Never in a million years could I’ve guessed this collab

@Clytax

Жыл бұрын

I Had to Look twice at the Thumbnail because i didnt belive it xD

@Akio3000ify

Жыл бұрын

I'm here for it lmao

@arindamroy5287

Жыл бұрын

Imagine your surprise when I tell you this is their second collab

@Olorile

Жыл бұрын

@@arindamroy5287 Imagine your surprise when I tell you it's the same podcast, just uploaded on a different channel

@blackrose8554

Жыл бұрын

Sadly, this is a very late VOD upload. I watched it weeks ago on twitch. It was great.

This has to be the best Dr.K stream in a while. Learned alot from this

@ruuuku8177

11 ай бұрын

I didn't think I would relate at all honestly but I relate more to dantes and his ideas towards life and sacrifice than I do anyone else in his streams. I saw dantes as his surface level persona but this stream made me appreciate him as a person so deeply

@mr.broski2427

11 ай бұрын

Yeah man he really helps a lot if only he went into an in depth video of his life and how he got to become a monk and everything.

@rosevisionmacs

11 ай бұрын

I love this. I'm new to this channel. So glad this was in my algorithm.

@alittlecreepywhenyou

9 ай бұрын

@@rosevisionmacs It was particularly clever of him to turn off Dantes stream. It is just a pity he didn't disco the chat stream. Puddle waders.

@myname_2663

6 ай бұрын

We are all looking to smile Dantess

The fact he found what looks like a healthy relationship only a few months after this interview is beautiful. All the best Dantes

@ibrahimmasoud7958

2 ай бұрын

Makes me so happy to see that tbh.

@willd42

Ай бұрын

LOL

@luxloxmario4657

Ай бұрын

they broke up

@jinri_p1042

Ай бұрын

This didn't age well

@phelephant2928

Ай бұрын

@@jinri_p1042 it was healthy bro just sabotaged himself idk

That first "girlfriend" story was INSANE that would have been my villain arc.

The unspoken challenge is to get doctor k to say “can I think for a second” Dante’s does it more then I’ve seen most people in a whole video do it in 15 minutes

@Njox

Жыл бұрын

Can't blame Dr.K when Dantes says he fucks animals and yordles in game.

@dumbdonny4824

11 ай бұрын

I wouldnt just assume ots a good thing 😂

@pencilcheck

11 ай бұрын

if that is the unspoken challenge then doctor k wouldn't be able to get a honest answer, it is just "another" content made to deceive the audiences like us.

@pencilcheck

11 ай бұрын

after watching until the later point of the video, I interpret this "can I think for a second" more of a "let me think how to really convey my point to him since he is a bit in denial and is not really understanding what he is thinking through, basically he think he is smart but he is also blindsided" that feel to me, this is not a good sign to be honest.

@christopherholfeld8137

11 ай бұрын

@@pencilcheck I know what it’s used for lol. The point is it’s the unspoken challenge to get it to happen. Literally just a meme comment. I’ve watched every doctor k interview.

I'm unironically happy to see our horse main getting his mental relaxed. As much as we love his schizo arc in league, I wouldn't watch 2 hours of league stream continuously, but I would watch this therapy session from start to finish.

@arthurporter131

Жыл бұрын

Lmao no matter how much HealthyGamer and Dr K say these conversations are not therapy it is plain as day to normal people - this and all Dr K convos are clearly live-streamed virtual therapy sessions

@konnichiyawasan1619

Жыл бұрын

it is not a therapy, it is a coaching like dr K said. who are we to say its therapy when even psychiatrist himself that studied this field knows what the therapy does

@firerams_and_arisinglion

11 ай бұрын

@@arthurporter131 anyone who watches any live streaming needs therapy anyways lmaooo. im just here to troll LOL.😂

@Uaene

11 ай бұрын

@@firerams_and_arisinglionif you spend your spare time "trolling" in KZread comments, you’re the one that needs therapy the most 🤣🤣

@Simon-is2xd

11 ай бұрын

@@firerams_and_arisinglion sure buddy

Dr. K was his therapist all along

This talk is a great response to the “sigma male grindset” trend that young men might be gravitating to. Grind, workout, make money are all good things, but using them as an escape for insecurity isn’t what makes you truly strong or masculine. Also, Dantes was amazing here!

@outlawthesecond7597

11 ай бұрын

fr, when i first saw dantes on tiktok clips i thought he was some adan ross clone but it turns out hes a very genuine and kind hearted person

@AccountHolder007

11 ай бұрын

They’ll set the foundation for security.

@frizky._

9 ай бұрын

@@AccountHolder007 true

@scush

8 ай бұрын

i’d complicate whether those things you mention are always just automatically “good things” because i think part of the problem with the _sigma grindset_ attitude is seeing them as some universal goods and easy fixes when, lilke with any health and lifestyle issue, context and execution is always key … grinding can be super unhealthy if it’s overworking and overstressing you; workouts that focus heavily on bodybuilding and muscle gains can lead to all sorts of health problems instead of benefits; having or making money does not lead directly to happiness. these should all be obvious in themselves but the meme/ideal never really gets into that sort of nuance and i think that is what can lead a lot of people to just be unhappy in new and different ways instead of more deeply understanding the fundamental problems they actually need to address.

