Do you have a narcissist in your life? Warning signs to look for

Clinical psychologist and author of "It's Not You" Ramani Durvasula joins Hoda & Jenna with tips on how to spot a narcissist, how to deal with one, whether they're capable of changing and more.
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  • @sarahs5340
    @sarahs53403 ай бұрын

    Narcissists can completely ruin your life and your self-esteem. The lack of empathy is the scary part. It is difficult to describe unless you’ve been through it.

  • @gwg216

    @gwg216

    3 ай бұрын

    True they can ruin someones life. The best thing is not to allow them, i have a narc mother and i totally refused her to ruin my life, the best way to deal with a narc is to ensure that they know who they are and describe to them their wicked characters, they really feel ashamed although they don't change and they are not sorry for anything at all.

  • @criola1340

    @criola1340

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes, I'm still feeling working on some self esteem issues caused by my ex but doing much better with therapy

  • @julief634

    @julief634

    3 ай бұрын

    @@gwg216 True, I have a narc mom too and I find this technique works and what also does is setting the highest of boundaries with them.

  • @moniquejackson7741
    @moniquejackson77413 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is the Bomb! She is tirelessly bringing much needed awareness to this societal menace of Narcissism. Thousands have testified that she has saved their life.

  • @Mel-os3ld

    @Mel-os3ld

    3 ай бұрын

    It's common sense to many not just this Doctor who u call the bomb

  • @julief634

    @julief634

    3 ай бұрын

    @@rita5466 Okay and what are the better resources? And who did she plagiarised? Just curious cause narcissism is on a spectrum, all the therapist/counselors and psychiatrists will reveal all types of narcissism in the same way Dr. Ramani does.

  • @Chronically_Kimberly

    @Chronically_Kimberly

    2 ай бұрын

    She saved me for sure. 2 years ago, I was suicidal. I saw some of her videos that opened my eyes. I started therapy along with continuing to watch her videos. I'm currently getting my ducks in a row to get out of this marriage. The best part is, he doesn't even see it coming. He thinks I'm too weak to leave him. I hope I get to see his face when he's served the divorce papers. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!!❤

  • @moniquejackson7741

    @moniquejackson7741

    2 ай бұрын

    @@Chronically_KimberlyIt's ALL you, Girl! A win for one of us is a win for all of us.

  • @julief634

    @julief634

    2 ай бұрын

    @@Chronically_Kimberly Stay safe! And don't leave without being protected first. It's when the victim leaves that's when it gets dangerous.

  • @SophieSoSo
    @SophieSoSo3 ай бұрын

    Having a narcissistic mother is like a prison sentence 😢

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    Muy cierto.😢

  • @ritahorvath8207

    @ritahorvath8207

    3 ай бұрын

    it' s the worst case in my opinion. I realized it 3 years ago, when I was 49. Knowledge and understanding it helps a lot .

  • @indiebaby

    @indiebaby

    3 ай бұрын

    Was your first bully your mother? Did she recruit willing siblings and relatives to attack you like flying enablers? You might have had a mother on the narc spectrum.

  • @gwg216

    @gwg216

    3 ай бұрын

    No not at all it is not a prison sentence unless you yourself allow it to be. I have a very toxic Narcissist mother but i totally refused her pathetic character to ruin my life, coz indeed they do ruin someones life and they will infact be very happy to see someone life ruined.

  • @MoInTheCity03

    @MoInTheCity03

    3 ай бұрын

    I couldn’t agree with you more. Praying for the strength to free myself and take this difficult walk

  • @lindatallon9217
    @lindatallon92173 ай бұрын

    Expose....expose....expose.....these monsters destroy lives ....

  • @gwg216

    @gwg216

    3 ай бұрын

    True they need to be exposed with no remorse. I face my mother head on about her narcissistic characters and i expose it to everyone and i don't fear a thing coz narcs like it when they are being feared but i am a tough one no fear at all and i vowed never to let her ruin my life coz if given the chance they destroy your life and feel nothing about it they are worse than animals

  • @suedesignable

    @suedesignable

    3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is a very special person. She literally saves lives. She has saved my life. After 45 years of not understanding what “I” was doing wrong and trying to be the perfect person, Dr. Ramani said the correct words and the lightbulb went on in my head. You can never win the “game” either as with a narcissist the goal post is forever changing. The gaslighting is real and you never remember things “correctly”. It’s always your fault no matter what the situation is. Remember this. They are never wrong. They will never ever apologize for ANYTHING they have done, regardless of the amount of damage it has caused. Then when that isn’t enough, the stories and lies they tell others about you is baffling. It cuts deep but now I’m learning that if these other people believe this made up stuff about you, they didn’t know you very well AND the reason they don’t defend you is more so that they don’t want to be the next victim in the narcissist world…Dr. Ramani calls these people the “flying monkeys”. When you have been a victim and you can look at it from this perspective it’s so crystal clear. Walk away and save yourself. Have peace in your life.

