Does God Care about my Infertility? | Struggles of Motherhood Part 1

Motherhood and loss are two things that should not go together. Yet most of us either have experienced or know someone who has experienced infertility, a miscarriage, infant loss, or postpartum anxiety and depression.
Walking through loss can leave a mother, or hopeful mother-to-be, feeling like she's alone in her struggles. So over this three-part series, we will be joined by Proverbs 31’s biblical content specialist - author Wendy Blight -and Rachael Elmore, who is a licensed, professional counselor, to address the realities no one talks about related to motherhood and loss. Our deepest desire is that, through the content in these three episodes, you leave encouraged and more rooted in what Scripture says about the specific trials you are walking through.
Related Resources:
-We know this topic is difficult to process in a short podcast episode. That's why we put together a free resource, "What Nobody Talks About: When the Journey of Motherhood Involves Disappointment, Suffering & Loss," to help you further unpack what you heard today.
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-If you have a friend who is in the middle of processing unmet expectations or other painful situations, we recommend Lysa TerKeurst's book "It's Not Supposed to Be This Way."
-Follow Wendy Blight @wblight and Rachael Elmore @rachaelhuntelmore on Instagram for more biblical encouragement and resources.
-If you are looking for a licensed Christian counselor near you, visit aacc.net.
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  • @ebonyjackson4970
    @ebonyjackson4970 Жыл бұрын

    Hello everyone I am a 46 year old Woman who have been waiting 14 YEAR'S for fruit of the womb and I stand on my Faith that God will not forget me so I come so Humble and ask for prayers they say when two or more comes in agreement HE HEARS US 🙏🙌

  • @barbaramcdaniel463

    @barbaramcdaniel463

    7 ай бұрын

    Unexpected Blessings. I’m praying for you-and my 43yr old daughter-and everyone who needs it. God Bless you.❤️💐🙏

  • @bunny_0288
    @bunny_0288 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for nearly 12 years. And I have grown soooo much during this time. I was very bitter and hurt and angry for many years. But God worked on my heart, and I honestly had come to a place of acceptance. I knew God could bless us with a baby if it was in His will because all things are possible with God. However, it's all in His will and His timing. So I just made sure I did my part every month and left the results up to Him. Years went by, and I never conceived. So I truly worked on fully accepting that it just may never happen. And I honestly was okay with that. I still greatly desired children, but I no longer felt the same desperation for them that I once did. Like I would never be happy or content if I didn't have children. I have a beautiful life, a wonderful marriage, and I'm thankful for so many wonderful blessings the Lord has given to me. And then miracle of miracles, I conceived in August on our 12th anniversary trip that we jokingly called our second honeymoon. We were shocked and so happy. We celebrated and thanked the Lord for our sweet baby, but unfortunately I miscarried the day after I found out. That day also happened to be the 5th anniversary of my parents' death, so it was like pouring salt in a wound. And it's been hard. My hormones have been out of whack and I've been having a lot of physical anxiety symptoms and panic attacks... even in my sleep. I've been leaning on God to get through this. I cry almost every day now, even though I've never been much of a crier. And I don't know if I will ever get pregnant again or if this was just a one time thing. Honestly, I'm dealing with a lot of fear now after the miscarriage, and I'm having to work through that, and I'm asking for God's help in overcoming the fear. But I'm remaining faithful and doing my part to continue trying for a baby even though I'm scared. This podcast really means a lot to me, and I am so encouraged and comforted by the scripture you shared and your own personal stories. So thank you so much. And to anyone else going through this, I want you to know that you are not alone, and I promise that God loves you and cares about you, and so do I

  • @Peace4NJ

    @Peace4NJ

    Жыл бұрын

    You know the goal in this life is really to be like Christ and I don’t know what it is but I felt the Holy Spirit all over your writing. Glory to God…I’m going to be praying for your petition. Just know whatever the outcome you already won because you have been Christlike and that’s what matters.

