Going to the toilet and bathing was the hardest part...the healing process is a milestone

This video really appeals to me! My first was a hospital birth of a 8lbs baby. Epidural, episiotomy and tearing. My second baby in a birth centre with a midwife, an unmedicated waterbirth of a 11lbs 8ounces baby. No tearing ! I was so happy!

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

It’s amazing what birthing with support and choosing your own delivering position will do, right?! Congrats to you and thank you for sharing with us!

@tootynuggets

3 жыл бұрын

11lbs!?! Holy smokes that's incredible!

@user-lo3jg4zh9z

2 жыл бұрын

Could you please explain about the position you were in during your second delivery.?? Was that position was your own choice or your midwife instructed you? Ur reply might help me for my second delivery..

@annacrisf

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-lo3jg4zh9z I was in the bathtub, sitting down, my husband was outside the bathtub holding me from behind. The midwives didn't instructed me at all, they left me free to choose the position I felt more comfortable in.

@user-lo3jg4zh9z

2 жыл бұрын

@@annacrisf that's great.. thank you Soo much🥰

The tearing part doesnt scare me so much as the recovery especially using the bathroom afterwards 😨😥

@asmaakalake5063

4 жыл бұрын

Trust me. Pooping after is HORRIBLE. I've had my baby three weeks ago and I'm still struggling with this. 😭

@alexisbradley2225

4 жыл бұрын

TAKE STOOL SOFTENERS!!! It will help so much!

@saraicastro7984

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah when I gave birth I didn’t feel the tearing at all but afterwards you bleed for a couple days the first time you pee after birth hurts and it hurts to sit down too

@silvervase

3 жыл бұрын

My advice is put some water or witch hazel on a pad (just enough to make it barely damp) and throw it in the freezer. This acts as a natural icepack and can relieve pain. Also use a squeeze bottle, no wiping. Get some hemroid cream for your bum. Epsom salt baths are great for cleansing. (I tore naturally. This helped a lot)

@jennielsteele1184

3 жыл бұрын

The only way I got through was using warm water in a peri bottle while I peed, and lots of stool softeners. A few prayers doesn't hurt either lol

I’m not pregnant yet but you have a wonderful and super informative channel. Thank you so much for your time n knowledge.

@CajunStork

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Happy to help!!

overhere in the Netherlands, they dont do episiotomies. They let woman deliver on a special ' bench' with a whole in it, in sitting/squatting position. They let them tear, and repair the tear. The tear is how NATURE wants you to open if you need to. Cutting artificially with a blade thru the skin fibers, is painful, will heal painfully and is often seen as mutilation.

This video alone has basically confirmed without a doubt that if I'm low-risk I'm delivering out-of-hospital with a midwife. Its true, you all are well-trained in normal birth.

@szherman7888

3 жыл бұрын

Kæla Brown It’s your body your choice but women do hemorrhage after birth (like I did). I lost 1500ml of blood, my friend lost 2000ml I thank G-d for modern medicine and the fact that I was in a hospital. I was pro home birth but my family convinced me to deliver in a hospital and I’m so glad I did.

@amarahsrabbitry1073

2 жыл бұрын

Our bodies can do this! Midwifes are experts at birth, but doctors are a jack of all trades. I feel much safer under a midwife’s supervision. Also, she will check in with you a few times after delivery to make sure everything is still good and you don’t require medical intervention. :)

I like your approach to an episiotomy. That's exactly how I want it to go for me, no episiotomy unless to save the baby.

I love her calming voice and sweet disposition. 🥰

Thank you so much. I am in my third trimester with my first baby and your video is supportive in helping me keep calm:)

This video made me feel so much better and more confident.

Your videos are giving me so much more confidence than I already had for my upcoming birth!

I’m due in 3 weeks, grateful for your videos. Prenatal classes cancelled due to Covid19, these videos really help.

