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3 ай бұрын

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@unsolicitedadvice9198

3 ай бұрын

I don't have one, but I should really get on that

@dbuck1964

3 ай бұрын

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@sandiadelsol6011

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for the info !! Your advice is greatly appreciated and your videos are really informative and intriguing and would like to ask where is your accent from it’s British right

@eatstudio9244

3 ай бұрын

just found out the channel, its amazing .is there any way that I can get access to the previous newsletters? feels like I've missed so much

"All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." T.E. Lawrence aka Lawrence of Arabia

@vissuuu69

4 ай бұрын

uncharted 3 ❤❤

@interesting2491

4 ай бұрын

Rather interesting

@levophetamine

4 ай бұрын

real

@michaelcut

4 ай бұрын

Bars

@Faus4us_Official

3 ай бұрын

Thinking supplemented by actions.

"Babe hes just a friend" The friend: waiting for you to upset her

@the.kristian.experience4689

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

It’s so interesting how we think of ourselves as “sane”, but when we let imagination run free, we become delusional and as crazy as it can be.

@Tokmurok

2 ай бұрын

Because a level of insanity and creativity are directly related.

Love did conquer all and waiting patiently did pay off. For her, the narrator isn't the protagonist of that story. He was simply the narrator.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

3 ай бұрын

I had not thought of it that way! This really made me stop and think

@nothomelessonyoutube

3 ай бұрын

@@unsolicitedadvice9198 thanks for your videos, they are condescending down books for me I currently don't have the time to read. I'm very excited to read them for myself when I have more free time.

@ark_artemis6557

3 ай бұрын

@@nothomelessonyoutube she was lucky her lover returned. if love conquer all things, the protagonist should ve been loved by her. the reality is that love inst fair, to be a winner someone must lose, her lover is the winner, the narrator is the loser. maybe the narrator can be the winner someday, maybe not, he must live and discover this by himself.

@nothomelessonyoutube

3 ай бұрын

@@ark_artemis6557 what no one lost in this story. The lady and her love are together, and our narrator hopefully learns how to become loved by a woman in the same way. He didn't lose he should realize this woman wasn't for him. She wanted to be with her lover. The narrator needs to go find his lover.

@SilverYPheonix

Ай бұрын

Oof, that slaps. Basically the idea of the lone viewer in the theater that tricked himself into thinking he was part of the movie he was watching.

your videos are poetry in themselves 👏🏾👏🏼👏🏿👏🏽👏🏻

@EnvizMask

3 ай бұрын

Hi youtube

@unsolicitedadvice9198

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am glad you like them!

@luked.bensley1157

3 ай бұрын

The physical manifestation of KZread itself

@wersab5960

3 ай бұрын

An ai made this comment donțt get your hopes up

@syzygythenightwingwatches

3 ай бұрын

KZread watching a video about Dostoevsky is megabased

I felt sorry for myself after reading this novel. He is literally me.

@hopscotch_

3 ай бұрын

You aren't alone, man. It's a great wakeup call though.

@SoulfulJim1

3 ай бұрын

I’m 46, and I’ve been this. At one point, I gave up on this type of fantasy love and I found something real and we’ve been together for 15 years. I’ve been having 2nd thoughts lately though. I believe I made the mistake of not having found a version of the fantasy which could have worked. I know I didn’t try hard enough or try to meet someone else with whom I felt those specific kinds of feelings. So my warning to the warning is to be sure you haven’t left something unresolved when you do decide to be more realistic. Now I feel like I might be taking my regrets to heaven with me.

@plotoyadnaya_rossiyanka

3 ай бұрын

⁠@@SoulfulJim1 that’s actually really sad. I’m much younger than you, but somehow both me and my ex partner have already ruined our marriage for the same reason. I’m still not sure if I’ll ever achieve this dream of mine, if achieving it will ever worth it or if I won’t be lonely and heartbroken for the rest of my life, but I know one thing for sure: you either have to go for your dream or totally forget about it. Both choices can possibly make you happy, but staying in this limbo of regrets and inaction absolutely can’t. I don’t know if my choice was right - maybe I should’ve stayed and learned to be happy with what I already have - but it’s definitely better than living a life full of regrets.

