I never wanted children, and then I got pregnant. My daughter is 7 months old now. While being a mother has been difficult and depressing, I love her so much that I would never trade her. In fact, the day I found out I was pregnant, I was watching a few KZread videos about women saying they never wanted children, and I was like “yeah, me neither lol”. While being a mother doesn’t fit my personal lifestyle and aesthetic, I can say that my daughter is the most beautiful blessing I’ve ever encountered. I can’t say I’d do it again, or that I want another one. But I can say that I love her more than I’ve loved anyone. Life is interesting that way.

@sabfc654

5 ай бұрын

The only thing I worry about is them having my genetics, is that something you ever worry about?

I agree that meeting friends with kids locks the door even more for me 😂

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

haha definitely!

@EwelinaWes

11 ай бұрын

💯

@HardcorebergO

11 ай бұрын

So not only shutting the door but lock it as well?! :D

My husband and I were fence sitters for many many years, now childfree. These convos are so important, and it’s so important to bring it up to check in with him. We did the same 🤍 my husband was the one that didn’t want them and I’m thankful he led me to a child free life 🥰

Aww really seems that deep down David wouldnt mind having a kid but Jenny has offered him so many outs and possibilities to leave to have them. Seems like David's choice to have London (Jenny) because he knows he loves the experience whereas he'd also love Tokoyo but it would be harder to acclimatize and he couldnt standing losing Jenny. Good on you Jenny and David 😊

Im half way through, but I feel you Jenny! I’m not in a relationship rn and this is how I feel when I meet people, I’m nearing my 30s and I feel everyone wants to have kids, while I really don’t. I’m not even a good aunt I’d say, I don’t like being around kids, so I feel very self conscious about meeting someone who would agree or accept not having kids, Id be worried I’m taking something away from them and unconsciously would try to make myself want kids, because I’d rather sacrifice myself than feel like someone else having to do it for me. At the same time it was nice to hear David’s side, that he had those phases where he fantasized about it, I had them too, which made me uncomfortable about my choice to be child free. Mostly those phases were in toxic relationship where I felt I want to so have at least someone love me unconditionally, but I had them nevertheless. Seeing David being so confident in his choice now makes me feel easier

Jenny my love - I'm currently doing a couple of no spend months 😂 but you have my word that once my finances are better I will definitely order your book. Having been part of the Mustard family for over 6 years, I would love nothing more than to support the both of you. So proud of you for making your dream come true. You are a published author!❤❤❤😊

If you will have a dog call him/her Child. This way you wont be childless nor dogless either. 😅

@nfbconnect

11 ай бұрын

I recommend an Australian Shepherd. They are smarter than most toddlers. Great starter baby.

I'll spare you my full autistic family life horror story, but I COMPLETELY agree that kids aren't for everyone, and that I certainly wouldn't do it again! I applaud people who decide not to have kids. Lovely to see you both again, and congrats on the book! 💗

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks Hannah!

Missed your podcast so much❤ Welcome back

it always makes my day when you guys upload!! ty! 🌷☀️

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for being here :)

Wonderful podcast as usual! Will you be releasing any new podcasts on The Mustards channel soon?

i missed this podcast so much! now you are back! yayyy so happyyy! 🎉❤😊

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Hope you enjoyed it! Yaay!

The thing is, no choice will ever feel 100% and that’s ok, we have to accept there will always be “what if” thoughts. I do want kids but part of me will always wonder “what if I had that extra $500k” for retiring 😂😂

@clairekorte6048

8 ай бұрын

Wise comment. There are always trade offs to choose and that's ok. Haha probably a million 😅

@dualscreengrant

5 ай бұрын

Being childfree is the only area of my life where I'm 100% sure I've made the right choice. I don't know what I'm going to do or how long I'm going to live. I might become religious, or I might not. I keep myself open minded in general, but I know that having children would be the wrong choice for me. I'm almost 40, and as time passes, I feel more and more confident about my decision. I'm more committed to childfreedom than I was yesterday, and tomorrow, I'll probably be even more committed.