  • @bellaD7

    @bellaD7

    Ай бұрын

    Not everyone will agree a narcissist is a narcissist and support the narcissist. That’s something I’d like to see discussed more as it’s equally damaging as the narcissist and their behaviour towards others.

  • @Lilyflower-TigerLily
    @Lilyflower-TigerLily3 ай бұрын

    This lady helped me to wake up to my life over the Internet on KZread. My life was in a shambles and she helped me figure it out. I love her. Best wishes Dr. Ramani and thank you.

  • @kirstieb8025
    @kirstieb80253 ай бұрын

    if it’s your mom, your life is derailed. like mine was for 20 years. horrific abuse.

  • @zazabrown732

    @zazabrown732

    3 ай бұрын

    I understand. Because its the one relationship everyone else (and even you initially ) assumes that they will always have your best interest at heart but they are actually actively working to destroy you

  • @BambiBryant

    @BambiBryant

    3 ай бұрын

    How did you overcome it?

  • @HH-gv8mx

    @HH-gv8mx

    3 ай бұрын

    My mother is a narcissist. Not only was she mentally, but she was physically abusive to me, growing up. It’s been the biggest heartbreak of my life. I was always trying to her. But it was never enough. And because she runs the show, all of the family members fall in line. If I want to have a relationshipor see my sister and my niece and nephew at Christmas time I have to go to my mother’s house. It Causes me such great anxiety.

  • @reallife-db4fs

    @reallife-db4fs

    3 ай бұрын

    My mother is excellent. My ex-brother-in-law is a narcissist. But then again, he is already gone 😭😂😅.

  • @shereederrick

    @shereederrick

    3 ай бұрын

    @@HH-gv8mxOMG that’s my story.

  • @oceanwoods
    @oceanwoods3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is doing extremely important work It has literally saved lives. It is accessible to all, through her youtube videos.

  • @hahadarrie
    @hahadarrie3 ай бұрын

    So good that this conversation is going mainstream! Dealing with a narcissistic is wreaks havoc on one’s peace.

  • @brendap7520
    @brendap75203 ай бұрын

    There are also plenty of narcissists who fake empathy to the rest of the world, but behind closed doors, they are abusive. The person or persons they're being abusive towards only saw the fake empathy in the beginning.

  • @itzelcontreras1899

    @itzelcontreras1899

    3 ай бұрын

    Oh you’re describing my husband 😂😂😂😂 he’s a hands on dad in public, but behind closed doors he’s a crappy lazy father who won’t lift a finger at home to help out around the house.

  • @pennytrue2741

    @pennytrue2741

    3 ай бұрын

    You can often see through the act though if you are self aware. Many people are not a fall for it. Little cues will give it away. When I met one narc whose stalking me now, first thing he would ask is where you went to school because he wanted to tell everyone he went to Cornell, he would bribe regular hospital staff with cookies to do his work faster, he would interrupt conversations; whine about everything on the planet, and most importantly have this weird bizarre death stare.

  • @Nature-ep5cu

    @Nature-ep5cu

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@pennytrue2741 that weird dead stir is a give away of who they are most Narcissistic do that. If u look closely u will see they are empty. They try to observe and mimic people's personality bcos they don't have one and don't know how to function so they ask those questions u mentioned and copy your personality at the same time covering their emptiness and inadequacies

  • @Nature-ep5cu

    @Nature-ep5cu

    2 ай бұрын

    ​​@@pennytrue2741be careful if he is stucking they are dangerous people with no heart or emotion. You need to run! If he knows ur address u have to move

  • @hannaclue2728
    @hannaclue27283 ай бұрын

    I wish I knew about this 40 years ago. It would have saved me so much heartache and time.

