I've found that appreciating the things I have and living life day-by-day has been a big help. I'm turning 24 in a little over a month, don't have a job, a partner, or a degree, and have been essentially living as a NEET since Covid started. Sure, I'm pretty behind in terms of the standards society has set for me, but I have family and friends that care about me, and who I care about, hobbies both creative and physical that I enjoy, a house over my head in a safe neighborhood, and I eat three meals a day. I am incredibly fortunate to have these things, I know that I don't suffer from the same issues people less fortunate than myself do, and I understand that I eventually have to strike out on my own, but constantly worrying about the future has a paralyzing effect on me, rather than a motivating one. Focusing on what's currently in front of me rather than trying to guess what I'll be doing in ten years, slowly building up consistency and conscientiousness through a routine I enjoy, doing what I can to help those around me, and letting them do the same for me, and not beating myself up over my failures will get me to where I need to be eventually.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Amazing perspective!

@saivarunk9262

3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate to this to each and every line you mentioned. Same here with me and I have no idea what I'd be doing in future.

@avi01mukherjee66

3 жыл бұрын

I completely relate to this...me too..turning 24 in few days..kind of live in a situation exactly like you....and pretty much feel exactly as you have put forth...

@EdeYOlorDSZs

3 жыл бұрын

Great insight, hope people can transform their gratitude towards a first world lifestyle into motivation to give back to the society that gave them that quality of life

@luiss428

3 жыл бұрын

needed to hear this tbh

I really needed this. I’m 23, graduated college, un able to get a job with my degree. Never been in a relationship and still living with my parents… it’s debilitating

@da137g

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you :( literally me rn

@reverie6187

2 жыл бұрын

are you me?¿?

@user-qy6tu9ip9v

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 23 with no degree, no gf, never worked a day of my life, no drivers license. It's depressing. I hope things get better for you.

@catspurr_98

2 жыл бұрын

I am in the same boat. I try to have a positive mindset and do my bit. If I get stressed, I tell myself that how the world is right now, there are tonnes of opportunities both online and offline. The world is so resourceful for anyone to not get depressed. Because every problem that you've ever had already has a solution out in the world. It'll all work out. Not today it's okay, not tomorrow it's okay, but one day.

@garveziukas

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like 23 is the hardest year for most people. I am 23 years old, too and it really feels like a low point. I am stuck in a job I hate, I am broke, depressed and the girl of my dreams turned me down and started dating someone else. It's tough but we will make it. It's only going up from here

"you can't compare your step 1 to someone's step 100" - yeah, this is killing me right now

@fumetsu4323

2 жыл бұрын

But I have to compare my 100000th step with someone's 1st step, and feel nothing but envy.

@gliderman9302

2 жыл бұрын

But the regret that I didn’t start step 1 earlier kills me

@hypahh

2 жыл бұрын

@@gliderman9302 The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.

@l.f.r.6523

2 жыл бұрын

and each person has his own starting point

@abcde9867

Жыл бұрын

according to root of philosophy, we don't regret. so stop pretending

I deleted most of my social media. That helped prevent me from thinking about what other people have done in their life and comparing my life with others. Everyone is on their own journey.

@fatawkwardchungus8949

2 жыл бұрын

Laura not everybody has to be there show you a mirror you have done nothing wrong I do the same just chill relax and laughter does not cost anything 🙃

@RinkBox

2 жыл бұрын

I have also done same thing, stopped using FB since 2015. Now I am going to Die on any day.

@fatawkwardchungus8949

2 жыл бұрын

@@RinkBox idk you can have a heart attack or severe aggression delete social media still you can talk to people on less popular versions of social media like reddit discord or telegram

@thatbitchnoemie

2 жыл бұрын

Sis I've been comparing myself to everyone way before I even knew what social media was

A good quote is “don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides” for all you know they’re feeling the same way

the feeling never ends fellas

@shineayandrews1869

3 жыл бұрын

Here's confirmation that even useless people can get a checkmark on these platforms.

@shixuo

3 жыл бұрын

@@shineayandrews1869 i just watched one of his videos and i agree now

@MegaMan-bs3oy

2 жыл бұрын

Does if you blow your brains out lmao

@jose000

2 жыл бұрын

.....

@drioko

2 жыл бұрын

That's because your emotionally not intelligent. Happiness is just a mental state and how you learn to deal with your problems. Learn to live and you'll be fine.

I felt for a long time in my 20s-30s that I was lagging behind my friends. Years later, I finally figured out the problem was that I was traveling in a different direction than my friends, so I was never going to "catch-up."

@JuriAmari

2 жыл бұрын

I had a convo with one of my good friends about this. I’ve been feeling behind for a while now. I’m 29 and I haven’t had a lot of experience in the world due to low funds, the pandemic shutting down everything, and recently discovering I’ve had generalized anxiety and depression. I’m going to grad school and doing pretty well, but I’m not making enough money to move out of my parents’ place let alone travel to places I want to go. I even got a love confession from a guy and we started going out but I’m so nervous about messing up that I choke and I can’t tell what my true feelings about him are (I like him but I’m still unsure about the level - this is how I discovered my anxiety.) On top of that, it’s my first time going out with anybody. Ever. My friends have had more experience in that front than I have and it’s frustrating because I’m older but I put it off because I have school and nobody expressed any interest in me as a possible girlfriend until now. I should be enjoying this especially how he’s been so kind to me for the last 2 years, but I’m associating dating with fear instead of fun even though I haven’t had a single bad experience and he’s been really good to me. I ended up telling all this with a friend and it turns out she’s envies my situation because I have the support of my family, I’m back in school with a clear trajectory, I’m having experiences in life and love in a later age instead of what she had in her teens and 20s, and I’m even going for a unique career path. Meanwhile I envied her independence, her confidence, and being able to have an apartment and a car to move around in. It opened up my eyes that we are in different paths and where I am right now is actually not terrible. I still feel the pressure of turning 30 but now I see the final year of my 20s as more of starting to build a foundation of the person I want to be. TL;DR comparison really is the thief of joy. It’s never too late to discover things, make strides in your life, and develop as a person. Your life can begin at anytime. Whoever says that you have to figure it all out in your 20s and 30s (or fill in the blank of whatever arbitrary milestone) is a liar.

@vampiszoonis9691

2 жыл бұрын

Is commiting suicide worth it

@startinglifeat30

2 жыл бұрын

@@vampiszoonis9691 nope it's not..... ur body is fighting so hard for you to survive each day. Please give life a chance. Lots of ❤.

I'm 22 with social anxiety. I've lost connection with friends and relatives. I have no job or partner. These reasons have led me to delete my social media and withdraw from social gatherings. All I need right now is to hear that I'm not alone.

@danqual5488

2 жыл бұрын

You' re not alone friend. There are people all over the world who are going trough simular stuff as you are

@Pitacrumbs

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, I drag myself to work every day and I every day I'm gaining more weight because Im to lazy and tired to be cooking good food for my 30min lunch. At the end of the day, I always feel like I have done nothing....it's 4 in the morning and I'm already thinking what to do to stop feeling like that.. we all have our "demons"

@DayZGirl101

2 жыл бұрын

You are most definitely NOT alone. 🙏🏻 I understand where you’re coming from soooo hardcore. I’ve done very similar things in my own life for the EXACT same reasons. And I am here to validate you 100% for the way you’re feeling! It sucks so very much and makes it extremely hard to not want to withdraw. 💔

@erakoraoghenekevwe2275

2 жыл бұрын

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! And c'mon mate cheer up.. U don't lots of social media that saps away your time. spend more time to know yourself...

