He acknowledges that house chores are difficult. He is a keeper right there.

@imthecoolest50

Жыл бұрын

House chores isn’t the hard part, it’s the raising kids alone that’s extremely hard that makes anyone want to suicide if you’re not mentally strong enough.

@kirbyk3817

11 ай бұрын

it’s just the hard facts tho not something that warrants such praise

@randomboi346

11 ай бұрын

Ehhhh at a certain age the kid is able to pretty much able to take care of them selves so like until 13 it's work after it's smooth sailing

@Kim-mp5wg

11 ай бұрын

@@randomboi346 doesn’t apply if you have multiple kids + you will always be raising your kid, it’s not like you ever stop raising a child. Also puberty is whole other can of worms so it actually gets harder :)

@ImSagey

11 ай бұрын

@@randomboi346not really, 13 year olds are STUPID (coming from a 13 year old) and they do not know SHIT unless you raise them right. You have to control what they wear, where they go, and who theyre hanging with. If not, youre going to get either a girl dresssed as a slut, a boy who makes girls pregnant / doesnt treat them right, or somebody who has low self esteem and nobody to be there for them. Its not smooth sailing, and 13 year olds can give attitude.

Mexican here, It’s a family tradition to not take the husband’s last name, instead, our children will have 2 last names

@ceciliala

11 ай бұрын

It’s not a family tradition😉, it’s by law that every person has a paternal last name and a maternal one. Women do not legally change their name when married, ever. Imagine hyphenating a 3rd last name to yours 😅

@gabrielasalinas5166

11 ай бұрын

i’m mexican and that’s literally not even true, why does race matter, maybe ur family does it like that but most families dont

@ilikehorsesalot178

11 ай бұрын

@@gabrielasalinas5166 race matters bc in other places like the us they take the father’s last name, and almost all the families I know do what I explained? Don’t take this the wrong way but is ur family more in the American side?

@ceciliala

11 ай бұрын

@@gabrielasalinas5166 if you are born in Mexico then legally you have both last names and women don’t legally change their name when they marry, period. And by the way this is not exclusive of Mexico. If you live abroad, I guess that depends on each country’s individual laws for birth and marriage. By the way, Mexican is a nationality and/or ethnicity but it’s not a race. There are Mexicans of many different races, both in Mexico and abroad.

@goose12k9

11 ай бұрын

Bro this explains so much. I always thought that shows that have Mexican characters have long names as a joke, or the parents just give them all the names. But they get 2x the last names every generation. That's crazy😅

“Feels like she’s not 100% in it” he says, without offering to change or hyphenate his own last name

@alleycat-hh8jl

9 ай бұрын

bro..chill 💀

@daejoonieee9894

9 ай бұрын

the question wasn’t about him, you don’t know if he’d also change his last name 😭 worried about the wrongs things can never take a win as a win

@eleanorcatherino3839

9 ай бұрын

Eh, he’d probably do it to if that were his standard

@Amanda6532

9 ай бұрын

He said she could hyphenate her last name. Typically if people are in agreement with their partner doing that they will also change their name to match. The whole point of changing the name after marriage is to have a family name where everyone is the same.

@veesalazar8605

9 ай бұрын

How does this have over 200 upvotes, are people this dumb?

I like that he was well aware how hard stay at home moms have it because he remembers what his mom did for him 😢

@Caerda

7 ай бұрын

Yes ❤

@hinaguiza8810

2 ай бұрын

Most of the fellows who love their mothers and have seen them struggle grow up to respect women tbh.

Hes a good man.

@MoonlitBookworm73

Жыл бұрын

Definitely

@jeilynvasquez2476

Жыл бұрын

No man doesn’t you realize that in some cultures the last names mean something like in Guatemala you get one from mom and one from dad if you removed them you basically erasing your family. Idk about you guys but I think my parents were first and therefore they should be there before you. And mrs comes from Mr’s and in Guatemala you get called mrs of (husband’s last name) they do not use your parents but they are still there.

@MoonlitBookworm73

Жыл бұрын

@@jeilynvasquez2476 Well, if those cultures choose to keep their last names, that’s perfectly okay! Some of us don’t come from cultures like that though, so we are okay with changing our last names. Personally I want to keep my last name because only one other person is carrying it on and my last name is pretty unique.

@jeilynvasquez2476

Жыл бұрын

@@MoonlitBookworm73 yeah you are right but don’t you think is bad to demand you change last names and if you don’t that means you don’t love the person I feel that is manipulating

@MoonlitBookworm73

Жыл бұрын

@@jeilynvasquez2476 I’m not demanding anything. If or when I get married, my partner can choose to keep their name, hyphen it, or take my name. I think you misunderstood and read into it a bit too much 😅

It’s so weird how people have opinions for last name bit, but shaming the guy for his preference. Honestly he was polite and respectful. Just because you don’t want to change your last name doesn’t mean he can’t ask his future wife to. He seems like a green flag all around. I personally want to hyphenate my name, no problem with that.

@fatiemi

Жыл бұрын

I don't know that women in western country choose to change or not their last name after mariage i thought ,the name change automatique like when she gets maried,in my country women don't change their last name and men have no problème in that.

@bive4167

Жыл бұрын

People would have more intense opinions if it was a woman who wanted her husband to change his name to hers.

@tigress0076

Жыл бұрын

He could ask, there’s never a problem with a polite question - it’s only a matter of will he not accept ‘no i dont want to change my last name because i have created a name for myself with awards and books under it and im the only child in my family and want to preserve that legacy’ which are totally valid reasons - all of this is a topic for discussion not one assuming or forcing their opinion on the other

@Victoria_Huot

Жыл бұрын

Idk here it’s just not something that happens. I feel like it’s just a weird botter but I don’t care what someone wants from their partner as long as it’s not me

@toxiczombiewolf5692

Жыл бұрын

I think it should be discussed who wants to change or or not at all. My parents ain't married but i have both their last names 😅

I disagree with the name thing. It's HER name. A person shouldn't have to change their name for anybody.

@abigailloar956

3 ай бұрын

It's her dad's name...

@Kranitoko

3 ай бұрын

@@abigailloar956 by that logic, it's her dad's dad's name and so on. Once you're given a name, it's yours. Doesn't matter where you inherited it from. In fact some single mothers give their maiden name to their children, so it's not always "their dad's name".

@abigailloar956

3 ай бұрын

@Kranitoko I understand that. I had my mom's maiden name, and I changed it to my dad's once I finally got to meet him at 12 (my mom kept us apart). I also took my husband's name when we married because I wanted our family to be whole, and us all to have a family name. I don't see why it is patriarchal to take your husband's name and not have your father's? That was my point. I don't see why women have so much pride in keeping their past families while making a new one. I think it is beautiful giving yourself to your husband fully and becoming one. If women want to keep their name that should be a choice, but everyone is so aggressive about it now and I don't understand that part I suppose.