@outlawthesecond7597

8 ай бұрын

anything can be an addiction, its just that the sigma grindset attitude normalises addictions to "healthy" things. It is ok to these people to abandon family, friends, things you enjoy and love if it's for some greater personal good that at the end of the day, even they dont understand@@scush

I wonder if my ex watched this. He deals with the exact same thing. Does everything he's "supposed" to do - works out, eats healthy, sleeps, makes good money, has interesting hobbies, limits media.... But he's still miserable. I just wanted to shake him. No amount of external achievements will suddenly flip the switch from insecure to secure. It's an inside job.

@MiDLiFECRYSiS

11 ай бұрын

Such an interesting thing to think about. I did everything I thought I could do to get out of bad habits, being miserable, etc after I lost my mom. It took 18 months of intense therapy and just being vulnerable with myself, friends, and my now wife to understand what was happening. It was never the things I was doing, it was being open and honest with myself and letting go of things that were in my past. Wishing you, and also your ex, all the best in personal growth

@DeadpoolX9

11 ай бұрын

Misery is just the norm. Accept it and cherish it. There's a Musashi quote I keep close to my heart that your comment actually reminds me of. "There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to become stronger, faster, richer, smarter, or happier. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself."

@convertible2987

11 ай бұрын

@@DeadpoolX9 but why tho? why accept it and cherish it?

@user-is6yg4dt7e

11 ай бұрын

@@w花b ily

@TheSbarazzolo

11 ай бұрын

How is he still miserable? It doesn't sound like it...

25:50 "At the end of the day, people will forget what you say. They'll forget the things you talk about. They'll forget the promises you made. They'll forget everything. But they'll never forget how you make them feel."

@FLAMINSPAZ12

Жыл бұрын

Mary angelou?

@antoxin93

11 ай бұрын

Oh yes, Dale Carnegie Noted that in his book too, helped me a lot :)

@lumacomete3736

11 ай бұрын

i wonder how he makes the people he flames feel

@h2woah127

10 ай бұрын

But only most of the time

@NamesZKP

6 ай бұрын

That's starting to become overused

"Letting yourself getting hurt is the next level of control" that hits hard Dr. K

@stefan_gordik

10 ай бұрын

wait till you find out about stoicism lmao

@gathor_

10 ай бұрын

@@stefan_gordik ?

@deeegeeekay

8 ай бұрын

@@stefan_gordik i’m tellin u

@damson9470

7 ай бұрын

that's literally the opposite of what K's saying here@@stefan_gordik

@NamesZKP

6 ай бұрын

@@stefan_gordik Wait till you find out about nihilism.

Half an hour in and I'm enthralled and impressed by his story. It's wild so far. He's so introspective and articulate. I blame the boat.

@wellmaruprepareduknowim3272

11 ай бұрын

dont search his clips tho ahaha

@highgrounder2012

10 ай бұрын

Bro probably doesn't want to carry the boat anymore.

@froggin-zp4nr

3 ай бұрын

Yeah no part of being a 5 year old on a boat in the Carribbean screams I've got control of my life

Shoutout to the random chatter: "Over indexing on control to defeat hurt is being controlled by hurt" What a raw ass quote

@mackfritz5481

9 ай бұрын

Oh yeah that’s harddddd

@db5094

6 ай бұрын

Oh shi that's tufffffff

@therabbidt

5 ай бұрын

Dear God that is raw AS FUCK.

It is so profound to me that his biggest goal in life is actually to have fulfilling connections with others, a fulfilling relationship with kids, feeling secured with other people, yet his succes goals are doing anything to prevent that and he's doing anything to not aknowlage that his world view is not serving him

@DeadpoolX9

11 ай бұрын

You can't be successful and be social. That's the inherent paradox of the modern age.

@ZTanMURReneRs

11 ай бұрын

It is so frustrating hearing him go on about how he wants to at some point have lots time to relax and appreciate time and be with family and the way he thinks to accomplish that is to deny himself all that right now for years. I'm still at the start tho so let's try to temper judgement.

@marcog.verbruggen674

6 ай бұрын

@@ZTanMURReneRs its like every other sentence that comes out of his mouth is him *describing* exactly what the issue is and the next one is him saying he can't identify what the issue is. And when Dr. K asks him a pointed question that immediately points out his own thoughts to him, you can physically SEE him backpedal and rationalize and defelct. He's so, *so* close!

@mathiaschristensen1194

6 ай бұрын

@@marcog.verbruggen674 I think that's a little bit of human nature though. We want to minimize suffering, even if it means cutting out things that are very good for us in the long run, but takes time to build to that point.