@bariyaprahlad3576

4 ай бұрын

You are right and your choice to be childfree is open minded because a child cannot be reversed. In contrast with all other life choices they can be changed. But once the kid is born it is permanent.

i didn't realise there was an audiobook version! i've immediately ordered it just now as i can't really read physical books currently. i'm so excited to finally read it!

I've always found this conversation interesting :) We have one child and would love a 2nd, and we wouldn't change it. But we also know how much easier life would be without kids. We have friends and family on both sides, and I just wish people would stop being so pushy on the people who don't want kids. I can't wait for my copy of your book to arrive! Hope you have an amazing launch!

Missed you guys!!! Makes monday mornings!!

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

We missed it too :)

I live in Belgium and Okay Days will be available both in hardcover and paperback here. I can't wait to read it! As an aspiring writer myself, I am so proud of you for actually becoming a published author. It's the coolest thing, congratulations!

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Wow that's incredible. That's more than we have here haha!

Omg! Jag trodde att ni två hade gjort slut men vågade inte fråga eftersom sådant är känslig att prata om. Kul att du är tillbaka ❤

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

haha, vi är fast för alltid :)

So happy! So happy to see you ❤❤❤❤!

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for being here :)

I think this is so interesting be because ive always wanted to be a mom, and love it. But at the same time i have realized that im not a "kid person" and usually dont like other peoples kids (even my friends' kids 🤫). But being a mom and creating our own cool family culture is so much fun (and wild and crazy and tiring)! Cheers!

@Grace-ik3yt

11 ай бұрын

I have one son… and really wanted to be a mom… loved it … still love it ( he is 31 now) But I am and was never a kidsfan of others … So your own kid is at least for me is a compleetly different feeling

@maybee3960

11 ай бұрын

Same 🙈😂

Thanks Jenny and David Mustard!

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!

I am 25, my wife is 22. We had our first child a few weeks ago. It has been an absolute blessing. The pregnancy with all the ups and downs, the day of child birth and now the diaper phase were we get a lot of support from the family (alhamdulillah) has really made us grow stronger, bond more, love and trust each other more. We were before, but it is different now. Way better

Hi mustards,always enjoy listening what is name of book?

I am 42, got a child who is now 16, a gentle teen. I could have had more but I decided against it. I do not regret the experience of motherhood, as a way of internal growth. But there are others ways of doing it that do not come with the responsibility of a human being. I am happy that staying childfree has become a valid option nowadays. And I do love kids. I love them so much that it is my day job and a real joy. Parenting is not for everyone, it is so hard, so challenging, so taxing that if one is not absolutely, deeply, drawn to it, better not doing it.

Also I wanna ask, don’t you guys get one copy of everything put together before they go into the printing? It was interesting to hear that you haven’t seen it and it would be too late to make any changes, I thought you get the example of an end result prior

I enjoy this one ❤😄 I definitely share their point of view ❤

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Dead set at not having A kid ❤😂

I will deff buy it! It's amazing that you got to live this dream. And hopefully we will have it in my hometown aswell, giving that Romania is finally in top that is good😅 hole tou will have a huge succes with it! ❤ Hugs! Keep up the nice work i really missed you guys. Cooking is not the same without your voices😅

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks Jasmina :)

@livics610

Күн бұрын

În ce top e România, la ce te referi?

@jasminush

Күн бұрын

@@livics610 mi-a scapat un "a". "In a top that is good". Faceam referire ca suntem.printre primele tari unde apare cartea.

Woiukd you ever consider recording a podcast episode in Swedish? I think it would be cool to hear you speak in your mother tongue!

I preordered some months ago and cannot wait to bring my book on a summer holiday with me :) Also, I'd really appreciate guidance on buying a home in London, renovating it, and just everything you can share for first-time buyers! maybe a next podcast topic?

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Great idea Katie!