  • @deemas2653

    @deemas2653

    Жыл бұрын

    Hugs dear....yo story is touching

  • @monamohabir4897

    @monamohabir4897

    10 ай бұрын

    I’m so sorry for all you’ve been and going through. Broke my heart. I pray that God will give you the strength. I’m so sorry ❤

  • @bunny_0288

    @bunny_0288

    10 ай бұрын

    @@monamohabir4897 Awww thank you so much. I'm doing much much better now. It has been a really really hard year, and I still struggle with some lingering anxiety issues, but it is much more manageable now. I've learned a lot of coping strategies and have been working on learning how to calm my nervous system down. I've always had some anxiety struggles, even when I was a little girl, so having it be so intense and out of control forced me to really face it and work on overcoming it. And the Lord has led me and helped me find a lot of things that are really making a big difference. And the Lord has blessed us with a new church and some new friends for me which has been so so nice. I had honestly given up on asking God for friends. I started asking Him just for some acquaintances I could see and say hi to at church. And instead He provided an incredible Bible study full of women who want real and deep relationships. It has been such an unexpected blessing. And I still have some hard days, but I also have some really great days which is such a huge improvement. Thank you so much for your kind comment. God is faithful and will walk through the toughest valleys with us. And even when we can't feel His presence, He is always there. 💕

  • @CA-mc4ud
    @CA-mc4ud2 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to this topic. I was was recently diagnosed with PCOS. I do not claim this diagnosis in my life. Through my wait I do struggle but in my heart ♥️ I believe in Jesus promises. I declare and decree 📜 in my healthy child. This test will be my testimony to glorify my father God. I pray for those who are also struggling. May the Lord bless them with a healthy child. In your Glorious name Jesus! Amen!

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    2 жыл бұрын

    We are praying with and for you, friend ❤️

  • @CA-mc4ud

    @CA-mc4ud

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@OfficialProverbs31Ministries thank you 🙏🏽 God bless!

  • @LT.737
    @LT.737 Жыл бұрын

    I’m 29 and My husband and I have been going through this for over 10 years😢 it is such a hard journey and I feel for all the women going through this and who understands! May God work miracles in our families for His glory 😢🙏🏼

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    Жыл бұрын

    We're praying for you, friend!

  • @jasminehammer9389
    @jasminehammer9389 Жыл бұрын

    I’ve been experiencing infertility along with miscarriages for 6 years. I feel like I have carried this burden for too long and don’t think I can keep going. I’m so tired. I’m looking forward to listening to your videos.

  • @nymode

    @nymode

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry, sister. Hang on to our Lord. Praying for you.

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    Жыл бұрын

    Our heart goes out to you, Jasmine. We're praying for you right now.

  • @elizabethcamacho615

    @elizabethcamacho615

    6 ай бұрын

    Im on the same boat

  • @carolyncharron1191
    @carolyncharron11912 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. Infertility is not talked about in much in the Christian community, and I feel very alone. Waiting is so hard. But thank God, He has used this incredibly difficult trial to become closer to Him. He has made me a stronger woman through this and solidified my faith in Him, and I wouldn’t change that for anything.

  • @Peace4NJ

    @Peace4NJ

    Жыл бұрын

    Hallelujah, praise God you got the real GIFT. Let’s show the world about our Jesus. I’ll be praying for you guys to conceive and whatever the Lord decides you’ll be alright because the goal is to be like Christ and you have done it.

  • @GG-yz4km
    @GG-yz4km2 жыл бұрын

    This is so needed. I wish more serious issues women face were discussed around biblical truth to provide support, hope, comfort and understanding. I haven't found that a lot when I researched google for resources and felt abandoned by the lack of help to these hard topics.

  • @Tabatha437
    @Tabatha437 Жыл бұрын

    I’m so thankful that she was sensitive and said her infertility was a short period: two years. I know 2 years can seem like forever when trying. But there are so many couples that are in the waiting and don’t have infertility. They don’t even know what infertility means. After year or a little over they get pregnant and say they have struggled with a long infertility. 🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s painful to hear. 💔 Infertility is not just not being able to get pregnant when you want to. (That’s just God’s timing.) Infertility is when either you or your spouse or both have issues that make getting pregnant extremely difficult or impossible. Many people with true issues have waited 5 to 15 years. That is a long journey with infertility.