@owenbrasseaux3894

5 ай бұрын

I’m going to go armchair psychiatrist on this one, partly because I think I’m saying something useful and partly because I can admit I’m absolutely projecting something about my own life. He comes off super genuine and honest in his introspection. He does a great job of describing his goals and accepting that he only controls his own actions. It all sounds great and like he’s real close to lining everything up to a happy future, but when you look at how he’s actually living he’s not getting any closer to it. I think trauma from his past is making him think he needs to be be more perfect than himself to give himself the chance at those things. Dr K has another video where he says addiction, or our susceptibility to dopamine seeking, increases with negative emotion. Sumscars are pockets of this negative emotion stored in the mind from events in our past. To free ourselves from seeking more to cover up these scars, we can go back in our minds and heal the trauma that we are holding onto that put them there in the first place. He sounds like hes got a lot of answers but is still seeking self perfection in new ways constantly. Two of his Twitch clips have him after a LoL loss saying something like “if you just pretend your granddad/ whole family isn’t/ aren’t dead it’s like they’re still there. But you can’t do that with a LoL loss” with a strained almost panicked voice. It makes me wonder if his team losing is like losing family to him. I’ve heard a few different body builder type men imply that they sought their physical strength because of times they felt powerless and weak in their youth. From Dantes’s interview he had early experiences with losing people. never seeing his friends from other countries again, dealing with near-death danger on the boat, and with his online relationships that went bad quick. It seems to be something like thinking “if I was just strong enough I could keep anything from happening to these people”. A LoL career is the perfect trap for this sort of fixation, you might think you can just make no mistakes and your team makes it through alive every time. The answer is letting go of what makes him think he’s not capable of going for that kind of life yet. The Hindu concept of mukti refers to the desire for freedom from all problems of the world. They say that mukti is the strongest of all desires we have from the world, but the ultimate goal is Bhakti, to be free of desire and love the perfection of being/creation with all its problems. We have to let go of the idea that we can become free from problems and love the life we have. This is similar to what dr k is getting at when he says “the next level of control is allowing yourself to be hurt”.

I love how this is getting recommended to us now lmao. aged like fine wine

Dr. K is having to "think for a second" so many times is hilarious 😂

“So be it. If this person wants to dislike me they can dislike me. If this person wants to judge me for this they can judge me. Let them. And even if they say things that hurt me, it will hurt. So be it. I do not need the avoidance of hurt to be able to control my life.” This is one of the most impactful things I’ve heard in my life. Thank you so much for this video and making the content you do:)

I loved watching tiktoks of him saying "silly" things, but wow, NEVER IMAGINED HE COULD BE SOOOOOOO EXTREMELY RELATABLE

@egorsdeimos3523

8 ай бұрын

I know I’m late, but I think everyone is a lot more relatable. We are all just as scared, lonely, and lost, at least at first. Save yourself from drowning before you pick up others, or else you’ll both drown.

@user-yg3oe7ov8z

7 ай бұрын

@@egorsdeimos3523 insightful. build yourself a boat before inviting others, or else your log will sink.

Emotional problems require emotional solutions. His relationship history for such a young man is really sad & traumatizing (catfished so brutally). Sounds like he coped by diving into self-improvement. He needs to process these emotional situations!

@Kris-vb9uz

10 ай бұрын

Also the other relationship don't help

@yoobeta

8 ай бұрын

@@mutokenjiyou have no idea what you’re saying homie

@somebodyoncetoldme2664

8 ай бұрын

@@mutokenji narcissists are a minority in society and Dante is not one of them. Maybe stop throwing that shit around like everyone you know is a actual narcissist that could be diagnosed with some shit like that either. Stop demonizing Dantes as if he is harming other people anyway. Wanting to self improve and wanting a good body while not shitting on others is not narcissist.

@mathiaschristensen1194

6 ай бұрын

@@mutokenji Armchair psychology helps nobody, and is also the reason prescription medicin is such a wide spread problem in a country like America. You just are not qualified to diagnose such a broad and nuanced diagnosis as narcissism to this internet person you don't know on a personal level. If anything, ironically, that comes off as narcissistic.

He's very his age. I sympathize a lot. He's constantly defining himself verbally. Its like half his speech is spent saying "the thing about me is...." and it does not stop. Its an intellectual crutch. And i think since young men by instinct crave guidance so much, he's spent so kuch effort figuring out intellectual/cognitive systems to come up with logic and rules to guide himself. But he's so unfamiliar yet with what being in the moment is and understanding peace is in the present. Hard to do, of course. Im so glad Doctor K is here to help shake him out of this little logic boxes. If any young men around his age out there also think and feel this way, i lovingly pressure you to please, please, go talk to a therapist. You cant logic your way to peace. Thats an emotional state only. Look into Buddhism as a start if you can. Just throwing that out there.

@progressivedragon6664

Жыл бұрын

👍🙏👏

@artifundio1

11 ай бұрын

You can't logic your way to peace, I agree. But... You can logic your way out of logic and into awareness, and fall into peace as a result. When looking at the body as a compass, logic can help. I have to say it because I am doing it. I am just a regular person with tons of determination and zero social community or support, or family. I wouldn't recommend it, but I am sure I am not the only one in this position. And it really hurts to read or listen to people say that you absolutely can't do this alone just out of pure logic. Some of us are alone and there is no way around it. So, let's have a little faith in us.

