“You are loved for who you are, not what you do.” I wish so much I could believe this...

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

This is so hard for type 3s.

@jenniferhooker3069

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! Working on that.

@juribogatkin7833

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. I do not even understand what that means.

@KitSouther

2 жыл бұрын

Such a powerful quote 🥰🥰

@DorotaGabal

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, this statement gave me a lump in my throat... to believe that is a goal of mine.

You almost made me cry with the “people don’t love you because of what you do, but who you are” lol. 3w4.

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Awww...It's so true though 🧡🧡🧡

@jenniferhooker3069

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! That's what I need to digest!

Sometimes it feels like my wings are at war with themselves, haha! My 2 wing LOVES encouraging people, making them feel loved, involved and cared for. My 4 on the other hand longs for beauty, introspection, and emotional intelligence. I do feel things on a deep level but I am only comfortable with expressing that in private and few and far between moments.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

This is so good. Thank you for sharing! 💛

I’m a 3w4 and this makes sense why my love language is words of affirmation

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Awesome!

3w2 ESFP here!! I enjoy attention, but I never feel my people-skills are the best The type of person I am is never static, it’s like i always wanna improve myself, my people-skills, how fun I am, etc. I’m too stubborn to call it a day and just say, i’m happy being me I wanna be everything at once, the fun one, the chill one, the centre of attention, the party bringer, the charming one, etc. It’s why I find it easier to have a good appearance, because it’s easier to control - i can always change my aesthetic if i want and it’s easy to But with choosing how I wanna be - it feels like I can only choose to be one type of person I’m venting now, but this is how I relate to 3w2!

I’m more of a 3w4! I’m a bit more introverted than an average 3, and I am more in touch with my creative side. I can also be more emotional than an average three. Thanks for this video! It described me perfectly!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Thank you for sharing!

3 wing 2 here, ENTJ, Ravenclaw. I feel your pains guys of not feeling like you’re ever good enough. I hope a therapist can help with this!

@sophiahamed2577

3 жыл бұрын

omg, I am exactly like you lol, twins? 👀👀

@YEDxYED

3 жыл бұрын

You’re sexy

@yasminrei

2 жыл бұрын

interesting!! i’m ESFP 3w2 too, if you know about cognitive functions then we have the same function just switched around

I’m a 3w4 and this definitely helped me better grasp the reasons why I act the way I do. I’m always concerned about impressing others and when I fail to come off the way I want I tend to experience “imposter syndrome.” Any other 3s experience this?

@Anonymous-vu8qq

3 жыл бұрын

Y e s

you really called out my 3w2 issues😂😂

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Hehehe!

I love it when you put the bloopers at the end. lol!

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 I need to start doing that again!

“So 3w2 have good people skills” 👁👄👁

I've been diving deeper into this recently with a coach I'm working with. Learned I was a 3w2. It does describe me. I felt totally shocked. But after diving deeper I was able to realize some childhood trauma that has created lots of protective barriers around me. It's been interesting to uncover more. Thanks for this - helped to hear it all again.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

For a 3 this makes so much sense. I love that you’re working with a coach and digging deep. So good. So much growth comes from this. ❤️

I’m a 3w2 but I’ve learned to incorporate my 4wing a lot more over the last few years. It’s helped me to embrace my vulnerability and creativity. I just started a job as a Christian radio show host in January and it’s the first job I feel like I’m using all my gifts. I absolutely love it!

Wow! I’m a 3w2 and I like so much cheering up people, I like to help them, actually all you said was a lot of my personality! Don’t stop making videos ☺️☺️

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Love this!!! Thank you! ❤️

I'm 3w4. Most of my friends are 3w2. On the upside, being around a 3w2 is great because they're out going where I'm shy. They help me get out of my shell which can bring out my creativity. On the downside, sometimes they can be charlatans and exhibit the Peter Principle and even take credit for my hard work. Then I feel taken advantage of by the friendship because I'm task-oriented and they're people oriented. I do the work, they get the credit even in the average levels, especially if their social stacking is first. Despite all of this they can be very entertaining.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Wow. Thank you for sharing this kind of insight for the type 3. Great awareness.

thank you so much for this! i’m a 3w4 and have never felt truly connected to my type until now. when you said we can become arrogant in times of struggle, that hit home. i didn’t even realize i was doing that, but it will be something i can tell my loved ones to look out for as a red flag now.