@LilyFlowers-hh3sc

3 ай бұрын

​@@SoulfulJim1hey it's never too late. The only thing constant in life is change. I'm still trying to find someone I can share philosophical conversations with and hopefully not watch any football. That's a difficult thing to find but I'm going to keep trying. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and I might not live a long life. But I'm not going to live a boring life and I'm not going to give up. You shouldn't either. Good luck.

@SoulfulJim1

3 ай бұрын

@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc Thanks Lily. I haven’t given up. I just keep having a back and forth thing going on and sometimes it feels like everything is wrong and fixing it is nearly impossible. Other times I’m extremely grateful for the way things are. Things are changing every day because I haven’t given up. That means I’ll figure things out (in the best way I can) eventually. I hope you find whatever it is you’re looking for. I guess the home stretch (if I dare use a sports analogy) is what really matters for all of us anyway.

During the video, I was reminded of something GSP said (legendary ufc fighter, if you don't know), it was about how he's very scared of how the fights going to turn out in the days leading to a fight. He was talking about how one way he'd be able to calm himself was to just drive around the city and watch ordinary people. Like this elderly woman who's buying her groceries has no idea who he is and probably doesn't care whether he wins or loses and he uses things like that to remind himself he's just a person like anyone and that winning or losing this fight doesn't really have huge consequences or significance. He made sure to at least tame his ego basically.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

That’s really interesting! I’ll have to look him up

@Dylonysus

4 ай бұрын

Thats a true embodiment of humility

@tendiesoffmyplate9085

4 ай бұрын

You should probably try typing out the guys full name. Or does he not deserve that much respect from you?

@MythosMen

4 ай бұрын

@@tendiesoffmyplate9085 He's very often referred to as GSP.

@giveone

3 ай бұрын

Georges St-Pierre

I would say that the main difference between the imagination that Dostoevsky uses to weave these stories compared to the fantasies of the narrator is that Dostoesky does not engage in creating escapist fantasies but rather engages to reader to see a less illustrious version of life that is more akin to reality. I believe that the story is describing the danger of escapist fantasy, as we can often use our imagination to help get through difficult situations in life rather than using to for pure escape. We must be weary of escapist fantasies and daydreaming and instead engage in the real world.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

I love this train of thought! I think you make a wonderful distinction there

@dontforget3113

3 ай бұрын

And if the world itself is but a fantasy, an illusion, what then?

@ElonMuskrat-my8jy

3 ай бұрын

​@@dontforget3113If you think that you are r-tarded.

@sharanvaid9840

3 ай бұрын

​@@dontforget3113that purely depends on the individual how to percieve the world; as a fantasy or as something real and solid that can cause you great pain if not taken seriously. A fantasy does not have the power to ruin you but the real world does.

@dontforget3113

3 ай бұрын

@@sharanvaid9840 And yet, if the real world is a fantasy, then by the logic you just stated here, it does not have the power to ruin you in any meaningful way. And this is precisely what many religions claim: do not fear that which destroys the body, but fear only that which destroys the immortal soul. Or perhaps you are more familiar with where your treasure is there your heart will be also? A great many individuals agree that the world is an illusion, but as many others or more insist that it is not. The problem is, frankly, that these two sides cannot coexist peacefully, because there is absolutely no reconciliation between these two ideals. Live at let live doesn't work. It's not a real solution. It's apathy.

As a recently limmerent maladaptive daydreamer this really speaks to me. It’s crazy to think people even back then were going through the same things I am that I never even hear people talk about now, let alone in popular media.

I almost feel this book was writtin about my simpin ass 💀

@seshiria_4290

3 ай бұрын

Bro💀

@sweetestaphrodite

2 ай бұрын

Same. I’ve been avoiding reading this book because I think it’ll be far too confronting

@knoledge_186

Ай бұрын

Pick up this book today, and finish it in the same sitting. And i felt like dostoyevsky decided to wake up and hurt me.

