When I read cheaters I thought it would be like 3rd party tools users drama, or something

@squallstrife999

3 ай бұрын

Saaaaaame

@yuukiSUNSHINE

2 ай бұрын

Sameee ahah

@griffca4814

2 ай бұрын

So did I but then I remembered who it is was so it had to do with people being very dumb.

@chaous2000

2 ай бұрын

Glam mods are 3rd party tools

@ichiharafox

2 ай бұрын

@@chaous2000 Yeah but the whole thing was around people cheating on one another lol

There is absolutely wholesome RP out there, but you aren't going to find it in Quicksands or Limsa. Actual RPers don't really advertise like that, and they tend to either play in party or tell (or sometimes say because it's short distance), so a lot of what you'll find in the wild is really the worst of it, or what non-RPers think RP is supposed to be. Not to like, gatekeep or anything, but that's just how I see it. Also, in any sort of RP it is very important to keep your IC and OOC separate, that's kind of a golden rule, really.

@PrayLuna

3 ай бұрын

Sooo many of those that are new fall in that trap so often.

@MechaGodAnri

2 ай бұрын

"It is very important to keep your IC and OOC separate" Exactly this! Played on an enforced RP MUD for roughly 25 years and this is a rule that gets broken every now and again. With my experiences on XIV so far though, it's kind of made me avoid the RP side of things unfortunately. People just seem to get too attached or takes things too serious for me to want to bother when all I wanna do is just make friends, play and have fun.

If you're afraid of roleplaying "badly", remember that it's fully possible to roleplay in a comedic or non-serious manner. It all depends on what you're all trying to get out of it!

jesus christ guys lol, i dont want to disrespect anyone but god dang this ERPs are soooo cringe 😬

@losdos3585

2 ай бұрын

Your mother said same when she gave birth to you

@coloxrme

2 ай бұрын

@@losdos3585 taking it too personally I see?

@shollral

2 ай бұрын

@@losdos3585 lol 😂

@dains6623

2 ай бұрын

@@losdos3585 it's never that serious

OP is so good at storytelling because chat and Pathra kind of just forgot that OP was in a relationship and did in fact also cheat. It's kind of crazy that they just forgot about Murph and wanting to seem like a saving grace for *someone else's relationship* instead of her own. Like we don't know if what Murph even did was something that bad other than him just rushing content nor do we know how he actually feels about the whole situation. The comments saying that she has a good conscience and that op is learning a lesson or anything that caters to her being the bigger person are kind of baiting to defending her because while the guy threw her under the bus and is awful, she's no better cause she allowed herself to not only cheat but doesn't care enough about her own relationship to give us closure on that behalf. I wish the best for all parties involved but this whole thing across the board is some crazy energy and it feels like op isn't invested in her own relationship at all and would either need to focus and be more flexible there or find her own peace.

@MymmikCosplay

2 ай бұрын

I’m glad I’m not the only one that noticed that. My own partner leaves me behind sometimes too bc he just wants to get it done and is rushing, especially with fates and hunts where you need to keep up with everyone. And while it’s very frustrating at times, all I have to is remind myself that it’s not ill intended and him to slow down a little for me Maybe their relationship was already really unstable and him ignoring her/not talking and riding off without her is just an extension of that. 100% agree with your comment regardless

@blindvisions8883

2 ай бұрын

Like I've been on this game a long time and I've seen crazy takes and energies on here so I do get the kind where partners want to experience the game together but it's like I was telling my friends while we were watching the video, a lot of players tend to think that not running content or being in other parties means that their partners are cheating on them. It's not always that case and it's hard when that's the take you put in your own head. Hopefully that wasn't op's thought that led her to cheating

@pelisinho

2 ай бұрын

OP's is just a childish brat.

@kiiturii

2 ай бұрын

what? They didn't forget, OP said it multiple times and every time they brought up cheating they said "we" as in they were both cheating on their partners, the reason there was no reason to really talk about OPs bf further was because OP already resolved it him, she literally said that when she confessed about the cheating to him he was understanding and they stayed together. Also throughout the ENTIRE story, like literally from start to end she is saying that what she did was wrong, she's clearly not trying to hide that or even skirt around that fact. Like were you not listening or what?

"What happened to your girlfriend?" "Shes fine." 💀

Perfect for watching during Yo-kai fate grind

"You" Are not destroying a relationship/marriage. The person in the marriage/relationship choosing to pursue others is the one destroying it.

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

Yes, I feel like Pathra should've brought that up. The OP isn't innocent, but they weren't responsible for his cheating. He made the choice to cheat, if not with her, then with someone else. The only one who destroys a relationship is the cheater.

these stories CANT be real, the people in them are so weird

@TechneMakre

3 ай бұрын

for reallll the beginning of the story almost made me die of cringe

@silviablackffxiv

3 ай бұрын

Hopefully they're teenagers 🙈

@MajorReynolds92

3 ай бұрын

Bro have you seen people? People are effin weird

@ShadMuffin

3 ай бұрын

After having someone talk to me for like 30 minutes about their in game marriage triangle that included twitter.... idk anymore

@Chemiker

2 ай бұрын

Oh trust me. These people are real in the fringe sides of the game. I could tell some stories about my time in the ERP scene before I started raiding....