  • @amyreynolds4120
    @amyreynolds41202 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad that this topic is being covered! I'm hoping that you will address the "No". I've been infertile for 20 years, and I'm a few weeks my journey ends with a hysterectomy. All of my waiting was answered with "No". I'm hoping to hear about this .. as nobody seems to be talking about it. It's tough, and it would be amazing to hear more about the no.

  • @Peace4NJ

    @Peace4NJ

    Жыл бұрын

    My momma prayed for healing from renal failure for 13 years and the Lord didn’t heal her but I’ll tell you the good Savior gave her a beautiful soul in the process. Remember as they say, when you can’t always trace His hand but you can trace HIS heart. I pray you will see His heart. No one gets everything they wanted but God always give us what we don’t deserve which is salvation.

  • @sarahbell3924
    @sarahbell3924 Жыл бұрын

    I relate to this topic so much. I had a miscarriage in 2019, and have yet to get pregnant again. I have hypothyroidism, and its harder to get pregnant. I do have kids around me every single day that I am blessed to have in my life. Nothing is like having and wanting your own baby, own child. This really hit my heart. Thank you so much for sharing this!!!

  • @Peace4NJ

    @Peace4NJ

    Жыл бұрын

    I’ll be praying for your petition. Let’s all as believers keep it Christlike in everything and always whatever God’s answer. You might get a miracle or you might be someone’s miracle as Nick Vujicic says.

  • @naomiclark9811
    @naomiclark9811 Жыл бұрын

    This is such a great podcast/episode it’s so needed to talk about these things, especially in a Christian community. Praying for all of us trying to conceive and struggling with the pressures it takes 💓

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    Жыл бұрын

    We're so glad you enjoyed it!

  • @frahoaes111
    @frahoaes11110 ай бұрын

    This is really powerful it means a lot to me in so many ways I really needed this to hear this and to know that there is someone else out there that understands what I am going through and hearing the message just gave me strength to hold on.

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    10 ай бұрын

    We're so glad this helped you!

  • @mphomaseko9226
    @mphomaseko922611 ай бұрын

    My sister has been insulting and belittlilng me for the longest of time. She has told me that she is more of a woman than me. We no lo her relate, I've put boundaries where she's concerned to present my peace

  • @antoniamarrero1266

    @antoniamarrero1266

    10 ай бұрын

    ❤️‍🩹

  • @purplerose155
    @purplerose1557 ай бұрын

    I have TS, not even married yet and the doctor said never, ever. I know God is good but it is so so hard. I trust Him, but I’m tired of feeling guilty. I don’t wanna live without this and can’t see my life without this and I’m scared.

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    7 ай бұрын

    Praying for you today, friend!

  • @faithwe74
    @faithwe743 ай бұрын

    I am approaching my 50th birthday, and this is my biggest struggle. I am sad whenever I think about this, angry and sometimes bitter. I get angry with myself for not being able to accept this, and I get angry with God for not allowing me to conceive. I pray for the day when I can just accept being childless, but for now, this is still a challenge for me. I guess for me in the bible, all the women in the bible conceived after a season of barreness. I might have missed it but all the women in the bible conceived in the end. No mention of an alternative outcome

  • @mphomaseko9226
    @mphomaseko922611 ай бұрын

    It's an isolating journey. I don't know where and how I fit, especially when I am with family members who have children 😢

  • @antoniamarrero1266

    @antoniamarrero1266

    10 ай бұрын

    ❤️‍🩹

  • @Tabatha437
    @Tabatha437 Жыл бұрын

    This is a wonderful episode 🙌🏻

  • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    @OfficialProverbs31Ministries

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching!

  • @wendyfernandez819
    @wendyfernandez819 Жыл бұрын

    I stopped taking pregnancy tests after 3-4 negative tests. Infertility for me has lasted about a year and a few months now.

  • @msmurriel
    @msmurriel9 ай бұрын

    The Bible on tells the stories where God blessed the women with children where are the stories of the women who were never able to have children it when who have spend all their savings prayed for years like myself I have been praying for a child for 20 years and he is yet to bless me there are other couples on youtube as well that have told their stories of how God never blessed them either God bless drug addicts underage children mothers that harm their children but not the mothers that have love and hope in their hearts for a child they will never have