Removing toxic people out of your life, even family is not you damaging other people. Just because they are family does not mean they deserve a place in your life.

@Littleanimalsarecute

5 ай бұрын

I was just going to ask about this and saw this comment at the top!

@bethnorris1361

2 ай бұрын

Exactly.... they refused truth, love, so i gave them to God and moved on.

Great episode. Thank you for addressing such an important issue in today's church. This message should be shared! 🙏

So glad I found this. Recently went through this, but the worst part it was church leadership doing it. We ended up going to another church because of it. People were intentionally and maliciously being torn down and attacked. Trying to talk to them about what was happening made it worse.

Proverbs 18:21, Life and death are in the power of the tongue.

I’ve had my. Whole life pulled out from under me from gossip that was true but elaborated. I’ve been lashing out trying to defend myself. My love of 47 years was part of the problem but he’s sick with Parkinson’s LB dementia 💔 we decided to build a home his family didn’t approve so never even came to share our excitement! They took advantage of our stressful situation and took my husband 💔 I can’ hardly function anymore without my husband I miss him horribly because I’ve loved him so much since I was 14

Thank you yet again!!! I love that God's Word is truly a double edged sword... I stand convicted. May God continue to bless you for speaking truth in love. I need to watch this again a few more times and memorize the scripture passages you read to hide them in my heart.

Of all sin, I personally hate Gossip/ slander the most.

@SlimxShady1

4 ай бұрын

My neighbor is a big gossiper. She's home everyday and knows my routine. I don't condone to gossip and I do not trust people who I know gossip. The walls are thin so my neighbors upstairs, downstairs and next door are against me and gossiping about me constantly yet they don't confront me or talk to me and ask me for my side. I leave it all in God's hands. I trust he will do right by me.

I have trouble controlling myself when someone is sharing something bad that happened to them and then I want to relate to them and so I tell the story of how something similar happened to me. Then afterwards I realize I've just run that person down again, and even though I feel hard done by it or hurt by then, I still don't want to lower myself and I don't want the toxic event to have lowered me. So I'm getting better at this the more I think about it and listen to these things. Thank you.

@dfpolitowski2

12 күн бұрын

Just leave the persons name out.

Gossip and Slander is an self entitlement that a person uses to cause harm.

Thank you for sharing all those truths from the Scriptures. This is a complicated issue and we all need discernment.

@michellecasey4680

7 ай бұрын

If we follow the word of God, we will know what to do. If we are not going to that person we are gossiping.

“We fear man so much” mic drop

Exactly what I needed! Thank you so much! Gossip is sharing morsels of negative information about someone who is not present to give their side of the story. The gossiper always presents their info as neutral, factual & objective. Proverbs 10:18--Do I want to be a fool? Do I want an associate or friend who is a fool? When has gossip ever produced righteousness? Lord, cover our mouths! Do not allow us to speak foolishness out of our own selfish minds. Wisdom from above is pure, peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy & good fruit, impartial & sincere. James certainly brings it in chapter 3. This is a touchy & vital subject as God will destroy the slanderer Ps 101:5

Repeated gossip at work = covert workplace bullying. Creating a toxic workplace.

What a nugget of wisdom im guilty of this im so convicted.

I find it hard to differentiate gossip and normal conversation so I find myself just being shut mouth towards others so I don’t accidentally utter something connotatting gossip. Also with laughter I don’t laugh at a lot of things other people make light of.. but then I second guess and wonder if it was ok for me to share a laugh..?

@linneajohansson3796

3 ай бұрын

I can totally relate to the uncertainty about what actually classifies as gossip, but I'm trying to learn. However, I feel like you can join a laugh sometimes. There is a difference between friendly and loving jokes about someones traits or actions, and laughing at them at their expense. So try to discern if the joke is friendly or if it actually hurts the person.

May mercy prevail over judgement in my life and family in Jesus name Amen. Guilty as charged

Good point Jon bought up later about HS days (13 min in) ~ What we say in quiet secret to others, SHOUTS LOUDLY to the one we are speaking to ... ABOUT OURSELVES. We cannot be trusted. We are violators as counselors, advisors, and lawyers then, disqualified. The one we should seek when such things come up for wisdom (not sided votes of approval) is the Lord in prayer, He will reveal to us what is true and right.

We are all guilty. the heart is desperately wicked, evil to its surrounding influences. The key is, what do we allow to "influence" us then? Three is no one good, only one. May the Lord remind us all to walk the other way.

My so called 'husband' is so slanderous. I'm such a wounded soul 😢 but God is my vindicator.

@GiaGirlism

Ай бұрын

Do you have a pastor to talk to? That's a rotten thing to say

It's almost a funny sight, we fight those who cannot defend themselves, so it is like shadow punching and knocking them out, even tho they aren't there, although if they were there it would be interesting as to who would stand, and who would get knocked out.

I'm going to need to listen again. Thank you for this content.

Thanks very much for this. God actually caught me the other day. Wow God forgive me. Help us O Lord, be more merciful.🙏🙏💜

Feliz Cumpleanos ~ we sent you something to the church e-mail, and posted a greeting on our youtube channel, blessings, enjoy the day pastor Jon

Amen, a good example and wise reminder - help me/us to guard our mouths. For if we truly love the brethren, we then in honor, in respect, prefer them before us. If we defer to the Holy Spirit's lead as God guides us, how then, can we go wrong? Our emotions, our feelings no matter how strong, does not constitute, truth or reality or fact.

It almost killed me- but my relationship with God held. The backlash of lies about me is still happening though. I am so very hurt- looking for professional help for gaslighting, now. Thank you.