@MonkeyHero

11 ай бұрын

@@artifundio1 "You can logic your way out of logic and into awareness". Yeah, of course. We agree. Thats why at the end of my statement i recommended looking into Buddhism, for those whoay not have already. Its not the only helpful philosophy for freeing one's mind and becoming mindful, but, its one of the handful of modalities that are pretty fined tuned to help with that. Obviously some amount of logic is needed to develop personal principles and philosophies on. Logic is kind of pike tue computational computer- its merely a tool. It almost seems to me you may have interpreted my comment as saying one cannot think their way to freedom. And thats not what im saying. What is being said by me, and many many other Masters before me; is that logic is merely a tool. It can be used to help the puzzle of confusion about our ultimate purpose/nature. But the logic itself is not the being. It translates our spiritual/practical desires into concrete concepts and plans. Thats the part youre claiming to do. This is common sense and no one is arguing against this. But once the tool of logic is leveraged, it can be abandoned- it is a means to an end. The logic was used in the first place to translate inner desires- which are emotion based. Our emotions feel our truth, both internally as well as sensing external truths. Underneath it all we are having an emotional and intuitive experience, the logic lays on top to decrypt the emotional reality- which is why we are sentient and "self aware" beings. Of course you should study yourself. But our logic is not the Master in our situation, but current culture has taught us logic and reason are the most noble of directions to seek. But they merely serve our intuitive truth. The young man in the video we are commenting on is falling into an understandable trap of identifting with his logic patterns as who he is. Its an egoic logic. He is overthinking. It has caused him to ingore the emotional truths he is experiencing underneath all his systems and labels and indetifiers he grants himself- which is why Doctor K eventually digs them out and forces him to look at them again- because thats his truth under all his emotionally charged computations about his life rules. That is all that is being said here.

@quintverkoeijen

11 ай бұрын

@@MonkeyHero Beautifully said, this really resonated with me!

@noramuffincake

11 ай бұрын

wow, well said, especially the phrase "figuring out intellectual/cognitive systems to come up with logic and rules to guide himself," what an apt description of the phenomenon

As a fellow Dante, I wish he'd understand the quote of "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" Life is gonna hurt you but you can't let that fear of pain keep you from ever attempting to be happy

@venrakdrake

Жыл бұрын

That statement is so powerful and it's what I'm trying to come to terms with. I was talking to a girl I was totally in love with and after a few months she said she wasn't ready for any relationship. I had to cut it off with her and that resulted in pain that probably lasted a month or two. But yet I continued to SUFFER about it for another 5-6 months. That was all optional, in hindsight I could've skipped it all.

@NeverwascooL

Жыл бұрын

@@venrakdrake true but learning has to be taken from the pain and suffering. I've been there plenty of times and I learned to be open and up front about my intentions to pursue a relationship. A lot of times this plays out cause one or both people don't know the end goal and then someone gets hurt as a result. It's easier to get rejected after saying I want to date early than spending a season falling in love and then the next six months hurting. Thats truly wasting your time. Keep making attempts. Someone who thinks the world of you is out there.

@dumbdonny4824

11 ай бұрын

Im really hoping this video gets him closer to this

@latteARCH

11 ай бұрын

@@venrakdrake tbh sometimes you gotta suffer to learn that it was “optional in hindsight”. I was like you but I was sad for two years… I learned that those two years weren’t optional. It was valuable time to feel emotions, grieve, and move onward. Now if someone rejects me I can move on really quickly, because of what I slowly learned about myself those two years.

@NeverwascooL

11 ай бұрын

True, I fully removed myself from the option of dating for 3 years after realizing I didn't even know who I was or what I wanted from myself let alone a partner. Now I gush about my dogs and Pokemon and know I wanna find someone who shares at least one of those loves with me.

wow Dantes what a guy, so cerebral and honest, wish him the best to reconnect with his emotional side! And the last 20 min of this talk hits hard, both in a sad and happy sense. When DrK mentions going beyond the axis of control and no-control, that made me almost tear up.

@needmoresleep9041

2 ай бұрын

What is that thing next to your name

@rutka_uliana_tarashkievich

2 ай бұрын

​​@@needmoresleep9041It means they're a 1 month sponsor, it's a custom emoji

@nnarcus

2 ай бұрын

@@needmoresleep9041 it's a healthygamer membership marker. Kind of like a twitch sub marker

he wants to be so genuine, so consistent, that it totally blocks change

@DieterPrivate

Жыл бұрын

Yup, it's clearly blocking him and he only sees things from his own perspective because he believes that's the right way. He wants to be so authentic that it's more fake. He is very young though so he'll eventually find out everyone grows and there's more to life than the grind.

@michaelthompson7217

Жыл бұрын

great way to put it

@latteARCH

11 ай бұрын

@@DieterPrivate What's funny is that part of being a more authentic you is to not really aim for being authentic. There's no benchmark to aim at -- just simply to exist with what you are right now.

