Don’t Call Me A Strong Woman - Lindiwe Hani

Public Figures. We see them, follow them, idolise or vilify them. We believe that we know and own them. Lindiwe Hani had a private attachment to a very public figure in South Africa’s struggle for independence. When she lost her sister, with whom she had an unbreakable bond, her life fell off its hinges.
She’d always been Chris Hani’s daughter, she’d been taught to hide her pain and be strong, now as she was falling apart, she had no one to hang onto. She leaned on hard to alcohol and drugs and became addicted. Lindiwe Hani tells the story of finding herself, reframing strength as a black woman and breaking generational trauma cycles.
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  • @jk.4736
    @jk.47363 жыл бұрын

    I have listen to her 3times, eloquence is on point👌🏻

  • @vyonapatience5184
    @vyonapatience51843 жыл бұрын

    Well said Lindiwe Hani, Black woman, it's okay to break down and feel vulnerable.

  • @jay02021
    @jay02021 Жыл бұрын

    So she’s 41? Wow you ageing gracefully 🥰

  • @nametau8427
    @nametau84272 жыл бұрын

    'the beauty of strength is actually crumbling' this is deep. Such a beautiful emotional story

  • @annbodingwenya3529
    @annbodingwenya35293 жыл бұрын

    I could not hold back my tears. Lindi you have a way of mixing pain & humor in your story. That is the uniqueness that you are.

  • @ceciliaongweny1829
    @ceciliaongweny18293 жыл бұрын

    You’re a queen soldier! Keep blossoming 💕🌼💃🏾so proud of you👍🏾

  • @dinniajhr4401
    @dinniajhr4401Ай бұрын

    Just beautiful. I am sorry to hear of your pain. I love your authenticity. Thank you.

  • @sianoikimari
    @sianoikimari3 жыл бұрын

    There’s a common saying that Kenyans say to each other when crying and that is “don’t cry”, and it is the least soothing two words to tell a person in pain. I don’t know if it’s something that’s commonly said across Africa but the toxic idea of being a strong woman hinders our divine feminine power and the blessings that follow. Thank you Lindiwe, this was wholesome.

  • @judykomen6576

    @judykomen6576

    3 жыл бұрын

    True, I hate it when people say that. And "be strong" to someone that's grieving. As if crying is a show of weakness.

  • @Flourish_today

    @Flourish_today

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's a common African thing my dear. Very irritating.

  • @jesseludenyo6436

    @jesseludenyo6436

    2 жыл бұрын

    its because swahili is an impoverished language

  • @sianoikimari

    @sianoikimari

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jesseludenyo6436 interesting perspective. Makes a lot of sense.

  • @franmdleleni6520
    @franmdleleni65203 жыл бұрын

    Wow! What a deep story. It is okay not to always be strong. We are just human. Am happy that you found your true self in the end, Lindiwe

  • @malkiadebbie
    @malkiadebbie3 жыл бұрын

    Strength is vulnerability🥺 I needed this, thank you for sharing your story with us♥️

  • @carolinewanja1013

    @carolinewanja1013

    3 жыл бұрын

    well said Debbie

  • @elizabethkalunda1544
    @elizabethkalunda15443 жыл бұрын

    Free indeed. May you continue in your self freedom no matter what.

  • @wanjirukuria593
    @wanjirukuria5933 жыл бұрын

    This was worthy watching❤️❤️! Cheers to more healing

  • @karimimiriti3827
    @karimimiriti3827 Жыл бұрын

    Am crying as I continue listening to this amazing woman 👩🏽 it’s great to realize yourself and have time for your self to think what better for you and you your self

  • @waihiga124
    @waihiga1242 жыл бұрын

    So much resonates. I appreciate this very much Lindwe.

  • @busisiwemlangeni6155
    @busisiwemlangeni61552 жыл бұрын

    i read your book twice and i understood you better now. your father must be so proud of you uyimbokodo.

  • @therapistMAG
    @therapistMAG2 жыл бұрын

    RESPECT. I have known pain and I have fought that "Be strong" "Don't Cry" sham. Bravo my sister. Vulnerability is Strength to me too, and authenticity is the most bae to pursue and live unapologetically. Warm regards to all

  • @msleny6767
    @msleny67673 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely Lindiwe!!. Your last word is the greatest lesson we all need. There is power and strength in being vulnerable and honest accepting the reality 🙏❤❤❤

  • @idawairimu7093
    @idawairimu70933 жыл бұрын

    Waaa we would only hear stories of apartheid and in our history books.. I get now to connect thru yr story.. Thanks for sharing

  • @markjoseph6498
    @markjoseph64983 жыл бұрын

    How deep & emotional yet so inspiring. One of the best engage talks I've ever come across. "strength is not crying..but the power of crumbling...& rise up"

  • @EngageTalk

    @EngageTalk

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mark. She is a brave African for accepting that weakness is strength.

  • @faithada3108
    @faithada31083 жыл бұрын

    Allow yourself to breakdown to build up. I believe it's okay to be vulnerable and let that pain out instead of reserving it defining strength coz you actually explode in unknown ways. Thank you for sharing your strength.

  • @maurinedknyantika2289
    @maurinedknyantika22893 жыл бұрын

    Wow, I do not know you Lindiwe but thank you for choosing to face the inner you. Reminds me of my own identity getting lost when my famous mother died and my father and church folks forgot I was not her nor will I ever be. Your vulnerability as a woman is what we all need, so as to allow ourselves to break when our souls are hurting otherwise you'll fall apart. Then getting up from it and the journey ahead may be slow but worthwhile. Your sharing about your story has given me courage to keep fighting to live and be. Am in therapy and finally I see the light within. Your humour made me smile and your daughter is learning from a truly inspiring soul. Asante

  • @georgemwanje81
    @georgemwanje813 жыл бұрын

    Wow, felt every word. Thank God for healing

  • @shikushishi6820
    @shikushishi68203 жыл бұрын

    Very well spoken. I wish you the best in your future.