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

I’m a 3w4 and I am more in turned when it comes to creativity. I’m a dancer so I love to pour emotion out when I’m creating and I take it very seriously. I do at times focus on impressing people with what I do rather than who I am and I’m a bit more private with some things and need time alone to myself to recharge

When you said type 3’s need to know that they are loved for who they are instead of what they do, that struck a cord and I cried… I didn’t expect that.

So basically, a slytherin🤔 I loved this video, thank you so much💚💚

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

😂

@amandacarroll6156

3 жыл бұрын

I am a 3 and also a Slytherin!

@dorotheaanna2290

3 жыл бұрын

Same here! I don’t really use either wing, but call myself a 3w2, and I’m a slytherin too!

@jueruuu

3 жыл бұрын

3w4, Ravenclaw here^^

@ellabritton3788

3 жыл бұрын

@@jueruuu same!

I feel more like a 3w4, private, self doubting, creative and hard-working. I got told once (or multiple times) i took games too seriously, that even games are like work for me. Even my lifestyle is something i work to improve.

i always thought i was a 3w2 but i DEFINITELY relate to 3w4 more, thank you!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome!💕

This is great! I had no idea about the wings until recently and I needed clarity. I can see the wing 2 & 4 battling each other when describing me!! I lean more towards the 2 but I have a large amount of 4 in there too. The older I get the less social I want to be and I find comfort in my alone time early each morning. That fuels my soul more than anything. Thank you for teaching this! I am going to share it with my Mastermind group. Have a wonderful day. :)

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

So good. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes we use a wing earlier on in life and then switch our wings as we get older.

@healthyleadershiphabitswit2388

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same struggle. I’ve read somewhere that our opposite wing often develops in the second half of life which brings balance. That has proven true in my life. In recent years I’ve enjoyed being by myself more, long solo hikes, photography etc which is stuff that 10 years ago no one would have imagined me being into!

I’m such a 3🙈 this was so helpful! Something I also heard once that has set me free is: “I determine what success is/looks like”

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Love that! So good!

omg ive never been as well described by a personality test!!! 3w2 a million percent ☺️☺️

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Amazing!

I definitely had 3w4 until 3/4 years ago then i developed into 3w2 as 3w4 was giving me the worthiness I was seeking.. Now understanding both sides I can achieve my goal - to find worthiness from within. Your quote “you are loved for who you are, not what you do” really triggered something deep inside of me and held space for me to have a well overdue soul cry. Thank you so much 🙏🏽✨💗

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Wow...thank you for sharing. 💖💖💖

Wow - 3w4!! Sooo much!! This was awesome and super helpful - thank you!!

I am ABSOLUTELY a 3 wing 2 and you hit the nail on the head!

I’m definitely more of a 3W2 and my husband is also 3 but I think he is a 3W4. Thanks for that explanation!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome!

so, if I'm a Three with balanced wings, that's good, yes? My life feels good, so I suspect, Yes!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

Great summary! Madonna, Beyoncé, Elizabeth Hurley, Joan Collins and ‘Blair Waldorf’ of Gossip Girl are all typed Enneagram 3 with 4 wing in personality database website app. I have always found these ladies my most inspiring positive role models. I also enjoy 4 wing 3s very much. Angelina Jolie was always typed Enneagram 4 wing 3 (she had a wild child/femme fatale persona), but recently websites type her as enneagram 3 wing 4 ( as her humanitarian work and sophisticated image now dominate). I always thought she was dominant 3, and her early wild child phase was her 4 wing. She seems far too self-assured and professional, rather than talented romantic but troubled by sadness like George Michael and Michael Jackson (4 wing 3s). 3s are so inspiring and 4s create such beautiful art. I love them both 💕

100% relate to the 4 wing. This is probably one of the best explanations of 3's wings that I've heard. Most tend to overemphasize the 3 w 4's creativity. I do see a bit of 2 in me. When I was young, I was far more outgoing. Then when I went through my Master's program I became a far more reserved, intellectual type. Sometimes I miss the more outgoing side of myself and that feel as though I've lost it.

