Once you catch them cheating…. they can never trust you again.

@sarahnoah3693

4 ай бұрын

Haha love it

@anacristinamoura881

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 very good!😂😂

@Michael-ux4hn

2 ай бұрын

😂😅

@AbstractM0use

Ай бұрын

Too true!

@teeks7067

Ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Narcissists believe that what they do isn't cheating because it's justified (in their mind).

Emotional affairs is a betrayal of intimacy

@carolashlee8002

9 ай бұрын

I agree & my ex Narc is doing that with his ex wife. I finally got evidence of them meeting up in secret. I’m done

@kawaterskakatheryn6063

2 ай бұрын

me too, I just got out from a 3yrs...I can't believe how happy I am without him...

How do you know they're cheating you ask ...? If you suspect they are cheating.. they likely are.

My husband cheated in all of those ways. I left him 14 months ago! Never been happier!!!

Mine cheated me out of love, kindness, affection, respect, time, care

@user-vk6lq9ng5z

Жыл бұрын

Same

@user-kf3yz7so6q

Ай бұрын

100% the same… this is so true.

He wasn't cheating but there was always someone or something else that was more important than me and our relationship

@emiliaa6175

Жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. Woke up one day and wondered why I feel like an empty shell of a person. I am on the bottom of his priority list. He is committed to everyone and everything but me. Being in a relationship with a covert narc leaves you feeling like a second class citizen. My emotions don’t matter.

@jubenmendez9855

Жыл бұрын

Both ways for me..

@reneephillips7303

Жыл бұрын

He was cheating

@Music-Is-Real-Love

Жыл бұрын

​@@emiliaa6175 I can relate to feeling this way. Thank you.

@Music-Is-Real-Love

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

1. He is secretive with his phone. 2. Paranoid about his phone. 3. He often becomes obsessed with a new "friend" at work. And then whenever I say it's inappropriate he randomly quits his job. 4. He never gets along with bosses. Supposedly they always hate him. 5. I've caught him talking on snapchat and reddit to random women. 6. He denies any proof I show him. 7. He tries to turn everything around and shift the blame onto me. 8. He often tells me "just get over it" 9. He's manipulative 10. Makes rude comments and they claims he's just "joking". 11. I catch him in small lies all of the time. He will then tell me im not remembering something correctly. Yeah, i could go on but that's just a drop in the bucket of what I i deal with I'm so done.

@snowflake2910

8 ай бұрын

Mine would have locked me in a cage if he would. I want allowed social media, friends of the opposite sex, and I had to stay by his side in public. Recently went to Vegas for his step dads wedding he ditched me and flirted with other women in front of me. It was the final straw and called for divorce he said he's working on things and would go to therapy. I'm still miserable and no therapy session scheduled. I just can't get over how he acted like I'm the whore when he acts like that. It was straight up projection. He should have been the one in the cage.

@HeavenTriesIt

8 ай бұрын

@@snowflake2910 Make a secret plan to escape! Tell him you want a job to "help him" then take your paychecks and run!

@cassiebennet4262

5 ай бұрын

That hurt my soul just reading that. I hope you're long gone and thriving.

@curtriedel5036

4 ай бұрын

The male version of my girlfriend

@tati-anaroseee4316

4 ай бұрын

My bf is exactly the same kind of narcissist and does the exact same things and he has been better the last couple weeks but I feel like he's just hiding it better

Yes! There was no physical cheating but there was ALWAYS another woman in his life who was more important than me. Edited: actually there was physical cheating as well🤦🏽‍♀️ ThankGod it's over

@kimvannote5024

Жыл бұрын

His mother and sister

The source one woman can provide will never be enough for a narc

@csibiedit8046

7 ай бұрын

Than they need to have more male organs if a woman are providing is not enough. To keep a harem and accept what every women provide must be a strong man.

My ex did all 5. I told him he was looking for someone else, and eventually he’d find it. He said that wasn’t his goal, but he ended up spending all his time with the new supply. He wanted me to stay, but no affection, no touching, no sex. He said his new “friend” shouldn’t affect our “friendship “. I blocked him before he could discard me.

