As a guy who was in a four year relationship with a single mom I can 100% say this is all true.

@TheChristianNationalist8692

8 ай бұрын

The Lord saved from a woman with kids early. I am thankful, though it wasn’t exactly easy when it all ended. Blessings brother

Obviously, there are exceptions. But there's a lot of truth in what they say.

I love kids, my own above all others. I'm back in the dating world ☹️. I had no issue with dating a woman with a child. Now I have something to think about. Thanks for the information, education and warning.

@TrapasaurusFlex

Жыл бұрын

Just remember, a single father is NOT the same as a single mother… A man is expected to come in and support a single mother and her child both financially, a woman is not expected to do the same with a single father. Not to mention the father is the disciplinarian, so you’re allowed to fulfill your role with your child and not with hers. She is absolved from that role entirely with your child.

@nsascotty603

Жыл бұрын

Well you already have kids... That's different

@Marwadear512

11 ай бұрын

I’m in my 40s, was married 20 years, had a very amicable divorce, father still in my kids’ lives and he pays everything for them. I’ve been a SAHM for decades and that didn’t change after divorce. Shortly after divorce I met a man my same age, recently divorced, two kids the same age and gender. He earns 6 figures but is paying a lot in child support for his kids, still financially recovering from the divorce, has a very spiteful, vindictive, greedy ex who wants to make his life h*ll living around the corner from him. Also, neither he nor I have any family in our country. So why did he choose to marry an older single mom? Well, he loves me, we click well and have the same interests and values, but he does get something out of it. He gets someone who understands what it means to be a parent, and I fully support him being the best and most active father possible to his kids. I do not get jealous of his kids or compete with them. I have kids very similar to them, so I already know what they need, what’s normal for kids their age and gender, how to help raise them well, how to feed them all, how to shop for them and keep a nice house for them. I want the best for all four of our kids and for them to be close to each other as adults, so I want them all to succeed in life and stay close to us. My husband had been seeing younger childless women, but he was worried they would compete with his kids, or he upset about him paying child support (I’m not), or want to push his kids out once she gets pregnant with his child. Also he could tell that they didn’t understand what parenthood really means, they’d be more demanding of his time and attention and resources than he could comfortably give, that they’d want to be more “special” in his life than is realistic for him to do at this phase in his life. But I’m at the same phase so I get it and I don’t expect too much or give demands, I just want us to support each other through it. Also I came with my own money so we were able to buy a larger house together in a better area and good school district, paying 50/50. My kids live with us during the school year and their dad pays their share of utilities, the higher property taxes, and all of their other expenses. So my husband gets more family around without having to pay for them, he likes my kids and says they’re very well-behaved, he enjoys doing things with my teenager and can rely on him, and he likes them being stepsiblings with his kids. (His kids get more siblings, at no more cost.) My husband pays so I can continue being a SAHM. I clean the house, organize his stuff, cook for everyone, help further educate all of the kids, and keep myself in good shape for him. I’m extra appreciative of him because I know it’s hard for a single mom my age to find a high quality family man with good character, and I know he could have younger hotter women, so I’m extra appreciative of him and I never want to argue or complain. I also have passive income and some retirement savings, so his kids are keeping all of their inheritance from him. I don’t need to take his money if something happens to him. If that happens and his kids are young, I’d put the money in an education plan for them until they’re 18, to protect it from their mom, and be sure they do well in life. I can pay for myself. And I have two kids to help me out. My husband also would like another kid but he’s also scared of having any more due to the hell of his divorce, so he’s happy to not have more. My kids respect him as an authority and they like him. My ex respects him and doesn’t cause problems. I also work to try to save my husband as much money as possible, and soon will try to start more passive income to contribute more to him building a good life for him, his kids, and all of us. Having me as a SAHW and having my kids in the house 3/4 of the year allows him to not feel alone all the weekdays when his kids are gone. And without the headache of new babies and toddlers around. My kids are with their dad over all school breaks and summers. So we have time just the two of us then. Like perpetual newlyweds, but also with the perks of having kids. We get to travel alone without concern about kids. We get to go hunting and camping alone, but then still come home to sweet kids. And we can empty nest in a decade, then be free. My kids have an education account to cover their college. Eventually we hope to retire early and enjoy grandkids from all 4 kids. So there can be benefits to marrying a single mom. He couldn’t afford a whole new family, despite a professional 6-figure income (he has the “Dr.” Title), and still pay everything he has to pay for his kids. And us buying a house together allowed him and his kids to upgrade as well. Depends on the woman and the situation. Just like with single women. Just depends on who they are, and their situation. He married his ex when she was a young teenage virgin, raised traditionally and religiously, and she turned out to be a narcissistic nightmare.

@AW-ln7us

9 ай бұрын

Also a single father, be careful dating single mothers they play favorites with thier own kids things can turn abusive to your kids really easy. ESPECIALLY WHEN THE SINGLE MOTHER IS ONE OF THOSE DISNEY FANGIRLS! They turn evil stepmother fast af.

@Marwadear512

9 ай бұрын

@@AW-ln7us Disney fan girls are creepy single mother or not. Any man into such a woman deserves what he gets.

A single mother with children under 15 simply can not give the new man what he needs emotionally among other things.

Waste of money too.

This is so true, so factual, 3 times the heartbreak her & the two beautiful kids Worst feeling ever. If she can leave the father of her kids after a while you are just nothing to her but a ATM. Pump it then just dump it. "It's absolutely fucked up"please trust me on this lads...!

Even before i was married, girls with baggage were never an option.