@CajunStork

4 жыл бұрын

I’m working on a class! It will be a while though :)

I agree against the perennial message. I am soon to have my ninth baby, all of them natural. It was with my fifth pregnancy that I was told do do perennial messages to help the stretching. It made it worse. First of all, you are supposed to stretch your perenium until there is a slight sting. All that did was bring to mind the feelings of crowning all over again, and psychologically did me a great disservice when it came time to labour. Secondly, you’re Perinium isn’t meant to be stretched before birth. The hormones that are present at birth are what makes your undersides stretch to do what it does. I am now firmly convinced that trying to Prestretch your perinium without those hormones present is only breaking those muscle fibres down there and they have to repair themselves stronger from the abuse, thus actually hindering the stretching during birth. It was during my fifth labour that they told me I had a mild tearing. Have never done it since, and all my labours that I haven’t done it, there has been no tearing. I would like to include that I also tried to have many baths with oils, especially in the last trimester with olive oil, or avocado oil, which is good for skin elasticity. Or just rub oils directly on. And stay hydrated. I usually birth on my back, but tilted to my left side as much as I can.

I had such ban flashbacks and basically most symptoms of PTSD after my first delivery because of the episiotomy that the midwife did. My daughter had a stellar apgar score so I doubt that she was in danger. The midwife was angry with me because I was "taking to long" "didn't push enough" she talked me into lying on my back, she didn't like that I refused pitocin.... The episiotomy hurt so bad, she didn't even warn me, she didn't say a word after, she took my daughter away from me and only brought her all bundled up.... I paid for a private midwife for my second child and it was the best decision I ever made ❤️

@Shield954

7 ай бұрын

Good call on the pitocin. A lot of women have reported pitocin to cause excruciatingly painful contractions, even worse than regular natural contractions.

Aaaw, five weeks pregnant with my first. Was searching through KZread and I must say your channel is super informative . I wish you could be available worldwide and be my midwife 😊you make the whole experience sound so positive 👍👍👍💙💙💙

Thank you so much !! This is very helpful and I feel more confident and less scared now !

Great video, I'm pretty clear about what I want now. Thank you!

Excellent info. Very well explained. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this, it really eases the anxiety.

Very important video! Thank you!

Thank you for this!! 🙌🙌 EVERYONE I've watched recommends Perineal massage 🙄 Glad to hear it's actually not that necessary... Wish you were my Widwife!

Thank you for this video and sharing your professional knowledge! Very helpful and educational. ❤️

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback! It means a lot :)

I needed this video so badly. Thank you 🙏😭, I feel so much better now 😊.

Thank you so much for this information.

Good information,wish I new this before having my child.

Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏻

Thank you!!!! Now I can make an informed decision, Very appreciated!

@drzenkobilas7770

4 жыл бұрын

Tearing and the need for episiotomy is totally avoidable, if you have 'birth canal widened to 10cm diameter' prior to the start of birth. Oxford wrote up the method and the birth trainers Aniball and EPI-NO Delphine Plus achieve this also. Please view KZread video 'Opening Doors for Baby to 10cm' and 'Birth Explained for 16+' Thank you.

Wish I had these videos to watch before my deliveries, i was not educated on any of this and now my problems are for lifetime😒

@mackenzie-deltadurocher

3 жыл бұрын

Pelvic floor physiotheapy CAN and WILL help. I promise! Check out @ladybirdpt on Instagram for tips and book with a local therapist if you can 💓 you do not need to have issues for life. I promise!!

@enyrue1792

2 жыл бұрын

Same here it's really affecting me 😭 emotionally

Aaaw! I hope that I can find a midwife like you here in the UK when I eventually get to have a baby, you're right up my street on every aspect of what you said. Thanks for being a star and encouraging a womans body to do what it was designed to

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

What an amazing comment! Thank you Michelle!!

This definitely helped me with my worries about tearing.

@raksapeov7201

3 жыл бұрын

If only our doctor is aware.

Due in two weeks ... This video is so helpful in calming me down about tearing

Very helpful. Thank you.

Thank you, this was very informative and made me feel a lot better about my fear of tearing and helped me to make my decision against having an episiotomy.

Very well explained........