@saintejeannedarc9460

Жыл бұрын

I remember that evasive language oh so well. My ex's version of "that wasn't his goal", was always, "that isn't my plan". Every time he used that dodgy language, that was exactly his plan and he'd end up doing it. In our case, it was the atheist gf half his age. It wasn't his plan to see her. It wasn't his plan to go back w/ her, blah blah. Even when I found out the second time, and kicked him out, he lied about seeing her all the way out the door. Then the following months he still lied about her, because he was still trying to keep the door ajar to get back in w/ me.

@sisid6295

Жыл бұрын

Horrible i know how this may hurt u am so sorry he is a loser :(

@eunicegantt3069

7 ай бұрын

Bravo!!

@fantazm79

Ай бұрын

This sounds almost identical to both times my ex cheated on me

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

Can you do a video on the fact that you cannot have a logical conversation with a narc and how they deflect.

@julietruesdell.371

Жыл бұрын

It's torture!

@alyciamarie4163

Жыл бұрын

I always tell my husband okay now we are in the part of the script that logic goes out the window and we just say words 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️anybwoeds

@miriamcarpenter3168

11 ай бұрын

Hub ended every discussion, disagreement with “ this is not going anywhere “. No conflict was EVER resolved.

@ca2or2nc

9 ай бұрын

Or you get Stonewalled. My ex husband would go silent. It was like having a staring contest with a wall. 🤦‍♀️

@goboudou

8 ай бұрын

Yes

My husband cheats in most of these areas. I’m counting my days and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

@RawMotivations

Ай бұрын

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Did you all know that “SEXTING” wasn’t cheating?!?!😂😂😂 yep, I thought my extremely narcissistic live in boyfriend of three years texting on messenger!!! More than once. But I’m crazy and that’s not cheating anyhow. Nice, right? I am moving out this weekend. Wish me luck.❤

@maileinouye

Жыл бұрын

Good luck. You can do this

@chrissemenko628

8 ай бұрын

You ok, doll? It's been a few months ❤ Christi

@AbstractM0use

Ай бұрын

It's been a year, I hope you're still doing well and have continued moving on. I had a similar experience. I recently caught my ex gf (of 13 years) sexting a man on Snapchat. She said they were only talking so it wasn't really cheating. Even though she'd have put on a show and flipped out if it were me doing that with another woman. But it's not cheating, right? Why so upset? However, their texts were about their sexual encounter, so obviously it was cheating all the way. She still denied it!

The kinder we are the more we heal the better we feel the more we appreciate. Being a beautiful soul.

@dianne3

Жыл бұрын

❤️🙏

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

@lisajohnson6351

6 күн бұрын

Does he need more than the phone number?

1. Physical 2. Emotional 3. Cyber 4. Time 5. Financial

Is a clear tell tale sign when the Narcissist switches to the dark side it usually always mean he has just done something wrong

@KanikaNewsome-pj6jb

Ай бұрын

What dthat mea,switches to the dark side?

It is so devastating to find out that the person you love betrayed you, when I found out I felt like an idiot, felt humiliated, degraded, unappreciated, ugly and unloved, as so many years passed before I found out. I was fooled by his lies and his manipulation. I never imagine my husband could do something like that as he always made me believe he was a moral and correct person; didn't know his accusations against me of cheating it was a projection of what he was doing; after his insistence of this accusations I responded to him that it looked like he was wishing for me to cheat on him, his reaction kind of show me I was right, as now know that that would made him feel less bad for what he was doing or would help him to direct my attention to my wrongdoing instead of his.

