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@dancingfilly7355

20 күн бұрын

It’s very sad that a young woman would not be wise enough to recognize the value of a man like you!! I’m sorry that she did not return your feelings towards her. It was her loss. I do hope that you have found a beautiful woman who does appreciate and highly values you!! Thank you so much for your insight and support for women!! You are truly a gem!!!❤

1.) lack of communication 2.) he keeps canceling appts 3.) wants a secret relationship 4.) pulls after physical intimacy 5.) excuses to avoid commitment List of the harsh, cold truths 😢

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

Agree 😢

@reemsaif3105

Ай бұрын

It's to save you from these and move on actually run away from those types and multi date.

@janewasson4845

29 күн бұрын

He's married

@heliotropezzz333

28 күн бұрын

The relationship is just sexual.

@coral4874

20 күн бұрын

What about age differences? A gap by 20 years?

Thankfully, I am old-fashioned woman, so if a man doesn't show much initiative, I show none at all. That solves this problem right away.

@Sara-mr1hs

Ай бұрын

That's just the right attitude!! Which I had to learn the hard way... but now I know!

@annadrew4

28 күн бұрын

This happened to me. This guy "slightly" flirted with me. He just showed me mixed signals. I had questioned myself if he is really interested in me or not. Then one of his friends gave me so much attention and very good signals that he likes me. The first guy was jealous. Lol. He even asked me why I am always talking about his friend. Dude! One moment you were flirting with me, the other time you became cold as ice! What was I supposed to get from your "game"?

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

Incredible mindset.

@mobutter2879

17 сағат бұрын

Yep!❤

I am just going to grow old with 100 cats....I am just going to put dating on hold. And put the love into myself.

@travelchannel304

Ай бұрын

8 🐈 😻 🐈‍⬛️ 🐱 🐈 😻 🐈‍⬛️ 🐱 & 1 aussie shepherd combo. 🐕

@moni1952

Ай бұрын

I already did, minus ➖️ the 🐈 cats.😅

@Lipanj92

Ай бұрын

When a girl is not a hot b1tch, no man will ever have a high-interest in her. That's my destiny and I'm making peace with it.

@SofiUk0319

Ай бұрын

Good girl ❤ I took me 3 years of dolo work n I'm still workin on it, but, but, but, I think I may have finally found real love

@tinkershell1856

Ай бұрын

I implemented this years ago and I have never been happier ❤😄

Don't chase, don't beg, no booty calls. Don' make an effort for him that he doesn't make for you. Ghost and block him.

@1thatgotaway974

23 күн бұрын

@janewasson4845 how can I do that ..when he's right here..

@janewasson4845

23 күн бұрын

It's ok if you want him there, and you can see by his actions that he truly cares.

@1thatgotaway974

15 күн бұрын

@@janewasson4845 who

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

Fantastic approach.

@EdelweisSusie

2 күн бұрын

You've hit the nail on the head. The one thing I've learned from Steve Harvey is that men are hunters - they like the chase - and when I think about the start of my last long-term relationship that's exactly what happened: if I was at evening class or at a friend's house, my ex would sometimes drive round the neighbourhood, not in a creepy way but just because he had some free time and was hoping to spot my car. When the relationship got serious and we saw one another virtually every night he wasn't as 'longing' (and I found the relationship was getting a bit boring too). So I guess the answer is not to live together???

You don't need too many signs. It's consistency. Period. When a man loves a woman he will be screaming at the top of his lungs that she is his basically.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

I'm with you on that.

@jessicaagosto3633

29 күн бұрын

Agree! My Grandmother said when a Man loves a Woman he will do anything to be with her

@theconsciousearthangel

29 күн бұрын

@@jessicaagosto3633 absolutely.

I stopped hoping to find a good man years ago. I decided to pour all that love and hope and effort on me and my personal development. And on books, instead of cats😊 Not everyone can find The Person, some of us, I think, were born to be alone.

@allhimwithme5115

8 күн бұрын

I was definitely born to be alone and unfortunately I'm married. I think if I'd found a man who had not been emotionally neglected as a child I'd be happy with whoever that was, but this neglect thing is why men neglect women. It's not that they don't WANT to be interested, it's that they CAN'T connect. And, since "everyone" (especially American men) is taught to ignore "bad" emotions instead of dealing well with _all_ our emotions we're all better off alone in my opinion.

