thanks for sharing your story. a lot of similarities between ours. welcome to the path of finding yourself, it’s a wonderful journey. :)

@twinkletoes6290

4 жыл бұрын

Awwww, this is wonderful to see you on this video, Elle!! This warms my heart seeing you here ready to embrace and support!! I knew she was talking about your videos right away when she was describing them! I’m so glad you’ve both made your videos and continue to make videos educating ppl and being so very open and brave!! I’m not trans, but I watch these videos to try to educate and inform myself, to just listen to everyone’s stories and be supportive. The videos you two, and many more, make are desperately needed and are probably really helping so many ppl, pls don’t stop!! It would be really cool if you two could collab, as well as other detransition creators!! Stay strong & keep your chin up!! ❤️❤️

@DocBree13

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to see the two of you have “met,” now :) A week before this post I suggested on this section that Elle might be who Ryan was trying to think of in this video. I hope you’re both doing well ❤️

@emqueen418

4 жыл бұрын

I remember watching your detransitioning video, it's honestly beautiful to see two individuals finding they aren't so alone in the world with a struggle.

@ngoodman5340

4 жыл бұрын

COLLAB

@murfymurf

4 жыл бұрын

❤ Elle

This is why therapy before hormones is so insanely important.

@mightybasedzao3057

4 жыл бұрын

I swear and most transgenders have un resolved trauma they dealing with

@CH-ls7ye

4 жыл бұрын

@@mightybasedzao3057 Though I feel like your tone is a bit hostile, you're not wrong 😂 .. Most societies have always been insanely transphobic and unkind to people who deviate from gender norms, as a result it's almost certain that every trans person grew up with a sense that they are unacceptable in some fundamental ways and that internalised transphobia can be so deeply rooted that we'd mistaken it for our own inner critic. I'm a trans guy and growing up in asia with very strongly defined gender expectations and parents who are traditional in this regard, deeply messed me up hahaah. I transitioned at 21 three years ago after pretty catastrophic fights with my parents when I came out to them at 19. I always had very realistic expectations for transitioning, I guess. Which was why although I was desperate to get T I also wasn't... necessarily happy. Because I know it wasn't going to solve my problems, it will just make leaving the house more bearable. I think my relatively trauma-less life amplified the internally inflicted trauma as a result of the misogyny, cis/heteronormativity, transphobia due to the social environment i grew up in plus a common case of childhood emotional neglect. I really only recently started to pin point why I've always felt so... lonely growing up, and still feel lonely and incapable of dating even though I have a lot of friends and is not necessarily emotionally or socially inept. I think it makes sense now, because it is quite profoundly lonely to feel like you're the only person in the world you know that feels the way you do about your sex and gender. I believe that's a feeling most trans people can identify with in some way, not to mention that a lot of us have also had to deal with bullying or abuse. So yea... I guess my point is.. I think a lot of trans people have a hard time being able to process or deal with trauma growing up because of the sense of isolation and not feeling seen or understood as a person. Whatever shit that happens in their life they will have to deal with it while carrying this additional baggage constantly.

@miogs4825

4 жыл бұрын

You are a very beautiful woman. With all the respect you deserve I think you should do some therapy, it will help you so mucho.

@filminginportland1654

4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I was going to say. Lots of red flags here. A competent gender therapist is imperative. A lot of people complain about the “gatekeepers,” but they serve a critical role that’s being minimized too much these days. The WPATH standards are critical to follow to help prevent people who aren’t trans from transitioning. It never ends well. Transition won’t solve anything other than help relieve gender dysphoria and help align your body & mind better. So if you don’t see yourself as the opposite biological sex and don’t have gender dysphoria, you shouldn’t be transitioning. It’s not some kind of magic bullet. When any of us older transsexuals say any of this, though, we get attacked as siscum transmedicalists. I can’t tell you how many death threats I’ve had just from saying how there’s a process that needs to be followed, or for calling out red flags. But way too many people _who aren’t trans_ are transitioning these days, and it’s really dangerous. It shouldn’t be easy. For an actual transsexual, it can be life saving - it saved my life. But it requires an immense amount of self work. Being trans isn’t a choice, you either are or you aren’t. Most aren’t, and that’s a good thing. I wished all my life, prior to transition, that I didn’t have to deal with this. None of us wanted this. If someone feels they have a choice or are doing this as a fashion or political statement, they should stop immediately. *People should NOT transition unless it’s their only choice.*

@filminginportland1654

4 жыл бұрын

MightyBasedZao For actual, real transsexuals, there’s no higher incidence of trauma unless they faced lack of acceptance from family, friends or themselves, from a religion, or from going through mental gymnastics trying to deny their gender dysphoria. What I see most these days are people who aren’t even trans who are dealing with trauma and mental / emotional issues who _think_ they’re trans and think it will somehow fix their problems. It won’t, it will only further confuse things. I never had any abuse or trauma myself aside from the spiritual trauma of being told how horrible LGBT people were growing up, and hearing how horrifically society spoke about trans people and knowing I had these issues. This was during the 80s and 90s when we really were treated poorly. Trans people weren’t really discussed at all unless it was as part of a joke. Things really became problematic once the social justice woke crowd adopted trans issues and started taking that whole thing over. Things were, in many ways, better when it wasn’t discussed so widely everywhere. Bring trans isn’t “cool,” trans people aren’t “brave.” We’re just people doing what we need to in order to survive. They’ve done us no favors by doing what they’ve done. The worst are the über woke “allies” who think they’re helping trans people.

I was always complaining as a kid that I wanted to be a boy. The only reason I said that, was because the boys were allowed to climb trees and had the best toys. Later I suffered from mental illness after experiencing sexual abuse and talked to a doctor about transitioning and having all my sexual organs removed. The reason why I wanted to do this, was because I feared men (because of the abuse) and I feared having men be attracted to me. I'm glad I didn't transition, because now, after 37 years of trying to overcome my problems, I am extremely happy to be married to an amazing man that I do not fear in the least, and look forward to having my own children. I dread the thought of what I could have done to myself.

@janeholt9298

3 жыл бұрын

I have a very similar story 💖

@margareto1600

3 жыл бұрын

🤗🙏

@nosajsamaniego4512

3 жыл бұрын

@SillyChickens222

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. So happy things got better for you 💕

@reversepolarity8981

3 жыл бұрын

Not all trans people share your reasons. I was 2 years old and knew something was wrong before I even understood what gender was. I've suffered with gender dysphoria all my life. I didn't want to be a boy scout or wear boys clothes or play with toys traditionally assigned to males because they were better. Still, transitioning would have been wrong for me, but NOT because my gender isn't male. You can't call transitioning a mistake for everyone, just because it doesn't work out or isn't the right path for some of us.

It’s so interesting you mention that about the voice in your head still being a female voice. I’m a trans man and have been transitioned ~ 9 years. Still happily trans but I totally respect people in your position. I just wanted to mention I had the same thing happen the first few years of transition where I was thinking with a female voice even after mine dropped. The difference for me was that I was dysphoric about the voice in my own head 😭 eventually that changed but it took a long time. I don’t think the symptom you were having was abnormal, probably under-talked about for sure and it sucks you couldn’t find info online. But the fact that you still had a female voice in your head and DIDNT feel dysphoric about that may have been a sign. Thank you for sharing your story! And I’m glad you found what you needed within yourself 😊

@breadparkin9903

Жыл бұрын

Such a good comment.

@j0nnyism

Жыл бұрын

Yea a lot of people who migrate when they’re a child think in one language which they never use in real life. It’s strange

@niji.sateenkaari8835

10 ай бұрын

the voice in your head has a gender??? o:

I feel like so many young people will hear about gender transition, and beleive that it’ll solve all of their problems, but then once they transition they realise that they aren’t any happier than they where before.

@coralovesnature

3 жыл бұрын

That's why people are supposed to have counseling/ therapy with qualified medical professionals before they begin physical/ hormonal transition. I'm actually not sure how she was able to get hormones without that because for every trans person who I've ever heard their story they all had to go through counseling/ therapy before they could go on hormone replacement therapy (hrt). I'm by no means a qualified medical professional, but from everything she was saying about her story, it iswas very obvious to me as a lay person that she was not a good candidate for hrt, so any legit medical practioner should have easily seen that too. Also, there are many things in life which people (especially young people) might think will solve all of their problems. Alcohol and drugs come to mind as make-shift solutions that people often try out as a "quick fix".

@ScarsUnseen24

2 жыл бұрын

There's gatekeeping for a good reason. I'm fully transitioned and never going back. I began my transition 17 years ago. I'd hate for someone to transition when it's inappropriate.

@lucag.lisickza425

2 жыл бұрын

@@coralovesnature this is happening only in the US, where money is more important than health. here in italy for example since we have universal health system(but Really high taxes),the whole transition including surgeries and plastic surgeries are for free, but the candidate are heavily scrutinized via counseling and therapy. i heard here on youtube about a girl who received hormons after a phone call.. i cannot believe that the whole opioid epidemic which is totally fault of the doctors and the purdue has not teach any lessons to your health professionals. those doctors are scum of the earth

@lucag.lisickza425

2 жыл бұрын

@@ANT96-x8d i think so

@ScarsUnseen24

2 жыл бұрын

@@ANT96-x8d absolutely wrong.

When you're young you worry about what people think of you. When you get a little older, you stop caring what they think of you. When you get even older you realize they weren't thinking about you in the first place.

@ReggieTime

3 жыл бұрын

exactly, plus we dont finish developing until 25 yrs of age

@ReggieTime

3 жыл бұрын

Ive heard that our brains need until the age of 25, to be fully developed physically & emotionally, so that socially we're ready. OFF topic: This is why the military recruiters go ham on people that are 17-18 yrs old. Realistically most 21-25 yr olds would refuse to join the military. Their demographic is an 18 yr old who still has a strong sense of right & wrong, that still thinks in black & white, or good & bad. Most 18 yr olds havent quite experienced much of the adult decision making skills, where there exists THREE or more decision options to ANY plan or PROBLEM. For example, l can think of at least FOUR different solutions to ANY problem or choice. a Good choice a Better choice the Best choice and/or NO choice

@ReggieTime

3 жыл бұрын

LoL networkgeek....its great learning that they really WEREN'T thinking of (you) us....

@declaracionespolemicas

3 жыл бұрын

I had to learn earlier than most to stop giving a fuck about what people thought of me. I always was socially awkward and didn't feel like I fit in with other people, I struggled a lot with making friends as a child. I was friendless at school, I had selective mutism so I felt anxiety and couldn't even speak, which lead me to being called names or being accused of "faking it", and when I wanted to try to overcome my fear of speaking to my classmates, I was concerned about the reactions I would get for defying the expectations they had on me. I did my best effort, and by the time I reached 4th grade I took the courage to finally speak to a new classmate and was integrated to a friend group, but that didn't diminish my insecurities and I spent a good portion of my childhood overthinking the things I should say or obsessing about past interactions and being highly critical of myself. When I was about 13 years old, I transfered into another school, and I made the resolution to stop caring about what other people think, because it's unhealthy and I only hurt myself. It was the right thing to do, I became more self-assured and allowed myself to be more spontaneus in conversations instead of over-analysing every little thing, which helped me make friendships with other people easier. Today I see many young people constantly seeking for validation, and thinking the only way to be happy in by being "validated" by strangers. You hear it all the time on social media, the "you're valid" thing, "this is valid, that is valid"... NO ONE holds the power to tell someone else whether you're "valid" or not. I wish children and teens could learn to love themselves in a healthy way, without seeking validation or attention from others, but unfortunatly social media creates a constant need for the latter.

@keloid123

3 жыл бұрын

@@ReggieTime which one would you pick?

As a psych nurse and a member of the healthcare community, I think it’s an absolute travesty that therapy and psych evaluations are not the first line of recommendations by MDs. I hate that mental health is still so stigmatized. It is also monstrous that some MDs and plastic surgeons make a lot of money off of these individuals without any regard for their physical or mental health. We have to do better.

