Ep. 393 | Psychological Clutter (with

The Minimalists speak with psychologist Dr. John Delony about psychological clutter, the anatomy of hope, and more. Watch all 2 hours of episode 393 on The Minimalists Private Podcast: / theminimalists
Discussed in this episode:
00:00 Introduction
01:17 What are your views regarding hope?
03:54 What are the two kinds of hope?
05:49 What do you consider the differences between wishing and hoping?
09:07 How do you define “faith”?
32:36 Isn’t compromise an integral part of a romantic relationship?
35:24 What are the three C’s of compromise?
44:13 Listener comments and minimalism tips.
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  • @TheMinimalistsPodcast
    @TheMinimalistsPodcast Жыл бұрын

    What causes the most psychological clutter in your life?

  • @elaineclaire7063

    @elaineclaire7063

    Жыл бұрын

    Family politics and toxic relationships.

  • @madisonromero3529

    @madisonromero3529

    Жыл бұрын

    My biggest psychological clutter is "having too many irons in the fire". I need to focus on a few things more intentionally rather than get overwhelmed by many different things. I started telling people, "I can't do that right now, because I am already committed to certain things in my life". I am getting more things finished than ever in my life.

  • @catmandoo3735

    @catmandoo3735

    Жыл бұрын

    My physical and mental health along with all the medications I have to take to keep them manageable to some degree.

  • @kattrinaj6575

    @kattrinaj6575

    Жыл бұрын

    The past.

  • @midlife_minimalist

    @midlife_minimalist

    Жыл бұрын

    Knowing I don’t want to be where I am right now but not knowing where I want to be instead. All facets - where I live, my job, relationships

  • @catmandoo3735
    @catmandoo3735 Жыл бұрын

    First of all, as a volunteer at the Hermitage Cat Shelter in Tucson, I'd like to thank Ryan for saving that kitten's life. As far as ""enough" is concerned, I decided long ago that I have enough tangible stuff in my life. Having been diagnosed with prediabetes, I am now using my money to invest in healthier food which can be more expensive than the alternative, and I am investing my extra time in finding creative ways to make that food more appetizing. I do have to admit that last week I purchased a stationery recumbent indoor bike as a way to lose weight and hopefully get out of the prediabetes category. I am finally investing in my health and well-being.

  • @briannaphillips4255

    @briannaphillips4255

    11 ай бұрын

    So proud of you!! ❤

  • @flashthecorgi2053
    @flashthecorgi2053 Жыл бұрын

    Dr. John’s vulnerability is so admirable as he walks his own journey!! I love this trio so much, and TK is very insightful! Y’all are amazing!

  • @Cherylcoder
    @Cherylcoder Жыл бұрын

    Hope is living each day in a way that makes sense, no matter what is going on around you

  • @marylee2809
    @marylee2809 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Ryan for saving the kitten. Thank goodness you were safe. Your down to earth warm personality is appreciated!

  • @kraykray4118
    @kraykray4118 Жыл бұрын

    "If it were to spontaneously combust...The voices stop" this bit I really like.

  • @elaineclaire7063
    @elaineclaire7063 Жыл бұрын

    " sometimes hope exists in psychological clutter - psychological clutter exists in the intersection of mental and emotional clutter." theres a silver lining in every cloud, i would like to believe in that ray of hope since emotional clutter creates confusion, and chaos - if theres a lack of clarity.

  • @grandmasewhappyhomestead187
    @grandmasewhappyhomestead187 Жыл бұрын

    Dr John I so appreciate your realness. Today was the fantastic 4❤ This was an amazing Conversation you shared thank you so much!

  • @debbiephillips6809
    @debbiephillips6809 Жыл бұрын

    I love Ryan’s kitten rescue story so much!! ❤ 🐈

  • @min_oaka2617
    @min_oaka261710 ай бұрын

    It was Fumio Sasaki’s book that propelled me into Minimalism and led me to discover you guys. But it was really thru the study of Buddhism that I found the concept. The monks are the ultimate minimalists. I don’t think I could or would want to attain that kind of lifestyle but I’m pretty happy with how things are going right now with my minimalist journey.