@Cygnus75

8 күн бұрын

@@allhimwithme5115 I agree with you 👍

@KarenSears-iu5ne

3 күн бұрын

I love my time alone single happy content I love me other men have issues I don't have time for it amen me myself and I ❤❤❤❤

If you have to ask, he doesn't like you that much. It's that simple. When you're into somebody, you can't stop thinking about them. You can't wait to talk to them and spend time with them. If someone is not showing much enthusiasm or it comes and goes, they don't like you. You are better than nothing when they are bored or don't have other options.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

That’s really insightful. How has it influenced your perspective?

@bleuskye8124

20 күн бұрын

That's my daughter. She likes a guy. He moved into our house because my daughter lives with me. He doesn't have a job. She gives him money. She bought him a phone. She pays for all his entertainment. He took over her car. She likes him but he only likes her as a friend. He monopolizes all her time. Now my daughter and I are in crisis because of him. I told her he's using her and she won't listen. Am I wrong?

@LoveLife-oo9cz

8 күн бұрын

​@@bleuskye8124Evict the guy. It's your house, tell him he overstay his welcome. It doesn't matter if your daughter likes it or not. Earn some respect as a mother. This is sad!

@bleuskye8124

8 күн бұрын

@@LoveLife-oo9cz He's gone. I told my daughter he's no longer welcome in my house. Before I had the chance to kick him out she kicked him out. She saw exactly who he really was. She changed the locks on the doors. Hallelujah

I knew this guy Craig wouldn't cancel. He'd call 2 hours later saying "something came up. " I gave him a pass the first time. After the second, I ghosted his sorry a$$. Called me at my job trying to be nice, told him I was busy and hung up.

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

Yasss girl ❤

@Meyouletsgo

22 күн бұрын

Better 😅

That's basically what I have done and how I end up being single. Men are far less sincere than we think. And they are there to get what they want which is not love

@Vulevouz

Ай бұрын

But, you don't have to have sex if you don't want to. You can still enjoy some personal time with him. Caressing, kissing, cuddling and nothing more. I told him upfront. I'm not interested in having nothing more than that. He was okay with that.

@Cygnus75

27 күн бұрын

They all lie.

@sherah8450

16 күн бұрын

​@@Cygnus75dang right!

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

Precisely, that's what I am trying to convey.

@allhimwithme5115

8 күн бұрын

I think they are emotionally stunted by the largely American "real men don't cry" thing that basically ruins their entire emotional sense of self. Then they can never connect on an emotional level with anyone let alone a woman.

I needed to hear this and confirm I did the right thing by blocking him 5 days ago. For 7 years hot and cold with him. Thank you! 🙏🏻 ❤

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

I'm glad you found my video helpful.

He's just meditating😂

To all. Ladies becareful nòt to waste time with peoplle who do not have any intrest in u.

@1thatgotaway974

15 күн бұрын

@@ElaineShaw-ob4gj ITS NOT WASTING TIME ..ITS TELLING YOUR STORY SO U CAN FIGURE OUT THE WAY TO LOVE YOURSELF ..AND ITS A JOURNAL THAT YOU CAN LOOK BACK ON AND know that that was your STORY that led u to LOVE YOURSELF and you wouldnt change a thing!!

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

I couldn't have said it better.

i’m broken, I thought I would be the one , I dated a man who was still in a realationship, it hurts so bad , I sacrificed days just waiting for him to call me, i’m such a fool, thankyou for the videos

@KwertyKeys

22 күн бұрын

We all did it, we all know how it feels. But I promise you, the moment you really slam that door and nail it shut for ever, healing begins. slowly but surely, life does get better, you do heal, it does get easier. Get busy planning your new exciting lifestyle, look after yourself you are number one, always 🎉 ❤

@jessicaagosto3633

22 күн бұрын

@@KwertyKeys Thankyou! your words had lift me up

@KwertyKeys

22 күн бұрын

@@jessicaagosto3633 you’re welcome! Look after yourself 🥰

You don't know how much you are helping to innocent women out there..a big thank you on their behalf. Huge respect 💪❤

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

That means a lot. Thank you for your lovely comment.

@shubhangisharma5883

Ай бұрын

@@SaveTheMessenger ❤️🙏

@curiouscat428

Ай бұрын

​@@shubhangisharma5883Honestly I don't care about men and their dumb cues. I'm being amazing myself and when the right time comes, the right person will show up and he's the one without too many excuses. Ladies, don't listen to this video trying to figure out how to win men over. Just blaze your own trails and keep efforts to please men to the BARE MINIMUM. Build your lives and be amazing, and along the way y'all meet the one without the no. 1-5 hottentotthingys. If y'all strong, beautiful and independent, you won't give a thought or time about men's uninterested behaviour. For example, if he gave a lack of communication, a lady that's sure of herself will just shrug and 😂😂😂 and move on to the next person who is surely better than the canceling appts guy. Or for those considering you but wanting secret relationship, you can laugh at his face and make a big L SIGN at your foreheads while sticking your tounges out. THESE sort of things. Identify men behaviour, but don't give them more than 5 seconds to mope about it. Life's too short and there are 8 billions people in this world. Cheers.