@Kellykittymom

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@WindyDays2009

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulas2218 Everyone else says it's a lot harder than that to get hormones, so she must have been a crack in the system. Other people go through counseling first, so maybe it's the place she went to that was bad.

@curzoncax4273

3 жыл бұрын

There’s so much $$$$ to make from vulnerable people!

@YesBruv105

3 жыл бұрын

@@WindyDays2009 The person who went to court recently in the UK was said to have only had 3 one hour therapy sessions before being given hormone treatment. This was UK private care. There has also been a case in US where a clinic was closed down by trans activists because the doctor insisted in proper diagnosis instead 'believe trans'. It 's like these activists are asking for enabling of self diagnosis over actual diagnosis and proper safe guarding, and the market is buckling under that push.

@hsmomofmany9022

3 жыл бұрын

They are making counseling brfore transitioning illegal. Calling it conversion therapy if the counselor dares to suggest there might be something else that could help.

I am not a transgendered person but I have two people that I know that are trans. One in MTF and the other is FTM. I will admit to a lack of understanding on why someone would want to transition and I looked up de-transitioning on KZread to see if that would help me to see someone who had gone full circle, and found your video. You did a great job of explaining your situation and thank you for sharing. It could not have been and easy decision for you to start your transition and it must have been just as difficult to de-transition. As a straight male I wish that people could have conversations as apposed to arguments about such sensitive issue's. You were very eloquent in presenting what you were felling, and for me, hearing your journey has given me new insight on the topic. Thank you for your video and I wish you all the best of luck in the future.

As a 16yo who’s aromantic and struggling with their gender this was super good to watch because I definitely have issues that I need to sort out before I even start thinking to transition. This was informative and definitely let me know I should be very careful when it comes to my gender

@konterrevolutionbeginnt1457

2 жыл бұрын

People have screwed with your mind, and now they have made you believe, that it's an identity issue on your part... don't let a criminal doctor mutilate and sterilize you.

@Arikuit

2 жыл бұрын

Yes agreed. I was different in the sense I've always known I'm trapped in the wrong gender. I've got the right body, heck I'm practically intersex, I've got functioning bits a penis is not supposed to have or even function as lol. So if I could maybe help you, I knew since 5. I literally blacked out because I realised I was not the correct gender and that stress and feeling of fear has remained ever since until this year that I've finally begun to look like myself now. So, please consider that what ever you are going thru, it's likely not your gender. Gender dysphoria is extremely rare. The left media has hijacked this to cause deliberate trouble amongst youth in my opinion because I can tell there is no structure. It's all feeling and let me tell you, it's not about feeling at all. It's about knowing and if you can't know then don't even try. Cos transitioning isn't what you think it is. It isn't going to fix anything, that's the lie. It only changes what was. Think about that

@Arikuit

2 жыл бұрын

Ps you're only 16, I waited until I was 23 to come out because I knew, it's healthier to begin with and the body needs to develop as well as you do. Again think about that, what you're feeling now can still change. I only began transition 10 years after coming out. Think carefully

@Alex-fc8xn

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck with everything! And also social transitioning where you ask people to call you by a different name and pronouns has no permanent negative effects. It's fine to change your mind later, especially when you're young, and you might find that a lot of your mental struggles may improve. I know that personally I was suicidal starting around puberty and stayed that way until I came out at 20 and started being treated as who I truly am. I was so surprised when I realized a few months into people using a new name and pronouns for me, and having friends who truly supported me, that for the first time in over a decade I didn't want to die. My anxiety and depression improved a lot, though it definitely hurt when people intentionally misgendered me. So yeah, dysphoria can definitely be a huge source of mental distress and mental illness, and sometimes transitioning can make it a lot better. But also, you don't need to jump into physically transitioning because social transition is always an option. At 16 there is also the option to take puberty blockers for a while until you're certain one way or another to prevent permanent changes from continuing to develop while you figure things out.

@riobird1363

2 жыл бұрын

Legends Silver, adolescence is a very confusing and awkward phase of life for everyone. It’s a natural to question identity because you are in a developmental phase transitioning to adulthood. It’s that in between period where you’re neither a child or an adult and yet a little bit of both at the same time. It’s normal and healthy to experiment with hair, clothes, make up etc. But just give yourself time to be you at every phase and don’t put any pressure on yourself to be something permanent like transitioning. I encourage you to wait it out until you’re an adult to make a decision. I mean, the brain doesn’t even finish developing until around age 24! So any major decision made before that id say is rushing into it. Anyway let us know what you decided and give us an update.

How is anybody allowed to go on T without ever seeing a therapist?

@imkshipa

4 жыл бұрын

No idea. I think this is a huge problem that needs to be addressed.

@mbhero20

4 жыл бұрын

I was able to do it without seeing a therapist. I made an appt with my PCP and she asked if I wanted to start hormones that day. I was very surprised. I was prepared to go through extensive therapy before getting hormones. I agree more should be done on this.

@hannahjames7458

4 жыл бұрын

It's almost scary how on-demand hormones. Like a therapist should help a lot. I'm MTF and go I to Planned Parenthood what does basic HRT they just give you hormones and don't even really test your hormone levels.

@aratneerg1375

4 жыл бұрын

Its business! The free market economy. They don't care. There's good money in it. Thats the truth.

@morganandrea9323

4 жыл бұрын

black market .happens alot

Basic fact of life: No matter how far you run, you always take yourself with you.

@patrickslim9874

4 жыл бұрын

???

@Maverekt

4 жыл бұрын

Patrick Slim why “???” Did that comment not make sense with you?

@juschill1

4 жыл бұрын

@@Maverekt 🛫 🧠

@Maverekt

4 жыл бұрын

Otis Thelonius 😂😂😂😂

@patrickslim9874

4 жыл бұрын

@@Maverekt yeah, exactly

I'm so grateful I'm a man and I know that I'm a man. This gender confusion thing is absolutely horrible.

@layton6202

2 жыл бұрын

What like a biological man

@garyoz1821

2 жыл бұрын

So you weren't born with a vagina?

@lugerardespinosa3765

2 жыл бұрын

No you meant to day like a "plural" man.

@layton6202

2 жыл бұрын

@@infiniteepoch8 born a man?

@Seeds-Of-The-Wayside

2 жыл бұрын

@@infiniteepoch8 I just find it a sad fact that there are so many people dissatisfied with themselves to the point where they get surgery. Facial plastic surgery is also disheartening in the same way

So frustrating when detransition vids remove comments. Love that the comments are turned on. Your voice matters. Everyone’s voice matters even the haters, it shows the full picture

6:28 she says “Omg this is awesome. I’m somebody else.” That’s a red flag because when you start chest binding and transitioning socially you should be thinking “omg this is awesome. I’m finally myself.” Stay strong luv. Sending healing and positive vibes your way. You’re beautiful.

@lola9376

4 жыл бұрын

Sienna Waters that’s a really inconsiderate take on transitioning. If dysphoria is as debilitating as many trans people say it is, transitioning is not just a superficial idea: it’s a necessity for them to be able to function in a body that matches their perception of themself

@lola9376

4 жыл бұрын

Madam Luis that’s your opinion, but there is scientific evidence that trans people’s brains are more similar to the gender they identify as rather than the gender that they were assigned at birth. It’s not that they are pretending to be someone they aren’t, they’re just trying to make their outward appearance match what they know they are internally. Your opinion is irrelevant if science disproves it.

@alfredpennyworth114

4 жыл бұрын

@@madamluis2537 everybody has the right to their own opinion, but a lot of what you're saying is factually wrong. Transition seems to help trans people to be happier in the overwhelming mayority of cases. Also, when you said "huge boobs, wigs and high heels" you seem to be describing more a Drag Queen than a trans person. Not the same (unless being a woman is equal to being a Drag Queen). Also, when you said trans women keep their penis because they know they're men, how can you know that? For me it looks like you're just assuming that based on who knows what. I think this is all a manifestation of a more basic dilemma: Some people say trans people don't really exist, while trans people claim they exist. The harsh truth is that we can't really know (for what I know the brain tests aren't really that conclusive, there's an overlap on male and female brains). But society won't move forward unless we're willing to trust each other a little more. If trans people achieve happiness trough transition, who are we to judge them? It's a life choice and we shouldn't look down on them for it, specially when is such a hard one that requires so much courage (mind you, being trans ain't easy... but a lot of their problems arise precisely from being rejected by society).

@spiderpunk1265

4 жыл бұрын

@@madamluis2537 ok so you obviously haven't done your research. Voice dysphoria goes away for the most part or even completely once your voice gets deeper. Same for other areas that you have dysphoria in. I know I'm a man, and transitioning makes me feel comfortable in my skin. If I was to live as the sex I was assigned at birth, I would never be happy because I wouldn't be living as my true self, which is male. That would be living the lie. I am on testosterone and more comfortable in my body and the happiest I've ever been. I couldn't even talk to people because of my voice dysphoria, and it's why I didn't have friends or a job. Now my voice is way deeper and I can finally have conversations with people and feel like myself because my inside voice is finally matching the outside.

@spiderpunk1265

4 жыл бұрын

@@madamluis2537 if you aren't transgender, it can be hard to understand. There are scientific studies behind this. Scientific brain scans prove that transgender male's brains have similar anatomy to a cis males. The chemicals are that of a cis male, rather than a female. This goes vise versa for trans women as well. Not to mention, people who de-transition do so because their brain anatomy matches their sex assigned at birth. Due to this, they would have dysphoria after transitioning, rather than before. People who are actually transgender have gender dysphoria before, and transitioning relieves that dysphoria. Just the fact that people de-transition if they aren't really trans in the first place, should be enough to you to prove that gender dysphoria exists. I know some people will never understand, but my inside is finally starting to match my outside thanks to testosterone. I am the happiest I've ever been. No longer suicidal because I can live life as my true, authentic self now. When I get surgery it will be even better, and I am so thankful for everything I have and the journey I am on. I don't even tell people I'm trans unless I'm dating them because I want to be seen as a cis male in society. People's view on you changes, and I just wanna be seen as the man I am. Maybe one day you will meet a real trans person and your opinion will change. You can even be friends with someone now who is trans but likes to keep that private, like me. I hope my words spoke to you in a positive way. All that matters to me is that I am happy and living my authentic life.

It takes real character to admit you were wrong, especially with something like this, so greatest respect for that!

@labshot

4 жыл бұрын

It's fine till you cut off body parts....

@rocxylemmon8535

4 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@XxtamedabeastXx

4 жыл бұрын

1000th like :) agreed

@michigoose369

3 жыл бұрын

@@mauritahowell1415 she actually says she was wrong, though...

@AKredhed

3 жыл бұрын

We all have things we have done in the past and been like, well that didn’t end up how I thought it would... some things more drastic than others. This is a drop in the bucket compared to... say, the girl that made herself blind with drain cleaner because she wanted to be blind since she was a child.

this is why it is important to worry about of mental health, going to therapy and knowing how to read yourself. Thanks for sharing your journey i hope a lot of people who arent really trans think about the things you said very carefully before make a wrong move. Im a trans man. I’ve been on testosterone for a long time. I struggle with disphoria since have memory, my thoughs always were on a life were i can be the man i was in my head, the disconfort with my body and everything u said you havent i think is importan to realize if ur trans or not. If i am a happy man is because the transition cured that aspect of my life that was wrong. but If your struggling with depression, with your sexual orientantion or anything that doesn’t have to do with gender, the transition isn’t going to solve that. I send you a lot of love I think you are a beautiful girl and a very brave one to share your history. Hugs!!

My takeaway: people are really fearful of being wrong, of not knowing and making mistakes. We tell ourselves we should be sure about who’s the love of our life, our dream career, our sexual orientation… SURE about EVERYTHING. But it’s okay to explore, discover, experiment. Instead of judging us for dedicating time to something not permanent. Nothing is permanent, it’s okay to wonder. Obviously impulsive decisions are a problem too, but accepting we didn’t took the best path for us is more important than being always right… NO ONE is always right. We put inhuman standards over us. Let’s be kinder.