  • @erikavaleries

    @erikavaleries

    3 ай бұрын

    Same

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    A mi también, 37 años de abuso emocional de familiares, especialmente el que ocupaba una posición de autoridad. Pero no me van a robar un minuto más.🙏

  • @godzillamanstreb524

    @godzillamanstreb524

    3 ай бұрын

    Understatement 😮me too

  • @MoInTheCity03

    @MoInTheCity03

    3 ай бұрын

    That’s the realization I’m coming to now in my 40s My mother literally ruined my life.

  • @Jaxxonian123

    @Jaxxonian123

    2 ай бұрын

    Don't we all... I wasted 25 years showing love and compassion to a narcissistic older half-sister who should have only gotten SILENCE and DUST.

  • @AmbrosiaK
    @AmbrosiaK3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani has helped me so much to understand narcissism. Her youtube channel and books are literally a lifeline.

  • @tc_is_me

    @tc_is_me

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes. She’s amazing.

  • @synneazaro

    @synneazaro

    3 ай бұрын

    I agree❤

  • @maxsmeditationchannel2923

    @maxsmeditationchannel2923

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes!

  • @Jaxxonian123

    @Jaxxonian123

    2 ай бұрын

    Yep.

  • @b.k8051
    @b.k80513 ай бұрын

    The best thing to do is ignore narcissists. Don't give them the attention they want. Don't react. In one year, out the other. It destroys them

  • @LindaC616

    @LindaC616

    3 ай бұрын

    True, but if you have to work with a malignant one, that alone won't work

  • @KA-eu9sy

    @KA-eu9sy

    3 ай бұрын

    ear

  • @amac2573

    @amac2573

    3 ай бұрын

    With respect it can be difficult for someone who is being subject to coercive control or/and violence. Especially if they have other vulnerable dependant people such as children or disabled relatives to take care of.

  • @starshine3588

    @starshine3588

    3 ай бұрын

    Very true that they hate that but because narcissists can’t change…they can’t become better people or treat you better or even decent…it’s best to get completely away from them and never be around them again if that’s possible. But I did what you said when I was married to my narcissist husband….and then I divorced him to get away from him because the abuse just never stops. I also ignored him during the divorce battle….because he battled and tried to prevent it…and I never acknowledged his existence…would look right past him and pretend he wasn’t there….because the second they know you look at them they think that means you still want them and keep bothering you.

  • @bkh5648

    @bkh5648

    3 ай бұрын

    @@KA-eu9syyear works too😂

  • @celestejacobs7386
    @celestejacobs73863 ай бұрын

    I love her. Shes such a kind, compassionate and brilliant woman.

  • @beth16440
    @beth164403 ай бұрын

    Narcissists are vile. Once you see it you can't unsee it.

  • @pattybonsera
    @pattybonsera3 ай бұрын

    My now ex-husband (after 23 years) is a master at future-faking. I had no idea what it was and thought I was literally going insane for years. He's the covert passive-aggressive narcissist, so not the boisterous type, but just as dangerous and damaging. Dr. Ramani is amazing!!

  • @marywenzel3199

    @marywenzel3199

    3 ай бұрын

    I have a covert mother. They are worse than the overt type-harder to spot.

  • @pattybonsera

    @pattybonsera

    3 ай бұрын

    They are! I didn't know what it was until I started researching what I was experiencing. After weeks of research, I finally realized I wasn't going insane after all.@@marywenzel3199

  • @mas7241
    @mas72413 ай бұрын

    Narcissism is the inability to generate or regulate your self worth. It has to come from the reaction of OTHER PEOPLE. Admiration and devaulation of others - and watching for their reaction. Well done Dr. R.

  • @ca6248

    @ca6248

    3 ай бұрын

    This is my mother.

  • @kaymuldoon3575

    @kaymuldoon3575

    3 ай бұрын

    Yep. Narcissists are always looking for validation. Apart from Dr. Ramani, another person I follow on KZread is Dr. Les Carter. He has a channel called Surviving Narcissism and he offers a lot of insights and tips. I have learned so much from him.

  • @afraidtosay8471
    @afraidtosay84713 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani stopped me from not wanting to live! Her insights and teaching has been crucial to me not dying!

  • @godzillamanstreb524

    @godzillamanstreb524

    3 ай бұрын

    I’m so glad you didn’t die ❤🎉

  • @afraidtosay8471

    @afraidtosay8471

    3 ай бұрын

    @@godzillamanstreb524 Many thanks. I am enjoying me, my husband lives separately. My personal answer is to have my own home! Having homes separately really makes a difference.