@Kranitoko

3 ай бұрын

@@abigailloar956 why not have the husband change HIS last name is the point. Why has it GOT to be on the woman? Also having the same last name doesn't mean you're any less of a family than one that all does. Stop living in the 20th century.

@abigailloar956

3 ай бұрын

@Kranitoko and there it is. The pride. If that is how you want your relationship, you can have it. I am allowed to wholeheartedly give myself to my husband and show him that respect and devotion. My husband has done the same in other ways as well. Our service, devotion, and submission to each other is how we have a good, longstanding marriage. That was our choice. If women wanna start with pride, aggression, and selfishness, what is the point of getting married?

I’m with him on all BUT the obvious one. I would not change my last name for anyone.

Bruh, wtf are these comments. This guy is genuinely a good man but just because of one thing that he said yall are attacking him 💀 like let him have his opinions, its not sexist for goodness sake.

@Squeaks-42069

Жыл бұрын

So... why does he get to express his opinion and not us? He said something that sparked a conversation in the comments, nobody is "attacking him" he's fine.

@catscanhavelittleasalami

Жыл бұрын

Kinda is tho

@thongle6331

Жыл бұрын

No one's "attacking" him. You were the first comment here and just made it up💀

@l_0082

Жыл бұрын

@@Squeaks-42069 well “Kitty” he said nothing wrong that’s why we’re defending him

@Squeaks-42069

Жыл бұрын

@@l_0082 From what? Other people talking about their different opinions on the question he was asked on the internet?

Good answers. Personally I’m okay with the not changing names. I’m a woman and I don’t wanna change my last name bc there’s only one other person carrying it on and I like my last name. Edit: Holy heck this blew up- Edit 2: I wasn’t gonna do this, but hopefully it saves me time. Also we’re at 18k likes- 1. My last name is not bookworm, please stop making that joke. 2. I never specified that I would be marrying a man. 3. If you wanna say something about kids, just don’t. *If* I have them, me and my partner will discuss it.

@sfa9392

Жыл бұрын

Like he said you could always add it to the end

@MoonlitBookworm73

Жыл бұрын

@@sfa9392 I guess. I just don’t really wanna Hyphen my name bc then it gets people confused.

@sfa9392

Жыл бұрын

@@MoonlitBookworm73 oh fair enough but also you could both just add it as an extra name on the end so both your names are connected then your kids also would have both of your names

@MoonlitBookworm73

Жыл бұрын

@@sfa9392 Yeah maybe. It’ll just depend on if I get married and what my partner wants as well.

@vianpik

Жыл бұрын

​@@sfa9392 I don't know about other countries but as for Mexicans, when a couple marries, they each keep their last names. The woman doesn't change hers and changing it is pretty strange. Their kids will have both last names, father's first then mother's.

I am happy I kept my last name, it's a part of my identity, changing it would have made me feel weird... but that's just something we discussed and decided. As always communication is key.

@choiavenue

9 ай бұрын

i feel the same

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

As you should

@lavenlaven84

2 ай бұрын

In China no one changes their last names after married

The fact that men think women not taking their last name after marriage is a sign of lack of commitment is terrifying. Why do you take HER last name then if that’s really how you feel?

@wareeshakhushbakht5802

8 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I was thinking 😅

@Victory_2011

8 ай бұрын

bruh what if it was the other way around? You wouldn’t say a thing.

@mikaniu6848

8 ай бұрын

I know right 😅

@kusx0635

8 ай бұрын

@@Victory_2011nigga what

@Knicks977

8 ай бұрын

Because that’s how it work. A woman gets the man’s last name and the kids get it too. That’s how it’s been and that’s how it should stay. That’s Terrifying to you?

Honestly I wouldn't want to change my surname, it's like a connection with my family and my identity through my whole life, also it's weird that I have to do that bc I'm the woman

@yayayayahaikyuu4261

Жыл бұрын

Yea same just because I’m starting a family doesn’t mean I have to sever my ties with the family that bore me and raised me

@minnamiin

Жыл бұрын

Same, changing my last name just wouldn't feel like me anymore, and no one even changes it when I'm from, so that guy just called a whole country a red flag

@marunekochannel

Жыл бұрын

exactly, i. mean it would be ok if men also take the last name of the wife (like showing both 100% in it) but is just traditionalist bs that has no point literally useless🙄

@mistyvk

Жыл бұрын

my mom never changed her last name but I have my dads and not hers but idrc her full name sounds better with her last name and my full name sounds better with my dads last name 🤷‍♀️

@Scarlet_324

Жыл бұрын

​@@yayayayahaikyuu4261 he literally said that it's fine if she doesn't change it and just adds it to the end

C'mon guys, don't be too harsh on him. It's probably just a cultural difference. This is why the quote "You do every good thing, and people will still hate you and curse you more the moment you do one dumb thing."

@tarikarajani5381

Жыл бұрын

Literally my thought. Guess there's no such thing as culture anymore to some people. Not saying every culture is good, but it's just what he hold on to, what he used to. Respect that and talk about it, sure you'll find a way.

@yumisaifu6198

Жыл бұрын

Even powerful Mongolians didn’t take their husbands surname when they got kidnapped because their fathers name is strong enough to stop it even if their life is on the point so it’s ridiculous for women to take their husbands surname like are they their children or wife?

@PlsSpankMeh

Жыл бұрын

@@yumisaifu6198 look, some women just like to hear people call them with their husband's surname. What's so bad about a man wanting his name to be put on his wife? People need some kind of assurance that their partners are settling down with them. Heck, lots of women demand a ring on her finger to her husband, and no one bats an eye, but when it comes to surnames, y'all get offended? You have your opinion and he has his, neither one is correct nor wrong, but calling what he wants as "ridiculous" is where I think you're wrong. That's like saying to a rich kid that what he wants and gets for his birthday is ridiculous because you didn't get one and that it wasn't "normal" for you. I also don't get why you pointed out the "Powerful Mongolian" families, is that supposed to point out how ridiculous the culture is? I don't really think so? Because, well, if you were from a powerful family, you'd naturally call and state your affiliations when you're kidnapped to negotiate your terms in getting out. Furthermore, daughters coming from a powerful family all have something in common, they have dads that are more powerful than them, so isn't it more logical to state your most powerful asset in a kidnapping situation?