@MUCHUMBA92

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I struggle with the same thing. We can work at it to improve our lives! And friends and family often want to hear from you. Losing touch doesn’t have to be permanent.

That creeping feeling is the worst, it eats you alive. It makes the thought of death so comforting.

@dhammmaraja

3 жыл бұрын

exactly..the story of my life

@swordsnorchids1997

2 жыл бұрын

The thought of death is never comforting to me tbh lol.. Not even when I'm depressed.

@suorsodavit7421

2 жыл бұрын

you're right. It's worst than depression.. sometime...

@bu4771

2 жыл бұрын

😭🖐

@bigsmoke6637

2 жыл бұрын

And it was frustrating thinking that you can't achieve it because you know your family loves you

I feel like "being single" shouldnt mean that your life isn't good. Theres still a ton of things you can do even without a partner.

@jinvonastrea1141

3 жыл бұрын

True but some people feels the need of having a life long partner to be there as a pillar to support him/her to get through the struggle. Could be a double edged sword if the partner end up hurting you instead of "helping" you.

@westernpigeon

2 жыл бұрын

People need to learn how to be alone. I've been in long-term relationships in the past but it's been a while and I've just been focusing on myself. I legit have zero friends, no one ever texts me and I literally have no reason for having a phone except for texting family members, watching youtube vids and being on twitter. It's truly sad that people nowadays rely so much on another person to bring them happiness, motivation, or whatever else. LEARN TO BE ALONE FOLKS! It's not as bad as it seems! I'm alone, but not lonely.

@mason8467

2 жыл бұрын

I think it's more of a societal standard from back then. If you didn't have a partner by 25 then you're doing something wrong

@remuvs

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, that's the thing I've learnt from random things like Mr. Bean. You realistically don't need anything to be happy, just enjoy your own company to make your own fun.

@MegaMan-bs3oy

2 жыл бұрын

Trust me I know alot of married people with kids who are JEALOUS of me and my abilities to do anything when i wanted to

I’m 21, dropping out of University and still living with my parents. Going to a job interview in a couple hours time. Thank you so much for sharing your own personal experience and insights

@quanta8382

2 жыл бұрын

Whatever happens, remember you are awesome!

@radicala246

2 жыл бұрын

Did you get it? Still gonna wish you goodluck!!

@BecTarot

2 жыл бұрын

@@radicala246 I did! Thank you so much :)

@honeysenpaiii6196

2 жыл бұрын

@@BecTarot that’s great! i hope i could find a job too with my age (20). i’m starting college soon and i hope i could find a part time job, not because i have to, but because i want to so that i would stop depending on my parents. i can ask money from them but it’s a shame that i still depend on them financially. however in the country where i live, it is hard to find a part time job if you are a student, because most employers find applicants who are degree holders, even though in a basic job like being a waitress or cashier in a fast food chain. ☹️

@user-ti2xi9bd4u

2 жыл бұрын

how the job went

To people who say "money doesnt bring happiness" is say " thats right, money brings freedom not happiness". Everybody has to decide for themselfs if freedom contributes to their happiness

@generalkenobi880

3 жыл бұрын

*Eren Jaeger wants to know your location*

@viennala2528

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 26 and I just given up on husband, having family(my mother is so toxic my whole life), I didnt finish my degree so now I just want to have money and do job I love or create company so I can have my freedom. I feel like money is only thing I need in my life right now 😔😔

@HiddenExp

3 жыл бұрын

​@@viennala2528 If you have lots of money and no time to be free, money turns meaningless

@DurzoGuile

3 жыл бұрын

Poor people who win the lottery are not free because they are undisciplined as fuck, and therefore not free in the slightest. You are right that money gives you some level of freedom, but then I think we could have a long conversation about freedom, which I am not very good at because I still have things to learn about freedom and being free. If that doesn't probe something for you, then I don't know what to say.

@Mark-dy9pc

3 жыл бұрын

and money is my happiness

Basically my mind: At Job : I DESERVE A BREAK At Break : NOO I AM PROCASTINATING Repeat

@FedeArgentina

3 жыл бұрын

stop wasting your free time in breaks then

@thanhluan3800

3 жыл бұрын

well i feel like i have to comment something though, people need breaks, actual breaks, not those "efficient breaks" that capitalist companies tend to give out for their employees, like Amazon has those "Employee-Designed Health and Safety Program",.. Just the fast pace of life in cities makes people feel like they haven't been productive enough, haven't make enough money and therefore life has been stressful more and more, which makes happiness and satisfaction is so rare. I wouldn't tell someone waste their freetime in breaks, but rather tell them to enjoy their breaks (depends on what makes them happy and gives them energy - so personal choices). What im trying to tell is you can do whatever you want, as long as it's healthy for your long-term mental and physical, those breaks are your source of energy for you to deal with daily society problems, and ye i think mediation would be helpful.

@Silver77cyn

3 жыл бұрын

Haha, so true lol.

26, never had a boyfriend, nobody who'd love me, im all alone.. im also getting extremely depressed each day more and more, and life is becoming to be like some universal joke i just don't get... im not expecting anything from life anymore, it's just walking to work, back to my empty apartment, sleep and repete. What a life. I failed at absolutely every aspect of it. I'm just tired of being alone.

@Airhead247

Жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing better now :)

@PalpyRNG

Жыл бұрын

What you described above also describes my life right now. I'm a 21yo man which doesn't have almost any real life friends anymore since all relationships went cold for a reason or another. Currently I expect having same schedule everyday

@user-oo6li2pr1t

Жыл бұрын

I hope you feel better too:( don 't give up

@fuzzypanda1684

Жыл бұрын

You have your own apartment and job, if a boyfriend is what you want, (obviously I don't know what you look like) maybe work on yourself. Getting a guys attention isn't that hard, if you're shy just make glances at him, if you're overweight sign up at a gym and learn about proper nutrition, trust me when I say you have it easy as a girl, trying to date as a man these days is almost impossible.

I’m in my early 30s, I felt the same way 10 years ago with my life. I was never really good at school and I pretty much wasted most of my 20s and ended up dropping out of college. It was a pretty big fall at the time and I ended up working in a minimum wage work. I was very deflated, I didn’t have anything and lived with my parents. In my late 20s I decided to go back to school because I really wanted to turn my life around. The subject I took in the continue education was IT related and it very challenging and sometimes I felt like quitting. In the end, it took about 4 years and I succeeded. I agree with the video if you want to make changes with your life, make changes in small steps. I am definitely happier than I was 10 years ago, but I wouldn’t say I am a happy person, there are a lot of stress at work. In the end of the day everybody got their own set of problems even for the ultra rich. I think the key to be happy is to work hard and look at your own fruit that you have harvested and not comparing with others. I think this is part of life, every age has its challenges, for young people is finding love and be successful. When you are old, you just want to be healthy and hope that you don’t get any serious illnesses. Be happy of what you have right now.