@DieterPrivate

11 ай бұрын

@@latteARCH that's exactly what I'm saying. So many people want to be authentic and in doing so, play a character instead of just being themselves, which of course changes over time

@mutokenji

11 ай бұрын

​@@DieterPrivateYES! Very well put. Im kind of shocked at the overwhelmingly positive comments on this thread, like, congratulating Dantes. I really don't get it.

“It’s just one of those things where…” is a cue that he is intellectualizing away an emotional response. Every time he says that, he is focusing on finding/creating the “category” the response to the question would be in. Then he tells us what that category is characterized by, and why the instance fits into the category. Not his emotional response.

“After I turn off the stream, I’ll stare at the wall and just feel empty…” Aw buddy I feel so bad for you. I hope he gets the help he needs processing these difficult life situations he’s had.

Dr. K predicted what would've happened

47:00 that “yeah” he gives Dantes is the reason i love these interviews. His ability to realize what’s someone’s trying to say or figure out about themselves, but still guide them in a way that helps them figure it out on their own is nothing short of astounding. I hope to be this good at communicating with people one day.

@purendar7210

11 ай бұрын

Sounds like you’re very perceptive, imo you’re already on your way to getting there

@K0dakHalfBlack

11 ай бұрын

@@purendar7210 i truly appreciate that! Doing my best for sure

His trust has been betrayed too many times so he's avoidant and wary. Both in romantic and friendly relationships. This is an extremely depressing thing, so he works out (mental health plus) and plays to his strengths in streaming, which gives him wide recognition. That's why he feels empty after streams, it's a reminder that he is truly by alone/unnoticed without it. His only solution is to open himself up to those betrayals again, because the connections he could possibly make far outweigh the rejection he may feel along the way. It's particularly exacerbated by the fact his early years to develop relationships were ruined by moving around ("They will eventually leave, this isn't permanent"). These times are important because you learn about rejection in a safe place around family. *fyi im only halfway through the video, maybe they discuss this solution.* I feel like all of us can find something we relate to in this. I definitely do.

@mxandrew

6 ай бұрын

epitome of “that’s rough buddy”

The collab we didn’t know we wanted but that we NEEDED

@jofephclimber3104

Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@AXharoth

11 ай бұрын

its nto a collab its an itnerview

Ngl, hearing him talk about when he was 5 and threatening to harm himself made me rethink everything he had said up until then

@JoHouse533

11 ай бұрын

Especially because he immediately presented a narrative of what the perfectly rational 5 year old boy in this story wanted to achieve by this. Foreshadowing a lot there of what is discussed much later.

@sankeethganeswaran3024

11 ай бұрын

@@JoHouse533 sry wdym by this? just a bit confused

@JoHouse533

11 ай бұрын

@@sankeethganeswaran3024 I have to watch that part of the video again, what I remembered was that when Dr. K asked about the reason for the self-harm, Dantes didn't talk about his feelings or what he thinks he must have been feeling in that situation. Instead he phrased it like "5 year old Dantes wanted to achieve X by cutting his thumb", which seemed odd to me to not mention anything about the inner turmoil and confusion that 5 year old Dantes surely must have felt to do something like that. Later in the video, they talk about how Dantes intellectualizes a lot and doesn't allow himself to just feel (badly paraphrasing here), which I thought was already reflected in how Dantes handled this discussion of his self-harm as a kid. Probably I'm reading too much into it, in any case it was very notable.

@sankeethganeswaran3024

11 ай бұрын

@@JoHouse533 oooh ok yeah that makes sense, thanks for clarifying!

The fact that he had the urge to stand up and walk around is so funny

I saw this whole chat on a mirror, well worth it. I initially had some judgements of Dantes that were skin deep but as he talked, I started to really like and empathize with him.

@codycrawford7842

Жыл бұрын

That is based purely on this talk, I've heard he is a toxic steamer. I totally believe that too

@SmokinTonic

Жыл бұрын

@@codycrawford7842toxic streamers are better

@matiasalejandromab

Жыл бұрын

@@codycrawford7842 he had some drama before, but tbf it was when he was younger and more toxic (i think he was 17), but nowadays i truly believe he is one of the most positive streamers, atleast in the league scene

@Dom-Andre

Жыл бұрын

​@@matiasalejandromab being real i think he leans a lot in satire on stream to lift the weight on his and his viewers shoulders, he is either extremely unhinged (obviously joking) or extremely honest with his feelings and its easy to detect when he is joking, i like his content for that

@Geikkolisko745

Жыл бұрын

@@codycrawford7842 hes not rlly toxic at all. Atleast from what I've seen. He just says some weird shit very often

Dantes is such an enlightened gentleman. We are all human and flawed in our individual ways, but the way he reframes his insecurity into motivation to better every aspect of himself is really commendable. The fact that he has come so far already at a young age really goes to show his strong willpower to improve and not wait around to be saved. He has a wealth of knowledge to share and I truly hope that his someone special comes along and will truly appreciate him.

Pro tip...Take some time to cultivate face-to-face relationships. I find this human's take on life fascinating and impressive but what I also see is someone who has replaced the awkwardness of human connection with the drive to 'succeed'. He even states that all he does is stream, doesn't spend time much with family or friends. All of life is about rejection and risk. When we spend all our time in reflection we easily fall into creating false narratives, it's the mirror of escaping into addiction. The sweet spot is recognizing those patterns and finding balance. I'm old. Been there done that.

