Wow!! Amma this is very nice!! Yes peeling away from the screen is tough for all of us irrespective of age or what we are watching be it a movie or work. Dopamine does not discriminate!! Lovevery series every one very much loves it!!

@theconfusedmom

3 ай бұрын

We really enjoyed this one too!

Hi Rachel! I’ve been really enjoying your content lately! I feel like I have 3 critiques with this book…. 1. I don’t like that they used a tablet for screen time instead of a tv, and I don’t like that it shows emmer holding the tablet, let alone the parent leaving the room and leaving the child unattended with the tablet. I know this is the norm for some, but I would have loved if they would have demonstrated more how adults are in control of technology 2. I don’t like how emmer does not respond to her mom and she’s already “deep inside “ the screen…. If a child is dissociated during screen time I feel the show is too overstimulating for the child’s brain. Shows that are not overstimulating a child should be able to have a conversation during the show. Simultaneously… the mom is looking at the phone and saying “I have to do something for work” instead of at her daughter. 3. I was disappointed that lovevery did not touch on how a show can make you FEEL disregard afterwards. All that happens is the child throws a tantrum. This book is no different than “two big feelings” book. I would have loved if they modeled this book similar to “Charlie learns something new” where the adult talks through what’s going on in the child’s body. How screens can make us feel overstimulated, how that might feel in your body, and offered emmr a chance to model checking in with her OWN body to decide when the screen was making her too wired. I just loved your book video on what to look for in books, and I’d love to hear your thoughts on my opinion. Of course there is no perfect book but as you said in that video, children just repeat behaviors. What if normally a child reading this does not mind when screens are turned off, but this shows that it always has to be a hard struggle. To me…. This book totally missed the mark.

@theconfusedmom

2 ай бұрын

Such great points! I wholeheartedly agree on all your points! Especially on point 2, we've even hidden our TV behind the console once when my first was "getting lost" and we had to break TV with her. We've had MANY conversations with her about the effects of TV on our emotions, brains, and bodies and now at 5 she's great at self-regulating it. She'll even say "oh the TV is making me a little crazy!" haha and takes breaks from shows she notices are chanigng how she feels negatively. It's really inspiring. Seems like a great opportunity to dive into that discussion for parents and kids. I do think this whole "tricky topics" title of the series is a huge misnomer. Because, like you brought up here, it's not teaching how to deal with the trickiest of topics but leaving the parents (who may or may not have had time to do research/develop other ways of approaching situations) to have the post-book discussion (without any discussion points no less!) Which is fine, and should be happening anyway With all of that said, i do think they got it right in that these are *how* these tricky topics most often play out in the majority of families lives, and like you said and i said in that video, these books are not for everyone. They are a space for parents who are dealing with these tricky situations already so kids not dealing with them, aren't learning the behaviors. I think my emotions were definitely more caught up in the paci book, and since we always navigated the tricky topic of screens with confidence i didn't think too much into it, but your points definitely resonate!