@Drake00000010

2 жыл бұрын

So are you doing IT work now? I'm 25 and IT is the only thing I wanna but I need this math course which is basic high school and I have failed twice. Granted I haven't try, I just have had a hard time studying. In fact I cant do anything, I cant bring myself to wake up early or do anything really. I just feel so pathetic and weak.

@edwardsnowden7442

2 жыл бұрын

@@Drake00000010 the only tip thats gonna help you is you have to do it,fuck excuses.

@xVadRay

2 жыл бұрын

I'm almost 24 and about to start college once again I wish you the best

@TheExilarius

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck guys, I'm on a similar path

After watching this and reading all the comments, I just realized how many people feel this way. Our culture is made to compare ourselves with others all the time, and that's why we feel miserable.

@sumkindacheeto

2 жыл бұрын

Right? Like every problem he listed is at least in some way a by product of godless materialism. Looking at money like a goal to attain is basically pointless since a) it most times will lower in value and b) the highest salary jobs will most times be the white collar ones, where you either are allowed to do nothing or pretend to contribute something to the world by moving around papers. Also sitting in one spot for 4 hours at a time is inhumane. It was during the school years, so it will definitely be so later in life.

Always compare yourself to who you were yesterday,not somebody else.We do not have the same starting conditions,they vary from person to person,thats why its wrong to compare yourself to someone else.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

^^

@IGamingStation

3 жыл бұрын

Someone's been watching Jordan Peterson, respect.

@rafaelalodio5116

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think this advices works for me because I think I am getting worse with time, so comparing to past me makes me fell like an even bigger loser.

@rafaelalodio5116

3 жыл бұрын

Joven Vincent Bravo with this mindset, probably brood and get worse

@chikipichi5280

3 жыл бұрын

Damn my yesterday self was better

I'm a 26 year old man who still hasn't moved out my parent's house because of college loans, and then medical bills. I have also never been in a real relationship, and never had sex cause I'm short and that's ugly apparently. However I have done so much since becoming an adult to improve myself, and experience things in life. My happiness won't start because I have everything everyone else I meet has. You're video helped me to remember that. Thank you.

@westernpigeon

2 жыл бұрын

hey dude, don't beat yourself up. I have a lot of family members above their 30s that still live with their parents and one of them has 3 kids. Also, I don't mean to sound like a cocky asshole but I'm a short dude (most likely shorter than you and I think I'm average looking) and I've had sex with different girls (many times). There is hope for everyone! I also see people make fun of short guys, especially on social media, and it gets to me sometimes but I brush it off my shoulders because I know that there is someone for everyone and I've been in plenty relationships. I also deleted all social media (except twitter lol). Seriously dude, don't let any of that bother you. What I like to think is that being short weeds out the girls with ugly personalities. Relationships purely based on physical attraction never last anyway. There is someone out there for all of us, whether its in your city, state, country, or on the other side of the world! Don't lose hope and keep your head up, fellow short-king! 👑

@sboshnello9767

2 жыл бұрын

@@westernpigeon thanks bro,this helps me helps a lot

@amanda1271

2 жыл бұрын

hey dude, being short isnt ugly! lots of girls (if thats what youre into) like short guys. You'll find them in time, don't worry.

@antoniopowell3732

2 жыл бұрын

@@amanda1271 I hate when people tag being short to wanting to impress girls I’m 5’7 and I could care less about girls at the moment I’m more focused on the Olympics. I’ve been training but I’ve come to the realization that I’m short and I most likely won’t ever win a medal in the sport I’ve been practicing almost my whole life like I’ve been training my whole life just for something out of my control to be the limiting factor Its made me HATE my mom she’s 4’11 I hate her whole existence like short women never think about having short or below average kids they’re just happy they got a guy above 6ft like my mom she just says “deal with it” “i could care less” it honestly makes me wanna kill my self it’s either gonna be that or I cut her out of my life completely maybe when I get enough money. And I kinda despise my dad who’s 6’2 like why are you even with a woman 5’5 and under? And if I live long enough to have kids my mom won’t meet them and they’re mother isn’t gonna be under 5’5. Short women are the worst they fuck screw guys who could’ve been tall out of a happy life.

@KKatushkaK

2 жыл бұрын

@@antoniopowell3732 "why are you even with a woman 5’5 and under?" Wow. You sound like a very sad guy when you speak so badly about your mother just because of her height and her choice to have a child. How shallow of you. I would think that you would have some compassion towards other short people, especially your mom, but no, you chose to be bitter. And 5'7 isn't even that short, more like average height. Happiness definitely doesn't revolve around height and you probably should come to that realization someday, it would help you not being so hateful. It is what it is, we all have been given different cards to deal with in life, some of us are short, others are tall, ugly, beautiful, stupid, intelligent, healthy or ill. But we should all try to be happy with what we have.

I'm 27, studied abroad until Masters, all on scholarship, came back home to live with parents, about to go abroad for my PhD studies again soon. In some aspects, I am doing better than a lot of my peers, but what you've just said is absolutely right--comparing myself with my peers has lowered my self-esteem so much that I have forgotten what I have achieved. Everyday, I see my friends posting how much they have achieved, how they have gotten rich with their multiple incomes on social media, and I compared myself with them, wondering what I am doing with my life when I'm this age but I still don't have a proper job. This video came just in time. Thank you

@copiouscat

2 жыл бұрын

Yeahh I’m 27 lived overseas since 23 and not even an associates degree 🤷🏽‍♀️ but hey I now have the financial means to go to get degrees up to a degree and have a housing allowance anywhere I want in the world with adequate planning. I felt so unintelligent & worthless for years next to my colleagues and some friends that have gone on to get their doctorates. Hell, even my younger sister Graduated University before me and my cousin is about to graduate with her JD and people ask me all the time what did I major in and once I say, I dropped out;everyone is baffled. But yeah just like you said “what am I doing in life” I felt that, and you are doing great because no one can take those skills and knowledge away from you. If you don’t mind me asking would you recommend studying abroad? If so, what University you went to & program ?

29 here! Every day seems like a countdown to the thirties and the feeling that i haven't accomplished anything big follows me everyday. Makes me feel that I shouldn´t dream big and be more satisfied with what I can get because I´m not that "young" anymore although I feel like I am. (and hey, pandemic stole me 2 years) Videos like this reminds me that in the end, everyone has their own pace (but most of the time we forget about it) Thanks for that :) And boy, quitting social media feels amazing.

@danns2784

2 жыл бұрын

even 30 is still a baby in life

@FerventReminder

2 жыл бұрын

Not to be dismissive of your comment but the 'pandemic' isn't the true villain which took the last two years, it's the evil hidden hand that is trying to take away every freedom we used to enjoy--they are who we need to unite to defeat.

@rigelr5345

2 жыл бұрын

"Every day seems like a countdown to the thirties" I felt that

@nayannegarcez6276

2 жыл бұрын

@@FerventReminder and by "evil hidden hand" what do you exactly mean?

@frenzobloxroblox1003

2 жыл бұрын

come get with a young jiggy man like me and drink the fountain of youth

I am physically fit, eat a healthy diet and possibly the best version of myself right now. But, I still feel behind like all my friends have jobs and have gfs and I have none of that, thankfully this video has given me a new perspective on life and I'm trying to get a job that I love and finally get my shit together and be happy with myself.