Thank you so much ma'am for sharing your views

Awesome, love all your videos.

Thank you I’m expecting my second child & have that fear of tearing or being cut in my neither region (like everyone) so this video was very informative & affirming. I only had a slight natural tear (that didn’t require any stitches) with my first - & I had an epidural & delivered her on my back - but I did have an excellent midwife who guided me so that I avoided a bad tear. As it’s a 17 year gap for my second I’m worried I could still tear if my baby is born too quickly or if I get a poorly experienced midwife/Dr this time round so I appreciate any tips I can get! I also ordered the epi-no (ani-bal device) to train & stretch the muscles in the vaginal region to avoid tearing also!

This video was so informative. Thank you so much! You are awesome!

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks! Good luck to you!!

My sister was induced and had her baby in the hospital. Without asking or letting her know the doctor was preparing to do an episiotomy even though there was no indication that it would be necessary. She had also specifically put in her birth plan that she did not want one. She was lucky her personal midwife was there and caught it before it happened.

@camilaej5476

Жыл бұрын

Reading this makes me so angry! Thanks for that midwife!

Hi 2:38 yes is not the same sensation great video with a good info 👍👍

This is really helpful. I want to try avoiding episiotaamy but not many articles or people are talking about this.

Thank you for this. I’m a first time mom and I’m really anxious about labor and this really calmed me and gave me more ideas for my birth plans.

@CajunStork

3 жыл бұрын

You can do it!!

Loved the way you explained it. Cant get better explination of episiotomy than this. Thank you.

Thank you!

You're so helpful! ❤ all your videos

@CajunStork

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback :)

So helpful thank you

Thank you!!

Thankyou so much!

Thank you!!!!

You sound more intelligent than most of the doctors I have met during my pregnancy. They all scare me for vaginal cut. My due is 11/8/22. I am still confused how to bring my little bundle of joy into this world, normal or LS!! I pray for every going to be mom as this time is really frustrating and hard.

So blessed that I didn't have tearing my first two. But I am praying for the same this time too. I can't deal with the healing. The unceasing healing process be hard.. can't imagine that .

Thank you

The sad thing is that in out country (Croatia) they don’t let us give birth in any position except lying on our back... and the second thing is that they force you to have an episotomy.. When i had my first baby, the most hurting thing was recovering afther the episotomy, i couldnt do NOTHING for 4 weeks..just lying on the bed. Now Im 8months pregnant and the only thing I’m thinking about is the episotomy 😞

@sunnylife7203

3 жыл бұрын

So sad and un-natural. Women should be protesting this. Are there midwives in your country?

Just excellent!!!!

Hi, this is a good video. I'm currently reflecting on my experience giving birth. I gave birth at home, which did save me a lot of trauma, but

You are so great ❤️ thank you 🙏

Hey I am from India. I see lot of information in your channel and I am 6 months pregnant now. I love to try all the tips share by you Kira. Thank you so much. Every video of yours is really informative.

@hafsanaaz1223

6 ай бұрын

Hi. From India as well. How did your delivery go? Here in my state Episiotomy is done to all normal vaginal deliveries

This video has lessened my fear of cuts down there. Thanks a lot!

@HypnobirthingWithAnja

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Mehrin, I am glad that you aren't feeling as worried about tearing during childbirth now. It was one of my fears aswell, before I became an antenatal class teacher. Then I learned that tears are normal and 90% of women will have some in labour. The great thing is that the blood flow to the vaginal area is so good that any cuts or tears heal up fast. When are you due? Is this your first pregnancy? Love and best wishes, Anja xxx

@MreenGreenn

3 жыл бұрын

Hypnobirthing With Anja heya! Thanks for messaging :) it is my first one and I’m just gathering info as much as I can and trying to prepare my mind. I really like that you are a teacher on these topics. Are u also a midwife or something? If u want to have a little talk we can talk on fb messenger, my fb is MehreEn Munir. Or may be u can give me yours. 😇

@HypnobirthingWithAnja

3 жыл бұрын

@@MreenGreenn hi! I'm Anja Moncrieff xxx

@MreenGreenn

3 жыл бұрын

Hypnobirthing With Anja I texted you on fb! Did u get it?