  • @zipporahkyusya7394
    @zipporahkyusya73943 жыл бұрын

    This reminds me of my mum passing on when I was soo young.. The pain and the trauma, and nobody willing to share or walk with you was hard to overcome. Years down the line I.e 18 years plus, I had to seek counselling to overcome this. I'm on my recovery journey and I hope it works out to me amazingly. Thanks Lindi for sharing this🙏

  • @africanawang2674

    @africanawang2674

    Жыл бұрын

    Hugs dear. You will overcome.

  • @selfieboychannel8338

    @selfieboychannel8338

    7 ай бұрын

    Your strong enough to overcome any odd my lovely ❤hugs

  • @mantwamadiba4715
    @mantwamadiba47153 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 4 sharing

  • @expertwriters3959
    @expertwriters39593 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to your story. Thanks for sharing your story truthfully and letting me know that it's okay to be vulnerable

  • @mercykamure3681
    @mercykamure36813 жыл бұрын

    Incredibly insipiring. Thank you for redefining 'being strong' as being vulnerable yet still rising again after it

  • @jepchumbaruto9935
    @jepchumbaruto99353 жыл бұрын

    It is They way you defining what strength is for me.

  • @lizokoth6556
    @lizokoth6556 Жыл бұрын

    Wow - story beautiful told by a beautiful lady. The pain depicted is so deep yet eloquently told. I love you Lindiwe. Sending you huggs.

  • @rosemarykamanu3276
    @rosemarykamanu32762 жыл бұрын

    Wow, great story of resilience despite very tough times. It teaches us a lot. Thanks for sharing. I love it that you say strength is allowing oneself to be vulnerable. Great lesson.

  • @martinxaba4850
    @martinxaba48503 жыл бұрын

    Wow God bless you, my dear sister!!!

  • @marymwesh
    @marymwesh2 жыл бұрын

    so touching and uplifting. BIG UP!

  • @stephaniebitok
    @stephaniebitok3 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful woman, beautiful story. Incredible lesson!

  • @useryoutube167
    @useryoutube1672 жыл бұрын

    This is incredible!!!

  • @refiloemalepa2006
    @refiloemalepa2006 Жыл бұрын

    Yhjooo can even hear tears in your voice😭😭😭

  • @mercymsezeni838
    @mercymsezeni8382 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤ There is strength in telling your truth.

  • @Iamfree8005
    @Iamfree80053 жыл бұрын

    Good one😃

  • @NungariwaMuchaiCeo
    @NungariwaMuchaiCeo Жыл бұрын

    Painful but very inspiring ,sometimes we must be broken to be whole....sad and painful though....you got beautiful legs girl.....

  • @mamafricatalkshow9815
    @mamafricatalkshow9815 Жыл бұрын

    Congrats I love you for doing this

  • @jassymisole8072
    @jassymisole80722 жыл бұрын

    This is amazing

  • @thakhaniwambedzini5939
    @thakhaniwambedzini59393 жыл бұрын

    Yes antiza✊🏾

  • @pamelamubuta
    @pamelamubuta2 жыл бұрын

    Powerful!

  • @joannjui2900
    @joannjui29003 жыл бұрын

    Deep!

  • @claudwingu
    @claudwingu Жыл бұрын

    Deeply profound

  • @designellementorganicartde2456
    @designellementorganicartde2456 Жыл бұрын

    So amazing! wanna meet you !

  • @charitywairimungugi-latz1315
    @charitywairimungugi-latz13153 жыл бұрын

    Wow!

  • @sallysally9011
    @sallysally90113 жыл бұрын

    Smart gal

  • @adahbinti7103
    @adahbinti71033 жыл бұрын

    It's OK to break down. We are just human!

  • @nkwanziruth1320
    @nkwanziruth13203 жыл бұрын

    At some point all being strong is the only option

  • @rachelhirbo3440
    @rachelhirbo3440 Жыл бұрын

    Wow...

  • @RonikaJennings
    @RonikaJennings10 ай бұрын

    Hey sister. He is still alive and me too. I have his karma.

  • @faithsigogo1487
    @faithsigogo14876 ай бұрын

    Yaa life ne!

  • @judymwende8876
    @judymwende88763 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @muthoninaom2731
    @muthoninaom27313 жыл бұрын

    ❣❣

  • @eleanorayebare1406
    @eleanorayebare14063 жыл бұрын

    So eloquent

  • @micente4028
    @micente40282 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @evambiyu6413
    @evambiyu64133 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤

  • @basavirah5200
    @basavirah52003 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sarahjustice526
    @sarahjustice5263 жыл бұрын

    They call strong woman to give you more crap

  • @refiloemalepa2006
    @refiloemalepa2006 Жыл бұрын

    So much trauma 😭😭😭

  • @RonikaJennings
    @RonikaJennings10 ай бұрын

    He gave you the greastest life to live.

  • @Mwangazahealth
    @Mwangazahealth2 жыл бұрын

    Tell me someone without a story....

  • @Mwangazahealth
    @Mwangazahealth2 жыл бұрын

    What if she didn't know how to say it.

  • @lauramay928
    @lauramay9283 жыл бұрын

    Nothing wrong in breaking down🖤👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿

  • @christinamitini115
    @christinamitini115 Жыл бұрын

    the background is too crowded that the presenter is camouflaged