@iDoqz

3 жыл бұрын

good luck bro

@murielbolsa

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad im not the only one

@Durram258

3 жыл бұрын

Don't worry, now a days having a girlfriend doesn't mean your ahead, more likely that you've signed up to have your progress reset in a few years time. Fitness, friends and happy in your work is the main things, particularly for a guy, if you're good on those 3 things, you'll probably be happy.

@ghostbluster8900

3 жыл бұрын

If i could sort all these "wins", 1# healthy, 2# job, 3#love partner. You on the right track bro, being fit, eating good food and sleeping enough shoule be everyones top prioritiesc

@keanu4489

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I think you're ahead of your friends. Focusing on your own thing and not comparing yourself to them is so much better and healthier for YOU.

"Don't compare your step one to someones step one-hundred" No one has ever put it like this, and it makes so much sense. I didn't think i would get emotional today. Shit got me about to cry.

when most people say "I bought a house", it actually means they signed a 30 year contract to be slaves for the banks that actually own those houses.

@Miguel-ju3sf

2 жыл бұрын

Gotta rent or buy, that’s life but if you buy at least you’re building equity.

@kingsouth5329

2 жыл бұрын

@@Miguel-ju3sf true

@kingsouth5329

2 жыл бұрын

It’s either that or live with mom and dad

@ArtofWEZ

2 жыл бұрын

What you own ends up owning you

@kingsouth5329

2 жыл бұрын

@@ArtofWEZ you can sell it

I'm not even in my 20s, but I think that I needed to hear this. This advice could help me where I am at right now, and for my future self as well. Good video!

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Im happy you got something out of this!

@johnm.castillo3163

2 жыл бұрын

you are an angel of pure joy! You'll do well I know it.

@eyitsyaboi4527

2 жыл бұрын

same here i'm 18 definitely in that in between phase of life

I'm in last place on the loser boat aswell, 21, no college, drivers license & hs diploma. I don't smoke, I don't drink, and I'm not lazy. I've just got undiagnosed issues like anxiety & what not that really hold me back. My dad died when I was 4 and my mom didn't really help me learn anything.. we just kind of, co-existed at home and never went out. Now I'm living with my grandpa and help him out physically when needed. Pretty much everything I know is from youtube & google searches. Every time I've made money through youtube, or doing odd jobs and was able to buy myself something or pay for someone else's food instead of being co-dependent all the time was such a nice, joyous, and free feeling. I really hope I can get myself on track soon so I can continue to feel that way. edit: 7 months later doing tons better, forgot I even made this comment. hope all of you guys stumbling across this can find some relief & happiness soon, it's very stressful. I've been off social media since I was in my teens and I think it's the only way I have stayed sane and generally happy. Anytime I take a peek I usually regret it because I begin to compare. You will do worlds better without.

@matthewbougaard7132

2 жыл бұрын

you can do it bro just keep your head up

@brandondang5765

2 жыл бұрын

Just keep on pushing and everything will hopefully turn out for the best. If you wanna chat or anything all ya got to so is ask (over discord)

@777jones

2 жыл бұрын

It's good that you understand your context. It is a big amazing world. You are just discovering it. You are rich in time. Protect your health. HS diploma is no big deal.. if you can read and write, you can get one.

@lukeboy9376

2 жыл бұрын

@@brandondang5765 Sorry for late reply but could I also join your discord server?

@DayZGirl101

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, man. It’s comforting. Also really glad that things have gotten brighter for you! 🙏🏻💯

Anyone else feel behind in life? What do y'all do?

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

I'm pretty convinced that being lost is all part of the journey. As hard as it can feel sometimes, I try to enjoy the confusion and just see how things go. Social media is the absolute worst when you feel lost cuz it looks like everyone else has it figured out-- and they definitely don't lol. I believe in u!

@robingeorge7151

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. Feeling behind right now - Unemployed with 3 degrees, project management certificate, job experience, no girlfriend, emotional issues for a relationship, still dependent financially on my parents, slightly depressed and anxious, seeing my younger cousins get jobs before me, seeing my friends and cousins get engaged and married. I am battling with my faith but I try and maintain good friends, remind myself that things aren't as bad as it seems, focus on my hobbies, trying to search for jobs, trying to get a consulting profile up for myself and hoping for the best...

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

@@robingeorge7151 Sounds like you’ve been really going through the past few years but you’re determined to make it through! This may not mean much but I hope you get to where you want to be! Sending you all the good vibes I got.

@coffeeperson1461

3 жыл бұрын

I felt behind in my 20s, soon I will feel behind in my 40s.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

@@coffeeperson1461 just take it one day at a time :)

I started "falling behind" after I failed a bunch of classes in college (1st year, 2nd semester) when COVID hit and we all went to online classes. A couple of my friends and high school acquaintances have moved on to university (college and university are separate where I'm from) and it's been difficult to accept that relative to me, they aren't being set back, etc. Also, pretty much all my friends have jobs and are earning money and saving up for goals one way or the other, while I've been rotting in my room for the past 3 years without the desire or interest in getting a job, despite wanting to also save up and execute my own goals. And yeah, I'm not doing anything about it either. Just mindlessly scrolling through KZread trying to pass my time, and stumbled on this video.

i think the reason why its hard to stop comparing is because when youre younger there were a lot less opportunities and a much more linear path. therefore you can compare yourself much easier ,ex comparing grades or comparing who learned to read faster. but then when you get older there are so many different paths to take and more freedom to go about life in your own way, so comparison is a lot harder to accurately do but we dont realize that because weve been doing it so linear all our lives

Another thing is that people for the most part tend to post their highlights, achievements, and other "good" things that happened in their life and leave out all the bad so when you look at what people have done through something like social media, you are comparing all their "good" to your whole life which is both bad and good. Everyone has problems and just because people aren't posting them on things like social media, doesn't mean that they don't exist. So with what being said, comparing yourself to what others have achieved on things like social media doesn't seem like a fair comparison at all.

You just earned a subscriber. As a 19 year old that's currently on the grind for success, I can't wait to see how you grow as a person. Most KZreadrs I've watched make it seem like they've already attained happiness and are just merely giving tips about what worked for them. It's refreshing to see a KZreadr like you who's in the middle of achieving that happiness, I will take notes as you keep us updated about your life. We got this!

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely don’t have it figured out! We’re on this journey together

@jose000

2 жыл бұрын

... ...

@nupursasmal6848

2 жыл бұрын

I am 17 and I really wanna see him grow too!!

The Thumbnail is really me. Hits really like a knock out punch to me. I have no job and no love-life for now as a 26 year old guy.

Amazing video. I’m 20, living at my parents, no partner and my life is messy hoping that I can be happy after trying many many effort. My goal is to get a job of my domain but I still can’t reach it even after years and with a degree. I still lack a lot of experience and I live my days repeating the same process, stressing over and over again. I try to improve myself but there is almost no outcome to that. It’s a very good point to care about myself only and not on the others. Thank you very much for giving me hope to perseverate.

For those of you watching this video, I believe in you. I believe that you'll find your way around things. Even when everything seems to be falling apart, don't let go of your hope, because at the end of the day, that's the one thing that can keep us going. And, if you feel unloved or inadequate, even thought I don't know any of you personally, I'm here to say that I love each and every one of you. :) (unless you're just an asshole by nature lol)

The weird disconnect that I've been experiencing is that, although I feel generally behind in life at 21 due to circumstances both in and out of my control, I don't know where to begin making steps toward my goals because I don't have any goals. At least, I don't have any goals further out than a couple days at a time, and that is what terrifies me.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Hey! Sometimes we’re just in that phase of life where we’re taking days a day at a time. There’s no actually “right” way to live life. The goals will come as long as you can keep an open mind :) hope this helped!

