In the 18th century a gentleman would be required to learn to dance and fencing (sword fighting) and riding a horse. They would also learn another language.

@IGNACY-fp8zo

3 ай бұрын

I used to fence, my father was an Olympian, but the sport kinda sucks nowadays

@ronaldpoppe3774

3 ай бұрын

@@IGNACY-fp8zo I did a little historical fencing épée and saber. Many many years ago. Must agree modern fencing sucks.

@ImYourOverlord

3 ай бұрын

I chose archery rather than fencing, and have the other three you mentioned down fairly well 🙂

@baron.7284

3 ай бұрын

A real man should know how to ride a horse, fence, shoot, dance and drink.

@Scythera99

3 ай бұрын

​@@IGNACY-fp8zoHow? Isn't it the same thing it always has been?

I'm 71 years old and still working on it. One of the best things I've ever done for myself in my life was learning to dance. I've been doing it for over 25 years now, and I'll have to say I've never been more popular because I can dance.

@tonyheper

3 ай бұрын

I am a couple years younger than 70. I agree with you completely…….I am still working, sometimes, I cook for myself and my guests. I like dancing……among my other hobbies of sailing, fishing and flying………I learned to cook, iron and saw…..or go hungry and look bad.

My Father was a real man’s man. He grew up in the 1920’s and 30’s, survived four invasions in WW2 and tough as nails. He was a great dancer, believed for himself and all my brothers and sisters to be well dressed and groomed. He cooked alongside my mother and taught us the social graces. My Father was a legend in marketing and advertising, even more so than the character Don Draper in Madmen. I grew up and have interests in all the things you listed in your video. I’m from Chicago, when I lived in the city back in the 70’s and 80’s I studied Interior Design at Harrington and Art History at the Institute. I would get my haircuts at the Drake Hotel barber shop, straight razor shave, manicure and a shoeshine in one seating. Every year a visiting bespoke tailor from London would have fittings for custom suits and shirts, my father and I would indulge in this practice for years until I moved to London and continued those same interests their at Sotheby’s and in the premium wine business. My new haunt for grooming being GEO F. Thumpers on Curzon Street for my haircuts and straight razor shaves. It was not unusual to be sitting next the Duke of Westminster back in the mid 80’s. I have recently been following your channel because I can tell your a young man of impeccable taste.

@slchance8839

3 ай бұрын

wow. you lead and interesting life. i was rivetted and couldnt stop reading

No way better to appeal to a woman than to cook for her. Doesn’t have to be gourmet. It is a great way to show her your place in a non- creepy way. It allows her to see your style and creates hundreds of conversational opportunities….but make sure your place is clean and reflects class….

reminds me of so much advice my dad gave me, granted he was explicitly trying to help me with women. you never know when you’re gonna meet your wife so you gotta always look your best, women love to dance, and they love to eat

@05Rudey

3 ай бұрын

Thats possibly among the best advice I have heard.

@Mutiny960

2 ай бұрын

All these things are ACCESSORIES. A Perfect Face and 6-pack abs guy with no job, can wear a garbage bag while having the dance skills of a stiff-legged doll, and still get more women than some respectful Quasi-Modo in a bespoke suit who can dance like he's in Bboy Crew. You never get a chance to show off your skills if she's grossed out by things you cannot change before you even say 2 words.

Empathy is not a hobby it’s a character trait. Every gentleman should be able to cook.

@alnaru3358

2 ай бұрын

A man who can't cook is really a bad thing but you know what worse? A woman who can't

Sewing is very underrated and generally stereotyped for women only. Straight man here, raised by my grandmother, a dressmaker, she taught me the basics, enough to appreciate it as an art, and to understand how useful it is, not only to fix my own clothes but to have an understanding of quality, fit and fashion.

@castelodeossos3947

3 ай бұрын

Soldiers/sailors/cowboys have throughout history had to know how to sew. And have in Sri Lanka seen that the ordinary Sri Lankan boy learns how to use a sewing machine to a high level of competency.

I draw conclusions about a man after viewing his living space. My expectations between a college student and an adult are different. I appreciate the vibe of someone’s home. A drab, shabby space or worse, a hoarder’s paradise, tells me too much that makes me want to turn around and look elsewhere for companionship. It doesn’t have to be expensive or perfectly decorated, but an adult bed, a furnished kitchen, comfortable seating, and a serviceable bathroom let me know that here is a grownup who appreciates a lifestyle that I like to lead. If there is good lighting, interesting books, and other intentional living plants, and maybe animals, then it’s even better.