When a narc does something wrong, they go into a terrible attitude mood. It's meant to shut down any conversation

@user-kf3yz7so6q

Ай бұрын

Absolutely 100% true.

microcheating, when you put yourself in a situation that could easily lead to cheating, flirting, wearing slutty clothes to gain sexual attention

My ex's favorite line was,"One thing I'm not is a cheater...I would never cheat on you because I would never put you in a position to make you look stupid by other ppl!" I actually truly believed it for a little while but after awhile too many sketchy things occurred and I found out he emotionally cheated chronically for years, and even met up with a couple of women but idk how far it went. He told them they were beautiful, he offered one to move her in to my house so he clearly was future faking them alot. Told another he was going to marry her to get her back into the United States because she was in Mexico and told another one he wanted to take her to meet his father in Kentucky and take her there for his wedding anniversary even though he never took me to Kentucky our whole 5 yr relationship.

@Queening948

Жыл бұрын

Omggg the ex Narc spouse said the same thing creepy. Mind you they are cheating since the beginning of the marriage it’s start with his ex girlfriend and a line of others from church and flirting with them, ended up having a whole relationship with a coworker 🤮 they lie about everything. He was always masturbating bc I no longer cared for sex as a wife who was married a virgin I became disgusted with sex I felt like a toy there was no connection passion or anything. He was an abuser all across and always spending money 💰 for things unknown waste money steal money ….he used me for US residency and personal gain to gain status “pastor” covert narcissist

@Sunlumiinous

Жыл бұрын

Wow, same similar statement as my ex-husband, who is a malignant covert narcissist. I didn't know much about future faking until recently learning everything I could about narcissists. I didn't even know there were types of narcissists either. Just mind blown by it all. He gave money to his side pieces while claiming there wasn't enough money to feed our family and kept us in an impoverished condition.

@Queening948

Жыл бұрын

@@Sunlumiinous this is their natural habitat this is why their bank accounts is a secret because they don’t want you to know what they are really doing with the money. If they give your money they will take it back. It’s disgusting they train you to not depend on them so they can abuse you anyway they want.

Divided loyalties is betrayal Emotional betrayal is cheating and a double whammy! A one two sucker punch 👊

Mine just denied, denied, denied - till I moved out.

My ex Covert Narcissistic Sociopath cheated on me mentally, financially, physically and spiritually. It all hurt and broke me down bad. I am better now (took about 4-years to recover), and am on high alert 🚩 going forward. I won’t say I won’t be trapped again, but will say it will be d@mn hard.

@sisid6295

Жыл бұрын

Well said ! I also have cover narc sociopath plus he abiused me extrime way verbaly emotionaly and play the victim called me toxic never commit to me and he play huge empath am so good to everyone am a geniush he say or u stupid woman i dont want u u have nothing to ofert u are to simple for me .. poor demons manipulative deeply but i always spoke the truth to his fake face ..

@MH-en9qc

Жыл бұрын

@@sisid6295 Think of things this way and maybe it will be easier to understand and accept what you were involved with. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, it matters more how much they love you. If they treat you badly (in any form), they don’t love you the same. It’s not your fault and there is NOTHING you could have done differently to get a different outcome. These narcs are destructive entities. Just run and don’t look back.

@nicholegibbs9881

11 ай бұрын

Can you elaborate more on the Spiritual part

Best to follow the lies that will usually go along with the cheating

@ladiebugs

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

You just described my x husband.....and my x boyfriend.......and alot of men around here. I really don't care anymore though. No feelings for them whatsoever. Finally. I freed myself from the awful feelings the demons bring.

I never had any solid proof that he was cheating as such, but he'd drop hints here and there that there were other people somewhere along the line. I knew he was capable of lieing when I found another womans number he denied having, and an STI after someone had told me he was sleeping with someone. Some was circumstantial yet when I confronted him he'd become angry and dismissive and discard me. My intuition told me those actions of his were evidence enough. It was the biggest mind feck I'd ever known. 🍒

@dyonnasantiago-ortiz1205

Жыл бұрын

I agree "Biggest mind f%@%" ever!!! I wish my husband would just be honest but unfortunately his actions are the only thing I have and even then he'll gaslight me. Horrible to experience.

@SaystheTruth3

9 ай бұрын

What do you mean found someone's number? Like on a piece of paper?