@truth5371

Жыл бұрын

​@@yumisaifu6198 i love how he explained how it was cultural and you used another culture to make it look weird and pedophilic

@Sekavuus

Жыл бұрын

THISSSSS literally youd need to be perfect to be accepted nowdays

Sometimes a person's name is very important to them and they don't feel like changing it. Which doesn't mean they don't love their partner

@Caerda

7 ай бұрын

Exactly

@Decadence13666

3 ай бұрын

I told my partner that if he wants me to hyphenate my name he needs to add something too. Don't care if he adds a new middle name to his current one. I don't want to have to be the olny one to have to go through all the paperwork.

@ladyaphrodite379

3 ай бұрын

​@@Decadence13666 that seems silly and petty overall. "If I must to something then you must do it too", also you're telling him to add a whole new other middle name just so he also has to go go through paperwork 💀 this is not normal and makes no sense.

@user-yj3ur6zg9s

3 ай бұрын

⁠@@Decadence13666you are acting like 5yo kid. Dont jump on the wagon and get married with that kind of mindset.

"It's a lot of work too" YES

I agree with him except the name part. If you're not taking your wife's name then why should she take yours?

@Dhh465

Жыл бұрын

I agree with u. Imo changing surname makes the wife be like someone’ property

@boringnoninterestingname65

Жыл бұрын

Well personally I’m taking both my wife’s last name and she’s taking mine (except mines first cuz it’s cooler) and I think that’s what he means

@GUYEDITINGS

Жыл бұрын

Man takes care of woman Woman takes last name

@evilprincess2686

Жыл бұрын

He said she can add after her current last name being i agreee👀

@transsnack

Жыл бұрын

​@@GUYEDITINGS except this isn't the middle ages. Women can take care of themselves.

Not wanting to change names is not a red flag.

@sum8982

Жыл бұрын

@@currentlysimping278 I suppose my previous comment was a bit rude sorry about that. If you ask me why I think that is, I guess it also has to do with my culture. People here are predominantly roman catholic and we have the highest respect towards the sanctity of marriage (it's not even legal to get divorced here). So yes albeit being "old-fashioned" we follow the rules of a traditional marriage. I also agree with the guy on the vid, you know what you're getting yourself into and yet you're against changing names, if you don't want to change last names why even consider getting married, you can continue just the way you've been.

@Bung22

Жыл бұрын

@@sum8982 you can be married and not change your last name. Would you change your last name for your wife? There’s no reason why either would NEED to change their last name and there isn’t anything wrong with not wanting to. I only have a problem with guys who would never take a woman’s last name but expect women to take the man’s with no complaints. Just why lmao

@Bung22

Жыл бұрын

@@sum8982 also no offense but it’s really dangerous to have divorce be illegal lol I hope that changes

@sum8982

Жыл бұрын

@@Bung22 The divorce issue is already being discussed in the court so I don't think you have anything to worry about

@vexaura7777

Жыл бұрын

It's a culture thing, I would only change my last name if I felt the guy respected my culture. I would also only change it if it "rang right" with my name, if you know what I mean.

Why are men so attached to their family name, but anyone else can't be? Gtfoh

@blackgirlwithaseptum5895

9 ай бұрын

Girl what..

@viharikrishnan5588

4 ай бұрын

women can have preference but if men have that's sexist get the f out of here

@gamerboiiiiiii

3 ай бұрын

Because its a tradition?

@NO1xANIMExFAN

3 ай бұрын

​@@gamerboiiiiiiiis slavery a southern US tradition?

@superfluous5162

3 ай бұрын

​@@NO1xANIMExFAN it looks weird . you know taking a husband's last name ensures monogamy .

For a lot of people, their last name is their identity and individuality; my name is a big part of who I am, and there’s a strong work ethic and power attached to the family name. This doesn’t mean you love your partner any less, it’s just something to discuss with them, or stay together unmarried if you must. Ultimately, marriage is just a contract and a way to drop more money on a ceremony and paperwork, when you can validate your love regardless by showing it-be together for years to come and treat each other as lifelong partners.

@Caerda

7 ай бұрын

It’s the same for me too, thanks for saying it! Loving your partner has nothing to do with changing your last name. If I change my last name for marriage, does that mean I don’t love my family enough because I don’t have the same last name anymore? No. ❤

I'm a Korean and we Korean women don't change their last name to the husband's. We keep the original sur names and children mostly follows their father's last name but parents can decide which last name they are going to name the kids. It was quiet mindblowing when I found out some countries culture its common for woman to change their last name to follow the husband's. Everyone have their own views, but because I grew up in Korean culture, his answer sounded weird to me (like...why? As long as she loves you and she is legally your wife, there should be no problem for her to keep the strings attached to her side of the family?) 😅😅 its a big world!

@tatjana7008

11 ай бұрын

​@@nishantmadhav9213do you suffer this much to hate half of planet 😂

@rafiaislam1755

11 ай бұрын

​​@@nishantmadhav9213o,your mother is a beggar too , right??

@ashiqali5770

11 ай бұрын

​@@nishantmadhav9213you seem like such a fun person 💀

@ashiqali5770

11 ай бұрын

​​@@nishantmadhav9213she was just expressing her opinion. Who said anything about equality?? Why are you comparing her to a beggar she was just talking about her culture and opinion. She never said anything about wanting that man.

@wateredbottle2529

10 ай бұрын

@@nishantmadhav9213nobody asked you bro 😭

Only thing I disagree with is the last names!! If a dude refuses to ever take a woman’s last name, but he expects women to take his last name with no complaints I think that’s a red flag because of the hypocrisy. This guy seems sweet though !

@RedditR33ls

Жыл бұрын

I mean he did say it can still exist so I have no problems

@lavieentoni7654

Жыл бұрын

Exactly or they can both change their names to a combo like me and my husband did

@allahbless2278

Жыл бұрын

Cringe

@lotus_dream

Жыл бұрын

​@@RedditR33ls no.. he said.. she can have a hyphenated last name.. WHICH IS STILL CHANGING! Do you know how much freaking WORK it is to change every single freaking legal document just bc u got married?? Nah!

@RedditR33ls

Жыл бұрын

@@lotus_dream it's not that deep.

"everyone that's in college is going to have student loan debt" *sweats in european*

@mirrored464

11 ай бұрын

Sweats in 60% tax

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

​@@mirrored464dude you pay more. And at least we see our taxes back.

I imagine he would change his mind on the last name thing once someone told him how much of a pain in the ass it is to change your name

I think he wanted her to change her name or add his to it was just because he hasn't thought about it that much before. He only saw it as not fully committing, he didn't think of any other reasons behind it. He seemed reasonable, I doubt he would really let that stop them 😂

@lonnisplace1459

10 ай бұрын

Yeah I think some of the people that are getting pressed on this are also hypocritical bc they seem focused on leaning towards the woman's side of things without really knowing him at all. They keep talking about tradition, but what if it's traditional to him for the woman to take his last name? Plus, he mentioned that she didn't exactly have to change hers, she could just add his to hers. To me, that makes it seem that, along with all of his other answers, he would be willing to take her name, too. People love to be pressed whenever a man wants something, it's kind of ridiculous, especially when we don't know the context of his reasoning.