God help your beautiful daughters protect their hearts❤

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

Your comment made me smile.

I LOVE YOUR tough truth. We all need to snap out of the reality we wish we had and wake up to the reality that we actually DO have. This will save so many women years of heartache. Thank you.

I am hurt lately dealing with most of these points. Held my breath for the whole video. The last line gave a sigh of relief "For your relationships to change ... you need to change!" May we learn, change, and become such that no one, not even us, would take us for granted and hurt us - Aameen!

@SayedaMehjabin

Ай бұрын

Ameen summa Ameen❤

@Lipanj92

Ай бұрын

Āmiiiin! 💔

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Thank you for your time.

So many men out there who waste your time! Where’s the good ones?

@Silencer796

Ай бұрын

Ikr, I do believe that those good men are there but what about the good woman?

@daniellem.gibson4658

Ай бұрын

@@Silencer796 Few and far between. But I’m a good woman and so are my friends

@JKNat9004

Ай бұрын

If you can appreciate a guy who is fun and has great ideas on stuff to do, but just wants to live in the moment and not talk about the future, it might not be that you're wasting time with him but rather you're both accepting things as they are in the moment.

@jackdeniston6150

Ай бұрын

You drive us away.

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

Amen…it’s really disheartening

He was in, engaged, never canceled a plan and all that stuff until I start having health issues and then he detached himself. Better for the ambulance to come to pick me up rather than him. I believe the beers with his colleagues was much more important… So at my 49 I am not going to start thinking what’s going on or mothering him telling him what is what I expect from my man. So…. Next!

@janlafournaise6505

22 күн бұрын

So agree with you. Who needs all the games.

Ladies: consider that your proclamations of there being no good men out there become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Women in general need to heal themselves, whether or not there’s a man in the picture; learn our value beyond sexuality; and start showing up as an empowered persons who don’t “need” a man. Do this and our friend Ismael will be out of a job (much as I love the service he’s offering on his channel). Learning to love and honor yourself - whether man or woman - is the greatest thing you’ll ever do in this life.

Im Having mental break down after watching this lol, crying & feeling desperate cuz all of this sign resonates with the relationship i have right now and i love him so much ..

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Hey dear, don't punish yourself. Watch my other videos on connecting with a man emotionally and building attraction. Those can still help your current relationship.

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

Girl, same…I had the feeling he was pulling away. I was distraught and upset for days. You know what, there’s billions of people on this planet. Hold you’d head up high, go find your person who APPRECIATES you and will do anything to keep you-hugs ❤

@annaa6259

Ай бұрын

Why would you love someone who treats you like this. You are trauma bonded not in love

@misspriss2482

Ай бұрын

@@annaa6259 Because she is in love with what he showed her. She fell in love with a persona. All of us have at some point. I went no contact with a guy who kept breadcrumbing about a year and a half ago. It happens. The trick is to dump him and move on.

@erismana2105

24 күн бұрын

You love what you think he is, If a stranger treated you the same way you wouldn't put up with it..

On Android phones and iPhones you can see if someone read your text and when. If you reply to his text fast but you see that he didn't read the reply for hours the chances are he's not that into you. Sure, something could have come up, maybe his work blew up then, but if it's a pattern, then he doesn't really care what you texted back.

@KB-sg7tv

Ай бұрын

You can only see that if they turn on read receipts.

As a man, there are some good points here. However, for the first point I know I'm not a good texter. I don't like texting or social media, and unless I'm actually in a relationship or actively dating someone I'm not going to be doing a lot of texting as I feel it's a bit desperate. I'll match the interest level of a woman I'm interested in. If she's more responsive I'll try to be more responsive; if she isn't I'll pull back. I'll primarily use the phone to set up dates and occasionally reach out, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only man who feels that way.

@misspriss2482

Ай бұрын

Makes sense. Most women prefer phone calls anyway. If you and this person are compatible, you will probably have the same preferences when it comes to communication.

