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@PCLHH

4 жыл бұрын

Oh man... I am relating to this soooo hard. All of this. Only I am not a saltoholic, because my mom (who I suspect also has ADHD) would always forget to put salt in the food, which resulted in me not acquiring a strong salt taste. But, I love chips!

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

TheVaultdweller yum... now I want chips.🤗

@danielwilson2109

4 жыл бұрын

Love your videos, I'm on a rampage

@adhdisbeingslayed5474

3 жыл бұрын

OMG you just described me. I feel like you are my sister. My son took me through hell with adhd. He was diagnosed at 7. I am so glad i went through that with him without any of my symptoms getting in the way of becoming his biggest cheer leader and #1 advocate to fight fkr what he needed. I was damn good at it too. IEP meetings wete shocked of my knowledge. I educated myself. Looking back I now see when i was young why I went through so much. You are awesome. I am 49 and on medicine but still stuggle. Not an official diagnosis but i wanted to cry watching your viseo because you described me like you knew me. I had alot of support with my son which is key but there is still alot of ignorance going on. I kept getting in debt with my rent, spending profoundly knowing I had to pay rent. Some many times got eviction letters and got bailed out. I kept saying okay I wont ever get into this again. Then I'm in court again because I hadn't paid rent in 5 months and had no idea of what the money was used for. So with this said I gotta start my youtube channel because it's something I wanna do but fear of looking stupid because I lose train of thought or cannot remember words embarrass me. I know a diagnosis will get me proper treatment instead of just medicine given to me from a psychiatrist who cannot diagnose me but due to my son having it and my symptoms it is obvious. I will be following and will let you know when I start. I guess bullet points and notes will help me. I have so much confidence when I know for a fact I'm prepared.

@katrinacourneyea5573

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to a lot of this! I also love salt! I’m going to keep watching your videos! Thank you!! 💜✨

1. Easily distracted ✅ 2. Hyper focus ✅ 3. Mismanagement ✅ 4. Disorganized ✅ 5. Procrastination ✅ 6. Forgetful ✅ 7. Impulsive ✅ 8. Emotional issues( depression, sadness, rage, anxiety) ✅ 9. Low self esteem ✅ 10. Hard time communicating ✅ 11. Lack of motivation ✅ 12. Quitter ✅ 13. Restlessness and anxiety ✅ 14. Sleep issues ✅ 15. Substance abuse✅ 16. Relationship issues ✅ 17. Few career achievements ✅ 18. Like salt ✅ Yup definitely ADHD

@domonator1167

3 жыл бұрын

Like being slapped in the face with a mirror. called the doctors office today. supposed to be putting myself on the wait list rn, instead I am here.

@victorialaur

3 жыл бұрын

I’m impressed you were able to write down all of her points. I couldn’t because I had a hard time focusing on her! So thanks for your efforts!

@everclearr

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to all of them but I was told I’m bipolar

@victorialaur

2 жыл бұрын

@@everclearr You could have both, from research I’ve done (from medical books-not the internet) it is not unusual to have both…I do. And am treated for both-talk to your dr.

@therandomofrandom9152

2 жыл бұрын

Dang I have every single one except sleep issues. I think I need to see a doctor...

does anyone else have a thing where, if an inconvenience happens or you yourself are incompetent at something, you fall into a depressive spiral and hit rock bottom really quick, and contemplate su**ide? then you get out of this hole, something else happens, and you fall back in... it's a constant cycle. I'm not sure if this is because of c-ptsd, adhd or both. I need a therapist lmao ;-;

@heartfullofhippies

2 жыл бұрын

Yup. Happened to me yesterday. Had a higher up at work tell me I’m lazy and doing below the bare minimum and not taking initiative. I shut down, cried, drank alcohol, went to bed then woke up at 3am pondering my existence. The phrase I kept thinking was “If I’m so lazy, why was I even put on earth?” I got to work extra early today, took initiative out of spite, lasted for about 3-4hrs and now I’m fine 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely sounds like ADHD and Depression together

@kayleighwall7401

2 жыл бұрын

Yes this happens to me really quick x

@ZanderShepard

2 жыл бұрын

All the frickin' time.

@nikkinovember9258

2 жыл бұрын

Yup.

I'm yelling at the computer like " YES! YES SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS I AM VALIDATED"

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

yes!!! Glad you feel validated!!!!!

@victoriasaiefrain

3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I feel right now

@katrine249

3 жыл бұрын

What she said!!👆🏻

@HoppySabbathHomestead

3 жыл бұрын

Same!

@SupernovaX72

3 жыл бұрын

Yessss...I’m the late one 😆

Me, yesterday: So what do you think? Ardelle: Could you repeat the part where you said all the stuff?

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Yo Samdy Sam omg haha me in a nutshell!😂

@tiffanyharpandsong

4 жыл бұрын

I do this to my husband all the time the poor man 😭

@martineyles

3 жыл бұрын

Can you repeat all the stuff, now that bit I get!

Omg, the time tracking thing - I loose a SOLID 10-20 minutes in the shower, every morning. Have done for as long as I can remember, this is probably why!

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

i wonder how much time i've lost doing mindless things....oh my geez.

@CallMeAsh273

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same! I lose time doing everything. I set my alarm earlier and earlier to compensate but my brain keeps adding to my lost time.

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

Complete time blindness can tell the time but do not have an internal clock cannot estimate how much time tasks take

@bijujoze4043

2 жыл бұрын

@@Dancestar1981 same here

@angelikafieseler741

2 жыл бұрын

@@CallMeAsh273 weird I can get to where i need to be on time, but the rest of the day no time management at all

I don't struggle to fall asleep I just struggle with waking up no matter how long I've slept :(

I've been late so many times it's a personality trait at this point. Exactly 15 minutes late to everything. Should I just leave 15 minutes earlier? Well yes but actually no

@lolxla

3 жыл бұрын

how do you even leave 15 minutes earlier, how is it done precisely?