  • @gortongirl
    @gortongirl Жыл бұрын

    44:36 Bryce had a great daily acronym. Every day is a SPECIAL opportunity for growth: Spiritually, Physically, Emotionally, Communally, Intellectually, Adaptively, and Lucratively. Thanks Bryce!

  • @kattrinaj6575
    @kattrinaj6575 Жыл бұрын

    You saved the kitten!❤🎉🥳 Thank you wonderful man.

  • @wendymitchell4511
    @wendymitchell4511 Жыл бұрын

    Without a strategy, hope is only a wish!

  • @yolandaingram7378
    @yolandaingram7378 Жыл бұрын

    TK have you written a book yet? You should write a relationship book on the 3 C’s. That was SO powerful!❤

  • @elaineclaire7063

    @elaineclaire7063

    Жыл бұрын

    omg if TK ever writes a book, imma be sure to cart it out. aint nobody got time for book clutter since TK coleman is in it.

  • @cin4195
    @cin4195 Жыл бұрын

    The book The Dawn from minimal mom was referring to was goodbye things by fumio Sasaki

  • @FoodShowFan
    @FoodShowFan4 ай бұрын

    Loved TK and the Kobe-MJ moment

  • @KatherineKuehn-Bao
    @KatherineKuehn-Bao Жыл бұрын

    Great Show. I love the convo about "enough" that's been a big one.

  • @LSChestersMom
    @LSChestersMom Жыл бұрын

    Ryan, thanks so much for saving that sweet kitty :) Great episode.... been meditating on "enough" lately and what it means to me... could relate to what Josh shared about knowing his "enough" in all areas.... big fan of hope myself... been in recovery a long time and have seen many lives transformed and even saved by hope. Step 2 :)

  • @anamd2023
    @anamd2023 Жыл бұрын

    Fantastic four for sure!!!

  • @shannonengelken4629
    @shannonengelken4629 Жыл бұрын

    To me hope is the combination of desire for something and the expectation of receiving it. I try to balance gratefulness with expectation and declutter the useless expectations. 😊

  • @ginagonzalez6547
    @ginagonzalez6547 Жыл бұрын

    Hi, I love this conversation. What stopped me on my tracks is the word ENOUGH. I never though of that word in that context. Wow!!! Brings food for thought. Now I have to look at my life in a different perspective.

  • @unhurriedhomemaker8071
    @unhurriedhomemaker8071 Жыл бұрын

    This was such a great episode!!

  • @RDOwens
    @RDOwens Жыл бұрын

    Regarding hope, while hope may not seem like it plays an active role in certain activities (writing, as was referenced in the discussion), the lack of hope would absolutely impact ones activities. Those without hope are in despair. One who is in despair has that active in his life. I suggest then that hope resides in most of us. Just because we may not pay it attention, it is there and its presence paves the way for us to do what we do. We know this for without it, what we do would be much different.

  • @GG-kv8vv
    @GG-kv8vv6 ай бұрын

    Excellent conversations

  • @ApostolicITTech
    @ApostolicITTech Жыл бұрын

    The beginning reminded me of the comparison between a person dreaming vs having a vision

  • @Mimicry161
    @Mimicry161 Жыл бұрын

    This is fantastic, thanks!

  • @danielleradomyski6315
    @danielleradomyski6315 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for saving the kitten 😻♥️🙌🏻👏🏻🌟

  • @FA1L4LIFE
    @FA1L4LIFE Жыл бұрын

    One of the best episodes so far guys! 🙏

  • @dawnmireles2912
    @dawnmireles2912 Жыл бұрын

    May 23, 2023 Thought provoking. Thank you for saving the kitty.

  • @desertsky505
    @desertsky505 Жыл бұрын

    An unrealistic goal is a fantasy. Hope is a possibility or a potential when it is focused on entertainable goal. But it does not live until activated by an action plan. Then it becomes an adventure!