@roxanamalkawi7264

27 күн бұрын

I like the way you think! I had a man who texted me every day for entire day, that Was Tooo much!! In 5 days I got soo bored of him and now I'm just ignoring him!! Too much is too much!!😮😮

Great video!! So many times we women make excuses for men that we like, but who aren't really into us! We want it so badly that we project excuses for them!! He's shy, he's busy, he's been hurt before, he doesn't really know how to have a relationship, or he doesn't have enough money to take us out!! I've seen men I thought were "too shy", move heaven and earth to be with a woman they were really interested in! I'm no longer fooling myself!! If you have to wonder whether a man is interested or not--he probably isn't!!

I dated a guy for 4 years that had red flags. So, I decided to date him because the sex was great and I just got out of a divorce. After 3 years I decided to start pulling back and finally told him I want to date other people. He said what about us...and I told him there is no us. I think he was surprised and shockingly hurt.

I knew it! I recently broke up with a guy that didn’t want anybody in his group to find out about us. Later I found out he is also dating a girl from that same group and trying to keep it a secret but everyone comments that their interaction is like they are a couple and a friend saw them meeting secretly after work

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

😢

@PromoteThings4U

Ай бұрын

😢

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?

Everything he says is true! Go with the ones that treat you the best!

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

I appreciate this. Thank you so much.

I dont pursue anyone

I could relate to 4 of them and felt really sad. But yes, thankk youu for sharing soo helpful information so we can walk away from these type of men.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Reading the comments, I see I’m not alone. There’s a lot of sad, disappointed women in the world.

I wish I’d seen your videos 20, even 30 years ago. It’s so obvious now that I look back!

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

Thank you kindly, you're a blessing.

Thank you for the HONEST answers.

This is so TRUE!! Pretending he’s busy with work, meetings, very tight schedules just an excuse!! These guys are selfish to the core! They take take take and never give back! Thank you for sharing your vision.

It hurts to see this and realize it but it is the hitting truth unfortunately, these all are signs of rejection low-key. But probably the secret is to not take rejection personally, when you feel ur not wanted then it’s time to find someone else… 7:44

There was a bestselling book in the 90s called “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Even a movie with an all star cast. Too bad I didn’t take heed. I wasted my good years on these type of men. They were good guys. They married a woman they met while dating me or immediately thereafter and are happily married to this day. One even lived in a house with a white picket fence on Paradise Lane”. I gave up on men and spent the next 10 years taking care of my mother. Then the next 10 years working two jobs to survive. Now I’m ready to retire at 66 and alone. No marriage, career, or kids. Like the song says “freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose”. But I’ve had my freedom and freedom’s not worth nothing, but it’s free. I feel I have nothing in common with 90% of men who’ve been married and a parent or who’ve led the single l”work hard/play hard” life So, it’s terrifying. It’s hard to not feel defeated before I even begin. But it is terrifying to be alone for the rest of my life, too.

Spot on! Harsh brutal truths, but they need to be TOLD 💯 so LISTEN

Your advice is spot on and so accurate

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

I can't express my gratitude enough.

When somebody wants to be with you , they'll make time not excuses

@SaveTheMessenger

21 күн бұрын

Amen to that.

You nailed it, Ismael! Very honest and to the point!

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Thank you for leaving such a wonderful comment.

Actions speak louder than words. Very true and informative.

@SaveTheMessenger

13 күн бұрын

I'm really grateful.

Thank you for the insight!

Great video and reinforced the fact that my guy is into me. Thanks Ismael and it was that girl's loss. You're a gem ✨

Much appreciated, you nailed it 👍♥️

this was really useful advice ty ty

That little anecdote was such a great way to make your point. Great insight! 🙏🏽

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Love seeing you ladies watch the full video instead of skipping through it.

Saved my life,thanks

Grateful for this video

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Grateful for your comment.

yes, he ticked all the checkboxes and when I was done with his shit, I ghosted him. Since then he wouldn't stop calling me. men like this are just assholes.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. What was the outcome of that experience?

Great advice! Appreciate you! ❤

This channel is so insightful .

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

I’m really grateful, you’re a marvel.

Excellent thank you

Super helpful, thank you Ismael!

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Glad to hear that!

This channel is GOLD.

@SaveTheMessenger

11 күн бұрын

Your comment is GOLD.

I love your videos!! They give us more clarity.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Awesome! Thank you!

Thank you for this video. It's very helpful.

Very nice explanation, thank you!

Thank you, for your advice ❤😊

Are you single? 😉 I love the thing you said about being a private person and not super active on social media. My friends would be like “Why don’t you post more sexy pics on insta?” and I always said it’s because I only wanted to share those with my man. I don’t want anyone to just be able to see bikini pics of me whenever they want. I deleted all the apps from my phone last year and couldn’t be happier.