@cherrybacon3319

9 ай бұрын

@Firecracker13598 He told me he didn't have this womans (a woman he told me he was going to see for 'company') after telling me previously he did. He was backtracking and trying to make me feel crazy by gaslighting me. In the confused state I was, I sneeked a look at his phone, and there her name and number was in Black and White. He'd lied to me.

@snowflake2910

8 ай бұрын

If I had solid proof I would dump him instantly. Unfortunately I have just intuition to go on. He left for work early Christmas eve to pick up a female co worker. Which females "don't work at his job" btw but this one magically appeared and his friend asked "Did you get with T?" Which he defended as picking her up. And he never did someone else got her but then he deleted the texts. I believe something else is going on but i would never get the truth anyway. I want to leave but he is who my daughter thinks is dad. Idk if I will do more damage to her staying or leaving. Idc about me anymore. I just want what's best for her and whe I look at my marriage and ask myself, "Would I want this for my daughter?" The answer isn't just, no. But hell no. I feel stuck. Pray for me yall, I need it.

@cherrybacon3319

8 ай бұрын

@snowflake2910 My Heart goes out for you. Tbh i believe you'd both be better off without him in the long run.

I so wish my husband would do the work like you are . He lies , denies…..

the ex husband narc did all of them. Sick individuals

This convinces me she was doing cyber cheating on me. What brought me to this video was noticing her behavior during the last few months was so similar to the first time she cheated on me which was emotional and physical.

I commend you in your efforts. It’s almost impossible for a narcissist to change their personality. Keep it up and I hope you continue.

This was an awesome video!! I haven't heard any councilors explain this vital information of the types of cheating!!! Thank you!!! God bless you and your marriage. I appreciate you and your determination to hold on to your marriage in being transparent and loyal!!!!

I salute you sir! It must have been very hard for you to work through these issues. Narcissist usually aren't willing to put in the effort. So you are 1 in a million.

You and your wife are such a gift to all of us--THANK YOU for sharing your journey!!

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

Appreciate this Mary!

I'm so very proud of you Ben. Makes me cry happy tears for you and your wife! Thank you again for another helpful video!❤️

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for your support and encouragement, thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Thank you, so much for creating these honest videos . I never knew what hit me , and who I am in love with, I thought that I was going crazy , the lies the cheating, the guilt from what he made me feel that caused the affairs. I feeling like I lost my mind,my worth and my very being. I love this man with all of me but he has damaged me and yet I still love him. It's painful to love someone that hurts you this way. My heart goes out to all who are in this mess like myself.

@saintejeannedarc9460

Жыл бұрын

I'm grateful that I take zero responsibility for his affair. He still tries to blame it on me, while sort of claiming that it's on him and that he feels regret and remorse that he didn't work it out. His actions show differently. It's like Lee, the other aware narcissist channel says, they feel some guilt, but it's on a spectrum and it's shallow. They will always find a way to the blame the other person. Five months after I kicked him out and I'm still insulted, but I don't feel I really love him. I was in love w/ potential and who I thought he was. I still miss being in a relationship and feel lonely. Seeing the difference is helping a fair bit. I hope you get there too. Now just to build my confidence and trust back up. This type of relationship is very destructive.

@karenbrandis9099

Жыл бұрын

hi. I'm exactly in the same position as you. I loved him so much. he used me as a front....he is a cheater with men.

@cassiebennet4262

5 ай бұрын

I hope you're ok. I know exactly what you mean. They don't care if you care about them. It doesn't matter to them. They hate themselves and people can only give what they have. All narcissists have is hatred.

You are correct my husband did all of these things except financial bc our accounts were joined. It took me a long time to realize what he was doing. Now my divorce is almost finalized

@RawMotivations

2 ай бұрын

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i got injured and had issues walking and she promptly used that as an opportunity to go cheat on me. what she did not know is that i hopped to my car and drove and hour and a half to her house and she wasn’t there, at midnight. after she had stopped answering calls and txt from me at around 10pm. these people have no souls. ain’t good for nothing but sex.