@lash4954

3 жыл бұрын

having goals that stretch and the steps to take them are all up to you. it is legit about moving in your own time and in your own way. we all feel in a rush or maybe like we’re running out of time but the longer we think we’re wasting time, we’re wasting time then. those goals that start day by day could lead to anything. maybe that long term goal : )

@IchiJewSan

3 жыл бұрын

Its okay, I didn't find out my long term goals until I was 23 and I was wandering around aimlessly and wasting my time endlessly. Just experiment with your life. You're still young and have time to find what you want to do. But when you do find what you want. Don't let it go and be persistent. Find a reason to push on to the very end. A whole year pursuing a singular goal is a lot more time than you think. And if you're motivated enough and unrelenting you'll be surprised at what you can achieve. Never give up.

@cjlooklin1914

3 жыл бұрын

@@lash4954 That was well said

@kimpossible4587

2 жыл бұрын

Just start small somewhere, anywhere. And start by asking yourself, what do I want. It doesn't need to be major. Again, start small. Baby steps. Slow and steady. Do you want to be better hydrated? Drink a little bit more water. Get better sleep? Create a healthy bedtime routine. Fuel your body with more nutrients, swap out some foods you think you don't need with ones you think you need. Don't want to be on social media too much or watch too much t.v, decrease the time spent on those things and dedicate them to doing things you love. Don't know what you love, try anything and everything, within reason and budget of courses. Get a library card, take walks, go for hikes or runs, do body weight exercises at home or at the gym if that's something you want to do. Draw, color, paint, sing, even if you suck at it. Find joy in daily life and slowly but surely you'll start to find out what you want, what you don't want, what works for you, what doesn't work for you, and just like that, you'll be on a path to figuring out how to get more of what you want and what makes you happy. Start small and try things.

Its quite insane how you were able to condense this down so well for how ginormous of a weight those feelings are. Much needed, especially when this pandemic hit for us in getting out of school or being in school, etc. Thanks Sam!

This actually really helped me... I've been in a funk for the last 2 years. Thank you for reminding me happiness is a state of mind & to accept myself the way I am.

Love the vulnerability in opening up about this in a public setting. One Mcconaghey quote I love is "one man's appetite is another man's indigestion". We tend to project our insecurities onto the strengths we see in others around us while in turn devaluing the strengths we have that people would in turn project their insecurities onto. Keep plugging away, Sam, you're on a good path and I see your wisdom shown in this video as a sign you're in the right direction.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the kind words, Tristan! I hope this is the 'right' path haha

i just hit 30, have a decent job, cant find a house cuz the city is fckin expensive plus my parents still live in the city so i just pinch in the bills and stay with them. No car but got a bike. Only got diploma and i flunked my degree so i stopped studying. Not really interested in relationship but really in need of one just to make my mum happy. My life story at the moment.

@SeudXe

3 жыл бұрын

Good.

@sirmon3175

3 жыл бұрын

You're a great person keep it up

@dancingdev1088

3 жыл бұрын

I too live with my parents. And it is completely fine. Goal is to survive and be together. Common things between you and me is: no car but bike, living with parents, in my 30s, single, decent job.

@SeudXe

3 жыл бұрын

@@dancingdev1088 Your parents get old

@ikaros4203

3 жыл бұрын

@@SeudXe no shit? he can help take of em :)

There is an understated pressure in your 20s to 'get things done', and it is just ridiculous. Take life at your own pace. I'm 24, and I'm going back to University next year to start a new career. Think about it this way, we still need to work until we're about 65 anyway. No rush at all.

This video and the comments made me feel and think that I am not the only one feeling this uncertainty on my life, it's actually a relief and a motivation at the same time

Once I've accepted I'm a loser and that it's okay to be a loser as it's not entirely in your own control, I've found a lot of peace in my mind.

@kindredbr1932

3 жыл бұрын

the good thing thinking as a loser, winning has so much value!

I like what Mark Manson said about happiness, that actively pursuing it is actually acknowledging that you're not happy. Without bad there's no good, find your struggle.

Worry when you are 40 and still feeling behind, having with that one XD

@UnholyFrenzy_

2 жыл бұрын

I...I never expected to see you in a YT comment on a vid that I got randomly recommended. This was a surprise lmao

@Bob-em6kn

2 жыл бұрын

Oof

@FactusCactus

2 жыл бұрын

I am 40

@wowww1809

2 жыл бұрын

or 54

@badratymj9255

2 жыл бұрын

Hitting 30 no more job, never had a romatical relationship. I feel so depressed

That kind of things really help. I'm exactly 20 years old and feeling behind its something common to me but hearing this kind of things and knowing that is something that happen to a lot of people is really helpful. Thanks.

Apart from the great and meaningful content, I really can't stop thinking about why this guy looks so cute.

@Doors067

3 жыл бұрын

Its the broad neck but baby face. Appearance of youth but strength of a man

@jhintastic7941

3 жыл бұрын

yieee

@fahimzahir9587

3 жыл бұрын

It's cuz hes part of the Big Backs and Wide Lats Community.

@NNana-wo7ol

3 жыл бұрын

OMG you and me both

I'm 28, no drivers license. First generation of my Mom and Dad. Graduated college in the performing arts with a hefty amount of debt (~$60,000) and I live with regret because of it, or so I'd like to think. My profession happens be Dance; I can teach and perform improvisation within various forms of dance, everything ranging from contemporary Ballet to African dance. While it all sounds interesting, I walked away from it a few years back. Didn't feel like I belonged in the community, as its a reoccurring motif that I'm some anomaly in the mixture of personalities. Dance doesn't make enough money, so that's also part of why I haven't been doing it. I'd like to think I'm intelligent in some ways, but not enough as I'd like to be.. at the very least, emotionally. The effort I'm making to catch up with everything that is performance has been music. Alongside dance, making music was another passion that I didn't have the environment for growing up, however through my life and meeting a few good people, I'm doing my first set literally tomorrow (or erm.. today 8/1/21) with some original music for a House music/dance summit. Again, while this all sounds nice, I still feel VERY behind in my life. Perhaps its that I equate things to money, like the debt being the very reason I feel behind. No relationships because of no time or money. Got laid off in 2020 in March, so its been awhile since I've been social. Its very heavy on me. .. yeah.. watching this video made me feel a little better.