Just found your pages watching live from philippines😊😊😊Great videos

This was the best video! Thank you. I need to watch it over and over

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thanks Ismail that's most important video for women who has confused about what Men feel and react❤❤❤

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Much appreciated 🙌

Ur a truthful man , and i love ur factual messages 😅😊

I like your videos Straight to point and very genuine

Wow. That was clear and to the point. I appreciated the very interesting anecdote about the situation you had in Cuba aswell. It's so easy to understand when you put it like that. Thank you.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching.

@ykt4343

Ай бұрын

@@SaveTheMessenger No need to thank me. I can't wait for your next one. Thank you.

I had a cardiac surgoen interested in me. He asked me if I could find more time for us to be togeather i my house. Not even go out. I said look I feel guilty asking my family to take my children for me. He has ghosted me and hasn't phoned back. we work in the same building but I doubt we will see each other. However if he does contac me again I will ask him how bored he is. Litrally too advantage really.

@travelchannel304

Ай бұрын

At YOUR house?!? How "considerate" of him. NOT. Move on. Have no more concern for him ever. He's probably trying that w/ others on DL. LoL

@toffeeblue2201

Ай бұрын

Sounds likes you was a side chick...

@DivestedConfessions

Ай бұрын

If he contacts you, you should say you’re busy and hang up. He was trying to use you as a side piece he’s a disrespectful male

@brown_eyed_girl

25 күн бұрын

It’s unethical to date a patient. What was he even thinking? Stay away from his childish nonsense-you want a man not a dog in heat!

@erismana2105

24 күн бұрын

@@brown_eyed_girl don't insult dogs ..

Appreciate your advice ❤ Great work

Oh when you said he hasn't found any one to replace you... that hit home for me..😞

Ismael thank you for the truth, having wisdom is not easy , however, it saves alot stress.

Thank you so much 😇

I agree with you very well said❤❤❤

Dude, youre a rockstar. Id take your advice. It’s nice to hear your affirmations that we aint cray cray. Keep up the goid work

Wow i luv the cold cut honesty

I'm subscribing boy ure speaking FACTSSSS !

Soo Insightful ❤❤

New subscriber- thank you!!

U helped me now with this video and thank you! 👍

Thank you for your compassionate approach with women. ❤

Thank you Ismael🙏🌷☘️

So true… I can’t stop smiling

Thanks for sharing this info its so helpful esp women❤❤❤

Very insightful

@SaveTheMessenger

29 күн бұрын

Music to my ears.

AMEN to all of this

You are right. I have had this happened.

Well said ❤valid valid points ❤thank you❤

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

I'm glad you found my video helpful.

Omg Iloved it. You are so sincere. Thanks for the advice. 👍 I subscribed to your channel

You have such good takes! So refreshing 😊 keep up the good work

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Thank you! Will do!

Thank you

Great video! I gave up on dating. At least I'm not listening to someone's lies anymore. :)

Awesome!!❤

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Thanks a bunch, you’re so thoughtful.

Very interesting and informative

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

Glad you think so!

I have found your videos most helpful. Before I didn't think I needed to change, I'm fine the way I am. Now, I understand the adjustments I need to make to find a good match. What to look out for and simply accept if things aren't meant to be.

@SaveTheMessenger

Ай бұрын

You made my day *feeling accomplished*.

It's louder, It is clearer Thanks

Ironically you just showed me that he actually DOES like me. Thanks!😊

Thanks

True 💯

Nice you're putting this info out there for those who need it. But holy cow, do some really need a relationship coach to explain these behaviours? I could have told you this stuff when I was a teenager (pre internet, so replace texting bs/blow-offs/excuses with calling ).

Absolutely true

This video is so insightful about recognizing low interest in relationships! Do you think a man’s inconsistent communication always means he's not interested, or could there be other reasons like personal issues or mental health?

@caranasser3710

Ай бұрын

He’s not interested. And don’t fall for it.

@MindBuddies

Ай бұрын

@@caranasser3710thanks for your input! Really appreciate that.

@deniseunknown4576

Ай бұрын

I made excuses for mine…until I got tired of it. He still tries to breadcrumb me…I didn’t want to be a jerk and block him. I will tell him I am and then do it, so hopefully he’ll stop this nonsense

@MindBuddies

Ай бұрын

@@deniseunknown4576 best of luck!

New Aussie subscriber 😊