Thank you I’ve been watching your videos and I thought I was a 7 and once I watch your understanding the basic of enneagram. I can say now I know I’m a 3w2. Thank you for help me understand this now I need to find out how to be the be 3 for myself and others.

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

Loved the analogy of salt and pepper for describing the wings! I’ve been struggling with going back and forth on the 2 and the 4 at times, but typically I’m a 3w2. Love the enneagram. I feel like it can really help people know their flaws and know that it’s ok that they aren’t perfect. Thank you!

Gosh all of this resonates so much! Just typed this randomly into KZread and saw you just uploaded. Thank you this was super helpful 🙏🏼

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Love this!

Thank you!

i'm an enfp 3w2 haha, i thought i was a 7w6 but that stereotypical side of enfp doesn't sense like me. people confuses me because i seem to have high fe, but i actually have great emotional intelligence with a good fi and fe i think. my mother is a psychologist so i have a influence from her. i want to inspire others through my hard work, i want to be myself! 💖

3 with 2 & 4. I see both wings as influences. Thank you!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

❤️

Type 3 wing 2. I just heard about the enneagram today and 🤯 Thank you for uploading this ❤️

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

I feel like I related to both wings!

@heatherbeck4983

3 жыл бұрын

same here!

I thought that I was 3w2 but as more as I listened I understand that I’m 3w4. I actually created my own self Improvements posters. Why pay for them if I can also make them myself as I like them to be. 😄👍

As always, very insightful and great information. As a 3w2 this is so accurate. Being self aware has really helped me navigate times of stress.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Love this! ❤️

Such a helpful video! Highly recommended!

OMG! I'm a 3W4. Can relate to it all so much. Thank you for this video

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Thanks for making this video. I'm a 3 w 4.

My results said my wings were exactly balanced so I've always sort of struggled with which I relate to more (3w2 or 3w4). I definitely have both in me but this video made me realize I'm probably slightly more 3w2! Thank you!!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! So glad this video could help!

You literally described someone I know to the T! Their wing is definitely 2. Love your videos!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Sweet!!!

Thank you for this! I’ve recently accepted the notion that I’ve been mistyping myself for years - as an 8 (specifically an 8w9) rather than what I actually seem to be... a 3 with a 2 wing, since Type 3 has a, uh, bit of an image problem that I was resisting. 😉 When I finally realized that that was VERY Type 3 of me, I started researching the wings, and 3w2 just feels very spot on for me. I very much identify with the goal-focus of Type 3 overall, but the people part is also very salient! I like to encourage others and help them find ways to acknowledge and use their skills to find success/happiness/all that good stuff! As hard as I work on me and my “stuff,” I do also enjoy playing the cheerleading role for others!

Thanks for this insight Hilary! I think I've shifted from 3w2 to 3w4 during different seasons of life. I had been thinking I was more of a 3w4, based on more interest in creative outlets (as opposed to my very professional job as a physician), personal growth, writing, art, etc. I definitely have felt more 3w2 when I was at healthier points in life, and when I'm in more of a helper-achiever space I feel really great. I'm definitely going to keep digging into this. Thanks!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome! This makes total sense. We can shift in different seasons of life. Keep digging! So much clarity and growth comes from self awareness! Thanks for sharing!

Thanks. I am totally new to the whole Enneagram. I've been reading a book about it the last few days, I did the test today. I am a 3, not sure which wing. Thanks for the way you explained everything so simply. Made a lot of sense. :)

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome!

definitely relate to the 2. wow. I can't believe I AM a 3 w2. Definitely found my place to be me and love these tips to rock the better me.