  • @georjeanknapp1171
    @georjeanknapp11713 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Today Show, for having Dr. Ramani on. She is amazing!

  • @dyoung2739
    @dyoung27393 ай бұрын

    I❤️Dr Ramani. It’s both amazing & saddening how the description of a narcissist pretty much describes every narcissist.

  • @zerothreethreethree

    @zerothreethreethree

    3 ай бұрын

    They do the same things, you can set your watch to it!

  • @julief634

    @julief634

    3 ай бұрын

    @@zerothreethreethree And they say the exact same things as if they are cloned from one DNA source.

  • @mjgreenidge
    @mjgreenidge3 ай бұрын

    I love this doctor. She’s brilliant and compassionate.

  • @glendasexton4777
    @glendasexton47773 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramanis research and work has changed my whole life.

  • @martinacatinelli
    @martinacatinelli3 ай бұрын

    I think it is much more than 1 in 6 people to be narcissistic. From my life experience.

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    En mi experiencia diría que 6 narcisistas por 1 no narcisistas. ¿Quizás hay algún estudio de relaciones de familia que se puedan revisar y se encuentre más narcisista de lo la encuesta presenta.

  • @martinacatinelli

    @martinacatinelli

    3 ай бұрын

    @@lourdespagan2565 I grew up with wide family narcistis circle. As the bible says it take 3 generations...Narcissam thrives in denial. Most of my close and wide families is in denial and work environment too. Denial of toxic and abusive behaviour.

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    Estoy trabajando en mi recuperación, la cual ha sido lenta y difícil. Gracias por tus palabras. Dios te bendiga.

  • @sigmasiren777

    @sigmasiren777

    3 ай бұрын

    I think the majority of people on this earth are narcissistic. Empaths are the minority.

  • @julief634

    @julief634

    3 ай бұрын

    It's global epidemic, but more USA than anywhere else.

  • @pinkpearl8130
    @pinkpearl81303 ай бұрын

    I'm so proud of her 🥺 Look at her go! Thank you for all that you do, Dr. Ramani!

  • @starshine3588
    @starshine35883 ай бұрын

    Most are very mentally abusive and some are both mentally and physically abusive. And very important to remember…there’s no cure or “fix” or medication these people can take to get better…they don’t change because of a tragedy…they don’t learn their lesson…they will always be the same and treat you and everyone else the same bad way. My ex-husband used to even use other people’s tragedies to gain attention and sympathy for himself…he didn’t even care that his friend lost a child…he just used that to get attention for himself…even from the friend that lost the child. They are so twisted and manipulative that they can work people that way. Both of my children with him told him to never contact them again after they turned 18…their 18th birthdays were very freeing for them to finally get him out of their lives…and they hated the court system that forced them to visit him before they turned 18….it’s sad that children and teen minors can’t choose for themselves whether to see a parent or not.

  • @rebeccajacklin3976
    @rebeccajacklin39763 ай бұрын

    We RARELY see personality disorders in therapy because they're "not the one with the problem." If they do, they manipulate the session. Most ppl say "leave them!" but what if they're your family? Victims need to strengthen their core beliefs through a good therapist for healing. Using a journal will help them by recording what happened for themselves to discern fact vs fiction. Leaving is a very individual decision. Helping you remember your worth and identity is essential. ❤

  • @cellosong
    @cellosong3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani rocks! She really understands this condition. Well done, Dr. Ramani.

  • @surlif
    @surlif3 ай бұрын

    You look great, Dr Ramani! I am so glad I found you and Dr. Les Carter on KZread a couple years ago. My life has improved dramatically.

  • @heatherh5639
    @heatherh56393 ай бұрын

    Dr.Ramani opened my eyes to the patterns of antagonistic behaviour in my marriage 4 years ago in her book Should I Stay or Should I Go. It's Not You deserves every accolade for the validation and compassion it gives to empathic people healing from narcissistic relationships. ❤

  • @googleuser2426
    @googleuser24263 ай бұрын

    My covert mother and flat out narc Father wonder why i dont care to communicate with them.

  • @rundbaum
    @rundbaum3 ай бұрын

    she is a-mazing! she has change my life . . .

  • @jasnadjekic7308
    @jasnadjekic73083 ай бұрын

    Doctor Ramani is SO RIGHT...

  • @jacquelineglitter4328
    @jacquelineglitter43283 ай бұрын

    Narcissist snip at your self esteem until you don't have a soul anymore.

