ya Allah give me sabr in these dark days. my little angel❤

@yamakbats

5 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@SamanthadelaCuesta

5 жыл бұрын

Ameen.

@tabasumtabasum3829

5 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@ajcollection2091

3 жыл бұрын

Aameen

There needs to be more Leaders and Scholars like @muftimenk. May Allah give him good health and a long life. We need speakers like him!

As always Mufti on point and so timely may Allah bless you in abundance ameen

This video totally helps those people who needs the real guidance about what to do next after divorce, including for the suffered child who don't really know who to blame on. Thank you Mufti 👍🏼 -from: The clueless and helpless child-

@jeelukhan1909

5 жыл бұрын

yaaa my dear child... bt as a women how long she can suffer frm her lonelyness ... where she kill her womenhood to save her motherhoood😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

"...these children are not just yours or your spouses' but in actual fact they belong to Allah" "...and Allah gave them to you to test you" -so important!

@cagatayocal7049

5 жыл бұрын

It doesn't belong not only Allah but the biological parents

@rayyana.8538

4 жыл бұрын

@@cagatayocal7049 they dont belong to the parents. You can't own your children like property. They are your responsibility until adulthood and you are their guardian.

@cagatayocal7049

4 жыл бұрын

@Imran 1 is allah real. I grown up conflicted with beliefs. Are we truly eternal after wards. Are we living a illusion. Are we real.

@cagatayocal7049

4 жыл бұрын

@Imran 1 I do not see wind. I see a material world.

@indiafirst8155

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

Sheikh plz talk about marriages more and more...issues like infidelity, lack of providing, lack of being intimate or overly intimate that it hinders ones capability to follow day to day routines. Plz address issues like these. JazakAllah e khair

@traveltheworld8374

4 жыл бұрын

@kalil AKA Benjamin Miles Perry perry what about infidelity?

@priusa8113

4 жыл бұрын

Yes please talk about husbands with low libido and not having any sexual skills. This is so frustrating:(

@apersonthatsnice6202

3 жыл бұрын

@kalil aka Benjamin Miles perry there are brothers that remind the wife its her duty to please him when he wants,,,,granted there are rules but men tend to use it in their favor and wives are treated like property. wives have right same rights but its over looked. its a serious matter. far more serious than a quick sentence on a thread

My friend was divorced. Her ex-husband allowed her to be homeless on the streets with the child. She had custody until the child was maybe 6 or thereabouts. Father apostates, mother devotes her life to the will of Allah. She gets married and the father finally takes interest in custody. The courts rule in the favour of the father, a drinking gambling wretch, over a pure sweet maternal mother. Everyone labeled her an extremist as she was niqabi and no one understands. Even the school discriminated. The courts, the schools, no one was interested in protecting that child from danger and when she tries to call him the father ignores the calls. So so sad!

@Ahmed35956

5 жыл бұрын

Help her. Get her a solicitor

@DragoMusivini

5 жыл бұрын

For the sake of Allah I would marry her because I know what it is like to be the child of a single mother.May Allah grant all single mothers,muslim and non muslim alike,ease,guidance and Jannatul Firdaus.

@makalinskis

5 жыл бұрын

So sad and dishonest situation.

@crystalw3464

5 жыл бұрын

Have her read Surah Qasas, this helped me with my situation, these all are tests from God. May she have patience and strength during this time....There is a dua (28:24) in that surah that asks for help and blessings from our Lord. God willing she is granted ease after her hardship....

@nadiakanwalahmed

5 жыл бұрын

My husband has not give any help for 2 years now. I left him 2 years ago because he would argue all the time we're he did it in front of the kids now my older children don't want to talk or see him. Even after being away from us for 2 years he's still the same what do I do ? I'm so confused please advise me

As a divorced women I will take this step in being mature and let my ex husband to see his kids involving my mother for the middle party !! And leave the rest to allah swt

@haliingado4241

5 жыл бұрын

This is me mashaallah may Allah guide you and increase your imaan

@angelwings5747

4 жыл бұрын

A year later update didn’t work

Excellent discussion but how many couples practice good behavior during a divorce ? It’s usually a power struggle

@snashh11

6 жыл бұрын

Diane Mughal That depends on the level of faith/imaan a person has.☺

This wisdom is absolutely priceless. Many Thanks!