@Madchris8828

11 ай бұрын

Well stated. Cognition and actual reality of being in front of someone and spending time with them is not the same at all. Things are far more spontaneous. I relate to this kid in the sense I've been in the cognition realm for too long before

@firerams_and_arisinglion

11 ай бұрын

let these grown up kids today figure it out or actually fail trying to lmao.😂

@bremcurt9514

11 ай бұрын

​@@firerams_and_arisinglionYou think your generation didn't do this?

@quan2x293

11 ай бұрын

When you say "we spend our time in reflection" do you mean the everlasting regret of not doing things? Or ruminating for example?

@artfulescape

6 ай бұрын

Reflection on thoughts or experiences as in 'studying' them. Based on what Dante shares in this video he seems to intellectualize everything as a way to create reasons why he should avoid anything that might cause him discomfort. Reflection is how humans learn but overdoing it is just as bad as not doing it at all. @@quan2x293

I'd like to see David Goggins in an interview like this. Deep questions to truly get at his motives for what he does.

Bro is being really professional, well spoken and good to the interviewer. They have a such fun dynamic going on.

The phrase “It’s just one of those things where…” encapsulates this entire interview. I could discuss its meaning and nuances for a while due to how intriguing it is and what it implies…

@erictruong2371

11 ай бұрын

Could you elaborate?

@AndreiTeodorPetre

11 ай бұрын

I noticed it as well but what does it imply? 🤔

@arirejtman

11 ай бұрын

@@AndreiTeodorPetre ​ @erictruong2371 It seems like Dantes views certain "patterns" as "fixed" and "intrinsic", similar to how genetics and "nature" affect our lives. I felt like he struggled with "Nurture" and overcoming certain preconceptions of life, and while he would sit for hours and "think" about things in a seemingly open-minded "trance", he would tend to arrive to the same conclusions without changing his perspective. When someone repeats a similar phrase and justifies their actions with "This is just how it is", then it explains why they act the way they do and seem to feel a sense of "emptiness". Since our lives can end at any time due to external forces that we're not in direct control of, we have the opportunity to enjoy and appreciate every moment. Time is a variable that dictates this "necessity". If Dantes is able to explain himself so well while being extremely angry and unforgiving towards people when he interacts with them and they make mistakes (Gaming, relationships, etc.), then he exhibits confidence and seems assured of his values while not satisfying his innate desire to be "happy" and find his own reasons for living. He reminds me of a broad pond that expands beyond the horizon, yet it's a shallow pond that could be deeper if he "dug into the ground".

@AXharoth

11 ай бұрын

so annoying xD

@rrrrr0_

11 ай бұрын

OP is being ironic

When Dantes talked about being the fat kid and Dr. K broke it down and explained how the hurt was still there, it really struck a nerve with me. It made me realize how much I was hurting and been hurting and deep down that fat kid was still sobbing. So thank you both so much for the talk it helped a lot more than you realize.

Holy shit, this conversation is 2 hours and 20 minutes of free therapy for me! Thank you!!

35:23 this is really tough for me too. I haven't had that person to talk to for like 7 years now. I feel like I wake up and immediately am reminded of the fact that I haven't woken up with a partner in bed in what feels like forever

@agent5657

Жыл бұрын

You will get it chief, we all will eventually 💙

@firerams_and_arisinglion

11 ай бұрын

lol ew. sharing your most vulnerable state (sleep) with someone else is disgusting lol. 🤢

@luxeayt6694

11 ай бұрын

@@firerams_and_arisinglion sounds like an insecurity bro

This was one of the best Dr. K interviews in a long while imo.

@progressivedragon6664

Жыл бұрын

Came here to state the same thing… And I don't think he even made him cry

@dibsdibs3495

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it’s definitely one that’s got great stories and advice for everyone.

@talosgak1236

Жыл бұрын

Fr all those uninteresting streamers with very little personality were getting boring And don’t get me started on V-tubes

@princekatana8792

11 ай бұрын

What is wrong with V-tubes?@@talosgak1236

I'm not a streamer and just fell on a clip from Dr.K and Adin Ross from TikTok and I've been watching/listening to these conversations, it's so exciting for my brain and I'm in awe of Dr.K's ability to discern, and help. I'm literally a 33 year old Haitian French Canadian lesbian and I'm so not the target market but anyone can learn a lot from these conversations. It's brilliant. Thank you!

5:01 As an introvert I've done this a lot growing up because I had plenty of time to spend in my head. It tends to annoy people because I know myself so inside and out and it seems like a lot of people don't know themselves so if you ever question anything they will get emotional and freak out

@Real_Helix

Жыл бұрын

what do you usually question that makes them emotional?

@kylespevak6781

Жыл бұрын

@adventuretimedaily9335 I didn't say it was

@kylespevak6781

Жыл бұрын

@@Real_Helix Usually asking why someone would do something toxic, harmful to others, etc

Dr. K you totally nailed it. I could feel the underlaying struggles of Dantes so hard through the stream and I think Dr. K found an amazing way of putting the cards on the table.

