It's not that everything will be ok...it's that you'll be ok in spite of everything.

@russellhale8160

Ай бұрын

That’s definitely it. When someone says “everything will be ok” I know what they mean and that if I keep my chin up a fight for myself that things might start looking brighter, but I know so many people don’t understand that. I try to tell them but I never can find the right words. I always end up saying “everything will be alright”. What should I say in the next situation a friend is in?

@satoru2169

Ай бұрын

me when im actually not ok 😑

@Vibing_Colors

13 күн бұрын

@@russellhale8160 I might be wrong, but what you described about you having to ‘keep your chin up to fight’, can be resaid to a friend youre talking to if “everything will be okay” isn’t reassuring to them.

"Even if nothing worked out the way you wanted it to, life might still impress you." 😭😍💖

Mr. Barker, your sincerity has an healing effect. Thanks 🥲

This made me cry because ive been stuck in kind of a bad place for awhile, and all i ever hear is “it’ll be ok” and that’s never been super reassuring to me

I was going through a really bad spot earlier this year and I have this teacher who was picking up on my behavioural changes. I went to see her because she had asked about me and I knew I could trust her. I immediately broke down crying. She spent time listening to me and letting me cry and offering everything she could. The last thing she said to me after we talked for half an hour was ‘you’re going to be ok, you’re going to be fine. It may not be the ok you want, but it will be ok. I will make sure of that’ She is the person I go when I need someone to pull me together, or let me fall apart. Thank you so much for getting me through my days.

@Vowell.

Ай бұрын

Sincere thanks for sharing, this immediately made me feel better as well. ✨

@satoru2169

Ай бұрын

must be nice to have someone who cares

As someone who's fought depression and other conditions for half my life, it's ao nice to hear these words. I'm in a better place already, but hearing you talk feels like someone is soothing the pain of old scars. Plus it's great to have new words and phrases to use when helping others

Man... After getting 1 job interview in 4 months (and not getting it, of course) I was feeling some kind of way about life... This really helped me, I really needed to hear this, thank you.

@saraahhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Ай бұрын

You got this! Everything will work out the way it's supposed to, it always does. Even if we don't like it at first 😊 sending you love and good vibes friend.

@saintejeannedarc9460

Ай бұрын

I'm glad you got the encouragement of a job interview, and you managed to make it and got through it. That's progress. It will happen eventually.

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

You’re so welcome 🙏🏻 it’s gunna be okay

@xoxjelloxox

Ай бұрын

Wish you luck

I love the way Matthias expresses ❤. So assuring. So soothing.

Thanks for this different take on those words. To be honest, to me it just sounds like people are dismissing my pain and are just telling me that things will be fine, so they don't have to bother being there for me or support me with anything. Because, it will be okay anyway! It never felt supportive at all. On the contrary. It felt like neglecting and ignoring the severity of what I was facing. And thereby leaving me utterly alone with it.

This video put things into perspective for me in a big way. I'm a 40 yr old woman, and to this very day, my dad is my biggest supporter & champion. He knows I'm a pretty cynical person, or maybe it's better to say that I'm numb to the optimistic words he always has for me when I'm going through tough times. "It's gonna be ok," And "This is your year, I can feel it, " etc. Lately, he prefaces these statements with something like, "I know you're probably tired of me saying this, but..." I always tell him I'm never actually tired of hearing his words of encouragement, and in fact, one of the many reasons I love him so much is because of his optimism (for all of the things in life really) because I need that when I don't have it for myself. I couldn't imagine where I'd be if I didn't have at least one person in my life believing in me. I feel really lucky that person is my own dad. I love how you explained this situation. That it's the language of hope & that it's ok to let people hold it for you when you can't find the strength to hold it for yourself. Thank you for making these videos. You're in your perfect career. Your perfect place. Please stay here as long as you can. You are helping a lot of us navigate through the truly hard stuff ❤

I feel that in my bones. During puberty and as a young adult, I struggled for several years with depression caused by a serious loss. More than once I felt so hopeless that I wanted to put an end to things. I'm really glad I didn't and that I had great people around me who loved me even in my darkest times, even though I was bitter and angry at everything and everyone. Life surprised me, and although I still have dark moments in my life, I am so grateful for every day I get to spend with these wonderful and loving people around me.

When I told my friends that things are going to be okay and they refuse it. I told them "Hey, life is a mess, we don't know what will happen next or what disaster that will come. But the people you care will be there for you, perhaps not all of them but you got me, I care for you and I will be there for you. And I will always be here for you"

I wish i could send this to my best friend, but she is struggling and has pushed everyone away. The more i try to be there for her, the more she pushes away.