Also, don’t forget if you spend a certain amount of time with the child to even though he is not chores and if the father is not in his life, if the mother wants she can file child support against you.

Where are the full podcasts

Man my relationship must be an anomaly.. her son was a big reason I married her. She treats me like a king and I have adopted her son.. and already I had a son so now I have two 🤷🏼‍♂️

@vTheStranger

Жыл бұрын

feel like as long as you have control of the child to raise it the way you see fit, all is well. the endgame we're shooting for really is your happiness. good to hear things played out well

@international-arms-dealer

Жыл бұрын

@@vTheStranger the biological father is 100% out of the picture. And the most important piece that I didn't mention is the opportunity to give this child a life with a real family unit and father figure is the most rewarding. We all know what happens with fatherless children. With my first son, his mother remarried, and her husband is a terrific step-father. A doctor with his own practice, family money, similar hobbies as myself, and has never once stepped on my toes as the actual father (he has older kids in college so no ego trip..) He also loves my 2nd son who spends a lot of time at their house too. He has become one of my closest friends and my wife and my ex are friends also. It may sound strange compared to some of the experiences of people on this thread, but we're one big, happy, strong family. The kid's futures are everyone's priority, regardless of whether they are "genetic offspring"...

@amazinggrace313

Жыл бұрын

Well that makes sense for you because you already had a child. You don’t count in this example because this is for single childless people to avoid

@kg-bx9bc

Жыл бұрын

Translation: I have no options

@international-arms-dealer

Жыл бұрын

@@kg-bx9bc 🤣🤣🤣 yep, that's me. 6'2 white male with money = no options

Not only that but if a man has a child with a woman who already has one he automatically gives up authority of his own kid too. She will always play the experience card and the evidence she is willing to raise them without a man has always been there. You won't win, your only option really is to submit and hope she doesn't get bored because if she leaves then you get 18 of paying her to poison your offspring against you. My advice, find an under 25 woman with no kids and treat her like you would a wife you love. Women like that are more rare than gold.

There are beautiful single mothers but there bad choices make difficult for us

As a woman w/o kids, same goes for single dads, seriously… I do NOT even befriend single dads bc of the potential complications…

@kingprimes7468

8 ай бұрын

All i hear from baby moms is they dont want a Baby dad make it make since

Is real simple Single Mothers Date single fathers

@cookncrook6902

Жыл бұрын

Nah. I’m a single father and would never date a single mother. Single mothers are for men that have no options

Single Mothers aren’t looking for love… They’re looking for leverage; they're looking for help! To be frank, Never date a single mom who’s already divorced, receiving child support and alimony. Because chances are, men…. ….“👉🏾YOU’RE NEXT.”👈🏾 🤦🏾🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️😐😑😐

It is funny how these men talk shit on single moms , and say not to date them. When they are just proving how woman is more stronger in the mind than the man is . and he is just strong through strength . I am proof woman does need man it is man who needs woman to live.,

@moviemagic7481

Жыл бұрын

How exactly are they proving women are stronger? Please stay single. We don't want you.

@pathibe

Жыл бұрын

@@moviemagic7481 You mean gay men don't want women , so admit you are gay or you would not be watching single mom videos , Plus No one like your comment you liked your own comment lol, only you like it , and must have a crush on someones ex man

@pathibe

Жыл бұрын

@@moviemagic7481 They too scared to talk down on the man with the loot or resources lol which is why they pick a fight with someone below their belt level. They know one of their rules that they have in this cheaters game club that they made agreement with , and that was to sell your soul by breaking none of the rules of the game , Where one of them is they play no fairness, like they are lie to people when they look like crap and say they look great , they will lie and say their food taste great and even tell them to open up a business , when they actually really suck at it . They say they tell someone they look good looking being really heavy and telling them to not let no one say anything different , They also teaching to stay that big or to even get bigger and shine like the round moon because it looks beautiful just like the whales in the sea . Oh, and do not forget to vote in to make people be force to care for you when you get as big as your heroes you see as great leaders to lead up to become well , because then you can be pampered by them too when you fall, like a baby and call your adult friends daddy and mommy , If you do not do this you will never play in the cheaters club again if they don't and it will be game over for good to decide to stay blind with them .

@pathibe

Жыл бұрын

@@moviemagic7481 Men be looking up single mom videos and bashing the videos saying no man wants you women LOL. oK WELL, why are you looking up single moms videos then if you do not want to mess with one ? Is it to steal their children because no normal woman would actually give you one willingly ? You do know children are not toys and grow up to become an adult too right ?, Plus you never know what type of spirit of the child you will get since we are all different You can even gain a Jeffrey dahmer as a son .

@user-qs1gr9nz7n

10 ай бұрын

You must be one of those wemon who pay for dinner when you take a man out. You are a unicon...😅

I am dating a single mother right now and it feels like time wasting SMH

@cookncrook6902

Жыл бұрын

It is

@amazinggrace313

Жыл бұрын

Leave

@titanmode3888

Жыл бұрын

@@amazinggrace313 Almost, almost.

@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115

Жыл бұрын

@@titanmode3888than why you get yourself into some bullshit knowing that she ain’t going to give you nothing in return back self respect alpha mindest walk away take your power back and energy back and resources relocate and move to a different locations or state and change your number

@Marwadear512

11 ай бұрын

It can work great if you’re a single dad, but if you aren’t, then as a former single mom, I agree that unless there’s strong reason to be with her then find a childless woman. Only childless men with strong reason to want her should marry a single mom. But single moms and single dads can be amazing if their kids are compatible (including gender).