Yeh Bazalwane! Remember the main reason why Rev Dr HP Khosa is sharing her story is for awareness purposes, she’s being authentic and not filtering anything out so that other women can learn and not put themselves in the same position that she did. This is not about being a victim but being an activist ❤ To get her book Email: hundzukhosa@gmail.com

@cynthiamabena1809

7 ай бұрын

I Personally admire her honesty, those who have ears will hear, a lot of woman to this day are trapped in those kind of relationships. The power man have over woman its so sad

@aluwaninetsh

7 ай бұрын

Where can I get the book I’d like to buy it?

@noxolosakang6547

7 ай бұрын

So true, it's a warning and to know that if a man doesn't love you today, he will not love you ever, but he'll increase the abuse. So save yourself from abuse , accept and move on

@user-gb2ft6kd5t

6 ай бұрын

Shuu Dr this hit home, story of my life 😢

@nombusongcobo666

6 ай бұрын

This sounds like mourning for something that never existed

I like the fact that Madam speaker never makes the episodes about herself. She never mentions her previous marriage in interviewee’s story lines 👌🏾

@simphiwenkuna561

6 ай бұрын

Yes so true…I’m a new suby and after watching this episode for the first time, I was surprised at how she allows her guest to speak without interjecting or wanting to also make this episode about her. Love her for this

Being too available for a men is bad 😢😢😢 never let a man tell you more than once hes not into you !!!

Shes human before being a pastor, shes a woman who wnted to be loved. Thats her path on her journey. We all have our journeys and they are different. I love her transparency because people started judging her .. this is raw and im glad i get to learn a lot from this. Thank

such an honest interview , the guest is beautiful and her voice is so amazing.

When the Dr was explaining all the things the 2nd man was doing very early in the relationship- like sending her 10k for lunch- I immediately thought he is love bombing her but then I said to myself I am a pessimist. Lord behold, the entire family love bombed her. I am glad she never agreed to join that family. I feel so bad for the wife, clearly they treat her very badly and see themselves as better than her. Eish! Life is tricky 💔

The worst advice to give is to tell a woman to LOWER STANDARD to enable her get a husband. The person you will lower standard for is the one who will abuse you so much you will wonder what happened to you. I did that and got scammed and my hard earned money got stolen.

Being inlove with someone that hates you is such a curse hle. It breaks you. The bitterness after 🚮🚮🚮

@samkelisiwengcobo6676

7 ай бұрын

You can say that again

Madam Speaker you are a powerhouse. You bring us the best of the best. The Dr is wellspoken. She is a good storyteller, I can listen to her for ages. Please tell us how we can buy her book. She is beautiful and she has a beautiful voice. ❤❤❤❤You both look beautiful😊😊❤❤.

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you! So much I’m humbled. To get her book Email: hundzukhosa@gmail.com

Haven't heard such a real story from a Pastor/Christian in public before. I was an usher and treasurer at my former church and the things that pastors and committed "Christians" do. Whereas in public they all virgins, sex before marriage is a sin, etc. So glad someone is comfortable to tell their truth like this. A lot needs to change in our churches though. People get away with a lot. Granted, no one is perfect but pastors sending nudes and sending texts about being horny to young members of the church bathong. Also Christians need to stop this attitude of God forgives while intentionally hurting others. Also just wondering, should the elders in this lady's church not been such perverts and instead been good examples of what a good man is. Would she have fallen for her ex husband?

@dot510

6 ай бұрын

You can say that again "God forgives while intentionally hurting others.." It's 'manipulating' God's mercy.

This makes me sad. But I like her honesty, transparency. She is so beautiful. The ex husband made zero effort.

She is so raw and human. This is some kind of honest that we need from our men of God🙏

This story reminds me of my ex husband and ex boyfriend after divorce 😢 being abused is not a nice thing and we tend to stay in it because we want to be loved but love is not there we always hoping for the best but we actually dying inside

@IceChampakaWolf888

19 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry for what you went through

The word of God speaks about unequally yoked. May we apply the words of God to our hearts.

I've always heard that men can marry people that they hate. I'm seeing it for the first time.

@marthandapewa8783

6 ай бұрын

I am married to a man that hate me; I didn't know.

@siphokaziluzipho4197

6 ай бұрын

No marn, it can't be true. Why marry her though.