Great information!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

You made me cry with your life lesson! 😂

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Awww, Sorry! It's a good one for you Type 3s!

I am definitely a 3w2!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Whoa. I just found out today that I am a 3 and this was so eye opening. I feel like the 2&4 wings are fairly balanced with me, but I lean more into wing 2!🤯🤯🤯

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!!!!

YAY HILLARY UPLOADED!! *does a little dance* I have lots of friends who are 3s so this video is so helpful!! :)❤️

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

And this is why your my favorite!!! ❤️❤️❤️

I'm a 3w2, and I relate to some of the things you said!! I tend to brag about my accomplishments without really thinking and then end up feeling really bad about it.. I need to think before I start talking lol😅 Thank you for the insight!

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Thank you for sharing!

I just learned about enneagram types today and jumped right in. I'm a 3 all the way! My hobby is reined cowhorse and I recently changed trainers. My biggest problem was wanting to "do it right" for the trainer, be accepted and good. When My new trainer said just do it even if it's ugly, it was like a lightning bolt hitting me. Learning something new is hard for us 3s. She gave me permission to "do it ugly" and that changed everything. This video was super helpful. I can't quite tell if I'm a 3w2 or 3w4. Depends on the situation.

I’m a 3wing2 Much appreciate this video :) thank you 🙏 Love comes because of who you are and not what you do for it was great to hear.

@enneagramandcoaching

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

Definitely 3w4 I’m very introspective

So so so glad and happy for this content. Thank you so muuuuch. I'm struggling to understand if i'm a 3 or 4 so your videos are saving my life

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing about your process! And I’m so happy these are helping you!

Hiiii Hillary! It’s Ashley enneagram 3! 💃 thanks so much for this video! I enjoyed today’s typing session. 🤗 Ash ☀️

3w2 🤗

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

Hi yeah I’m a type three and I never really believed in these personality tests but this is just creepily wild. I never thought that I would relate to something more than seeking validation from family. I seek validation from my sister and I don’t know why and she doesn’t know why either lol. Also, I make a lot of lists and I like to check off when I’ve done something so this is just crazy.

I am a 3w2. And what you said towards the end of the video is true and sometimes what I think.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

I believe I am more of a 3W4... although when I did the test, I was a 2! and another time I was a 7! Your videos are so helpful!

I think I’m a 3 wing 4 thank you for describing 🙂

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome!

I'm a 3w4 and this was a very accurate description of me! I am very sensitive and struggle with self-worth. I also push myself so hard to do well at whatever I'm focused on, to the point where I forget that my worth is a fixed status -- never changing no matter what I do or don't do. I mistyped early on as a 4, I think due to my emotions and the stuck place I was at in life, but a few years on I redid the test and definitely identify with being a 3, especially with the 4 wing. I kinda shun the limelight, so I don't think I have much 2 at all!

I am definitely 3w4 more than 2! This is so bizarre especially the red flag, I made a comment last night that sounded arrogant but didn't mean it, I was stressed out at the time from work!

I definitely fit naturally as a 3w4 as an Accountant, I am often told I am very serious too, which ironically always surprises me because I don't think I am. Interesting you keyed in on that. Although I am also an ESTJ, looking back, I think I tend to lean on my wing 2 when I am more healthy emotionally. When I struggle, I become more introverted and lose my wing 2. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts more on the effects of each wing when struggling and what could help at those times.

*I think you understated the unhealthy side of this number.*

I used to be more Parents pleasing if that makes sense. But now I don't. I highly think I'm 3w4 as I relate with it the most. But I also relate greatly with dominant 8 as well as dominant 7. Bingeing on your videos helping me alot,coz I'm learning to identify lots of qualities and behaviors in myself that I do, but weren't very aware.