@arya3193

9 ай бұрын

​@@lonnisplace1459people are pressed about it because it's a very sexist tradition that belongs to a time when women were owned by men, whether it be their father or husband. And he wants to continue the sexist tradition

@solange3172

9 ай бұрын

yeah I think that if he'd thought a bit more on the question or heard other arguments like those in the comments he probably wouldn't have gone for that answer. anyways he does seem like a reasonable man

@favlam1408

9 ай бұрын

@@lonnisplace1459 I was in a comm class in college, and our professor asked who would be willing to change their last name for their partner, most of the women raised their hand but no men did. Which is why it's normal to assume guys who say this tend to not change his last name either. PS: some women who raised their hand previously switched up real fast when they realized men won't do the same for them.

@birinsan7898

9 ай бұрын

@@favlam1408 pretty reasonable of the girls tbh

The last name thing is seriously outdated and sexist. Maybe you should take her last name. My wife kept her last name in honour of her family. I was delighted for her. Who am I to tell her what her name should be? It cost nobody anything for her to keep her name. Such superficial things are meaningless when you marry for the right reasons i.e. love alone.

@perseph0ne1608

Жыл бұрын

Funny how you say this but then bash my comment

@kittyycaat_

Жыл бұрын

Finally someone who understands.

@uncannytheos2454

Жыл бұрын

Tell that to jada pinkett ruining will smiths legacy

@Girlpuhleeasseee

Жыл бұрын

He did say "she can attach his last name to her current one" why you be gate keeping saying its sexist 😂

@carmenjongl

Жыл бұрын

I'd say just use whoever's last name is cooler

Unlike most other dudes I see on here doing random interviews, this guy seems to pretty much always come across people that are actually normal and grounded rather than the usual nonsense or craziness you see most everywhere else.

A REAL MEN right there, take note kids.

In my country, wives don’t carry their husband last name, only the children. There has been a rising trend in naming their kids with the wife last name as middle name, and I’m one of the kids :)) I think it’s lovely.

@ashm003

Жыл бұрын

Thats a cool trend. That way both parents are honored

@toxicclonejr8411

Жыл бұрын

Yeah i live in post Soviet country and even we don't have that kind of tradition, only children are given the fathers last name

@anakhanair_

Жыл бұрын

👏

@mr.peterpenguinp.2449

Жыл бұрын

Lemme guess, China?

@CC-ks2gp

Жыл бұрын

In my country, there’s this rising trend of children taking on their mothers’ surnames as it’s acknowledged that childbirth is 99% a woman’s work, they’re the ones that have to suffer from all the pain and complications and still have to work their asses off to provide for the family because men although fantasize about being the breadwinner most of the time just don’t make enough to cover for the entire family. America, as this advanced open minded free country it claims to be, always blows my mind

In the Philippines, the mother's last name is legally the child's middle name. It's the law. It's a fair treatment of the mother's legal name. That's why the children can still relate to other people that have the same middle name or last name.

@theunknown7441

Жыл бұрын

This, I don't know why the fck are they so triggered with it.

@Squeaks-42069

Жыл бұрын

Why is it fair treatment for it to get hidden in the middle when she does 99.99% of the work?

@gumiho6075

Жыл бұрын

That's really soo cool and progressive. In that way you can actually feel more related to your mom's side of cousins

@achuuuooooosuu

Жыл бұрын

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@Squeaks-42069 Wives can still hyphenate their maiden name with the husband's name. In other countries, women's surnames are removed in favor of the husband's. But in the Philippines, women's surnames are still kept but usually abbreviated to make things shorter.

@dogsarecute6493

Жыл бұрын

@@Squeaks-42069 huh? Bros tripping

Bet that guy would've change HIS last name

Everyone can feel differently, but I think using both last names is a fair compromise

People are freaking out about the last flag. Bruh, its an opinion, people are shaming him for having a different opinion, which is stupid. Some women want to take their husband's last name, others want to ‐ it, others don't want to change it at all or have them take their last name. It just depends on the relationship. Me personally, im not changing my last name as a man, but im not going to force my significant other to change theirs if they don't want to. This is the stupidest thing to get pressed about.

@user-rh5mx4qc2k

Жыл бұрын

Welp he would said nope to one who want to keep thier last name. Ppl can talk back to that. (If you want to treat him like saint than you do you. Dont talk shit to other.)

@BeastMode40-

Жыл бұрын

@ᄋᄋᄋᄆᄋ never treated him like a Saint. People are literally shaming him forcan opinion that, is different than there's when most people in the states agree with him

@Marcel-su5ud

11 ай бұрын

​@@user-rh5mx4qc2kmate noone treats him as a Saint lmao People hating on him for having an opinion they disagree with are just borderline fucking stupid

@loveluna9653

9 ай бұрын

The difference between you and him is that either the woman changes her last name for him or it's over because she's not dedicated. But he's dedicated since he's a man so he shouldn't have to change it to show his dedication. You yourself don't feel the need for the woman to change her name to show dedication and vise versa. His beliefs are hypocritical. Yours are not.

@BeastMode40-

9 ай бұрын

@@loveluna9653 If you love someone enough to marry then a last name is the least of someone worries.

In my culture the wife doesn't take the husband's surname. I personally wouldn't want to replace my surname because that practice is, as someone else in the comments said, extremely outdated and sexist. And it isn't even part of my culture. I'm not replacing my surname with my future husband's, nor am I going to hyphenate the two, nor do I want to make him take mine. We're getting married, if that's not enough of a confirmation of my love and loyalty to said person then idk what would be.

@clooudisky

Жыл бұрын

Mhm, yesyes exactly But yknow, it's fine if he dislikes it, not your life anyway :))

@sunsetmidmaddie

Жыл бұрын

Same!

@STARK50

Жыл бұрын

But keeping your father's last name is not sexist?

@koma7512

Жыл бұрын

​@@STARK50 ☠️☠️☠️☠️, how are you gonna ask that? It's stupid to even ask

@chickensandwich8828

Жыл бұрын

@@STARK50 in my culture you can take the last names of both your parents. for example my middle name is my moms last name and my last name is my dads last name. it’s not always just your dad, don’t be close-minded. Also where tf else would you get your full name from if not your own parents??

when he said about last name and ppl complaining about it "how dare you" you know these ppl in comment is not ready to get married.

This is the guy who will never walk up to you and ask out but is also the kind you'd say yes to.