May ALLAH swt protect us all from this major mishap (divorce) is our lives. And if it does happen, may it happen the way Mufti Menk explained..

@simsalabimsa6882

3 жыл бұрын

Amin

May Allah SWT reward you mufti for every good I do from the moment I start following your lectures and learning from them.Ameen

May Allah bless you mufti menk

In my present life I like some Islamic scholars and you are the one of them may Allah bless u and your family and all your friend

Excellent advice...and it should be dealt this way.

What happens if your husband is a narcissist and oversteps the boundaries set?

@sahrahmed

5 жыл бұрын

How did you work out with children and maintenance?

@traveltheworld8374

4 жыл бұрын

@Mansoor Haque People do convert brother. Also she is not spreading hate.

Mashallah jazakallah khairan. Everyone needs to hear this

I really really like Mufti Menk. I find myself agreeing with hiim on most issues because he has a very pragmatic thoughts and really speaks to us as humans with problems and good and bad intentions.

May Allah SWT reward you and your family, aameen.

People that are fortunate enough to have children together please don't forget that doing something bad to the other parent for whatever reason hurts the child. I was one of those children that got hurt. I sore and remember everything. I can also tell you when you as parents get in to your 60's & think to yourself what ever were we fighting about...you let go of it but that becomes someone's childhood. It wasn't around thank Allah when I was a child but PLEASE PLEASE don't post nasty things on social media about one another this will remain for ever! Your child will grow up to hate you and debate weather they want you to see there own children.

Jazakallah thank u after listen to ur lecture i send to him and he start to change he has take some responsible mashaallah Alhamdulillah

Mashaallah i really like to hear and see you very nice explaination allah bless u alwyz

Jazak Allah Khair Brother for uploading this very informative and very important video.

SubhanAllah ..May Allah grant you good health ..JazakAllah

Allah is hearer. جزاك الله خيراً

Everything you say is beautiful and I hope more people will fallow the rules of Islam when it comes to children maintaining InshaAllah

Asalam aleikum jazzakhala khyran sheikh this advice was very much needed for the new generation kid's. Very beautifully explained.

Masha Allah!!! May Allah the Almighty grant you goodness in the {Dunya} as well in the {Aakira} Ameeen.....My sheikh your family and the (Ummah) of Muhammad{s.a.w} Ameeeen...

Best advice..jazakallah khair

May Allah Gives you more rewards

Some men will disappear after divorce like my dad 😔

@saritarodriguez8253

4 жыл бұрын

kowthar cali not even after the divorce maybe even before u even were born or for no reason

@hasyidslifestyle141

3 жыл бұрын

Many of them... don't worry my brother... Allah is there..

‏سُبْحَانَ اللهِ Excellent Advises, Allaah accept and grant you more. ‏آمين يا رب العالمين

ماء شاء الله.very good advice. Thanks

@sabrisabri4825

4 жыл бұрын

بعددعمری انت کویتی ؟؟

Allahuma Aameen🙏may Allah reward you mufti a very good reward 🌷🌷

well said ..mashaallah ! may Allah swt bless you immensely ..ameen ya rab !!

SubhanAllah its excellent that mufti has provided so much details of the procedures after divorces. This should definitely discourage people from divorcing for silly reasons.

I love you Mufti...

This topic is very important for my ex husband and I. Thank you so much for that beautiful information. May Allah grant us all understanding.

JazakumuLLah khairan kaseeran to sheikh Mufti Menk , and the whole team for uploading this you tube .....it was a much needed guidelines and advice , especially points given in the Light of shariah and Ethical view too, and hope in near future more could be shared about points to help a mom in the upbringing of these kids esp. pre-teens and how to train them islamically while their biological father isn't very keen on it .Naturally kids meeting and spending time with either parent learn/adopt habits of either parents they spend time with .....please advice as soon as possible n best to upload on FB ..it's easy to save n share with others needing these advices.

divorce itself is a worst and disastrous thing, the ugliest thing ever. how can one keep on meeting with each other when the wife has been betrayed by the husband, and why shall she let the children meet her ex husband when he was least bothered about the children while he decided to divorce. when he never thought about the consequences the child and the spouse will have to bear & suffer because of his deed.