Wonderful that you’re spreading such great information! Thank you!

You made me feel so much better. I’m due in two weeks and this has been my biggest fear. My friend had her baby last week and she had a 4th degree tear and that horrified me. Although I’m opting for epidural, I don’t prefer to give birth on my back. Thank you so much.

God bless you

You rock ! Awesome information. I am not pregnant but I would trust you with my life ! I thought of everything you said too

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you Christina!

I wish I knew all this when I delivered 12 years ago. I was 2 cm away from a full episiotomy and required 21 stitches afterwards. This was without my Dr cutting me, but I wish I knew about the massages.

I had an episiotomy with my first baby who was 7 weeks premature. There must have been some reason the specialist did that, perhaps to get my 3lb 5oz baby out quickly. I had a lot of stitches. My baby was fine and grew rapidly in the incubator and I brought her home when she was 6 weeks old. The stitches were sore but I had salt and Dettol baths to help them heal. The outer stitches healed quite fast, but the inner ones took 5 months to dissolve. I could still feel them there until then, and the inner scar was painful and sensitive to the touch for a long time.

My first birth was an OBGYN and my.2nd was my MidWife. The midwife experience was so, so, so SO much better, calmer, safer, saner. It was just better all around. I reccomend a midwife for everyone.

I had this 2months ago..cervical rapture and 4th degree tear..to date am not myself...😪😪😪 I thank God things are getting better everyday..

Ouch I had double episiotomy and wasn’t numb never had such pain in my life was soooo horrific

This is my first time being pregnant I’m 39 weeks I want to do a natural birth but I have really bad pain tolerance So I’m glad this is one more thing I can check off my list to be worried about

@AdamAndNoahLearningBox

3 жыл бұрын

Hey notice your message was from a week ago which mean you might have given birth by now. How was it if you don't mind me asking?

@queenco9032

2 жыл бұрын

@@AdamAndNoahLearningBox it wasn’t bad at all the contractions was horrible when I got to a 7-9 but I got medicine in a IV which helped a lot I didn’t do a epidural pushing wasn’t bad at all my body did that naturally and she was out within 30mins my whole labor was 4hrs and there was no pain afterwards if I could skip being pregnant and give birth I would

I had the episiotomy and it was my first baby I had natural birth I was in so much discomfort and pain

My wife is just 8 weeks pregnant and we are looking forward to a natural birth. This is really informative. In government hospitals in my country during the delivery, doctors do episiotomy to everyone. I don't know what the hell is wrong with these people.

I always felt like birth flat on the back or sitting up made no sense to me physics wise. That it was almost going against the grain? I always felt like being as close to squatting and standing made more sense. It's so interesting you mention this because it's SO common for people to deliver on their back sitting slightly up. I suppose that's because many women get epidural too?

Not sure if our doctor will let us choose how to post.

Great video i had a Episiotomy and still had 4th degree tare with a 4 pound 12ounce baby my dr is against them but had no choice as my baby was in distress and it would’ve been worse had i not got the episiotomy and I’m not sure if everybody does it different but i had dissolvable stitches and it wasn’t that bad hopefully i don’t have this issue again as i get ready to give birth to my new baby very informative video

@CajunStork

4 жыл бұрын

The purpose of episitomities should ONLY be used in times of distress. As a mom myself, you’re welcome to cut me if it helps save or protect my baby! I am advocating only against the routine or unnecessary use of them for provider convenience. I’m sorry your baby was going through that :(

I'm from Cameroon and they only encourage moms to deliver on their backs..I wish I didn't have to deliver on my back..Thank you so much for the video. ❤❤

After c section normal delivery is pls make your vlog on this topic

I've had episiotomy with 2 of my baby's deliveries. Expecting my 4th child in few days time, I'm so scared of tearing and stitches!