I love to cook and dance. I used to sew when I was younger but have not since my house was burglarized and most of my possessions taken. Thank you for the suggestion, I am going to get a sewing machine and start up again. Hope all is well!

I have a very detailed skincare plan and at first first my friends were always messing with me about until we all went out and I kept receiving compliments about my skin

@awalton9024

3 ай бұрын

I knew somebody who often got asked about his skincare and he always replied: Noxzema and opium. 😆

@antonioharvey2130

9 күн бұрын

@@awalton9024 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Nice one, Z. Learning a language, discovering art dancing and writing are great hobbies for a gentleman. They will open up a whole new circle of friends and expose you to women with whom you may have something in common.

I've noticed that the happiest marriages are the ones where the man does the cooking.

Once again, superb content. Kudos, and thanks!

Painting and sketching often awakes interest - thanks for great coaching again

The most useful skill I undertook to learn as a young man is sewing. Until I developed a retinal problem in my early 60s, I did all my own alterations to new clothing. Because my left arm is half an inch shorter than my right, I learned to take apart and put together the cuff on a jacket. Because my left leg is an inch shorter than my right leg, I learned to tailor trousers to break perfectly on my shoes. Hand sewing is amazingly rewarding, and if you get into modifying the lapels of your suit or sport coat, can make your Joe Bank blazer look like something from a bespoke tailor.

The three Ss...sh*t shower and shave. I haven't heard that in years. But ya that about sums up the important things

I would like to add creative writing, acting, painting, and learning to play the piano.

I am the primary cook in our relationship. It started because I was retired and my future wife had a full time job as a baker. Her coming home to a home cooked meal 5 days a week went a long way to winning her heart. She was the envy of all her coworkers and friends who had to cook for their families after working a full time job. I also still prepare her breakfast on weekends.

Man, dancing classes are just underrated. It's one of the few events where there are more women than men, it's an activity that tends to attract nice people, and it's easy to connect. Besides, it's great to surprise your date with your ability to move her around with style.

The legendary sword fighter Musashi always said to have a hobby where one creates. In those times samurai would have hobbies suck as calligraphy, or flower setting, art, gardening, etc.

This video is outstanding! Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge and insight.

Women's hobbies ?: learning to sew (to repair clothes) - learning to make a bed, cleaning, washing clothes sheets dishes - learning to go to the market (budget) and cooking for one person (self), two (couple), 3 (baby) - 4 (family) + 10 (group) - learn caring for a sick or injured person and give medication - learn how to put liquids in your car (gas, petrol, windshield washer, antifreeze, oil) - inflate tires - change a tire (during a flat tire on the road or country road, at night, in winter) - these are not exactly feminine occupations but a woman will feel confident and safe if she knows that you have these talents - but dancing is good too - and learning to talk to these strange beings that are women - and to listen to her

As I’ve said before in comments, I’m outside your target audience for these videos (61 years old), but I enjoy them and find them helpful. I have cooked and sewed since I was young and they are definitely useful skills. I came on here, though, to talk about dancing. I don’t have any training or skill in formal ballroom dancing, I just do the casual rock-pop-just-get-up-and-move type of dancing. I’m here to tell you young guys that I learned way too late in life how much women love to dance. I was always very shy and self-conscious about dancing in public and would usually only do it when I had several drinks in me (not a good idea). When I became single again after my marriage ended, I overcame my shyness and began asking women to dance. Wow, what a revelation. Women LOVE to dance. They don’t care if you’re Fred Astaire, they just want someone to get out on the floor with. Do it. Don’t worry about how you look or what you think others might be thinking. Just get up and move to the music. Women will appreciate it.

empathy?! man.... what have we come to where this needs to be included

The cooking and sewing can save you a LOT of money, too. I've been cooking since I was a kid, and I can make a gourmet meal out of the cheapest ingredients. Knowing how to alter my own clothes also means I can shop at a thrift store without looking like I shop at a thrift store. In line with sewing, I also made a hobby out of restoring and caring for leather shoes (short of re-soling). My shoe collection is ridiculous, and you'd have NO idea that most of them weren't bought brand-new.