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

Not if I want to keep my last name

As someone who was abused by her grandparents for being a girl I absolutely hate that women are expected to take their husbands name. Okay I don't want to delete a comment with almost 1000 likes. First, if you don't agree or think it is not your problem stop commenting bullshit under the comments. Second if you think that there is no connection then read the comment where i say that there is a connection and THEN make some valuable arguments why there isn't. It is as if I am arguing with little children. Also wants wrong with expressing opinion. It is not as if i am demanding anything.

@cammayburrell8117

Жыл бұрын

Seems like u prob

@lesibalto1016

Жыл бұрын

I have had a lot of problems in my life for being a boy, never have i rubbed it on women's expectations

@prakritiisubedi3064

Жыл бұрын

Yupp

@krish4134

Жыл бұрын

@@lesibalto1016yea same, they just want a reason to blame men for everything lmaoo

@deathrusel1742

Жыл бұрын

@@krish4134 who the ... Blamed men? My grandparents are male and female... 🤨

In my religion it’s actually encouraged for the woman to keep her last name and changing it after marriage is seen as a western thing because it’s more honourable to your father, and nice not to forget him. Once you have a daughter I’m sure you would appreciate it. I’m sure anyone mature enough would agree that a last name doesn’t dictate how close you are to your partner… Or I guess it’s a preference for those who get upset about it.

i’m surprised how good all these ppls answers are

you adopt my last name then 😂 i aint doing that

Wouldn’t say having student loans is a green flag, nor is it a red flag necessarily.

@JeruuiG

Жыл бұрын

Well, I'd consider it an opportunity. A man can offer his willingess to help his woman's "student debt." In turn becomes a joint courtship journey for them to solve their life problems together.

@yayayayahaikyuu4261

Жыл бұрын

@@JeruuiG that’s a really nice way to think of it

@Wassyl71

Жыл бұрын

​@@yayayayahaikyuu4261 How is it nice ?

@michellen5704

Жыл бұрын

I kinda just a thing a lot of people have

@LadyEmjay

9 ай бұрын

15k student loan debt is not bad, that’s way less than most car loans.

Lol the comments section getting triggered on the innocent dudes opinion about the family name is crazy💀

@arya3193

9 ай бұрын

Yeah because who knew a sexist tradition makes logical people triggered ☠️

@theAntiCauliflower

9 ай бұрын

Oh no, people have a different opinion! They must be tRigGErED!1 :O

@fentyvon5515

9 ай бұрын

🤯🤯🤯

@BeyondTrash-xe1vs

8 ай бұрын

​@@arya3193The tradition exists for family cohesion, having an entire family share one name. That's why he's willing to hyphenate their names together for the sake of sharing one. It's about cohesion and love, not dominance.

@arya3193

8 ай бұрын

@@BeyondTrash-xe1vs I can provide you links of research papers curated by world reknowned institutions which shows that changing of women's lastname after marriage is rooted I patriarchy. Women were considered men's property and therefore owned by their father before marriage and their husband after. The last name reflected the same. Also he's not willing to hyphenate, he only wants her to hyphenate. There's a difference. Otherwise there would be no problem at all if both of them wanted to hyphenate

In my culture the woman doesnt take the husband's last name after marriage, and that was a culture shock to me when i moved to America. I double checked this but don't come after me in the past it was thought that the woman would become one of the man's posessions as if she were an object. Now people dont know the reason, and just do it because it's always been there. No hate to anyone tho.

I see his view on the last name. I don't have a problem with my lady not taking my last name, but when she told me that completely out of blue, it got me thinking if she wasn't 100% committed to me. It wasn't a big deal tho, we're still happily together for 2+ years and looking into marriage next year.

When debt has become a green flag you know the system is f-ed up.

@slightly_insane_bean4261

Жыл бұрын

Almost no one who goes to college is coming out of it without debt. Unless you want you dating pool to be highschool graduates/dropouts you aren't going to be getting much action.

@miewiii0

Жыл бұрын

he only had the option of green or red flag

@clonnlijinhlong2713

Жыл бұрын

It's literally not. If she have student debt....it means she went to college....and presumably working off to pay it. And Luke he said...If she's finding a way to pay it back it's good because it mean she will be able to have an actual job and earn money

@ryanradcliffe9756

Жыл бұрын

If you listened to his answer you would know just having the debt isn't a green flag

@potato1084

Жыл бұрын

15k isn’t that bad? Also not all debt is bad. In the UK student debt doesn’t matter and most people never repay it in full. It doesn’t impact anything. Not all debt is bad mortgages are good.

If i ever get married i think either we could get eachothers last name, so we both had both, or no name changing

Ayo someone pass this king a crown ✨✨✨

@mariakhan7986

9 ай бұрын

He's a King for wanting to own a woman? 🙄

@caramel_crab

9 ай бұрын

@@mariakhan7986I don’t necessarily think that was his intention, he seems like a nice guy but uh go off ig

@angel_dude2.049

9 ай бұрын

@@mariakhan7986😐

@whateveriguess6211

9 ай бұрын

@@mariakhan7986he never even said that, keep up🙄

@nuarbed

9 ай бұрын

@@mariakhan7986bro what

He’s a chill dude. Changing Last name is a cultural preference. Don’t hate him. He cool.

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

No, thank you, I prefer to hate him

I don't wanna change my last name either, because that's my identity I have lived my whole life with, it feels weird to change it to something else.

@lotusrain4102

Жыл бұрын

​​@dev in my country, ppl don't even have last names. And we r doing just fine. Never understood why western cultures r so rigid abt last names. Why should a girl change her name just cuz she's getting married? Sound dumb.

@ravenanbu5708

Жыл бұрын

​@@yourdad-uj5rl and tradition dont make me lauph an american talking about traditionyour country is younger than my grandparents houses

@moderndaymasquerade7461

Жыл бұрын

@dev if you're American it very much does not. If you're European then maybe it has around 1000 years but certainly no more than 1500

@ilovefahrenheit100

Жыл бұрын

@@yourdad-uj5rlou’re joining each others families… It’s not like the woman ‘belongs’ to her husband’s family after marriage, which century are you from? Plenty of people are happily married without changing their surnames, my parents included.

@servus2252

Жыл бұрын

@dev Well good luck finding a wife. As a woman myself im gonna keep my last name. The only thing i agree on is a doublename combining both names for the both of us as a sign from my husband that we accept each other as part of a new family. But i guess traditional ppl are living behind the moon to face modern times. If youre american you shouldnt be too loud talking about tradition. You guys came from a melting point... mixed cultures but never having a real identity unlike asian or european countries lasting for over 1000 years. As i remember correctly those immigrantd coming to america werent only looking for freedom but also looking to live an too extreme lifestyle of religon which was forbidden in europe. And now look at that place socially a mess. Cant even afford basic needs like free education or free healthcare and screaming how "awesome" they are

I love seeing the cultural differences. I'm from a country in Europe and its completely normal not to take your partners surname. Actually its considered kinda old fashioned if you do.