@DX-d

2 жыл бұрын

Many thing are permanent.

@oki7638

2 жыл бұрын

i’m using this for an essay thanks

@konterrevolutionbeginnt1457

2 жыл бұрын

The removal of healthy organs is permanent, is not just about discovering some stuff... not every idea is a great one and should be acted upon just to find out if it's good or a mistake.

@TheCarlScharnberg

2 жыл бұрын

You don't play with medication and surgeries. That is not something to "experiment" with.

@stuttersounds

2 жыл бұрын

This. x

Hey there, I'm an FTM (transitioned 9 years ago, post surgery etc.) and I wanna say thank you for sharing your story. I've noticed in the trans community in the past few years a section of us are treating detransitioners like shit and blaming them for other issues we run into and often judge those in your position unfairly. This is a conversation that NEEDS to be had, the nuance that often gets missed when young people are still figuring out their identities. I wish you the very best and hope that other trans people will take a moment to appreciate that we only comprise about 0.3-0.6% of the population, and that not everyone with discomfort surrounding their gender is necessarily trans. I know some will point at your story and say that just convinces people we aren't real but I disagree, stories like yours should tell people this is a serious medical issue that needs the proper care and isn't to be taken lightly. Good luck friend PS. hope nothing came off as rude English isn't my best

@dontuserachelslurs

4 жыл бұрын

honestly listening to her story just makes me more sure that I am trans and reassures me that I am making the right decision to transition and reassuring to me that I can do it. my only problem with detransitioning is when transphobic people hold up detransitioned people and pretend that they represent all trans people as if transition without regrets is impossible.

@viviennedunbar3374

4 жыл бұрын

Rachel as a parent of teens aged 19, 17 and 14 my concern is just that no medical transition should happen until adulthood. We don't let teens do anything permanent or take life changing decisions (you can't get married, you can't vote, you shouldn't get tattoos or join the army) until you have matured. Everyone has empathy for teen parents because we know that they are very young and probably will struggle to cope with the level of responsibility. We encourage people to wait until they are older because we know they still have a lot of growing to do. The brain is growing and developing until 25. It's the same with medical transition. Anyone can live as any gender they want but we cannot change our biological sex, so medical transition is a commitment to lifelong medical involvement.

@horsepuncher95

4 жыл бұрын

@@viviennedunbar3374 I should have gone on hormone blockers at 14 and transitioned at 16 (had been diagnosed and already socially transitioned for 3 years prior) but parents decided to wait until I hit 18 and it was absolutely the wrong decision. If I had have been allowed to go ahead with it earlier I wouldn't have had to suffer through surgery & recovery to cut off the tits that grew when I should have been on hormone blockers. Lets me be clear that transitioning as early as possible for us trans people is 100% the right thing to do, but the issue is that there are people who aren't trans getting wrongly put on this path because people are neglecting that this is a rare medical condition with permanent treatment and shouldn't be taken as lightly as it these past couple of years.

@lemmh2

4 жыл бұрын

Other people needing a herd to validate their individuality is the primary reason for most of this stuff in the first place.

@Jacobell97

4 жыл бұрын

I just wish some detransitioners wouldn't use their experience as a weapon against trans people. elle palmer recently deleted her twitter because she started saying some horse shit about trans guys just not wanting to be girls because of oppression. a very small portion of people coming out of the trans community doesn't discredit transition.

As a straight male, I stumbled across this video, and listened to the whole thing! Kudos to you for sharing your situation and allowing us to delve into it.

@jvennings5595

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. Just thought oh what the hell and played it. Learnt something new today

@mustachiomustache5591

4 жыл бұрын

@@jvennings5595 i thought detransition?! wow! most people make videos on transition

@callistis8733

4 жыл бұрын

Same here! first the one with her singing a country song popped up in my recommendations randomly (also totally worth a watch) then i saw this one and watched the whole thing

@amandab3033

4 жыл бұрын

you almost restored my faith in humanity

@mavenfeliciano1710

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I watched to see if uploader would give a message about being sure before transitioning in the first place. I’m comfortable and never questioned myself personally, but was curious and I like to get into peoples psych to understand them and how it feels to be in their shoes, all sorts of experiences, male female, trans, gay, etc. A lot of things are a bit difficult to wrap my head around and grasp, but I try not to be judgmental so I need to understand where they’re at and coming from to accomplish that.

i am ftm pre-t and ofc im desperate for it but im taking my time and being responsible (i understand you were struggling and impulsive) so i like to get information from all different sides thanks for being so honest cuz it sucks when detransitioners become extremely transphobic

@Alex-fc8xn

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I just watched a video of another detransitioner who was super transphobic because of their own trauma and distress that made them think that it was the wrong decision for everyone

@Arikuit

2 жыл бұрын

Hence it's so important to emphasize responsibility in making this choice, you really need to think a lot about it and if you know already (as some do) then it's literally a matter of be patient and see for yourself what needs to get done. I dunno why it's so easy for some to get hormones etc but I notice a pattern, those who take time to get what they need are the least likely to change their mind to begin with

@4651adri

2 жыл бұрын

They don't become transphobic, they became gender critical/don't support gender ideology. That's a big difference.

@Arikuit

2 жыл бұрын

@@4651adri I think you're assuming far too much or reading too much into it. I don't believe there is a gender ideology, how stupid. Gender isn't fluid and shouldn't be treated as a sexuality

@4651adri

2 жыл бұрын

@@Arikuit I'm sure you are a very smart person. I recommend you look into it. Gender ideology is a thing and it's already been investigated and written about numerous times. It's actually pretty harmful for actual trans people.

This was so incredibly brave of you! I can only imagine how stressful and scary it must be to detransition and potentially lose the support of your community. Someone very close to me is back and forth with this, and I sense that a fear of making her community angry with her, or of lessening the seriousness with which the outside world takes her community. Its ALOT of added weight to put upon ones shoulders on too of the already enormous decisions at hand.

A lot of videos about detransitioning have been banned. Which is super sad and dangerous. Thanks for doing this.

@juliasturgman2351

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, the FACISTS socialists in the Biden camp could take down all of this with an executive order. Best to download them permanently now comrades.

@kristagarrie9873

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliasturgman2351 Go away with your insanity.

@juliasturgman2351

3 жыл бұрын

@@kristagarrie9873 As a Jewish person I will never forget Krista KKK Garrie

@juliasturgman2351

3 жыл бұрын

Krista Goebels Garrie disagrees

@murtithinker7660

3 жыл бұрын

We cisgen straight folk are really lucky. I can't imagine myself trapped with therapists and medics and jabs, then making irreversible body changes i can't trust

Therapy isn't promoted as the first line of help because therapy doesn't make drug companies money.

@mystuff8579

3 жыл бұрын

This truth. This simple truth.

@prettybkchick6348

3 жыл бұрын

Before you’re prescribed hormones from a doctor, you have to have therapy. It’s a requirement.

@ellize1998

3 жыл бұрын

This way of thinking is so toxic

@tross6380

3 жыл бұрын

Or feed the radical Leftist narrative

@missanna208802

3 жыл бұрын

Thats not the case in this instance. There is huge pressure from the far left, most of who are not trans who think they know what is best for trans people but who do not represent trans people, who are trying to make it illegal for health professionals to question someone's self-identification to ensure the best outcome for patients on an individual basis because they don't care about, for example, borderlines who prob make up a good deal of cases like this.

There are people who de transition not because of repression, but a Psychiatrist helped them to feel comfortable with themselves. I applaud you for reaching out and talking about your difficult journey.

Therapy before transitioning is so important for reasons like this. They sadly just want money though

So, i am an older transwoman, and totally happy in my transition. I am worried, however, because so many young people are transitioning and we are starting to see a spike in detransition. I think your voice is an important one. I went to a gender therapist, and they are basically trained to encourage you to transition and don't pose tough questions to you. I totally had to do that myself, and i spent months reading, studying, looking at people's stories and detransition stories, and everything i could get my hands on. I was alarmed that no one challenged my choices in a constructive way. Someone like you can help young people ask themselves the tough questions the system isn't. I am super concerned with young girls who are transitioning to male, because T works so quickly, while estrogen takes months and months to make permanent changes. I am super glad you made this video. Keep making videos talking about it (maybe a little shorter). I totally don't want to completely discourage anyone from transitioning. I just think people should totally think it through before they do it.

@MultiBeerme

4 жыл бұрын

I have the same concern. I spent so many years trying to cover all my bases for options in the future before starting HRT. Not everything panned out and my bloodline will completely end with me (something I'm still mourning) but I spent a lot of that time figuring out if that's really the right option. It definitely was. The humor is though that if I didn't start taking estradiol, I would have had to start taking testosterone due to my hormone levels prior to transition.

@isaiahsmith7123

4 жыл бұрын

Michelle, First off thank you for speaking out. As someone who is cis male I've never had the trauma of gender dysphoria, but I can only imagine what it feels like. It is so important to hear all voices in the trans community, both to support those who are coming up as well as to warn them, as transitioning is such a momentous step. I hope with all our participation in the conversation we can really make the lives of trans people better.

@cantbejawsome

4 жыл бұрын

If you don't mind answering, what tough questions should someone who wants to transition ask themselves?

@MultiBeerme

4 жыл бұрын

@@cantbejawsome I would suggest finding a safe place you can experiment with living as the opposite gender. Find what looks good on you and makes you feel right. You'd wanna ask yourself what kind of enrichment this brings to your life. Is this the life you'd like to live full-time? Would you be happier living your life as the opposite gender? If it's chemically transitioning, I'd first ask someone to consider the long term effects that are permanent, then consider the route it takes to get there. Puberty wasn't fun the first time, so putting yourself through it again is very much a concern.

@hildajensen6263

4 жыл бұрын

I'm saddened an worried that this young generation feel so desperate to put a label on themselves and others. 20 years ago we were lucky just knowing that being young is a time of confusion and that you don't have to live up to the traditional gender roles. And we could slowly experiment and try different things out, until we figured out who we were. Now they think they must declare their whole identity to the world at the age of 15 - and change their body accordingly. I'm not saying that true trans people shouldn't get their treatment. - But as this video proffs, there are just too many people who has has other problems getting caught up in this unhealthy focus on gender these days. - After all, a person is much more than their gender or sexuality.

this is why therapy should be PART of the transition process, most likely at the beginning

@DrMattPhillips

3 жыл бұрын

It is in most places though in the US it's state dependant, and even outside of state law, gender clinics internationally are heavily underfunded making waiting lists very long for 1 to 1 patient, doctor therapy. 1 clinic I was familiar with had a waiting list of up to 4 years for a single session. So it's sad that people do not have access to the means to talk their issues through with a professional (generally, therapy should be accessible to everybody), but it's also the reality for most youth who end up looking for alternative means instead which of course can be very dangerous and risky.

@froboy56001

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrMattPhillips ...couldn't the waiting be part of the "therapy?" y'know take your time, think the transition through, do research, this is a permanent thing, taking time never hurts

@froboy56001

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrMattPhillips I'm talking about before the INITIAL transition, not the reversal, they may not feel "comfortable" in there own body but at least the body is functional, no hormone replacement required, if you feel so out of place to need to transition THAT quickly, then you probably need therapy for other things not just gender disphoria

@DrMattPhillips

3 жыл бұрын

@@froboy56001 I'm also talking about before the initial transition. It's not a quick process at all when specifically working with professional gender clinics. If you talk to transgender people about their experiences getting treatment it'll convey that most don't get treatment for years due to waiting lists, where they both do not see a therapist nor do they see anybody. That's the issue I'm conveying that exists regionally in most areas and cases. There's a big difference between intentional delays within the process built in for validity checks whilst constantly touching base with a doctor on a regular basis for wellness checks. And being on a waiting list for 4 years, seeing no one and hearing nothing.