I watched this live from both the HG Twitch and Dantes Twitch, it was a sight to see both totally different chats reacting to this collaboration, and both chats at some point were somehow in sync spamming FeelsStrongMan, that was awesome :)

I love how Dr. K can always ask good questions. He really hits the right spots in EVERY interview. I love this man

I haven't finished yet, but I want to thank you Dantes for doing this I think that everyone who watches this will learn something about themselves.

I don't watch Dantes, so this is my first interaction with him. He is very interesting. I really like him and how he thinks. He is highly analytical and craves authenticity. With that, comes extremely high expectations of himself and others. The thing is, he knows people are flawed. I just hope he can realize that being the "perfect" human being is not sustainable, let alone achievable for many people. There will be ups and downs. Constant growth is obviously great, but that seems to be his main priority in life (at least right now). At the same time, he really wants genuine relationships. That seems to be his ultimate goal. I hope he can realize that people dont need to be perfect to have these relationships and they dont just magically appear, they take effort and maintenance with the people, not only just introspection. The whole "people who take advantage are just NPCs" did rub me a little wrong. Relationships are often transactional, even genuine ones. One red flag does not make said person invaluable to you. I often find these relationships very helpful, so long as you know. And they can grow as well. I really like Dr. K's analysis about toxic positivity and control and being present and basically everything lol. He truly does call out how to help yourself and things about happiness. I really like that he said not to cut people off from a single mistake. Learn about why they did things at a minimum. Understanding people is so important. These are just my thoughts. Loved this whole interview. Thank you

@MrSonnyboyy

Жыл бұрын

Good points, I like how you summarized some of the key points from this conversation.

@Nerobyrne

Жыл бұрын

It's funny because I'm the exact opposite of him 😂 I wonder if we'd get along.

@hebe_lia

11 ай бұрын

you just summarized all of my thoughts , i hope dantes reads this

@HectorGonzalez-kw8gn

11 ай бұрын

TLDR

@tonapittman

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, you've expressed many of my thoughts as well. I also love that Dr. K has known enough people to reassure this guy that he's gonna be ok in the long run, just being aware of how emotions can lead his cognitive function.

I love how Dr.K just smiles with enthusiasm. clearly loves his job. inspiring

Hope this guy finds someone who cares for him despite his insecurity.

dantes has to be one of the most fascinating humans ever

This was fantastic. Thank you Dantes and Dr. K for the mass cure wounds.

This is one the best Dr K talks I’ve had the pleasure to experience. Two bros vibing and truly enjoying each others input on existential thoughts we can all relate too

I didnt realise how much i related to Dantes. I'm a year older than him and bare the same struggles and this discussion helped me understand my circumstances. Thank you

I never imagined such a collab, you're both great to hear

I relate to Dantes a lot in the sense that working out ties into this idea of being perfect. That we have to find ways to keep our motivation alive out of fear that we may lose it someday. And losing that drive to improve would deem us undesirable by others. As much as we preach about "loving ourselves" and keeping ourselves to a high regard, we're still social creatures. We survive on social validation and a lack thereof has negative effects on us. Until we get that validation, we're simply left wondering how and when we'll achieve that advertised dream of "living life to the fullest."

I learned a lot about myself from this talk. Thank you Dr K and dantes. Both fantastic human beings.

believe it or not i relate to dantes in some way. his mentality of putting off gratification until he realises ultimate success/feeling secure (with it probably leading to him feeling insecure all the time) is a similar situation to mine. but in an alternative mentality where i put myself in temporary situations where i feel good about myself/feel good about my worth, but in reality its a pseudo feel good, since its not made of my own accomplishments/working on myself. analogy i can only really think of is building a house foundation out of hay instead of bricks. it lead to a constant cycle each year with high highs and low lows. but this video and further journal-taking helped me figure it all out, and break this karmic cycle. i was so happy after it, made me smile in a way that hasnt happened in a while. thank you dantes and dr k

I love both of you, thank you so much for this video!

this seems like such a good thing for dantes. from the limited time ive spent watching him; maybe a stream or two a week. i havent seen his deep values be challenged like this. sure hes talked about why he does things how he does it with very solid reasons. but no one has truly challenged it like this interview/talk. such a good watch.

2:11:37 "Just be who you are" literally this line for some reason... I feel relief... At that moment i felt such an relief and peace. Damn i need to speak to someone like this guy.