Feels like a HUG !!!😊🥺 THANK YOU !!

Wow, I love the expression of love in the language of your words. I love love love.

I truly appreciate your insight, the perspectives you bring are so valuable and sincere. Thank you.

This feels like a monologue for a theater audition

Your videos are beautiful! The message, hopeful. Your voice, soothing. The lighting, perfect. Thank you and I wish you so much KZread success!

New sub! I’ve been helping people deal through their traumas in discord and i’ve been running out of comfort words 😓 thank you for this video!! ❤

Grateful to have come across this message 💕🥰

The last few months have been a disaster (death and sudden divorce) but the most helpful person is the one who reminds me that I am strong and that I will get theough this

This is exactly what mean when I say this. I say "it's all gonna be alright" so often, but I sometimes worry if my words seem empty to those I love. But what you just so eloquently articulated, that is just what I mean.

I love your precious insights. Blessings

So many videos where you inspire me deep wisdom❤

I have almost died twice now and I can tell you that I don't react to bad things that happen like I used to. I can now see the bad thing and think, "Is there anything I can do about it right now? If not, then let it be, and deal with it when you can."

The language of faith, my friends. Everything will be okay 🙏

Shareholders and investors siphoning off money from companies while demanding endless growth is literally what's driving the economic hellhole we are living in. One upside is that infinite growth is literally impossible, so the system will collapse eventually.

I’m so fucking tired of having to be resilient

You made me cry with this video and I’m not okay. 😢

Thank you

I got diagnosed with ms in march and this hit so hard, thank you

I used to get mad when they'd say this when I was in a midst of grieving

I personally prefer "everything will be better, even if just a little bit, it will be better"

I’m naturally a hopeful person. I seek or do my best to point out the good in bad situations or things; some people have shut me down for that, or have criticized and even mocked my hope. I’m always hurt in that they choose not to allow themselves to hope, nor allow someone else to hope for them.

Okay, I know I'm bad at giving compliments. But you're really good at not crying when saying anything emotionally informational...

As a Muslim who trying to get right woh my religion I want to let you know I spent years (most of life) being out of the fold due to trauma and things that i wejt through but the day my LORD called me into Islam, the day i prayed, made dua, worshiped the world changed for me. I have true faith everything will be okay even if its not okay by what i understand. I am still working towards my religion although i fall and stumble on my way i am better for it. When I die i hope , i pray it is in a state of true faith and return to ALLAH and be pleased with me in Shaa ALLAH Ameen Ya-Rabil alimeen.

I know one thing I needed to hear the most when I was at my worst was its ok to not be ok all the time. It would have made me feel like how I felt was valid and ok to feel like that.

Thank you for this channel

I personally find the "you're far more resilient than you think you are" very cynical. "You know, regardless how much you suffer, I won't lift a finger to help you, because you're sooo resilient, you don't need help."

@LO-dm6uf

Ай бұрын

Wtf??? How does that imply that the person doesn't wanna help? That seems like a you problem lol you hear what you wanna hear

This is what i need right now, thank you, you are helping me to understand myself

Nothing ever really goes to plan for me, but that's okay. You weren't a part of my plan. You weren't a part of my expectations You weren't a part of my "okay" But you are now And you make life impressive and surprising I know I say it'll be okay, and I mean I know you'll get through whatever life throws at you. I'm going to be here To make sure you are okay That you are actually going to be good. I wanna help make you better off than before you met me. I wanna make life matter and be okay.. for you

This is so true, you are very wise I know because I have had chronic depression and anxiety for decades.

Sheer gold

Thank you 😞

I've been a cynic since I was 14, and my mother lost her life. These were the last words she spoke to me from a hospital bed while she was dying age 37 from a heart attack. It felt like the biggest lie I was ever told. I'm 32 now, watching this. And all I can say is... I'll try... I'll try not to be so cynical...

I told my sister that today… she was stressing me with so many concerns and i told her everything will be fine… in the end it is all a matter of time with few actions and things will eventually change

Very important!

❤❤ this. Thank you

Word.

i dont think im doing to bad, nor do i think im depressed, but i once had a though along these lines. people say say everything is okay, everything is not okay, its my job to make sure it becomes okay, i know its not as inspirational as what you said, but it made me feel a bit better because it meant that i would just need to rely on myself to make something okay

I wish I could like this a million times over. Thank you.