@mrblackmamba117

Жыл бұрын

Surprising, since Europe has a strong and strict religious history

@traduni920

Жыл бұрын

Part of family destruction plan

@artemisa1523

Жыл бұрын

In Latin America is the same, it creeps me out the idea of women changing their names for some guy

@stormycloud4306

Жыл бұрын

​@@artemisa1523 what's the problem with changing last name when you are eventually going to carry his kid in your belly for nine months ? Having his kid doesn't creep you out but changing your last name does ?

@dushistaya

Жыл бұрын

​@@stormycloud4306 а почему он тогда не меняет? Она выносит ему 9 месяцев ребенка разрывая свою вагину, мог бы и не ломаться 🙄

At the very first question he proved he was the greenest flag of all

He's one heck of a guy 👏 Everyone else saying otherwise should probably reflect on their lifestyle.

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

No they shouldn't. I'm proud of this comment section

Lol, as a Colombian I can't really imagine changing my lastname after getting married, I could never xd. I find it really interesting that there are countries where people change their lastnames when getting married.

@earloflemongrab5559

Жыл бұрын

its Common in Most Countries

@jidel3898

Жыл бұрын

​​@@earloflemongrab5559t's actually not that common in the world, most countries don't change surnames especially in Africa, Europe and Asia. That's why we find it weird.

@yayayayahaikyuu4261

Жыл бұрын

@@earloflemongrab5559 its only common is some western countries and there not “most of the world”

@heer8247

Жыл бұрын

​@@jidel3898 uhh I am from asia and lemme tell you people make a great deal if someone does not change their surname here

@jidel3898

Жыл бұрын

@@heer8247 which country are you talking about? because Asia has 48 countries, and i said 'most' not 'all' i know some countries there have that tradition but i was talking about the majority.

Next question should have been "She has student debt and wants to be stay at home mom instead of finding a job to pay off the debt".

@anubizz3

Жыл бұрын

Stay at home and create onlyfans account. 😂

@user-my4lf4bx6v

9 ай бұрын

@@anubizz3 onlymoms

Only expect somebody to change their last name for you if you're okay with the other way around too.

@crowleymccloud2768

6 ай бұрын

Nope, its traditional for the woman to take the man's name. If she don't want to then he don't want her anyway😂

I loved the idea of changing my name because i never wanted my children to have a different name than me or their father. I wanted us to be a united family without question. My mom had 5 kids, with 3 different dads, and we all had random names. I didn't want that for my future children.

I really don’t understand changing the last name of a wife! We don’t do that here

@timioged9294

Жыл бұрын

Different culture/tradition thing

@anubizz3

Жыл бұрын

I don't understand married either, animals just breed without any title... And with multiple partners.

@cherilynsarts8845

Жыл бұрын

​@@anubizz3it's because we're not wild like animals... You need to ho back to school honestly.

@udavster

Жыл бұрын

@@anubizz3 sure, every other tradition is "for animals". Please go outside

@anubizz3

Жыл бұрын

@@udavster Did I say other tradition for animals?.... Or it's just in your mind? Op and might be you the one that cannot understand and look down upon other tradition that different than yours. Maybe you that need to go outside of your parent basement and visit other countries and cultures....

He better attach her last name to his too then ....lol ppl don't realize how much hassle it is.

@Punkini

Жыл бұрын

Its also cringe as shit and literally only exists to show who the woman belongs to. Gross

@mezec8346

Жыл бұрын

I mean, the guy never say that its not doing it, even say that he would be ok with just add it at the last, I dont think that its a big deal, its something that stays in the partner, but that's just an opinion.

Most sensible man I’ve seen on this channel

@Sentient-potato

Жыл бұрын

The last name? It’s literally just a name you wouldn’t even talk about often!

@Sinclairee

Жыл бұрын

@@Sentient-potato yeah

@manjuu344

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

As man I don't understand the last-name-changing tradition. Women (mom, grannies, moms of my grannies etc) in my family never changed surnames, but they were "100% in it"

He was doing so well until the last name part. If you’re not willing to change your last name for a woman, she shouldn’t be expected to do it for you.

@sparkleshimmor

Жыл бұрын

​@@8thaccount321It is honestly. If you don't want to disrespect your father then you shouldn't expect a woman to do so either. Why should she change it while you can keep yours? Better both add on each other's surnames.

@sparkleshimmor

Жыл бұрын

@@8thaccount321 That also depends on the situation. I would dislike it unless both the families are out for the dinner no matter the customs. However it would be understandable if I hadn't had a good relationship with my hypothetical daughter or my supposed son-in-law didn't have proper bonding with his family.

@sparkleshimmor

Жыл бұрын

@@8thaccount321 It isn't. A woman should not change her surname if she doesn't want to. Same for goes the man. If they really need it to be adjoined that they both should have each other's surname. If any of the both partners refuse so, then they should probably leave the relationship before it gets to marriage. No one is supposed to leave their culture behind for the purpose of being called someone else's. Neither of them own each other. It's a relationship based on love and both are their own people.

@hinam9684

Жыл бұрын

@8th account just because it is a custom, does it mean that it’s right? Wife burning was also a custom in India. With your logic, that should still happen too.

@AbhijeetKumar-cm3jh

Жыл бұрын

I mean, everybody has preferences

In my culture, the spouses tend to keep their own last names while the children double barrel their last name with the fatherslastname-motherslastname format

@itsyagurlalex9528

Жыл бұрын

Its equal 🌝

@mahroosh1077

Жыл бұрын

That's really interesting! If you don't mind, where are you from? I've never heard of it being done like this

@petergagan707

Жыл бұрын

Fatherlastname-motherlastname-grandfatherlastname-grandmotherlastname etc it'll just keep going lol

@noraetxeberria1520

Жыл бұрын

​@@petergagan707I'm from Spain and while all of our surnames (only fathers and mothers, and separated) aren't written in official documents, people tend to know a lot surnames. When we are kids sometimes we play a game to see who knows more lol

@noraetxeberria1520

Жыл бұрын

​@@mahroosh1077In Spain it's like that but we put a space instead of a -

bro looked so nervous the entire time

Almost all are green flags, until the 1st and 4th become a situation.

We don't need more people like him, we need to be like him.

@Punkini

Жыл бұрын

No we dont

@Absolut531kmh

Жыл бұрын

@@Punkini u don't, lot of us do

@sanviiii888_

Жыл бұрын

Whatever I’m not changing my name.