1:05:53 I can relate to this habit Dantes seems to have, answering a question with a story. I do it because I feel like I need them to know & understand where I’m coming from, & every bit of my life is connected, so I end up telling them a ton of information that wasn’t actually necessary for the answer. I’m also an introspective person, so I wonder if that’s a symptom of tracing thoughts & ideas to life experiences…like, we become unable to think of any given topic as a stand alone subject, we can only see the rows of dominoes that led us to our current conclusion. Very interesting! Edit: Also using that story as a roundabout answer, because being straightforward is vulnerable & that’s scary. Insecurity strikes again🎉

This has got to be the best Dr.K conversation I've ever seen. The honesty and the pure genuinety and all the deep thoughts, I'm speechless and I think it gave me more insight and understanding than any other Dr.K video/stream. Just amazing.

we need the part 2 of this so bad rn

Deffo feel this last sentiment, It doesn't become harder to progress and still be hungry when you become more secure. Being proud of yourself and moving towards improvement aren't mutually exclusive. In the end, the thing that is admirable is the mentality of progress and not the milestones along the way

36:00 dantes literally explaining the core tenant of stoicim and doesn’t even realize it, it’s great they discussed it

Holy fuck, this is one of the best interviews. I've seen him do in a while… So much profound enlightenment, feel like I just walked out of a therapy session.

Watched this live, I think it's one of my favourite interview honestly :)

Praise DrK! Hermeticism is confirmed and props to Dantes for opening up so genuinely for a super interesting talk

this is more thrilling than most action movies, feels like a sort of war ongoing here.

this was amazing, every time I watch one of your videos I learn something. thanks for being you.

What a guy, he’s just so much more unique than anyone else I have ever seen. Aweeeesomeee.

This kid is a trip to listen to. More wisdom in his fingernails than most people I know have in their whole bodies.

@nerveinz6453

11 ай бұрын

Yes, but his job as an entertainer basically includes lying. But some can't see through that and understand him, because to connect you need to actually listen/talk and not just hear rumors

@FrenchToastMafia735

10 ай бұрын

A lot of it seemed pretty superficial and defensive to me

@HUGEFLYINGWHALE

2 ай бұрын

​@@FrenchToastMafia735 same

Not to look down other interviews, I've enjoyed many of them, but this here is by far the best talk in this channel imo

I love how he looks at his beliefs and questions them its so smart of dantes

So glad I watched the whole thing. Amazing conversation.

4:30 I just love how in-depth the guy went inside of his own mind, appreciate it!

This is one of the best interviews on the channel, masterclass The monologue after was cut but was also so damn good

@progressivedragon6664

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree 100%

@kristapsvanags3434

11 ай бұрын

Is there a place where I can watch the monologue?

I just finished watching this from the twitch vod -- great interview, i took some notes. thanks for the good video

This one is absolutely amazing. So interesting and I am learning a lot about myself as well. Well done.

Dantes has a really unique view on being insecure and it being used as motivation to achieve your goals in life (46:53 to 48:09)

Never heard of this guy, but what a great personality!

I've been watching a lot of this videos last week, the long ones and the short ones. I gotta say, this one is one of the best!

Wow. I haven't heard of this streamer fellow before, but now that I'm 1 hour and 40 minutes in, this guy kinda resonates with me to an extent. I'm glad to have listened to this interview.

Genuinly one of the most insightful guests. Its different from every other interview in that he has thought about everything he is saying.

Great conversation and fascinating human thanks for uploading the whole thing!

This, my friends. Is why Dr. K makes the big bucks. By far the best stream I’ve seen from him

Petition to have Dr. K react to some of the most unhinged Dantes clips after interviewing him

It's absurd how I learn more watching Dr. K than with the therapist I pay hundreds for :x

Wow.. I never would have guessed how emotionally intelligent this man actually is. Big man with a big heart.

thanks for this, his case was really similar to my personal problems & this video has helped me alot on where i've been stuck on for a long time.

This is the best pod cast probably since reckfull. Lets go dr.k

@progressivedragon6664

Жыл бұрын

Ikr?

Holy shit!! He said it is what it is!! He defined "It is what it is"

@rhythmandblues_alibi

Ай бұрын

I hate that saying 😒

The part he said if they can hurt me, let them That's just so good It made me understand my worth and that I was just wasting my time by thinking about their view of me

In the last 2 years I really became self aware and I constantly spent time alone just thinking about my life and how certain events formed my personality. It came to the point where every thought thats isn't really meaningful or deep enough I think its boring or not even worth thinking about. I've seen a lot of Dantes clips, and really enjoyed watching his short form content but I never knew he is a thinker like this. And it really scares me while watching this podcast how similar we think and speak with Dantes. View of life, trust issues, fear of loosing controll. Even they way he starts to explain every emotion with a simple situation. I always thought a lot about the fact that every people views this world differently, but I came to the realization that every human starts off with a blank personality, and as life goes, events happen in our life, this personality fills in. I have a totally different life then Dantes, but the result is oddly similar.

GIVE THIS DUDE ANOTHER SESSION HE FUMBLED AGAIN.

Watched it on Dantes channel before i saw it here. What an interesting talk. Dr K was thoroughly intrigued and enjoyed every minute of this conversation. The anomoly of a human being at his age spending so many hours on self reflection is truly fascinating. It made me want to spend more time reflecting on myself. 10/10

I'm not really sure how I even ended up here, but this here, has been remarkably beneficial, and I'm not exactly sure why. But this was truly fascinating.

I was shook seeing this thumbnail i would've never expected this collab

I have seen so many unhinged clips from this guy, he really need this