@userin26496

24 күн бұрын

@@knoledge_186im too scared tbh 😭

When I read that novel, I recognized much of myself within the narrator. I found that his developing love for Nastenka and the outlook of their shared life began to draw him out of himself, opened a door for him to lead an actually real life. I was rooting for him. I think even though the end is heartbreaking in the sense that his hopes got destroyed, I thought of his reaction as the best one possible, showing a genuine love. He let her go. And with her his fantasies about their life. Nastenka left, but she also left him with something concrete in his life: love in the proper sense that wills the good of the other. He found love at the loss of Nastenka.

White Nights is my favourite novel to ever exist. I think that although yes, it’s a warning to not dwell in your dreams, it’s also a story of completely unconditional love. The Dreamer wished love and happiness to Nastenka, even when his narrative was shattered completely at the end. He is a good and pure heart.

@pittaaaabread

2 ай бұрын

It's deeply beautiful and heart shatteringly painful story, yet it's 1 of the most human experiences I've ever had while reading it. Unconditional love is such a dangerous thing, with how core it is to the human experience it also rips the air out of your lungs and leaves you on a bed of sand, slowly sinking into a hole of your dreams and aspirations. Drowning so peacefully and solemnly that you never even realize it till you're burried under the weight of your own emotions.

No flashy cuts, no rumming around. Just a man with thick eyebrows providing helpful advice. Keep up the great work.

Man. This just blew my mind. It's speaking to the exactly the problem I had as a teenager. I spend years obsessing over a idea of a girl and living in my imagination. It almost destroyed my life. Thank you very much. I love your Videos ❤

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am so glad they are helpful!

@Lely2.0

3 ай бұрын

elaborate?

@M.Ghilas

3 ай бұрын

how did it go since I'm in that phase

@hubertknapheide6329

3 ай бұрын

@@M.Ghilas Well it wasn‘t a nice time for me. I was doing worse and worse and couldn‘t stop thinking about her. Living in my dream world like we were lovers, but I have never talked to her really and didn‘t know her. I was so afraid to be a creep and try to get to know her, that I became a creep, who would look at her all the time. It became a self fulfilling anxiety. My mental health was decreasing to the point I had suicidal thoughts. A vicious cycle I felt like I couldn’t escape. Anyways after like 4 years of not telling anyone, it came out and I went to therapy. Now I am better😁 But for me to finally move on from her took me a long time. This is what made my school life suck, but I have learned so much in this time.

@Lely2.0

3 ай бұрын

@@hubertknapheide6329 so you made an imaginary friend in your head that you wanted to be real? if yes then how did you not know the imaginary friend? arent you supposed to make a personality for them? also what did the therapist do or say?

As a Russian, I feel so grateful for being able to read Dostoevsky and other incredible Russian classics in its original language❤ thank you for this wonderful video!

I remember I burst out laughing when I read the end of the book, he's such a tool he reminded me of myself. Great video as always, keep it up!

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! And he definitely reminds me of myself as well. It is a cracking book

@dbuck1964

3 ай бұрын

Also hilarious that modern men who Romanticize female virtues and constantly jump to their defense are often referred to as “white knights”. 😂

I love your channel name because it immediately shows that you know that some people don’t want/need your advice and immediately sets you apart from the plague of gurus online that scam people. Which in a part of youtube like this is really important

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Ah thank you! That was actually my intention behind the name. I always wanted to make it clear that I don't think I know better than anyone else, and that no one has asked for any of this. I am just talking about things I find interesting

@human-127

4 ай бұрын

​@@unsolicitedadvice9198allow my unsolicited opinion but i think you would look absolutely fabulous with a mustache

@deepaksingh0777

4 ай бұрын

​@@human-127 He will look like young Nietzsche

@human-127

4 ай бұрын

@@deepaksingh0777 isnt that cool

@deepaksingh0777

4 ай бұрын

@@human-127 yes it is cool

If I had watched this video 25 yrs ago (which was not possible bc it was not created) I could have saved myself a few million dollars and two marriages. We are brought up in a world constructed of layers of lies and wishful thinking, and this is all institutionalized and celebrated generations upon generations to be encoded into our mental framework. Thanks for the good work.