@user-pn8tm5eq3u

3 ай бұрын

You'll probably live longer by cooking for yourself too. That way you get to pick your ingredients instead of relying on what the restaurant prepares, whether or not it's fast food. Sure, you might still buy groceries full of unnatural preservatives (like canned tomatoes instead of fresh organic ones), but that's your choice instead of trusting the restaurant chef. At least you'll still be doing it cheaper.

@jasonvoorhees895

3 ай бұрын

@@user-pn8tm5eq3u Absolutely. And, having worked as a cook, I can also tell you that even higher-end restaurants that use fresh, natural ingredients...often make their foods super-palatable by overusing butter and salt.

Great video! I am definitely lacking in several of these, so I should give them more attention.

Oil painting... I almost have to hide it from my male friends. It's also funny, When I tell one of the guys that I oil paint, they stare at me with a pause in there conversation trying to figure it out LOL.

I agree on learning to dance. Nothing like a peacock strutting his stuff

so good. love the channel. regards from Belgium

Thank you.

I love all of these! On the personal care bit, I was once training JiuJitsu with some Vegas friends in Las Vegas. They asked how old I was, 29, and they said I looked young, more like 23. I blurted out, "I have a skincare routine." I'm sad to say that's probably the funniest thing I've ever said while training. I also cook, sew, and dance, and truly, that's where some of my most interesting conversations come from because they are where a lot of my creativity comes to life... aside from Jiujitsu, but I can't be talking about folding grown men like laundry all the time. The thing I would probably add to this list is reading: it's definitely feminine as far as hobbies go. Anytime there's a woman I'm interested in, and she starts raving about a given book, or any other media for that matter: music, movies, anime, etc. You can bet your a$$ I'm going to read that book. A fun subject might be how to curse like a gentleman. In general it's a no-no, but I think situations arise in life wherein no other expression will suffice.

I enjoy how you present interesting and different subjects each time in a calm and confident tone. Well done, James! Can you please talk about Social Media etiquette?

Honestly I’ve never been interested in cooking for myself until I moved into a studio 6 months ago. It’s great. It really is therapeutic and it’s rewarding when you get a recipe right and it tastes better (and costs less) than takeout.

Excellent video

i always wondered what happened to dancing...back in the jazz age and 50s every man was dancing. I did a salsa course and western line dancing once. I never got good but the moments when i found some rhythym were really fun! Right one with sewing and cooking, too. I would maybe add some sort of artistic endeavor as well.

You have a very inspiring way about you!

Keep up the good work

Once I got into keto and low carb, I've started enjoying simple cooking!

I personally should spend more time with personal care, and I struggle to fund a beat when dancing (though I have enjoyed ballroom in the past) but cooking is a daily hobby of mine, and I can relate to the addictiveness of sewing, going so far as to make a suit. I am trying to get better with interior design though I am restricted to my room, I am slowly transforming it into a more gentlemanly styled study/bedroom combination

@Gent.Z

3 ай бұрын

It sounds like you have a great set of well rounded hobbies. If you struggle with dancing, trying a musical instrument first might help. Being a guitarist definitely helped me have a natural sense of rhythm

@dr._.baldwyn

3 ай бұрын

@Gent.Z I have tried both dancing and playing an instrument for years in the past, in the end its a hobby that I enjoy and won't be competing in

Cooking is so great, the process is filled with great smells, and the end result is mouth watering

Nice posters!

@Gent.Z

3 ай бұрын

Thank you. The new place is slowly coming together

I cooked a divorcée dinner once. At the meal she said she loved it because she never had a man ever cook for her, not even the boyfriends after her husband. But even when I'm at a buddy's house and he cooks for me, it's still memorable, so cooking works on everybody.

Nice posters. I have a couple Russian Avant Garde. True gentleman (ie. good taste)

@sidious_sheev_senate

3 ай бұрын

Russian Avant Garde is slave tier taste

If you want to do glute isolation exercises in the gym, go for it. The glutes are a huge set of muscle groups and they can help with back pain, knee pain and posture as well as making other traditional dude exercises like squatting and deadlifting stronger since they are a contributing muscle in those exercises. You don't have to, and I just do squats, deadlifts and Romanian deadlifts, all of which hit the glutes pretty well but are not isolation exercises. If you want to hip thrusts and kickbacks, go for it. It's your body and your life. Last thing: there is nothing wrong with wanting to drink a Cosmopolitan if you like it.