This a good video now i feel know more about my self, i'm 3w4 but some 3w2 lives in me but 3w4 more dominant🤣

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Love that it helped you!

nice background

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks!!!!! ❤️

Thanks for the video! Am an ENFP but felt ENFP stereotypes didn’t really describe me ... but 3w4 ENFP is pretty spot on :)

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

3 more w2 but I see 4 too

3w4, but I've overlooked it for the longest time. I didn't see past my own image, if that makes sense.

i am a 3w2, INFJ-T, a Leo, and a Slytherin. who's with me?

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

@andriabriggette5644

3 жыл бұрын

3w2 INFJ-T libra 😊

Definately 3 w 4 that shit exposed me

I'm a 3w2 🎊🎊🎊

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

🎉🎉🎉

I really feel like I’m both a 2&3, like both feelings feel so so so strong from both sides, I truly honestly always try my absolute best and I feel like I can fall so short, but I’m so loving and I give to much of myself sometimes, like I feel like I’m somehow both but that can’t be the case

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

I would say those examples sound more like a 3w2. But it ok to take your time and figure it out. Sometimes it can take years to really land on our true type. The one that most helps us live true to ourself. Thanks for sharing ❤️

@katycowboys123

4 жыл бұрын

Hillary McCaskey I think you’re right because when I think about it my will and want to achieve anything is stronger than my sense to give my love etc

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Hmac85 that does sounds like a 3 😃

What's the name of your plant? It's lovely.

Hi! I saw both your videos on 2 and 3 and their wings but I cannot seem to be able to identify if I'm a 2w3 or a 3w2 because I feel my core desire is more in line with 2 and my core fear with 3.

I took a test and it said they couldnt make up which type I was. It said type 1 and specifically type 3 with wing 4. So what am I 😂

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Stop it! The test said it couldn't type you? I would look at the cores of the type 1 and 3. I'll link a couple of videos that will help you. kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYuAq5qkntLdqpM.html kzread.info/dash/bejne/maybxY9tetO1abQ.html

I'm defiantly a professional and when I was younger I thought I was an 8 because I thought I wasn't super facial enough

I just took the Enneagram test and my type is a 3w2 with type 4 being the lowest type overall. On a related video, the guy suggested both wings should be developed. How can I develop wing 4? Thanks!

How do enneagram types relate to introvert or extrovert? Is it type 3 social type must be extrovert ?

Can your wing be stronger than your core type?

Hi Hillary! I toggle between a Type 3 and 7, when I first did this test 5 years ago I was a type 4 and no one believed it, everyone said that I’m a 7. And when I attempted the quiz again I’m a 3. I also understand that enneagrams doesn’t change, however for me depending on the situation I realise I can be more of a 3 when the situation is competitive, I wanna win not for myself but for my team as well. However in general settings I’m naturally a 7, enjoys having fun with my friends and also experiencing new things in life, very spontaneous as well. Any advice for me to distinguish the 2 types? :) thank you!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Paige! I have theee videos that I believe could help you distinguish between the two types...first one is where I go over the TYPE 7 and we go over how it is similar and different than all the others types- kzread.info/dash/bejne/a459w8uzkrm0d7Q.html Second one, is the same type of video but for the type 3 - kzread.info/dash/bejne/Yq2bzY9-Xb3VebQ.html And the last one, is a Type 4 video, but it’s the SP Type 4, they are called the sunny 4 and can look like a type 7 - kzread.info/dash/bejne/nalplK9ugdidiag.html - anyways I hope this helps! Let me know if it does! 💕

8:14, you said that Threes must accept the fact that they are loved for who they are not what they do, but doesn't what you do define who you are?? (... yes, I'm a type 3 w 4)

Is it possible to be a 3w2 on the outside, but a 3w4 on the inside? I desire authentic connections with others, but it often feels difficult for me to be truly authentic with others. I tend to hide my vulnerabilities and struggles, but I can easily help others when they are struggling.

#3.SP 60%2 40%4

Can you be a mix of 2 and 4?

I’m ENFJ, I took Enneagram test And got type 3. Do they combine well between ENFJ and type 3?