These stories do the RP community dirty. I cringe when people outside Crystal assume that all RP in XIV is just clubs, venues, dating exclusively in the game, etc etc. There is a whole chunk of the community that consists of people who just genuinely want to write stories with other people and create a character and immerse themselves in the game world. I haven't been to a venue in YEARS and I am a regular RPer. I absolutely hate the club scene in this game because of the people that Pathra frequently shares the stories of. It's filled with people like this who just use XIV as some virtual Las Vegas (what happens in XIV stays in XIV).

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

I agree, it's annoying when people hear Pathra's stories and make broad generalizations based on them

I had an experience like this, but instead of it being normal people, it was with the leader of a RP venue who threw me under the bus after his wife found out (I didn't even know he had a partner and she was hella not happy with him "rping" with other girls.) kinda ended poorly and got me blacklisted from most of the venues on that DC.

thanks for your lovely videos! Always watch em at work :D

Well... OP knows that what she did was wrong and she learned her lesson so I guess that's the good part about this story. It's sad that she had to learn this lesson the hard way, to be honest. That's why I can not really feel sorry for her. What this Owen did was disgusting but that's what you get when you cheat. There were enough red flags I'd say and she chose to ignore them. So yeah...

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

I don't really feel bad for her either, I cringed when she said how guilty she felt. Like, if you feel guilty about it, then stop doing it, or better yet, don't do it in the first place! Don't act like a victim!

The red flags should’ve been when Owen came and brought his cheesy lines. Also the way he spoke was super cringe! I’m glad OP learned a lesson. But that lesson shouldn’t have happened. I feel like if she spoke with murph, and cleared things up, find a solution. That would’ve been helpful. But life is all about lessons. Even if they come with a price.

Where do I go to join the readings? I love seeing all the people

@pathra

2 ай бұрын

One is happening this evening around 6pm EST. Live on Twitch and KZread

She missed the opportunity to screencap that last confession and send it to Mara :D

These stories are sooooo addicting please please more

Most RP'ers have a strict rule about keeping irl separate from RP for these exact reasons. Roleplaying is just fiction, no different than playing D&D. People who get overly possessive of their RP partners or try to blur that line between irl/fiction tend to have a lot of personal issues or lack proper social skills. To them RPing is one of the few 'human' interactions they actually have and quickly confuse a character flirting as that player flirting and so they get their emotions tied up into it. Its why Im not terribly fond of RPing in MMO's because too many people dont have proper ground rules put in place of what is/isnt ok.

@MymmikCosplay

2 ай бұрын

Fr, I play dnd and my characters flirt and have relationships with player characters within that, but we are AWARE that it’s only the characters and not us as players in it. I have a hard time understanding rp in an mmo bc not everyone is on that same page. I used to rp online and can kinda tell when someone is doing so or doing a bit, people like my partner who never rp CANT tell unless it’s painfully obvious and they confuse rp words for irl ones

@SirenSkypirate

2 ай бұрын

@@MymmikCosplay My partner and I both RP and have RP'd since middle school so luckily we dont really have that misunderstanding. But I see enough drama in the 14 RP community that I tend to stay away from it. Usually if Im RPing with someone from 14 (or anywhere really) I do a sort of 'session 0' to establish some rules before getting into the RP

@bellamango6708

2 ай бұрын

this is why i quit RPing in xiv lmao these ppl have such bad boundaries

And that is why you always take screenshots as proof

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

Mara should've still left him, "She forced me to cheat with her" is such a lame excuse, it was his choice to cheat!!

thank you for another video queen 👸

There is a, "tasteful," RP community Pathra. Mateus for example we have mock combat tournaments, open theatre on occasion. We even have stand up comedy routines and night clubs. There is ERP going on but its in private, which is how it should be. It's not that different from RL relationships in that NOBODY wants to watch you doing the nasty in public. That might get your arrested.🤣🤣🤣

Wake up everyone, a new pathra vid just dropped

Heyo! Sprout here 🌱 - Can anyone tell me what minion is that comes into view at 15:40 ?? The one at the bottom just right of center. Thanks!!!

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

Hello, welcome to the game!! If you mean the platypus-like minion, I think it's the Bitty Duckbill minion, which (no spoilers) you get from doing hunts in Shadowbringers!! Have fun playing!!

I like a little RP...but I probably won't go much further than visiting a venue for a drink n music. Some of this stuff goes way to far 😂

At times... I wonder how people do such things in games and have attachments or feelings.. maybe I just never associated myself in game with people's avatars vs getting to know the person in real life or something.

@ObliviousCrow

3 ай бұрын

Have you never talked with someone you met online on a more personal level?