I used to say I wanted children, but not to HAVE children (e.g., to adopt). Now that I have gone further in my life, I am 30 now, I genuinely do not want children. The older I get the less I want them. I am happy with my Chihuahua, my cat, and my knitting haha!

@Bilal-ys6df

8 ай бұрын

That is pretty sad.

@EmsIsFab

8 ай бұрын

@@Bilal-ys6df I mean, YOU may find it sad, but I don't so it's a good thing I live my own life, eh?

@Bilal-ys6df

8 ай бұрын

@@EmsIsFab Yeah. Exactly

@Bilal-ys6df

8 ай бұрын

@@EmsIsFab No offense though. I don’t say that you are lying, but I also don’t believe that you are too happy. You busy yourself in things that entertain or stimulate you.

@EmsIsFab

8 ай бұрын

@@Bilal-ys6df that’s fine.

Where will you show the unboxing, on this channel or Jennys?

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

It's on Jenny's instagram :)

@WildCosy

11 ай бұрын

@@THEMUSTARDS thank you 😊

Great video, thanks for the upload. Have you heard of anti-natalism?

Love this topic. My fiance and I are childfree by choice and plan to continue to not have kids lol... I'm already dreading all the unsolicited comments we're about to receive from older family members once we're married and god forbid... don't procreate

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! :)

David has shut the door!!!!

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Maybe you didn't hear, but I SHUT THE DOOR! :)

jenny haha why were you torturing him with all those ‘ how about that ? ‘ plus memories about seeing cute dads questions :D ??!

@carolina.mariia

9 ай бұрын

the door are shut hihi

The most selfish thing a person can do is to have kids only to use and abuse them.

You are right and your choice to be childfree is open minded because a child cannot be reversed. In contrast with all other life choices they can be changed. But once the kid is born it is permanent.

YAY!!!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉

@THEMUSTARDS

11 ай бұрын

Yohoo!!!!

Thanks for the reminder that Monday morning is one point in time when all the possibilities are possible. It's been a while since the previous time. Ex and I did not want to have kids. We did not agree on the dog situation. Years after the split, she got a dog. I guess it's more safe for women to take long walks in the woods if they are accompanied by a guy or a dog, or at least that's what she said. It's weird that a man can walk around basically anywhere, and women worry about their safety in some of the places if they were to walk around there alone. I'm already kind of curious how you will develop as an artist during and after the years of your publishing contract. I hope it is not just a one-off and there will be more different books to come in the future. Have you done the Swedish/English translation by yourself? Where does your appreciation for champagne come from? I ask that from the perspective of not being fond of hiccups ;-) A book tour would be so much fun. I was dreaming of that years ago when I had self-printed a volume of my experimental poetry. But poetry has got the reputation that it does not sell. That is completely different with novels which is one of the major genres you see in bookstores. I fondly remember seeing your face in a bookstore before: on the cover of a German language magazine. My first thought back then was "Wow, David must be so proud of you". And now, with the book release, it must be 10 times that or more, considering how enthusiastic you both are about the book. Congrats again! Here's a hint: Being able to share memories from your time in Berlin might be enticing to German Friday night talkshows so they invite you to talk about life, your lifestyle in general, all your content creating activities and the German version of your book.

Don't get talked into not having kids, dude. You will most likely regret it when you are older. Your lady will be cat lady. The welfare state will not exist when she retires. Why? Because we are already in steepening demographic decline. Third world immigrants are not going to pay for your retirement.

@claireowens2884

3 ай бұрын

So racist and incel, then? Okay.

Do(u)glass Stewart😂 David is proof that you dont have to be a dad to have dad jokes 😂

❤

You won't ever regret getting a dog, when we adopted our child; Maple the dog it was hard at first but she brings the most joy to our home we've ever had! My husband and I don't want children but we'd be happy to have more fur-babies!

It seems so obvious that he wants to be a dad, like all of us want to be. But he is nice enough to not tell you about it openly, because you would feel bad