@ltlredhen4177

3 жыл бұрын

In the U.S. many are fighting to stop therapy prior to transitioning because some don't want to wait, but it totally bulldozes people like her.

You never had physical disphoria and never felt like you wished you were a male/boy, yet still you came to the conclusion that you were trans? I'm surprised that no professionals picked up on this.

@deliverus6856

2 жыл бұрын

They want you to transition cause $$$ they don’t care

@twilliams7547

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, money and research data

@johnb9573

2 жыл бұрын

That’s the thing about informed consent you just sign off that you’re taking responsibility if you make a mistake, they don’t care. Trans activists also say now that you don’t need dysphoria to be transgender, which I think is extremely confusing and damaging to young people who are figuring out who they are. This is coming from a trans guy who came out 10 years ago.

@Deepstatedebate

2 жыл бұрын

How can they? They have to affirm whatever the person says to them.

@lavenderbones2628

Жыл бұрын

@@johnb9573 i think there is a difference between needing dysphoria to be trans and needing dysphoria to transition. I think you can be trans without having dysphoria, (euphoria instead) but I honestly think you should be very cautious or not transition medically if you don’t have dysphoria. obviously adults can do whatever they want with their bodies but if you don’t have dysphoria I don’t really see a reason for you to medically transition. - a young trans guy with very bad dysphoria lasting years that is trying to medically transition right now

LOVE that you posted this, even with, and especially with, fears of being misunderstood. Thank you SO MUCH. You said so many things that apply to so many people.

I think a big thing people miss out on recently is that gender nonconformity isn't gender dysmorphia. Gender nonconformity isn't being trans either. And I feel like a lot of people are now confusing these.

@rawminimalist9043

3 жыл бұрын

Yep..

@amartin9293

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of people are confused , because chidlren have been sexualized by adults trying to talk them into their sexual preference. This is very evil! )

@Cheshirestog

3 жыл бұрын

@@amartin9293 idk about talking them into their sexual preference but there was a LOT of sexuality in media when I was a kid and it seems to have even gotten worse recent years. Just making sex exposed to kids so early isn't right. And then no education on biology enough to often. And then people wonder why so many kids getting pregnant at a young age or confused overall.

@Ouchimoo

3 жыл бұрын

The big thing that concerns me. I grew up with the very strict social norms of: 'boys do science and adventure; girls do dolls and dresses'. Which the latter is absolutely not in my wheelhouse. Dad let me be me which made me feel completely incompatible with everyone else growing up who seemed to handle those norms better than I. Now that Transgender transitions are so common place and so haphazard, I can't help but wonder how many people actually feel like their in the wrong gender vs, just stuck in social norm boxes.

@Cheshirestog

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ouchimoo I've actually seen quite a few people comment they know or they were thinking they were trans but later realized it was about this and thinking because they didn't fix that one predetermined definition they assumed they were the other. I mean there's not actual harm I guess for many people who realize it later, it's just a journey. BUT if they had decided to do surgery it might have had some big impact on them and their lives.

It’s interesting how you talk about your “inner voice” & your subconscious self remaining female. Not many trans people discuss this topic.

@luusinistre

4 жыл бұрын

Right? It's something lots of trans people experience, and in her case for destransitioning, as the reason for why they transition. For the longest time I wasn't even aware my "inner voice" and the way i internally felt and saw myself sounded masculine until i transitioned and noticed the voice didn't sound so different from everything else anymore. It's pretty interesting and I think it could be discussed more.

@almostfiction

4 жыл бұрын

ღ YV ღ thank you for sharing your experience💚 Our subconscious is truly a powerful thing & I believe it’s not something that can be ignored.

@unboxed1017

4 жыл бұрын

@@almostfiction yeah, I'm the same too, I'm pre hormones, just starting, but I've lived for 10 years as a man, I don't always pass, but that's not such a big deal at 30. Everybody is accepting and I explain if need arises, and most of the people understand, and are respectful, and I live in a really backwards country regarding this topic. What I wanted to say is, my inner voice is completely male, and I feel my body, although pre-t, as male but with some minor differences. For example I feel like I have gynecomastia, not a huge deal, and will deal with it surgically.

@cyanofelis

4 жыл бұрын

Inner voices are genderless. There's such thing as a male or female inner voice. I don't understand the concept at all.

@luusinistre

4 жыл бұрын

@@cyanofelis yes they're genderless but it can still feel masculine or feminine. If your inner doesn't match then it's noticeable. If your inner voice does match then yeah you won't notice. Tbh I think that's a good thing you don't experience it.

Thank you for sharing your story. Time and again I'm gobsmacked that nobody told you that everyone, really EVERYONE, has doubts about themselves when they're young. I'm so sad for you that you thought you had to give your feelings any kind of label. I'm sad for you that you thought you had to change your body and mind to be yourself. In every young person's life there should be someone like I had when I was a teenager. She said to me, don't you listen to anyone, and don't let anyone define who you are - ever. Not even your friends. I'm nearly 60 and still discover things about myself all the time. I've taken my time to work out who I am. It takes all but half a century and maybe more. So if anyone under 50 is reading this - don't put yourself into a narrow box. Don't label yourself. Don't let anyone label you. You'll automatically grow into who you're meant to be. Be kind to yourself.

This goes to show that careful self-reflection is important. It’s okay to think about and explore one’s own sexuality, but it’s always important to establish a clear, concise identity of oneself, even if that requires the help of a therapist or professional psychologist. This is why therapy is especially important. Thank you for sharing your story.

It's reasonable that you would worry about how you would look being "back" as a woman, but I assure you, you are beautiful.

@vickyvic2852

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! You’re absolutely beautiful!

@peoplenoodlesoup

3 жыл бұрын

I agree! And I typically have high standards in physical beauty. Which might not be a nice/good thing 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 but just saying-she is like model pretty.

@butteredtoast8666

3 жыл бұрын

And smart and feminine.

@patricio6679

3 жыл бұрын

@@philharvey5519 Because she was a trans man, genious

@IntrovertedLoLo

3 жыл бұрын

Low voice though

I’m a straight middle aged mom. This randomly popped into my feed and is totally irrelevant to me. I saw how pretty and feminine you are and was curious which way the transitioning was. I had never heard of detransitioning so I was interested in your story. I really enjoyed your video. I respect your candor. You are a brave and beautiful person, and I know your video will help others who are struggling with finding their place in the world. 💜❤️🧡💛💚💙

@1thess523

3 жыл бұрын

@Brett Wagland and people who leave the homosexual lifestyle are also demonized especially when they if they become a Christian

@Domcas74

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I’ve heard of de transitioning but this popped up randomly.

@triciab612

3 жыл бұрын

Same. This just popped into my feed. I watched it. It was interesting.

@sandraadams7913

3 жыл бұрын

I think many people need to realize nobody just fits in...we are all totally unique and just need to accept and love whomever we are. Parents need to love and accept their kids no matter what! And your life can be limitless! If you stop worrying about what others think! It only matters how you feel about yourself. If you only have one friend, you are blessed! Don't try changing yourself to fit in anywhere. Just be brave enough to be yourself, and people will accept you. If they don't, who cares...be happy!

@eiffelviolet

3 жыл бұрын

You seem lovely.

I'm a straight female but was a total Tom Boy as a kid. I still am kinda. LOL. I always wanted to be a boy, but I am so thankful I didn't grow up nowadays because I may have been labeled gay or trans. I feel for young people today with all the misinformation. I believe that I was more comfortable playing with boys and boys games vs girly stuff because I have probably been male in past lives more than female. Ok, so that's another story, try not to judge, but that could be a piece of the puzzle for some. Great video. My advice is to enjoy yourself however you are. Don't try to be something you aren't. Luckily I have a great husband who accepts the fact that his wife doesn't like dresses, makeup, etc. Anyway, take care. Love yourself and be safe.

@ftgihf467

2 жыл бұрын

ur take on pasts lives is interesting lol, and good for u for knowing who u are.

@dimpsthealien333

2 жыл бұрын

@@ftgihf467 thank you :)

Idk if this was the point, but this video made me realize even moreso that i actually made the *right* choice to start transitioning. I always sort of felt like "am i trans enough", but you mentioned yourself not feeling dysphoria or anything negative towards your body, not wanting to be the other gender- and something really sort of hit me that, i DID think these things. It sort of engrained it into my brain that i made the right choice

@BettyWhite2171

2 жыл бұрын

If your friend said I don't like my legs I want to chop them off, what would you say to them?

I love how this video doesn’t villainize trans people at any point

@clipsedrag13

4 жыл бұрын

and so it shouldn't.. that's not to say some of them aren't fucking crazy and spreading toxic ideology

@succama7532

4 жыл бұрын

@@clipsedrag13 yeah, that applies to all groups of people, shitty human beings exist everywhere

@natanaru

4 жыл бұрын

@@clipsedrag13 I mean , I meet crazies everywhere LUL

@lilalaune4202

4 жыл бұрын

Unlike the impression the reaction of lgbtq communities give, detransitioning is not against lgbtq but against too early and not carefully accompanied transitions of children and teens. I once wanted to be a boy, for about 10 years, and then realized it was bc of childhood abuse. My friend had the same, she is lesbian, wanted to be a boy and then realised she thought she'll be accepted better as a trans with a girl than as a girl with a girl. Which, funnily, is kind of homophobic albeit coming from a lesbian...

@jogbearcool8594

4 жыл бұрын

LaLa Luna yeah I know but some detransitioners become transphobic

I was a tomboy growing up, and until a couple of years ago felt most comfortable dressing fairly androgynously. I think it stemmed partly from the fact that I was teased for being tall, and I felt like I didn't fit in with the other girls at my school, who happened to be petite/short, and very "girly". Now in my mid-20's I'm both more feminine on the outside, and I feel much more comfortable with being a woman on the inside too, if that makes sense. Being transgender is 100% a thing, but I hope people don't confuse being unhappy with themselves or their bodies with gender dysphoria.

@janesrygley7267

4 жыл бұрын

I'm concerned that far too often this seems to be the case! True gender dysphoria (as in, the brain is sexed differently than the body in utero) is incredibly rare.

@patrickriarchy6054

4 жыл бұрын

I think that some people not realising that during adolescents through your 20s that most people are still unsure of who they are and that feeling that way is a universal human experience.

@lemmh2

4 жыл бұрын

In biosciences, we view this different than the humanities. In the humanities, they claim every trait is a new box/category, and therefore a gender variation. In bioscience, gender is not separate from sex. They're the same thing, So we view it as all of those boxes/categories existing within two main categories. E.g. an "M" box can have g@y, straight, bi, cries, lifts weights, low-T, high-T, etc, etc. Humanities claim that "gender" is just societal expectations, therefore each one of those things is a new gender. In bioscience, we think this is harmful and regressive and is affecting people's lives negatively, not positively, making them feel different and apart and worsening any negative feelings they may already have about themselves, as despite how hard they try to "fit in," they're only fitting into fake categories created by the very people who call the categories fake. We're called bigots for this and aren't allowed to speak.

@lemmh2

4 жыл бұрын

@@patrickriarchy6054 It does seem to be something that stems a bit from vanity. "Oh, nobody else could possibly understand, but I'm so different and special," when everyone is feeling different, looking for their own identity. Unfortunately, some people look to their bodies for that identity instead of to other qualities they possess.

@skeleton5459

4 жыл бұрын

i am 30 and strange thing i noticed was that all the tom boys i knew when i was a kid or during my teenage yrs all ended up becoming super feminine after the age of 25. it's as if they were just late bloomers. like everyone went through the girly phase at 15 and they ended up going through that phase at 25. one girl specifically that i know who is 30 now wears makeup and gets her hair done and wears dresses and i am 30 and i did all that when i was 15 but now at 30. i can't be bothered wearing makeup. lol

Thank you for the insight into this issue, and being so honest about what you went through. I think you have grown so much as a person and I wish you all the best that life has to offer.