@qaiserhabib719

5 жыл бұрын

Why you assume that children belong to you only?

Very correct statements @Mufti Menk all of them are based on common logic if of course, a person is able to control his/her feelings.

Good speech sheikh

Awesome, always learn new things after watching ur videos 👍👍

Assalamoalaikom....masaAllah mufti...good topic.. sukran...InsaAllah... Ameen...Allah bless us all....

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 for your advices

Most of men run away responsibility and when we want divorce that’s even good reason for them to run away but they don’t realise how ridiculous they are and sadly the kids can see that

I wish I could send this to my divorced parents

I am divorced. My exhusband after still 10 years later still comes into my home to visit the kids. Both my sons are autistic, so will live with me after adulthood. So I have to deal with him so much longer than just twenty years. Divorce is not easy and you still need to compromise and play nice. Insha Allah I can still do this.

Anyone who hasn't put their egos aside and been to the ends of the earth to fix things are pure evil and selfish, innocent children should not be collateral damage!!!!

Poor fathers owes mothers the minimum. The scholars also take an opinion that the child with understanding decides by choosing which parent.

@Justme-vq8rx

5 жыл бұрын

But what is this age?

Very knowledgeable MashaAllah

my ex has done everything that you have said NOT TO DO!!!! I still cry myself to sleep every night over all this ,,,but I remain strong to my faith,,,,,even if it hurts me I am trying to lead by example,,,but years years I have lost with my children simply because I got out of a bad marriage,,,alhumdulilah

@seema.locker1

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah give your heart peace and happiness Aameen!

Assalamoalaikom...masaAllah..mufti .sukran..good topic.. Allah..guide us all.

Thank Mufti menk... I was searching for solution..

@millyapopo4457

6 жыл бұрын

An absent father😭😭😭😭

SALAAM Mufti Menk If Allah Swt in the Quran has said divorce is twice meaning you have 2 chances on taking your wife back how are some scholars saying there is evidence in the Quran that Allah Swt said if you say it 3 times you are divorced on the spot, isn't that the aim of shaitan to play and destroy houses, because i know for sure that Allah Swt is not mean, but very merciful to his creation

Asalamu aleikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuhu thank you for the Advice may Allah guide us inn shaa Allah

It's hard to speak kind of someone who cheated and neglected you and your kids. But I try. It seems no matter how much I suck it up, be kind, I get the punishment of my ex sins. He gets blessed and more blessed. It took ten years, but finally I am getting blessed too. It's hard. But selfishness and suck it up for peace does amazing things for the kids.

masha Allah

Jazakallah

Masha Allah . jazakallahu khairan

Subhaan ALLAH.

Astafuallah nowadays any little petty thing couples divorce. Nobody these days have tolerance. Lol I find it funny how many newlyweds spend 1000000 dollars on fancy weddings 👰 but within two years they are ready to split up. Humans can sometimes be worse than the shayateen WALLHI

@aminulhussain2751

4 жыл бұрын

The Baraka is lost when huge amounts of money is spent on the wedding. Mostly it's not the fault of the boy or the girl who is to get married, but the fault of the elders who pressure them on spending this much so that everything looks like a fairytale and guests don't get upset over the food but neglecting the main two people who are actually getting married.

Assalamoalaikom..sukran..mufti..Alhamdulillah... See you again..

great

Good speech. There is more divorce than there is marriage. A lot of people get married when they are not mentally ready or responsible for a marriage. Some get married as a convenience or for financial security but they will not admit that.