  • @Nature-ep5cu

    @Nature-ep5cu

    2 ай бұрын

    Because they don't have one

  • @sheenar4928
    @sheenar49283 ай бұрын

    I preordered this book. I'm half way thru after only one day because it's so well written. It covers so much and is full of good information. Dr. Ramani is truly the expert!!!

  • @otismeotisme7987

    @otismeotisme7987

    3 ай бұрын

    She tells it all, I got wind of her a while ago God bless you

  • @jonstewart5386
    @jonstewart53863 ай бұрын

    I was raised by a narc father with awful repercussions. I just “woke up” recently at age 41 - while watching one of Dr. Ramani’s many videos by the way. Struck me on a super deep level.

  • @arnelevans4803

    @arnelevans4803

    2 ай бұрын

    I'm also 41, and my father was a textbook narcissist

  • @melindalee4574
    @melindalee45742 ай бұрын

    I love her! After reading/listening to Dr. Ramani she changed my life. My oldest daughter is a narcissist and it gets so hard. I will always love her but I had to step back from her. It can be mentally exhausting.😞

  • @SeaTurtle515
    @SeaTurtle5153 ай бұрын

    Two narcissists in my immediate family! 🫨 Narcissism is the only survival mechanism for these people. They never learned how to navigate through life without it. Best thing to do is not to let them push your buttons and put up boundaries. They will hate both of those things.

  • @kirstieb8025

    @kirstieb8025

    3 ай бұрын

    But if you were brought up by a narcissist, there are no boundaries, so I didn’t know boundaries. After 19 years of therapy, I finally do.

  • @SeaTurtle515

    @SeaTurtle515

    3 ай бұрын

    @@kirstieb8025 I didn’t figure out how to deal with a narcissist until my 50’s!

  • @jasnadjekic7308
    @jasnadjekic73083 ай бұрын

    She descibed my father. He is narcissists. 😢

  • @a.b.2850
    @a.b.28503 ай бұрын

    I’m so glad Dr Ramani got an opportunity to inform people of narcissism

  • @brandiesstudio
    @brandiesstudio3 ай бұрын

    I’m so glad Dr. Ramani is getting this life-changing info. out to the mainstream. Her content got me through when I thought I couldn’t survive.

  • @jaynekennedyellis
    @jaynekennedyellis3 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani is one of the best in the business of understanding and helping people understand these demons. Get out of this relationship and run not walk away from these type of people. Your very life depends on it.

  • @arieschick1

    @arieschick1

    3 ай бұрын

    Vote Blue. Trump is a Narc

  • @Rheinmeister09
    @Rheinmeister093 ай бұрын

    It is hilarious that this pops up on my feed today. I am convinced that my sister needs psychiatric help like yesterday. Thanks for shining a light on just how much of a narcissist she is - she ticks every box that you mentioned. Add in controlling and a bully and we’ve hit the jackpot. 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡 She is literally bad for my health - blood pressure up and the sense of dread whenever I saw her name on my phone. THANK GOD FOR BLOCK CONTACT.

  • @kirstieb8025

    @kirstieb8025

    3 ай бұрын

    a narcissist will NEVER look at themselves or better themselves. never take responsibility for their own actions or behavior, and never will, therefore any sort of therapy is a joke.

  • @LindaC616

    @LindaC616

    3 ай бұрын

    Her videos here on yt are probably the best, not only in that they provide validation, but help you move past

  • @Rheinmeister09

    @Rheinmeister09

    3 ай бұрын

    @@kirstieb8025 my point is the realization that it really isn’t me. She is the nut job and it is helpful to hear someone completely independent shine a light on the situation. For a long time, there was a tiny doubt in my mind that maybe I am in the wrong. Not anymore

  • @littlesusieofficial
    @littlesusieofficial3 ай бұрын

    Mom and the rest of her siblings!! It was hard to live with my mom. It's like having anxiety 24/7. THe same with ALL her siblings. I swear they shouldn't breed.

  • @innerworkshealing22
    @innerworkshealing223 ай бұрын

    You ROCKED IT Dr. Ramani...thank you for being the voice for survivors!!

  • @ark194
    @ark1943 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is the best!❤❤❤ Her videos helped me out a lot, and now that I can spot a narc, I’m able to navigate my life away from them.