Is it possible to not be as driven as other 3s? I think I might be a 3w4 and I often judge my worth on grades etc. I have an extreme inner critic and I love validation from others. I’m pretty introverted but I still like attention and love it when my skills are noticed, I aspire to be the best. However I think I’m a lot less decisive I’m not as hard working. I want to work on myself but I sometimes don’t think I have the energy or commitment too. I can be veryyyyy nihilistic and it’s tough to concentrate. My personality type is entp so I wonder if that has something to do with it at all. I just don’t think I’m as ambitious yet share the same fears and motivation as other 3s

I consider myself a 3w4. I do struggle with understanding that WHO you are is different from WHAT you do. What's the difference? I struggle so hard with this concept. Help? :) BTW Great video!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

This is a struggle for 3's for sure. Especially the 3w4. The biggest difference would be learning that you are separate from your accomplishments. You're not more lovable because of what you do. Your worth is not dependent on your achievements. People choose to love a 3 for who they are. Some ways to grow in this area are learn to moderate your pace. Take time to slow down and detach from performance and goals. Practice looking inward for your own identity apart from success and the expectations of others. Realize that love comes from being, not from doing and having. Thank you for sharing. I'm sure so many type 3's can relate.

@MusicaLagu

4 жыл бұрын

@@enneagramandcoaching Yes, I can relate because if I am supposed to understand that I am loved for who I am....isn't who I am someone who seeks achievement? I am caught in a circular argument.

@heidihaeni7783

4 жыл бұрын

@@enneagramandcoaching I was in a bad accident which forced me to slow down and accomplish much less, which was distressing. That's when I realized I had a four-wing not a two-wing.

Wow, this is scary accurate 😂 I’m a 3w2 and you got em spot on girl! I have to wonder though, most of my friends are 6s (mostly 6w5 but some are 6w7) could there be a reason for that? Is it normal for someone to attract a lot of the same types in their life? I’m super curious now that I’ve discovered this world 😂 but thanks for the video!

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Interesting. I wonder if it’s because they are where you go in Health. 3 ⇨ 6. Thanks for sharing about your type! 💛

@JenniferRangel

4 жыл бұрын

Hillary McCaskey I never thought about that but you may be right, thanks for sharing!

@krystinmcmillenbutler4047

3 жыл бұрын

Zaeyla, I attract 6s as well!! I have a ton of 6 friends and I’m a 3w2. Also, I find I attract a lot of 8’s 🤣. My husband is an 8 and I know a lot of people who are 3’s with spouses that are 8s!

I’m so triggered by type 3 that I know that this is me.

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! That’s usually the case 😂

I don't know if you'll ever see this, but I'm lost... I've been going through all that I can trying to find the one answere to help. There is one thing that the ennegram is misunderstanding about the 3. It's not that we mistake love for the attention, it's more like we have never known what love feels like. Attention is the closest thing we have to knowing love. Looking back in my life, I can honestly say that I've never known that feeling! And I don't know how to love myself, when all I see are people being accepted for who they are, and all I'm getting is judgement. Thinking 'what am I doing wrong'.

@gargoylev9209

3 жыл бұрын

I need help, I'm honestly not in a good spot right now

@enneagramandcoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Gargoyle, I am sorry that you feel this way. I think you are so right about attention feeling like love for a type 3. A 3 can struggle with loving themselves. I have at Type 3 son who struggles with this. If you need to talk let me know. I do offer coaching.

@gargoylev9209

3 жыл бұрын

@@enneagramandcoaching I'm searching for any kind of solution at this point. I'm trying to reprogram my brain, but it's not easy. I do need help with this.

Is it possible to have relatively balanced wings? I strongly resonate with both, sometimes in relation to work life vs. personal life.

@enneagramandcoaching

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. It’s rarer, but can happen. I think using one wing in personal life and one in work life makes sense for some people to do.

I’m a 3w2.. serious question, as silly as it sounds... but isn’t who you are created from what you do? I truly don’t understand the difference