Thank you for taking the time to lay out your experience, it will DEFINITELY help other people who are/ have planned to transition.

You can still train your voice back to a girl voice, there are videos on KZread. I had a boy voice and now it's super girl again. :) Best of luck!!!

@imkshipa

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! And I am working on the voice training, but its kind of slow going for me lol

@justhereoutofboredom

4 жыл бұрын

Uncle Lucifer Zed I’m mtf with a regrettably deep voice, and am likely going the surgery route. The results can be amazing.

@justhereoutofboredom

4 жыл бұрын

I have. Unfortunately I have the voice of Ben Stein and trying to hold my voice at that pitch just goes to seem to work for me without my voice cracking.

@Robotnik-cv8wd

4 жыл бұрын

@@imkshipa Ya, it's a bit of work.. I literally grindded-out Harvard sentences. Pick like 2-4 and just have them to recite over-and-over when you are fee (shower, driving...etc), and then do recording/ workshop sessions. :)

@justhereoutofboredom

4 жыл бұрын

Kate Wolf I have

I was such a tomboy and now I am definitely not the most girly girl, but I love being a woman!

@janiceconnolly8740

3 жыл бұрын

@Arraw Way ...Huh... being a petite female that is 5’2 103 pounds... I’ve been very successful in sales, mostly dominated by men co-workers and men customers. I’m authoritative, confident and aggressive. I have no problem being taken seriously. You can’t generalize people...

@janiceconnolly8740

3 жыл бұрын

@Arraw Way It's only a rule if you buy into the BS the world tells you! Don't be a sheep---Be unique!

@christinalopez6548

3 жыл бұрын

Same!!!

I truly appreciate your honesty and self-reflection. Everyone considering these changes should listen to your experience, along with many other stories.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. More of this is needed and glad you were willing to contribute. You are beautiful so don't worry about anything. You got this!

I'm a transguy, who transitioned 10 years ago. Even tho the waitinglist for therapy in the Netherlands is crazy long now (almost 2 years), hearing a story like this makes me glad that you need at least 6 months of therapy before starting hormones here. Best wishes for your future!

@arip172

3 жыл бұрын

6 months of therapy is a sad pathetic joke. It takes years and years to see and accept, let alone solve your deepest issues. You wouldn't even go to the gym for 6 months to get into shape

@mr.mayonnaise5488

3 жыл бұрын

@@arip172 going to the gym is very different. You won’t resolve deep trauma in six months but you’ll be able to work on gender dysphoria and figuring out your identity. I assume the focus would be on the potential transition.

@Realisticallyliteral

3 жыл бұрын

@@arip172 but six months is often enough time to work out what the problem is, if not how to treat it.

@alexia3552

3 жыл бұрын

That's such a long waitlist, I dearly hope that the time can be shortened in the future.

@ImnotassweetasIusedtobe

3 жыл бұрын

@@mr.mayonnaise5488 Often the desire to transition is linked to past trauma. There are so many detrains videos and books about this, like Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier. They're completely intertwined most of the time. Very few people are actually trans.

"I was never uncomfortable with my gender"- that says it all! Groups on the internet (especially sites like Tumblr) have romanticised and (for want of a better word) appropriated what it is to be transgender and turned it into something that makes you special and unique; a catch-all for anyone who feels different and outcasted in society. When actual trans people speak out and say that no, gender dysphoria is an incredibly debilitating condition, it is not something to be idolised, and those who feel limited by the roles of their gender (but do not experience gender dysphoria) are not trans they're simply a tomboy or a feminine man and should work towards being confident expressing themselves as they are- they have been called truscum or told they have "internalised transphobia." The fact that random individuals on the internet who have made a mockery of what it is to be transgender then turn around and tell actual trans people they have internalised transphobia is just disgusting. And it's these individuals who sucker in people like yourself- people who are unsure of who they are- and they offer you a community and a label and a way to heal (transition) with this glitzy, glamorized ideal of what it is to be trans. And they tear down and shame anyone who says otherwise, making people feel they have to walk on eggshells whenever the topic is brought up (ironically actual trans people tend to be very open and accepting of people asking questions or making mistakes but their reputation is being tarnished by these hateful transtrenders). Medical practitioners and genuine trans people have been saying for years that there are going to be MANY teenagers of this generation who will realise they have made a terrible mistake and will detransition. And we're starting to see it happen. It damages the lives of people like yourself who were led down the wrong path and now have to deal with the consequences of taking hormones and it damages the reputation of genuine trans people who have to deal with the haters who claim "look at all these people detransitioning- transition never works- trans isn't real." All because the internet decided tomboys can't exist anymore and instead any woman who has any traditionally male interests must be a trans man or any man who likes makeup must be a trans woman. The reality is they are not trans, they are simply an individual. With their own tastes and style, which may go against the typical gender norm. And that's ok. Let people be people. And let's go back to defining the boundaries of what it means to be transgender- GENDER DYSPHORIA- so that no one else is wrongfully labelled and given treatment they shouldn't be having, and transtrenders can stop clogging up the gender identity clinics with years long waiting lists that are preventing actual trans people from getting the vital treatment they need.

@llIlIlllII

4 жыл бұрын

This also seems to be stemming from the treatment of transition itself. Denying reality and saying you are THE opposite isnt helpful. Presenting as whatever you want, engaging with whatever choices, or interests that you want, but understanding that male and female dont dictate preferences, should be treatment. Get surgery if that helps with dysphoria, but then again, anorexia patients arent given gastric bypass. Patients with body integrity disorder arent amputated on.

@CharpyTheHedgehog

4 жыл бұрын

@@llIlIlllII I agree there needs to be stricter measures in place and transition should not be given to everyone who walks into a gender identity clinic. However for the majority of GENUINE trans people transition is incredibly helpful as it alleviates gender dysphoria. At present it is by far the best treatment available. With family support it creates happy, well adjusted individuals, able to finally live as they should. Look at NikkiTutorials, transition was clearly the ideal course of treatment for her. The same is true for many trans people. I'll also point out that being trans isn't about interests, choices or preferences- and that's the problem with the internets widening of the parameters to include those things- it has allowed transtrenders to flood in. Gender dysphoria cuts MUCH deeper than that. If someone is speaking only in terms of interests or preferences they're not a trans person. They simply have a divergent gender expression.

@ethanmichael17

4 жыл бұрын

This. Yes. Thank you.

@Kibouo

4 жыл бұрын

Perfectly put. I transitioned in 2006, and although in some ways there was a lot less support and very few trans role models, it meant that transition was generally an absolute last resort that you wouldn’t want to do unless you really had to, whereas now, it has become romanticised as you say

@markh.876

4 жыл бұрын

@@CharpyTheHedgehog There's no reason to think detransitioners are less genuine than anyone else. Trans is a thing you do, not a thing you are. We do not know what happens to the current group of transitioners after 10, 15, 20 years. Will they get tired of the effort of trying to look and behave like the opposite sex is expected to? If you're old and no longer hot, does transition have the same attraction? Time will tell, unfortunately.

I can’t say I understand what you went through, but I love hearing peoples experiences and stories. Thanks for sharing 😊

That's so nice of you to make this video. You saw there wasn't much available so you made your own. Very nice. Thank you for this video.

When my sister was around 9 she dressed like a boy and called herself Zach. She’s now in her mid twenty’s, happily married to a man, and just had a wee baby. She once told me that she’s so thankful she didn’t grow up in these current times, because someone might have insisted that my parents transition her. She’s now a happy, straight female. Kids are all over the place, they experiment, and they have absolutely zero forward-thinking skills. They should never be allowed to make such drastic decisions at such an early age. I started using drugs really young, and had no idea that I would struggle physically and mentally for so long after being clean. I had no ability to think that far ahead. I’m 2+ years clean and still dealing with the medical and mental repercussions of my actions. Again, kids should not be making such huge decisions at such an early age.

@colleenmcbride3656

3 жыл бұрын

My sister was Lil Fred 😆 Now she's married with like a dozen children.

@tatiana4050

3 жыл бұрын

I think It does depend on place. But where I live you can't get hormones below 16. (surgery below 18), Thats what puberty blockers are for. So that a person who is confused, has extra time given to figure out who they are, without going through trauma of developing of sex characteristics that they don't identify with, puberty is hard enough for cishet people. they figure out they feel comfortable with their sex assigned at birth, they leave puberty blockers and start their puberty later. They figure out they feel more comfortable with different gender, they can pursue that. And it is much easier they don't end up with low masculine voice, and masculine features, when they will go on to live as women. But obviously you are not going to give puberty blockers to 7 year old, because at that age its only clothes and hair that really differs between boys and girls. Many children and youth are not given opportunity to explore themselves. wearing a skirt or cutting your hair short will not traumatise them. Forcing a person in any direction is wrong. There should be much more mental health support and education for everyone, not only those struggling.

@catonamushroom1019

3 жыл бұрын

What if it's memories of past lives?

@JesusSaves77799

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story Debbie about your sister! And Congratulations 🎉 as well for 2+ years clean! Way to go!! God Bless You! 🙏🎉🌸

@texcoco41

3 жыл бұрын

Debbie my daughter was the same way. Very tomboyish. She hated her breast and everything. Now at 18 shes a very confident young lady and girlie.

Homie-your other channel came up first and I watched your “Things I wish I knew” video and was hooked. When you said “I was so desperate for a fix…” I relate to that so much. I recently found myself in that place, I have other issues going on and thought maybe my gender identity was wrong (currently in the place where I am evaluating my overall identity). Your story is so important and I’m so glad that I found it. I wish you the best of luck as you continue on your journey. Thank you so much for sharing it.

Thank you so much for making this video! It definitely gave reassurance and confirmation to things I’ve been feeling/thinking

As a straight woman I don't even know how your video came on my feed, but you are a precious gift. What you have shared is brilliant, no matter what issues we may go through, whether we're trans, bi, straight or whatever. Thank you for speaking your truth.

@sexylove60405

3 жыл бұрын

Have you looked into any other detransitioning videos? I know I have before. I second your thought though, she is a precious gift and am grateful for her speaking out. I have never thought about transitioning, but what she was talking about is very helpful. I am a natural worry wart lol.. I worry and stress about everything. Her advice goes a long way and helps more people than just those who are detransitioning or are thinking about transitioning

I’m a straight male. I’m a therapist who was once asked what my experience is with counseling people in transition, in regards to sex and gender, and I have none. Thanks for sharing your story. It’s super important. Much appreciated.

@jamis2031

3 жыл бұрын

I’m my therapist first trans women and it’s been great and I picked a cis gender man to get out of my comfort zone....he’s actually writing a book about my transition I started back in 93 it was different so serious and dangerous even back then this generation has no clue they talk about it like it’s a walk in the park....it makes me so angry 😡 they have no idea how many have died just for trying to be there true selves

@ohthelovelypoems

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamis2031 It would be so valuable if you would speak about your experience and warn young people that they need to go through a long process before they decide 100% that they must transition.

@Lowlitstudio

3 жыл бұрын

@Common Sense Isn't Common thanks for sharing. Yes, finding a good therapist is rare. There’s also interesting research on how talk therapy is not effective (unless the therapist themself has a solid mindfulness practice) anyhow thanks for sharing

@cgaskin00

3 жыл бұрын

@Tewdy Quew Transmen have a little bit less stigma, but transwomen have a lot of stigma and wind up being murdered at a higher rate. There have been almost 200 transmen killed since 2013 in this country. The suicide rates are also higher in this demographic.