Very true wallahi

Good points any spouse who is mature would follow these points, my sons father complains doesn't see his son enough and when I allow him to see him bad mouths me to him says things like wants to kill me, my son tells me straight away yet he lies and we argue now I'm confused to what I can do I can't trust his father at all

@shamz1611

4 жыл бұрын

amz Star Please tell this information to a local understanding imam or sheikh. So they can knock some sense into men like this. You can seek professional help. Please don’t let this kind of abuse to happen to you. This is outright abuse! Contact local islam marriage council. And non islam marriage council too for legal support. Also read a dua that is against oppressive people. Read it everyday day and night. May Allah help you x

So many men need to hear this - so many of them think that in divorce they can take away the kids despite never having changed a nappy or fed their child when they were together

A beautiful word mashalla brother it's a sad thing when you have family in-laws that doesn't even want there son wife to be part of there family only if they had there way they keep are son and have me never be part of there family they think I'm not good enough for there family no matter how hard I tryed and gave help in food and when they were sick I gave from my heart to each of my family in-laws I believe Allah teachers us we are all the same we came into the world the same and we go back to the almighty please pray from my family in-laws there old and set in there ways 😍🌹🌷🧕❣️💕🥰🤩

Why are there so many irresponsible husbands? It all starts from home! Those who are lucky to have children, please work together with your spouse, prepare the children to be good husbands, fathers, wives, mothers according to quran and sunah

Subhan'Allah I agree. Inni lillahi Wa Inni laahi raj'oon. Life goes on until Allah subhana wata ila says otherwise! Insha'Allah we seek refuge in Allah subhana wata ila from saying or writing anything in appropriate or un Pleasing before Allah subhana wata ila😢.

@shamimakther2453

3 жыл бұрын

Sheikh my husband brainwashed my children and now im alone without the children i raised alone with such hardship..please do lots of videos on PARENTAL ALIENATION

@fahimabemberry9756

3 жыл бұрын

@@shamimakther2453 🍃Peace on those who follow the Guidance. My beloved sister, firstly by Allah the Exclusively Merciful All Forgiving i embrace you with compassion in this tremendous test/& sad matter🍃❤❤❤. 🍃Strive for the victorious results of matters only obtained by the rightly guided-only provided by the Owner of all that exist, Allah alone without partners🍃. Allah is how He describes Himself🍃. Acquired by the Way of His Messenger (s)🍃. 🍃Now by Allah the All Seeing All Wise you are now in my scope because i have seen or read your message❤❤❤. It touched me💐💐💐

@mufti sahab If a husband says talaq talaq talaq 3 times in anger or fighting with wife in this situation did divorce happens between them

Aamiin ya allah..forgive us for our sins of mighty lord..😭😭😭

Please during the divorce support your kids ! Never fucking blame them as the reason , it’s the parents matter not the kids ! Divorce is tough for everyone not just you

Which planet u come from? Your explanation very good. Thank

Asalamualaikum wrwbkt Jazakallah Khair

Mufti please advice for people who where one of family members is drug addict ,and we try to save that person in many ways for many years but nothing change.What we should do with our life in this situation?

@elena2208

5 жыл бұрын

If you've tried to help that person and it didn't work, then remember that it's not your fault. All you can do is try to help and pray for their betterment. In the end, the decision to change depends on that person and there's nothing you can do unless that person decides to change himself / herself.

Dear How can we reduce divorce rate, my suggestion is before marriage there should be a time gap and advice classes need both of them and they to be sharing thoughts in presence of a experienced person

The peace be upon you

@ivankalule114

6 жыл бұрын

You Just spoke to me Sheikh and i heed... May Allah Bless you so much

Thank u so much mey Allah reward u more i have ptoblem what if a father doesn't want to take his responsibility

@Ahmed35956

5 жыл бұрын

Get authorities involved.

@SM-qx5he

5 жыл бұрын

Canabay xbt only Nimanka Soomalidaan masuuliyada qaadan caalamka kale masuuliyada wayqatan xitaa ayagoo gaalo ah.

You are a blessing. ..and very calm. .🌹🌹🌹

@sabrisabri4825

4 жыл бұрын

are you kuwaiti??

@samsardar

4 жыл бұрын

@@sabrisabri4825 from Kuwait? ?