@hazelchief-rabbit5903

2 жыл бұрын

Man, reading your story actually makes me think you're more accomplished than me and I'm a year older than you. Though I really should stop comparing myself to people... ... I too have debt from uni and have been single all my life (though the latter is the least of my concerns at the moment). I graduated with an Arts degree and a Diploma in Languages all of which took me 5 1/2 years to complete (yes, I'm a slow learner). I didn't start working a "proper" job with regular hours until I finished my degree (I was 25). And after my contract with that job ended, I was jobless for about a year and a half. Right now, I'm doing something that's completely unrelated to my degree(I work in a supermarket). Even though I think that there's nothing wrong with my current job, sometimes I feel embarrassed when someone I know asks me what I've been up to lately or when people (i.e. coworkers and customers) ask me about my age. I look at my younger coworkers who have become supervisors and think they're well ahead of me. Not that I'm jealous or envious of them - if anything I'm happy they're able to get to that stage at such a young age (~19-21 years old) but sometimes it does make me question myself where I went or what I did wrong to make me this behind in life. On the other hand, I try to remind myself from time to time to be grateful for what I have and that life is not a race. Everyone moves at their own pace. Like so what if I'm working as a cashier chick at 29 years old? So what if I'm back to living with parents just so I could save money and pay off my uni debt? Of course, I don't want to be stuck working at this job for very long but at the moment, I don't have very many practical options. If I could go back in time and start all over, I would probably do things differently. But obviously that's not an option. The only way is to acknowledge and learn from my mistakes and move forward. Anyway, I'm definitely with you on this "feeling behind in life". But I'm sure things will eventually pan out for both of us. I wish you all the best with everything, man. (I on the other hand am still figuring out what I really want to do next, haha.)

@jose000

2 жыл бұрын

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@roiroi2923

2 жыл бұрын

Bruh I'm turning 30 this coming November 20 and I haven't got any work experience. I wasted years of my life after I graduated college at the age of 22 and couldn't pursue a job because my father would always get sick and I'm always the one to take care of him, I hated my father for taking his health for granted and causing the family suffering we didn't deserve. I wanted to get a job when I was 28 and then the whole world stopped because of the pandemic, to make things worst my father got covid and barely survived. We're still at the hospital right now beacause it's taking so long for my old man to recover. Everyday I wake up feeling angry because of the situation were in right now, then there's the feeling of sadness and regret. Every day I feel like shit and it doesn't go away. Now my confidence is really low and I always have doubts, what if I wouldn't be able to get a job because I got no job experience and I'm about to be 30. Man I wish I could still pull this off and turn my life around for the better🙏 Thank you guys for sharing your life experiences, God bless and good luck. I wish you all the best🙏

@mr.anonymous.2749

2 жыл бұрын

@@roiroi2923 Don't worry i know the feeling.

@emeralddreams888

2 жыл бұрын

I'm also 28 and also graduated in performing arts with 2 degrees. I walked away from my career at 25 after coming home from international engagements feeling completely defeated and burnt out, I was sick of being constantly on audition circuits. I also felt like an outcast in the community because of my personality. I'm fortunate to have met my current partner who's helped me immensely. And now I'm trying to get back on track after 2 years of hiatus. Performing arts is also pretty physical. We are essentially athletes. So I'm hoping to give it a last shot while my body can still handle the repetitive stress.

Thank you so much for making this video, I was feeling down today and this makes me feel less alone! Being in your 20s and having friends in different states of life is very hard because you keep comparing yourself to them

I'm already 28 and been having this "comparison trap" going on for as long as I can remember. It maybe different for others but what I did was use that comparison into pushing myself to be better -- not to my successful friends level but to a success/level that I want drive into. It was difficult, I felt bitter but the desire of my soul to be better was greater. Now, I believe I'm at a better standing in my workplace and I am more confident. It really is a combination of a lot of things like the tips on this video and I hope everyone wont give up. Cheers Sam and everyone!

Bro I suggest you to invest in a microphone and/or do voiceovers. Great content which gets overshadowed by the low audio quality.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the feedback bro. You can be completely honest here, but how much does my audio make it harder for you to keep watching my video?

@MastaBat

3 жыл бұрын

@@SamLui For longer videos it kinda does. I think especially in Videos with lots of talking audio quality is equally important for the experience. Also it would give you a more professional vibe and credibility

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Gotcha. Thanks for the tip! I’m going to start looking into mics 👍🏼

@Jay_Wolf

3 жыл бұрын

@@SamLui Yes, please! ❤

@Dulguunqb

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Sam Lui, how u doing? KZread just recommended me your video. For me Your audio quality wasn’t that bad though :))) Great message! Chilling music in background! I just loved it. Keep doing man! 🔥✌️💪

I love this man. I struggle with feeling behind everyday, as well as comparing myself to others, and pretty much everything else you said. I'm going to try my best to focus on myself only

Wise words, I totally agree on deleting social media!! I made the choice a month ago and now I feel free from all the comparisons that were holding me down. Life starts when you start being grateful about what you have and when you live everyday as it comes, when you open your eyes to appreciate the small moments of joy and remember them when you are down. Also, understanding that we are all in the same boat and that we should be dedicating our lives to making other people's lives better!! I hope that you may achieve all that you believe in and be touched by the wonderful process that life is. And next time someone says "what are you doing with your life?" you can say "I'm just living it!".

This is the most helpful video I've seen on this topic. Focusing on the process is a super helpful and real piece of advice. If you are not in love with the process you will always feel behind and you will always hit a roadblock in motivation. You have to love the process more than the outcome. Deleting social media is also key. Its all fake. And you're right. We all come from different starting positions and that only becomes more apparent the later you get in life. Love this message.

I don't know. I rather be like a millionaire like Kim and have a problem of losing 30k earrings than being broke and worrying about putting food on table and not getting evicted every week.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Haha fair enough!

@ed8961

3 жыл бұрын

There will always be a better situation one can be in. Once you obtain something, the thought of having it may not be what you had wanted, it doesn't bring you the joy you thought it does. Rather, be at peace with what you have, because if you are at peace at your lowest, imagine how it will feel being at your highest.

@xFlared

3 жыл бұрын

@@ed8961 I still think there's a difference between basic survival to live another day and being wealthy and having issues. The latter has an enormous safety net and sense of security that no matter what happens at least you can get food and have a roof over your head. The former not so. When you're rich you have the privilege to suffer at your heart's content. When you're poor there is no time and you literally have to bust your ass while going through all the pain, trauma, and life issues. When you're poor if you let your emotions get to you and you lose your job, you may end up homeless or worse, dead. This is what keeps majority of the population running on the wheel. It's fear. Imagine how different the world would be if we operated from a sense of love and abundance. No one would be able to exploit and control humanity.

@ed8961

3 жыл бұрын

@@xFlared No, I totally agree with you, it may be easier being rich with issues than being poor with issues. Not trying to deny there is an issue, but try to be at peace with whatever issues it is you may have. If being unhappy and worrying and despair will rectify the issue, then by all means. If it doesn't, it will only compound the problems you have. Being at peace doesn't require you to be happy, just acceptance. For if you are not at peace, regardless if you are rich or live in poverty, I feel that there will always be an never ending pursuit of something to fill in the emptiness. Not saying it's easy, but I feel like it will give us strength to move on each day to live life to it's fullest in the present moment, and also allows us to strive to achieve and improve ourselves as a byproduct and not a goal.

@ponternal

3 жыл бұрын

"Money aint everything not having it is" - Kanye

Thank you Sam, you can be so proud of how far you've accomplished!! Also a great quote I love: "You're only competition is the person that you were yesterday."

I know what I want to do and I know I can do it, but alot has kept me back. Even now I'm literally waiting for something important that I need to do coming up so I can end this slow crawl of a start. I'm grateful for the basics and I'm choosing to be happy or atleast neutral instead of being severely depressed like I was during HS.