@jomama9075

3 жыл бұрын

One of my closest friends likes to tell people about me, "She will be late to her own funeral!"

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

More like hive yourself more than an extra 2 hrs to rule out possibility of being late

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

@@jomama9075 my mum said this to me for years now she’s sorry for it

@kayokayo7917

2 жыл бұрын

LOL 15 minutes is my average as well. Only way Im on time is if traffic is magically not a thing that day.

I'm an artist too, and I'm always amazed by how easily I can spend all day painting when it's so difficult to focus on anything else.

@arieluv615

3 жыл бұрын

Sooo true! I’m considering just quitting everything that doesn’t draw my focus on that way. Then I’ll always be focused...hopefully. 😂

@chunkymonkey3795

3 жыл бұрын

I cant even finish my drawinggg 😭

I'm in tears just thinking about the list of failures, mess-ups, embarrassment, and just feeling like why?? Why?? Why can't I get my shit together? My planner actually used, not 20 different cute notebooks; and let's not forget that extra planner that was too cute you couldn't not buy it. Gezzum, I already know that I have it, I too found out when I was like 29, 30, maybe 31. Anyway I turned 39 yesterday and I kept telling myself, "this is the year!" Your going to take hold of the disorder, get rid of all this random why must I own this stuff. I just want like 2 duffel bags and a trunk...maybe one suitcase...and a hat box. But that's it! I don't want to carry this weight all around me and in my head. Thank you for putting together such a concise, say it like it is video with the symptoms listed below! I know I will write this in one of sed planners or notebooks lol! ;) New Sub, really happy to find someone who understands. It really is a lot. People who don't have it don't understand the shame and humiliation, and guilt. I'm not sticking with just that aspect, but it is a great part that does need to be addressed with the ADHD-er. I'm such a dork. Lol! Thanks

Rewinded and zoned out of this video like 14 times...but soo true...😂

I wish all my checklists were so easy to tick off.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

haha i know i've left out more...I thought of you when creating this video and realize i meant to put the "list" in the comment section because I know it helps! and my computer doesn't always wanna work when editing....so adding text is hard. I'll go do that now...If i stay on task!!! AHAHA thanks for always sharing your thoughts.

@olafwDE

4 жыл бұрын

@@ArdelleVision Life can be hard :D ... Thank you!!

I'm still trying to figure out when i get distracted when someone is talking if it's ADHD or if the person or subject is just really boring and i would rather be somewhere else. I try to be polite and act interested so i don't hurt their feelings but perhaps that is the ' people pleaser ' in me which is another subject all together....Another mystery for me to ponder....

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

george potter ‘tis a mystery indeed. That is an interesting point though.🤔 I find myself zoning out when I should be paying attention… And I have to have people repeat themselves more than need be😬

@greenearth9633

3 жыл бұрын

I literally zoned out of the video as soon as I saw this comment lmao. Honestly, I'm just glad you can rewind yt videos.

@andreafromaustin

3 жыл бұрын

well apparently the inability to focus on things that you find really boring is part of the disorder, so it sounds like it might be both! 😂

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

That in itself can be an ADHD symptom

I'm a 17 year old girl, and watching your ADHD in girls video led me to this one, and I relate to almost every single symptom you've described. I feel like I didn't have as much trouble as a kid, but I've always been extremely spacey, slow at getting work done, and easily overwhelmed. I've had this feeling that something is wrong with me because I can't get my act together and can't get motivated to do anything. Especially with the pandemic, I've been so understimulated and feeling hopeless. My grades are dropping with online school; I can't convince myself to get things done at home. Thank you so much for this video! I want to talk to my parents about this but I'm worried it's just me being spoiled, lazy, or addicted to my phone. Like me imagining getting tested and being told that I don't have it and just suck at life scares me...my self esteem can't take it :(

@kassymaron1416

3 жыл бұрын

YES IM RIGHT WITH YOU!!!

@shanadouble6275

3 жыл бұрын

I’m right here with you too! I’m 19 and literally failed a whole year of high school, having ADHD would explain a lot for me. I have an appointment to look into a diagnosis very soon so I’m terrified too! It’s definitely worth talking to your parents and a doctor! It’s scary as all heck but it could make all the difference for you! Good luck!

@milliescadding9852

3 жыл бұрын

This is literally me to a T! The only symptom in this video I didn't relate was substance abuse but I do have trouble with over eating 🤦🏻‍♀️

@beccau8001

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much omg

@LaceyMyriah

3 жыл бұрын

@@milliescadding9852 I have been reading that eating disorders often are a manifestation as well. Not diagnosing you!! At all. But I definitely believe that IF i have ADHD... it manifested in eating for me, too. And so far... a lot of these symptoms are resonating. I have never even spent time looking into ADHD because of the way it's portrayed with like, hyper kids.

"you feel like you live right off the highway... In reality you live 15 minutes from the highway". I cannot even explain how much I relate to this. Also that describes to a T every morning for me ever.

The HYPERFOCUSING. This is what I was wanting you to talk about.... when you spoke about painting for 11 hours I HEAR THAT!!!! I'm a crafter too, and once I get going I can go for hours and hours.... or at the moment Animal Crossing takes up a lot of my time because I can ESCAPE for hours and hours.... and as you said, it leads into not managing time well at all....... over estimating how long something is gonna take.... you are preaching to the choir here gurl....I find you so relatable!!