@michellecasey4680

7 ай бұрын

Trust God to vindicate you. I have bern slandered deepfaked, targeted for gaslighting and worse, but now I stand on Psalm 37

@bethnorris1361

2 ай бұрын

Better to let God help you. I found even professional counselors will betray you and cause you more trouble.

Thanks God for this message,i really need it,thank you❤ ,God Bless

When gossip becomes a tool against you to keep you from getting a job, for instance, then you sue!

By the way, Happy Birthday Jon🙏🏻😊

This was such a blessing, I also have been studying this topic so I praise God for leading me here. ❤

This was so good!!!

❤ excellent discussion and edification, helped me so much, praise our God!

Thank you for this teaching. I appreciate u briefly touching on warning others. Its hard to properly walk the line of warning others and gossip. Please consider flushing that topic out more in the future. To God be the glory!

@michellecasey4680

7 ай бұрын

Warn people about what? We have clear instructions from the word. You go to that person first and then continue to follow the word.

( sad guilt face head down) no comment but one i am so sorry Jesus

Thank you so much for this. This is a healing message for me to become a better person. I am grateful.

Very good. Thank you

Kyle brings up the strongest point, we are quick to "tear down" but are we looking w an eye towards "restoration" if not, Peter never would had made it ... Jesus reached out to him Chuck Girard (Alisa Childer's dad) wrote a song in the 80s, Don't shoot the wounded. We are a family, we are a team. United we stand, divided we fall.

Can I please ask where you get your definition of gossip and slander? I love this podcast and appreciate you guys talking about this really sensitive and hard topic, especially within the church!

A mess toxic people love to spread and keep gossip about you or another going. They love to stay in the mix of stuff. Whether a lie or the truth idle, people create lies and juicy gossip. If you find yourself amongst the miserable who try to manipulate you to keep connections and communication with people and situations in which no longer serve you because you have outgrown a lot of habits and interactions as well. I don't live my life fully like a christain, yet there are some things that I do love about christainity that have helped me remove the burden of drug addiction. Sadly, abuse and misuse of technology and harassment as well as lies, came from toxic people who were doing the work of the devil. Intentional lies and abuse. The wrong hands were always on me. God will never send toxic manipulates to take over my life and aim to control it as well. I answer to no man, but when I die, I will give an account to the man upstairs. I don't walk around pointing out the sins or wrong of others. I belong to no church. I just visit from time to time. We are not on our time when we feel someone should be free of certain religious beliefs and habits. God is in control and knows the time, the hour, and the day. I see nothing wrong with same sex relationship but more important what I struggled with was drug addiction their for with me being free from that I rather be a walking testimony for those of all walk of life who are struggling with that and being treated or judged harshly for a disease called addiction. Darkness can't drive out. Darkness only light can do that and hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that. If you look at the spirit behind addiction it's a spirit of hate and tare down, waiting to keep people hindered with addiction and the lies that it tells. The enemy of lies. The enemy doesn't want people free from addiction because it has been beneficial in so many ways in the most unhealthy ways to the people . The enemy doesn't want to souls to experience life he wants death on those alive and walking and he also wants tge minds of others to be blind to the fact that he wants no one coming fourth for the change and the healing of souls and the freedom of those who are in and out of prison. He wants to also use the harsh judgment of others to affect others' mental health. Talk more about a graceful, caring God than a messed up judgement. God draws people in with love and truth not abuse

This is the sin inspired by the enemy. Satan means the slanderer. If the brethren and sistren really love each other., they will not slander each other. That said, there will be tares among the wheat and these brothers do well to watch for wolves. Some will explode when you confront them.

I need to get a handle on this. Im just so traped in this

Best to remember Mordecai and Haman ... someone should be honored

Forgive me Lord,my intentions were not to turnish this HR but she just wasn't acting professional towards me and my colleague,we talked Abt her and as if someone heard our conversations,I was looking for a hole to hide until it's time to be exposed passes by as I timidly repent behind drawn curtains, gossip is sweet wen we are sure nobody of flesh and blood is listening in,but all the same there's a level one riches in spirit and SIN BECOMES THE ACTUAL HELL

Is talking to somebody bout about their problems considered gossip? I know a few people that only know me when they wanna talk about their problems they have with somebody

May the Lord continue to bless you all….Please keep bringing the Word as the Holy Spirit moves you to🙏🏽 A podcast that declares the Word of God, and NOT man’s wisdom, hard to find……

Dear God Please forgive me I am a sinner Romans 1:28 depraved mind All of these sins are relational If we give ourselves over to a debased mind our culture will reflect these things We have to actively watch out for this... We have to be on guard for this ..... Proverbs gives you wisdom to watch out for this Wisdom Proverbs 10:18 Psalm 141:3 Set a guard of my mouth Protect me from becoming a fool Ps 101:5 God will destroy God will not endure!!!!! James 3:13 Good behaviour wisdom... Titus 3:10 Gal 6:10 Matthew 18

How about discussing the teaching of theology with another church member or disagreeing with it ? Is that gossip too?

@jkar1747

10 ай бұрын

No

PRO-SOCIAL BENEFITS Gossip is sharing information. You determine whether it’s positive or negative. You determine if it goes in the direction of slander. Gossip can promote cooperation by spreading positive information. When people say “your reputation precedes you“ they have heard gossip in the form of positive information about that person. Which was useful and served a purpose. That said, not correcting gossip that you know is untrue is not useful or helpful and has no pro-social benefit. The Bible teaches not to gossip in a negative or slanderous way.!

All lies! 🙈😄

Hector angla

Stop repeating or entertaining information you did NOT witness and don't have the ENTIRE truth.