Caught my female narc multiple times... guy actually facetime her while she war taking a shower I answered he apologized he explained she said her and I were broke up and said a half hour before she arrived she sent him a nude video of her playing with herself, I stormed into the bathroom he was on video and she claimed she had no idea who he was lolol. he then sent me the video. I asked her to leave and she detroyed my kitchen on the way out, needless to say I had her arrested.

Mine would always say he had plans with “friends.” BS. They were other supply sources and “dates” or “FWB sessions” the entire time. I immediately got devalued after he went away to Italy for 10 days which I later found out was with a throuple. Yeah. Definitely not platonic. Came back a distant person and never made any plans with me. Was always booked with “friends.” I never even got a 10 minute phone call to hear about his trip or anything about it. 17 days had gone by before I finally said something about it and got received with narcisisstic rage and that “I was making him feel bad” and “needy as hell.” Told him I think he’s a narcissist and immediately got discarded and he already had a new supply. Exactly. Because it was never friends. It was dates or other supply sources all along. I figured it out and made sure he knew I figured it out. I exposed him.

Thank you Ben for being honest and vulnerable!

I always felt some kind of way when he would take his phone to the bathroom. Then if I was going to the bathroom he would say don’t you want to take your phone! Hmmm looking back! Such a red flag

What you're doing won't take away the damage that's done. You are however now being honest to help those that need to hear the truth. Thank you and may you continue to show up and teach.

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words

Yes. She cheated on me in every way.

@RawMotivations

9 ай бұрын

sorry to hear that ,how areyou doing now?

@SamouelKoons

9 ай бұрын

@@RawMotivations I'm not doing well. She is going from sugar daddy to sugar daddy and only comes home to sleep. Thank you for your help and advice.

@SamouelKoons

9 ай бұрын

But, really, thank you for responding. I feel so alone sometimes. Thank you.

Unfortunately, my narc husband has done all 5. I feel like most people who are actual narcissists probably do all 5 at one point or another.

I never checked on her phone or stalked her. I was very easy to cheat on. I only know of 1 time and it was the final discard but i can think of a lot of times it felt like she might have been

My ex was an object cheater with my sons racing... the car got more love and money spent on her, and financially brow beat me for getting my nails done... He also charms Cashiers with the amazing nice guy.. He is flirting.. I've seen it in action.. they get the nice guy.. I got the narc

This is a great video, Ben. You break it down perfectly, and it's easier to understand the differences. Thank you.

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

For 14 years of my marriage I would have said my wife didn't cheat. I was wrong

You stated everything this Narc toxic person I was dealing with did this !!! Wow so messed up but the crazy part is that denied everything

It’s not about the sex - bc we had an open relationship. I knew he needed the attention bc he was so insecure. It wasn’t about the sex, it was about the betrayal. As soon as you cause them to love you, they hate you. It’s almost automatically the moment they first say, “I love you”. And it’s all your fault.

He does all those things on cheating to hurt me all the time.

Yeah, when I finally spoke to him about ‘cheating’ he said ‘if she was here I wouldn’t be doing THIS’-she’s away from the home for a few hours…whaaaaa?. Compartmentalizing? Sheesh….

Not cheating ….. “ I have been on Facebook “ ….. All morning!!? Pleassse -

Always in ALL ways 💥💣 Emotionally, mentally, physically, intimately, financially, spiritually

Narc cheated on me. One and done!! Run

@RawMotivations

Ай бұрын

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I'm so happy you brought up the different types of cheating. My ex husband was obsessed with our son's little league baseball. Absolutely obsessed. Had to have control of everything. He was also financially abusive. His type would act too moral to cheat but would be missing 7 days a week at the ball park, trying to run things.

Raw honesty and great info

This is my first time seeing and listening to u but u came at the right time and when u said if we want to speak to u personally u said it so fast i didn’t understand it but I would love to speak with u hand to handn

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2 ай бұрын

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Good on you champion!! Keep working on it!!👍

My ex husband and ex boyfriend did all 5 out of 5. Devastating.

Wow! This one really hit home!!!

Yes ... My narcissist cheated and lied about it until I had proof...

