyway. Less really is more and it makes your life so much easier! But truly I would say, keep staying true to yourself and never lose your positive attitude! These are great qualities and remember to keep listening to your intuition as far as your Channel. If God is asking you to step back and take a breather, It's all good and you're doing awesome!!!

My children are grown now. I have twin girls and a son 16 months younger than the twins. I remember feeling like I was constantly picking up toys. One day the twins were just about to turn 3 I decided if they were big enough to get toys out they were big enough to put them back. At first it felt like more work to go around telling them what to pick up. Then I had an idea that changed my life. I took a picture of the room clean an posted it on the wall. They had so much fun running around picking up toys and making the room look like the pictures! Even baby brother got in on the fun of picking up toys. All my stress was gone and the kids had a lot of fun😊

Thank you for sharing your day Steph! It is always helpful! I think the biggest takeaway I always get from your videos is just to do some stuff. Do some stuff, stop overthinking, it will make a difference, you can get more done than you think in a few minutes, and things will be better.

I love that you are always so real and relatable. You actually looked like you just woke up (beautiful but sleepy) I think you doing a great job at limiting how much of the kids are in the videos. I hope you are loving your new house.

Thank you for inspiring us once again! We appreciate your effort to make this video, even though it wasn’t easy for you. ❤️

Thank you for letting us into your home. It's liberating to see real life going on, and very helpful to be shown how it actually looks doing the routines and the system.

Love love love everything about this video!!! Thank you for showing REAL LIFE with kids!! Such a blessing to see a day in the life, it gave me so much inspiration!!

@ericaenunez

Жыл бұрын

Oh and I also really loved the wisdom from the older generation about not chasing behind the kids all day!! It can be tempting because of the visual overwhelm, but it’s not practical. So thank you for sharing!

You did GOOD Stephanie 👍 ❤ I love how you leave time here and there for self care, ie, reading a book, walks with friends, etc - good for you girl !!!

Embrace imperfection. Thank you Steph, I think you're delivering the kind of message all women need to hear. FlyLady was a gift from heaven when I found it, and its key concept of 'good enough'. I was totally blocked by the idea of having to clean things perfectly, which never seemed to happen for me. Once you embrace the concept of 'good enough', everything just seems easier. If it is clean enough, then it's clean. Even the most perfectly clean room starts to get dirty as soon as your cleaning is done, so... Thank you for being so candid and honest with your audience, this is why we love you. And I totally understand that you want to protect your children from social media exposure. Fewer videos is fine by me, if it's the only way for you to manage and protect your family. Take care!

You are a very good mom. You do a lot of things like I did when my kids were little. I always got them helping in whatever way they can. I wanted to help them see that it can be fun. We turned on music and sang and danced. I'd give my younger son a wash cloth and let him clean the fronts of cabinets, appliances and the bottoms of walls and doors. I never complained about what they did and they never saw me reclean those things. They helped sort laundry and put clothes in the drawers etc. Very much like what you do. When they were old enough to do real chores I made up chore cards on index cards. I would divide them between my 2 sons but they were allowed to trade as long as they all got done. I also did flylady then. I am just thinking about getting back into it. Thanks for the video!

I totally hit pause and went to take care of the laundry that was waiting on me! 😜 Thanks Steph

@mimibatman2787

2 жыл бұрын

Me, too! That was perfect, because I had completely forgotten about it

@shannonbrice8012

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Mine was stacking all the dishes and prepping supper.

I actually love seeing your house in a mess. Thank-you so much for sharing it! I love seeing other people's imperfection because generally when you go to someone's house, they have usually tidied up and I leave feeling like a failure as my house is never like that. I am in desperate need of a cleaning routine that I can sustain long term. I tend to focus on it for a while, then I end up in the all or nothing mentality and just give up when I can't get everything done and don't do anything at all! Love this routine and am going to try this.

Oh, that view in your kitchen! So happy to see that you have a bird feeder to enjoy too! Also, I LOVE that a) you put your kids first and b) that you involve them in the kitchen work; it builds confidence and independence. I sure hope you're able to carve out some time to put your feet up at the end of the day (and cf course, we're all wondering what that 'guilty pleasure' Netflix show is now 🤔😊.

So refreshing to see someone clean a realistic mess! So many cleaning videos are of someone cleaning an immaculate house! 😂

Wow!! Thank you for sharing. I applaud you for being a mom first especially with your littles. I like the fact that you are real with us. Whatever kinds of videos you can share is great.

So important to give tasks to kids …great for their self-esteem.

I'm in a totally different place in life--66yo, no kids--but your video was really encouraging and helpful to me. I ran it while I was cleaning up my home office (a constant "hot zone" challenge for me) and I literally did stop the video to get the wet sheets into the dryer and start another load. Thank you for doing this!

My birdfeeders outside my kitchen window are also one of my very favorite things. Yesterday I had five cardinals at the same time!

I personally like seeing your real day! It helps me realize that I’m doing fine if it’s not “perfect.” I actually started to 21 days to a clean home that you came up with. Then the whole family got sick and I totally abandoned it. But I’m feeling like I can try again!😄

I'd love to see projects in your new house, or an update. I love seeing your kids. I guess I understand why you prefer not to show them, but they're so sweet.

I love that this house looks lived in and actually has stuff in it. It looks like an actual home.

Your “helpers” are adorable. Enjoy them and remember to block out some time to smother them with 😘

If I could go back and do it again, I would have made charts for my kids, and they get stars if the complete a task. I would have had them learn to pick up their own toys. It's just SO helpful for when they are older!! You're doing amazing keep it up!