@jamis2031

3 жыл бұрын

@Tewdy Quew I’m not sure cowboy I don’t keep track what’s up! Why you interested? Are you trans

hi thank you for sharing this!! i feel like its impossible to get unbiased opinions and anecdotes on this subject and this video/your channel has been super helpful and reassuring for me :)

When you got your hormones at Planned Parenthood, why didn’t they make you get counseling first? I feel like they let you down by allowing you to rush into such a serious decision without first requiring counseling to make sure. You’re a beautiful person btw ♥️

@layton6202

2 жыл бұрын

there have been many stories coming from detrans people talking about how therapist they've been seeing for a long time actively encourage their dysphoria and say that they are trans and the feelings that they get are just deep rooted insecurities about who they are and what society wants them to be, basically invalidating the persons feelings about not being fully sure about transitioning. There hasn't even been evidence shown about the history of trans folks and if it actually works and no evidence showing what it could do to them I'm the long run after gender reassignment surgery has been done

@whyisblue923taken

Жыл бұрын

They don't do counseling. They just say they do to qualify for federal funding. Their main businesses are to get the kids in, pump them full of chemicals, kill children and sell body parts. They don't want to work against themselves by providing a service that could cost them the actual purpose they have for existing.

@kimmiewise1044

Жыл бұрын

Planned Parenthood has always been an unethical organization, from abortion to health services, it’s the most shady place to get any form of healthcare because they liter do not care about you as a patient or a person. All they care about is making money off of you. I hope more shut down so people get actual healthcare instead of being sold a bill of goods,

regarding the voice in your head/misgendering yourself... basically you induced gender dysphoria on yourself when you transitioned into a guy

@drago3036

4 жыл бұрын

Huh. Sounds funny, but it is pretty accurate XD

@shaquevara

4 жыл бұрын

@putnam 1953 well, clearly because they are in emotional pain. If this video shows ANYTHING it is that transitioning is not an easy decision and it comes from a place of hurt and the hurt is very real.

@emmabunch-benson5361

4 жыл бұрын

oh wow that makes a lot of sense

@hubadj

4 жыл бұрын

@@Iisho first of all, being 18 does not mean you're an adult. I'm 36 and still feel like a kid, but me 18 years old, deciding about my future was a joke. Secondly, everyone is in pain one way or the other. It is our duty to face our problems and learn to accept ourselves. There is no transformation that will suddenly make you happy. Now, I'm not an expert in this subject and I really believe everyone should be allowed to do with their own bodies what they want. I know for a fact though, that it is very easy to corner yourself internally into thinking that there is only one solution. We are the prisoners of our own minds and it's always a good idea to listen to others, especially the experts. That is the only chance to see the reality from a different perspective which can save us a lot of self inflicted pain. All the best 👋

@TheLuckyMermaid

4 жыл бұрын

@@Iisho Just because someone turns 18, yes you are technically viewed as an adult by the law, but mentally, the brain is still a teenager and the brain is not fully develop and 18 y/o can still make irrational decisions or they make their decisions based off of their emotions. Our brain isn't fully developed until 25.

I am a 70 year old woman. I've been watching slot of transition stuff on youtube and I'm gonna be honest I don't understand it all. But I do know there are kids who at two years old want to be opposite sex. Alot for me to learn about. You are so honest I appreciate that. But I must tell you, you are a beautiful woman, but I believe you know this, and you are free to be you, whomever you may perceive yourself to be. Thanks for being so honest.

@dvffYT

3 жыл бұрын

You're really nice nancy :)

@Enigmaticaluna13

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry but 2 yrs old dont know what they want, they " discovering life " everything is attractive, but they do not know anything is nor been told. It's the parents choice ( which is sick and child abuse ) its allot adults that still dont know what they want, less alone a child. Commonsense is need, at 70 you should know better. Children are easy to manipulate.

@raven-chan2071

3 жыл бұрын

@@Enigmaticaluna13 ikr

@googleandsusansucks

3 жыл бұрын

@@Enigmaticaluna13 It honestly sounds like a kid pretending to comment as a 70 year old. If you are not demented at that age and think letting 2 YEAR OLDS become the opposite sex, you are a real piece of work, or never had children. Also notice how she wrote "opposite sex" and not gender, not suspicious at all that the trans lobby always conflate those two while they in their ideology are adamant that it is only about gender.

THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR STORY! I KNOW THIS WAS A YEAR AGO AND I WAS WONDERING HOW YOU ARE DOING? YOU ARE EXTREMELY EASY TO LISTEN TO AND I LOVE HOW DOWN TO EARTH YOU ARE. HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL!!!

Your story was by far the best one I have heard, because you presented it so well with a lot of information. I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through. Your story will surely help many people. Every day is a new day so put your best foot forward. Nothing stays the same so with a positive outlook on life, positive things are more likely to come. Plus being happy is much more fun than being sad. Thank you again for your great presentation! P.S. I want to start sharing my story about my life with epilepsy but I forget easily while I talk too. Thank you for your honesty and for the note pad. You gave me the key on how to recall what I’m talking about 😊

I’m a trans guy, stories like these are SO important. I was lucky to have a full “trans experience” I.e, saying I was a boy at age 4, crying whenever I had to wear ‘girls’ clothes (would literally check the tag to make sure it wasn’t girls or I would throw it out), cut my own hair and presented as a guy from 6-10. At 8 I started therapy for the weird outbursts and at 13 I found the word for it, now at 17 almost 18 I’ve been on T after 9 years of therapy. I will never, *never* understand why HRT is allowed to be given with zero therapy. If you’re thinking about transitioning, even if it isn’t required to see a therapist, please see one. Even if you are actually trans they will guide you through it, check in on you and your mental state. It’s so important you have psychological support through your transition.

@serene5345

3 жыл бұрын

Because the pharmaceutical companies are loving this new "trend." Pushing procedures and drugs on young people they never needed in the first place. They couldn't care less about therapy for people who are thinking about life changing decisions.

@dlm4708

3 жыл бұрын

THIS. Pretty much... everyone???? should have therapy??? like..... transitioning? chemo? pregnant?? dog died??? get... therapy??? these are big adjustments??? it's dangerous to go alone! take this (provides actual mental health care that's covered by my tax money) I was forced to go on hormones because no one would tell me that the reason I kept getting sick as a young pre-teen and then as a teen needing to be hospitalized was likely an intersex condition, not considered IS in America. Just in more developed countries. Even though an endocrine test said my testosterone was in typical male level and I had almost no estrogen. But I had dire anaemia and was assigned "female." They tried to convince me to have kids to "fix it" since I was a *teenager.* Uh?? no??? But wouldn't tell me a diagnosis. How many times I injured myself specifically because I'm female? But that's all "just a phase!" Oh, it's just a ~trauma reaction~ your dumb girly brain can't HANDLE *patriarchy!* .... but the euphoria when anyone thought I was just some teenage dude metalhead doing the early 2000s hot topic ozzy look. After hormones, since I didn't want to die from untreated bleed outs, my voice is broken. Weirdly high-pitched, cracked, gravelly, like singing way too high for too long and straining but never healing again. I hate talking. My chest is killing me. Full of cystic tissue. During HBC, I ended up breaking toes by putting on my shoes. Turns out, the high-dose hormone pills were dissolving my bones. I ended up with blood sugar SO HIGH that if I ate or drank anything besides water, I blacked out for hours. I went through five ob/gyns.I got off of them, but... It's already too late. The damage is done. Nobody talks about that, either. No one wants to hear about intersex determination rights. We're under the trans umbrella because of many of the same issues societally, and the hatred is the same. But people don't talk about the rigors of how much we fight to assert our own self-image. How much OTHER PEOPLE get to control our bodies. How little REAL support we get from anyone in ways that actually tangibly matter that aren't a fucking facebook post getting passed around with "like = I agree!" What happens when someone wants to stay an assigned sex? What happens if you don't? Who comes of the woodwork and what agendas or biases do they have when they do? Part of the isolation is feeling like you can't trust anyone because of that. Just look at these freaking comments. Who do we have, if not ourselves? And is Rival not then considered a true ally, having gone through a lot of the same problems and experiences?

@dawnt7664

3 жыл бұрын

I also hated girls clothes when I was young, played with bugs and gross stuff.. not dolls.. unless my sister wanted to... in high school I took auto mechanics.. I worked construction, autoparts, landscaping, had children and committed to a life long relationship.... and always thought when I was younger that being a boy is cool.. but never once thought that I should be a boy, just that I liked doing boy things... I was always accepting of who I am. There is one thing that my father taught me. You play the best you can with the cards in your hand. Do the best you can with where you are and what you have..

@moafighting1597

3 жыл бұрын

It's highly reccommend but if you feel like you don't want it that's your problem

@alexhornewer8396

3 жыл бұрын

@@dawnt7664 that’s your experience and i respect that- but I always knew I should’ve been born a boy. There was never any doubt for me.

this video helped me so much, im 14 and have been on t for about a year now. i finally got the balls to tell my mom i wanted to stop t. luckily my voice didnt completely drop before detransitioning. im still kind of in the process of figuring out what im gonna do, because i feel like im gonna let my parents down agAin. today i put makeup on for the first time and was super happy, even though i still had short hair. so ty, ig this video made me feel less alone lolol.

@dherman0001

3 жыл бұрын

Very impressed! Stay strong!

@brendageegarcia4138

3 жыл бұрын

You're 14? So young. Why not wait until you're older? I know it's such "Mom' type advice but coming from a 44 yr old Mom just feel like giving it time would help. Don't feel rushed or pressured. Best of luck!

@dherman0001

3 жыл бұрын

@@brendageegarcia4138 If she's too young to detransition, then she was too young to transition in the first place. Understand?

@brendageegarcia4138

3 жыл бұрын

@@dherman0001 Sometimes it takes time. All I'm saying. It's not hard to understand what I wrote.

@dherman0001

3 жыл бұрын

@@brendageegarcia4138 Nor what I wrote. Children should never be transitioning.

As a straight 53 year old lady. It has taken me 40 years to realise that you need to love yourself as you are. You do not need other people to validate you as a lovely human being. As long as you don’t hurt anyone doing what you do. Once you learn to love yourself everything else falls into place.

I'm so glad that you put your story out there, especially because there doesnt seem to be alot of content on detransitioning. Your story could save someone's life, seriously.

I am starting to believe that the younger generation is suffering from a need to label things and fit a square into a circle. My sons are similar. They want to have a label for their personality quirks. One son for example will constantly come up with obscure psychological diagnosis's for himself. Sometimes it's just what makes you, you. We are not all the same. We are all beautiful in our own way and being an individual, and different than other people is a good thing.

@JaredTVW

3 жыл бұрын

I agree that so many people seem obsessed with labels. I hate labels and only have a few that I subscribe to seriously, otherwise that’s that. But it’s not limited to people labeling themselves, but labeling everyone, every action or lack of action, labeling everything!

@JaredTVW

3 жыл бұрын

@D. N. I see your point. Your generation only needs to stick it out a few more years, cause while I did struggle a lot as a kid, my biggest growing pains were when I was in my 20’s. Especially once the generation after you gets to the point yours is at now. I felt misunderstood by my peers and the Zoomers, so you feel isolated, even if you aren’t. But the Millennials now know and will be here for ya.

@dcworld4349

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahi1149 I know it's hard in these difficult times, but please take this advice to heart, there are these things called bookshops. They sell tablets made out of paper. Go ask the clerk about some history, doesn't matter which time or which country, just start somewhere. Then come back to me and tell me how bad rape cultrure, racism and economy is doing. Turn back the clock a 100 years and put them in a 2020 situation, the amount of rape comitted in a year would be happening on a daily basis, we would find whatever group that we could easiest blame and either burn, hang or chop their heads of. And even a king or queen would live by laughably low standards compared to a struggling family right now. I'm not saying we should just look at how bad they did things before so we should be grateful for the bad things now. But you need some perspective and you need it fast, I know you think I'm either messing with you or are in some way trying to make you look bad. I'm not I'm trying to get you to stop wasting 10 years of your life, find what you are good at and what you want to do and do it. If that means a full on career in whatever profession of your choice do that, if it means a family with the possibility of leaving the work force until they start school then you are free to make that choices to. And no kids are also allowed and acceptable.