Caught h on a dating site and confronted him. He was just window shopping. I was over reacting. It was my fault. And I could just leave if I didn’t like it. Also physical affairs. He conflates marriage with dating 😮. I had to get a separate checking account just to save money. And would be gone yesterday if it was financially viable.

I need to walk away before gets more dangerouse again with viliont.

They deny it so can't be held accountable by you, others or themselves.

@rossothecrimson7

2 күн бұрын

This sucks for me because I take my phone to the bathroom randomly. I guess Im attached to the socials, but there is no one on the other line.

She liked to break up constantly. Shed break up by text and "go right to sleep" so technically she didnt cheat and she could more easily believe her lie. She really loved to say "i never cheated" but thats reeally what she believes. Last time we had sex after over a month she was loose, modified one of our usual positions and told me for the first time in 3 years to pull her hair.... couldnt have went soft faster, i was convinced and that was the end... kinda lol

Another great video buddy 👍 I'd just be content if he admitted he's been unfaithful and most probably still is considering his actions haven't and he's still being shifty. How is it possible to blatantly deny actions and behaviour when there's hard evidence? I discovered his emotional affair then that uncovered the girls online and the money pit they contributed to, and a severe porn addiction i literally just cannot believe i didn't notice especially because he was literally watching it even sitting across the table from me!! Thankfully he had a camera to spy on me and have me under constant surveillance, consequently the only person on any of that footage doing anything questionable is him.. whilst the whole situation makes me physically sick, i do look forward to the near future and the look on his face when i tell him I've got copies of the footage from his camera "that doesn't record/ the whole system got wiped out", his evasive "proof or it didn't happen" comment.. so much evidence that I'm going to have to get a bigger hard drive..

@user-ms9gr7uh9j

Жыл бұрын

Got it lol

I filed for divorce in June. I had many many many suspicions about him cheating including his ex straight up telling me that he did with her. He still denies any of it, tells me I am crazy. Whenever it was brought up, he’d get very angry and tell me he couldn’t be with someone who didn’t trust him. I never could prove it. But what do you all think?

@zbgb4339

Жыл бұрын

Him saying you are crazy is toxic and gaslighting as it is simply your reality, a concern that you have, that he is not willing to address and have a heart to heart about. If he cared he would sit down with you and you would have a calm , cordial discussion that would ease your worries. Instead he just shifts the situation on to you as if you are to blame for having concerns about the relationship making you question your reality and your feelings which leaves you feeling less loved and considered. Him getting angry could be narcissistic rage as well. If that anger is an immediate reaction to your concern, it is possible he is guilty and is taking the control of the conversation with aggression in order to avoid questioning. Even if he did not cheat, your relationship is not sustainable when you can't effectively communicate with each other on difficult topics like that. You wouldn't have trust issues if the marriage was healthy.

@katvond6346

Жыл бұрын

The angrier his respons the more prove for you.Stay strong!

@daramolasarah6494

Жыл бұрын

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@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong. Keep up with the divorce and get free.

@milana1599

Жыл бұрын

@@RawMotivations thank you!

Thank you I appreciate this

@RawMotivations

7 ай бұрын

Glad it helped

Yes of course always

Can I ask how specifically emdr works with narcissism? Did you work with trauma from childhood or used emdr for specific narcissistic strategies in adult life?

Thank you 🙏🏾

I love this KZread channel A LOT! can you make the intro at the end, tho? 😮❤

Can you talk about there EYES turning BLACK. I've had times when I can see the gradual changes in the days leading up to this fourth Day. It would happen threw the years a few times spaced part but I even could tell you at one of the times it did I had forgotten to on guard and just one day said ..what's wrong with your eyes? Some how not quick to be on point but surely it was definite there is this scary BLACK GAZED OVER CHANGE THAT HAPPENS to there physical face of there eyes when these episodes I would call them. He also sure of myself knowing doesn't even remember the extent he has turned into or what happens either when I've not mistaken to really do something to really check without giving it away

I do have a question, and I don’t know if anyone else is going through this with their narc sometimes he would tell me to go to sleep, and it wasn’t in a nice way. I’m always wondered about that.