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

Bs

Why are people getting mad about His opinion...its not that serious...and why are yall bringing up life trauma and mixing it with the reason you dont want to change your last name ???

@akirafuckingnakamoto2446

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

People won't stand for sexism in any way or form and that brings me pride actually

@lisalisa-dk3gc

19 күн бұрын

​@@bgos4727 and there's also such a thing as going too far when you decide to be the arbiter of morality

Good man. Would rather be with a mother than a breadwinner but agree none the less.

In my culture, we usually don't have last names (surname/father's name), mine is like a meaningful random name, so I would definitely happily take my husband's surname.

Vietnamese women don't change their last name when they are married. Plus, I have so many accomplishments with my last name that I will not change it (publications, my diploma, etc.)

@mrnarason

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but the children keeps the father's last name

@ninjireal

Жыл бұрын

Ok, this is actually the best point I’ve heard for this, and you didn’t even intend it. Way back when, women didn’t really go to college, but now that they do, they have so many honors in their names, it’s a shame to change them. Huh…

@Squeaks-42069

Жыл бұрын

​@@mrnarason I wouldn't change my surname or use his for the children. When he delivers the baby he can put his name on them lol.

@mrnarason

Жыл бұрын

@@Squeaks-42069 have fun being a single mother then

@Squeaks-42069

Жыл бұрын

@@mrnarason Men are fragile like glass

My mom never changed her last name, but that's also because our last names are our “clan names.” Last names are very important to our culture, so I never thought of deciding to keep our last names when getting married was a red flag or weird. Edit: let me explain that my people’s last names ARE considered as “Clan Names” as there are 18 clans from my ethnicity/culture. (It’s even considered as Clans to Google) There are even taboos within each clans, for example one of them can’t eat any animal heart, another can’t eat Mango with Rice and etc. And there’s even a taboo that applies to all clans which is “You can’t marry a person with the same last name as you because it is considered like marrying your own brother/sister.” So it’s surprising to see people being really fucking disrespectful in the replies. So there you go, now you know why this clan/last name stuff is important to my culture.

@scoobytysonube

Жыл бұрын

Tell me you are American without telling me you are American! Irish and Scottish people normally don't give a toss about 'clan' names and would be laughed at if they even mentioned being part of a clan. Americans, on the other hand, love to feel that they are part of something they are not, even a country they may never have visited or a culture that no longer exists except in their imaginations.

@khamningwarmonsang4647

Жыл бұрын

Same here. My last name is my clan name and in my culture women don't change their last name after marriage.

@KP-ej7gc

Жыл бұрын

@@scoobytysonube think you have a point but you should understand that you are very lucky to still be connected to the country/culture/traditions/ (sometimes) language of your ancestors. Many (white) Americans feel a lack of sense of community & so look to their ancestry for some sort of feeling of connection. It’s not just because we want to live in a fantasy, there is a deeper need/longing there.

@perseph0ne1608

Жыл бұрын

@@scoobytysonube wtf, my culture is a ethnic culture that is currently dying. You saying that is very innsensetive as it is apart of our culture to keep our last names as last names determine who you marry and who you can't marry. It is one of the very few thing that keeps our traditions and identity alive. I usually don't get offended but tf? This is insensitive and dumb asf considering you assumed shit without knowing anything about me or my background.

@dune4433

Жыл бұрын

Man, yall taking Clash of Clans way to serious.

Honestly i get his reasonings behind the last name bit and was respectful ab it too. Just for me personally i want to keep my last name since quite literally none of my other family members are continuing the last name because there are so many females including myself in the family. Also my last name is quite rare, so i have a attachment to my last name 🤷‍♀️

He seems so wholesome and sweet , I dont agree with his logic on the name but he was incredibly polite.

He’s such a nice guy.

dude was so real for this

Well he can always change his name instead? Seams like he wouldn’t be 100% in 👀

I knew a guy who went to school with a Sharon Peters. I asked if she finally got the relief she probably desperately needed when she got married. He said she did get married, but her name is now Sharon Cox. This isn't a joke, but I wish it was.

Dudes down to earth

@benchoflemons398

Жыл бұрын

I guess that’s one way of saying you have no standards

@anomaly9156

Жыл бұрын

​@@benchoflemons398 Why do you keep insisting he doesn't when he so clearly does. Or are you the type of person who can't stand people having a different standard than your owns?

@Punkini

Жыл бұрын

Dudes 6 feet under lol. Outdated as shit

@theAntiCauliflower

9 ай бұрын

@@anomaly9156 Why do you keep insisting he does from 3 answers? Are you the type of person who can't stand people having different standards than your own?

I don’t understand the hang up about the last name. That custom smacks of ownership especially if she already has a career and is established. I’ve been married twice and if I contemplated it again, I would never change it again.

@tulip811

Жыл бұрын

Okay keep your dad's name

@kookiekommenter

Жыл бұрын

It's also a cultural bias to say she isn't 100% in it if she doesn't what to change her last name. For example in many Asian countries and others, it is customary for the wife to keep her last name. If you grow up with that custom, it feels especially weird to change your last name

@10zin9

Жыл бұрын

@@tulip811 what about people who have their own last names.

@bellabeckley949

Жыл бұрын

​@@kookiekommenter He isn't Korean though 😭 he's American, and in America some people change their names. Like its great and all your culture, but thats not how it works every where.

@kookiekommenter

Жыл бұрын

@@bellabeckley949I'm not sure why you jumped to saying "Korean" specifically, I said Asian countries, and there's also many European countries that do the same. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but it's definitely a bias that he probably hasn't examined, and it's not a big deal. But he lives in America which has always been a mixing pot of cultures, so it's something everyone should be aware of and understand, even while keeping their own preferences

He sounds like a good guy. My husband didn’t care too much about the name thing, but I did. I wrestled with it for months before deciding to hyphenate my last name. My dad was killed by a drunk driver five years before the wedding, and so much had been taken away because of that. I wasn’t ready go give up one more connection to my dad. So now my name is a memorial to him that I carry with me.

my mom didn’t change her last name because my parents are both doctors and she wanted to honor her father

Same for me. If he is not taking my last time it would feel like he's not 100% in it🙂

@serak.7100

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my thought!

@cohenkicker4996

Жыл бұрын

do you not know how marriage works?

@shierawesome

Жыл бұрын

@@cohenkicker4996 yup, and it goes how the people want it. It’s not necessary to be a woman taking the man’s name

@Overstab

Жыл бұрын

@@cohenkicker4996 Bro is talking as if there is only one way to marry

@samyloaiza98

Жыл бұрын

@@cohenkicker4996 you really think you did sth there 😂

ITT: ‘I’m not changing my last name.’

