In behavioral psychology, we have the term Psychosocial Moratorium. The simplified meaning is to give up on the commitment one has to their identity in order to search for a new identity. It's a skill that we have to learn, many people never do. Trollope gives such a beautiful recounting of his experience of that suspension and search.

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

it seems like a hard thing to learn…thank you for sharing! :)

@jasonb111222

3 күн бұрын

is there a specific book for this?

@Zoe-ym3kz

3 күн бұрын

@jasonb111222 I learned about it by reading Erik Erikson's "Identity: Youth and Crisis." I don't know any modern authors who have written about the concept.

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them.” H.D. Thoreau That’s bars. I did not expect to learn that today, but I totally did. If you got a pie in the sky dream, it doesn’t have to float away and die. This summer I’m going to build a staircase to a castle in the sky - God willing I’m going deeper on jazz guitar. Thanks Tim!!

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thanks brother! :) let me hear that jazz guitar!

I have watched all of your videos on reasons to read around 3 times. I dont know what it is, i really cant pin point it but the way you talk about reading and books and everything about it is just so fascinating to me. really, you are probably one of the main reasons I picked up the bell jar again after a 2 week break of no reading. so thank you, really, for giving me my love of reading back

@timdemoss

19 күн бұрын

wow. thank you so much for letting me know. I’m so glad you’re enjoying reading again!! thank you for the encouragement!!

The idea of a passage changing your life is something you can't describe to a non reader, and every reader has their own set of 'foundational passages' so to say. Pieces of wisdom that you just keep to yourself

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

true true - some things stick differently with different people!

hope you keep going with your channel. it's original and amazing

@_manule

24 күн бұрын

I agree. Ran into it this past week and really enjoyed this series. Looking forward to more content

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

well thank you so much! I plan to keep it up :) trying to stay consistent. I appreciate the encouragement!

I love the chill and down to earth vibes yoir videos have, I really enjoy your way of thinking as well

@timdemoss

18 күн бұрын

thanks so much! :) I appreciate the encouragement!

Bro... just binged your reasons to read series and i've finally started reading again and am loving it. Thank you!

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

hey I’m so happy to hear it! :) thank you for letting me know!

I just finished Travels with Charlie in Search of America by John Steinbeck. From that book I learned a very comforting fact: all people harbor a deep desire to travel and adventure. He talks about how when he was young he wanted to travel and get away and people told him that fire would dissolve as he grew up, but he makes clear it did not. Me, being in my early 20’s, was extremely happy to hear this. That book is so deeply relatable to me and I’m so happy my lust for adventure was confirmed. I’ll end with a quote I quite liked. “I was born lost and I have no pleasure in being found…”. Also I after reading it I am genuinely sorry to my dad who told me to read Steinbeck for years and I put it off until now, but I really do think I read this book at the perfect time in my life haha.

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

wow I’m going to put this on the to be read list. I have read a few things by Steinbeck but not this one, but this description makes me want to try. thanks for watching & for sharing!

Thank for sharing! I’ve been annotating a collection of poems I bought to make it feel more accessible to me, and it has felt like discovery. By the end, I have a formed interpretation/takeaway. I really recommend annotating to anyone that feels intimidated by the work they’re picking up.

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

I’ve recently come to love annotating and use it all the time - it does help a lot with retention & enjoyment!

I felt this way with vagabond. Picked up for cool samurai and left with a deeper and more complex understanding of purpose and strength

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

isn’t that just how it goes: came for samurai, got something profound. wonderful to hear :)

I found this series today and you've inspired me to get back into reading. I went out and bought Catcher in the Rye, as I feel like it got a bad rep from being a required highschool reading, and plan to start today. Thanks :)

I’m reading a book called Silver Nitrate by Silvia Moreno-Garcia and I learned that the metal tip on bottom of a cane is called a ferrule. This author also mentions a lot of occult books that have existed, people in history that have existed etc. The author is incredibly specific and intersperses a lot of historical and cultural facts in her books. Also, there is a little Espanol in the book too. So I have been looking a lot of the words up to pick up more Spanish vocab. Don’t know how much will stick, but still it helps make the story even more complete.

@timdemoss

10 күн бұрын

what a fun hodgepodge of ideas and facts in a single book! :)

The brothers karamazov is a book I love and learned a lot from. It really taught me to become more forgiving and take ownership of my actions

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

this has been recommended to me and I’m very interested - now I’m even more interested. Thanks for watching!

@juanse12k

24 күн бұрын

@@timdemoss please read it! the brothers karamazov also changed my life. ive read it twice. such a great book!