The view out the kitchen window is a dream

Yes!!! Everyone needs the two blankets method! We each have a twin xl sheet and comforter and it is amazing! I can make my cocoon and his tossing and turning doesn't wake me up!

You are doing an amazing job! We all realize real life happens every day. Thanks for sharing!

I've gotta say, I have 4 under 4 and all I'm doing is running around cleaning up after them. I feel like I might just have to do what you do. And pick up once or twice haha. I feel like I'm just always cleaning! And I need to relax and just enjoy this time with them.

@kf9058

Жыл бұрын

I loved this real life video cause often I feel like everything always needs to be perfect. It's nice to see real humans "living"!

I appreciate this video so much. I never feel good enough with housework thing. Since retiring, it’s all on me and never feel like it’s good enough

Loved the video. Loved your story about your little laundry helper in a birthday suite. 😆 thanks for the encouraging video

I admire you wanting to not show your kids. Your routines are realistic and easy to follow. I like that you don’t push perfection. You are doing fine Steph. You go girl!

Bless, this is so sweet and needed!!

I tried fly lady two times before ever finding your videos. Your videos helped me stick to the journey. I can't say I'm fully flying, but I'm better than I've ever been. Thanks for your help and encouragement.

Omg your little helper putting away cutlery is so cute, and inspires me to get my girls who are older than that to do some chores. I love your real “before” scene. It makes me watch and makes me believe. You’re amazing!!!!

Thank you! I used this video to inspire me to get off the couch and go empty/refill the dishwasher! It's not perfect, but it is better! And having your video playing in the background was just what I needed!

I love how real you are. Great job.

Thank you sooo much for keeping it real. It is hard. We do our best every day and that’s all we can do. Some days you can show up at my house and it looks great. Other days it’s a total disaster and that’s okay. (It’s currently a disaster 🤷‍♀️). It’ll get cleaned up soon. I also do an afternoon tidy. It makes the evening less stressful for us.

Always find your videos honest and helpful! 💗 Thank you for making Flylady routines seem manageable.

Thank you from Durban South Africa. Your videos have helped me so much. A lot of the daily habits from the 21 days have stuck and I've started doing your massive decluttering challenge from two years ago. It is so very motivating. Love seeing the snatches of your lovely helpers and amazed you still play sports in all that cold 🤗❤

I really enjoyed this video, Steph! Realistic glimpse into your day and your home. I appreciate your positive attitude! And I love that you're Canadian, too! 😉🇨🇦

Thank you for letting us see your day and motivating us to clean as well. I have learned so much from your channel💕

Love the video. LOVE the birdhouse/feeder outside the kitchen window!! You did amazing. :) Happy New Year 2023!

Thank you for sharing honestly & authentically. It is so refreshing!! And it gives me permission to be just as perfectly imperfect as well. And I love a nice cup of tea also!! ☺️

We have done two different blankets for years…love it!

I love the two blanket suggestion! That is brilliant.

Love the view from your kitchen. Your new house is very cozy and rustic.

I loved this!! So relatable!! ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for everything you do already and for being imperfect and realistic :)

I love that you’re finding balance! I make videos and keep my kids and husband out of it too. It’s a bit of a challenge when they’re usually so involved! Keep it up! I love how natural you made your video!

I love your little kid ❤ the kid was helping unload the dishwasher and so curious about everything

Love your videos Steph! I feel like you have good perspective and good balance. Family is the most important thing and you do a good job at that. 👍😀

Steph, I totally had laundry in the washer that was ready to go in the dryer. (From yesterday!) I paused the video and took care of it. Thank you so much and thanks for another awesome video. Love your content, your attitude about taking care of your home, and your cute, relatable personality!

100% goal achieved. I always feels better after watching you ❤️ thank you!

Inspiring! I am 68 1/2 yrs! It is About time for me! You are so inspiring! I am going to follow you and fly lady! So exciting! In my rear view mirror , I see 4 kids youngest w/ special needs. Teaching career. Self employed trucker husband w/ successful fleet of trucks! Advocating for my special needs child Keeping my other 3 kids growing My dad passed Life heats up with adolescents and their activities Divorce. He married a truck driver. Passion for creative crafting Mother passed. Son tragically suddenly passed in an ER visit, due to Nurses neglect 5 years later-no house I live with daughter: retired on SS. Medicaid Volunteering at autism center No mate Spreading miserable everywhere Sad and very unhappy But I am turning over a new leaf! I see the sunset I see a vast space between here and there I see a future with organization, peace, calm, and joy! Desperation has brought me here! Faith hope love and organization of my life Will take me to my glorious sunset! The Journey I must do in God the Father God the Son God the Holy Spirit And you tube channels like yours!!! Psalm 138:8. The Lord will perfect that which concernedh me…..

That beautiful snowy view out your windows!!

Your videos always bless me Stef xxx Miss your videos!

Needed to see this! It was great to hear because I’m certainly not perfect right now!!

We love to see your kids included. You keep it real. It is really hard to make a “real life “ video and not include them. There is another youtuber who rarely shows her kids and her house is always pristine and she acts like she does so much cleaning but she is totally unbelievable and I don’t follow her because of this. You are 100% the real deal and you have inspired this queen of procrastination to get up off her lazy butt and do something with my house. It still has a LONG WAY to go. In fact I am at a loss now of what to start first- decluttering or routine refresh or 21 day baby steps or try to do it all at once over a month. SO FRUSTRATING!