@sabrisabri4825

4 жыл бұрын

@@samsardar where are you from original

@sabrisabri4825

4 жыл бұрын

@@samsardar Im from iran and love me kuwaiti mrs

@samsardar

4 жыл бұрын

@@sabrisabri4825 Brazil. .I am a Reall Brasileira. ..

jazaakum ALLAHU khairaljazaa

salaam alwakium please share the stories of prophets in detail.

@zanamahmud7753

6 жыл бұрын

ماء شاء الله. Very good advise. Thanks

@ya-chandesu6340

6 жыл бұрын

Wa alaykum salam. Here is a playlist from a Ramadhan series about stories of the Prophets (may peace be upon them all). Ramadan 2011 - Stories of the Prophets - Mufti Menk : kzread.info/head/PL65076CAB3310C110 Hope that helps :)

Alhumdillah

We have to control our mouth and feelings!

And i have been waiting for things getting well in fact mutually understood with my ex-husband who is not ready to take things positively also he tried to take. My child away from me abused me my family harassed. My sisters in front of many people when asked for justice from elders they r forcing me to get back to that person, whom i have nothing in my heart when decided for a divorce my ex-husband does not wants to take any responsibility of the child well being. N my parents know coed. Me. Out as they also do not want to mingle in between theses issues until i decide to stay with him i m awaiting a positive aspect yet

Lot of good advice and council is available, in this case It would be better if mufti backs his advice with proper reference from hadis

Sheikh, I so value what you said. I am currently separated from my husband and during this time, he only calls when he needs money from me. He does not care to speak to our daughter or even acknowledge things like her birthday, which are meaningful to children. In March he asked me for money again and because I denied him, he swore he would never speak to me again if I don’t help him out. Since then, he has not called or reached out to his daughter or myself. He does not support his daughter either and I do not speak ill of her father but he needs to step up and be there for her irrespective of our differences. I don’t know how to open his eyes to this. Your advice would be appreciated.

My marriage broke up before my child is born. My husband was liar and did not care about me neither about the child. I asked for vitamines to support pregnancy, healthy food and hospital fee he neglected it to me. I do not want to put my child anywhere close to him. He did not give me mahr or any support. I cannot imagine how my child will meet someone who said when you lose this child after you go out from here that is not my problem.

Mufti sahab ,, problem is ...my husband want to give me divorce just b.coz his first wife forcing him to leave me .....I want to ask ...what islam n shariat says about divorce by force ....plz do let me know soon ....I'm in trouble...

Am a new muslim... and Like Islam because of the logic and level of practicality present in this. But somewhere I get confused... That in many aspects males have more powers than women.. In terms of divorce the male can give to the wife but the wife cannot.? And the system of halala? If the question arises in others mind also please like and if someone can explain the solution please comment..

What if the husband doesn't take care of the child after their divorce. Like, he never phone calls., he never asks his child. He never suggests for a school for his child., what should the mother do in this situation.. When she is happy with her new spouse.?

Brother mufti Menk please can I seek guidance for my situation separately

Sheikh regarding the divorce procedure - is talaq and waiting the iddat period enough, or do we need some kind of paperwork? Jzakallah Khair

@mustaryrahman6932

5 жыл бұрын

Yes... It's enough to wait for iddat.

Im staying with my kids with my parents now my husband wants only by 2son's so i don't want to send and even my son's don't want to go now want can b done inshallah

What if the father is not pursuing on contacting his kids?

Mga anak ko ang priority yesterday anything i do how to protect them all because only my daughters my son's i have been on ten,s ome your protection mga anak ko

a woman divorced 2 times then got married to another man then divorced again if the first husband divorced her will it be added to the two first divorce or not

What if the mother is the earning party and she pays the husband some money monthly..how can the husband stake a claim on the child who is not even able to provide for the wife and child

When I'm small, I was thinking why my parents get separation. Then when I'm be a mother 2 children with pregnant, I decided to divorce. Which I think maybe this is the right way for me and kids. After all happened. I think why i growing without father in my side even why my kids must feel same like what i feel.

@isxaaqibnabdulaziiz4219

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah guide you through these difficult times.