@amandatorres3833

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahi1149 Those are very serious issues that should always be addressed. However, I think a lot of these things are not always effecting people personally. I am Latina, but rarely experience direct racism, but do experience racism in the form of it existing in my community/society. I suppport these causes despite not being directly affected. I believe this may be what was meant by that comment. Although you are %100 about our economy, but the economy goes into recession every 10-12 years, and every economy no matter how booming experiences recession and failure. Recessions are catastrophic in many ways, however, it leads to our economy resetting; what goes up must come down. (Sorry for any typos).

@dcworld4349

3 жыл бұрын

@@amandatorres3833 100% correct, there are always a lot of things that we will look back on in 10-20 years and think "damn we were kind of savagages back then weren't we". The point is we seem to be aiming forward, for every bad step back we take, we end up making progress in ways we never thought possible before. Would I like every other normal thinking person on the planet want to remove those spesific problems with a magic wand and so instead people's only struggle in life would be finding out who they want to be? Of course but I've lived long enough to understand it's not how the world works while also not being so beaten down that I don't think it will never change. Because I do think it's coming, just sadly not within the years I got left.

Another important thing I'm not seeing anyone talking about: You can be male and wear make up or colorful hair! Your gender doesn't matter, You can look however You want. You're valid.

@bjack8315

4 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right being a clown it's absolutely okay:)

@Monahandsom3

4 жыл бұрын

Yeahhhh I’ve never understood the whole trans gender argument because personally I just don’t see why it matters. If you want to cross dress then wear what you want express yourself how you want, but expecting random people to know your proper pronoun is just crazy to me. Just be yourself

@mothboy9137

4 жыл бұрын

@@Monahandsom3 well how it was explained to me and what makes sense to me is that sex, gender identity, and gender expression are all different and exist on a spectrum. For example, somebody can be born with male sex chromosomes but still be a woman. They can also still wear makeup and express themselves more feminine. There is actually a lot of research done on transness and the scientific basis of it if you want to learn more. (:

@longshotdreams

4 жыл бұрын

RNGesusRaids some people don’t just want to cross dress. This person has admitted to making a mistake. But there are other trans people who actively feel like the gender they were born IS NOT the gender they are. So just dressing up isn’t going to fix anything. That’s why there can be men who wear makeup, women who don a more masculine look, and there can also be people who are transgender who actually need to alter their gender however they see fit. If you aren’t transgender you don’t have to fully understand what makes someone transgender, you just have to be able to respect other people for they are.

@Monahandsom3

4 жыл бұрын

necROMANCEr yeah that’s all the way too overly confusing to everybody else.

You're quite pretty as a natural female, it's sad you can't get your voice back. Thanks for sharing.

This is a great video. I really admire your honesty and openness.

I'm only about halfway through the video, but I wanted to comment on something. A lot of what is being referenced about transition to leave behind issues is exactly the wrong reason to transition under any circumstance. I'm kind of one of those textbook "been like this every since I was young, hated dresses growing up, rejected femininity and naturally grew up identifying in no female sense" trans cases, and even with such an extensive track record of behavior like mine, my therapist made sure I understood first and foremost: Transitioning will not cure your depression. It will not cure your anxiety, or fix your internal problems. Transitioning in and of itself is not a cure for gender dysphoria, and is only one of various answers. Approaching transition like a catch all for fixing personal problems is setting yourself up to deny the existence and the tangibility of those problems in the first place. While life has been easier when I transitioned because I no longer live in fear of the misgendering and the social dysphoria, the depression is still there. The anxiety is still there. The problem is still there, and it will not go away. It will only ease with accepting and learning to cope with it.

@loretta2372

3 жыл бұрын

Perfect comment.

@Loki-pz1uk

3 жыл бұрын

I would also add that some of this is very confusing and overlaps in certain areas with other mental issues as a lot of things in humans do. Therapy is honestly the most helpful thing and asking critical questions of ourselves.

@catonamushroom1019

3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou for sharing.

@JaredTVW

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this. It’s like most issues or problems we are faced with, the solution usually isn’t easy and doesn’t usually fix everything.

@goodfriend8177

3 жыл бұрын

If no one has ever told you, Jesus loves you and you can cast all your cares and anxieties on Him. He is the lifter of our heads, and the lover of our souls. Ask Him for help, He says, "come to me, all who are weary and heavy burdened, and I will give you rest". God bless you very very much.

I remember thinking, "I wanna be a boy," when I was around 7 or 8 years old. I was such a tomboy, but I'm a cis female. Childhood is weird! Lol. Also, I think you're super pretty!

@belphiespillow2268

4 жыл бұрын

Do you mean cis female?

@betteringbrooke8569

4 жыл бұрын

@@belphiespillow2268 Yes, I'm sorry if I didn't say that properly. I promise I'm trying, lol.

@innocentsmith6091

4 жыл бұрын

It's just so weird and ironic that the people who are so against gender roles think tomboys are better off living as boys.

@belphiespillow2268

4 жыл бұрын

@@betteringbrooke8569 aw its ok!

@MyouKyuubi

4 жыл бұрын

That's just called penis envy. xD

You are so beautiful! Thank you for sharing your story, hopefully some people will be spared the same struggles you went through. Wishing you all of the happiness in the world for your future!

thank you so much!! ive been pretty sure im trans for a short time, and questioning a lot. I am so grateful for this because it’s nice to be able to listen to a detransitioner without all the transphobia i usually see. It makes it really hard to listen to but im glad i can hear ur perspective and its helping me. Also ur really fucking gorgeous like genuinely super pretty

I guess there's an ocean of difference between gender and sexuality.

@v1-v0

4 жыл бұрын

@Miss Yancey As a trans girl, I believe thats a very trasphobic belief. If I pass as a woman, and a guy or a girl likes me because I look like a woman, than they're attracted to me. A strait guy would never be with a trans guy lol.

@v1-v0

4 жыл бұрын

@Miss Yancey So if there was a trans guy, he has a pe**s, he has a deep voice, he looks exactly like a cis guy, and you think he's hot and you like his personality, would you date him?

@v1-v0

4 жыл бұрын

@Devin Kind Actually, yeah you're right. Thanks.

@v1-v0

4 жыл бұрын

@Devin Kind This is the point I was trying to make, but failed to do so.

@princessunicorn669

4 жыл бұрын

Gah!!! Lynn, That Hurtz! Are you intentionally trying to get my Brain to Explode?!? 💥🧠 💥

this person is really sitting on the floor in the middle of their appartment spilling their heart to us!!! *hugs* i'm not trans or anything but i support whatever decisions make you happy even though you may not know what that is right now take all the time you need we love you

@ultracheesybatphone6397

4 жыл бұрын

Same! Just discovered this video and I’m so impressed. So pure and honest and so so so strong! Keep going and be happy ♥️

I thought that this would make me insecure about my identity as a trans man but it actually affirmed me because i don’t relate to your experience at all. Also i’m appalled at how easy it was for you to get on hormones, i’ve been trying to get on them for months and i still have to much waiting and hoops to jump through.

@SugarCubesMiki

3 жыл бұрын

Same ! Hormones , legal change and everything has been pretty hard

@brandonkinkade1414

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I've hidden my identity issues for 16 years. Hated myself until i finaly had to come out because i was having severe neurological symptoms due to the trauma i was causing myself. I've had to go to a neurological Psychologist as well as a mental health clinic. Should be getting my letter for t next month. It always blows my mind when people say they got hrt so easily.

@Meilk27

2 жыл бұрын

You guys should start poking around a bodybuilding forums because you'll find that everything you need is widely available sent to your door without a doctor

@SugarCubesMiki

2 жыл бұрын

@@Meilk27 dude no

@brandonkinkade1414

2 жыл бұрын

@@Meilk27 Self medicating is very dangerous. I think I'll listen to my doctors. thanks anyway.

This is amazing. It’s incredibly brave to go through that transition in the first place, and even more so to reverse course. Whomever you end up being, the only thing that matters is being true to yourself.

I'm ftm but I've always looked at detransition content even from before I started transition, and still do. I want to understand people who detransition, in large part to recognize any similar feelings I could have in the future. Like you say, detransitioners could really use more resources, and understanding, both from trans people and people who criticize trans people and seem to use detransitioners' stories to bash them. Thank you for putting this out there. Your makeup looks amazing btw

@ynnckx5508

4 жыл бұрын

setniessesed same, I'm ftm and I'm so scared to figure out in a couple of years that this was a mistake. And that's what stops me from transitioning, which also kinda sucks

@RachelAnnPotter

4 жыл бұрын

@@ynnckx5508 I know of someone who got top surgery, but said they might never get bottom surgery. To them, their body dysmorphia centered around their breasts. If you decide to move forward with your transition, what is the most important transition for you? What changes do you feel you need to make? Maybe you could map out all of your options and see what would be important for you and what would be less so. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find happiness.

@804smiles

4 жыл бұрын

I totally understand the fear in making life changing decisions! I'm ftm & I luv the changes I see in my body & how I feel now but there's always a fear that u might feel dif the longer u live. But we are humans jus doin the best we can wit our lives I've only been on HRT for 2yrs & I'm planning my top surgery now & I had a hyst but that wasnt really jus for transitioning tho. Plus I'm older & I've been thinkin about this for a long time & finally grew enough balls 2 actually do it. But take ya time tho & research everything

@sm0na

4 жыл бұрын

same here. transition isn't something you want to get stuck in if it's not right for you. it's a decision to be made after careful consideration, and monitoring the way it makes you feel is important. you wouldn't want to realize it's not for you later than you have to. I also feel like noting the differences between my experience of transition and those of de-transitioners helps me trust myself that i've made the right choice!

@Hammeredveracity

4 жыл бұрын

We use detransitioners to bash people who support horomone blockers on children

"If I detransitioned now, I'd basically have to go through what every trans woman has to go through." Thank you for saying this! People really don't get it. I'm sorry this happened to you, and for those of us who actually are trans, puberty felt just like you're describing.

I have a trans gender daughter and every time I mention the possibility of thinking these things through before going through with everything it is viewed as being trans phobic. And when this happens, it shuts everything down and causes a big divide and anger. If my daughter is truly transgender, I will absolutely support her/him. I just want her/him to be 100% sure. Does anyone know who this KZread blonde haired detransitioner is. I truly want both sides. I love my child and would do anything for their happiness. But I need them to be happy with themselves first. Thank you for this video. It has helped me so much. This story is almost exactly what she/he has gone through in the younger years.

@dolydoly5679

Жыл бұрын

How old is your daughter? She works?

@Annie.747

Жыл бұрын

Well no offense but ppl calling asking questions trans phobia are just mentally ill and probably aren’t very intelligent. Edit: ShapeShifter is a yt channel (I believe they are from Kuwait originally) that talks about how they transitioned Male to Female and are now in the process of transitioning “back” to male. Unfortunately, they had gender reassignment surgery and they gave her a neovagina that they claim doesn’t work. Is painful. Has only a 2 inch depth. And they also say they miss their male reproductive organs and phallus. I am born female and I got a boob job at 22. Thought I needed it and it would change me and help me feel better. It did not. Actually, I hated it so much. I got depressed, gained weight from stress eating, couldn’t work out and feel good, couldn’t sleep right. This is JUST a boob job. Fortunately, I had my implants removed at 25 and I’m on the mend. The only reason I shared my experience with plastic surgery is bc it’s altering your being and you might think it’s just skin deep but it can do things to you mentally and emotionally. Ppl make the argument that 16 is a rational age to decide to get your breasts completely removed (top surgery) and to decide to get their reproductive organs changed medically. I just think it’s easy to overlook the possibility of huge mental and emotional problems not to mention physical problems… but like I said I was 22 years old thinking I knew what I wanted and I was so wrong. I hope nobody has to feel the intensity of medically altering something so much bigger, like sex. I hope the best for your kid.