Interesting young man, definitely has a forward thinking, positive outlook!

Very well said. A lot of these are life skills that every man should know. I would add in keeping a clean and tidy pad especially the bathroom should be #1.

Well done! I really only come up short in improving my dancing and learning to machine sew. Ironically, I should have long since conquered this, possessing my mother's Elna machine and having worked on 17 seasons of Project Runway.

I have had my heart broken many times by women who just didn't care. I actually had more concern from my guy friends than women.

cooking and dancing are spot on. im 17 and sometimes taking dancing lessons ( salsa, tango, paso doble) with my mom in the living room with hopes ill impress a girl one day with this skill. As for cooking, I'm forced to sometimes prep my own meals since I need specific nutrients plus protein for my workouts, something which isn't that abundant in my mom's dishes, yet still eat them out of respect.

Having my home look like one out of Country houses is one of my greatest accomplishments. It's nice to live and be in a nice , comfortable and attractive looking home . Taking care of my skin and hair has been another thing Ive always paid attention to and even though I"m 53, daily people mistake me for a man in his 30's which I take as a great compliment.

I really enjoy cooking and I do like interior design. When I was younger I was a reasonablygood dancer.

Having a garden/plants would fit well too

I’m a creative, and really enjoy decorating my house. It makes a house a home.

Really nice posters, where did you get them?

If you do a meet up in New York City, I’m there for sure.

I think reading should be added onto here.

Brene Brown & Chris Voss for empathy. Al Pacino for tango in the movie ‘Scent of a Woman’ whooo ahhh

This is all very good advice especially for you younger men who are just starting working on yourself. The cooking and keeping a tidy place especially in my experience. Get a few dishes in your arsenal. Italian and French stuff, once you learn some technique you can make a variety of things. And any man who respects themselves will put something into the place they live. Remember you’re not just doing this to get laid, you’re doing it to improve and live like a gentleman.

Horseriding. For anyone who thinks it is girly I have one name for you: Aragorn. Btw it should go without saying that the point of these hobbies is not solely to meet women. Don't be "that guy" in dance class who is a bit too obviously single.

@goobles3991

3 ай бұрын

Too late, I spent 10,000 on a horse to impress a barista and now I'm being arrested and the horse is being put down.

@davidweihe6052

2 ай бұрын

Horse riding is girly only to those in the wrong areas of the world. In the Western USA or rural Britain , it was very popular among men, especially before fox hunting was banned in Britain.

Making pasta from scratch is VERY easy and VERY impressive. It seems harder than it is but all you need to do is plan things in advance. Authentic Italian sauces are simple to make too - put them together and you have a dish that makes you seem like a gourmet. That, a simple salad and a bottle of decent wine (optional) are enough for an elegant meal, though you can always add an extra side or a dessert if you have time.

You should do a video on mastering the gin martini, the ultimate gentleman’s drink: I recommend 2 oz of a London Dry, 3/4 oz of a high quality dry vermouth like Dolin and 3 dashes of Angostura orange bitters. Stir thoroughly and serve in a chilled coupe. Olive and lemon twist. Unfathomably delicious and strong

Dancing is one area in life I have no experience in but would like to get better. Any tips on where and how to start?

I admit that I love to cook . It's fun I would like to learn to cook better

What meal prep service do you use?

This video reminds me of a suggestion I had for a video essay That is, every man should have an area of special interest or expertise. That is, be really good or knowledgeable in at least one facet of life. You get to choose some things that really interests you, and become conversant and obtain a deep knowledge of it. It can sustain a man through all the phases of life and It might be something that one has to pursue for a lifetime. I consider that to be the mark of an interesting person. It might be the form of art, or study of history. In my case, I love gardening, although I live in Florida, I have a deep love of Japanese gardening.