  • @yaminiayachitam
    @yaminiayachitam3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani has saved so many people! She definitely saved me!Congratulations on your new book!🎉🎉

  • @traceybiles2061
    @traceybiles20613 ай бұрын

    Keep spreading the word...not a laughing matter..Its abuse and can lead to physical abuse as well and murder

  • @geeofthenorth3260
    @geeofthenorth32603 ай бұрын

    This. So many people are affected. Its sad that most people are unaware. Thank you Dr.Ramani

  • @lourdespagan2565
    @lourdespagan25653 ай бұрын

    Narcisismo debería ser considerado un crimen emocional. Llevo 37 años lidiando con familiares con características narcisistas y el daño ha sido irreparable. He recibido ayuda profesional y el proceso de restauración es difícil y lento. Gracias por presentar este tema, triste realidad que vivimos muchos.

  • @Coconut_999

    @Coconut_999

    3 ай бұрын

    I am sorry to hear that. I pray to God that you must recover well. Same situation with me, I am surviving almost 31 years of narcissism with my father. He is very evil, high in ego and jealousy. I can't walk out of this relationship because I am not healthy enough to work and support myself. I was healthy but after being forced to put 3 Pfizer vaccines by my father, I became disabled. He destroyed my life but I appreciate that he is working and providing for the family but that too because of my mother. If not for my mother, I would have to live in a disabled home where there is no future 😢

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Coconut_999 Gracias por compartir, me duele el corazón de leer todo lo que has tenido que pasar. Vamos a unirnos en oración para que Dios nos sane y nos recupere de estos años de tanto dolor emocional. Dios te bendiga.❤️🙏

  • @Coconut_999

    @Coconut_999

    3 ай бұрын

    @lourdespagan2565 Thank you so much Dear. Yeah, I pray to God to help us 🙏🏻🥹❤️

  • @lourdespagan2565

    @lourdespagan2565

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Coconut_999 Amén

  • @Coconut_999

    @Coconut_999

    3 ай бұрын

    @@lourdespagan2565 Amen 🙏🏻

  • @tamra8485
    @tamra84853 ай бұрын

    I am reading the book now and love Dr Ramani, I am a bit concerned though that many people will look at the selfish people in their lives and label them as narcissists. I know Hoda and Jenna addressed this, and I know that some professionals consider narcissism to be a spectrum, with people exhibiting more or fewer traits, but it’s important to note that true narcissists (those diagnosed with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder) have created a delusional self, more than likely in response to childhood trauma. Narcissists aren’t merely arrogant, they are compensating for a deep insecurity. It’s a sad state of being. I think it’s important not to label every @$$h**l in your life as a narcissist.

  • @mariagoode5903
    @mariagoode59033 ай бұрын

    YES!YES! YES! You do everything for them & your miserable,you have to move on it's hard but you can I have been free for years.They will always try to compisate there behavior to justify it don't take the bait be strong break the cycle it will always be about THEM!!!

  • @yaminiayachitam
    @yaminiayachitam3 ай бұрын

    Sometimes future faking is not so apparent and clear, they indirectly suggest things will change, or you hope they might based on how they are manipulating, but they never

  • @martinsalazar_
    @martinsalazar_3 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani helped me restore my self-value and muster the courage to leave a narcissistic relationship ❤️

  • @Wishpool
    @Wishpool3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani's YT channel has been a lifesaver to so many of us who've experienced narc abuse!

  • @DR-rv5lv
    @DR-rv5lv3 ай бұрын

    I wish I knew this 48 years ago. But especially the last 20. My life would be so much different and better.😢

  • @andrewcicchetti
    @andrewcicchetti3 ай бұрын

    its all coercive control...its relationship abuse...

  • @lindsay3793
    @lindsay37933 ай бұрын

    She is so pretty.

  • @roziel5
    @roziel53 ай бұрын

    Here to say I got her book and also to encourage everyone to do so!!! ❤ Dr. Ramani is a guardian angel for us folks who've been enduring narcissistic abuse at the hands of the narcissist in our lives and she's changed so many lives with her wisdom and kindness towards others. 💝

  • @valeriebolton2607
    @valeriebolton26073 ай бұрын

    My son-in-law is a narcissist.i hate that he has taken my daughter from my life🤧.

  • @pjlav6304

    @pjlav6304

    3 ай бұрын

    He's been diagnosed officially ? or are you needing a label to understand the situation you find yourself in?....

  • @jenster29

    @jenster29

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@pjlav6304does it matter ?