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you relate! Yes! Hours of one things and putting off what I should be doing..aka responsibilities vs the fun stuff. I love art..but I also have to make sure my priorities are straight. Managing this can be a challenge! The more I’ve been aware of this I get better at it...but I do miss the mark. I keep hearing about Animal Crossings! I need to check it out..or it might be a dangerous trap for my adhd 😆

@AyeshaShaSha

3 жыл бұрын

@@ArdelleVision I find it hard to manage my priorities big time... and Animal Crossing is great but dangerous for ADHD hahaha!

@keaton_

3 жыл бұрын

Yessssss! If I’m in the middle of a thing, it’s impossible to pull me out of it. Most recent example: Hubby and I just bought a house. We bought samples for paint colors. I was just going to put a little on the wall (like you’re supposed to) and before I knew it, I’d done half the wall by the time my husband practically snatched the brush out of my hand to stop me. BUT I STILL HAVE PAINT AND I HAVE CHOSEN THIS COLOR JUST LET ME FINISH IT.

@gabriellaberman

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!!!!! I’m in the midst of getting diagnosed and I haven’t skipped a day of playing Animal Crossing since the game came out. I can play it for hours and hours on end and most of my friends don’t get why I still love it

@AyeshaShaSha

3 жыл бұрын

@@gabriellaberman I was the same till I hit a pretty low point in my life and just couldn't bring myself to do anything, but I DEFINITELY obsessed over it for the most part of the year and didn't skip a day!

I relate to EVERYTHING you shared here. No formal diagnosis yet. Im a male 67yo veteran, had a 30yr career with nothing to show. Im a college drop-out, and my life is a mess... except for my 6 wonderful grandkids who all love me as I am.... this one brightness keeps me going. Your video is a revelation for me and has given me the courage to seek help through the Veterans Healthcare system. Thanks so much and may God bless you for all you do!

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE! I am glad my video helped! I hope you get the help you need and deserve through the Veterans Healthcare system. ANd wow! 6 grandkids!!! what a blessing!

Does anyone else struggle with memories of the past? I’m thinking it’s because I struggle to concentrate on being ‘in the moment’!

@Streeknine

2 жыл бұрын

When I get depressed or feel anxiety I get flooded with memories and they are so real I feel like I'm there again, completely zoned out of what I'm doing.

@jeng6786

2 жыл бұрын

I do too. I don't remember much of my childhood or even if these symptoms are recent or of they've been there forever. I'll think I'm doing something/feeling a certain way/acting a certain way for the first time and my mom will tell me I used to do/be/feel that way all the time. I remember being told I had no/ little common sense a lot and that I didn't pay a lot of attention to things. I also remember my mom saying I was the drama child of the family. Very over dramatic about everything. I'm not diagnosed but there was one point in my past when a teacher thought I might have it but my mom said she just never took me to a doctor for it. I did go to therapy when I was a teen but I don't believe they diagnosed me with anything. Just chatted and tried to help with any things I was dealing with at that time. Edit: I'm diagnosed now.

@uriviera3860

11 ай бұрын

You. Know its hard to remember things from mi past and if i remember there desorganized mmm i guess thats how are brain work

@SamanthaEcho

11 ай бұрын

I feel like my long-term memory is as good as my working memory is lousy. I can literally just think about a childhood memory and feel like I am two years old again but when it comes to remembering where I put my glasses I’m like “what?”

@traceybanting3952

11 ай бұрын

@@SamanthaEcho yes! My childhood memories are limited, but the ones I do have are frozen in time, clear as a bell!

Man, I've been watching a bunch of videos like this and a lot of the things said resonate so much I tear up a bit. I scheduled an appointment in 2 days but now I'm just afraid that I don't actually have ADHD and I'm just a low tier human 😭

@AngelBeatsOtaku666

2 жыл бұрын

I feel this.

@luvmelove5742

2 жыл бұрын

That’s my fear. How are you?

@evero8375

2 жыл бұрын

@@luvmelove5742 Im okay. Turns out I dont have ADHD. After my assessment the consensus was that I am depressed with the possibility of having bipolar

@luvmelove5742

2 жыл бұрын

@@evero8375 I really should get assessed. Wish you the best. 🙏🏼

I'm 58 and undiagnosed, but everything you say describes me, even the salt. I'm so sick of facing the same failures over and over again.

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

yeah, it's not a fun feeling. I have gotten better the more i learn about myself. I still have my moments of stumbling forward but I'm glad to at least know what I am dealing with!

I can relate. Almost by 100%. 13:22 Do you find easier to communicate electronically e.g. email/texting than communicating out loud? I'm like this which is why I ask! lol

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily. I always forget (what a concept) to mention communication throught text and email in my videos when discussing communication. I suck at writing. and spelling. and organizing my thoughts in a text/email that will convey my message to others clearly without over writing or underwriting even. I'll write and rewrite all the time. and debate on if i should send it. delete a message.. start all over. It's a hot mess. Not always though. Mostly with people I don't know well. Here on my platform i feel like I'm with my people...so i don't struggle with replying to comments...if it's not obvious i might lean more towards over replying...i like to reply while i still have the smaller subscriber base and have the ability. I love all ya'll!!!

@MusicMAAD

4 жыл бұрын

Again, I completely relate. For me, hitting send on an email gets me anxious these days. Mainly because I've overlooked previous emails or hit send too soon and ugh, it's awful... so now when I feel hesitant about sending an email, I'd get colleagues to check my emails - but - even if they say it's perfect, I'd still feel like the message isn't clear and I'd start overthinking. But I'd rather email than speak to someone verbally. If there are lots to talk about, however, speaking about it verbally seems easier. I guess it all depends on the context. Your channel's a blessing and is keeping me sane about the way my brain works, huge love. Thanks so much for replying!