@samkaybeauty2862

6 ай бұрын

Its true, most don't marry for love!! They marry for the benefits.

Now this interview was fire, it was yhooo after yhooo. And this lady is so pleasant to listen to, nice pace👌 well structured and honest ❤

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

Loving someone can be painful 😢😢😢 I am glad she healed Watched the whole of this. I normally don't watch the whole. Very much I can relate to.

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Thank you my brother. When are you coming on 🫠🫠🫣🫣

@thapelolengana

7 ай бұрын

@@madams___speaker Haaai, Me am very reserved. yho.

@rayt7985

6 ай бұрын

I can relate ... always wanted to tell my story and experience I had when I was married kodwa I'm stealing healing even today Loving someone can be painful sometimes

@ladykeomodisane9246

6 ай бұрын

I learned alots here❤

This is a conversation between electrical engineer and a Doctor, I just thought I should mention that, just incase 😊

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

What’s with the engineering comments guys I’m so confused 😮😮.

@neomalete5832

6 ай бұрын

@@madams___speaker😂😂😂love this response

@nette2144

6 ай бұрын

​@@madams___speakerI'm thinking, she means two educated women are having a conversation. Trying to be positive here. 😂😂

@nozukojoseph2214

3 ай бұрын

​@@madams___speaker I think it means, this can happen to anyone, no matter your level of education. It can also mean women must uplift each other & not destroy each other. Am subject to corrections ❤

@humbulanimulaudzi6459

3 ай бұрын

So what?

Just love how she has accepted and took all her experiences as a learning experience not beating herself up for what she went through❤

It takes a lot of courage to talk about your story openly and I applaud this lady for that.. but the problem with people in church including preachers is that they may be good at preaching but have NO actual relationship with God. Most preachers take time in rehearsing and practicing to perform sermons but don't take time in prayer and studying the word so that they can preach from a place of hearing from God and not pleasing the flock. And so they end up preaching about a God they don't even know and then wonder why their lives also end up being very chaotic. Let's actually shift to having a REAL rlship with God and involving Him in our decisions!

@yvonnemartine9408

3 ай бұрын

They're not ready for this convo. After ignoring signals even a blind person would have seen, she now said that GOD made her marry a madman😳😳😳... Like ma'am you were following your will not HIS.

When are we going to learn? When men dont put effort to relationship....let him Go. We sabotage ourselves as women most times. We cant blame these men because they show us but persist.

@siphokaziluzipho4197

6 ай бұрын

100%.

@nette2144

6 ай бұрын

The whole billboard is often on display before we even get married! Then we hope marriage will change him. Only setting ourselves up for disaster.

I feel like such experiences give us a "human experience" so that we can relate or be relatable to people. People of the cloth can be so out of touch with the world that when you tell them about your challenges all the say is you must fast or pray harder or you don't have faith. However if you are a pastor and have been through stuff like this lady, you become more compassionate, sympathetic and a lot of people will relate to her young and old.

I love how authentic she is❤

I am watching this for the second time. I love how open and honest Doc is. We thank God for her life, her experiences and her strength...

I love her openness and she's very beautiful but I'm disappointed that she NEVER once mentioned that having un-marital sex was a sin. This will lead others to think its okay because Rev is doing it and still preaching.

@mywordsmythoughtsmytruth5503

6 ай бұрын

I am in utter shock. I truly thought it would end with that revelation.

@journeyingwithChrist

6 ай бұрын

@@mywordsmythoughtsmytruth5503this is dangerous. Revelation 2:14 But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication.

@VictoriousVee.

6 ай бұрын

I was asking where was the descenment😢

@katmodi

6 ай бұрын

I literally came to the comments looking for a comment like this. Like I'm sooo shook by how carnal she is. She is a Rev by name, but so worldly in her stance. Where is her Reverence/ Fear of the Lord she claims to be called by. 😢

@VictoriousVee.

6 ай бұрын

@@katmodi exactly, the body of Christ is not ready to hear that sin separates us from God😥. We do not seek to live a consecrated and holy life. But truth is, the more you sin the further away you are from God, and there is no conviction or discernment. As beautiful and honest the interview is, I would love to hear a follow up to talk about repentance. And her journey with God specifically through everything because I think there is more to the story. And that could not have been highlighted in the interview

Getting into a relationship at a young age (before 25) with a person who is older is an extreme sports. Self love must be taught in school and at home because yey I've also seen flames that now I'm like soze! 😂

@tondaniraluswinga2590

6 күн бұрын

5 years is not that much of a big age gap.