@lorishu48103

4 күн бұрын

Bummer about those lost years tho right recently divorced myself

I found this video yesterday and got intrigued by the title and the thumbnail especially that i myself a dreamer so before you delved into anything i took the chance to read "white nights" first and dear lord! I AM THE NARRATOR! I'm exactly as delusional as him and now that i've finished your video i'm deeply disturbed and i don't know what to do It's sufficient to say that i've started escaping into the world of fantasy when i was very young because i've had a very strict mother but i've never grown out of it even though i'm in my mid twenties now A few days ago i realized that i only believe my narrative and ignore the reality of things, i've always thought that i'm lonely and no one really understands me but that's false i've many friends and even if they don't quite understand me _well mainly because i'm delusional and my expectations aren't even real therefore i'm always disappointed_ they still love me and care for me unlike me who is so indulgent in fantasies that i forget to live Recently i've realized that i'm strikingly similar to Mr. Bennet from "Pride & Prejudice" God... I'm sad but i don't know how to stop and start actually living life. Thank you for such an eye opening video, it's my first time seeing you but definitely won't be the last

He knew what’s up. People have one person they will always and truly love. If they are unattainable, they will use other people to fill that void; but should that love return, they will discard said people and run back in a heartbeat.

@gangstar1455

Ай бұрын

Wowww❤

The ego is the enemy of love and happiness. ❤ Really nice video.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it

I’ve never been able to put this pattern into words. It was like that quote from the matrix, “you can feel something is wrong, but you have no way of telling. You can’t see it”. Yet this video perfectly described my condition in the past few years. I feel stuck in a loop. Like being thrown around a washing machine with no way out. Repeating my mistakes in a blind circle.

When I was 12 my grandmother died of cancer. It was excruciating because I had to watch her perish away for over a year. I loved her deeply, she has always been my female role model. For years afterwards every single night I dreamed she was still alive, I will let you imagine how it felt to wake up every single day to the realization of the cold hard truth. After some time the dreams stopped but the traume remained dormant below the surface and manifested itself again, stronger than ever before, when I suffered another loss. At that point I was crushed under the pain and it took some time for me to get on my feet again, thankfully by that point I was more mature and better suited to handle hardship than my 12 year old self.

Dostoevsky is an incredible writer. His style of written proses really catch your attention and you strive to constantly search for every single hidden meaning this has. Overall, great video.

How narratives guide our actions/decisions is brilliant

Just recently read this short novel, and this observation hits hard! I envy your friends who can have those philosophical conversations on a daily basis lol

Philosophy…You just can’t get enough of it 💭

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

It's true

Hi, I'm just a mere 17yo frm India but this is so relatable ... Lockdown has played a major role in all our lives and in mine by not letting me experience the real world .. I had lost 2 yrs old my life even though it was lockdown i could've been so productive as I skipped entire 8th and 9th grade without studying at all but instead i read romance novels and different such fantasy genres and escaped time.. i didn't know what was happening around me with my family I just simply felt as if time was ticking too fast and here I am i messed up my 10th grade board exams grades even though I got 85% ik i could've gotten 98 and now I'm in 11th and have stem subjects but even a little lack of motivation pushes me to read romance and dream of an impossible reality.. I might be a science student but I write poetry and love Literature and history but reality is that stem is the future and if I want to contribute in this next generation of digital revolution then physics will have to be my literature and maths my poetry... I do still maintain a notebook to write down my thoughts and poetry randomly .

Thanks for always sharing the sources as well as sharing your opinions on them. I am glad to have found your channel

Mate, you are getting way too real with this one. I just went through the exact same thing this protagonist went through just two days ago. I needed this.

I am so glad I found this video. I think you just saved me from a potential misery and despair. Thank you!