@connor863

3 жыл бұрын

I prefer communicating face-to-face or through text but I absolutely hate phone calls. Emails are usually fine but they can give me anxiety when I'm having tech problems and the emails are for something work-related or college-related.

@theluucymay

3 жыл бұрын

@Connor Im the same I will literally just sit and watch my phone ring but not answer it 😂and if I'm having like a heated conversation over the phone I can never get my words out properly but I can write how I feel much better and would rather have the conversation over text if you can relate? Also slow internet and computer problems give me RAGE

I'm just laughing at myself as you list off each thing because I relate so much. You said procrastination and I'm literally procrastinating while watching this video... lmao Then you started listing off the stuff you've quit, and I've done and quit every. single. thing. that you listed. Cat rescue? Quit. Karate as a kid? Quit. Jobs? QUIT. I have to laugh! Edit: also 100% to the salt thing. I will lick up the extra salt off the plate with my finger 🥴

I’ve always thought I might had ADHD , never felt normal. My psychologist just told me today that he thinks I have it & im 27!

Me too with the salt- I also tend to add lemon to things that don’t even “need” lemon. I LOVE it. 🍋

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

Omg lemon!!! Same!!! On watermelon...yum😝

@Beleen-gw3vw

3 жыл бұрын

SALT!!!! story of my life!!! omg 😳

@larsswig912

3 жыл бұрын

when I was little I used to add sugar to everything I ate, even rice

I’m about to turn 31 and realizing how much ADHD has affected me. I’m glad all these teen commenters are here now learning this stuff. I beat myself up hard thinking I’m a lazy underachiever who missed the boat after being decently successful in high school and really struggling ever since. Thank you for making these videos.

I relate to this so MUCH that I got distracted a few times while watching the video and had to repeat it 🙆🏻‍♀️

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

Dark midnightstars omg I feel you on the “had to repeat it” part. Hahaha. So the relatability is mutual 😆

@hayoona1969

3 жыл бұрын

ArdelleVision 😂😂😂💔

@natashadefoe7035

3 жыл бұрын

I watched it twice lol!

This is like looking in a brain 🧠 mirror. Wow! Thank you for sharing. (Also, Yes on the salt.)

Omg. The intro with smelly cat...😝

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

liza smith 😂glad someone appreciated it.😎learned it specially just for this video...

@marthajohnson3250

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr!!!! ❤️

@Irishjay-gu5pb

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously awesome!

The being late thing is 100% accurate! I'm always late to school run as I look at the clock, think "oh I have 10mins and it takes 3mins to get there so I can unload the dishwasher quick" do the dishwasher and organise the cutlery drawer so its now -3 minutes and I'm late!"

I really felt the part about cutting things down to a minimum because having more things makes it almost impossible to stay organized.

“It takes a while for things to get into your thick head” - yup! I can’t argue with that one!

I’m laughing so hard and crying because everything you side was me and I do. I’m so happy some one feels the same way

@sb23byrne73

3 жыл бұрын

Me too I was the same lol

I was already on board from the beginning when you said "I knew I was trying in life but things were always so challenging and I didn't know why". Just spot on LOL.

Yes I have about 90% of the symptoms you’ve described here.

I feel like I pay a lot of attention to my time management. Whenever I have something planned i try really hard to do everything on time to the point where I am finished preparing way to early so I just sit and wait for that thing to happen. So usually I am not late because I really try not to.

I’m so happy I stumbled across your page! I’ve been suspicious that I might have ADHD for years. My dad and my little brother have it but I was never diagnosed. I can relate to almost all of these tendencies

I have ADHD, I had it all my life but it didn’t really peak or get noticed until I was an adult. I’m 56, ADHD, wasn’t really a “thing” Yet when I was growing up. So I always blamed myself for not being quite “Up to Par” like everyone else, and I just needed to give myself a kick in the butt. As I got older it turned into HUGE ANXIETY and even PANIC ATTACKS at times. Having finally been diagnosed and doing much reading and watching informative videos, like yours, makes me feel so much better. I can relayed to so much of this! Please, if you feel as though you could have ADHD, just talk to your doctor, get tested. Knowing yourself and why things are more difficult for you is the first step to finding small ways to improve your quality of life, but also not to blame yourself. I would love to see where the salt fits in, I’m a salt freak! ❤️

@victorialaur

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, I was not diagnosed till in my 50’s and only then because I was searching for information to learn more about my grandson’s diagnosis.

You've literally just described my life in almost perfect detail. It's amazing listening to other people with ADD and how similar our issues are. Thanks for sharing.

Loved your video! Yes I do feel validated. I’m 40 years old and can’t believe I’ve struggled for so long without being diagnosed. I’ve seen therapists and Psychologists but until my sister brought the subject up I never thought I might have ADHD. Thank you!

One of the best videos I’ve seen. Thanks for posting.

Loved it!! You are so relatable and funny!

Throughout my high school and college life, I have never been able to manage my time effectively. I remember I would stay up late in the night to finish off school work, and I'd get upset when my mum would question why I wasn't done with my work yet. I would spend hours on one topic of a subject, almost forgetting that I had three other topics to go through. I could never understand how my classmates managed to revise every subject in one day for example and spread their time out evenly. I would procrastinate, but once I really have to I can study for the whole day, allbeit anxiously. I am also very impulsive, which has lead to a life of addiction. Furthermore, when I get an idea I have to do it that day, otherwise that thing will occupy my mind, at the expense of everything else. I'm 21 years old, and these problems don't seem to go away. I haven't been diagnosed, but I relate to these symptoms. I also tend to forget things, and I usually need people to explain things twice to get it. I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes I fear I have dementia. I feel like I need a lot of time to process what people are saying. I don't know how to get diagnosed, as I feel like this aspect of ADHD isn't well known.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

wow. thanks so much for sharing. i related and was nodding through everything you were saying...spending too much time on something while other things are pressing.