Just listening to the first minute of this video and reliving the traumatizing memories I have of my childbirth made me feel lightheaded and nauseous 😰 I wish I had better memories 💜

@meryem9664

2 жыл бұрын

39 weeks, only got 10 days left, and I am terrified! It's my first, and I want to avoid episiotomy really bad! I just think that in a lot of times it is not nessesery. Been drinking raspberry leaf tea for easier birth and ate a lot of dates :((

@LucianaGL

2 жыл бұрын

​@@meryem9664 Good luck! I think trying to relax about the whole thing will make it easier for your body to relax as well and do what it is supposed to do. That's what the nurses were telling me the whole time: "You're not relaxed! You need to relax so your vaginal muscles can relax as well" It was a whole thing. Then, in the end, they needed to vacuum my son out asap because his heart rate was getting dangerously low, and having assisted delivery with forceps or vacuum increases the chance of needing an emergency episiotomy. Visualize an easy birth :) I'll be sending you good vibes

My 1st delivery was 3rd degree episiotomy...so what will happen to my second delivery?????Now am in 37 week pregnant.....

THANK YOU for making this video. I'm a med student and have always abhorred the thought of doing an episiotomy, more so because in my country it is a pretty common practice. What you mention about the vagina's orientation is so true! Why do we keep trying to make moms give birth on their backs when they could be standing up with some support or maybe even on all fours. I'll look into any studies that address giving birth while in alternate positions, thanks!

@CajunStork

3 жыл бұрын

Delivering on their back is messy for the OBs 🤦🏼‍♀️ Î get it, we are dealing with blood and bodily fluids, but at what cost to everyone who is low risk?

Before i deliver my baby,i read that in usa have new guideline they dont practice episiotomy like before as natural cut heals faster than episiotomy..and like u said in yr video when they do episiotomy,it tend to rip more..so when im about to deliver,i heard midwife wanted to cut me so i told her NOOO...but she didnt respect my will,she asked me if i want to have big tear by preventing her to cut myself.i wanted to tell her how she know i would tear myself,although i knew episiotomy is same like 2nd degree tear,that time i couldnt argue with her as im in terrible pain,i couldnt talk much,just bearing the pain and out of sudden she cut me although i didnt give permission.. My episiotomy only heal after 4 weeks..not 2 weeks like other people..and everyday in confinement i took picture of it to see the healing process..most of midvives think they are helping the mother by cutting their vagina during delivery but they didnt aware the episiotomy can give problem to the mother for her whole life... During confinement period,i always feel painful there and this make me get postpartum blues ..due to the pain i feel reluctant to breastfeed my newborn,i refused to eat bcoz i scared to pass motion if i eat.. The worst part of this episiotomy thing,i noticed some inner flesh inside my vagina coming out...so when i have S.I with my husband,i bleed..i dont think its normal to have the inner flesh coming out but i dont know what should i do..my baby now 6 months old and it also has been 4 months i didnt serve my husband..this episiotomy thing really affecting myself,my emotion,and my sex life..

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh, I am so so sorry to hear you had such a bad experience. Although episiotomies do take longer to heal, 6 months is not the norm. Please reach out to a local OB or midwife to inspect your laceration and see if you would require any care to repair and heal. Good luck to you 💕

@polkacheckeredstripes8399

5 жыл бұрын

@@CajunStork thank u so much for the reply..i will go to meet gynae soon

Can you please reply back or anyone? What if your doctor does an episiotomy without your consent and also didnt even make sure you were numb and also the baby wasnt even in distress or stuck. (I have the doctor notes). I lost so much blood from the cut that I went to ER 4 days after having my baby and I was 1 point away from a blood transfusion. The doctor didnt even ask for permission or let me know that he was going to put his whole arm inside me and then proceeded to stitch me up without even making sure I was numb & I overheard him telling a nurse that I had an episiotomy and when i got discharged they had no instructions on how to care for it and when I saw another obgyn she told me how yo take care of it and to do sitz bath and it honestly has affected me so much it made my post partum depression worse and i also started seeing a counselor. What should I do?