Omg this is so good! It's like learning about complex story literatures at the same time learning about real life philosophy, thank you so much

What’s great video!! I really appreciated the connection and overlap references you made from all sorts of philosophical perspectives. Really brings some clarity to your arguments 👏🏻

Your channel is a hidden gem, my friend. And this might be one of your best videos. Keep doing your amazing work. It's poetry for the soul.

my heart hasn't related to something so deeply in such a long time, this is such an incredible video❤

Your videos, specifically the Nietzsche ones, got me to start reading philosophy again after a long semester of psych studies. They’re always in-depth and easily digestible at the same time. Tysm for putting out quality essays like these for free 🙏🙏🙏

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Ah thank you so much! I’m really glad it’s helped rekindle your love for philosophy

This hit home in a terrifying manner

It's scarily accurate how White Nights depicts inaction in love, cause of anxiety or fear of rejection etc. One of the main things I took from the book is to show and tell how you feel, to not be afraid to feel cause we're human in doing so. In our dreams everything feels easy and comprehensible, you picture things as you want them to be - but to put them to reality, is a thing on its own. This book actually made me feel uneasy after reading it, I felt so sorry for the protagonist, as if I never in my life want to become like this, it's self-destructive on a whole another level.

Wow, what a great video. Can't helt but relate in so many ways, it's crazy. Keep it up man!

Very interesting. Obsession with a romantic love narrative can be a poison. I of course speak from experience.

Such a great work man. Only now I could realize all the lessons the book holds . thanks a lot ❤

I introduced my friend who learned English as a second language and he thinks you speak fast but said your pace on Thoreau’s video How to be happy was better and all of the words sank in ,but appreciated inclusion of subtitles since it makes things easier.I told him you speak normal with excellent articulation and I have encountered by far people who speak at an accelerating pace than this ,as usual I understand everything and adore your elocution ,keep it up.

I can’t believe that White Knight was used in today’s context over a century ago. I know it’s always meant “good guy” vs Black Knight, but the context of a friend-zone nice guy trying to nice his way into a woman’s heart.

@myax88

3 ай бұрын

We have in Poland novel „Lalka” about romantic man over 40 from nuvorich class trying to win a heart of a coldhearted noble woman.

Quite a fresh and productive video, my fellow. Congratulations on doing such a good work. You have my admiration

I was about to go down the same path. I've done over and over again. Everything about the narrator made me realise he's present day me. The only difference is that I don't dream. I use video games as my escape from my own reality. In my room alone, instead of being grateful for what im getting.

That ending frustrates me so much for some reason. The protag clearly wasn't in a good place for a relationship but he got used and discarded and he didn't realize it, instead being 'happy' for her and not learning anything.

@elisalazar9880

Ай бұрын

Being happy for those we love and harbouring no resentment for their betrayal is quite a strong positive thing and underrated...

Thank you so much, bro, cuz you use transcriptions in your videos. I'm trying to learn english and this help me a lot. I watch, read and listen to online things that i like to know about. Literature and Dostoyevsky is a simple exemple. My english is beginner to intermediate, but my goal is to be fluence in two or three years. I just study russian cuz i love russian literature, specially Dostoyevsky, Tolstoy and Chekhov. If someone here wants to talk in english about universal literature with a brazilian guy, i'm here, guys! I would love practice my speaking habilities with those who also love literature. Thanks a lot! Very good video!

I just love your work, man. Hope your channel blows up.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad you like it

Great video and insight that's truly original & very well presented. For a channel that's a few weeks short of a year old, you're doing a great job growing. Keep the great content coming.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Looking forward to keeping it running this year!

What an amazing video. Thank you so much! I just finished reading White Nights and had trouble understanding this book as well as finding its analysis online. Thank you, now I finally grasp the idea behind this novel!!!

@unsolicitedadvice9198

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am glad it was helpful! Though this is just my interpretation. I make no claims about it being the correct one :)

In the french language, une nuit blanche is a sleepless night. I can't help but wonder how this concept might change the interpretation. Must pick up a copy to read myself. Thanx for the recommendation.

you are a godsend 😩 thank you! i've only ever read crime and punishment and karamazov. I never knew dostoevsky has written something describing most of my life. Thank you! will get a copy immediately!