Matthias, that’s so beautifully written. Thank you for that! ❤

Your editing, music choice, and expressiveness are very well tuned for your content. Well done, i think you have positioned yourself very well.

I needed this

Thank you so much

thanks…

Man, I really like your videos

You are GOOD

I like the reframe, however for me, in the moment sometimes, “Everything is going to be okay” sounds invalidating of my current feeling experience. It’s not that the other things aren’t true, it’s just that in some moments, they don’t feel like it. And I personally prefer that someone sit and say, “I hear you.”

Id rather listen to this that preaching❤

I needed that

I know buddy, thank you.

This mad me cry

Thank you so much! This is beautiful

So needed this right now ❤️

I feel like I could just listen to you talk on and on and I would be perfectly happy. Well, that and feeding me a bowl of pasta at the same time.

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

So happy you’re here 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you! 😊

New subscriber, totally random. Awesome stuff

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

So happy you’re here!

..all things work together ❤ for good to they that believe..

Everything fell apart. I want to make an impact nothing made sense. I made imagination a great part my life so I can live my heart. I hate to become jaded. I am here to make an impact.

Thanks cutie 🥰

🙌🏻❤️‍🔥

❤❤❤

Hope feels like a foreign language when you're downing in grief. I'm trying to hold onto it, because I know that's what my mother would want. It's hard to enjoy the good things happening without her, both because of that fact and because I'm waiting for something to take the good away again. I'm trying to let others hold out hope for me.

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

My hearts with you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

He talks like a Disney prince and I mean that in the most pure wholesome I could listen to him speak for hours kind of way

I like your videos!

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

So glad to hear it! Thank you!

You are so beautiful, you have such kind eyes and cosy comforting warmth 🥺🥰☺️❤️✨

❤

Everything will be okay. But not everything will be how you want it to be

This is so helpful. ❤

You are one gifted trauma therapist ❤

I really wish one day I can find a partner that has a heart like yours ❤

i needed that....

But they literally say this for things that might actually be life ending. But in the grand scheme of things, everything will be okay even when I'm not. So are they really trying to reassure me, or themselves?

❤❤🎉🎉😊🙏🏻

Wow, this man is cute 😍

Can you do a webinar with Dr. Jake Goodman. ?

Which means you will have to survive way more psychological breakdowns.

It’s becoming more and more difficult to accept euphemisms like this. They feel like lies or fillers. Like they are saying “bla bla bla” then change the subject. It’s difficult for me to tell the difference between those who really mean it & those who just say stuff cause that’s just what people say.

@ShastaMusic

Ай бұрын

Yeah, meaningless platitudes like that only make me feel worse. It feels dismissive and sort of condescending. Maybe if I was just having a tough time, or kinda bummed out that would be helpful. But dealing with MDD, it's sort of a ridiculous thing to say and expect me to take any comfort in.

Jesus loves you guys!! He can heal you, Jesus died to pay for all of humanities sins. And all you have to do for Him to heal you is believe that He is God/the Son of God, and that He lived, died, and rose again! Living with Jesus is truly freeing. God bless you guys! 🫶✝️

it’s over.

@master_of_krynn

Ай бұрын

nuuuu !

Ok, what is this? What is KZread trying to tell me?

Yeah, but not many people understand it so I try to avoid using this sentence as much as possible

Only people who have told me "everything is going to be okay" are random people making videos on the internet

Well, most likely you get cynical because in a lot of times the "you're gonna be okay" is said and meant like your problems aren't really problems that you're just exaggerating and just don't want to deal with you not being okay.

excuse me sir your channel is very important just thought you should know ❤

@MatthiasJBarker

Ай бұрын

So nice of you! I’m glad it found you!

But... I mean, it isn't true. No, not everybody and every life will turn out okay. There are so many people who suffered for years and years and died not being okay at all. So saying "it will all be okay" doesn't help me, because it is crystal clear that in a lot of cases it isn't. And people can't know how my case will turn out. If people say this, I always understand one of two things: "In some time, you're not even allowed to say that you're not okay, because everything turns out to be 'okay' and if you're not, you're the problem". And: "we don't know s**t but people expect us to listen to you so we're giving a bullshit answer because we don't want to deal with you having problems".

This is not true for me. But I do like the idea of letting others hold out hope for you...I guess if it makes them feel better I shouldn't shatter it, even though I know its not true.

If I could sum this up… God is on the throne

I thought listening to this would help... Guess not....