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

@@juanse12k it will be done. (If I remember I will come back here and let you know when. give me a little time I've got a list)

damn, great video man. looks like i gotta read more thoreau hahaha. it's a great passage you picked, and i think it applies to things other than just regular life changes. a lot of the time i feel silly jumping from interest to interest, but it's a cool perspective, sometimes you get what you need from an interest, feel fulfilled by it, and move. i also think that this is super applicable to fiction. we both just finished east of eden, and that one seems like an obvious example of learning an approach to life without setting out to look for it. i just wanted to read a great story about a family's history, but left learning a whole new way to experience day to day questions lol. great vid as always haha

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

great point about it applying to hobbies and interests - maybe I’ve got many interests to pursue and I can’t spare any more time for ______. love it. and yes east of Eden - I had no idea really what I was expecting but I ended up with a lot of questions and answers about the nature of good and evil and choice … it was amazing. thanks so much for helping me get into it!!

That's one beautiful passage i must say.

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

they’re so good aren’t they??

Thanks for making these videos Tim. I read The Little Prince last night after watching one of your videos. I plan to keep up with my reading and dreaming more. I excitedly look forward to more of your stuff :)

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

thanks so much! and the little prince is just so good. Love it so much. :)

First of all, thanks for your videos, I'm loving your style as it's not your typical indfluencer style. I have started reading classics which are free on kindle, as English wasn't my main language growing up; I wasn't aware of English literature until I got much older. And while reading Frankenstein, I came across a few words which seems to have disappeared from vocabulary! So I ended up learning a few new words and I haven't even finished the whole book yet. On another note more related to that Walden paragraph at the end, I grew up watching all the sports under the earth and was playing one competitively as well. Then around when I was 31 I got into photography and art world and stopped following sports cold turkey (to surprise of my friends, which I made during playing the sport). And down the line if I move on from photography as well, I think I should be fine.

@timdemoss

8 күн бұрын

thanks so much :) glad you enjoyed it! and love that real-world application of the Walden quote. thats such a great example of doing things well and being present but not identifying those things as your entire life or your entire worth. Thanks for watching!

thank you for making consistently great and inpsiring videos

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

☺️ thanks for watching!!

in love with this series, astounding work!

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

thank you so much for watching & for the encouragement!

Finally finished watching all of your video in an hour + including taking inspiration and notes from videos. I thought i was the only who thinks of this "certain thoughts" but after hearing you speak so confidently, my confidence have boosted up too. Thank you so much for these precious videos. I hope you will continue creating videos like this. Love from Nepal 🇳🇵❤

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

wow - I’m honored you enjoy them & I’m also so glad they’re helpful! Love from the USA

“Now put the foundations under them”…. *Mind Blown* sounds like I found my next read. Keep at it Tim. This one hit home. Really blows my mind that even as I look around my world and feel so much like an outlier, someone born 200+ years ago wrote something that feels like he’s speaking directly to me. Super inspirational.

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

isn’t it wild how little really changes? I’m so glad I read that far into the book… I wasn’t expecting to find that but I did. Also it’s a terrific read with gems like that, but also be aware there are plenty of pages just about beans and squirrels - took me a little while to eventually get through all of it. :)

Such a lovely channel. This video was a joy as per usual. Thanks for another reason to read!

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thanks so much for watching!! :)

Thanks for your peace of mind

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thanks for watching :) I’m glad to share & glad it’s helpful!!

so im almost done reading war and peace and i had an idea for a while that free will doesnt really exist as we think of it. After reading War and Peace this book really cemented into my brain that free will does not exist.

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

well. now I have to read it. this is one of THE questions of life, isn't it?

You never fail to deliver. You inspire me. I like you Tim. Also, great job with your views. I was sure you'd go viral, and it seems like I was right, the algorithm likes the videos you are putting out

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thanks so much for the encouragement and for the faith in me! the process is all I can control - the views will come or not, it’s OK. But it has been fun for sure when KZread seems to like a vid!

love this!

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

thank you!

Thank u❤

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

thank you!

These videos are great! I love them :)

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thanks so much for watching & for the encouragement!

You deserve more subscribers. Great video!

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

thank you! numbers are just numbers - they’re awesome to have, but I’m mostly just glad when people like you watch and enjoy and let me know. thanks so much for watching!

This was amazing.

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

thank you! I thoroughly enjoyed making it :)

ure so cool i love this series

@timdemoss

Күн бұрын

thanks so much for watching! glad you’re enjoying!

I was like, omg is that a Daft Punk reference??

@timdemoss

24 күн бұрын

ha actually total accident! :) But thanks for pointing it out! (And for accidentally teaching me something!)

Amazing video! Wondering if you have a GoodReads account to follow

@timdemoss

20 күн бұрын

thank you! I use it to track certain things but I’m not active or public on it - but maybe that will change someday!