I really thank you, you helped me a great deal to get my ideas around and your insight was sure a useful one, I'll be sure to credit you in my essay ( ofc the essay will be my opinion but none the less you assured me that I was on the right road )

I love this. I just finished reading this book and you put all the thoughts I had in an orderly fashion. I am really enjoying your videos. Thanks. 😊

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching! I’m really glad you like the videos

This analysis was so beautiful. I have been a dreamer my whole life, so when I learned to love myself during the last relationship I had, it took a toll on me after it ended. It felt like I lost a huge part of me. Watching this made so much sense to me, giving me a huge insight. I will not stop no love myself regardless, even after a great, and the best relationship I had. Bring forth what I already have, and learn to love new things about me. And see the love my friends and family already have.

Your channel is one of the most valuable on KZread.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! That’s very kind of you to say

You, my guy, deserve much more than 77k subs, I’ll add one to them but that’s about what I can do. Best of luck on yt journey 👋🏼

Every second of this video was truly profound and insightful. So many of these ideas coincided with my resolves, but perhaps I couldn't word these concepts in such an amazing manner. There is something I'd like to add on to this concept and it's possibly linked to quantum mechanics: "Reality is manifested as the opposite of what is percieved". Even if not the opposite, it does not match with perception.

Exceptional presentation. Standing Ovation.

I've literally just read the novel yesterday, thanks for the video

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

Wow what a great take. Thanks for sharing

You are doing a great job. Your videos contain important and interesting knowledge. I am also grateful that you dont use easy words but those which are "for more intelligent people", so i can improve my English

ALOT of people would benefit from hearing this

your explination is in a another level , “I used to imagine (a real, not fantasy) dreams about a boy, yet when he married another person it was .. since then i stoped dreaming

Damn this video really got me thinkin’, thank you for makin it!

thank god i found your channel today. now it would be more effective to read philosophy as your interpreations are amazing

Thank you!!! Great content!!!

Really liked this novel, I even knew where this was going even before getting to the end because I am a dreamer.

This video has a healing effect

wonerfull, thank you for your content. being intrigued by philosophy it clicks with me and helps me personally.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching! I’m so glad the videos are helpful

Thank you! This was very helpful ❤️

Im currently at minute 10 and I have to go do something but I feel like missing something if I dont end this video. Keep it up you make awesome content

As a maladaptive daydreamer, this book was a wake-up call for me.

I'm in love with this man.

So he was more focused on his ideals of her and not her herself. Also if he were introduced or practiced in more platonic friendships the mans value of another human would have changed I believe. Besides those thoughts, very eye opening especially in reality and dreaming. It is like he was maladaptive day dreaming but actively in the real world, just in VR mode

Well i had the same hero complex... but mine was a 3 year relationship.. almost came close to marriage.. guess what she left me... here we both made many plans and dreams together, about the honeymoon, job, no of kids, names of kids, schooling of kids, our vacations, building a house 2 houses... she loved ocean and i loved mountains 😂doing charity... but she left men in an instant... i was devastated... like almost came at the brink of madness.. iam a stoic philosophy follower + a devoted christian (trying my level best)i think i made a mistake of making a web of dreams with her as my central power core and hell she was... i was the best productive man when she was with me... she is my first love, so those 3 years were heaven... so i was dead inside when she left... but i think im a fun guy, though i have pain inside i smile at people i talk to them, i care for them... so i felt people doing the same for me... then i started loving people without expectation... though i lost faith in romantic love(she stole all the love i stored for a woman, like the song "i spend all the love i saved "the distance and extend i went for her cannot be replicated or duplicated also the beauty of romantic love lies in its randomness and unpreparedness and i think going for another love with a terribly broken heart is going to hurt the new partner ), its not the only love out there.. and love giving more than getting... i love every little things in life now... learning new kind of loves... finding out more about me... dusting old hobbys, i think the scope for a romantic love and married life is over for me or i don't want to take that path anymore.. i had suicidal thoughts almost came close to a suicide but loving God, family and friends helped me so now ive overcome the fear of abandonment that is even if anyone leaves me i don't feel to mind it or gets disturbed by it... i think i developed this kind of "don't care " attitude towards myself from the knowledge that "i already lost the most valuable thing" and what can defeat an already defeated person... nothing... so now i can love without fear of loosing 😊

sad when even book characters should better be prepared for disappointment. great vid as always, thanks P.S. YT has never recommended this channel to me, brought in after installing TikTok