Amazing video.... I wish in india doctors also follow this tips as they did in history...but now a days they don't have much time to see a patient so they cut that area during birth....they choose episiotomy

Omg! My mom always told me back when I was pregnant 35 years ago is that it's better to have an episiotomy than to tear because a tear is more difficult and painful to heal. Also that a clean cut (episiotomy ) heals quicker. Well, I have just been schooled😮. Now it makes sense how a tear would heal better. Mind you this was 35 years ago and my mom was 50 years old at the time lol.

I'm a first time mom and I'm super scared of everything, what do I do?

I researched this before my first birth and put on my birth plan “NO EPISIOTOMY” (yes, in all caps) and guess what. My OBGYN cut me anyway!! The recovery was brutal and I have no idea how many stitches I got because he never told me. I used a midwife the second time around and had a completely different experience.

@reneek1672

4 жыл бұрын

OUCH!!!

@katekilgannon404

4 жыл бұрын

How atrocious! I hope you warn people about him. I'm glad your second experience was better.

@MamaAndie

4 жыл бұрын

Kate Kilgannon I have certainly tried to. He has a local reputation for being a “great” OB and I just don’t understand. Some of the moms I’ve talked to about him say “oh I loved him!! He’s wonderful!” It’s baffling to me. But a few others have agreed with me or avoid him because of my story so I will keep telling it!!

@yin4296

3 жыл бұрын

I’m not even going to lie, I would sue.

@MamaAndie

3 жыл бұрын

@@yin4296 honesty wish I had had the mental capacity to do so at the time. Unfortunately the statute of limitations has expired now.

What is tearing actually can somebody plz tell me

Thanks! I wanted someone who would encourage on natural birth.

My natural Labor I ripped and it wasn’t just pressure I felt a rip and burned so terribly

How do you know if an episiotomy was performed without your consent? Could another OBGYN/Midwife tell by looking at the healed scar/tissue?

Plz make video about during labor pain injection relief pain so pain lief injcetion less ur pain nd u can easly give birth

I just had my 3rd baby and she had shoulder dystocia and had to be cut do other positions help that not happen or is it something that just is going to happen reguardless of your positioning?

Awesome info. Thanks

Ma’am I’m calling you once I get pregnant I trust you with my life now 😩

Cajun can I ask you? It's very difficult for me to find a doctor who won't perform an Episiotomy. All the doctors I've visited shamelessly told me that they will cut me (to protect my vagina from tearing). And besides that, I want an epidural so they will probably force me to give labor on my back. I would like to be standing, but with the epidural I know it's not possible. I'm really scared and don't know what to do.

@CajunStork

5 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh, I am so sorry!! Is there a midwife in your area? Even if you don’t desire a midwife perhaps she could point you towards a more mom-friendly Obgyn??

I am scared for labor period pain is one thing but testing and then a huge shot to sew me back together after 9 months if carrying and pain and pushing out a baby and placenta like I am terrified

I was wondering if giving birth when I have prolapse would be safe . Just worried to baby would struggle on the way. Please hel

I was so dead set on not tearing, I got an epidural, had crazy back labor pain so, I welcomed the tear and the relief of labor 😂 it honestly didn’t even hurt 👌🏼

@BigNoonie25

3 жыл бұрын

Did you tear

@BigNoonie25

3 жыл бұрын

This is my first pregnancy and I’m really scared

I'm a little curious about how do you give perineal support in squatting or standing position?

@CajunStork

13 күн бұрын

We don't! New evidence suggests perineal support increases tearing!

is vaginal tearing bad for the next baby can we go without stitches if we dont want.

Im terrified of tearing But Even more of an episiotomy Imma refuse an episiotomy and rather have a c section. There is no way im netting anyone cut my vagina open. Hell no!

@khadejahthomas1122

3 жыл бұрын

Same girl omg😩

@fk8395

3 жыл бұрын

Girl you should watch a video of how they do the CS. check it out on the openmichigan channel. You might change your mind

@puglover7985

3 жыл бұрын

@@fk8395 i had a c section.