Low self-esteem is real 😢 Thank you for sharing, hope you find healing in Jesus as you share your story

This woman is so wise with a very calm spirit. Ha khensa he vazalwane

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Inkomu ñwana mhani ❤

One of my best interviews from Dr Khosa.Very informative.Thank you Madam Speaker❤

What a a profound interview it was. She's a good storyteller. it was so good it felt like a movie, i could literally see motion in pictures.

Fascinating how our stories are so similar. “We are more alike than we are different”. Thank you both for sharing!

😮yho! I need that book ASAP! She is definitely interesting,what a well spoken lady😊

Oh love this lady.What a good story teller.She is much in control.I have learnt a lot from her.I can't believe some men can't see gold.

I love her, she's well spoken. She's spoken her truth and I believe her. She is beautiful. Woman of honor, imbokodo at a young age. The twins are lucky to have you as a Mom.❤

I love her. No bitterness at all❤

Do you think if us as women stop having sex outside of marriage, will give us the power to think clearly when it comes to these red flags. My own personal testimony, when I God revealed to me that sex outside of marriage was wrong and I stopped. I started seeing red flags in my dating experience quicker. I realised that my mind was clear to think about what I wanted in the relationship, I wasn't afraid to have difficult conversations. I wasn't clouded by passion.

@dFinos

6 ай бұрын

❤❤

@moe_ramz

6 ай бұрын

This is where I am too. It becomes difficult to partner with someone because you see everything….it’s painful.

@LovedByGodInChrist

6 ай бұрын

You are correct vision becomes blurred once sex is involved

@dianentokonyane6892

6 ай бұрын

Which will be a good move.

@naledindlovu976

2 ай бұрын

God forbids sex outside of marriage for our protection

So blessed by this interview. Her life is so similar to mine. After all the trouble i have finally met a man who worships where i walk and iam enjoying being truly loved by the best.

@IceChampakaWolf888

19 күн бұрын

I'm so happy for you.

We live in a SICK world...God Father show forth urself amongst women that are in the hands of abusers in Jesus name Amen 😢

I've met a sincere human pastor not a hypocrites. Yes people expected to see your story narrating protect the pulpit. Thank you sister

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

🙌🙌🙌THISSS

She is unbelievably beautiful and smart. Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤

Dr u actually made my day. U know how to narrate ur story. The fact that u still believe in love n marriage touched me. May u get the right guy in ur life

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

🙌🙌❤️❤️

I'm so shocked at the 180 this story took haino😂😂😂😂 so glad for her cause respectfully, WTF😩😩😩😩

The day I first saw you via live interview on thobela fm at park inn hotel 2021 made me realize how special you are and I started following you. You build us as woman and we do not take it for granted. Continue with the good work with our lovely sisters.

What an encouraging story and testimony. Arise women platforms like this are empowering🥰

There's indeed nothing new under the sun This sounds like my first relationship as well, had he not ghosted me this is probably how our story was gonna end like. When the relationship ended I felt like my world was falling apart I even had to repeat the year 😂. Reminds me of a quote "God will break your heart to save your soul"

@nozukojoseph2214

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for the quote 🙏🙏🙏

This episode was what i needed. I can relate to so much from the beautiful Dr's story, and i love her courage and strength. I need to get that book!

Thank you Dr for your honesty because most church people shield the wrongs that happen inside churches and shy away from addressing these issues which are real and there

This ladies story sounds like a movie, im shocked that this was her reality??? Oh ny God

Wow very insightful. I can relate a divorcee too and fiction of narcissist or manipulator. She was very honest and assertive. I wish we can have more of people sharing such experiences so women can learn to exit toxic relationships and take ownership.