  • @orientalshorthaircats
    @orientalshorthaircats5 ай бұрын

    this kitten story is so kind

  • @kevinspliid8509
    @kevinspliid8509 Жыл бұрын

    The ending was beautiful

  • @davidmilhouscarter8198
    @davidmilhouscarter8198 Жыл бұрын

    29:20 I hold on to a fire extinguisher “just in case”.

  • @emmabe
    @emmabe Жыл бұрын

    Yey Ryan! Good job on saving the kitten. I wish this was abvious for everyone to do the same thing.

  • @TruthQuest4700
    @TruthQuest4700 Жыл бұрын

    Compatibility is what healthy relationships are based on when those involved benefit in some way, one could say that compatibility is a win-win, whereas compromise can lead to sacrifice and resentment if too much is given up of one's self to a zero-sum game of winner/loser. In other situations, healthy "compromise" would be better replaced with accommodating.

  • @davidmilhouscarter8198
    @davidmilhouscarter8198 Жыл бұрын

    28:26 Yes. Yes I would. I would replace all my books. I have read most of them, and I will read all of them.

  • @kkbrew1854
    @kkbrew1854 Жыл бұрын

    It blows my mind that anyone would say you find hope in yourself. That’s so sad.

  • @CraftsBayou
    @CraftsBayou Жыл бұрын

    @colourfulnoir can you share where you got your bag insert for your other purses?

  • @sydneygray1331
    @sydneygray1331 Жыл бұрын

    Delony it’s the silent to do list.

  • @kraykray4118
    @kraykray4118 Жыл бұрын

    Well done Ryan saving that cat 👏🐾. Me and my sons save snails haha just moving off footpaths and on to the grass so they don't get trampled 🐌

  • @jcszot
    @jcszot Жыл бұрын

    “Fear is a dead end. Faith has a future.” Joyce Meyers

  • @mosheedy9862
    @mosheedy98627 ай бұрын

    Oh gad..that first caller wants her own show.

  • @MITZZB
    @MITZZB Жыл бұрын

    This ❤❤❤

  • @sheila_rabant
    @sheila_rabant Жыл бұрын

    Awe great cat story Ryan! Better than Delony's story about shocking dogs in cages. Ask him about it; then ask him to never talk about it again on his podcasts.

  • @annoravetz5908
    @annoravetz5908 Жыл бұрын

    1 Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain Faith, Hope, and Love. But the greatest of these is love. Keep your eyes on the prize 🏆, and this is love, God is love. The others, Hope and Faith, will fall into place. I'm sorry, but initial the diatribe lost me. Psychological clutter. Let's simplify our questions, for one thing. Ok, I think she's talking about gambling without actually saying it. I am going to have to rewind and listen again. This addiction causes all kinds of psychological reactions. It's a psychological roller coaster, anxiety (about not being able to pay your bills), jealousy (at people who win while you're losing), regret (at having wasted so much money), thrill of victory (when you win), agony of defeat (when you lose). Also, the people who enable this causes psychological clutter. Associating with people who like to play games with your mind and manipulate you. They drag you down with their criticisms. They are evil because they don't have your best interest in mind, they just want to be mean, selfish, and self-centered. They feel a need to hurt. These people can be in your own family, Or people you think are your best friends. The thing is, you win by not trying to "win" in gambling. Flee from evil. They do not spark joy, so thank them for what they taught you, and get rid of them, so they can bother someone else, and show the next person about the kind of person they don't want to be around. Don't keep their photos and hang them on the wall, don't keep their gifts, their emails, their texts, their contacts, etc., and give away the "giveaways".

  • @lukelacasse6412
    @lukelacasse64122 ай бұрын

    I am sorry but that call in question - sounds like it came from AI??????

  • @seniorito5309
    @seniorito5309 Жыл бұрын

    the first question is a fckin novel. wtf lol

  • @jasonsanchez128
    @jasonsanchez128 Жыл бұрын

    Lost me once Jess started talking. No thanks

  • @upnorth316
    @upnorth316 Жыл бұрын

    Joshua, it hit differently today, your comment about what is "enough.". How freeing it is, when you cease moralizing what "should" be enough! Yes! Enough for me is what I state is indeed enough! No need to compare my "enough-ness" to that of someone else. 🩵