@SuthanNagesu

3 ай бұрын

@ObliviousCrow I have and had complimented people on their cute avatars. But never to the point I felt damn.. something sparked an attraction because of their avatar or how they spoken to me in game. But then again.. it's most likely me being me and always reserved as I had people ask me to add on discord and I straight up deny them because I don't know them.

@kiiturii

2 ай бұрын

@@SuthanNagesu so no, you haven't. lol.

This is wild!!!!!!

This just sounds like a wattpad story. And if this is real. "I knew this was wrong." Over and over. Yeah, because it kinda is. The weirdest part is it felt like you wanted to take him down for his behavior to exonerate yourself from blame.

@Naoto-kun1085

2 ай бұрын

Exactly, she was right about being a coward. She should've fessed up to Mara herself, then I would've respected her. Instead she hid behind Murph to try and shirk responsibility for her own actions!

@kiiturii

2 ай бұрын

"And if this is real. "I knew this was wrong." Over and over. Yeah, because it kinda is." bro that's why she said it!! and somehow yall still don't understand, she's not sharing it for sympathy, it's just a telling a "drama" story for our entertainment, there's 0 reason to pile on more hate on her when she already made it so unbelievably clear that she knew it was wrong

@mayleelove4332

2 ай бұрын

@@kiiturii Yet, she still tried to frame herself as the hero. How silly.

@kiiturii

2 ай бұрын

@@mayleelove4332 she straight up didn't. At all.

@mayleelove4332

2 ай бұрын

@kiiturii Really? Because judging on the comments, everyone's praising her about how she's a good person and such. The fact you know she's not a hero in this means you didn't fall for the rhetoric of reaffirming "I knew this was wrong, but." You're white knighting for no reason.

I genuinely cannot feel sorry for the OP even if they knew what they were doing was wrong before and afterwards. I don't know like it's good they now realize it the hard way but the way it's written is very eloquently to the point it makes you also feel guilty for the OP for being put in this position. Whether intentional or not... Sorry, this really rubbed me off the wrong way cuz I still don't think OP is the "bigger" person here. Though, ig the good thing is OP actually feels the guilt rather than feels proud of it so there's that.

I couldn't watch at that time due to me grinding anima weapons and Eureka lol.

" im not weird.. my friends are weird" mmmhmm

whoever tried to write this like a New Yorker article... just, I can't take the first 5 lines.

How did OP go from feeling guilty to saying how horrible a person Owen is and saying how she feels "betrayed"? Like they went full on hypocrite in the last half.

FF14 players being freaking normal challenge: Beyond Impossible

5:28 --- The music "eerie"? XD After you beat the boss, the normal victory melody plays XD Thats why often think, calling these stories "drama" doesnt really fit the bill: it all may be happening in a game but ultimately, we are dealing with people. Some of it is petty, yes, terribly so, but sometimes... sometimes people get hurt.

To be fair, these people don't sound like RPers at all; they did not play characters beyond pressing W on their keyboard, and seem to have communicated and gone through these relationships as themselves! There's a distinction that needs to be made for Heavy RPers, where players write characters in a novel-style format. I know players that play characters like Ishgardian goldsmiths and nobles, Bozjan veterans, Limsan pirates - RPing is often an exercise in creative writing, and the most operative part of RPing is that the players differentiate between OOC and IC.

@kiiturii

2 ай бұрын

yeah, they were ingame relationships but not in-character ones. Real feelings

OP is definitely guilty, but I can understand them coming forward with this story, because the other person was worse to even lie and manipulate it. Honestly never understand how anyone can cheat

That pickup line was so cringe lol

If it's you with a skill issue having to use Auto marker or you trying to be some anime harem protagonist... Remember! Cheaters are CRINGE!!!

Shout out To My Boy Owen

erp is not cheating... so many ppl erp without even knowing the others gender ^^ id say its "kinda" cheating if you get some real feelings out like a real connection but then its not really about the erp its about that connection and feelings. also .. you prolly dont even know how the person looks irl you dont know anything its just some text messages. its basicly flirting with a stranger. its just a game, do whatever is fun to you. also i wanna add roleplaying is usually not about playing yourself, its more about playing someone different. i remember some rping when i was jounger (wow) we had some kinda rp relationship and yeah we had erp too, but we basicly would make fun of our dumb/flawed charakters while doing it, like zero real emotions, also we were both dudes rping two lesbians .. like real rp ppl dont really care usually. only this weird "only flirting and erp" dudes care because they basicly erp as themselves and get real emotions out of it.

I hope these aren't full grown adult's acting like this....

@ObliviousCrow

3 ай бұрын

Are you surprised? Feels like the majority of adults can't function like actual adults.

@nin64

2 ай бұрын

It's FF14💀😭 Finding functioning adults is a very difficult task lmao

This one was ntr Ntr is nasty I'm seeing a trend here though Stay away from the rpers stuff gets to real

first thing in the morning

The smell of neck beards and whales🤪and Cheeto dust