Here is the thing guys… There’s nothing wrong about living with your parents. If you want the girl you need to talk to her even if you feel like you can’t do it, just try. Do what makes you happy, not what makes you the most money (unless what makes you happy is the money part). Just try (you’ll never truly live until you put yourself out there and try). You’re not the only one, many people around the world feel the same. Be patient, the journey is the most important part, not the outcome.

Didn't know I needed to watch this video, I'm slowly recovering from my inner demons making choices that are better for myself and not other people. Even my family. I don't feel behind, I feel lost to be honest. But thank you for this advice Sam!

"Don't let your happiness be conditional." What a powerful phrase! Thanks man!

I am in my mid 20’s and i really needed to hear this . Thanks for the quality content and great video .

“Don’t let you happiness be conditional”🧘🏽‍♂️❤️that was a nice advice. We tend to overwhelm ourselves with unnecessary pressure to keep up with the world and forget how to keep up with our mental health which can help up thru the little hick ups in our lives.🧘🏽‍♂️This video was refreshing to thought ❤️Thank you🙏🏾

In my early to mid 20's I had a great job doing what I loved, an amazing girlfriend, lots of savings and video/music equipment I'm now laying here at 28 and it's all gone, all of it. I lost my job, had to sell my equipment, my savings are gone, and my girlfriend of 8 years recently split up with me too. I'm now back in the exact same place as to when I was 20 haha Edit: This story is deeper, and I want to make a video on it one day

@baskeplaye009

3 жыл бұрын

You have experience tho...... Use it and start applying/rebuilding your life again. You are not in the same place you were at 20.

@adenosinetp10

3 жыл бұрын

:(

@sunnyarora3557

3 жыл бұрын

No worries brother work hard

@tyn2331

3 жыл бұрын

It sad, I'm assuming you lost your job due to covid? Many people are in similar situations. Unfortunately, the lockdown has done more harm then good. Killed many jobs and livihoods in the process. Divorce rates probably sky rocketed during these times too.

@discardmyfriends

3 жыл бұрын

Easy come easy go bro lol

In my early 20s I was a NEET for 5 years, severely depressed and given up on life. One day I decided to find an entry-level, labor-intensive job as an AV technician. I was partnered with a strong-willed senior co-worker who was in his 40s. I enjoyed my job but I was struggling to fit in the company. I quit after 3 months but continued freelancing in the industry. Fast forward a couple years. Now I'm 30 and thanks to COVID I'm back to being a NEET. I'm burning through my hard-earned savings, but I'm happy and content with life. I hear my ex-partner passed on from heart issues. It hits me hard - I stop trying to think and worry about things, and just enjoy the present more. If you're constantly worrying or feeling bad about your situation, you're not living life.

I thank you for lighten up my thoughts, having a goal is important and the progress play much bigger role to reaching your goal without the progress you nowhere to go further and that’s probably why you feel left behind. Just like the old said “The back waves will push off the front waves”.

Could not agree more! I find that keeping a journal also helps. At the end of every day, I write down all the things I'm proud of doing that day. Even if it's just waking up and eating three meals. Nobody becomes successful/athletic/socially adept instantaneously. It takes work and habit formation. And habits can take multiple first attempts and/or may be slow to start. If you always just aim to have a good day, then you'll find yourself over time enjoying a good life.

I needed this rn really badly after getting cheated on and in my 20s with no job or direction, damn but i still have so much around me. Family, friends, house, love, and life

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Sending you all the good vibes

Life is not a competition. Everyone has their own path and noone knows what the future holds. I hope you'll find more meaning in the little things you do in your daily life and realise how much you've grown and achieved so far 🌼 love the video!

I like how the key points are highlighted by stopping the bgm and it didn't sound like a lecture at all. Thanks for this.

I'm glad I became a minimalist. I can't feel behind if I have enough. Because enough is as good as a feast

@fatawkwardchungus8949

2 жыл бұрын

yeah true nobody is left behind if we don't have fancy things which add mo value to life

@Kyouma.

2 жыл бұрын

@@fatawkwardchungus8949 Right. I'm not against having enough money in the back (for when you actually need it), but earning lots of money for consum - or even worse, just to have more and more money - is just unnecessary

This is a great message. I've always told myself I want to be happy NOW and not just 30 years down the road! Still, sometimes the inadequacy creeps up. Thanks for the reminder! Keep making great content

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

It’s important to strike a balance so you don’t feel that you’re depriving yourself 🙂 thanks for watching!

Thank you for this. It made me tear up because i have feeling quite low. It made me feel so understood. Thank you from the bottom of my heart :)

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words 😊

thanks man, been feeling exactly like this for the past days. Sadly it is my parents that keep reminding me how others have succeeded more than I am.

I was feeling that way and worse today. I’m glad this video popped up on my recommended. Thank you for your kind words of wisdom.

This is reeeeeally good advice. I followed a lot of this unknowingly, and I am so happy with where I am, and have accomplished one of my biggest career goals. So underrated!! Hope this blows up!!

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear!! Thank you for watching!!

I enjoyed the perspectives so thank you 🙏🏻 💕 I made an “Evolution “ list of things I want to work on and/or continue to work on. When I re-read it I remind myself how diverse I am even though I don’t have much material gain. Small steps are being made to the finish line 🐢

Snapchat, twitter and instagram gone from my phone just by waching this video. I will now try and start to read books, wish me good luck man! Love from sweden

my man is spitting some truth goodjob!!

I'm almost 21 and the beginning of the year I finally did something with myself and got a part time job, still can't drive and don't even know what it would be like to live on my own so yeah I feel left behind.

@judgaming3041

3 жыл бұрын

You got this, bro. An adventure starts with a beginning, and clearly, you've already started. Now you're on the long run; there'll be ups and downs, but at the end of it all, you'll know that you've accomplished something 👍👍

@HonderdtachtigCC

3 жыл бұрын

everyone needs to start somewhere atleast your trying congrats even the richest people started with jobs keep pushing the sky is the limit

@taylor0000

3 жыл бұрын

You're not missing out on much if you try living out on your own with little funds. I would make the most of living at home and only move out when you can move into a place that you really like and have decent funds and income. This is what I wish I did, hope it helps. I did learn a lot of lessons though, living in 5 different share houses in 3 years. But now I am back at home at 23, almost 24. Driving doesn't matter, it can be a waste of time, public transport is better - you can be more productive, don't have to constantly think about the road/worry and you can be around people (unless dealing with COVID in the community, then driving would be better). Wish I was back at your age! Would not have moved into crap housing or drove so much.

@MalikRockie00

3 жыл бұрын

Living on your own is not that big of a deal tbh. This is just how the west is setting as an unnecessary standard towards us young people.

@brandondang5765

2 жыл бұрын

Some of the comments already mentioned this but I want to also chime in. Living on your own is super overrated. Living with your parents/guardians is always going to be a more affordable and easier solution than living alone. Sure, you can get independence away from your family for the first time, but with how the world is atm and how much crazy bs is happening, it solidifies how important it is to stay close to family.

My friend said to me that Happiness is a choice. Never have i ever given that phrase a thought unless I watched this video. Thanks Sam!!

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Wise friend you got there ;)

Preach it! I've gotten out of the USMC a few years ago and while I was gone, things changed and people changed. Now that I returned 3 years ago I'm still adapting. It feels like to me time had frozen those 4 years in.