Amazing critique. Thank you very much…

Bro good shit ! This video describes where I am in my love life right now

This is so gorgeous ❤

The stories we tell ourselves about the world, define our life to be either enriching, or pure misery.

great to hear about this novel that I have never read. Can't help but think about how things have changed: people can monetize fantasy now or share it in a way to create mass fantasy about a shared world, which takes the isolation and uselessness out of dreaming. there are fantasy games with economies bigger than small countries! But you have to create a fantasy others can share in, not one centered entirely on yourself like the protagonist is doing. Even back then if you can generalize then pining can become poetry and songs others can relate to and you can make some career out of. I guess my point is: The market for fantasy has grown and continues to grow, so it might not be as destructive and negative as white nights insinuates.

Expectations lead to disappointments. This stuck with me ever since when my friend said it, I misunderstood at the time but years passed and that sentence grew onto me. If you never expect anything, you will never be disappointed at anything. Only give yourself standards, not expectations. Standards of what your man/woman would be, be it they should hold the door for you or listen to your ramblings etc. not an expectation that they would do it. You actively find someone with your standards NOT someone you daydream about/ expect something of them.

This analysis is so good it changed my rating for this book 😂💖

Another 🔥 video thank you !

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching! I am glad you enjoyed it

Dostoevsky? Fabulous! Thx for your great vid!

Very good! Valuable insight!

solid video, especially the aristotle's quotes! thanks a lot for pointing the exact book too. could you maybe make subtitles more in a form of sentences than short phrases? they change too fast 😵‍💫

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! And I’ll look into it

I am thoroughly convinced reading Dostoyevsky might be the antidote to my problems

@ElonMuskrat-my8jy

3 ай бұрын

His writings and worldview were highly influenced by Orthodoxy ☦️ I highly recommend his major novels, Notes From the Underground and his later short stories, most especially Dream of a Ridiculous Man.

@sweetestaphrodite

2 ай бұрын

Literally had this thought a few days ago wtf

Love the end 🌷

I'm reading it again, thank you.

wonderful and thought provocking explanation..

Imagination is a tool like any other, it's not dangerous as long as you don't let it control you.

Sometimes i‘m not sure if I really want to watch one of your videos because the title isn‘t really attracting me. But everytime I get struck by it. Thanks for your work

@unsolicitedadvice9198

4 ай бұрын

Ah thank you! I’m glad you are liking the videos

@rick8246

4 ай бұрын

@@unsolicitedadvice9198 i really do. You have a big impact on me recently

This video is gold

@17:34 the love we could give to those with less resources, less money, less security,less time, less priveldge once we have loved is insane. Maybe if it’s taking you so long to replace the person you once loved mayeb it’s not supposed to go to another lover but to many different things: volunteer work at a shelter, becoming the engineer or business person that will convince their company to create more homes , learning to cook for your community if not that man you were willing to do anything for.

thank you for teaching people that their delulus aren't the solulus

man you earned a subscriber

I read most of his other most important works but not this one yet. I always came to a similar conclusion in understanding where he’s coming from but doubling down on my prior principles, because screw trying to be better. So I’ll say again, screw it, I’ll keep dreaming and clinging to my delusions because there’s still a nonzero chance I can pull them off, and I won’t let this shitty world stop me. Lmao, love is a scam, and I won’t stop chasing my desires at any cost. I refuse to compromise on anything and like the great men Raskolnikov spoke of, all I need to do is dare, and continue to dare and not back down or waver the way Rodya did in turning himself in. But I suppose that line of thinking sounds immature. But I still don’t care because I can still win the way I want.