  • @pjlav6304

    @pjlav6304

    3 ай бұрын

    @@jenster29 yea.... especially throwing around armchair diagnosis like that. Anybody could be made out to be a narcissist if you manipulate the story enough

  • @davonchill2akory224

    @davonchill2akory224

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@pjlav6304 someone who actually thinks 🧠 It's refreshing because it's rare to see someone *not* follow the trend.😢

  • @jokendrick2124
    @jokendrick21243 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani has not only lived it but also learned this subject inside and out and then some. Her expertise is invaluable.

  • @americanassociationagainst7981
    @americanassociationagainst79813 ай бұрын

    Thank you for bringing awareness to narcissistic abuse to the America. It is more important than ever today. I wish I knew it years ago.

  • @Gemmarose9012
    @Gemmarose90123 ай бұрын

    I preordered and received the book and I’m already halfway through it. It’s excellent!

  • @patrickconnolly7799
    @patrickconnolly77993 ай бұрын

    We need more segments like this.

  • @onelife7247
    @onelife72473 ай бұрын

    The lack of empathy and their habitual enjoyment of schadenfreude makes them quite dangerous. It took lawyers and (decent), law enforcement to point out that these kind of perpetrators are actually dangerous.

  • @Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa669
    @Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa6693 ай бұрын

    Also most bosses or authority figures sre narcissistic. They always get their way

  • @FYSGentleCalmSleep
    @FYSGentleCalmSleep3 ай бұрын

    I love Dr. Ramani! Her shared knowledge has helped me immensely in navigating my way out of a narc relationship and moving forward in the healing process. She's a Godsend to the victims of narc abuse. 🙏

  • @tobytopaz921
    @tobytopaz9213 ай бұрын

    Finally , we need more info .. hopefully Hoda will think of all the older woman ,in a terrible marriage, all the jung girls ,who raised , the Man is always right you all DO NOT HAVE TO PUT UP W THIS..!! I was raised by one, married one,--' now in my 60th.. I try to just live ... how sad ..!

  • @juliakimny
    @juliakimny3 ай бұрын

    every time i watch this channel, I feel rushed.. like omg they have to go to the next segment or ads.....i feel stressed out. where as when i watch CBS this morning, i don't feel that way!

  • @lranieri1
    @lranieri13 ай бұрын

    Time to break the cycle, hold them accountable for and get them out of our lives! And time for victims to heal!

  • @CaliJen
    @CaliJen3 ай бұрын

    Proud of you Dr Ramani!!! Always love hearing you and you’ve helped me so much through this healing journey.

  • @Sophia-yo9rp
    @Sophia-yo9rp3 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani's channel has helped me heal and empower myself in ways I can't even explain. She offers explanations but also practical advice that a person can apply immediately to bring change. Thank you Dr Ramani.

  • @cedricspratley932
    @cedricspratley9323 ай бұрын

    Where it really gets sticky is when you have to deal with people like this at work

  • @Jaxxonian123

    @Jaxxonian123

    2 ай бұрын

    It's horrible. I dealt with it for 7 years. You'll be changed, before you make a change... The only thing to do is leave. Good people end up leaving jobs. Toxic people are allowed to stay.

  • @mariee.5912
    @mariee.59123 ай бұрын

    Dr Ramani is amazing ❤

  • @Lykke_stardust
    @Lykke_stardust3 ай бұрын

    It’s so great that you put awareness on this!

  • @maxsmeditationchannel2923
    @maxsmeditationchannel29233 ай бұрын

    Yessss Doctor Ramini! Brave, intelligent, insightful. I love her KZread channel.

  • @reyoureal
    @reyoureal3 ай бұрын

    She is so well educated on this. I love her she helped me so much

  • @CityCinderella
    @CityCinderella3 ай бұрын

    I can’t with hoda’s outfit. 😅

  • @alisonhay5924
    @alisonhay59243 ай бұрын

    Narc daughter almost cost me my life...I'm now 8 weeks post heart attack and airlifted to hospital.... This is the reality..after 6 yrs I cut them off.

  • @sandyolah4346
    @sandyolah43463 ай бұрын

    My sister is a very destructive narcissist me and my other sister get along with each other, but we don’t get along with her

  • @synneazaro
    @synneazaro3 ай бұрын

    A true expert ❤❤❤

  • @rebeccahenderson7761
    @rebeccahenderson77613 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is a the best!! I have a now former 'best friend' who would become abusive when she didn't get her way and Dr. Ramani, through her YT channel, has really helped me step away from in a healthy and empowering way.