Cooking and sewing? U r an extravagant :)

I would modify your list to say "design" generally than "interior decor" specifically. I make all the design decisions in our house, from colour palette to furnishings, and including artwork selection, framing and mounting. Some guys abdicate all that to their spouse, reserving only a basement room to become their "man cave" - but isn't a man's house supposed to be his castle? The other thing many men, especially newlyweds, opt out of is selecting a china pattern, crystal and cutlery. As a result they can end up with very feminine designs that don't necessarily reflect their own lifestyle. Yet this is the image you are presenting to your dinner guests. And your table settings need to be coordinated with your overall design aesthetic, for the dining room at least. Your taste and attention to detail should be reflected throughout all aspects of your life.

About cooking, I LOVE cooking, I wanna get better at it every time I enter the kitchen, just the time and effort you put in to make something you’ll really enjoy or just experimenting with what is possible with random ingredients, I just love it Also I kinda like interior design, I just got my hands on a nice body panel of an old car and I’m now making a wall decoration out of it, in the wheel well I’m gonna put light sockets to hang it above my desk. And empathy is something I don’t know about for me but I do know that I have enough of it to listen and understand what someone is going through but having moved to Bulgaria (eastern Europe) from Belgium (western Europe) has made me a lot harder of a person just because of the way things go around here, in Belgium if you see a stray dog or cat it’ll be brought to a shelter and taken care of but in Bulgaria animals are replaceable things that are just there to serve a purpose or be disposed of, dogs are tied on a chain outside all day, all night every day of every season, cats are to keep away mice, horses and donkeys just pull carts, goats and cows are for milk and meat, chicken are for eggs and meat… stray animals are everywhere and if you drive around you’re guaranteed to find some animal killed by a car and left behind like a leaf. This life style for the past 3,5 years has changed me as a person, I have a pretty hard personality because of this but I do still show empathy for people and animals, the problem is always sobbing and thinking about the poor animals pulls you down so you have to change for your own mental health. I will listen and I will understand if you tell me something but I can unintentionally come across a bit harsh

@martijnvangammeren1868

3 ай бұрын

Same here I love cooking if I have the time. Mostly I'm at home earlier than my wife during the week so I cook then as well but I don't really enjoy that. Saturday or Sunday cooking with something that must slow cook for several hours etc is what I do enjoy.

@Wannabearborist

3 ай бұрын

@@martijnvangammeren1868 but if topic but your name “Martijn” are you Dutch or Flemish, I’m from Belgium 😅

This is funny. I do all of these and have always been considered a somewhat fem straight guy. Well, except for dancing. But I recently signed up for that. Lol

Whilst there is a lot of intersection ,I think what you are describing is more of a Renaissance man than a true Gentleman

I love cooking, I cook pretty much from scratch 3 - 4 times a week, I never eat Microwave meals or do fast food. I'd rather go home, preheat the oven and get my favourite cook book out by James Martin. My favourite dish I like making from scratch is Beef Wellington.

From Weimar with Love!

It's not "important" to embrace any of these things. Just be yourself. I wouldn't call skin care and empathy hobbies either.

Empathy and dancing are my ones . Dancing is something Ive embraced for the past 18 months or so; going to discos and salsa classes. It’s a lot of fun once you are in the habit of it and at one with the music . all of what other people think eventually leaves your mind. Life is meant to be enjoyed 🕺🏻🤍

Sewing is essential for surviving just like hunting. Being able to fix and repair your clothes (as well as your home, your bike…) If something breaks it’s unmasculine to stand there with an open mouth not knowing what to do. As an old money guy, I buy quality, stylish clothes (not necessarily of any famous fashion brand) and then do the necessary maintenance ind stead of just buying new stuff.

I prefer the more casual look without the tie. Not sure if the pocket square is missing. The pattern may be enough and in doubt better less than more, I believe. 😎 PS: This channel is skyrocketing!! 👍

@Gent.Z

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I thought this outfit was better without a pocket square, given there’s already a pattern on the jacket and the shirt

your new posters +1

My dad, after divorcing my mom, learned how to make crêpe Suzette, and a few other dishes. He taught me a few dishes. I worked as a cook for many years andy fiancée, who had hired me, just loved my cooking!