This fits me like a glove! I also got diagnosed last year at the young age of 31 after I was prompted to look into ADHD. I can really relate to the dropping out of college, emotional issues, motivation. And the salt thing! I think it's because our brains crave stimulation so we need intensity in everything, including our food. I love foods with strong flavors, including stinky cheeses and spicy foods.

Such an amazing video!! So thorough,...def part of my story!!

Ohhhh thank you. ❤ I have watched plenty of videos and this was one of the best.

The fact that I relate to every last thing you said, I’m literally in tears!! 😭 I’m not diagnosed, and for so long I just always felt like something was seriously wrong me. My youngest brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, and it was just never anything that anyone picked up with me- since I was always so “well behaved, especially in class.” I’m 27 now, and I just wish I had known sooner... it all makes so much sense now.

I’m (triumphantly!) going through the process of finally getting tested for ADHD. I’ve had all of these symptoms (especially the self image aspect) for ages and I only really connected them with the symptoms of ADHD when I stumbled on pockets of info on the internet (this time around it finally flicked a switch and got me to get my butt in gear!). I’ve struggled so much throughout school and especially in my college life, and I think the only reason why my outcomes are so objectively successful is because 1) I’m really motivated to learn and 2) I’ve had INCREDIBLE support and a nurturing environment. In the mean time while I wait for my appointment I’ve been binging adhd content on KZread, and I’ve already found so many helpful tools no matter what the outcome of my testing tells me. So thank you for your personal experiences!! It really helps :) p.s. - the salt thing was hilarious. I guess my love for salt really explains it all lol

You are so good at explaining ADHD. Subbed.

Wow It almost felt like you were reading my life story back to me, especially the part about the history of failing and leading to low self-esteem. As a man it's felt extremely tough feeling like I'm not living up society's expectations of me. I'm going through the process of getting a diagnosis and this video has been a huge help! Please keep up the great work you're doing and don't forget to take care of yourself. Same goes for everyone else reading this because if you succeed, we succeed. Good Luck!

You just described every one of my symptoms, plus many more I could add. Even now while I’m watching this video I have things that I need to get done for tomorrow but I get sidetracked. I always end up doing other things instead of focusing on what needs done. It’s a vicious cycle that I’m unable to control, even when I can realize it.

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

i totally relate. obviously😂😬

Thank you so much for this video! For people who try so hard, but still failing! This could be life changing!

OMG! What really hit home for me is thinking I always have more time than I do! I always start getting ready 30 minutes before I need to leave and manage to always be wondering why I didn’t have enough time for everything I was doing

Thank you so much!!! This video was amazing for understanding that I actually have a lot more symptoms than I realised and I'll be making a doctor's appointment tomorrow! I'm a 31 year old female and never even saw ADHD as a possibility as I assumed it was just something for hyper kids... didn't realise all of the symptoms to do with your hyper mind instead, which is 100% me! Am praying this doesn't get dismissed and one day I'll wake up and not feel the way I have every day since childhood: unmotivated and distracted! Thanks again for taking the time to lay this all out (& for the chapter markers!! 😚👌)

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

so glad you got something out of my video!!

I just want to say a massive THANK YOU! At Christmas, my sister told me she thought I was autistic, and getting help could solve a lot of problems and questions I have. I have always felt different and knew my brain worked in roundabout ways. Carrying shame around with me and stopping myself doing social things, because the backlash of anxiety isn’t worth it. Since finding your channel, I have felt a HUGE sense a relief! Even the way you word yourself; it feels like you’re speaking from my brain!! I have finally got an ADHD assessment booked in for this week. Hopefully I get this sorted, but if not I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It’s helped me SO much! X

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Sadie Levett omg! This made my day. I love when people get me. The way I talk. The way I am. It makes me feel just as understood as I hope everyone else feels when finding my videos. 🤗 that’s my hope. To bring awareness and acceptance...and a belief that we can be something more than we thought we could. I relate to a lot of what you say. Thanks for sharing and I hope everything goes good with your assessment!

@kendi3525

3 жыл бұрын

I'd like to second that. It feels incredible to find people talking about what you are going through - in detail! I am finally starting to be kind to my self - praise god

@natoshabarthalow9849

2 жыл бұрын

How did your assessment go?

Aaaaand that's why I keep decluttering and re-decluttering my home...hence much of my channel content. And the painting thing--yup. Hyperfocusing on fun exciting stuff like art or projects instead of the dishes and laundry. hah. (I see you have a Spanish vocab book on your shelf...me too. Glad to have found your content!)

Ever since I found your channel and have watched probably a dozen or so videos of yours. I have never found so much validation in almost a word by word play of my life from signs when I was literally just a kid, definitely in mid-teen years, and VERY much so as an adult. I as well didn't know there was a sub-type of ADHD cause although I wasn't like a lazy, or lethargic kid, I can't remember the last time I wasn't tired as hell, and could nap but can't nap. I am not a hyper active person regularly unless something really excites me, but even then sometimes I don't have the energy to express it. Anyway it gives me something to point towards when I eventually get to get health insurance and see a DR and Therapist. Up until now (I am 26 ) I really only had a freakin list of things that could MAYBE be wrong. I do have really bad anxiety, my depression is more regulated now a days just situational. I thought maybe I was Bi-Polar but that didn't add up either, finding out that is something women are often misdiagnosed with instead of a proper ADHD diagnoses cause some of the behavioral traits kind of mimic each other, but some of the symptoms also mimic Asperger's as well, which is why it takes so damn long seemingly to pin point the ADHD. But thankfully between your videos and doing more of my own research. I-ADHD seems like the closest damn possibility I have ever come to, I could cry. Up until now I have spent the last easily 15 years or so feeling crazy, insanely stupid, confused on why my brain didn't seem to think the same as people around me, certain habits and quirks, social interactions, the emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction/decision making. I know there is more there like possible ptsd from several quite pivotal traumatic moments in my life growing up. But I am so glad you decided to make a channel, cause it certainly gave me the validation, hope, and ease that I have something I can work with and find more coping skills. I do think I need medication to help correct it though, there are certain things in my life I just can't seem to get a grip on because of the way my brain is operating right now. No matter how many coping skills and plans I put in the way.