Man I am only 20 turning 21 and honestly as of late I cannot help but feel this way like I am left behind or that my life is going nowhere. But I am sure glad that I came across this video today because I really needed this video in my life. and whoever reads this, and comes across this video, a) I hope you have a nice day and that you get the things that are meant for you when you get them and b) I hope you benefit greatly from the advice given in this video

Great video! I've realized that social media is just so unhealthy for me. I rarely use it now and I feel so much better.

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Social media can be a double edged sword for me. But im glad u feel better without it!

I'm 22 going on 23 and I feel this. I'm about to graduate with a degree and I have a decent job lined up, but I feel like I've already wasted my youth away. Basically have spent nearly a decade spending 90% of my time indoors and not living life like I should have. Meanwhile my peers are already married, traveling, etc. It sucks.

thank you, you don’t know how much i needed to hear this right now

I totally agree with you! And something that I do almost every day, including when I'm feeling down, is to tell myself that everything is already great, like I already got to the point I aimed to get in life. The truth is far from this, there's so many goals to arrive at. But nevertheless, I am really happy that I made so much progress in my life. I need to be happy with who I am now, because that's the person that will work hard to get somewhere. I can't be anyone else. It's a mind trick, but it works for me :)

This is what I needed right now, and I didn’t even know it! COVID makes it feel like no progress is being made.. thank you!

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching!!

So i was doing fine till the 2019 but since the pandemic broke out, it started all falling apart. I just completed my high school with such poor grades that i thought i'm gonna end up wasting my youth and failing miserably in life. This video kinda helped me a lot dealing with the stress and anxiety that i was going through. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Keep doing it!!

The guilt was eating at me the most. And ugh, that explains it! I am able to feed my body, sleep under a roof with running water and unlimited wifi, BUT I have been struggling desperately to find that psychological safety in many aspects of my life. Safety has been the hardest need to fulfill for me. Thank you for the clarification!

THANK YOU. honestly, the key is to be content with yourself.

Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I'm 23 and I've actually done a lot in life so far, like I've graduated from a good college, I had a dream career for a while, and am now getting my Masters, but I still feel so unhappy and behind. I think it's because none of my friendships have lasted (I don't live in one place for long) and I've never dated anyone. When I see people getting married and hanging out with friends on social media, it makes me feel so incredibly lonely. But what you say is true, I shouldn't compare myself to others, especially since I'm taking a different route, one that has so far been career and school focused. It's also helpful to be reminded that nobody has it all, particularly at this stage in life. Yes, someone may be getting married, but perhaps they are not doing what they want career wise, or maybe someone has their dream job, but hasn't met the right person to share their life with. Good things happen, but not all at once.

@nekomei2640

2 жыл бұрын

wanna b friends?

@sick0delic639

2 жыл бұрын

why you wanna get married at 23?hell no

@karmaalwaysprevail1202

2 жыл бұрын

Just do what makes you happy

@Lee-Hayoung

Жыл бұрын

Yosh. I'm 28 and feeling so reliable. True, we can't just compare to other (even though it's challenging and depressing), but I got to try my best and not let the negativity gets in the way of my passion for drawing and working on an art career.

@no-name1025

Жыл бұрын

@@Lee-Hayoung hey, i'm the same way. do you have an instagram or something to share your art? would love to see yours, and if you want to be friend too..

Wow this really helped me see things in a different perspective. I am 21, and currently I have worked since I was 18, started going to college since I was 19 studying computer science, and have a girlfriend. I never thought I'd have any of these things, even after everything I've been through. Everyone has their process and their struggles, eventually you'll find a purpose.

21 and this is a sign. No job currently, feel like I'm just waiting for the next day to come everyday, no income, living in a housing program....yeah...

Thank you for this. I agree with this. You know what they say “you’re so busy trying to make a living, you forget how to live.” Live in the present. Always.

Hey guys, I’m with you! I spent 2,5 years from my 18s and graduating a school on begging my ex bf to go with me to Poland and study together at uni. This year I more or less got myself together and applied to my dream uni dream city but my ex returned and before moving to my dream city I sabotaged myself again, I came to the city and I was all alone chaotically trying to fix everything in one second but I couldn’t handle it mentally and I returned home. I’m on my 3rd gap year , I have a diagnosed bipolar disorder, I’m stuck in a town I hate but I’m still hopeful. This is my reality and if I failed it I can fix that Hope you guys here will get over these hard states too and remain hopeful and optimistic because man we are on a floating rock nothing in this life is so serious and worthy to worry about

All of this really hit home 😭👌 As someone always looking for the next step to improve myself and reach my goals I often tend to put so much pressure on myself and forget to be proud of where I've already worked so hard to reach 😅 So so important to remember to be kind to yourself 😊🙏 Awesome video man ❤

I definitely feel like this a lot. I look at my peers and how far they've progressed in their careers in the past 2 years. Some have done amazing internships and are doing well. Some are getting married and having kids. It's easy to fall into the trap of inadequacy. I think I have to remind myself, like you said, of everything I've accomplished. In the past two years I finished my bachelors, masters and started my own business and am starting another with a family member. I think we are all told to not be narcissistic but also at the same time, to not appreciate ourselves. I really want to try to appreciate myself more. I may not be where others are, but I am working on my own alignment. That's what matters. Thank you for making this video. It was comforting.

Just found this video. It feels so GREAT to find others that I can relate to. I just graduated pharmacy school, I have 200K student debt, I am unable to to get a job that I want / currently at a job that I really dislike and I also moved back to my childhood home. At the moment, I am studying for my board exams. At the same time, Im just feeling super lost and unsure of my future . I try practice gratitude daily to overcome the negative emotions. Thanks for sharing!

Underrated video, with great advice. Thank you for showing me your point of view on happiness and life, I have realised that the reason that I stopped working out and self improving was because I compared myself to others all the time, it made me lose motivation and eventualy give up. Hope more people hear your advise ❤️

@SamLui

3 жыл бұрын

Comparing yourself to others can be hard on the self esteem. We just gotta focus on our own lane and go from there! Thanks for watching!

@petersmulders8058

3 жыл бұрын

Never joined social media only KZread I’m 20

@howtoadultschool

3 жыл бұрын

This is such an underrated comment, it's so true! Comparing myself to others reduces my motivation as well. I'm working on just comparing to my past self to see real progress, and started documenting things a few years ago to keep track of this.

I feel super behind in life. I really enjoy being a content creator and its something that no one else is doing in my family. Everyone is either in college pursuing a degree, or has a job and is making money. What they're doing is great and all, but I have no interest in doing what they're doing. I want to be on youtube and make this my career. It's just that I have no one to turn to for help or for some advice because I'm alone in this and no one else understand my situation. The fear of not be able to make it as a content creator and the pressure of having to meet my families expectations are weighing down on me. I don't really have a way to deal with how I feel and I'm pretty stressed from it all. This video is honestly really good and I'm glad I clicked on it. I rarely share personal things especially online and I think this video is great for anyone feeling the same way that I do. Thanks Sam.

I really like this video and I believe in this message. It is all about the attitude you wake up with, and appreciation for what is here now. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing this message. Your video is so simple yet it speaks a lot. I'm 24 and still finding my way how to start my own life. Continue inspiring other people like me. Thanks!

@SamLui

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alvin! You got this!