Sewing would save me so much money on repair haha

I’ll add two more: fashion and gardening (or like me: just house plants). Learn to dress well and converse about it (e.g. have a few favorite brands to talk about). I learned to dress well because I loved it. It’s like getting to start your day by doing something that’s just a little artistic, and then wearing art for the day. I wasn’t surprised that women would like a man who dresses well, but I was surprised how much women enjoy talking about men’s fashion. They also love touching your clothes if the materials are high quality. Just tonight I went out with a girl and let her wear my Italian suede bomber coat when she got cold. She couldn’t stop touching it. Cashmere works too. Similarly, I wanted some plants in my house so it would feel peaceful, but I didn’t expect how much girls would comment on them. I just got a bunch of plants, cared for them however it made sense to me (with a little help from KZread) and simply replaced the ones that didn’t flourish. Houseplants are surprisingly cheap, and people seem to infer positive things about a man with living things that flourish around him. They only see the survivors! Bonus: get a selection of dishes in different shapes. Even simple cooking looks “next level” if you just put it on a square plate!

I switched from martial arts to latino dancing two years ago. It's 100% the best hobby to do for introverted dudes. For one, the parties are actually fun: you don't have to get drunk (often times you don't drink at all), you have stuff to do, the music is great (it's partly an acquired taste, it gets better the more you dance to it). Secondly, it's probably the straightest hobby imaginable: you literally learn to lead girls. Third, it's really different from "dancing" as in getting shitfaced and bobbing around to the beat. If you believe you can't dance, try out a class - it's NOT the same thing, this is a sport with rules and it won't trigger the "I feel stupid wtf is this" thoughts that "having fun in deh cluub" makes dudes like us have. Fourth thing, it really is intellectually stimulating in the same way martial arts was - you get competitive, you wanna learn more, you wanna learn the principles and the movements and the coordination.

Are the 3s s shave, shower, and swish ??

I had two perfectly straight male friends who became excellent knitters! I think both of them were inspired by Scotsmen who used to do this as a trade way back when.

Sailors used to engage in knitting.

Love the bauhaus posters. Maybe you will like too Lissitzky's and Kandisky's art. They influenced strongly the bauhaus movement. Btw there are some russian watches named "raketa" (rocket in russian) that feature this style, they are very interesting looking and expensive

@slchance8839

3 ай бұрын

Never heard of this. Just looked it up. Loved it. Thank you for posting. I'll be getting one of these. You just helped me find something new and cool

@esponru5602

3 ай бұрын

@slchance8839 I'm very happy to hear that :)

Consider: At any given event where there is dancing, about 10% of the men in the room are not interested in the ladies and 70% of the other men can't dance. That leaves less than 20% of the men and about 100% of the women.

What most people online mean by empathy is just therapy-brain cope to make themselves feel better. It's a word that has really undergone significant semantic shift.

Hi I live in dubai it's hot and humid I wear Fahrenheit any other sugesstion for fragrance Good luck

I would say learn how to sew on a button . Do your own laundry etc. leave the alterations to the pros. Oh yes maybe hem your pants.

Oh good grief, I have been single for so long, I must cook and sew. As you mentioned, most chefs are me; on the side of sewing, most tailors are men. You come for the U.K. you know this.

Keep your herbs and spices away from light and heat, and replace whatever has become weak in aroma and flavor.

Curating your space is a huge deal! Everything in a man's home should match his design style as well as tell stories.

I was just wondering, what is your meal prep service?

@Gent.Z

2 ай бұрын

Factor

@minahimself

2 ай бұрын

@@Gent.Z thanks for your reply

One feminine trait that is best left to the ladies is chatting a lot . There was a survey that showed women say on average 18 thousands words a day whilst men say 6 thousand

Unfortunately alot of men don't accept the feminine side of themselves. Also alot of men dont want to cook. They expect women to do it all. I learnt to cook when i left home. I had to. I love dancing 🕺. Sadly alot of men feel uncomfortable about moving their bodies. Its great exercise too.

Which skill are you demonstrating by putting a red candle underneath green bottles? Is it interior design superposing opposite colors, or are you cooking some warm liquor? 😜

I hunt and fish I learned to cook in the wilderness also women love dancing

I actually had a girl friend tell me that men don't get to choose the home decor . I love shopping for the home. Not to much but not sparten either . comfortable that way she will want to stay..longer

You have got to be kidding regarding doing your own alterations except sewing a button.

sehr geiles video das habe ich gebraucht, es gibt nicht männlicheres und schöneres, als wenn Männer "femininen" hobbys nachgehen. nicht ausschließlich, aber vorallem als Ausgleich ist das eine willkommende Sache.