Thanks for compiling this list of traits, you crystalized each one well. I seem to do ok with time, I'm usually punctual, but it's a conscious effort I try hard at. I have all the rest of the traits mentioned. I have to hand it to my 3rd-grade teacher for recognizing my disorder, 30 years ago.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

nice! And yeah. my efforts to be on time have helped out a lot...but if i'm not careful i'l slip back into being fashionably late...

Thanks so much for sharing. My psych said I have ADHD a couple of days ago and your video makes a lot of sense. Its so good you put the time in to make this video.

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! THanks for sharing this! I'm glad its making sense for you!

Omg, this video hit me so hard. Thank you for making this video. I now feel like I have a possible answer for all the things that have caused me so much emotional pain.

I recently saw a video about add and had no idea what it consisted of and I feel like my whole life has been explained and don't understand why no one ever knew? I relate to everything you have listed! Thank you so much for this ❤

I have the worse problems with being on time. I do exactly what you said about getting ready and being on time. It is embarrassing to always be late and not understanding how things will always go wrong. I have to set a timer on my phone or I will be much later than normal

You basically describe my life so far😂. I recently got diagnosed and I think it's crazy how many ADHD'ers have the similar life story of quiting and failing, anxiety, and all the other things you talked about. And I'm sure not all them do, but it blew my mind a lot of us similar life experiences. It's good to know because I don't have to be so hard on my self and let other emotions get the best of me. I do the salt thing too! Anyways, good informative and entertaining video, keep up the good work 👍🏼.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Juan Valdez yay! entertaining information! That’s my hope and goal. Yeah...it’s crazy how many of us can relate...learning about it has released so much of my self hate. I Don’t judge myself nearly as much as I used to… I try to get better every day excepting myself for who I am.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Juan Valdez and I love that you do the salt thing ahaha

@corymcintyre7345

5 ай бұрын

I have always been yelled at for how much salt I eat.. I’m 41 yr old male and I’ve had a lot of set backs in life I do great for awhile then everything falls apart i get super depressed and start using drugs again and then ended up in prison I’m out now was doing good again then had heart attack had triple bypass surgery and haven’t been able to work since and haven’t had income in almost a year and my fiancé had got pregnant rt before heart attack we were very happy but then all this happened and now I got beautiful newborn daughter but I’m still not able to get outta this depressed feeling and useless feeling idk I can’t seem to get dr who can figure me out but I feel like I’m at the end of the road if I don’t get it figured out. I also have been diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd I’m only prescribed Xanax but there is something else I just can’t seem to explain I’m lost and I’m feeling like everyone would be better off without me I’ve so many times been doing good in life and screw it up and just quit jobs or walk away from relationship idk what’s wrong. I also have 8 year old who is autistic

Thanks so much for this video. For your content! I've had ADD (without the HD) my whole life. I was diagnosed with severe attention deficit at standford when i was a small child and basically failed my whole way through grade school until dropping out in 10th grade. I finally got my GED and then went on to start, own, and manage 2 businesses with a team of employees who rely on me to focus and manage my responsibilities. To anyone who feels like they are worthless or incapable of being successful despite wanting to be focused or motivated, get a real diagnosis and if you have ADD / HD, allow that to be okay, medicate or manage it, and relearn to live life with it. For me, not managing my ADD with meds is a recipe for literal failure and disaster in every facet of my life. I literally cannot function without it and even basic things that others do without thinking. Are absolutely impossible. If you have ADHD / ADD, dont fight it or deny it. Just take control of it and stop holding yourself to a standard that others or the world have set for you. Dont judge yourself for your struggles or accomplishments so far. Treat and manage your ADD with meds and therapy and redefine your life. You're like capable of so much more than you think and its okay for your processes to look different than the norm.

your videos have been so so helpful, thankyou so much for that!! i’m hoping to go to my GP soon to get a referral for an adhd/add assessment and your videos have been the best to binge watch and spend my whole days watching 😭

I’ve watched so many of these videos and relate to almost all things said... and I still doubt myself that I may have it... almost like I’m not good enough to have it... madness! 🤯

@nica_9936

2 жыл бұрын

yeah right..it almost feels like im just lying to myself, that theres no way i actually have it, that im just "doing this for attention" idk this is what my brain tells me.. i relate to all of the symptoms and just search for *one* i dont relate to, to convince myself that im fine..

Today I was unofficially diagnosed with inattentive ADHD by my counselor...and it seems like watching your video is hearing my journal read out loud.

Thank you for making this kind of content. You sharing your experience and the information you’ve learned over the years has literally changed my life, and so many others. When I first watched this video, I broke down in tears because finally, after years and years of misdiagnoses and constant struggles, I saw everything I was experiencing right there in front of me. It’s been over a year since my adult ADHD diagnosis, and even though diagnosis didn’t solve all of my problems like a magic bandaid, it’s improved my life so incredibly much. It’s so important to have creators like you out here!