Dr is telling the truth I once dated a married man n I didn't know mind you I was staying with him n the wife n kids were in somewhere in Burgersfort, also the guy was the best boyfriend i ever had. Thank you for the wonderful episode

Let such talks and experiences be shared so young and old ladies can know their worth and the power we have and that it's ok not to allow to be mistreated and it's ok to break up and be a divorcee. Loving ourselves is more important

We learn everyday and today I learned alot , thanks alot❤❤❤

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

My pleasure 😊❤️

Best interview ever! Loved this real authentic conversation. Madam Speaker is literally the best interviewer!! We need you i bigger screens❤

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🙏🏿

@mazwideamahle4091

7 ай бұрын

My thoughts exactly, feels like she's been doing this for life.

She is a well spoken woman 😊😊so beautiful love her voice and that book its a must have😅🎉😊

Your podcasts are eye openers. Thank God for people like you ❤❤

Thank you so much for this Episode, This Episode has made me realise that God does not want perfection, He wants our hearts. Thank You Dr for The Vulnerability and your Honesty! So many of us are Christians that have been shamed in so so many ways, we also forget that God accepts us as is. So thank you for Reminding us that God Is a God that loves us whether people love us or not.

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️❤️

Eish being blind and seeking security and love can literally kill you,im glad God saved her❤

THIS STORY IS POWERFUL . I LOVE HER HONESTY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

I love the way the Woman of God is so honest❤

wow this interview was deep!!! thank you so much Rev Dr Portia and madam speaker

Dr Potria is strong woman ,she went through a lot .i am still speechless

Thank you for the honesty, it shows how deep co-dependency is. Co-dependency is a form of self abandonment. What confuses me a bit is - where was her faith / God’s leading when entering these relationships 🤔. Thank you again for showing us what it looks like to come out the other side.

This is a sad story but I am so proud that she is now is the right mental space. Women need to learn about Narcissists, I never knew what that was until I dated one for about 2, 3 months and then I watched every video on KZread. Today, I can smell a narcissist person from far... They are like wolves in sheep clothing. The first redflag for her was when the guy said, I forgot to tell you that I relocated. We as women always ignore the little redflags. I wish you well Doc.

Phew, this was absolutely stunning. Her openness and truthfulness about the social ills of society.

This is such a sad episode yho how did someone just put themselves through so much for so long😭

Well done Madam Speaker👌🫶 I really, really enjoyed this episode. I couldn't stop exclaiming Yohhh!!! the fact that the Dr kept referring to the married guy in the past tense had me really worried as I was hoping for a happy ending. Having the courage to let him go even after all the wonderful things he has done for you is an indication of remarkable strength and the fact that you are now able to laugh about all these experiences is truly commendable. Very enlightening episode and I wish you all the best in your life journey Dr Khosa. Refuse to settle for less. You will find love and happiness. ❤️

Such a great interview and It really takes a lot of strength to leave such an abusive relationship considering the fact that she was a Rev.. I hope that she finds healing and she is such a phenomenon woman.

Dr HP Khoza such a beautiful soul, very humble.. you are such an inspiration to many that look up to you… your hardship in life gave you such a powerful testimony.. I’m glad to have be led by you throughout my youth at masana parish. You one of the strongest people I know.. much love Rev ❤

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I'm glad she spoke so honestly and lovingly. She's not vindictive. What would elevate her is her description and relationship with God and how she went on to fornicate after she was hurt

@carolm1738

7 ай бұрын

She's healed, that's why, mostly speak too quick

@winniekamau2752

6 ай бұрын

Yeah that part is so questionable

Thanks for sharing your story Ma'am. For all things considered, I think we're missing one thing...(true men's voices)

Thank you for your transparency. I can relate to most of your story. Only by God's grace am I now content, settled and finally making progress in every area of my life. God is faithful.

Ooh Abba father direct us to the right marriage. Let ur direction lead us and not our emotions😢😢😢

I just love the fact that u r very academic, academic women r my role models

Easily one of the most authentic interviews ive ever come across..as for all the perfect people making judgements on the comment section..we are sorry for being human..hau..let the Dr be

U can only criticize her if u,ve never been in her shoes or u dont relate at all. Thank u Sisi for sharing ure story with us. Today i know i am not alone who went through this kind of experience

She is so well-spoken, and her story is so inspirational 🌈 keep shining Dr🎉

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

❤️❤️

❤Thank you so much Dr. You've a true Christian, and I love the fact that you are speaking the truth. Your soft voice and ur bravenest.....wow be blessed, never mind what ppl say , u're the best. I love you

Ladies love yourself first period. Then you can love other people. Don’t compromise yourself for being seen being successful while you suffering mentally. It’s not easy to be single but it’s worse to be in an abusive relationship. Especially you beautiful women be beautiful inside and outside do not let men walk all over you.