Hmm, technically in most asia we don’t change our last name in marriage, so… he’s still 4/4 green flags! (Opens a soda and sips)

My friend didn't want to change her last name but her now-husband said he wouldn't marry her if she didn't. And since then I'm just like if a man only wants to marry me to attach a property label to my name, he can go f*** himself big time ❤

@BeyondTrash-xe1vs

8 ай бұрын

Property label? Names are not property labels what a weird thing to say. People are human beings, not property dude.

@iamaeggmcmuffinboi839

6 ай бұрын

Oh boo fucking hoo😂

@phamdung3884

3 ай бұрын

⁠​⁠​⁠@@BeyondTrash-xe1vsthat sexist belief is the origin of that tradition, actually. As you can see, many people don’t like to perpetuate that by giving in to their sexist spouse’s weird beliefs. Even if you personally don’t see the big deal about it, or even if your spouse doesn’t have a “deep” reason for wanting to keep their last name, you should still show empathy and respect by… well, respecting their choices. Of course, this should be part of the basic empathy and respect you pay to everyone’s “big deals”, not just your spouse.

My mom didn’t take my dad’s last name, they’ve been married for 35 years. It’s going to be hard to break it to my dad that she isn’t totally “in it.” 😔

@cothinker680

Жыл бұрын

it's his preference don't cry

@viralgayguy

Жыл бұрын

@@cothinker680 Too late my parents are divorced now and I am crying sobbing wailing

@cothinker680

Жыл бұрын

@@viralgayguy good cry me a river

@Nocturnal_Assassin

Жыл бұрын

​@@viralgayguy so you proved his point🤣

@xxxfrostxxx_

Жыл бұрын

Hh.. do some of y'all not understand a joke? Something that is not serious?

This dude is a green flag. I know y’all are mad with the last name thing but his suggestion on adding on to it was considering.

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

Considering? That's what we call it now?

In Italy women don't change their last names. I was always curious as to why it's so important for Americans.

This is a genuine and mature guy for me. I’m from South Africa 🇿🇦 in AFRICA and I approve 🙌🏿🫡

My family’s surname has a long history of knights in it so I’d like to keep my surname because of it. 😂 I just think it’s cool.

the people who are upset about the surname thing. cool. you have your life and he has his. just cause you think it’s odd and wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean you’re in the right and he’s in the wrong. my gf is excited to change her last name to mine when we get married. if that’s not what you and your partner want, that’s fine. but so is a wife taking the last name of her husband. theirs nothing wrong with either.

@rinb6382

Жыл бұрын

It’s fair to criticize him for saying it’s a red flag for a woman to not want to take his last name just because he’s a man.

@sweetembrace6706

Жыл бұрын

the expectation of women changing their name isnt an opinion, its objectively misogynistic. congrats for being so happy women are conditioned to change everything about themselves for men.

@pirate-hunter-zoro

Жыл бұрын

​@@sweetembrace6706so according to u changing the surname leads to changing everything. ........?

@oliverantholz5937

Жыл бұрын

​@@sweetembrace6706 he offered to connect both names?? You do know that means both partners connect names together? You people are stupid!

@mayofarat7838

Жыл бұрын

I am happy about it 😁

I think the name changing differs a lot depending on your culture. I'm European, thus having your husband's last name is common... but when i got married to my asian husband, one of the first things he told me was that in his culture women don't do it, so it would be ok for me not to do it either :)

@mymewo4020

11 ай бұрын

Genuine question Which Asian you are married to I know for sure in my country and India The wife must take the husband's surname.

@eleece123

11 ай бұрын

@mymewo4020 My husband is from Hong Kong. Now, i don't know about Mainland China, but in HK it's very normal not to take the husband's surname :)

@mymewo4020

11 ай бұрын

@@eleece123 thank you for answering. I was too curious.

This man is a keeper

@bgos4727

3 ай бұрын

Why you lying

My sister married and divorced and then married again. Now she's on her 3rd last name. I'm not a fan of changing last names because it makes parents favor having boys over girls because of last names

I’d marry this man

@Punkini

Жыл бұрын

My condolences

@NessieLoveNessieLife

Жыл бұрын

​@@PunkiniDude shut up. This is there preference. If you talk about acceptance, freedom, etc your being a hypocritical nut head.

@ht8449

Жыл бұрын

​@@Punkini my condolences for whoever ends up with you.

@gfy304

Жыл бұрын

​@@Punkini sh, be quiet.

@Punkini

11 ай бұрын

@@ht8449 no u

He should change his last name if he is really in it.

Bro is the unappreciated dream guy 👍

I think he made the right call for the name question. He said that they could add it onto their name at the end so they don’t get rid of they’re original one. It makes total sense how not taking the name at all feels like they aren’t included as much.

@kurei746

Жыл бұрын

Plot twist: he wants to marry a hispanic woman

@gumiho6075

Жыл бұрын

Are men ready to take up women's names?

@andreasm.2777

Жыл бұрын

​@@gumiho6075 yeah ofcourse, thats nothing new around the world, but there are way to many woman on this world that marry someone just to get his money after divorce... and like he said "It doesn't feel like they are completly in it" and thats really understandable in this times, with this "scam youre man" culture many modern woman believe in. In the end of the day its just his preference and he is not even saying that he wouldn't take the last name of her 😅

@user-fz4yj8nt6b

10 ай бұрын

​@@gumiho6075there aren't women's names. Women carry their fathers name 😂😂

@jacksonhicks5069

7 ай бұрын

@@gumiho6075It’s the father’s name and I mean I wouldn’t have a huge problem with that it’s just that we don’t structure our society like they

It's a pain to change your last names on your every government document, IDs, insurances. So please understand dear future husband.😅

@hugopereira3589

Жыл бұрын

Nah

@tr4sh.doll_

Жыл бұрын

@@hugopereira3589 no really i swear it's very annoying to have to change every single documents or id

@hugopereira3589

Жыл бұрын

@@tr4sh.doll_ well I’m not gonna start an argument in KZread xD but it is what it is xD just my opinion :)

@marconeri5375

Жыл бұрын

As an Italian it’s weird to me that anglophone countries have the tradition to change the wife’s surname when getting married or vice versa, in Italy everyone keeps their surnames and that’s it😅😂

@Redjanuary17

Жыл бұрын

​@@hugopereira3589 it is uk i wasn't allowed a passport because my mom's name of birth certificate didn't match her govt ID 🙂

I like my last name, it connects me to my family and is a big part of who I am and don't think I could ever change it

thats his standard guys, stop bothering. if a girl love him and accept it and everyone's happy, then there's nothing to argue about