Thanks for sharing so much information. I definitely heard myself in many of those symptoms. Especially zoning out in social situations. Always feels so awkward. Sitting here nodding my head to most of what you said 😏💯👍🏼

A beautiful painting Ardelle! And a perfect summery of "symptoms" . Its so recognizable that its a bit odd for me that there are people just like me, which makes me feel a bit less of an oddball ..lol And yes we are easy insalted 😂 thanks for the video A. xo

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

the insalted pun....omg! How did i not think of that!!! amazing. ahahaa and thanks for sharing your thoughts. it helps me know i'm not the only oddball as well...

@TheMajestic1971

4 жыл бұрын

​@@ArdelleVision haha yes it came to me when I was writing, add creativity ;)

@connor863

3 жыл бұрын

I see what you did there 😂🤣😂

I started crying in 12:02 for the things that you were saying cause i took them personally even tho you literally say that those we're things you say to yourself

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

awe i totally say these things to myself but constantly try to work out a better self dialogue. sorry to make you cry😰😰😰

@illika3071

3 жыл бұрын

@@ArdelleVision it's okay, don't worry, I'm trying to work on that for myself too 😊

You just described my whole life. I am in the process of being diagnosed and already accepting that it could be a thing that looking up methods to help has changed my life already!

Well this video came up as a suggestion for me to watch and I have to say I absolutely relate to everything you said even including the salt thing! I'm due to be finally assessed this coming week for the first time and I am in my 50s. It could definitely give me an answer for a lot of things I've dealt with over my life. I think the validation is super important to move forward and try to get past some of these issues. Thank you for making this video it was very good.

relate to all of this and even the salt issue, always put loads of salt in my food.

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

YES!!! The salt thing for me is so real. I put some...take a bite...put a little more...Perfect...eat some of my food...crap! The next layer needs more salt!!! Yeah...I it gets interesting in front of people

I should be out the door now. I'm caught now watching this in my robe, doing the I gotta go pea dance

Thank you for putting the hyperlinks in the video description. This can be really helpful (especially for longer videos).

It’s so good to hear you got diagnosed at 31. I’m 30 and just now realizing the evidence of my life all points to ADHD. I was worried after brushing it off as a preteen due to great grades in school and not knowing ADHD affects emotions AT ALL until weeks ago, yet I now have learned it really does, that I might have missed getting diagnosed when I should have been. The hyper focus was my joke excuse for why I couldn’t have it during my early 20s too…when really I just never understood what it truly encompasses. I hope I can approach the next 30 years more properly as a result of new information and newly-adapted intentions, and I hope therapy and any support and habits can actually be better and more helpful, rather than (like too many things) just missing an opportunity I “should” have managed to grab onto

LOL the cat starts the show! 😹 Oh boy, I have it and just like you, I couldn't get anything together. My Mom always said I was "scattered" which means perfect sense as having been diagnosed later in life. Yes easily distracted..look! >🐿️ And getting in the car, going down the road and oh yeah! I forgot something (very important!) I'm just relating to EVERYTHING you're saying! 😭 I also hide the really important stuff. So well, that I forget where I put it! *Creates another tornado in the house looking for it* SHOPAHOLIC here.🙄 Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

"Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏" OMG!!!!! HAHAHAHA I love this last line...because i feel it so much. Watching ADHD videos with a constant nodding of the head...thinking yup! That me! The distasters we create externally because the chaos in our minds...oh it is hilarious! AHAHAAH Glad you appreciate the cat. She is constantly "going" at the most inopportune times for me. It's like she knows...

I’m 45 and only in the last few months after doing research have a realised I’ve been so called adhd my whole life ! Everything you said is so me ! Thanks for putting this up ! I know it’s just a name but having a tangible thing or reason for the way I am has really helped me actually!! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻thanks again

Hi! I just discovered your channel and I fit into all the symptoms you have highlighted and more. The only time I was every doing ‘ok’ was when I body-doubled with my parents during finals in highschool because they were scared I might fail. Had a therapist told me I have cyclothymia when in reality... I am not manic at all. I’m a happy healthy person and all my ‘unhappiness’ comes from struggling with school and life and almost committed suicide because of college related issues - not getting into the college I wanted/ failing the first year of college. Always had a mental block and no matter the effort I put in to the point of severe migraines I couldn’t concentrate to understand what was spoken to me despite being ‘smart’ in art/ language. I don’t have patience for details/ following instructions nor organization and I’m currently so behind with everything in college that I could easily throw myself out the window. I wanted to give up after being misdiagnosed (the only test for ‘adhd’ he gave me was to spell plane backwards he was heartless to all my current conditions) I wanted to genuinely give up. The worst part is that I had a horrible burnout from overworking myself and struggling to keep up with college work - the first time I was left to ‘adult’ and had to move to a whole other country with 0 support, cook, clean and go to college and I started having anxiety attacks from how overwhelmed I felt to the point fear was coming out of my pores. I feel so dumb and weak for failing my first year despite trying my absolute hardest to keep up. d I bumped into you and you talked about God and I was like woah.. ok.. then I saw the painting behind you and I started to tear up because I saw that in a dream. I’ll take it as a sign for God is on my side and to not give up. Thank you so much for doing this and being vulnerable and wonderful. Thank you.

When you said about locking your keys in your car you reminded me that I once missed two flights in one day.

i once lost my phone because i put it down somewhere and forgot where. i found it it three years later in a random drawer for literally no reason

@lisamh9037

3 жыл бұрын

My phone was in the freezer for over a month. I put it in there as I put groceries away. Didn't find it until the next time. Who puts their phone in the freezer?!