@user-po3vy1pn2v

3 ай бұрын

True story teller is interesting God blessed Dr Khoza

I got ordained at 20 years old 😢our stories might not be the same, but I can related to her pain🙏🏽I was in the process of leaving my calling 🙏🏽but now I am fired up to continue doing what I am called for and stand on business for young girls👌

What a likeable woman. So funny and smart. Sad what she went through. Thank God she survived.

Lovely interview. Both parties delivered to the T! Madam speaker if u see this please pass it on to the shooting crew if u feel it makes sense : before shooting, take a pic of the host and guest sitting in either seats. It may seem trivial but trust me when getting to the elevated levels its these small attention to details that make a difference. So in this case,given you wore a popping colour, you shouldnt have set next to that back cupboard with the same poppiny colour. Ur outfit would make the military green side pop. Same tones of orange can be picked in the guest's outfit as in the painting behind her. So switching positions would have really complimented the set. I know it may seem trivial but i thought to mention it because picture quality👌 studio setting👌 sound 👌...this im adding as an extra

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much although you’re speaking French to me I believe @NdivhuT will understand you better

She had seen it all, the honesty is so deep. I could listen to her all day.

I sympathize with the guest. I think she wasn't ready to serve on the pulpit. I hope she sees that the very thing she is calling out the male pastors/elders for "LUST" is what she herself was fighting and she is not taking accountability.

@naledindlovu976

2 ай бұрын

Thank you...I love her but she doesn't seem to be crucifying her flesh it's really worrying me

Thank you.I downgraded too.I was married all by myself.I resonated with you

So much honesty...God bless you reverend. Thank you for sharing❤

I have a feeling the 2nd man and the wife were separated during the time they met, and then later fixed things. There's no way the married woman would agree to be hidden for 3 years, a makoti attends the in law functions. The good thing about the second encounter is the fact that despite the discord in this encounter, she somewhat got some healing and experienced the warmth of being in a relationship. We learn everyday! Thanx madam speaker

@IceChampakaWolf888

19 күн бұрын

Thinking of that also

Thank you Dr the story is well narrated. Low self esteem is real

what a beautiful beautiful episode, such an eye opener. I've never enjoyed a podcast episode like I have this one. The Dr bared her soul out there, laid everything on the table, no filter nothing. for everyone who thought pastors led (or are supposed to lead) a perfect life, it just shows that we are human beings before we become anything else! Thank you for this madam speaker. Thank you Dokotela, this is something our kids will watch long after this.

God Bless you Dr Khosa and Madam Speaker. This Interview is premium. 😍

One of my favorite episodes, shes so authentic ❤

The second guy was actually more dangerous than the 1st. The 1st one made it clear that his a dog, the 2nd one was a pure snake. Batong…..😢

Thank you Dr for sharing you life,I learned a lot from your experience

Eish from now on refuse with your body Dr Khoza , don’t give sex anymore unless who ever you met has married you first . Start right this time .😢and you are Rev 😢

@dFinos

6 ай бұрын

Amen, 🙏 This is one of the lessons that i was hoping she will talk about having learnt and would talk about coz she is a Christian, a Reverend even. I however applaud her honesty and vulnerability

I waited for your guest to say those last words God himself was not loved by everyone,love start with oneself thank u.

I'm definitely getting her book thank you madam speaker I resonate so much with this story

@madams___speaker

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome! To get the book Email: hundzukhosa@gmail.com

@Sibongile-maseko

7 ай бұрын

@@madams___speaker thank you again

Shuu. How I wish I could meet you and we just talk... So much similarities in our stories. I thank God for you and may He continue to bless you 😘

I loved the Dr's openness. Great interview Madam Speaker 🙌

As a young minister too I have learned today

Yhoo the married man is manipulative to the core😢. He knew her vulnerability coming from the same church.

Unfortunately you can’t force someone to love you. Kids and even marriage won’t make them love you. She knew he didn’t love her but still decided to force things. Sad