  • @jkcliff2956

    @jkcliff2956

    2 ай бұрын

    I had one too. One of the hardest things I had to do was to walk away from her.

  • @rebeccahenderson7761

    @rebeccahenderson7761

    2 ай бұрын

    @@jkcliff2956 Yes, I know. The manipulation and mind games are very powerful, but with time we get clarity and our power back.

  • @kc6384
    @kc63843 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is God sent when it comes to identifying and understanding narcissisism! Her videos have helped me so much and I’m definitely getting her book! Thank you Dr!!❤🙏🏻

  • @rg-mi5hh
    @rg-mi5hh3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramano is so good! Learned so much from her! Sweet lady!

  • @adt263
    @adt2633 ай бұрын

    Correct…..! Dr. Ramani has it right, she knows what she is talking about , has knowledge, she is the best!

  • @BanFamilyVlogging
    @BanFamilyVlogging3 ай бұрын

    One of the key qualifiers for narcissism is that they *don’t want to change.* And that’s because they lack the self awareness to believe they even need to. If someone is able to snap themselves out of that, & *genuinely* seek help (for real; not for show), then at that point I’d consider them a recovering narcissist. But you need that paradigm shift. And due to the inherent nature of narcissism, that’s incredibly rare

  • @HisHeart
    @HisHeart3 ай бұрын

    THIS HERE!!!!!! MY GOD!!! ♥️

  • @TheMmiguelito
    @TheMmiguelito3 ай бұрын

    Doc is sooo incredibly insightful and empowering

  • @emeraldeyes58
    @emeraldeyes583 ай бұрын

    So glad to see her on The Today Show!! This very important subject needs to be addressed more on all the major shows, talk shows, news, etc. so people are educated on the topic and can protect themselves. C'mon CNN, Colbert, Kimmel, Fallon! It's not a "glamorous" subject but it does impact a lot of people's lives.

  • @jasnadjekic7308
    @jasnadjekic73083 ай бұрын

    Bravo Dr Ramani❤. We love your work.

  • @tictactoedias1908
    @tictactoedias19083 ай бұрын

    I love Dr Ramani ❤️🇦🇺

  • @Truthfully3
    @Truthfully33 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this. Your voice is helping so many x

  • @MsMamatube
    @MsMamatube3 ай бұрын

    I'm going to have a conversation with my family member today & I'm scared, anxious & sad. I love her but may have to say goodbye today. It's horrible.

  • @scoleman8829
    @scoleman88293 ай бұрын

    Spot freaking on

  • @Rorolla
    @Rorolla3 ай бұрын

    Can't wait. Thank you Dr Ramani for your dedication.

  • @terranced.schemansky8066
    @terranced.schemansky80663 ай бұрын

    Narcissism is everywhere. You can see signs of it even when you least expect it.

  • @kkey4700
    @kkey47003 ай бұрын

    Wow Dr. Ramani! She’s so awesome and has helped me soooo much! I just got her book!

  • @vintagepeace1
    @vintagepeace12 ай бұрын

    I thank God Almighty for bringing this topic to light to so many. I suffered for years and always being made to feel like it’s something wrong with me mentally. I had no clue what I was experiencing or even about the word NARCISSIST. I went from a narcissistic mother to a narcissistic boyfriend. Just living out patterns. Damaged my mental so bad. I became the worse version of myself and believed everything the narcissists in my life told me. I’m currently recovering and just praying to God that one day I feel better. These personality types can leave a dark hole inside that feels impossible to get out but I know I got this. Thank God for the awareness!

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka56903 ай бұрын

    Was a great piece on tv . Divine turning on the television- and my favorite people / person was there!

  • @ErinCrocker-eq1dd
    @ErinCrocker-eq1dd3 ай бұрын

    Hey it was my idea! I needed to call out my narcs on national TV I asked her.

  • @ErikLeed
    @ErikLeed3 ай бұрын

    Dr. Ramani is such a powerful force in shedding light on the horrendous behaviour of narcissists and how to navigate the trecherous waters of narcissistic systems and working towards healing! Thank you for caring Dr. Ramani and congrats on your new book! I hope its a best seller for all of our sakes🤣

  • @a.leehilliard4716
    @a.leehilliard47163 ай бұрын

    God bless Dr. Ramani!