OMG my whole life has just been described in your video!! 47 now, dropped out of high school a straight A student at 16 before I failed everything - it's so much research and self-directed study at that level! My 10 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD level 1 at the beginning of this year - she's definitely hyperactive. I'm studying from home (again) after quitting my job as a legal exec, and came across your video while going down the proverbial rabbit hole of procrastination on an assignment - never knew Mel Robbins has ADD how cool!! Now...I had to pause this video like FIVE times to go off and do things that suddenly popped into my head that HAD to be done right then and there. And this video is only 23 mins long! And that's nothing unusual for me. I've written down your list and ticked off all of them but one - I think I need to go see my GP....maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel and I can finish my studies? Thank you so much - have subscribed and look forward to watching more xx

This was such a perfect explanation of me. It was like you could read into my brainn! wow eye opening!! xoxo thank you for doing this fantastic video xoxo

im SO SO impulsive, I literalyl DIDNT EVEN WANT A SECOND PIERCING but i wanted it for two minutes so i got a sewing needle and did it, I DIDNT EVEN HAVE AN EARRING

You seem to understand everything about me. Finding out at age 50 I feel nobody around even thinks its real. Think I am going to just not talk about it ever. Adhd not me

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

glad you relate and got something out of this video!

Omg! It's as if I check every single mark. And I always thought it was just general anxiety and depression. Thank you for your valuable information! Peace and love ♡

I'm 60 and have never considered that I might have ADHD until videos on the subject started popping up in my recommended list! I honestly relate to every symptom you've listed here - maybe I should be assessed at some point? Love your videos BTW.

Lovely painting

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Deborah Ferris thank you!!!

This video was randomly recommended for me and theese symptoms are LITERALLY me. Did KZread just diagnosed me?

Thank you so much for this video. I have all the symptoms you mentioned. I already scheduled an appointment with a specialist tomorrow and I am nervous. 😥

I just love your videos..I'm the same age as you and even almost had the same life events it's crazy..i don't have a diagnosis because it's the hardest thing ever to get.. but as you said- i feel it in my heart. I would love more videos about how to cope:)

Omg! I’m 57 and I’m still wondering what I want to be when I grow up! That’s a ADHD thing? Can I grow up now?

@lisamh9037

3 жыл бұрын

I'm the same age and say that all the time... Just finding out this is my issue. For sure.

@larsswig912

3 жыл бұрын

as an 18 year old with possible adhd, this really scares me

@Fadwaspiritual

3 жыл бұрын

This is not something I wanna hear as a 21 year old possibly with ADHD

@lisamh9037

3 жыл бұрын

@@Fadwaspiritual I think knowing you have it as you embark on life (much earlier than I) will help you immensely to narrow down better job types and also medications should make life easier.

@traceybanting3952

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 57 too, 58 in August. Growing up is seriously overrated...stay mentally young, change career as often as you like. It keeps us interesting and interested. Curiosity, passion, the gaining of new experiences, the addition of knowledge, meeting new and interesting people, etc. There are so many positives to this condition; like everything in life, there are negatives, but there are massive benefits too 🌈😘 xxxx

What kind of salt do you use? Sea salt? Himalayan pink salt? Kosher salt? Iodized table salt?

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Deborah Ferris OoOoOoooooo good question! I use a Himalayan pink salt grinder and regular sea salt! Both from Trader Joe’s. 🥰

The salt thing just blew my mind! That’s me everything just needs a little more salt. I was just recently diagnosed at the young age of 45 and I love your videos I think there great.

OMG... I literally thought I was the ONLY one! I am having such a hard time with this. It’s been getting worst and worst for me, but seeing this video helped me understand what I’m going through and gave me in a way peace to know that I’m not the only one. I know that this isn’t something to be ashamed of. So, thank you so much for that.

haha I love your personality!!! I feel like I have ADHD we would totally be friends!! #subscribed

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

Keyra Ford! Thank you so much! 🤗😂

You know the brain neurons need salt (sodium) to work. Maybe because the brain works so damn much keeping up with all these different attentional distractors and is always “on,” people with ADHD may need more salt. I know I take a lot of pink salt, (and rarely I’ll have a bit of potassium “no salt” as well in hot lemon water) and I need magnesium malate daily to keep my cool, keep my heart from palpitating and keep my legs from cramping. Overactive brain uses more salts is my hypothesis 😄

@ArdelleVision

3 жыл бұрын

interesting! I need some more magnesium...never knew it helps with heart palpitations!

@linam.9675

2 жыл бұрын

I agree to that... If i eat only the "normal" amount of salt i get low blood pressure.. so i too made the conclusion that my brain and body need more electrolytes

Thank you so much for this video. I got diagnosed with autism a couple years back, and ever since i've felt as if theres no way that my behaviour is JUST autism, there were too many similarities to ADHD, I recently have been doing more research into adhd and your channel has been a huge help! I spoke to a doctor last week, and I'm being referred for a test!! Thank you!!!!

Just back for a second viewing. This is absolutely me. I particularly struggle with the addictive personality thing. I’m retired early (am 57) after a career in teaching, the addictions are real. Gambling was a big one for me, particularly slot machines and roulette tables), food, shopping, collecting books (I’m unlikely to read them all), more shopping, alcohol and ....a bit more shopping! I’m hoping that the knowledge that this is a real condition, not just me making excuses, will help me get to grips with my addictions. Even if it doesn’t, it’s really good to meet so many likeminded people 🌈💕😘

I am trying to find strategies to help me with my ADHD. Definitely I own that list.... except the salt , never use it, gobs of unsalted butter much better yum yum

@ArdelleVision

4 жыл бұрын

skipole52 I randomly have unsalted butter which...yum. Butter. Sounds amazing. Can’t wait for tomorrow for my bulletproof coffee!