@k.c.2339

Жыл бұрын

In my opinion if they are biologically male consider hormone blockers. Based on your families genes the male puberty your child may experience will be permanent. I started taking hormones at 17 for me I was lucky because it stopped further development of my Adam’s apple and thicker facial hair, my voice dropping didn’t cause any issues for me but this isn’t the case for a lot of people. I got lucky with some things but I wish I had started them sooner. A lot of the time blocking hormones for children is used until they reach a point where they can make that decision and be fully sure. If not they can stop taking the blockers and resume puberty as normal. To give you the other side of the coin there are various risks to be aware of like the risk of osteoporosis and other issues if this isn’t done properly. Hormone replacement therapy is still classified as experimental and there hasn’t been a lot of research on the long term effects of hormone blockers in humans. It’s so nice that you are doing your own research as a parent because that means your really care.

@TheRisky9

Жыл бұрын

​@@k.c.2339 No, you can't pause puberty and just restart it. You have to be a fool to believe that. There are ZERO studies that show the long-term effects of puberty blockers, and while some effects will resume (a girl MIGHT resume her period for example) most of what we do know doesn't look that promising. You see, you're putting a pause on puberty but not aging. Your body will continue to grow, but all the necessary functions, aren't coming with you. Those who are on puberty blockers have decreased bone density. There's also an increased risk of swelling in the brain

@Amin-al-Husseini_1941picture

Жыл бұрын

​@@k.c.2339 absolutely NOT, dont try to promote hormone blockers, you realize theyre chemotheraphy drugs right? and that the most common one is lupron (said to castrate people since 2007 so dont even start with this "right wing propaganda" stuff) when an organ lacks corresponding hormones it atrophies, organ atrophy so far isnt reversible, what happens to your cells when exposed to radiation or starving is what we also call atrophy, why do you think the other option is radiation theraphy? cause thats also safe? these drugs are given when the only other option is to completely remove said organ

I've felt painful regret too Maverick. What you're doing will be so helpful to others facing the same issues.

We can become caught up trying to "fix" ourselves, when, personally, I think what we really need to do is accept ourselves.

@justkenzie

3 жыл бұрын

YES!!

@diamond13130

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@glamfortheculture5583

3 жыл бұрын

Self•Love

@johnbuscher

3 жыл бұрын

And you know, it is ok to be yourself in some ways as it's ok to want to fix yourself. If you procrastinate, you can work on that! If you're confused about what you want, you should find some close friends and start asking questions. A lot of times, people want something new because we've been trained that new is better, and different has to be better because at least it's not the same. This is how marketing works to sell you a new phone, even if in the grand scheme of things, your old phone worked perfectly fine.

@isantehenderson9830

3 жыл бұрын

It took me 10 years to accept the fact that it is ok to like women and men. I hated myself for 10 years and I am so glad I am learning to accept myself.

Thanks for sharing this. After identifying as FTM for years in high school, it was very difficult for me to detransition socially. I still feel weird bringing it up to people. I really appreciate your openness about your story.

You are fantastic for seeing info missing out there for other people and deciding to put what you can out there. Thats real amazing to me. Super Inspiring. If you see something missing in the market. Fill that gap. Thats inspiring stuff.

Thank you for your courage and confidence in explaining who you are, your advice in sharing what people need to know with such life altering decisions, and the thought and patience involved

i was sixteen when i wanted to transition. in retrospect, i am glad i listened to my mother when she asked me to wait until i’m at least 23 years of age. did not take the step luckily

@mustachiomustache5591

4 жыл бұрын

ya wait until you actually grow up and mature a decent amount lol whats up with everyone thinking they're transgender around the age of 12-16 its like being transgender is becoming a trend

@Jazz-nr7nk

4 жыл бұрын

@Mustachio Mustache I don't think the issue is so much with it being a trend. I think the issue is that teenagers often feel different and now that transgender is such a commonly known about thing, they think it might be why. It's just people trying to figure out their feelings and everything.

@user-mc4zv9uk8t

3 жыл бұрын

It’s less that “it’s a trend” and more that people are starting accept it now Also, cisgender people are allowed to know they’re cis at that age, so why can’t transgender people?

@lucycoleclough1182

3 жыл бұрын

@John QPublic I think this ladies story is completely valid but I do not like how some of the conversation points surrounding detransitioning seem to spin off into talk about an agenda to turn kids trans. Gender is a tricky issue and no one fully understands it. There needs to be proper self meditation before transitioning but drawing a cuttoff point is hard. If teenagers from 12 could transition say, then you would probably find a lot of people who would change their mind later in life however if you dont let trans teenagers use hormone blockers then you are also causing irreversable changes to that persons body that they later regret. A compromise is required but calling it an agenda often just gives cause to those who are abusive/ discriminatory to the minority group that is trans people.

@kc4688

3 жыл бұрын

@@mustachiomustache5591 i agree it is a trend. Have seen it happen to a friend of mine. Trans is cool now. Look on twitter with the hashtag #transwomenarewomen and you will see how many men are turning trans, as well as females, females transitioning to men now is on the high

You are very brave to go through this twice and even admitting you made a mistake. I am sure you helped a lot of people. You are a hero.

@d.angeloum.2139

3 жыл бұрын

Hi girl you're pretty

@democratsaretrash9366

2 жыл бұрын

Or... You're born what you are and deal with it like humans did for thousands of years. How bout that?

@casusbelli91

2 жыл бұрын

@@democratsaretrash9366 I didn't say it was a good choice for her. But try not to get affected by this transitioning-culture as a teen when all your peers are doing the same and it is the universally accepted solution for EVERY self-diagnosed psychological problem! I just said that considering everything she was brave to admit her mistake and it is good that she warns others to think it over before they do something permanent to their bodies without finding the cause of their distress.

@leftxansuzukimethod

2 жыл бұрын

@@democratsaretrash9366 Or... You get some bitches. How bout that?

@geopum

2 жыл бұрын

How about you mind your own business.

„I thought I looked decent.. sometimes“ Are you kidding me? You are a beautiful women. You don‘t have to change a thing about yourself, just take your time and talk to people that can help you explore your needs (not preferences) and understanding yourself better. Imho the worst thing you can do to yourself is not to give yourself enough time that you need to reflect on yourself. Time is abundant. Hormones can change things so rapidly and leave you with irreversible changes. Better safe than sorry - even if that means that you are not comfortable with who you think you are or should be: nobody is, until they figure out what it is they truly want and need.

This is a topic I’ve been very curious about ie. human psychologie. Thank you for sharing your journey and helping ppl such as myself understand because I’ve always wondered. Glad you found yourself, stay blessed.

From what I've read, the purpose of pretansition therapy is to prevent the need for detransition. THANK YOU for talking about your experience.

@hahahano2796

3 жыл бұрын

It's often a non-challenging check box to ensure that the sex reassignment surgery is paid by insurance with complicit therapists.

I'm a 52 year old straight lady. I think you are an incredibly beautiful and clever young woman. I applaud your bravery.💖

It's great you made this video. Sadly I think your situation happens WAY more than people think, but the main stream will try to hide this because it goes against their narrative. So many people who realize what you did, their message will be squashed. They don't have anyone to reach out to. Even if your story helps only one person, you did the world a great service. I hope you will continue your journey, no matter where it takes you. 😊

I just came upon your videos on accident, but, this is now the 3rd video ive watched, your story is just very catching, your very brave , and beautiful, its amazing how comfortable you really do seem to be with yourself. I really appreciate when ever anyone can tell their story, which could really help someone else from doing something they really aren't completely sure about. keep on, keeping on, doing what makes you happy.

This popped up on my recommended, I don't even know anyone who's trans (that I know of) but I still watched this whole video, thanks for sharing your story it was very informative and interesting

@juttyism

4 жыл бұрын

Same, CIS white male, had never even heard of detransitioning before. Just a really fascinating perspective on finding yourself and who we are, like really are as people. I myself have felt the urge to be pretty before, I've called myself a princess a few times, but I'm not gay and I'm not bi. I'm just a straight male that sometimes feels like that picture of Richard Branson dressed as a stewardess.

@bradpnw1897

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you!

@erkaderka3571

3 жыл бұрын

@@juttyismlisten bitch. You ain't no princess, you a queen! 💞✨

@misse2013

3 жыл бұрын

@@juttyism love it 💖

@PurplePatterson87

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. I was working and it just autoplayed. I think I was watching a Neil degras tyson video about ‘the singularity’ and this came on. But I have to say it was equally as entertaining and I probably learned more from this video lol

In iceland we have 6 months minimum of therapy before hormones and I’m very thankful for that because I made sure it wasn’t something else

@klemmaofthedollars332

3 жыл бұрын

Im faroese! And we dont have any trans care here, so im going through the danish system. Theres a minimum of 6 appointments, about 1 or 2 months apart, and then they evaluate your case. Ive been going through it for the past year, and ive noticed there are many failsafes. There's many points where they try to evaluate other issues, your history, etc. Its a bit exhausting, since ive been through most of that in normal therapy back home, but i see how it's very necessary for some people for whom that is their first step.

@boxr_4214

2 жыл бұрын

huh, that actually seems like a pretty short time but it's good to see that you all have a standardized system.

@JustAdude291

2 жыл бұрын

that's good, I don't know much about gender dysmorphia or things alike or how one feels or goes through to want to transition. However, I believe that they should be doing this with therapy before you start, it makes sense. Before giving suboxone or methadone to addicts, they couple it with therapy and such too, calling it medication assisted therapy (MAT). There's many doctors or surgeons out there who will capitalize on the opportunity simply because you have good insurance/money that will cash them out. I had this problem with surgeons wanting to operate on me when I dealt with back issues that went on for several years. Having surgery would've been the worst choice for me too btw. Glad you had that opportunity though.

@alisalt1402

2 жыл бұрын

In Spain we have a law that has been aproved recently which eliminates the proceed of therapy so the moment someone proclaims themself as trans they get access to hormones and full transition without psychological review because it is considered pathologizing

@jasonwillett2126

2 жыл бұрын

@@alisalt1402 I work as a clinician at the #1 psych research hospital in the US and that REALLY troubles me to hear that

this video is actually so helpful. thanks. I'm feeling a lot more comfortable now

@vhrsvdx_

2 жыл бұрын

*I'm a trans guy! I feel more comfortable since I feel more sure about who I am

I really appreciate you being just real. Most influencers out there just glorify everything and make everything sound great

one life's lesson I learned was "nothing wrong with being wrong or making a mistake"

@nunyaDbiz

4 жыл бұрын

There may be "nothing wrong with being wrong or making a mistake", but there can sure be tremendous consequences for some wrong choices, and the ones which can't be undone are the ones that matter most. It will be interesting to see the aftermath of all of this, and how history will judge.

"I just don't like anybody " Me too friend, me too

@slytheguy6761

3 жыл бұрын

Do you like yourself? 🤷🏾‍♂️ just curious.

@n.e.r.d2620

3 жыл бұрын

@@slytheguy6761 LMAO (no shade but fr)

@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper

3 жыл бұрын

Cats are the answer

@lynnetmb4706

3 жыл бұрын

Trying to convince yourself that your better than everyone else. That’s because you truly feel insecure and unhappy. Feel better

@dirtybubblerising

3 жыл бұрын

@@lynnetmb4706 wow, I post a single sentence in a comment and you feel you now know everything about me and thus have the right to psychanalize me. Amazing. I'm not offended though, because I realize your comment says way more about you than it says about me. No, I don't feel I am better than anyone else, I simply have different likes, dislikes, thoughts, and opinions than every single person I've ever met. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everyone is unique and that is beautiful. I just find it hard to relate to others and get close to them because I am so different. I feel like I can't be myself or speak my mind, and that makes it hard to form close relationships. Also, I enjoy being alone.

I checked your channel, seems you're doing pretty good. Keep going and be yourself! ❤️

Thank you for your candor. You are incredibly well spoken and insightful. It seems like you've got your thoughts clear and I wish you all the best