My car key fell off the keychain when I visited her. I saw it laying on the floor. I as like, "Ah, my key." She responds she saw it there but didn't know who it belonged to as her way of not picking it up and giving it to me. Very bad cover story. One never knows if she was just messing with my head or was actually concerned some other man dropped his key. Both could very well be true. And both could have been true at that moment.

You are amazing

Trust your intuition.

Yep on all....in some way, shape or form.....😮‍💨😭😔😒

Thanks

But, why cheat or lie if say you're open and don't mind the multiple relationships or group-ship? Is it the thrill of the secret, having something over the other, having an out from either or, or the ruse or amusement.....? Please Answer...

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

The thrill and control

My ex.n cheated my all 5 of them..

I am 6 months into discard and earlier thought I was recovering, but now I think I'm developing CPTSD

thank you for being straight forward they ALL cheat 😔🥀💔 how are these guys cheating during the day ? who are these woman that are just "hookin-up" more narcopaths ?

Before our marriage he knew I was strongly against strippers and porn. Found found out 2 years ago he had a 2 year affair and found out he had been going to strip clubs and massive porn. He admitted the clubs and some of the porn denies getting off 😡 he denies anything sexual with the affair even though texts prove it. I have been in therapy for 2 years now and he refuses to go. Won’t take any accountability and blames his actions on me. Even though I have to stay I have completely built a wall that’s never coming down. My therapist said with all the things I have told her she said there’s a good possibly a narc covert. Silent treatments massively used gaslighting insults swear he or I did say a certain thing when I know what was said I just don’t talk anymore.

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about the pain and betrayal you have experienced in your marriage. It's understandable that you have built walls to protect yourself. Taking care of your emotional well-being through therapy is a positive step towards healing and understanding your own needs. Remember to prioritize your own growth and happiness. You deserve to be in a supportive and respectful relationship. Stay strong and continue focusing on your own journey of self-discovery and self-care.

My sentiments exactly..the bastard doesnt even include me on his priority list anymore. Every damn word is a lie

@rawmotivation how did you come to aware about your situation

ex-narc committed all of them

I wish my Narcissist wife would just confess to me I know she has been in several affairs over the years I can't seem to catch her in the act of it

@ssing7113

6 ай бұрын

Hire an investigator. Put a key stroke logger on the computer. Put a tracker on the car. But already if you don’t feel right I’d assume it’s time to start planning.

@cassiebennet4262

5 ай бұрын

It won't matter how much proof you have she won't admit it anyway. She'll just go into self destruct mode just to hurt you. She'll actually cause herself more irreparable damage to simply hurt you just a little bit. Only because you made her believe for a split second that she's not perfect. It's unforgivable.

New subscriber here... Thanks for the help. Question - If a narcissist is almost caught cheating, do they try to move to another state or country?

@RawMotivations

7 ай бұрын

Here's a video I made a while back kzread.info/dash/bejne/e5iNs6-vmdCTc5c.htmlsi=8dBkTrhRkksBg87X

@SuperPrDude

7 ай бұрын

@@RawMotivations Thanks a lot.

True what you say

Hows it going you touch on how you cheated and confessed the first time then continued to cheat after, what characteristics would be there to know the cheating is continuing?

He said “ Boundary’s that she has that I don’t know at all” I’m curious about what that statement means to him ?

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

KInd of confusing, hope this video helps kzread.info/dash/bejne/nGdrtbGOmKWdnLQ.html

Don’t bother with people like that. Value and luv yrself and move forward. We live one time and when we go,no second chance. Don’t waist yr time on rubbish

Emotional affairs are usually ego based or should I say Ego Boost 😒

I believe he does

@RawMotivations

21 күн бұрын

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Ben I have to ask you don’t have the personality disorder do you? Just narcissism? Could you do a video on your perspective on how the personality disorder makes it different

@TherealDsizzle

Жыл бұрын

Your an inspiration I know so many of us watch you and just are crushed wishing the people in our life could achieve what you have